My good neighbors have been keeping a very watchful eye on me, if I forget to open the heavy drapes in the morning I will usually get an inquiring phone call or knock at the door to make sure this old gardener is well. I have so many frozen dinners in the deep freeze that I certainly will never starve.
Deep sadness held onto me for quite a while but I have my family to think about, I am never short of something to do.
Our youngest son Ian and his family came over and helped demolish and haul away the old chicken house making way for the new garden shed that will be delivered on February 3rd.
A couple of days ago I had a cement pad pored for a good solid base for the new shed which is 8 feet by 14 feet.
The boys and I are planning a Celebration of Life for Marjie / MeMa, in July so that all of her roses and dahlias will be in bloom. She so loved her flowers and I am sure my "Flower Lady" will love that we planned it around her flowers.
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| MeMa and our granddaughters Taeya and Lucy delivering flowers to all of the neighbors |
Great to see a post from you Doc. I have often thought of you over Christmas and wondered how you were coping, in fact, only this morning, I was wondering when you would blog again. If that lavender building was your old chicken house they lived in the lap of luxury. I look forward to seeing your new garden shed. Take care.
ReplyDeleteThe holidays have been very tough. Our son's made sure I was surrounded by activity and grandchildren.
DeleteI'm sorry for your loss. You have a wonderful family and people around you who love you and such a great dog. You have chosen a wonderful way to celebrate your wife's life.
ReplyDeleteThank you Yael
DeleteKeep on going. You will never get over it but you will get used to it. That chicken shed you demolished would sell quite well here!
ReplyDeleteI thought about selling it but with Covid, my son's asked that I not try. The windows I sat out for free and they got snatched up in minutes.
DeleteI was so sorry to read of your wife's death. I hope you are navigating grief as well as can be expected. As has been said, there is no 'right' way to grieve; that said, it's a strange meandering experience. A grief counselor compared it to a spiral coil: you begin to travel up & outwards, and then spiral down again. I think your little Roxy is a very good companion through this journey, and am glad you have supportive children. I always loved seeing your wife's flowers and your garden work -- a summer celebration with her beloved flowers seems appropriate. I hope your health issues are improving. Thanking you for sharing your lovely garden and journey, and wishing you peace. Charlie
ReplyDeleteThank you Charlie, I appreciate your kind words.
ReplyDeleteSo happy to see that you have written a new post Doc, I have thought about you often, and hoped that you are keeping well. Staying busy is surely a must, and thankfully you are surrounded by loved-ones who contribute to that, especially your little Roxy.
ReplyDeleteMeMa's flowers were so beautiful, she was so willing to share with us all on a regular basis.
Do share them with us again, in her memory.
Hugs dear friend,
Jo
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Thank you for telling us of MeMa's new journey, and especially of your children and grandchildren surrounding you in this new venture in life. The summer service will be glorious.
ReplyDeleteI praise God that you have the support of family and friends, Doc.
ReplyDeleteThe summer flowers will be a great memorial.
Dear Doc, I hadn't been by your blog for a while and am so saddened to learn of MeMa's death. I send you my deepest sympathy. You were blessed with a great life partner and your posts about family were always full of warmth and good humour, your wife knew that she was well loved. In time you will take comfort in remembering all the good times that you shared and your grandchildren are old enough to have wonderful memories of her.
ReplyDeleteOur friend, Roger, also lost his wife last year, twelve months after her cancer diagnosis. It is hard to know how to be helpful. He came over for a meal and I was so thrilled when I opened the door and found him with a spaniel in his arms and a big beam on his face! Now he has a structure to his day with regular walks and someone to talk to (it can be any old rubbish.) I'm glad that Roxy is doing the same for you. Take care, dear blogging friend, my thoughts are with you. Rosemary.
I find it's good to try and keep busy Doc and the garden is a good place to work. I'm looking forward to seeing the new shed when it arrives.
ReplyDeleteDoc. Just read this and had no idea what you have gone, and are going through. Good people, and that little dog around you can help. Drop me a line if you like. If not, just take care and take each day as you need to.
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