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EVE S TI MES June 2012 1
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an I hug yo u and gi ve yo u a k i ss? I w as a l i t t l e sur pr i sed w hen
my mai ds gr anddaught er asked me. I t hr ew my hands ar o und her
and gave her a bear hug. Ruk mi ni has passed Pl us 2 w i t h 73 % i n
t he co mmer ce st r eam. Fo r many, i t may no t be a bi g deal . But fo r
her, i t i s an achi evement t hat has co me abo ut aft er unt o l d suffer i ngs
and i nt o l er abl e bur den o n her fr agi l e yo ung sho ul der s. Yo u guessed r i ght . She i s
j ust l i ke any o t her gi r l chi l d fr o m a po o r fami l y. Br o ught up by her gr andmo t her
w ho mar r i ed o ff her daught er s as seco nd w i ves w i t h much o l der w i do w er s w ho se
chi l dr en w er e o l der t han t hei r st ep mo t her s, M eenak shi i s i n a hur r y t o mar r y o ff
Ruk mi ni t he mi nut e her r o vi ng eyes can spy a r i ch, el i gi bl e bachel o r / w i do w er no
mat t er w hat hi s age. Ruk mi ni w as gi ven aw ay by her mo t her because she w as a
t w i n and i t w as t o o much fo r her mo t her t o handl e, especi al l y si nce her husband
had passed aw ay due t o o l d age heal t h i ssues!
Ruk mi ni do es al l t he ho useho l d cho r es, i ncl udi ng co o k i ng, w ashi ng, cl eani ng and
hel ps her gr andmo t her w o r k i n a co upl e o f ho useho l ds befo r e r ushi ng o ff t o
scho o l . So o n aft er her bo ar d ex ams, t he o l d l ady t o o k her t o a gr o cer y sho p t o
st ar t ear ni ng. To day j o b o pt i o ns ar e apl ent y fo r yo ung gi r l s l i ke Ruk mi ni w ho
have co mpl et ed t hei r Pl us 2. T hey get pl aced i n smal l r et ai l st o r es, gr o cer y st o r es,
r et ai l chai ns, do ct o r s cl i ni cs and ho spi t al s and co unt l ess gar ment and sar ee sho ps,
j ew el l er y sho ps and w hat ever smal l and bi g busi ness o ne can t hi nk o f. It i s a
di ffer ent mat t er w het her t hese gi r l s have t he k no w l edge t o handl e cust o mer s and
mer chandi ze o r no t . W el l , Ruk mi ni i s ear ni ng a handso me sal ar y o f Rs. 4000/ - per
mo nt h w hi ch t he gr andmo t her w ant s t o use fo r t hei r upkeep. If po ssi bl e she pl ans
t o buy l i t t l e pi eces o f go l d j ew el l er y fo r her mar r i age, w hi ch w i l l co me i n handy fo r
her fut ur e al co ho l i c husband w ho can snat ch i t t o pl edge i n a paw n sho p.
D espi t e ever y effo r t by t he go ver nment as w el l as mul t i t udes o f N G O s and so ci al
act i vi st s, t hi s i s t he pl i ght o f t ho usands o f gi r l s acr o ss t he co unt r y w ho w i l l be
t o r ment ed t o co nt i nue t he t r adi t i o n o f i gno r ance, super st i t i o ns, t abo o s and so ci al
evi l s, l angui shi ng i n po o r ho mes, abused by al co ho l i c husbands, t o i l i ng ar duo usl y
t o feed and educat e t hei r yo ung o nes w hi l e t hey go t o bed bat t er ed and hungr y.
T he t el evi si o n i s pl ayi ng a huge r o l e i n per pet uat i ng po ver t y, al co ho l i sm, gender
bi as, do mest i c abuse, per so nal i t y di so r der s, cr i me and vi o l ence and so ci al evi l s
t hr o ugh t he never endi ng ser i al s and sho ck i ngl y benumbi ng r eal i t y sho w s w her e
ever y po ssi bl e k i nd o f di r t y l i nen i s w ashed i n publ i c, gl eeful l y set t i ng t he T RP r at es
so ar i ng. T her e ar e no medi a l aw s t o mo der at e such abo mi nabl e pr o gr ammes w hi ch
br i dl e any at t empt by t he so ci et y t o i nch fo r w ar d.
A mi dst such a bl eak scenar i o , I co nt i nue t o bat t l e w i t h t he gr andmo t her, k no ck i ng
at ever y po ssi bl e avenue o f suppo r t t o enr o l l her i n a co l l ege. D espi t e my o ffer
t o pay her fees, t he gr andmo t her i s adamant abo ut no t sendi ng her t o co l l ege.
T he r eal i t y sho w she w at ches ever y ni ght i n a po pul ar channel sho w s r eal l i fe
st o r i es w her e yo ung gi r l s, mar r i ed o r unmar r i ed ar e w o o ed by r o gues w i t h si ni st er
mo t i ves. Ruk mi ni co nt i nues t o be st ar ved o f l o ve and l i ves w i t h t he ho pe t hat her
dr eam o f beco mi ng a si mpl e gr aduat e w i l l co me t r ue. O f co ur se, t her es no l et up
o n her back br eak i ng schedul es. T he gi r l chi l d smi l es back at me fr o m a cal endar
o n t he w al l o f my l i vi ng r o o m!
C i ao !
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Cont ent
COVER STO RY 7
BONDS OF LOVE
Par ent ho o d i s a w o nder ful j o ur ney o f
unco ndi t i o nal l o ve, car e and nur t ur i ng.
W hen a man o r a w o man beco mes
a par ent , a sudden t r ansfo r mat i o n
o ccur s. T he t i ny l i t t l e r epl i ca w hi ch
has j ust emer ged i nt o t he w o r l d has
suddenl y beco me t he mo st i mpo r t ant
cause fo r t he par ent t o l i ve and
br eat he.
Tbe new era parents bave reoeneo
par ent ho o d, w hi ch i s so much
di ffer ent fr o m t he aust er e upbr i ngi ng
o f t he ear l i er gener at i o ns. To day
par ent s dr eam fo r t hei r chi l dr en i s
t hat t hei r chi l dr en sho ul d pur sue t hei r
o w n dr eams. T hey st r i ve t o pr o vi de
tbem wltb tbe wberewltbal to tull
t hei r dr eams.
Is par ent i ng a maj o r chal l enge t o day?
O r ar e t he par ent s mo r e t han
co mpensat ed fo r t hei r t o ugh gr i nd
wltb beatlc smlles ano bear-bugs?
H o w ar e new er a mo ms and dads
bo ndi ng w i t h t hei r sci o ns?
20|All Tr ut h is Act ionable- A t ho ught
pr o vo k i ng ar t i cl e o n t he t r avai l s o f t he gi r l
chi l d.
27| Power cut s have beco me t he
o r der o f t he day. A l l t hat r emai ns fo r t he
apat het i c ci t i zens i s t o gr i n and bear as w e
al w ays do . W hat i s t he pr esent si t uat i o n?
37 |Teen Mag
Ever ybo dys o n a Summer H o l i day! W el l ,
i t s t i me t o put up yo ur l egs and r evel i n t he
car efr ee ho ur s w hen yo u can do w hat ever
yo u w ant o r no t do anyt hi ng at al l . T i me
t o w at ch fr i ends and t he w o nk i est ser i al
t hat yo u w ant , eat and dr i nk w henever
and w hat ever, t r y yo ur hands at co o k i ng
( i magi ne mak i ng yo ur o w n desser t s) o r
look at tbe tness loeas ooleo out by
o ur ex per t co unsel ser i o usl y. It i s t i me t o
go o ut w i t h yo ur fr i ends, t ast e t he mo st
ex o t i c i ce cr eams, j ui ces and mi l k shakes
and desser t and have fun i n t he sun!
46| D o yo u l i ve i n a ho st el ? A r e yo u
br o ke? But do yo u w ant t o go o ut l o o k i ng
gr eat ? Lo o k fo r gr eat t i ps fr o m t hi s yo ung
gi r l w ho pr o mi ses w i l l add a new l o o k t o
yo ur w ar dr o be and per so nal i t y.
Teen Mag Regular s
Jest 4 Laughs 39
C ant een Bant er 49
Teen Ko o k s 40
Teen Fi t ness 42
Sudo k u 48
53| D o yo u feel l i ke o peni ng o ut yo ur
hear t t o so meo ne? So r t o ut yo ur
di l emmas and co nfusi o ns by r eachi ng o ut
t o yo ur yo ung fr i ends w ho ar e r eady t o
l end yo u a hel pi ng hand t o put t hi ngs i n
t he r i ght per spect i ve. But r emember, t hi s
i s 4 U R EYES O N LY!
Regular s
Jus A sk Br i nda 57
H eal t h C l i ni c 77
Sal t n Pepper Ko r ner 76
A r t N o o k 79
St ar t Smar t Invest ment 82
St o r y C l ub 90
61| Fun in t he Sun
T her es a l o t yo u can do i n summer. It i s
t he best t i me t o t ake t o w at er spo r t s o r
pamper yo ur t ast e buds w i t h t he co o l est
cui si nes avai l abl e i n t he sw ank y eat i ng
j o i nt s i n yo ur ci t y. O r yo u can t ur n o ut
del ect abl e dr i nk s and desser t s fr o m t he
connes ot your bomes. Ano tbe best
fun w i l l be a summer ho l i day. A nd t her es
al w ays a huge r eper t o i r e o f summer
act i vi t i es avai l abl e i n yo ur ci t y fo r yo u t o o
r evel i n .
64 N ewer A venues o f educat i o n ar e
so ught by so me st udent s w ho cho o se t o
st r ay aw ay fr o m t he o ft t r o dden pat h.
85 Chasing a Mir age
To day, t he w o r l d i s w i t nessi ng gender
i nequal i t y at i t s w o r st .U nfo r t unat el y, t he
l ear ned and t he so - cal l ed el i t e w o men
ar e t he vi ct i ms. To days nar ci ssi st i c cul t ur e
i s br eedi ng such a fer vent passi o n amo ng
t eenager s t hat sado maso chi sm i s at i t s
peak ! Even w o men l i ke A i sw ar ya Rai w ho
have beco me gl o bal i co ns ar e no t spar ed
by skew ed mi nds! 85
94 I PL - Ri ddl ed w i t h scams and scandal s,
t hi s i s t he mo st co mmer ci al i zed game
event t hat set s t he Indi an cr i cket fans
bearts Nutterlng.
96 Pet r ol Cr i si s- H o w much mo r e can
o ur w al l et s t o l er at e t he co nst ant l y so ar i ng
fuel pr i ces? C i t i zens vent t hei r anger. But
t he gr i m si t uat i o n al so br i ngs o ut t he best
o f humo ur !
We Did It !
W e ar e t he br ai ns behi nd t he co ncept
and edi t o r i al co o r di nat i o n o f t he summer
feat ur es and TeenM ag t hi s i ssue! T hank s
fo r r eadi ng! D o send us yo ur feedback t o
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My Bu n d l e o f
What does being a mot her mean t o you?
I m no t sur e yet , i t means so many t hi ngs. It i s t he scar i est and
yet - tbe most tullllng aoventure |'ve ever been on. | oo teel tbe
same k i nd o f passi o n fo r my w o r k t hat al l - co nsumi ng l o ve. But
my w o r k can never r eal l y put i t s ar ms ar o und me and k i ss me
go o dni ght . M o t her ho o d i s uni que i n so many w ays!
Do you believe t hat mot her s back t hen had it easier t han
mot her s now?Why?
I do nt t hi nk mo t her s ever had/ have/ w i l l have i t easy. Especi al l y
mo t her s back t hen - i t i s l i ke t hei r i dent i t i es w er e t i ed t o t hei r
mo t her ho o d and t hat can be ex t r emel y pai nful i f no t co nfusi ng.
C hi l dr en event ual l y go o n t o have t hei r o w n l i ves and Ive seen
many mo t her s fr o m t hat gener at i o n w ho fo und i t i mpo ssi bl e t o
co pe w i t h t hat .
How has your own upbr inging shaped your way of
br inging up your lit t le one?
Fo r st ar t er s, I m no t r ai si ng K i ar a al o ne. A t l east no t r i ght no w.
M y fo l k s gi ve me mo r e t han a hand at i t . But yes, I t r y no t t o
beat mysel f fo r no t bei ng abl e t o mo del my mo t her s par ent i ng
st yl e. She r eal l y w as and st i l l i s t he mo del par ent i n my head and I
so met i mes feel bad fo r my daught er - because I k no w she l l never
get t hat fr o m me. But t hen I t el l mysel f t hat i f G o d pi cked me t o
be t hi s par t i cul ar chi l ds par ent , H e must have had hi s r easo ns
and as l o ng as I m do i ng my best , I have no t hi ng t o w o r r y abo ut .
As a mot her, what has t he biggest lesson you have
want ed t o/always do t each Kiar a?
I w ant fo r her t o k no w G o d and begi n her o w n advent ur e w i t h
H i m. T hat s r eal l y t he key, because my l esso ns neednt necessar i l y
be her l esso ns. O h, and Id w ant t o t el l her never t o buy a bi gger
bra boplng sbe woulo maglcally ll tbe etra space. Yeab, tbat
do esnt happen.
Do you believe in t he pr inciple t hat a mot her must be a
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a mot her s role is t hat of a mot her, and being a fr iend is
just a par t of t he package?
I ho nest l y do nt k no w. I m ver y new t o t hi s and I l ear n so met hi ng
Bonds of Love
W
rlter [uoy 8alan ls tbe pertect conNuence ot wlt,
spunk and st r engt h. A st r o ng i ndi vi dual , Judy
has do nned many hat s r i ght fr o m aut ho r and
cel ebr at ed w r i t er t o si ngl e mo t her. H er l i t t l e
prlncess, Klara, ls ve, now, ano ls [uoy's worlo ln
t he t r uest sense o f t he t er m. So w hat keeps Judy go i ng? W hat br i ngs
t he mo t her and daught er cl o se? H er es ever yt hi ng Judy has t o say o n
mo t her ho o d, unpl ugged!
Jo y
new al mo st ever y day, o nl y t o go r i ght
ahead and unl ear n i t t he ver y nex t day. I
do nt see mysel f as a mo t her o r a w r i t er.
T hey ar e al l j ust r o l es, r eal l y. I bel i eve t hat
i f I can be and funct i o n as a w ho l e per so n,
everytblng else wlll just Now trom tbat. |'ve
seen mo ms w ho ar e gr eat at bei ng fr i ends
w i t h t hei r k i ds and w hi l e t hat s w o r ked fo r
so me k i ds, w hi l e t he same t hi ng has no t
w o r ked fo r o t her s. Ever y chi l d and ever y
par ent i s uni que. T hat s r eal l y al l I k no w.
But I t hi nk i t s a decent st ar t i ng po i nt , eh?
There is a saying t hat being a Mot her
is a t hankless job - do you t hink so?
What has t he most rewarding aspect
of being a mot her, been for you?
