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asoftspotforangels
oldtvandcomics

HEY GUYS!!

GUYS!!!

FRANCE HAS REACHED THE REQUIRED NUMBER OF SIGNATURES ON THE CITIZEN'S INITIATIVE AGAINST CONVERSION THERAPY IN THE EU!!

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ONE COUNTRY DOWN, SIX TO GO!!

We also need still quite a few signatures in order to reach the one million required.

As to date, the six other countries with the most signatures are:

  • Spain - 38.72%
  • Finland - 30.31%
  • Ireland - 24.86%
  • Netherlands - 24.15%
  • Germany - 23.54%
  • Belgium - 23.09%

So yeah, still a long way to go, but we ARE slowly getting closer. Don't stop now! Don't let this stay within the community, either, if you have any friends or family who are open to queer rights, get them to sign, too!

Initiative detail | European Citizens' Initiative
citizens-initiative.europa.eu
thistlearts

Signed! (Belgium here)

18thcenturythirsttrap

In the EU? Please sign and share!

Not in the EU? Please share, for reach!

the-nettle-knight
keplercryptids

here's your regular reminder that if you consistently, regularly get headaches, you are almost certainly having migraines, not regular headaches.

MOST recurrent headaches are migraine headaches.

"migraine" does not mean "extremely painful headache." it is a type and source of pain, not a degree of pain. migraines can also include some or all of the following: fatigue, sensitivity to light and sound, visual auras, nausea or vomiting, dizziness, cognitive impairment, etc. these symptoms can be mild or severe and it may actually be difficult to determine if you have them. (who wants a bright light in their eyes during a headache?? i thought that's just how headaches were lmao.)

this is important because while aspirin, NSAIDs like ibuprofren, and other over-the-counter pain meds can effectively alleviate migraine pain, getting diagnosed with migraines allows for a wider range of treatments and preventatives.

it's also important because, in my opinion, your average general practice doctor is not equipped to diagnose you with chronic migraine. don't go to one expecting them to. a neurologist with migraine specialty is a better option, although a regular doctor can still be useful if they listen to you lol.

my life would be miserable and unmanageable without sumatriptan. and i never would have gotten a prescription for sumatriptan if i hadn't gone to my GP and said, "i have migraines and want to try migraine medicine," even though at the time i wasn't 100% sure that was true.

if you have chronic headaches, they're almost certainly migraines. if no one has said that to you before, let me be the first. start treating your migraines.

keplercryptids

multiple times in my youth, i went to the doctor expecting them to figure out and tell me if i had migraines. each time, the doctor asked, "do you see an aura?" and when i said no, they determined i must not be getting migraines. no one ever told me that only 20% of migraine sufferers experience auras. that means 80% don't, yet that is frequently used as important diagnostic criteria! what!

keplercryptids

a book i recommend over and over is The Keeler Migraine Method by robert cowan. highly recommend if you're trying to figure your migraine situation out.

shofarsogood

Migraines don't have to involve headaches! Turns out I've had migraines my whole life and I didn't know, because it doesn't cause headaches. Rather, I get

  • Extreme irritability
  • Photophobia
  • Sound sensitivity
  • Tingling and numbness
  • Inability to remember words
  • Trouble remembering
  • Trouble with basic arithmetic
  • Dizziness
  • Visual changes (stop being able to perceive depth)
  • Back and shoulder pain
  • Fatigue

I chalked a lot of this up to autism and overstimulation.

I saw a neurologist and now I have medicine to treat my migraines. What I have are called ocular migraines.

Please look into migraines without headaches. You may be totally unaware that you have migraines.

prismatic-bell

Migraines without headaches are called silent migraines, and they’re absolutely a thing. For me they’re even more frequent than painful ones.

penrosesun

Here’s a test which, while not infallible, has led to multiple of my friends realizing that they had migraines and didn’t know it: Do you feel nauseated? Confused? Like you pulled an all-night even though you didn’t? Or are you feeling just generally off in a way that’s hard to define? Go into a really dark room and shut the door behind you. If whatever weirdness you were experiencing gets suddenly better as soon as you’re sitting in the pitch-dark, you almost certainly are having a migraine.

