Anger Control

 Why Teach Anger Control

 What Makes Us Angry (Triggers)
 How Can We Tell When We Are Angry (Cues)
 How Can We Tell When Someone Else is Angry
 Recognizing Internal and External Triggers
 Triggers Work Page
 Anger-o-Meter “A Tool To Gauge Your Rage”
 Anger-o-Meter Work Page
 What To Do If We Get Angry (Anger Busters)
 Positive Self-Talk
 Tools Teachers Have to Deal With Anger
 More Tools…
 Practice P.E.A.C.E.
 Anger Sentence Starters
Why Teach Anger Control
 Anger is just one of our  It’s like a pot of boiling
emotions. water with the lid left on.
 Everyone gets angry. The lid needs lifted to let
the steam escape or the
 It’s OK to be angry at
water finally boils over
times.
and blows the top off!
 Anger must be released.
 What to do with those
strong feelings is the hard
part to be learned.
What Makes Us Angry (Triggers
 Things don’t go our way.
 We don’t understand how to do
something.
 We don’t get what we want.
 We get teased.
 We get called names.
 Something doesn’t seem fair.
 We get blamed for something we
didn’t do.
 We can’t take anymore!!!!!
 We don’t get enough sleep.
 Sometimes, we don’t know why.
We just are.
 How To Tell If We Are Angry
(Cues)
 Heart races  Face gets red
 Adrenalin rush  Tummy hurts
 Clench fists  Tone of voice
 Cry  Get a headache
 Shoulders tense  Want to break
 Get hot or cold something
 Jaw tightens  Yell or scream
 Breathe faster  Negative thoughts
How To Tell When Someone Else is Angry
 You can see it.
 You can feel it.
 They may stomp away.  Give the person
 They may stop talking to some space.
you.  Once you are away
 They may become quiet. from that person,
stop and think.
 They may become
 Try to figure out
withdrawn. what made that
 They may scream. person so angry.
 They may hit or harm  Be a good listener.

anyone close by.  Consider their

feelings.
 The Importance of Recognizing
Internal and External Triggers
(What sets off your anger?)
 Internal triggers are what goes on inside
our heads that make us mad. They are
what we think about what happens to us.
 External triggers are those that happen
outside of self.

The teacher She is trying to

corrects me. embarrass me!
 Triggers Work Page
Identify the external trigger. Consider what the person
might have thought that would have triggered an angry
feeling.

While you are watching TV, your little sister comes

into the room and changes the channel.
You’ve lost your homework. Now you must stay in
at recess to redo it.
The school picnic has been canceled because of rain.
Your teacher gives you some work you think is too
hard.
You are grounded because you did not do your
chores.
You hear your friends talking about a party you did
not get invited to.
 Anger-o-Meter
“a tool to help you gauge your rage”
Cool 1=does not bother me at all
Warm 2=only slightly irritates me
Hot 3=I get aggravated
Steaming 4=I get provoked
Burning 5=I get furious
 Cool 1=does not bother me at all
Warm 2=only slightly irritates me
Hot 3=I get aggravated
Steaming 4=I get provoked

Burning 5=I get furious

__1. When someone tells on me
__2. When I try out for something and don’t get it
__3. When my friends do something without me
__4. When someone borrows something of mine and breaks it
__5. When I want to do something and no one wants to do it
__6. When I’m unfairly accused of something
__7. When I lose money
__8. When I do something good and no one notices
__9. When someone gets me in trouble
__10.When someone kicks my seat in class
__11. When someone bumps into me on purpose
__12. When I wait for someone who doesn’t come
__13. When someone says something about me that isn’t true
 Anger Busters
How To Reduce Your Anger

 Breathe deeply  Positive self-talk

 Count backwards  Draw a picture
 Use imagery (pleasant  Exercise
thoughts)  Laugh
 Relaxation
 Cool down “chill out”
 Stretching
 Tell someone
 Take a brisk walk
 Chew gum
 Write in a journal
 Get or give a hug  Ask for some help
 Take a bike ride  Problem solve after you
 Sing with the radio are calm
 Read a book
 Positive Self-Talk

It is O.K. to I won’t
make make a big
mistakes. deal about it.

I’ll stay cool I am only

and stay in responsible for
control. myself.

I’ll grow up, Even if I don’t

like it, I can
not blow up!
live with it.
 Anger Sentence Starters
a self-reflection activity to do…………………..

 I get angry every time …. 

 I get angry whenever A safe place to get angry
somebody… is…
 I get over being angry  When I keep my angry
quickly when… inside, I…
 You can tell I’m angry  Some ways to get my
when I… anger out without
hurting anybody are…
 When I get angry my
face…  When someone is angry
with me…
 The best thing for me to do
when I get angry is…  When I let my angry
feelings out, I…
 After I lose my temper, I…
 Tools Teachers Have to Deal With
Anger
 Clear Classroom Expectations
The Right To Be Treated With Respect.
The Right To Be Safe From Harm
The Right To Express Opinions
The Right To Be Listened To And Be Taken Seriously
The Right To Share Feelings
The Right To Live Without Fear Or Threat or Abuse
The Right To Make Mistakes And Learn From Them
The Right To Be Responsible For One's Own Behavior
 Attitude speak kindly, show respect
 Encouragement 5-1 ratio of positives to negatives
 Conferences to vent, to problem solve, to build relationship
 More Tools Teachers Have
to Deal With Anger
 Have Clear Rules For Getting Mads Out
 Have Clear, Consistent Consequences
 Use Reminders and Redirections
 Share Your Story: You can help boys and girls with their
anger by telling your story. Share how you calmed yourself down
when your were upset and how you stopped your Mad Attack.
Others can learn from your "Cool Off" words. What words did
you use to chill yourself out?
 Use Class Meetings
 Teach Personal Space
 Teach P.E.A.C.E. Turtle technique
 Practice
P.E.A.C.E.
Pause/Pretend you are a turtle.
(You are slow to act, very thoughtful before moving,
withdrawing from confrontations into your safe shell.)

Exhale/Enter your shell.

(You need to exhale in order to fit into your shells. Use your anger busters such
as breathing, counting, visualizing.)

Ask yourself to calm down and think.

(Look at the situation and evaluate it. Talk to yourself.)

Calmly talk to yourself about what is making you angry .

(Talk to yourself and think about turning your angry feelings into
positive choices.)
Exit to a skill. (Put into practice the positive choice you decided
upon in the last step.
 Worth Sharing
Here is a quote from my book,
How To Let Go Of Your Mad Baggage.
"Life is full of multidimensional possibilities. Once you get a
handle on your mads, your life becomes easier and easier.
Remember, you don't have to keep on doing the same-o,
same-o.
Choices. Life is about choices. You have choices about
what to do when you get mad. One great thing about being
a Human Being is that you do get choices. We can use our
choices about our mads to become gentle, loving people.
Lynne Namka, Ed. D. © l997
 Remember,
it is human to have anger.
It is what you do with it that counts!
 Anger Control Resources
 The Peace Curriculum (Expanded Aggression
Replacement Training) from The North County
Service Coalition/The National Peace Institute
 Kim from BabyFold workshop handout
 KidsHealth
 http://members.aol.com/AngriesOut/index.htm