H eh, fo r st ar t er s, I do nt t hi nk I ex pect
anyt hi ng fr o m my daught er. Shes my chi l d.
I l o ve her. T hat s al l t her e i s. M aybe i t i s
because my mum never ex pect ed anyt hi ng
fr o m us - W H ILE put t i ng up w i t h al l o ur
cr ap and l o vi ng us unco ndi t i o nal l y. T hi s i s
ho w I m w i r ed. I l o ve her and co r ny as i t
so unds, j ust t he t ho ught t hat I w as pi cked
t o be t hi s chi l ds par ent i s fasci nat i ng,
humbl i ng and r ew ar di ng i n i t sel f.
Take us t hrough one memor able
moment in your t r aject or y as a
mot her.
I m an ex t r emel y par ano i d par ent . If
I co ul d chi l d- pr o o f al l o f M adr as j ust
fo r K i ar a, I w o ul d. A nd t hi s hi gh l evel
o f anx i et y o ft en get s i n t he w ay o f j ust
enj o yi ng her - because shes a hyper - act i ve
chi l d w ho cant st o p cl i mbi ng t hi ngs and
st i ck i ng her head i nsi de t hi ngs. Ever y day,
sbe nos a creatlve way to get a bump on
her head o r her k nees scr aped. Ive al so
had my shar e o f epi c saves - Ive caught
her mi d- ai r sever al t i mes w hen she w as
yo unger and Ive seen and pr event ed
many acci dent s befo r e t hey happened.
But o f co ur se, no ne o f t hi s i s fun fo r me,
so I al w ays yel l . W hen she w as yo unger,
she cr i ed o r t hr ew so met hi ng at me o r
r an t o her gr andpar ent s fo r co mfo r t .
But r ecent l y, w hen I scr eamed at her fo r
bendi ng ( o nl y a l i t t l e bi t ) o ver t he t er r ace
w al l , she j ust l o o ked at me and gave me a
k no w i ng smi l e. A nd sai d It s o k ay, mamma.
D o nt be scar ed. I t ear ed up i mmedi at el y.
Suddenl y, she w as al l bi g and she w asnt
r espo ndi ng t o t he scr eami ng anymo r e. She
w as r espo ndi ng t o t he emo t i o n behi nd t he
scr eami ng. I t ho ught t hat w as fasci nat i ng
- t o have her t el l me w hat I sho ul d have
been t el l i ng her.
As a single mot her who juggles
many balls - how do you ensure t hat
Kiar a get s t he necessar y dose of
her mot her ?
Yeab, tbat one's oltcult. |'m just tbe klno
ot person wbo nos lt etremely baro to
bal ance. I m k no w n t o be o n ex t r emes
and I t hr o w mysel f i nt o ever yt hi ng I do .
So w hen I st ar t w o r k i ng, I t end t o fo r get
ever yt hi ng ar o und me and I beat mysel f
up at nlgbt wben | no tbat sbe's tallen
asl eep w i t ho ut me. It go es o n fo r a few
days befo r e I st o p mysel f and deci de t o
do t hi ngs i n mo der at i o n, o nl y t o get
t ho r o ughl y ex ci t ed by t he nex t bi g pr o j ect
and r epeat t he cycl e.
Where do you see Kiar a t en year s
from now? What are your dreams
for her ?
I do nt dr eam fo r her. T hat s her j o b. A nd
i f yo u ask me, t hat i s t he har dest par t -
k no w i ng w hat yo u w ant . A nd unfo r t unat el y,
no o ne el se can do i t fo r yo u. I t hi nk my
unhappi est t i mes w er e w hen I t r i ed t o l i ve
o ff so meo ne el ses dr eams.
Kiar a is ever y bit t he individual
per son t hat she r ight fully should be
- somet hing t hat ver y few achieve,
being self-act ualized and for t hr ight
while being ver y young is somet hing
amazing. How did you pr une Kiar a
t owards t hat ?
I ho nest l y do nt t hi nk I have anyt hi ng t o do
w i t h t hat . It s j ust w ho she i s. I t r y no t t o
get i n t he w ay.
Ki r t hi Gi t a Jayakumar
When she was younger, she cr i ed
or t hr ew somet hi ng at me or r an t o
her gr andp ar ent s f or comf or t . But
r ecent l y, when I scr eamed at her
f or bendi ng (onl y a l i t t l e bi t ) over
t he t er r ace wal l , she j ust l ooked at
me and gave me a knowi ng smi l e.
And sai d I t s okay, mamma. D on t
be scar ed.
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A
Fr ench Pr o ver b go es, A
Fat her i s a Banker Pr o vi ded
by N at ur e. A r ecent
adver t i sement o n t el evi si o n
sho w s a fat her scut t l i ng
behi nd a t ho ught l ess so n, ho l di ng a dr aw
i n hand w hi l e spi t t i ng o ut cur r ency no t es
at a batNlng speeo. Stop to tblnk a moment.
Is t hat w hat a fat her i s al l abo ut ? Is a fat her
di spensabl e? Is t her e any sense i n sayi ng
t hat a chi l d needs a mo t her s t o uch i n
i t s upbr i ngi ng, but no t so much a fat her s
t o uch?
Ex pl o di ng al l myt hs, Rex A r ul speak s abo ut
hi s r el at i o nshi p w i t h hi s beaut i ful , cher ubi c
l i t t l e daught er, Rhea. A l eft - behi nd-
parent, Re ls lett wltb sllvery laments
o f memo r y i n hi s mi nd, a ser i es o f co ur t
bat t l es and a pai nful separ at i o n fr o m hi s
daught er, aft er she w as abduct ed by her
o w n mo t her t o Indi a, fr o m t he U ni t ed
St at es. Besi des bei ng a st el l ar ex ampl e o f
w hy t he l aw s i n Indi a need t o co nfo r m t o
i nt er nat i o nal st andar ds, Rex s si t uat i o n
i s a po i gnant st o r y o f l o ve, fat her ho o d
and a bo nd w i t h hi s daught er t hat no
woros coulo justlably oescrlbe.
What does fat her hood mean t o
you?
Fat her ho o d t o me i s a w o nder ful
j o ur ney o f l o ve, car e, and nur t ur i ng.
A l t ho ugh Fat her ho o d i n i t s ver y
essence i s a fundament al , o nt o l o gi cal
st at e, w her e a car efr ee man
beco mes a Fat her o f a chi l d, I t end
t o vi ew i t as a l i fel o ng j o ur ney, t o
be t her e unco ndi t i o nal l y fo r my
daught er Rhea al l t hr o ugh her l i fe. I
vi ew Fat her ho o d as G o ds best o w al
o f r espo nsi bi l i t y o n H i s l i t t l e o ne
- - t hat i s me - - t o t ake car e o f H i s
l i t t l e o ne - - t hat i s my daught er.
If you could put it in words,
what does Rhea mean t o
you?
Rhea i s t hat l i t t l e l amb t hat
Jesus ho l ds cl o se t o hi s bo so m i n
ever y depi ct i o n o f t he ubi qui t o us
G o o d Shepher d r ender i ng.
D espi t e t he numer o us o t her
sheep t hat fo l l o w H i m by fo o t ,
t hi s o ne smal l , i nno cent -
l o o k i ng l amb w i l l
al w ays be cl o se t o hi s
Bonds of Luv
M y
M y
l odest ar
Bonds of Love
chest . T hat i mage al w ays
gi ves me t he succo ur and
rmly plants tbe purpose
and meani ng o f Rhea t o
me. Besi des, Rhea i s my
l i fe. W hen I say t hat , I am
unabashedl y genui ne. She
i s behi nd ever yt hi ng t hat
i s me. Peo pl e, w ho k no w
me per so nal l y, o n so ci al -
medi a, pr o fessi o nal l y
o ft en quest i o n w her e I
must er so much o f ener gy
and passi o n. T he answ er
i s si mpl e: Rhea. W hi l e
many l i ve fo r mi l l i o ns
o f o t her r easo ns, I l i ve
fo r o nl y o ne r easo n: my
daught er Rhea. She i s
my l o dest ar, so ul - fo r ce,
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daugh t er
hear t t hr o b o f i nno cence, l o ve and abso l ut e r esi l i ence. In
anyt hi ng and ever yt hi ng t hat I do , t hi nk , o r say, Rhea o ccupi es
my i magi nat i o n. In a t i me and age, w her e w e have fo r go t t en t o
be w hat i t i s t o be l i ke a chi l d, she co nst ant l y r emi nds me o f
w hat I l i ke t he mo st i n mysel f: o f j ust bei ng a chi l d w i t h l o ve,
i nno cence, and ever r efr eshi ng i nqui si t i veness. In a t i me and
age, w her e w e have fo r go t t en t o be w hat i t i s t o be l i ke a chi l d,
she co nst ant l y r emi nds me o f w hat I l i ke t he mo st i n mysel f:
my
daugh t er
my lodest ar
o f j ust bei ng a chi l d w i t h l o ve, i nno cence,
and ever r efr eshi ng i nqui si t i veness. T hat , I
t hi nk , i s w hat makes me endear i ng t o no t
o nl y Rhea, but , al l my fr i ends chi l dr en,
ni eces and nephew s. It al w ays l o o k s l i ke a
cr che, w hen I am ami dst chi l dr en
If t here is just one t hing you wish
for Rhea t o know, in your role as her
fat her, what would it be?
K no w t hat yo ur Fat her l o ves yo u
unco ndi t i o nal l y w hat ever, w henever and
w her ever yo u need hi m, because he w i l l
al w ays be co nst ant l y dr eami ng, t hi nk i ng,
and pr ayi ng fo r yo u t o cheer, ho l d, and l i ft
yo u up. D espi t e t he heavy o dds agai nst
hi m, w i t h no l aw yer s w i t hi n hi s fami l y o r
fr i ends ci r cl e, mo ney and cl o ut , he st i l l
never gave up hi s pur sui t because he
t o o k hi s Fat her ho o d ver y ser i o usl y and
atrmeo to tbe wbole worlo tbat bls llttle
daught er Rhea al w ays mat t er ed mo r e t han
anyt hi ng t o hi m. A l t ho ugh, many o ffer ed
st al e advi ces t o j ust l o o k t he o t her w ay
and make l i fe easy fo r hi msel f w i t h fr o l i c
and mer r i ment , he st o o d gr o und fo r hi s
daught er Rhea. So , t he o ne t hi ng I w ant
Rbea to know ln llte ls to be terra rma on
pr i nci pl es, by si mpl y bei ng fai t hful t o t he
cal l i ng, w hat ever t hat may be i n l i fe.
Do you t hink fat her hood in t he
present gener at ion is t ougher t han
fat her hood in t he ear lier gener at ion?
A bso l ut el y, Yes! W hi l e di ffer ent gener at i o ns
ar e fr aught w i t h uni que chal l enges, no ne
st and apar t as i n t he pr esent gener at i o n
Fi r st , l et me t ur n t o t he po si t i ve si de.
To days Fat her s ar e gr eat er st akeho l der s
i n t hei r chi l dr ens l i ves t han ear l i er
gener at i o ns, w her e Fat her s pr i mar i l y
loentleo tbemselves as wage-earners.
To day, Fat her s change t hei r chi l ds di aper s,
feed t hem, cl o t he t hem, bat he t hem,
w al k t hem and t ake par t i n al mo st ever y
o t her cho r e t r adi t i o nal l y pr o vi ded by
t he M o t her s. Fo r ex ampl e, I w as t her e
i n t he A t l ant a H o spi t al , assi st i ng a Team
o f D o ct o r s and N ur ses, w hen Rhea w as
affect i o n i n t he o pen, t her eby cr eat i ng an
i mpr essi o n as t ho ugh Fat her s ar e fr o st y
and co l d, w hi ch cer t ai nl y need no t be
t he case i n many i nvo l ved Fat her s cases.
Even many l egal syst ems have a t endency
t o o bj ect i fy Fat her s as di spensabl e
co mmo di t i es. I am al so a Vo l unt eer C o ur t -
Otcer, sworn-ln by a [uvenlle [uoge at
t he Juveni l e C o ur t Syst em i n G eo r gi a. A s
a Judi ci al C i t i zen Panel M ember, I get t o
see t he devast at i ng effect s o f Fat her l ess
chi l dr en, w ho end up w i t h ser i o us
pr o bl ems, i ncl udi ng dr ug addi ct i o ns,
j uveni l e del i nquenci es and o t her maj o r
pr o bl ems. W e get t o see r epeat ed
psycho l o gi cal eval uat i o ns by ex per t s t hat
under sco r e t he po i nt o f t he pr o bl emat i c
chi l d no t havi ng had a po si t i ve, mal e r o l e-
mo del i n i t s l i fe. T he pr o o f i s cl ear l y o ut
t her e and w e w i l l be i gno r i ng i t t o o ur
o w n per i l . T he so ci al ex per i ment at i o n
o f l i ber al mo r es i s ver y new i n Indi a and
r emi nds o ne o f t he sex ual r evo l ut i o ns
o f t he 1960s i n U SA . N at ur al l y, w e have
mo r e st udi es and co r pus o f mat er i al s t o
under st and t he uni nt ended co nsequences
o f such so ci al ex per i ment at i o n, w hi ch w e
do no t cur r ent l y have i n Indi a. So me o f
t he chi l dr en, ber eft o f t hei r Fat her s dur i ng
t hei r chi l dho o d have st ar t ed t o speak o ut
as adul t s. Fat her s ar e no t t o be used and
t o ssed fo r ex per i ment at i o n, al t ho ugh, i t
happens i n br o ad dayl i ght o ft en t o t he
per i l o f chi l dr en s fut ur e. Ever y chi l d
deser ves bo t h a Fat her and a M o t her. T hi s
crass objectlcatlon ot Fatberbooo ls tbe
si ngul ar t hr eat I w o ul d i dent i fy as o ne o f
t he cur r ent gener at i o n.
A fat her is usually seen as a
disciplinar ian, t he breadwinner who
get s t o spend lit t le t ime wit h his
children, t he law enforcer and t he
Financial Minist er of t he Household.
Do you agree?Why?
I do no t agr ee w i t h t hat st er eo t ype
at al l . A nd l et me quo t e fr o m my o w n
ex per i ence. In 2008, w hen Rhea w as
har dl y 7 mo nt hs o l d, her M o t her badl y
w ant ed al l o f us t o mo ve fr o m A t l ant a t o
a co l d, upper, mi d- w est C i t y o f Pi t t sbur gh.