I’ve mistaken migraines for food poisoning and car sickness. I’ve had friends who have mistaken them for everything from seizures, to covid, to a poor night of sleep, to even just having had too much alcohol to drink. The symptoms of migraines are extremely varied, and very few people have all of them - but light sensitivity is common and a bit of a dead giveaway. If you have light-sensitive anything, bring it up with a doctor as a possible migraine symptom.

all of this I nearly killed my liver with painkillers during uni turns out my migraines are triggered by fluorescent overhead lighting and low oxygen guess what lecture halls were like especially in winter
the-nettle-knight
agnesmontague

im sure theres a word denoting the divide btwn what you believe as a citizen of civic society and what you believe as an animal with anger synapses. as a civic citizen i do not believe in the death penalty nor do i think anyone deserves to die for being stupid on twitter. as an ape,

discar

I feel like making this distinction would also help with venting. "I acknowledge my feelings are irrational and primitive, and would never wish death on another human being. That being said, the asshole who slammed a door in my face deserves to be eaten alive by ants."

agnesmontague

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this one’s my favorite actually

nibi-nix
letterful

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ah, yes, it’s not like the fashioning of a slavic bimbo as a distinctive american cultural archetype could possibly have any nasty real-life implications. especially considering the socio-economic reality of post-soviet countries. or, say, the fact that the sex tourism industry is primarily driven by american men. or the mere existence of the surrogacy industry - again, primarily catering to american couples. or the still very much existent mail bride industry (that the american audiences apparently find so very entertaining that they've managed to turn it into reality tv). or

letterful

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amen & all that

asoftspotforangels
everyonehasamnesia

As someone recently diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, one thing that’s been helping me grapple with the intense shame I have over all my “wasted potential” is accepting that potential doesn’t exist and never did.

This sounds so harsh, but please bare with me.

I procrastinated a lot growing up. I still procrastinate today, but less so. And yet, I got good grades. I could write an A+ paper that “knocked [my professor]’s socks off” in the hour before class and print it with sweat running down my face.

I was so used to hearing from teachers and family that if I just didn’t procrastinate and worked all the time, I could do anything! I had all this potential I wasn’t living up to!

And that’s true, as far as it goes, but that’s like saying if Usain Bolt just kept going he could be the fastest marathon runner in the world. Why does he stop at the end of the race??

If ANYONE could make their top speed/most productive setting the one they used all the time, anyone could do anything. But you can’t. Your top speed is not a speed you’re able to sustain.

Now, I’ve found that I do need to work on not procrastinating. Not because the product is better, even, but because it’s better for my mental health and physical health to not have a full, sweating, panicked breakdown over every task even if the task itself turns out excellently. It’s a shitty way to live! You feel bad ALL the time! And I don’t deserve to live like that anymore.

So all of this to say, I’m not wasting a ton of potential. I don’t have an ocean of productivity and accomplishments inside of me that I could easily, effortlessly access if I just sat down 8 hours a day and worked. There’s no fucking way. That’s not real. It’s an illusion. It’s fine not to live up to an illusion.

And if you have ADHD, I mean this from the bottom of my heart: you do not have limitless potential confounded by your laziness. You have the good potential of a good person, and you can access it with practice and work, but do not accept the story that you are choosing not to be all that you are or can be. You are just a human person.

gpoy
rozarens
penny-anna

I've never seen a more incorrect geralt & jaskier take than ppl calling jaskier the 'moral centre' of the pairing... Like Geralt has a strict moral code n Jaskier sleeps w married women and tried to use a djinn to murder his rival what are u on about

penny-anna

Jaskier HAS a moral code but it is incomprehensible to everyone but himself and liable to change from day to day.

penny-anna

Like he's canonically down w murder but shocked at the idea of killing someone while they're taking a shit, this guy's morals are fucking nonsense

hateandashbury

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YOU get it

zombeesknees

#you guys don't get it   #he's just polish

also Jaskier's morals is whatever will make a good story / song
ziseviolet

Anonymous asked:

hey (culture ask incoming) im wondering about weddings in china and whether people generally wear more western style wedding clothes or traditional chinese style?

rongzhi answered:

(Long-winded answer incoming)

Depends.

I would say Chinese/hanfu style wedding attire has been making a big comeback (so to speak) in recent years as a side effect of the hanfu revival movement, but there is also Chinese wedding attire that is distinctly it’s own genre of clothing, i.e, bridal/groom wear. When you look at it, you know (if you know) that it’s wedding attire. More on this in a second.

