Lesson 5: What Is The Good Life? Sources of Meaning and Happiness

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Lesson 5

What is the Good Life?


Sources of Meaning and Happiness
OBJECTIVES
 To explain
a) The risk factors of the happiness pursuit
without meaning and virtue.
b) The advantages of a meaning perspective of
the good life (Wong, 2011).
c) The need for a balanced meaningful live
based on Wong’s implicit theories research
(1998a).
A PUZZLING PROBLEM
 People want to be healthy but many
consume junk food.
 People want to be happy but many do
things that make themselves miserable.
 Most things that taste good are probably
bad for you.
 Most things that give you a thrill are
probably bad for you too.
WHAT IS THE GOOD LIFE?
 People have different
ideas of what constitutes
the good life.
 Wrong pursuits may lead
to tragic consequences.
 Correct pursuits may
lead to flourishing.
 Therefore, be careful
what you dream for.
THE HAPPINESS PURSUIT

 Everybody wants more happiness and


success.
 It’s good to know how to optimize
happiness and success.
 There are many happiness coaches and
self-help books on the market.
RISK FACTORS
There are risk factors when:
 The happiness pursuit becomes one’s
ultimate purpose in life.
 The happiness pursuit is not guided by a
philosophy of life informed by general
principles of meaning, spirituality and
virtue (e.g., the Golden Rule).
THE GOLDEN RULE
 Confucius: What you do not want done to
yourself, do not do unto others.
 Aristotle: We should behave to others as
we wish others to behave to us.
 Buddhism: Hurt not others with that
which pains thyself.
 Christianity: Do unto others as you would
have them do unto you.
THE AMERICAN NIGHTMARE

The pursuit of the good life has ended in


misery and self-destruction for many
people.
WHAT IS THE COMMON
CAUSE?

 They make personal happiness and


success their ultimate end of life without a
moral compass and without the desire to
pursue inner goodness.
DISILLUSION
King Solomon realized the vanity of success
long, long ago:
 The world will never be enough: “The eye
is not satisfied with seeing, nor the ear
filled with hearing” (Eccl. 1:8).
 It takes more and more to reach the same
level of happiness—addiction, money, etc.
DISILLUSION

 Nothing in this world can fill the spiritual


vacuum within us.
 Dreams are often broken when reality
strikes.
FATE AND CIRCUMSTANCE

 Bad things happen to good people


 Reversal of fortune
 For some people, most days are bad days
(e.g. poverty)
 Lack of opportunities to pursue PERMA
(Seligman, 2011)
ADVANTAGES OF
THE MEANING PURSUIT

 Avoids the pitfalls of self-centered pursuit


of happiness and success.
 Sustains us between the highs of
inspiration and the lows of despair.
 Happiness and flourishing will sneak in
through the back door.
 Ability to transform adversities into
opportunities for personal growth.
THE GOOD LIFE IS A
VIRTUOUS LIFE

 A meaningful, authentic good life is based


on inner goodness.
 “The end of life is eudaimonia.”—Aristotle
 Eudaimonia means well-being, virtue and
human flourishing.
 To live the good life is to become what we
ought to be as human beings—moral
agents who strive for moral excellence.
ACCORDING TO ARISTOTLE
 His moral theory is
teleological.
 Aristotle’s virtue ethics.
 The golden mean to avoid
extremes.
 Practical wisdom: the proper
end to our actions and the
proper means to our end.
 Four cardinal virtues:
prudence, justice, fortitude,
and temperance.
ACCORDING TO CONFUCIUS
 Lived in a tumultuous period
of war and conflict.
 Equates the good life with
social harmony.
 The need to fit in an ordered
society.
 Five cardinal virtues:
benevolence, righteousness,
propriety, wisdom, and
faithfulness or loyalty.
 Inner cultivation of virtues
leads to world peace.
A SHIFT IN THE NARRATIVE OF
THE GOOD LIFE

 A shift from virtue and ethics to personal


happiness and success.
 An increase in personal freedom and
gross domestic product (GDP).
 Money does not always buy happiness.
IS THERE THE GOOD LIFE
WITHOUT INNER GOODNESS?
 A morally neutral stand on the good life
will lead to risk factors.
 We feel good from doing good.
 We are moral beings living in a moral
universe.
 We cannot flourish without a moral
compass.
THE HOLISTIC APPROACH
 The whole is more than the sum of its
parts.
 Good people + Good community + World
peace = Good life.
THE GOOD LIFE IN TOUGH TIMES

 Finding meaning through a heroic attitude


(Frankl, 1985).
 Accepting what cannot be changed.
 “Every cloud has a silver lining.”
 Transforming adversities through meaning
and faith.
 Reducing stress, depression and anxiety.
 Integrating negatives with positives.
THE GOOD LIFE IS A
SPIRITUAL LIFE
 The adaptive advantages of religion and
believing in God.
 A moral compass and answers to the big
questions.
 Belief in an Ultimate Rescuer.
 Hope beyond the grave.
 Significance in mundane activities.
 A meaning-mindset is a faith-filled
perspective.
THE GOOD LIFE IS A
BALANCED LIFE

 A single-minded pursuit is not


always beneficial.
 Active engagement needs to
be balanced by rest.
 Exclusive love needs to be
balanced by greater love. vs.
 Achievement needs to be
balanced by acceptance.
 Self-transcendence needs to
be balanced by fair treatment.
SOURCES OF MEANING FOR THE
GOOD LIFE

 Wong’s implicit theory research.


 Achievement, religion/spirituality, positive
affect, relationships, self-transcendence,
intimacy, self-acceptance, fair treatment.
 Basic needs for mental health and
flourishing.
Profile of Personal Meaning

7.6
7.4
Mean Rating

7.2
7.0
6.8
6.6
6.4
6.2
6.0
A BALANCED MODEL OF THE
GOOD LIFE
Religion/
Spirituality

Achievement Acceptance

Intimacy Relationship Positive Emotion and Well-


being

Self-transcendence Fairness

Situational and Cultural


Context

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