It w as no t a go o d mo ve fo r me, per so nal l y,
gi ven t he fact I had al w ays w o r ked fo r my
empl o yer si nce my gr aduat i o n i n 1999
i n A t l ant a. Yet , I w ant ed t o suppo r t her
car eer mo ve and w as co ncer ned abo ut
my yo ung chi l d o f 7 mo nt hs. I w as abl e
t o w o r k w i t h my M anager, w ho w as k i nd
eno ugh t o al l o w me t o w o r k fr o m ho me
ln Plttsburgb, reportlng to my otce ln
Atlanta, altbougb we also bao an otce ln
Pi t t sbur gh. D ur i ng t ho se 7 mo nt hs, I w as
pr act i cal l y a st ayat - ho me- D ad , t ak i ng
car e o f Rhea w hen she w asnt at t he
D ay- car e and w as abl e t o w o r k r emo t el y,
because my w i fe t hen w as t o o busy as a
Vi ce- Pr esi dent fo r Invest ment s i nt o Indi a
fo r a maj o r A mer i can C o mmer ci al Real -
Est at e C o mpany. I al so per so nal l y k no w
o f Fat her s, w ho had t empo r ar i l y gi ven-
up t hei r j o bs fo r t hei r chi l dr en, t o st ay at
ho me t o t ake car e o f t hei r chi l dr en, due
t o ex t r ao r di nar y ci r cumst ances. So , no ,
I do no t agr ee w i t h t hi s t r adi t i o nal vi ew
bo r n; w as t her e w hen she w as t aken fo r
ever y D o ct o r s vi si t i ncl udi ng t he o nl y
Emer gency Ro o m Vi si t she had; day- car e;
sl eepo ver s; di aper - changes and yo u name
i t .
N o w o nt o t he negat i ve si de: To day,
Fat her ho o d i s under co nst ant at t ack fr o m
di ffer ent di r ect i o ns. T ho se w i t h ex t r eme
i deo l o gi es have st ar t ed t o per meat e an
i mpr essi o n as t ho ugh Fat her s ar e vest i ges
and hence ar e di spensabl e. C o mpo undi ng
t he pr o bl em i s al so t hat many Fat her s may
see i t as a t abo o t o di spl ay t hei r genui ne
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o f fr o st y- fat her s, w hi ch has changed fo r
t he bet t er i n t he mo der n t i mes. U nl i ke
adul t s, chi l dr en do no t subscr i be t o any
i deo l o gi es o r par t i san br i nk manshi p. Li ke a
bee t hat go es aft er ho ney, t hey k no w ho w
t o go aft er l o ve t hat i s genui ne w i t ho ut
any Bar bi e- do l l capar i so ns.
What are your dreams for Rhea?
M y dr eam fo r Rhea i s ver y si mpl e: Be go o d
t o yo ur sel f and o t her s. T he si mpl e dr eam I
have fo r her i s t o be abl e t o r i se- up o n her
o w n, sho ul d she ever fal l , and t hen w al k
w i t h head hel d hi gh. If t hi s al o ne she can
do o n her o w n, w het her she do es i t as a
Sci ent i st , Engi neer, o r an A st r o no mer,
t he capaci t y i n w hi ch she do es i t i s j ust
i ci ng o n t he cake. Tr ust me, t o day, many
can beco me Sci ent i st s and Engi neer s
easi l y, but , ver y few can dust t hemsel ves
up i n l i ght o f adver si t y and w al k w i t h t hei r
heads hel d hi gh. N o w o nder, w e ar e seei ng
a sui ci de pandemi c ar o und us.
How has your own upbr inging shaped
up your relat ionship wit h Rhea?
I w i l l say, my upbr i ngi ng i s t he si ngul ar
r easo n behi nd my r el at i o nshi p w i t h
Rhea. I must t hank my par ent s and my
gr andpar ent s and t eacher s fo r w ho I am.
I w as bo r n i nt o a po o r fami l y and so I di d
no t have t he l ux ur y o f G o dfat her s and
pat r o ni ser s t o pl ace me i n po si t i o ns o f
po w er and cl o ut . Be i t r espect o r accl ai m,
I had t o ear n i t and had t o ear n i t t he
r i ght w ay. I never had a l o t and so had a
l o t t o be gr at eful fo r t he l i t t l e t hi ngs I had.
M y par ent s had bi g hear t s and t hr o ugh
t hem I l ear ned t he ar t o f bei ng si mpl e and
t enaci o us. Lat er i n l i fe, i t hel ped me w i t her
ever y adver si t y, even i n l i ght o f per si st ent
t hr eat s and bul l yi ng by a fami l y t hat had
al l t he l egal po w er and cl o ut t hat o r di nar y
peo pl e l i ke me can never buy o r po ssess.
M y Fai t h al w ays t aught me t hat o ne can
o nl y po ssess ei t her Lo ve o r Fear and
no t bo t h. I cho se l o ve al w ays and t hat
l o ve i l l umi nes my pat h t o w ar ds Rhea
al l t he t i me. M y Tami l t eacher al w ays used
t o ment o r me and say t hat anybo dy w ho
possesses moral-tear ls selt-sutclent
and r i chest i n ever y sense, because he w i l l
never l and hi msel f i nt o any pr o bl em o f
hi s o w n mak i ng and w i l l al w ays o w n t he
mo r al - co mpass . I r eco l l ect t hat w i sdo m
al l t he t i me, w hen I see fr agi l e char act er s,
w ho due t o t hei r ver y po o r upbr i ngi ng can
r i sk ever yt hi ng t o abduct chi l dr en and l ead
fugi t i ve l i fest yl es by per pet r at i ng cr i mi nal
o ffenses i n o ne co unt r y and t ak i ng r efuge i n
ano t her co unt r y. If o nl y t hey had a heal t hy
upbr i ngi ng and val ues- syst em I had, t hey
w o ul d have po ssessed hi st o r y ; i nst ead
al l t hey po ssess i s cr i mi nal hi st o r y .
It i s al so fr o m my M o m t hat I l ear ned t hat
a buman-beart bas an lnnlte coetclent
o f ex pansi o n t o Lo ve . It i s fr o m my D ad
t hat I l ear ned t hat yo u co ur ageo usl y st and-
up and t ake t he bul l by i t s ho r ns. A heal t hy
upbr i ngi ng i s abso l ut el y qui nt essent i al t o
have bet t er adul t s o f t o mo r r o w.
8. Take us t hrough one of your most
memor able moment s wit h Rhea.
Last M ay 2011, I met Rhea i n C hennai aft er
10 mo nt hs o f her abduct i o n o ut o f t he
U SA , t hank s t o t he i nt er i m o r der s passed
by t he M adr as H i gh C o ur t . O n t he day, I
w as t o r et ur n t o A t l ant a, Rhea under st o o d
I w as l eavi ng. Befo r e I co ul d co nso l e her,
she r eached o ut t o a fr o ck t hat used t o
be her and my favo ur i t e, fo l ded i t and she
handed i t o ver t o me sayi ng, Ap p a, w hen
you leave t onight by Luf t hansa, have t his dr ess
on your chest , close your eyes and t hen t hink
of Rhea. You w ill see Rhea seat ed nex t t o
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dumbfo unded. A dul t s have a t endency t o
t r i vi al i ze a chi l ds ut t er ances. Just l o o k
at t he pej o r at i ve r efer ences w e have:
baby t al k bl abber , chi l d- speak et c.
H er e i s Rhea, w ho w as 4 year s o l d t hen,
t r yi ng t o co nso l e me t o pal l i at e t he pai n
o f separ at i o n, befo r e I, her Fat her, co ul d
do t hat t o her. I w i sh, t he W o r l d, sheds i t s
tltles, esqulres, egos, otces ano tbe wbole
shebang and j ust st ar t s t o vi ew mat t er s o f
a chi l d as t hat o f a chi l d and no t hi ng mo r e.
Fo r, t her e i s an i nner - chi l d w i t hi n each o f
us, as w e al l w er e o nce a chi l d. Isnt i t ?
U nt i l t hen, many memo r abl e mo ment s
I had w i t h Rhea, may l o o k ver y di st ant ,
syr upy, and schmal t zy t o t ho se w ho may
have di st anced t hemsel ves fr o m t hei r
i nno cent , i nner - chi l d w i t hi n t hemsel ves.
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ender equal i t y i s t ak i ng o n a new meani ng w i t h fat her s t ak i ng an act i ve
i nt er est i n br i ngi ng up and mo ul di ng t hei r chi l dr en. A decade ago , i t w as t he
mo m w ho sped ar o und co o k i ng cl eani ng, pr epar i ng t he k i ds and get t i ng
t hem r eady fo r scho o l , w hi l e t he dads t o o k a l ei sur el y vi ew o f t hi ngs
and hi d behi nd t he i nevi t abl e new spaper s. But w i t h car eer o r i ent at i o n o f
w o men t hese days, t hey ar e no l o nger w i l l i ng t o co mpr o mi se o n t hei r dr eams, aspi r at i o ns
and achi evement s. H ence, t her e ar e w el co me w i nds o f change bl o w i ng and fat her s nur se
a t o t al l y and r efr eshi ngl y di ffer ent t ake o n par ent ho o d.
Fat her s ar e i ncr easi ngl y i nvo l ved i n br i ngi ng up t hei r k i ds. M o der n men ar e mo r e
appr eci at ed by t hei r spo uses and ar e l o o ked upo n as sensi t i ve, car i ng i ndi vi dual s and
mo st i mpo r t ant l y, as do t i ng fat her s. T he dads have beco me i ncr easi ngl y aw ar e t hat t her e
ls more to brlnglng up a cbllo tban just looklng atter lts nanclal neeos. Tbey unoerstano
t hat br i ngi ng up chi l dr en i s a 24/ 7 j o b and bo t h par ent s sho ul d co nt r i but e i n equal
measur e so t hat t hei r chi l ds happi ness i s no t co mpr o mi sed i n any w ay. M o r e dads no w
co me fo r w ar d t o hel p t hei r spo uses w i t h t he k i ds, no t as a favo r, but t o t al l y o ut o f l o ve
and affect i o n fo r t he chi l d. W el co me change i ndeed!
The y o ung e r g e ne r a t io n
d a d s wa nt t o b e m o r e
c o nne c t e d t o t he ir d a ug ht e r s
t o o . The y a r e ke e n a nd e a g e r
t o se e t he ir d a ug ht e r s p ur suing
t he ir d r e a m s a nd g e t t ing
we ll se t t le d in t he ir c ho se n
c a r e e r s.
Bonds of Love
Yes, t he new car i ng dad has emer ged. H e happens t o be mo r e
pr o gr essi ve i n hi s t hi nk i ng and car es no t fo r t he est abl i shed
no r ms i n so ci et y. A s w o men r ub sho ul der s w i t h t hei r men and
mat ch t hem st r i de fo r st r i de i n ever y w al k o f l i fe, men t o o have
tbelr traoltlonal roles mooleo. Daos no longer vlew tlme spent
w i t h t hei r o ff spr i ng as a cho r e . In fact , t hey ar e w el l aw ar e t hat
t he qual i t y t i me t hey spend w i t h t hei r k i ds hel ps t o st r engt hen
t he par ent chi l d bo nds.
T he yo unger gener at i o n dads w ant t o be mo r e co nnect ed
t o t hei r daught er s t o o . T hey ar e keen and eager t o see t hei r
daught er s pur sui ng t hei r dr eams and get t i ng w el l set t l ed i n t hei r
cho sen car eer s. G o ne ar e t he days w hen dads j ust w ant ed t o
get t hei r daught er s mar r i ed o ff ear l y, i n o r der t o be sho r n o f al l
r espo nsi bi l i t y.
D ad so n bo ndi ng go es a l o ng w ay i n hel pi ng t o mo ul d t he k i d
i n po si t i ve w ays. M r. Jo so n M anaval an, an advo cat e by pr o fessi o n
at Ko chi , t akes t i me o ff w o r k and spends qual i t y t i me w i t h hi s
so n N aveen Jo so n- pl ays w i t h hi m, w at ches cl assi c mo vi e, hel ps
hi m t o sel ect go o d bo o k s t o r ead and l o t s mo r e besi des- as a
r esul t , N aveen t o ps t he cl ass i n st udi es and al so ex cel s i n al l
ex t r acur r i cul ar act i vi t i es at scho o l . Jo so n t akes i mmense pai ns
t o mo ul d hi s so n t o be a gr eat achi ever as w el l as a go o d human
bei ng.
C o mi ng back t o gi r l s, psycho l o gi st A net a M i r i am o pi nes t hus
o n fat her daught er bo ndi ng- G i r l s w ho feel co nnect ed
and r espect ed by t hei r fat her s w i l l l o o k fo r t he same heal t hy
r el at i o nshi ps w i t h t hei r bo yfr i ends. T he nur t ur i ng i nst i nct
i n men i s mani fest ed mo st o bvi o usl y i n t hei r feel i ngs fo r t hei r
chi l dr en. In fact , mo st so ns and daught er s o pi ne t hat fat her s t o o
make fo r ex cel l ent par ent s.
M en have al w ays fel t t he need t o feel emo t i o nal , sensi t i ve and be
act i vel y i nvo l ved i n par ent i ng. But so ci et al pr essur es pushed t hem
i nt o st er eo t ype r o l es o f j ust deci si o n maker s and br ead w i nner s
i n t he fami l y. O nl y o f l at e has he must er ed up t he co ur age t o
br eak aw ay fr o m t he myt h and be a sensi t i ve and car i ng fat her
t o hi s chi l dr en, o pi nes M r. Bal achandr an, a busi ness man based
at C o i mbat o r e. H e co nt i nues, M y dad has been my r o l e mo del .
H e t aught us t he i mpo r t ance o f bei ng fr i ends w i t h o ur chi l dr en.
Ri ght t hr o ugh, he has been a go o d fr i end t o al l o f us. H e t aught
us t o appr eci at e go o d l i t er at ur e, ar t and ar chi t ect ur e. In fact , I
even l ear nt a l o t o f cul i nar y sk i l l s fr o m hi m. W hen my mo m used
t o have bo ut s o f ast hma, i t w as my dad w ho vent ur ed i nt o t he
k i t chen and co o ked up del ect abl e di shes fo r us, he r emi ni sces
fo ndl y.
Bal achandr an has a daught er D hanya, w ho m he do t es upo n.
W hen she w ant ed t o go i n fo r pr o duct i o n engi neer i ng, he st o o d
by her deci si o n and sear ched hi gh and l o w fo r a go o d co l l ege and
go t her admi t t ed t o t he di sci pl i ne o f her cho i ce.
M y dad used t o quo t e K hal i l G i br an, O ur chi l dr en ar e no t o ur
chi l dr en but l i fes l o ngi ng fo r i t sel f .. t ho se ver ses have st ayed
i n o ur mi nds and I have gi ven ampl e fr eedo m t o my daught er,
smi l es Bal achandr an.
Par ent i ng t hese days i s no t a gender r o l e, but an i ndi vi dual
deci si o n. Bo t h mo ms and dads can be sensi t i ve car e gi ver s and
l o vi ng par ent s. D ads ar e ver y much i nvo l ved i n t he pr o cess o f a
chi l ds gr o w i ng up- r i ght fr o m pl ayi ng w i t h bui l di ng bl o ck s, do i ng
j i gsaw s, r eadi ng bed t i me st o r i es and gi vi ng t hem ampl e gui dance
i n cho o si ng car eer s w hen t he t i me co mes .fat her s ar e i n t he
pr o cess o f di sco ver i ng new j o ys w i t h each new day . T he fat her
enj o ys t he unfo l di ng o f t he w o nder o f l i fe t hr o ugh hi s chi l ds
eyes .