Still, for those who can afford it, it is popular these days to wear both western style wedding attire and Chinese wedding attire. Most people who I’ve seen wear both change into the Chinese attire for the wedding banquet. If they wear a western wedding dress, it will be at the ceremony/walking down the aisle. Likewise, if they wear both hanfu and Chinese wedding attire, they will wear the hanfu for the ceremony. Another thing to keep in mind is that in China, it is quite popular to take wedding photos in a myriad of outfits, not just the one you will be wearing on the occasion. So people nowadays may take photos in all the different kinds of wedding attire (via clothing rentals), whether they are going to wear it at their wedding or not. In that spirit, they still technically wear both western and Chinese style wedding clothes.

Hopefully that answers your question there. I have a #chinese wedding that covers a lot of videos but in which you can see the types of gowns and all that which I will briefly go into below.

So: when it comes to “traditional Chinese style” wedding attire, what does that really mean?

To me, three main types of clothing come to mind: 1) Chinese Wedding Attire™ , 2) Chinese style wedding attire, 3) Wedding hanfu

1) Chinese Wedding Attire™, AKA 秀禾服 Xiùhé

Visually distinct, it is not really hanfu nor qizhuang but a secret third thing…. In this case, it is a blend of Qing dynasty and Republican era styles dubbed “xiuhe”. As bridal wear specifically, it is actually a rather recent trend (21st century), but it’s become a fixture in Chinese wedding wear. While the colors can vary wildly and magnificently, the classic colors here are gold and red.

The style that exists today shows Qing dynasty influence in its construction and at its core consists of both bride and groom wearing embroidered tang suit tops and a matching silk skirt. The bride usually wears hair ornaments/pins in place of a veil. Since there are pins in the hair, brides may wear a xiapei/cape with a long train instead.

A few bridal styles (keep in mind that these are just the classic cuts and colors—there are other styles/colors that contain recognisable elements of bridal wear but are made of different fabrics, have different draping, have more tassels, have a softer look, etc):

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2) Chinese style wedding attire

This is admittedly somewhat of the same thing as Wedding Attire™, just toned down as it was more popular/commonplace in the last century, when it was what was most affordable for most, but it’s a style that nonetheless comes to mind. With this, the key is simply that the bride wears a mostly all red dress/top+skirt and the groom wears a suit. Bride and groom will also often wear a red flower/ribbon pinned to their top or worn around them gift-wrapped style, haha. My mom just wore a red top and bottom to her wedding dinner (that’s as much detail as I’ve ever gotten out of her lol) when she got married in the early 80s. Another thing is, since white is a funerary color/color of death in Asian cultures, some people also just wear Western style wedding dresses that are red.

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3) Wedding hanfu

As you can imagine, this is ornate hanfu that is worn for weddings. Song/Ming style hanfu is particularly popular here.This clothing is traditional in the sense that it has historical basis and is what those who could afford to word for weddings historically. Historical wedding colors varied but color pairings like red & blue and red & green are traditional (man wears red, woman wears blue/green; 红男绿女). Wearing hanfu for weddings is a trend that has become popular with the hanfu revival movement and is, as you might guess, a trend for Han Chinese people

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Chinese ethnic minorities have their own wedding attire that they may choose to wear/wear as well (if they do a banquet, etc). Or they might just wear red/xiuhe/western style dresses, too—this is another area where wedding photos let you basically wear everything.

(just a few examples:)

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ziseviolet

Agreed that it's commonplace nowadays for weddings in China to involve multiple outfit changes, so that both Chinese-style wedding attire (hanfu, xiuhefu, qipao, qungua, etc.) and Western-style wedding attire are worn. In addition to the ceremony and banquet/reception, there's also the Chinese 接亲/jieqin ("picking up the bride") tradition that occurs prior to the ceremony, during which the groom goes to pick up the bride from her parent’s house. Most couples choose to wear Chinese-style wedding attire for jieqin and other pre-ceremony activities, even if they wear Western-style wedding attire for the rest.