Val sal a M enon
Da d s no lo ng e r vie w
t im e sp e nt wit h t he ir o f f
sp r ing a s a c ho r e . In f a c t ,
t he y a r e we ll a wa r e t ha t t he
q ua lit y t im e t he y sp e nd wit h
t he ir kid s he lp s t o st r e ng t he n
t he p a r e nt c hild b o nd s.
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Bonds of Love
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t s qui t e i r o ni cal t hat w e have co me a l o ng w ay fr o m Fr euds t i me,
w her e r el at i o nshi ps co ul d be so r t ed, l ed and put i nt o cut e l i t t l e
j ar s l abel ed w hat s pr o ved r i ght and w hat s no t . D el vi ng i nt o
t hi s st udy l i t er al l y fr o m t he gr ass r o o t s l evel , w e begi n, as char i t y
demands, fr o m ho me. Rel at i o nshi ps bet w een mo m and daught er,
fat her and so n have changed by l eaps and bo unds fr o m w hat t hey used
t o be back t hen. Fr eud co ul d do w el l t o w r i t e a sequel t o hi s age o l d
t heo r i es because, t o day, r el at i o nshi ps have co me t o a po i nt w her e t hey
ar e no l o nger co nt r o l l ed o r mast er ed by no r ms.
Be i t t he gener at i o n gap o r t he makeo ver o f t he new age par ent s, t he
r appo r t and ease shar ed by t he member s o f a t ypi cal Indi an nucl ear
fami l y i s sur e t o sho ck o ur fo r efat her s and make t hem t ur n i n t hei r
gr aves. G o ne ar e t he r o pes ho l di ng back t he so n fr o m di scussi ng
hi s myr i ad r el at i o nshi p i ssues w i t h hi s fat her, o r t he
daught er s ease i n i nvi t i ng her mo m o n a do ubl e
oate! Yet, lt we were to Nlp tbe coln over
t o t he nar r o w er ci t i es i n t he co unt r y,
we no tbe oaugbter toelng tbe so-
c a l l e d - co nsi der ed w ashed- i n- mi l k - l i ne
, and bo y ex i t i ng t he r o o m shut t i ng
hi msel f o ut fr o m hi s fami l y.
W her e and ho w do w e st r i ke a bal ance
bet w een t hese ex t r emes, and w her e
ex act l y i s o ur co unt r y headed
t o w i t h r egar d t o r el at i o nshi ps at
ho me? A l i t t l e chat w i t h a few mo ms and
daught er s al i ke i s sur e t o t hr o w so me l i ght
o n w her e w e st and.Vanaj a, a yo ung - at - hear t
mo m o f a spr i ght l y, t al ent ed gi r l i n her ear l y
t w ent i es, r emi ni sces abo ut her chi l dho o d, I
belleve rmly tbat a motber ls a daught er s best
buddy. I r emember I never shar ed a go o d r appo r t
w i t h my mo m. A n el der si st er s l o ve mar r i age
made her suspi ci o us o f o ur ever y mo ve and she
fo r ced us t o abi de by her r ul es and r egul at i o ns t o
t he T. I co ul d never o pen up t o her o r shar e w i t h
my mo m my chi l dho o d gi r l y dr eams, cr ushes o r
appr ehensi o ns. But t hat s no t t he case w i t h my gi r l
and me. W e ar e t he best o f fr i ends and w e have
no secr et s. M y daught er k no w s t hat w hat ever
t he si t uat i o n mi ght be, w hat ever t r o ubl es her,
she can al w ays co unt o n me. T i mes have changed.
Yo u l o se o ut w hen yo u deci de t o al i enat e yo ur
o w n chi l dr en, smi l es Vanaj a. Sar i k a Jeevan,
a yo ung IT pr o fessi o nal fr o m Bangal o r e had
t h i s t o say abo ut t he mo m - daught er
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she w as w ast i ng aw ay her t i me and ener gy by j ust bei ng a ho me
maker. She o pt ed o ut o f a go o d car eer as an advo cat e t o l o o k
aft er us. In fact , I w as sl o w l y l o si ng al l r egar d fo r her, but al l t hi s
changed o nce I go t mar r i ed. O nl y t hen di d I r eal i ze t hat l o o k i ng
aft er a fami l y and managi ng a car eer i s a her cul ean t ask ; i t needs
al l t he capabi l i t i es, dedi cat i o n and co mmi t ment t o keep t hi ngs
go i ng smo o t hl y. A t w o r k , w e have o ur per k s and o t her fr i nge
benets, but a mom's job bas no perks or rewaros but yet, lt ls tbe
mo st r ew ar di ng and
sat i sfyi ng endeavo r
i n t he w o r l d .
N aga, a yo ung gi r l
o f si x t een fr o m
Raj ahmundr y l o st
her mo m at a ver y
young age to a re
acci dent . I l o st
my mo m w hen I
w as ver y yo ung. It
w as an acci dent ..
A s l o ng as she w as
al i ve, I t o o k her so
much fo r gr ant ed,
fo r w hi ch I k no w I
w o ul d r egr et al w ays.
I feel sad t hat I di d
no t bo nd bet t er
w i t h her w hen she
w as al i ve. Recent l y, I made a cup o f t ea fo r mysel f and by mi st ake,
so me o f i t spi l l ed o n t o my k nee. It w as so pai nful and hur t a l o t .
I w ant ed my mo m so much t hen... i f she had been t her e, I w o ul d
no t have go t hur t . I have t w o do t i ng br o t her s and a k i nd car i ng
dad, but t he vo i d t hat my mo m s absence has l eft behi nd can
never be br i dged, so bbed t he l i t t l e gi r l .
N i vedi t ha, a bubbl y, vi vaci o us medi a st udent fr o m Symbi o si s
w ax es el o quent abo ut her mo m, M y mo mma i s easi l y my
best buddy. She used t o never keep t abs o n me o r r est r ai n me
unnecessar i l y. She had t he ut mo st t r ust i n me and she k new
t hat i t w o ul d never ever be mi spl aced. In fact , she used t o ur ge
me o n t o fo l l o w my dr eams. I can di scuss anyt hi ng under t he sun
w i t h her, be i t my st udi es, w o r k , fr i ends, r el at i o nshi p i ssues and
w hat no t . Even i f I go t di sco ur aged at t i mes, she w as t he o ne w ho
gave me t he r equi r ed bo o st t o keep go i ng. Ri ght fr o m go i ng t o
mo vi es t o get her, hangi ng o ut w i t h each o t her at Landmar k , and
al l o ur favo r i t e pl aces, sho ppi ng, eat i ng o ut , mo m and I w er e t r ul y
best buddi es. I k no w i t br o ke her hear t t o l et me go aw ay t o
pursue my stuoles at Symblosls Pune. 8ut even wblle tears Noweo
co pi o usl y she enco ur aged me t o r each fo r t he sk i es. Lo ve yo u
M o m. N i vedi t ha s eyes sho ne br i ght l y w i t h unshed t ear s.
Suj at ha V. M eno n has t w o beaut i ful daught er s- Pr i yank a and Vi dya.
She had made her daught er s t he fo cal po i nt o f her l i fe and o nce
bo t h o f t hem w er e mar r i ed o ff, she w as l i t er al l y i n t ear s. A s mo st
mo ms do , she t o o had cent er ed her l i fe so l el y o n her k i ds and
o nce t hey par t ed w ays, i n pur sui t o f t hei r l i fe and car eer, she w as
fo r ced t o face a huge chasm i n her l i fe. Li st l ess, depr essed, and
w i t h days st r et chi ng endl essl y befo r e her, she has no cl ue as t o
ho w t o make her days pur po seful and useful . She r el i es heavi l y o n
her best buddy Vandana t o keep her co mpany.
Vandana has a di ffer ent t ake o n t hi s i ssue al t o get her. W i t h her k i ds
t o o aw ay pur sui ng t hei r hi gher
st udi es, she hugs Suj at ha fo ndl y
and assur es her t hat l i fe i s st i l l
yet t o be l i ved and savo r ed.
T i mes may change but yet , t he
bo ndi ng bet w een t he mo t her
and daught er r emai ns st r o ng
and bi ndi ng. D aught er s w o ul d
al w ays r emai n a mo t her s best
buddi es but w e as mo ms need
to no meanlng ano purpose ln
o ur l i ves as w el l .
T he unco ndi t i o nal l o ve o f a mo m and her st r engt h l i es i n l et t i ng
go ; l et t i ng go o f her chi l dr en w i t h t r ust and fai t h and feel i ng happy
fo r t hem. W e have do ne o ur best fo r o ur chi l dr en and no w i s
t he per fect t i me t o cat ch up o n o ur dr eams and aspi r at i o ns. O ur
daught er s t o o w o ul d be pr o ud o f us o ne day, and t hey w o ul d l o ve
t o t hi nk o f us w i t h pr i de r at her t han as cl i ngy par ent s, Vandana
co ncl uded w i t h a t w i nk l e i n her eye.
In each o f us, t her e r esi de vest i ges o f a daught er and t hat o f a
mo m. M o st i mpo r t ant l y, w e r eal i ze t hat w e t o o ar e i ndi vi dual s
w i t h go al s, dr eams and aspi r at i o ns and need t o l o ve o ur sel ves
unco ndi t i o nal l y. Just l i ke ho w w e l o ve o ur daught er s- t i mel ess,
unco ndi t i o nal i n o ur l o ve.
Val sal a M enon
18
Bonds of Love Kir t hi Git a Jayak um ar
M
o t her s D ay T he day
t hat t o me, meant mak i ng
handmade car ds, qui et l y
sl i ppi ng o ut t o buy
pr esent s, and t r yi ng t o
make t he day a l ess bur denso me o ccasi o n
fo r my har dw o r k i ng mo t her. But t hi s t i me,
al o ng w i t h t hat , M o t her s D ay w as a day
o f r eal i zat i o n fo r me - a day o f r eal i zat i o n
o f t he pl i ght o f sever al mo t her s i n t hi s
co unt r y. M o t her s ar e beat en, bl amed,
chast i sed, hat ed, abho r r ed, t o r t ur ed,
k i l l ed- so met i mes, br ut al l y si l enced
and even separ at ed fr o m t hei r chi l dr en
because t hey gave bi r t h t o gi r l chi l dr en.
T he mal ai se o f femal e fo et i ci de t he bane
o f Indi as ex i st ence.
T her e w as a t i me w hen I w as an i deal i st .
I used t o bel i eve t hat t he w o r l d w as
capabl e o f change. A nd t hat I co ul d be an
i nst r ument o f i t , hel pi ng change happen.
M aybe I can I do nt k no w, but ho w
t angi bl e a di ffer ence I can make i s a ver y,
ver y bi g quest i o n t hat o nl y t i me co ul d
answ er. But t hat i deal i st i n me i s l o ng dead.
W hat w o r l d i s t hi s t hat w e l i ve i n, w hen al l
yo u do t o hel p peo pl e, as a fr i end o f mi ne
r i ght l y sai d, ar e j ust put t i ng bandages o ver
w o unds i nst ead o f act ual l y t ack l i ng t he
cause o f t he w o unds t hemsel ves?
Act ionable
Save
Girl
Child
(let me play with my toys)
A sho w o n St ar W o r l d t o day r eal l y
sho cked me o ut o f my w i t s. Sat yameva
Jayat e, i t w as cal l ed, t he buzz w o r d o f
Indi as nat i o nal mo t t o i f yo u w i l l , w hi ch
st ands t o mean t hat t he O nl y t he t r ut h
w i l l w i n .
T he pi l o t epi so de sho w ed t he st o r i es o f
w o men w ho ve suffer ed at t he hands o f
fami l i es t hat di d no t w ant daught er s, and
fo r ced t hem t hr o ugh ser i es o f abo r t i o ns.
O ne w as fo r ced i nt o si x abo r t i o ns i n
ei ght year s, no t even havi ng k no w n she
w as t aken fo r t he pur po se o f an abo r t i o n
each t i me, si nce she w as ho o dw i nked i nt o
bel i evi ng i t w as a gener al check - up. D o nt
j udge her fo r no t eval uat i ng each si t uat i o n
based o n t he pr evi o us o ne ho pe and
fai t h i n humani t y made her vul ner abl e. T he
sevent h t i me, she r an aw ay t o her par ent s
ho use and had her daught er. A no t her l ady
w as bi t t en mo st savagel y by her husband.
Yes, Bi t t en! A nd t he st at e o f her face
i mmedi at el y aft er i s no t so met hi ng w o r ds
co ul d descr i be. T he savage, br ut i sh co w ar d
o f her husband di d i t t o her because she
o nl y gave bi r t h t o t w o daught er s and
never had a so n. T hi s - aft er he fo r ced
her t o abo r t t w o gi r l s and beat her w i t h a
ho ckey st i ck w hen she w as pr egnant w i t h
her seco nd sur vi vi ng daught er. A t hi r d w as
Can t he w or ld
go on w it hout
t he st o r y o f a D o ct o r w ho had t w i n gi r l s
her husbands fami l y had t he gal l t o t hr o w
o ne o f t he t w i ns o ff t he seco nd st o r ey i n
t he ho pe o f k i l l i ng t he gi r l because she
w as a gi r l . Luck i l y, t he chi l d w as st r apped
and w r apped so t hi ck l y t hat she sur vi ved
t he fal l .
W hat k i nd o f a w o r l d ar e w e l i vi ng i n,
r eal l y? H o w much mo r e sho ul d i t be
w r i t t en, sho ut ed and pai nt ed o n t he w al l
t hat a gi r l - chi l d i s no t a cur se? H o w much
l o nger befo r e t hese w ar ped mi ndset s
w o ul d r eal i ze t hat i t i s t he Fat her t hat
det er mi nes t he sex o f t he chi l d w i t h t he
X Y chr o mo so mes? H o w much l o nger
befo r e t he w o r l d o pens i t s eyes t o hear
t he si l ent scr eams o f t he unbo r n gi r l , and
put a st o p t o i t ?
|t ls a cartel, a ltby, morblo assoclatlon
o f do ct o r s, mi d- w i ves, fami l i es, po l i ce
otcers ano law entorcement agencles
tbat allow tbe practlce to Nourlsb. How
do es o ne change t hi s ment al i t y? W her e
do es o ne begi n? I m no t denyi ng t he fact
t hat t her e i s an equal and po ssi bl y w o r se
degr ee o f i mpuni t y gl o bal l y. I m no t even
asser t i ng t he fact t hat Indi a i s t he o nl y
pl ace t hat needs at t ent i o n but i s cer t ai nl y
o ne o f t he pl aces t hat do es. Indi a w as t he
co unt r y w her e t he br ut al gang- r ape o f a
so ci al w o r ker w ho t r i ed t o st o p a chi l d
mar r i age fr o m happeni ng, t o o k pl ace. Indi a
w as, i s, and sadl y, w i l l r emai n fo r a w hi l e,
t he co unt r y w her e gi r l s ar e k i l l ed because
t hey ar e gi r l s. A nd i t i s no t a cul t ur e o f
si l ence, at al l , but a cul t ur e o f i nact i o n t hat
pr o ves t o be a ho t bed fo r br eedi ng o f t hi s
cul t ur e o f i mpuni t y. Ever yo ne k no w s i t s
happeni ng. Ever yo ne k no w s w her e i t i s
happeni ng. But no o ne do es a t hi ng. I do nt
k no w i f bl ami ng peo pl e i s t he r i ght t hi ng
- wbat can you oo lt tbe pollce otcer
yo u co mpl ai n t o shr ugs and l aughs at yo u,
and sends yo u pack i ng? W hat can yo u do
i f t he do ct o r s and mi dw i ves t hemsel ves
ar e t el l i ng peo pl e t hat t hey l l w i pe an
embr yo o ut w i t ho ut even co nsi der i ng t he
H i ppo cr at i c ( o r sho ul d i t be H ypo cr i t i cal ?)
O at h t hey t ake?
Fo et i ci de i s M ur der. A nd w hy no t ? T he
fo et us i s as much a co r pus as a ful l gr o w n
per so n i s. If an unbo r n chi l d has r i ght s
under successi o n l aw, co nt r act ual l aw
and even t o r t i o us l aw, w hy no t cr i mi nal
l aw ? W hen and i f t he j udi ci ar y r eal i zes i t ,
t hey can act ual l y bo o k t hese fami l i es and
do ct o r s under t he o ffence o f M ur der.
T he i ssue o f fo et al and i nfant i l e mur der o n
gender gr o unds di st ur bs and bo t her s me.
But her es w hat bo t her s me mo r e. To day, a
nat i o n w at ched t hat sho w. To day, a nat i o n
hear d t ho se w o men. To day, a nat i o n cr i ed
w i t h t ho se w o men. To day, a nat i o n r eso l ved
t o act . To day, a nat i o n saw t he t r ut h and
hear d t he si l ent cr i es o f t he unbo r n dead.
But t o mo r r o w, w i l l t hey r emai n st eadfast
i n t hei r pr o mi se? A l l t r ut h i s act i o nabl e,
shes t aught me. A nd j ust fo r t hat , I w ant
t o be an i nst r ument o f change.
20
Bonds of Love Gayat r i T Rao
Rs o f a
Mo the rs
Te a c hing s
3
The
a
mo t her, no t j ust r et ai ns
her chi l d i n her w o mb
fo r ni ne mo nt hs, but
al so i s r espo nsi bl e
fo r i t s i ni t i al
educat i o n. T ho ugh t he l o vi ng
fat her i s mo st l y ar o und t o
super vi se i t s gr o w t h, she i s t he
rst one to recognlze speclal
t r ai t s i n her baby. D o es her
chi l d ex hi bi t fr i endl i ness? Is
t he chi l d go o d as sket chi ng
and i s no t j ust scr i bbl i ng
o n t he w al l ? It i s she w ho
rst loentles tbat ber
baby can pai nt i n dr i ppy
w at er co l o ur s no t go i ng
o ff t he bo r der s o f t he
sket ch. But , fo r any t r ai t ,
r eco l l ect i o n and r et ent i o n
po w er need t o be r ei nfo r ced.
H o w ever busy she i s t he mo t her makes i t
a po i nt t o gi ve her chi l d eno ugh t i me.
H er es w hat M umbai mo ms do fo r t hei r
chi l dr en. A mo t her sacrlces a lot tor
her baby. Shi l pa M aheshw ar i w as a ful l -
t i me H R pr o fessi o nal . But si nce she had a
baby, she i s w o r k i ng par t - t i me fr o m ho me.
H er 15 mo nt h o l d G i a has a ver y fr i endl y
nat ur e. She i s happy t o pl ay w i t h ever yo ne.
She i s ver y act i ve and l ear ns fast .
et ent i on
ecol l ect i on
ei nf or cement
R
W hi l e Shaur ya, Shi l pa Pal s 2 year s o l d
so n has a ver y go o d memo r y. She r eveal s,
I i nt r o duced so meo ne t o hi m r ecent l y
and w hen he r et ur ned t o o ur ho me aft er
a few days, Shaur ya r eco gni zed hi m ver y
easi l y. W hen I i nt r o duce t hi ngs t o hi m,
he r emember s t hem l at er. Even i f i t i s a
har d w o r d, he manages t o do i t w el l . T hat
I t hi nk i s a speci al t r ai t .
K avi t ha Rai , w ho l o o k s aft er Tr ai ni ng and
D evel o pment i n t he H R depar t ment o f a
co mpany, i nsi st s t hat yo u need t o spend
t i me w i t h yo ur chi l d t o i dent i fy speci al
t r ai t s i n i t . She says, In t he co ur se o f
pl ayi ng and t al k i ng w i t h hi m, yo u see many
new t hi ngs yo ur chi l d do es, par t i cul ar l y
w hen he l ear ns a new w o r d o r l ear ns t o
i dent i fy a new o bj ect . So w hen yo u spend
tlme wltb your cbllo you can gure out
and l ear n a l o t abo ut yo ur chi l d.
It i s i mpo r t ant t o nur t ur e t hese t r ai t s.
A l so r epet i t i o n i s cr uci al . K avi t ha o pi nes,
If I w ant t o t each hi m t he name o f a new
o bj ect o r w ant hi m t o i dent i fy i t , I w i l l keep
r epeat i ng i t so t hat he get s fami l i ar w i t h i t .
A l o t o f r ei nfo r cement , much r epet i t i o n
i s r equi r ed unt i l he st ar t s r eco gni zi ng t he
o bj ect and co - r el at es i t w i t h t he name.
T hat s ho w he l l l ear n. But t he po i nt i s i t
sho ul d be do ne co nsi st ent l y. I mean i f yo u
do i t o ne day and fo r get t he nex t 3 days
and t hen suddenl y ask hi m abo ut i t t hen i t
w o nt w o r k .
At tbe same tlme, Kavltba nos lt
i mpo r t ant t o ex po se t hem t o t he o ut si de
w o r l d as w el l . A s par ent s w e mi ght have
t hi s fear t hat w hen w e t ake t hem o ut t hey
mi ght get hur t . I t hi nk t he i mpo r t ant t hi ng
i s t o l et t hem ex pl o r e and ex per i ence new
t hi ngs. W e sho ul d t ake t hem t o di ffer ent
pl aces l i ke t he par k , t he super mar ket and
Kavi t a Rai
t he veget abl e mar ket . O bvi o usl y w hen
t hey see new t hi ngs and peo pl e ar o und,
i t w i l l pr o vi de i mpet us t o t hei r cur i o si t y
and l ear ni ng.
A nd Shaur yas M o m feel s, To days par ent s
ar e i nt o mal l cul t ur e, w her e bo t h o f t hem
ar e w o r k i ng and t he mo ment t hey have
t i me t hey go sho ppi ng. But w e make i t a
po i nt t o t ake o ur so n t o a pl ace l i ke t he
museum, w her e he l ear ns so met hi ng. If
w e t ake hi m t o t he mal l he i s no t go i ng
t o l ear n much. A l o t o f t i me i s spent o n
artlclal actlvltles.
Gayat r i T Rao
22
Bonds of Love
St rongest !
M y
M
umbai dads t ake t hei r
r espo nsi bi l i t i es as fat her s ser i o usl y.
H er es t he back t o back st o r y
abo ut ho w M umbai dads r evel i n
t hei r fat her ho o d!
A ootlng tatber nos blmselt responslble not only tor
hi s baby, but al so fo r t he educat i o n o f t he chi l d aft er
t he mo t her s i ni t i at i ve. C har i t y begi ns at ho me, l i kew i se
educat i o n begi ns at ho me. So t he fat her no t o nl y pays fo r
t he cl assr o o m educat i o n, but al so i ncul cat es t he qual i t y
o f r espo nsi bi l i t y i n hi s baby. W i t h hi s st r i ct ness he al so
i nst i l l s di sci pl i ne i n hi s baby. T ho ugh i n mo st ho mes t he
fat her i s busy w i t h hi s j o b t i l l hi s r et i r ement , he l ends
suppo r t t o hi s w i fe i n br i ngi ng up t hei r baby dur i ng t he
non-otce bours. Tbe cbllo looks up to blm ano knows
t hat he i s t her e w hen needed.
di scuss t he happeni ngs o f t he day. G o i ng
fo r mo vi es i s a pr o bl em, si nce my baby,
G i a, i s st i l l 1 year s o l d. W hi l e i n t he
w eekends, no r mal l y w e go t o o ur fr i ends
pl ace and have a get - t o get her.
Gayat r i T Rao
Vi vaan, t he 15 mo nt h o l d so n o f A t ul Rai ,
nos bls tatber besloe blm otten oesplte
tbe latter's gruellng otce scbeoule ln
hi s manpo w er co nsul t ancy co mpany. H e
r eveal s, I al so suppo r t my w i fe i n t ak i ng
car e o f my k i d. M y so n i s j ust 15 mo nt hs
o l d. Ever y day I t ake hi m o ut and sho w
hi m i nt er est i ng o bj ect s. H e i s l ear ni ng t o
speak no w. Spendi ng t i me w i t h hi m i s ver y
cr uci al especi al l y at t hi s st age, w hen he
i s gr o w i ng and l ear ni ng new t hi ngs ever y
day.
Atul nos tbat bonolng wltb bls son, 8olls
do w n t o spendi ng t i me w i t h hi m. By no w
I k no w w hat he l i kes and w hat he di sl i kes.
H e l i kes t o l i st en t o musi c. I pl ay musi c fo r
hi m. Spendi ng mo r e t i me hel ps devel o p
t he r el at i o nshi p and hel ps t o st r engt hen
t he bo nd.
Daddy
St rongest !
M y
Sant o sh Pal , bo nds w i t h hi s so n, Shaur ya,
by co mmuni cat i ng w i t h hi m. H e says, I t r y
t o under st and hi m. I see t o i t t hat t her e i s
go o d anger management fo r my chi l d. A s
I am an ar chi t ect , I t r avel a l o t . But I see
t o i t t hat I gi ve qual i t y t i me t o my chi l d,
r at her t han quant i t y t i me. I j ust do nt gi ve
w hat he w ant s but I ex pl ai n t o hi m w hat i s
i mpo r t ant and w hat i s ur gent .
8esloes glvlng nanclal support tor bls
chi l ds educat i o n, a fat her pl ays an act i ve
r o l e i n i mpar t i ng k no w l edge t o i t . A t ul says,
M o r e t han anyt hi ng, educat i o n i s no t o nl y
abo ut bo o k s. A ft er he i s back fr o m scho o l ,
w e have t o check w i t h hi m o n w hat he and
hi s fr i ends ar e do i ng and w hat hi s t eacher
t o l d hi m. Even i f yo u ask gener al t hi ngs, i t
w i l l hel p i n hi s devel o pment .
Sant o sh agr ees t hat o ne need no t keep
educat i ng o nl y t hr o ugh bo o k s. A cco r di ng
t o hi m, Lear ni ng can happen t hr o ugh
co mput er, T V o r any k i nd o f medi um, t he
i mpo r t ant t hi ng i s ho w t he k no w l edge i s
pr esent ed t o t he chi l d.
Befo r e mar r i age, a man, usual l y, go es
o ut w i t h hi s fr i ends. G ener al l y, ho me i s
no t hi s pr i o r i t y. A ft er mar r i age and k i ds,
r espo nsi bi l i t y hi t s hi m. H e t akes t i me o ff
fr o m w o r k t o be w i t h hi s fami l y. Fat her s
l i ke A t ul make sur e, w e go o ut o n 2
vacat i o ns ever y year, even i f i t i s a sho r t
t r i p o r cl o se by. W e go o ut o n Sundays,
may be fo r sho ppi ng. Ri ght no w go i ng fo r
a mo vi e i s a l ux ur y because my k i d i s a
l i t t l e yo ung. W e do nt get t o go fo r mo vi es
o ft en. But , yeah, w e go o ut fo r di nner. W e
o r gani ze di nner at ho me fo r my fr i ends.
Fo r ent er t ai nment , peo pl e l i ke Ro hi t
M aheshw ar i , so ft w ar e engi neer, A t t he
end o f t he day aft er di nner, w at ch T V and
Sant o sh Pal
At ul Rai
Ro hi t M aheshw ar i
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T
he fat her - daught er bo nd i s i nex pl i cabl e. W e br i ng t o yo u
fo nd r emi ni sces o f a per cept i ve daught er as a t r i but e t o
fat her s w ho shape t he dest i ni es o f t hei r sci o ns.
M y fat her used t o say t o ngue i n cheek , Yo ur mo t her
and I w er e asked t o r eci t e a chapt er fr o m Ramayana t o
beget a so n, and I al w ays w o nder ed i f i nst ead o f Ram w hat i f I go t
o ne o f t he demo ns t o r ment i ng Si t a........but t hen, yo u w er e bo r n!
M y fat her s devi l - may- car e at t i t ude t o o k a beat i ng w hen I, hi s
t hi r d daught er, w as bo r n t o my par ent s near l y fo ur decades ago .
A man, w ho spent t he bet t er par t o f hi s yo ut h i n eat i ng j o i nt s and
t heat r es, w as fo r ced t o si t up and t ake no t i ce o f hi s pr edi cament
w hen he r eal i zed t hat he har dl y had any savi ngs. M aybe, i t w as
G o ds quai nt w ays o f mak i ng my fat her r eal i ze hi s r espo nsi bi l i t i es.
H e o pt ed fo r a t o ur i ng j o b t o make ends meet w i t h t he hel p o f
my t hr i ft i er mo t her.
M y fat her i s a man o f gr eat co nt r adi ct i o ns. H e al l o w ed us much
mo r e i ndependence w hen co mpar e t o o ur fr i ends. H e gave gr eat
i mpo r t ance t o o ur educat i o n but sur pr i si ngl y never asked us
abo ut o ur per fo r mance. H e ex pect ed us t o be w el l - ver sed i n
bank i ng mat t er s, bo o k i ng t r ai n t i cket s and o t her si mi l ar cho r es
but ex pect ed us t o r et ur n ho me befo r e dar k .
H e had hi s o w n br and o f humo r. O ne day, he came t o k no w t hat
o ur nei ghbo ur s t hr i ft y w i fe had gi ven t he same days new spaper
t o t he o l d paper mar t . A few days l at er he co mment ed, M r. S.
I w as so w o r r i ed, par t i cul ar l y aft er I came acr o ss a man car r yi ng
aw ay a huge sack fr o m yo ur ho use!
A l l o f us had ar r anged mar r i age despi t e t he fact t hat o ur fat her
had t o l d us t o appr o ach hi m i f w e ever happened t o meet t he man
o f o ur dr eams! I st i l l chuck l e w hen I r emember a co nver sat i o n
I had w i t h hi m w hen I w as i n my co l l ege. W e w er e w al k i ng back
ho me, w hen he asked i f I had no t i ced t he gi r l i n a gr een dr ess. I
r epl i ed cheek i l y t hat I do nt no t i ce gi r l s! A ft er so me t i me he dr ew
my at t ent i o n t o a man pushi ng hi s car t ! W hen I r epr o ached hi m,
i t w as hi s t ur n t o be cheek y and sai d, W ho k no w s he mi ght be
an eccent r i c mi l l i o nai r e!