Below - examples of couples wearing wedding hanfu during jieqin activities (1/2/3/4/5/6/7/8/9/10/11/12):

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It's also common for the bridesmaids, groomsmen, and parents to wear hanfu if the couple does (1/2):

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The red sash and large red flower that the groom and/or bride (usually the groom) often wear are called 披红/pihong and 大红花球/dahong huaqiu, respectively. They are mostly red, but can also have green colors.

Below - grooms wearing pihong (sash) (1/2):

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Below - grooms wearing dahong huaqiu (flower ball) (1/2):

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My "wedding" and "wedding hanfu" tags have more references for Chinese weddings, and hanfu weddings in particular.

hanfu reblogging for adorable pictures
ziseviolet

firecat17 asked:

I saw a man in one of your C-drama GIFs wearing what looks like wedding attire complete with a sash. Is that historically accurate?

xiaolanhua answered:

hi! i noticed too but unfortunately I’m not the right person that can confirm if it’s historically accurate. I know the drama borrows a lot from Ming Dynasty but from what I’ve searched, I didn’t find anything specific about this part of the wedding atire.

ziseviolet

If you're referring to Li Yunrui's character in the cdrama "Blossom", his wedding attire is very historically accurate -- in fact, it's one of the most historically accurate depictions of Ming dynasty wedding hanfu I've seen in a cdrama ever:

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Below are illustrations of historical Ming dynasty wedding hanfu for brides and grooms. Note how Li Yunrui's outfit replicates the red groom's outfit in the center (x):

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Here's a modern hanfu wedding photoshoot with historically accurate Ming dynasty attire (x):

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The red sash is called 披红/pihong. It was popular during the Ming and Qing dynasties as an accessory for celebratory events such as weddings, ceremonies, etc. It was often worn by grooms during weddings. Below are depictions of pihong in historical art from the Ming dynasty (x):

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Pihong is still sometimes worn as a part of wedding attire today, especially for Ming dynasty-style hanfu weddings (1/2):

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I have more references in my pihong tag.

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cawareyoudoin
mar-ginalia

I’m used to people from other countries having bad takes about the Witcher, proving time and time again that they failed to understand its message and politics. But seeing (some) fellow Poles embarrassing themselves with comments about “woke” and “DEI” with regards to the Witcher IV trailer  is… something else.

I have to watch these idiots mindlessly parrot Western alt-right talking points because a woman – and an important canon character at that – is the new protagonist. How is this controversial in 2024? How is this “political”? I’m so fucking tired. Culturally, we are at a very weird place right now. Sometimes I feel like all the progress we’ve made in the recent decades has gone to shit.

These books were a formative experience for me when I was a teenager. Since the '90s, they have become a part of Polish (pop)cultural DNA for folks across many generations. It astounds me that there are still people who have read the same books as I and they somehow missed all the progressive themes or, I don’t know, rewrote them in their heads to mean something else entirely. Sapkowski wasn’t exactly subtle when writing this stuff, you know?

Right now the only thing this literacy crisis paired up with cultural alt-right backlash makes we want to do is seek refuge in good stories, old and new. I don't think there's any point in arguing with these people.

yukinojou

These books had a canon nonbinary character in 1997. *spoiler* dies during a pogrom, trying to protect indigenous people from it. It's like Star Trek, the Witcher has always been woke.

(And oh, hello, Ciri's main motivation is getting away from the prophecy and everyone including her own dad trying to get her to procreate and/or be Empress of Nilfgaard, and guess what puts paid to both these options. Plus she's wanted to be a witcher even before Cintra fell.)

yukinojou

#wait what nonbinary character huh? don’t remember that but then again i read these books before i knew what enby was#the witcher#discourse#poland#sigh

It’s a minor character, but it’s lampshaded that Neratin Ceka, one of Stefan Skellen’s lieutenants, is a person of indeterminate gender who doesn’t even clarify which of the binary they identify with. When this was brought to his attention, Skellen was like, I care that they’re a good killer, I’m not going to ask them to marry me.

(I suspect that in the postmodern full of cultural allusions Witcher it was a play on the usual token prettyboy / crossdresser in anime at the time - think somewhere between Kurama in Yu Yu Hakusho and Zoisite in Sailormoon - but it ended up coming off very progressive for the times. Especially since Skellen’s a fairly sympathetic villain we’re supposed to almost like.)

the witcher