H e i s a gr eat gr andfat her t o o . W henever w e vi si t ed o ur par ent al
ho me w hen o ur k i ds w er e yo ung, he enj o yed pl ayi ng w i t h hi s
gr andchi l dr en. H e di d no t co nsi der any game si l l y. H e al l o w ed hi s
gr anddaught er s t o dr ess hi m up w i t h a co mpl et e po nyt ai l ! H e di d
no t mi nd even i f hi s fr i ends dr o pped i n at t hat t i me much t o o ur
embarrassment. He playeo otce wltb bls rst granoson ttlng
hi s pr o sper o us gi r t h i n a smal l ni che.
Llke everybooy else my tatber bas bls own Naws too. Hls greatest
pr o bl em i s hi s t emper ! H e l o ses i t fr equent l y and at t he l east
ex pect ed mo ment s.
H e w as a man w ho had hi s shar e o f o l d fashi o ned vi ew s, but
he spent hi s t i me o ut si de t he l abo ur w ar d at t he t i me o f o ur
del i ver y. It i s al l t he mo r e appr eci abl e because fat her s o f t hat
gener at i o n w er e never t he hands- o n k i nd l i ke t he pr esent . H e
i s an o ct o genar i an no w, yet he w as a gr eat deal o f suppo r t t o my
el dest si st er w hen she w as di agno sed w i t h cancer and he w as w i t h
her t hr o ugh her chemo t her apy, r adi at i o n and sur ger y despi t e her
husbands pr esence. H e gave us al l a har d t i me har pi ng abo ut t he
unfai r ness o f i t al l w hen peo pl e l i ke hi m w er e st i l l sur vi vi ng. But
no t o nce di d he t hi nk o f st ayi ng back despi t e hi s bad k nee.
To day, he has l o st much o f hi s humo ur and he i s mo st t i mes l o st
i n t ho ught . H e r epeat s hi msel f and makes a fuss o f t r i vi al t hi ngs
yet never makes us feel gui l t y t hat w e gi ve pr i o r i t y t o o ur o w n
fami l y.
I end t hi s w i t h an i nci dent t hat i s st i l l fr esh i n mi nd. W hen I w as
ar o und el even, I no t i ced t hat he w as pl aci ng so me mo ney i n hi s
fat her s w al l et . W hen I asked hi m t he r easo n, my fat her t o l d me
tbat granopa belng a retlreo man sboulo not no blmselt lacklng
i n mo ney so he al w ays r epl eni shed t he pur se l eavi ng t he o l d
mans di gni t y i nt act !
A s hi s daught er s w e st and t est i mo ny t o t he val ues he t r i ed t o
i ncul cat e i n us. T hat and hi s l o ve fo r bo o k s make us w hat w e ar e
t o day. Chandr ik a R. Kr ishnan
Bonds of Love
DAD!
My father i s a man of great contradi cti ons.
He allowed us much more i ndependence
when compare to our fri ends. He gave
great i mportance to our educati on but
surpri si ngly never asked us about our
performance.
W b i t H i
w
g
p
t han k y ou
Power Play
Is our world
revolving around
the sun or the
electricity board:
Play
I nf o Box
Wastage ot Power ln Functlons: 8otb ln tbe prlvate tunctlons ano publlc tunctlons
st eps must be t aken t o r educe o ver - use o f deco r at i ve l i ght s et c.
Sbortage ot Power Generatlon/Supply:- At Neyvell, tbe workers are on agltatlon/
st r i ke mak i ng var i o us demands, w hi ch affect s t her mal po w er gener at i o n.
Tamll Naou ls at present gettlng only 7,195 MW ot power agalnst tbe requlrement
o f 8,000 M W .
Wlno mllls are supplylng 1,500 MW
Hyoro sources 1,000 MW
Tbermal 2,520 MW
Power statlons uslng gas are generatlng 321 MW.
Tbe state ls gettlng 1,754 MW trom tbe central pool, besloes 100 MW trom Kerala.
Tbe sltuatlon wlll not ease tlll tbe Russlan-aloeo Koooankulam Nuclear Power
statlon's rst unlt ls commlssloneo net year
T
her e w er e days w hen t he
o nl y so ur ce o f l i ght w as t he
sun, tbe moon ano re. Tben
el ect r i ci t y w as di sco ver ed,
and t hen ever yt hi ng changed
fo r go o d. W e st ar t ed t o di sco ver t he use
o f el ect r i ci t y gr adual l y, ho w ever no w w e
ar e i n a st at e i n w hi ch w e feel handi capped
w i t ho ut i t . W e ar e sur r o unded w i t h t he
po w er o f el ect r i ci t y; w e need i t 24 ho ur s
a day, 7 days a w eek , 365 days a year. Fr o m
a smal l hut i n a sl um t o a huge i ndust r y,
ever yo ne and ever yt hi ng r equi r es
el ect r i ci t y t o sur vi ve. Po w er cut s w er e
ear l i er j ust an o ccasi o nal o ccur r ence, but
no w i t has beco me a par t o f o ur dai l y l i fe.
T he scenar i o t o day i s di ffer ent , po w er
cut s has beco me an addi t i o n t o o ur day-
t o - day r o ut i ne i n Tami l N adu. T her e i s a
t w o - ho ur cut i n and ar o und C hennai ci t y,
w hi l e t he subur ban ar eas face a fo ur ho ur
po w er sho r t age. So me ar eas have al so
r epo r t ed a sho r t age o f po w er fo r as l o ng
as ei ght ho ur s. Pl aces w hi ch do nt have
po w er cut s ar e ex t r emel y l uck y, says
l ak shmi , a r esi dent o f A nnanagar, I have t o
pl an my ent i r e day ar o und t he t i me w hen
t he po w er go es o ff, w o r k beco mes so
oltcult, sbe aooeo. Deallng wltb tbe tury
o f t he publ i c and t he sho r t age o f 4,000
M W o f el ect r i ci t y, t he Tami l N adu po w er
ut i l i t y has sl apped 40 per cent po w er cut
fo r al l i ndust r i al and co mmer ci al user s
w hi ch means t he i ndust r i es ar e subj ect ed
t o an ent i r e days po w er shut do w n o nce
a w eek . T he Tami l N adu G ener at i o n and
D i st r i but i o n Lt d ( Tangedco ) anno unced
r est r i ct i o n fo r po w er usage fo r
co mmer ci al co nsumer s bet w een 6- 10 p.m.
N o t hi ng seems t o hel p, especi al l y w i t h
t he i ncr easi ng t emper at ur e, o ne cant
even t hi nk o f vent ur i ng o ut dur i ng t he
day, under t he k i l l er sun. To add t o o ur
t r o ubl es, t he el ect r i ci t y char ges have
been i ncr eased. Peo pl e ar e check i ng al l
t he dai l y new spaper s fo r i nfo r mat i o n
r egar di ng t he ever i ncr easi ng pr i ces and
w het her t he l o cal i t y t hey l i ve i n has been
a t ar get o f t hi s sur ge i n pr i ces o r no t . T he
go ver nment i nst ead o f gi vi ng fr ee T Vs and
G r i nder s sho ul d gi ve fr ee i nver t er s, as w e
do nt have el ect r i ci t y t o use t hem, sai d a
r et i r ed Po st mast er fr o m C o i mbat o r e.
A t t i mes l i ke t hese i t makes o ne w o nder
i f i t w o ul d have been bet t er, i f w e had
not olscovereo electrlclty ln tbe rst
pl ace. W o ul d i t have saved us fr o m al l t he
t r o ubl e t hat w e ar e endur i ng r i ght no w
because o f t he el ect r i ci t y sho r t age? T he
po w er cut s have affect ed ever ybo dy i n
di ffer ent w ays, t he far mer s ar e suffer i ng
w i t h t hei r i r r i gat i o n syst ems, ho spi t al s ar e
unabl e t o use equi pment fo r t r eat ment ,
and ho useho l ds ar e put t i ng t hei r dai l y l i fe
o n ho l d fo r t w o t o fo ur ho ur s ever y si ngl e
day. Fo r no w w e w i l l have t o l ear n t o l i ve
w i t h t he po w er cut s but t he quest i o n i s
fo r ho w l o ng ar e w e w i l l i ng t o accept
t hese co ndi t i o ns o f l i vi ng?
K.T Sow m ya Bhar at hi
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Bonds of Love
F
or tbe secono tlme ln my llte, my beart olo a Nlp
over. Tbe rst tlme tbls bappeneo wben | was
epectlng my rst baby. | tbougbt tben, tbere
co ul d no t be a mo ment mo r e j o yo us, a per i o d
so pr eci o us. But I w as w r o ng. I t ur ned t he same
emo t i o nal car t w heel w hen I di sco ver ed I w as pr egnant
w i t h o ur seco nd baby.
Girl!
BABIES
Gods blessing to parents
A vlslt to tbe gynecologlst conrmeo my susplclons. Tbe rst
scan proouceo tbe rst set ot emotlons. Wblle | was oeallng wltb
tbe rsts- tbe rst qualms, tbe rst tears, tbe rst joy ot bavlng
anotber baby, my ever practlcal busbano's rst statement to me
w as, Tel l me i t s no t t w i ns!
Atter tbat rst vlslt, | was on a roll. Tbe same tests, tbe same
quest i o ns and ..t he same advi ce! C T scans, bl o o d t est s, w ei ght
and BP check - ups became a mo nt hl y r o ut i ne. T hese w er e a pi cni c
co mpar ed t o t he quest i o ns and advi ce I had t o deal w i t h. D o
yo u have nausea? D o es i t o ccur i n t he mo r ni ngs o r dur i ng t he
day? Ever y aspect get s co mment ed o n. Sl eep, fo o d, pal l o r, hai r
gr o w t h, hands, face, feet and t hen so me! A nd o f co ur se t he
suggest i ve co mment s! Yo u ar e t hr o w i ng up a l o t , t hen i t s a gi r l .
A no t her per so n t hi nk s o t her w i se. Yo u have no t changed much,
yo u l o o k t he same, no w ei ght i ncr ease, no change i n co mpl ex i o n,
so you wlll oenltely bave a boy. 8ut tbe lclng on tbe cake ls tbe
pr edi ct i o n, i f yo u del i ver ear l y, i t w i l l be a bo y, but i f i t i s l at e, t hen
i t w i l l be a gi r l ! So t he baby w i l l deci de t o change i t s sex at t he
el event h ho ur, sci ence be dar ned! T hi s t i me my hubbys pr act i cal
si de came t o my r escue. A l l he sai d w as, Bo y o r gi r l , w e o nl y w ant
a heal t hy baby.
T he pr egnancy pr o gr essed and t he much aw ai t ed baby mo vement s
began and ho w ! M y l i t t l e gi r l w as as much a dr ama queen t hen,
as she i s no w. In t he w ee ho ur s o f t he mo r ni ng, I fel t an i nsi st ent
po k i ng i n my t ummy. W hen I came aw ake, I r eal i zed t o my del i ght
t hat t he po k i ng w as bei ng do ne by my baby! A smal l st i ck l i ke
bump was on my tummy ano sometblng llke a nger kept poklng
at i t . I l ay st i l l , afr ai d t hat t he mo vement w o ul d st o p i f I mo ved. I
i magi ned t he bump t o be my babys t i ny fo o t and t he o t her fo o t
mak i ng smal l k i ck s, hence t he po k i ng.
W hen I descr i bed t hi s w o nder t o my husband and so n t he nex t
mo r ni ng, t her e w er e ex ci t ed quest i o ns, mo st l y fr o m my so n. H e
w as anno yed t hat I had no t aw o ken hi m t o feel t he mo vement s
and w ar ned me st r i ct l y t o do so t he nex t t i me t he baby mo ved.
W hen t he mo vement s began i n ear nest , my so n w o ul d al w ays
r ush t o t o uch and t al k t o t he baby. H e had a st r i ng o f pet names
t o cal l her and made a r hyme o f t hem. H e w as t o r n bet w een
w ant i ng a br o t her o r a si st er. H e w o ul d keep t al k i ng o f t he t hi ngs
he co ul d do w hen hi s si bl i ng w as bo r n. W hen she di d ar r i ve, he
w as such a pr o ud br o t her. H e cal l ed al l hi s fr i ends i n scho o l t o
anno unce he no w had a baby si st er. A s t he mo nt hs pr o gr essed,
she r espo nded t o hi s vo i ce t he mo st . It s a del i ght t o see her
ex ci t ement w hen her br o t her r et ur ns fr o m scho o l . M y hear t
al w ays w ar ms, w hen I see t hem t o get her.
A nd her daddy? H e l o st t hat pr act i cal si de o f hi s, t he mo ment
hi s new bo r n daught er w as pl aced i n hi s hands. H e i s i n l o ve! H e
al w ays cl ai med t hat he w o ul d t r eat hi s so n l i ke a fr i end, t hey even
gbt llke ones. 8ut bls oaugbter, sbe ls bls laoy love. | bave to step
asi de. A nd t hat st ep I t ake w i t h a l eap and w i t h a smi l e o n my l i ps.
Kanchana Rao
k i ng s sma mal l l l l l l l kkkk iii c i ckkk s k s, hhhe hhenc ncee hh t h t h t hee po po k ii kk i k i ng ng.
en I descr i bed t hi s w o nder t o my husband and so n t he nex
i t h i t d t i t l f H
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M ot h er
a lif e t im e r o le
Bonds of Love
A moder n mot h er i s not onl y a
h omemaker but al so a wage ear ner i n
many h omes t oday. Sh e manages t o
bl end t h e ol d and t h e new, t h e out si de
wor l d and t h e t r adi t i onal f ami l y
envi r onment and mai nt ai ns mul t i pl e
r ol es i n bot h h er and h er h usband s
f ami l y st r uct ur e.
A
l l scr i pt ur es and r el i gi o ns gi ve a po si t i o n o f pr i macy
t o t he mo t her. M o t her, fat her, t eacher t hen G o d i s
tbe blerarcby oeneo tor an lnolvloual's obelsance.
C r eat i o n i s depi ct ed as a mo t her. N at ur e i s r efer r ed
t o as ` M o t her N at ur e . M o t her ear t h, mo t her l and,
even rlvers are loentleo as a motber. A motber ls tbe source
o f l i fe; she nur t ur es and pr o t ect s her chi l d i n her w o mb fr o m
co ncept i o n, and br i ngs a human bei ng o ut i nt o t he w o r l d aft er a
pai nful and t r aumat i c l abo ur pr o cess . T he pat i ence t hat i s needed
to tulll tbls natural act tberetore becomes tbe emboolment ot
mo t her ho o d.
W o men, w het her r i ch o r po o r, w er e pr i mar i l y t he so ur ce
o f w ar mt h, fo o d, co mfo r t and by asso ci at i o n t he o ne so ur ce
o f unco ndi t i o nal l o ve. In pat r i ar chal so ci et i es, w o men w er e
seco ndar y so ur ces o f aut ho r i t y. T hei r co nt r o l i n t he fami l y w as
st r o ng t ho ugh no t o ver t but subt l e and behi nd t he scenes. T hey
ex hi bi t ed mul t i pl e sk i l l s o f a ho memaker, admi ni st r at o r and
o r gani ser.
T he t r adi t i o nal mo t her w as st r i ct l y cast i n t he r o l e o f a per so n
conneo to tbe tour walls ot a bome, ano tenolng to tbe tamlly.
Her worlo olo not eteno beyono tbe vlllage. Tbe rst oaugbter-
i n- l aw w as t he head o f t he fami l y aft er t he mat r i ar ch and t o o k
t he l at t er s pl ace aut o mat i cal l y. M a- j i w as a name gi ven t o t he
el dest w o man i n char ge o f t he ho use. O t her s w er e cal l ed by t he
r el at i o nshi p no mencl at ur e. M o st w o men w o r ked har d and many
l o st t hei r l i ves i n chi l dbi r t h o r t uber cul o si s and o t her di seases
due t o mal nut r i t i o n. T hese w o men gener at ed a subsi di ar y i nco me
by usi ng t he so ur ces under t hei r co nt r o l l i ke sel l i ng mi l k , hay
et c. i n t he r ur al mi l i eu. T hi s mo ney w as ei t her st ashed aw ay fo r
em er genci es o r used t o m ake j ew el r y and st ar t t he co l l ect i o n o f
a t r o usseau fo r t he daught er s o f t he fami l y. It w as t he mo t her s
dut y t o mai nt ai n t he t r adi t i o ns and unfai l i ngl y per fo r m t he r i t ual s
and r el i gi o us fest i val s o f t he fami l y t o pr eser ve and pass o n t he
cul t ur al her i t age.
M i gr at i o n t o ci t i es changed t he r o l e o f t he mo t her i n t he fami l y.
T he ar chet ypal mo t her w as depi ct ed as sl avi ng aw ay at t he
sew i ng machi ne, o r cl eani ng vessel s and ho uses fo r t he r i ch.
O t her t ypes l i ke t he t eacher i n a pr i mar y scho o l , a t ypi st , cl er k
or receptlonlst ln an otce, tbe Nower seller, vegetable venoor
et c w ho w o r ked har d t o feed and educat e t hei r chi l dr en so o n
appear ed i n t he ur ban envi r o nment . M any o f t hem w er e si ngl e
mo t her s o r mar r i ed t o abusi ve men desper at el y seek i ng t o
pr o t ect t hei r chi l dr en.
T hi s t ype o f mo t her has been po r t r ayed r epeat edl y i n Indi an
mo vi es. T he aut o mat i c cho i ce o f act r esses l i ke N i r upa Ro y,
Sul o chana, D ur ga K ho t e and i n r ecent t i mes W aheeda Rehman,
Rak hee, So w car Janak i , Pandar i bhai et c has est abl i shed a
st er eo t ype M A A . O f co ur se, N ar gi s became t he i co n o f a
mo t her w ho go es t hr o ugh hel l w i t ho ut co mpr o mi si ng her sel f t o
br i ng up her so ns i n M o t her Indi a. She di d no t hesi t at e t o gun
do w n her r ebel so n w hen he pr o ved t o be a menace t o so ci et y.
T he mo t her k no w n t o t he A si an mi nd i s cat ego r i sed as t w o t ypes.
Tbe selt-sacrlclng, worn out, tlreo, over workeo oruoge wbose
w o r l d i s cent er ed r o und her chi l dr en. T hi s mo t her fo r go es a l o t ,
even fo o d fo r t he sake o f her chi l dr en. W hen she needs car e and
co mfo r t i n her o l d age, she i s i l l t r eat ed by her gr o w n up chi l dr en
and i s r ej ect ed and t r aumat i sed by t he fami l y. T he o t her t ype o f
mo t her i s sho w n t o be t he ex t r emel y ambi t i o us, do mi neer i ng,
ex t r avagant , r eck l ess char act er w ho i nst i gat es her chi l dr en t o bad
bebavlour, proNlgacy ano leaos tbem to ruln. Rarely oo you no
a mo t her w ho has abando ned o r negl ect ed her chi l d. In such
cases i t i s by a qui r k o f fat e, a t r i ck by t he fami l y o r due t o so ci al
demands and fear o f cal umny t hat makes her abando n a chi l d.
Kunt i and K ar na i n t he M ahabar at ham ar e t he t ypi cal ex ampl es
o f t hi s var i et y.
Tbe real motber gure ln soclety ls somewbere between tbe
t w o . A mo der n mo t her i s no t o nl y a ho memaker but al so a w age
ear ner i n many ho mes t o day. She manages t o bl end t he o l d and
t he new, t he o ut si de w o r l d and t he t r adi t i o nal fami l y envi r o nment
and mai nt ai ns mul t i pl e r o l es i n bo t h her and her husband s fami l y
st r uct ur e. T he nucl ear fami l y ho w ever i s put t i ng a gr eat deal o f
pr essur e o n t he mo t her w i t h no M a- j i t o shar e o r t ake o n t he
r espo nsi bi l i t i es o f t he fami l y l i fe.
O ne st r ange fact abo ut mo t her s, especi al l y t he A si an w o man
must be no t ed. She t ends t o suppo r t t he w eaker chi l d, ei t her
eco no mi cal l y o r emo t i o nal l y. T hi s seemi ng par t i al i t y, even
ex pl o i t i ng o ne chi l d t o suppo r t ano t her, i s o ft en mi st aken. H er
hear t t ends t o r est o r e t he bal ance bet w een her var i o us o ffspr i ng.
A gai n, a mo t her, l o ngs fo r t he chi l d w ho i s physi cal l y, even
emo t i o nal l y di st anced fr o m her. So t he ma i n Indi a w i l l t hi nk
and pi ne fo r t he chi l d w ho i s i n fo r ei gn l ands. T he fo o d she
co o k s and eat s, t he t hi ngs she buys, r emi nd her co nst ant l y abo ut
t he chi l d w ho i s far aw ay. W hen she meet s t hat chi l d, she t ends
to cllng ano want all tbe attentlon tor berselt. Tbe cbllo nos tbls
at t ent i o n o ppr essi ve and suffo cat i ng w i t ho ut r eal i si ng t hat t he
cl o ck i s t i ck i ng fo r t he mo t her fo r she w i l l agai n be par t ed fr o m
her chi l d.
A no t her feat ur e o f mo t her ho o d i s t he mi s- cal l i ng o f a chi l d. It i s
no t t hat she i s unaw ar e o f t he chi l d s name. She o nl y t ends t o cal l
al l t he names o f absent chi l dr en befo r e she co mes t o t he co r r ect
name o f t he per so n she i s act ual l y addr essi ng. T hi s can be ver y
anno yi ng t o a chi l d. It t akes t hem t i me o r t hei r o w n ex per i ences
as a mo t her t o under st and t hi s pheno meno n.
A mo t her beco mes a mo t her - i n- l aw. H er r o l e changes, so do
her at t i t udes, ex pect at i o ns and demands. H er t o l er ance and her
pat i ence ar e gr eat l y r educed w hen she do ns t hi s r o l e.
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o be a par ent r equi r es no
fo r mal t r ai ni ng at l east
no t yet . Yo u t ake o n t he r o l e
and t he r espo nsi bi l i t y by
i mi t at i ng o t her ex per i enced
mo del s l i ke yo ur par ent s w ho al so st ar t ed
o ut l i ke yo u.
Yo u may no t w ant t o go o n t he same
pat h as t hat o f yo ur par ent s as yo u may
be co nvi nced t hat t hey w er e no t t he
i deal mo del t o i mi t at e. Yo u may cho o se
o t her r o l e mo del s o r evo l ve yo ur o w n
met ho do l o gy. Yo u may co nvi nce yo ur sel f
t hat yo ur s i s a uni que appr o ach. T he t r ut h
i s, begi nni ng w i t h A dam and Eve w ho w er e
no t r eal l y i deal par ent s i f yo u fact o r i n t he
deadl y si bl i ng r i val r y bet w een t hei r so ns
C ai n and A bel ; ever y par ent i ng t echni que
has been i mpl ement ed, t est ed, dumped
as ar chai c o r i neffect i ve and r ei nvent ed
under new t er mi no l o gy.
Lvery generatlon, by turns, ls rmly
convlnceo tbat tbelrs ls tbe most oltcult
t i mes t hat t hey ar e l i vi ng t hr o ugh. T he
ur ban Indi an w o man i s a mul t i - t asker. She
i s t r yi ng t o bal ance her l i fe bet w een t he
o l d val ues and cust o ms and t he new w o r l d
w her e she i s t r yi ng t o fo r ge an i dent i t y
fo r her sel f. H o usew i fe ver sus car eer, j o i nt
fami l y o r nucl eus fami l y, si ngl e par ent i ng
or compromlslng ln a oltcult marrlage,
par ent i ng by ado pt i o n o r no t havi ng k i ds
ar e t he cho i ces i n fr o nt o f her.
T he r o l e o f a m o t her i s t hat o f a nur t ur er
and she passes o n al l t hat i s an i nt egr al par t
o f val ues and behavi o ur t o her chi l dr en.
It i s i mpo r t ant fo r w o men t o under st and
tbat tbey bave to make sacrlces lt
t hey w ant t o have a car eer, a mar r i age
and a fami l y. T he j o i nt fami l y has been a
w o nder ful l ear ni ng gr o und fo r chi l dr en
t o o bser ve t he success o f i t s member s,
t o i mbi be mo r al st andar ds o f behavi o ur
and t o feel secur e i n an at mo spher e o f
sust ai ned l o ve and car e. T he di si nt egr at i o n
o f t he j o i nt fami l y syst em has l ed t o t he
breakup ot tbe moral bre ot cblloren
w i t ho ut co nst ant par ent al super vi si o n and
i nvo l vement .
H o w ever, w o men ar e l ear ni ng t o accept
i n- l aw s as t he pr esence o f a r espo nsi bl e
gr andpar ent i n hel pi ng i n t he gr o w t h and
devel o pment o f a chi l d s char act er. M en
t o o ar e get t i ng t o be mo r e and mo r e
i nvo l ved i n t he upbr i ngi ng o f chi l dr en
fr o m t he nappy r o ut i ne t o pl ay and t each
COM M UNICATION
&
PARENTING
The r ole of a mot her i s t hat of a nur t ur er

and she passes on all t hat i s an i nt egr al
par t of values and behavi our t o her
chi ldr en. It i s i mpor t ant f or women
t o under st and t hat t hey have t o make
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act i vi t i es.
Par ent s ar e w i l l i ng t o gi ve up per so nal so ci al i si ng and i nt er est s
and adul t ent er t ai nment fo r t he sake o f t he qual i t y t i me needed
t o make t he fami l y a co nt ent ed o ne. It i s vi t al t o mai nt ai n peace
and har mo ny i n t he fami l y t o avo i d behavi o ur al pr o bl ems. T he
major cause tor a cbllo:s bebavloural problems ls tamlly conNlct
t hat causes deep so r r o w i n a chi l d.
Par ent i ng co ncer ns ar e abo ut fo o d, behavi o ur, l ear ni ng and so ci al
sk i l l s. It al l begi ns w i t h co mmuni cat i o n.
It begi ns w hen t he chi l d i s i n t he w o mb and w hen t he mo t her
i s happy dur i ng pr egnancy, her co nt ent ment i s abso r bed by t he
fo et us.
It i s i mpo r t ant t o co mmuni cat e w hen t he chi l d w ant s t o t al k and
no t w hen yo u have t he t i me and t he i ncl i nat i o n. Tel l a st o r y w hen
t he chi l d w ant s t o hear i t . Tel l hi m o r her t hi ngs t hat t hey w ant t o
hear. D o no t cl assi fy a quest i o n po sed by t he chi l d as si l l y . H e/
she has a genui ne need t o k no w t he answ er t o a do ubt i n t hei r
mlnos. |t tbe answer ooes not come trom you, tbelr rst source
o f i nfo r mat i o n, he/ she may be fo r ced t o l o o k el sew her e t o sat i sfy
t hei r cur i o si t y.
A t ever y st age o f t he chi l ds devel o pment , i t i s i mpo r t ant t o
r enego t i at e t he r el at i o nshi p fr o m nur t ur er t o car er and t hen
mentor ano nally trleno.
Val ue syst ems canno t be t aught . T hese can be o bser ved fr o m r o l e
mooels ano tben lmblbeo. Tbey learn lt rst trom parents. |t tbey
see t hat t he par ent i s fo l l o w i ng a set o f pr i nci pl es, t he chi l d w i l l
aut o mat i cal l y abso r b and assi mi l at e t he co ncept .
Q ual i t y t i me spent w i t h t he chi l d i s no t t o be cal cul at ed i n ho ur s
and days. T he t i me spent r espo ndi ng t o t he chi l ds needs i s at t he
mo ment w hen t he chi l d cal l s yo u and no t w hen yo u ar e fr ee t o
devo t e t i me.
A ny co nver sat i o n t hat mo st par ent s have i s a ser i es o f i nst r uct i o ns
o r o r der s- C o me t o eat , D o yo ur H o mew o r k , G o t o Bed et c.
M ake t i me t o si t do w n and chat w i t h yo ur chi l d fo r a few mi nut es
abo ut t r i vi al o r i mpo r t ant i ssues l i ke r i ght and w r o ng, po l i t i cs,
envi r o nment , r el i gi o n, bel i efs et c.
T he st r ess o n acco mpl i shment i n st udi es, spo r t s, ar t s et c i s
actually tbe reNectlon ot tbe parent's acblevement. |n tbe process
o f achi evi ng t hese ambi t i o ns, w e fo r get t o be happy.
|t ls lmportant not to sacrlce tbe present tor tbe sake ot tbe
fut ur e. Par ent s ar e r espo nsi bl e fo r t hei r chi l dr ens fut ur e success.
H o w ever, i f t hey get o bsessed w i t h w hat t hei r k i ds ar e go i ng t o
be i n t he fut ur e and ho w yo u ar e go i ng t o make t hei r l i ves secur e
t hr o ugh a gr eat l i fest yl e, educat i o n and w eal t h, i t w i l l affect t he
pr esent .
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l i ke t he happi est per so n by my i dent i t y as
a mo t her, as o ppo sed t o bei ng anyt hi ng
el se! H avi ng l i ved i n a j o i nt fami l y, K al ai
has had t he o ppo r t uni t y t o see di ffer ent
gener at i o ns o f mo t her s at
w o r k . D o es she bel i eve
t hat mo t her ho o d w as
an easi er pr o spect
back t hen t han no w ?
In so me w ays, i t
w as easi er t hen t han
no w. Br i ngi ng up
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K
al ai vani , Shr i l ek a
and A shw i n make a
pr et t y pi ct ur e a
sw eet po r t r ai t o f a
mo t her w i t h her t w o
llttle angels, a llal bono torgeo wltb tbe
r espl endence o f l o ve. T he unmi st akeabl e
i mpr i nt o f t r adi t i o n co mbi ned w i t h t he
per fect hi nt o f mo der ni t y j ust pr o ves t hat
K al ai has br o ught up her so n and daught er
w i t h t he ver y val ues t hat w er e i nst i l l ed i n
her. H ai l i ng fr o m a Jo i nt Fami l y t hat
st ays t o get her, l o ves and l aughs
t o get her, K al ai s chi l dr en ar e
pr o ud sci o ns o f t he val ues t hat
t he fami l y st ands fo r.
M o t her ho o d, fo r K al ai , i s a
mat t er o f pr i de. To be a mo t her,
makes me feel ver y pr o ud. I feel
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chi l dr en i n a w o r l d t hat i s r i fe w i t h so
much ex po sur e, w i t h so much i nfo r mat i o n
bei ng avai l abl e so r eadi l y - mo t her ho o d i s
a gr eat chal l enge i ndeed.
T he fami l y, t he basi c so ci al uni t , i s t he
ful cr um o f any so ci al set - up. T he famed
i nst i t ut i o n o f t he Jo i nt Fami l y, no w,
ar guabl y l o st i n t he annal s o f hi st o r y, has
been a slgnlcant contrlbutor to Kalal's
l i fe. Bei ng i n a j o i nt fami l y has i t s o w n
mer i t s and demer i t s. M y chi l dr en gr o w up
i n an envi r o nment w her e t hey k no w, gr o w
and l o ve t hei r r el at i ves a gi ft t hat no t
many have. T hey ar e ex po sed t o so many
si t uat i o ns w hi ch sho w s t hem bo t h mer i t s
and demer i t s, and hel ps t hem i n mak i ng
r i ght deci si o ns.
Fo r K al ai , bei ng a mo t her i s t he mo st
r ew ar di ng and mo st pr eci o us aspect
o f her l i fe. O nce, my daught er w as o ut
o f my si ght fo r few mi nut es w hi l e w e
w er e sho ppi ng. T ho ugh t hey w er e j ust
abo ut t hr ee o r fo ur mi nut es, I fel t t hat
ever yt hi ng i n my l i fe had go ne. Even
no w, w hen I t hi nk o f t hat si t uat i o n I am
fr i ght ened t o t he co r e.
A t ever y t ur n, K al ai has made sur e
t o i nst i l o ne si mpl e l esso n i n
her chi l dr en. T hat t hey sho ul d
al w ays have a po si t i ve at t i t ude
tbat no matter bow oltcult
so met hi ng may be, t hey sho ul d
say I CAN D O TH I S at any and
ever y t i me, and t r y t o succeed,
gi vi ng t hei r best i n t he pr o cess.
Kalal belleves tbat lt ls slgnlcant
to be a trleno rst, ano tben a
mo t her. It hel ps i n el i mi nat i ng
t he gap o f fear bet w een t he
mo t her and t he chi l d i n ex pr essi ng
t he feel i ngs.
K al ai s ho pes fo r her chi l dr en
ar e si mpl e. She ho pes t o j ust
gi ve t hem a l i fe ful l o f happi ness
courage ano conoence wblcb
w i l l hel p t hem i n keepi ng t he peo pl e
ar o und t hem happi er t her eby bui l di ng
a heal t hy fami l y, a heal t hy so ci et y and a
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L
i fe never
co mes w i t h a
set cur r i cul um,
a syl l abus, o r
even a gui de
t o t el l yo u ho w t o l i ve i t .
Li fe do esnt co me w i t h a
map bear i ng a l i t t l e r ed do t
and a t i ny o ne- l i ner You
ar e H er e! appended t o i t .
But l i fe co mes w i t h o ne
br i l l i ant t hi ng advent ur e.
A nd al o ng w i t h i t , i s t he
best t eacher ex per i ence.
A l o ng t he j o ur ney, t ho ugh,
t her e ar e so me gui di ng st ar s
i n t he fo r m o f mo t her s, and
st i l l mo r e, i n t he fo r m o f l i fe
co aches. Puj a G upt a i s a l i fe
co ach, and a yo ung mo t her,
and br i dl es t he ar t o f l i vi ng
by desi gn, w i t h br i ngi ng up
her chi l dr en.
Some
Have i t i n Them

Q How do your view your role of a mot her ?
A Fo r me bei ng a mo t her i s w ay mo r e t han j ust bei ng a pr o vi der,
every tlme | make a cbolce ln my llte normally | no myselt asklng
t he quest i o n t hat i f my chi l dr en w er e i n my pl ace w hat cho i ce
w o ul d I l i ke t hem t o make i n t hei r pl ace T her efo r e fo r me bei ng
a mo t her i s pr et t y much me bei ng a Ro l e M o del , and l i vi ng by
ex ampl e.
Q Somet imes mot her s of t oday feel t hat t heir mot her s
had it easier. Do you agree wit h t his view?Why?
A Fo r me mo t her s have al w ays had a chal l engi ng r o l e. N o
mat t er w hat gener at i o n i t i s i t has al w ays been a chal l enge. T he
chal l enges ar e j ust di ffer ent t hen and no w. T hese days t her e i s so
much happeni ng ar o und , chi l dr en ar e ex po sed t o so much t hat
mo t her s have t o hel p t hem make t he r i ght cho i ces .T hen i t w as
mo r e abo ut get t i ng yo ur chi l d t o st udy and gui de t hem .
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life. How has it shaped your way of br inging up your lit t le
ones?
A Absolutely. Well, belng a llte coacb bas slgnlcantly cbangeo tbe
w ay my fami l y funct i o ns. T he mo r e yo u under st and co ncept s o f
l i fe t he mo r e yo u r eal i se t hei r i mpo r t ance i n t he l i fe o f yo ur k i ds.
M y k i ds at t he age o f 8 and 11 ar e al r eady set t i ng go al s fo r t he
w eek , w r i t i ng gr at i t ude r eal i si ng t he i mpo r t ance o f co mmi t ment
gi vi ng aw ay 10% o f t hei r po cket mo ney i n char i t y and savi ng 20%
o f i t .
Q As a mot her, what has been t he biggest lesson you
have want ed t o t each your children?
A T he bi ggest l esso n I w ant t o t each my chi l dr en i s t hat r eal l y
l i ve yo ur PA SSIO N . Passi o n gi ves yo u ener gy, passi o n gi ves yo u
j o y, passi o n gi ves yo u pur po se and i t i mpr o ves t he qual i t y o f
ever yt hi ng t hat yo u do . It do esnt mat t er w hat i t i s, w hat ever yo u
deci de t o do be t he best at i t . D o nt be o r di nar y t hat s w hat I t el l
t hem. Even i f yo u ar e a pl umber be such an amazi ng pl umber t hat
any per so n w ho meet s yo u sho ul d w o nder i f t her e ar e any l eak s
i n t he ho use.
Q Do you believe in t he pr inciple t hat a mot her must be
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a mot her s role is t hat of a mot her, and being a fr iend is
just a par t of t he package?
A I bel i eve a mo t her sho ul d be a mo t her .Yo u may have numer o us
fr i ends but yo u j ust have o ne mo t her. Fo r me a mo t her s r o l e
ls oeneo as a guloe, somebooy wbo belps you bullo your llte,
so mebo dy w ho has fai t h i n yo ur cr azy i deas, so mebo dy w ho
cr eat es an envi r o nment fo r yo ur t r ue po t ent i al t o co me o ut .
So mebo dy w ho suppo r t s yo u w hen o ur do ubt ful . So bei ng a
fr i end i s a ver y smal l po r t i o n o f bei ng a mo t her. Because bei ng
fr i endl y i s mo r e an at t i t ude t han r eal l y a r o l e pl ay o f a mo t her.

Q Is being a Mot her
is a t hankless job? What has t he
most rewarding aspect of being a mot her,
been for you?
A M o t her s do nt l o o k fo r gr at i t ude. I do nt t hi nk any mo t her i s
r ai si ng her chi l dr en ex pect i ng so met hi ng i n r et ur n. M o t her ho o d
i s al l abo ut unco ndi t i o nal l o ve, so yo u do nt ask fo r anyt hi ng. T hi s
i s t he o nl y r el at i o nshi p w hi ch do esnt ask fo r anyt hi ng i n r et ur n
and t hat s t he beaut y o f t he r el at i o nshi p.Ever y t i me I see my
chi l dr en bei ng co mpassi o nat e by ser vi ng o t her s, i t gi ves me gr eat
j o y. Such yo ung chi l dr en mak i ng a di ffer ence by gi vi ng peo pl e,
feel i ng fo r o t her s and car i ng abo ut st r anger s.
Q Take me t hrough one memor able moment in your
t r aject or y as a mot her.
A T her e i s no o ne memo r abl e mo ment ; ever y mo ment has
been speci al and memo r abl e. Li ke w hen t hey r espect t he mai ds
at ho me ,w hen t he car e and shar e , fami l y t i me t o get her ,w hen
I si t and pai nt w i t h t hem t o get her and t he l i st can go o n fo r ever.
A s ever y mo ment i s addi ng t o t he per so n t hey ar e beco mi ng. It s
no t w hat t hey do but w hat t hey ar e beco mi ng t hat i s memo r abl e
fo r me.
Q Where do you see your children t en year s from now?
What are your dreams for t hem?
A M y o nl y dr eam fo r my chi l dr en i s t hat t hey sho ul d pur sue
t hei r o w n dr eams. It s no t w hat I w ant fr o m t hei r l i fe but w hat
t hey w ant fr o m t hei r l i fe. I ho pe I am abl e t o gi ve t hem t he
envi r o nment , t he suppo r t and ever yt hi ng t hey need t o pur sue
t hei r dr eams. Just l i ke I m l i vi ng a co mpl et e l i fe I ho pe t hey l i ve
t hei r co mpl et e l i fe t o o . Bei ng a mo t her i s a r o l e and no t an
i dent i t y. M o t her s sho ul d be a r o l e mo del ; I t r ul y bel i eve t hat l i ve
l i fe t hat yo ur chi l dr en can emul at e.
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Vi shw anat han A nand has do ne i t agai n! H e has o ut per fo r med
hi msel f, w i nni ng a ner ve- w r ack i ng t i e- br eaker t o beat hi s Isr ael i
cballenger 8orls Geltano to wln bls ttb Worlo Cbamplonsblp
t i t l e and fo ur t h i n a r o w i n M o sco w o n W ednesday, 30 M ay 2012.
W hen Vi shy added yet ano t her w o r l d t i t l e t o hi s name o n 30 M ay,
Sachi n Tendul k ar do ffed hi s cap.
H i ghl i ght s o f hi s chessi ng car eer
N o o f games i n dat abase fr o m 1984 t o 2012: 2,586
H e l ear nt chess fr o m hi s mo t her at age 6
Became t he yo ungest Indi an t o ear n t he t i t l e o f IM at 15 i n 1984.
Yo ungest ever Indi an champi o n at 16
Tbe rst |nolan to wln tbe Worlo [unlor Cbamplon ln 1987
|nola's rst granomaster
|nola's ano Asla's rst Worlo Cbamplon.
Tbe rst Worlo Cbamplon slnce Robert [ames Flscber wbo olo
no t o r i gi nat e fr o m o ne o f t he co unt r i es o f t he er st w hi l e So vi et
bl o c.
A nand i s o ne o f si x pl ayer s i n hi st o r y t o cr ack t he 2800 mar k .
Fi r st pl ayer t o w i n t he put at i ve w o r l d champi o nshi p vi a k no cko ut
t o ur nament , r o und r o bi n t o ur nament and t r adi t i o nal mat ch pl ay.
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K r eat i ve Ko r ner 52
Fo r yo ur Eyes o nl y! 55
L i fe began wi t h waki n g up &
l ovi n g my mot her s face.
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Have you notlceo tbat tbe rst syllable you ever utter ln llte no matter wbere yo u ar e i n
t he w o r l d, w hat yo ur cul t ur al upbr i ngi ng i s, o r w hat yo ur fami l y t eaches yo u t o say i n t he
nascent year s o f yo ur ex i st ence, i s M a? T he si mpl e j ux t apo si t i o n o f o ne co nso nant and o ne
vo w el encapsul at es w i t hi n i t , a uni ver se. W hat i s a mo t her ? So me say t hat a mo t her i s t he bei ng
t hat go d cr eat ed because he co ul dnt be ever yw her e. So me say a mo t her i s t he so ul t hat gi ves
l i fe t he o nl y bei ng t o be abl e t o do so . But I m no t r eal l y sur e w er e r i ght o n t hat o ne ho w
can you oene sucb a tblng as Motber? Wberever on eartb wlll you no a parallel fo r such
love as a motber's love? Wbere woulo you no a belng so wllllng to sacrlce tor a n o t h e r
belng? Tbere ls so mucb to say ln oenltlon, so mucb to say ln tbe bope ot conveylng a meani ng but no
l anguage w i l l ever be eno ugh.
Fr o m Punyako t i , t he gent l e co w w ho r efused t o gi ve up her chi l d t o a t i ger, and begged fo r her t o be eat en
i nst ead, and even r et ur ned t o t he t i ger aft er feedi ng her chi l d o ne l ast t i me, ho no ur i ng her w o r d, t o br ave
Panna wbo sacrlceo ber cbllo tor tbe royal cbllo sbe bao glven ber woro to guaro w i t h her l i fe, hi st o r y has a
r eper t o i r e o f w o men w ho have put t hei r mat er nal i nst i nct s befo r e anyt hi ng el se. A n d t hi s i s no t j ust t r ue o f
t hem, but t r ue o f yo ur mo t her and mi ne. T he bo nd w i t h a mo t her i s l i ke no t hi ng e l s e a llal attacbment
t hat i s unpar al l el ed i n k i nd no mat t er t he age, t he desi gnat i o n o r t he gender, t o ever yo ne i n t he
w o r l d, M o t her means ho me. T hi nk abo ut i t w hen I say H o me , w hat co mes t o mi nd? Br i ck , mud,
w al l s, w o o d? O r t he i mage o f yo ur mo t her s w ar m smi l e, ever w el co mi ng hands and a w ar m, hear t fel t
and l o vi ngl y pr epar ed ho t meal ?
T he l at t er, i snt i t ?
T he bo nd bet w een yo u and yo ur mo t her i s fo r ged i n heaven t her e i s a bel i ef t hat a mo t her summo ns a so ul fr o m t he beyo nd w i t h
a cal l fr o m her hear t , and t hus, t hat so ul beco mes her chi l d. H o w st r o ng a bo nd i s t hat , r i ght ? H o w w o nder ful and pr o fo und t hat
r el at i o nshi p i s, r i ght ? T her e ar e a t ho usand r el at i o ns yo u mi ght have fr i ends, enemi es, co usi ns, aunt s, uncl es, br o t her s, si st er s but no t
one can replace wbat you bave wltb your parents especlally your motber. 8earlng tbe toetus ln lts rst nlne montbs ln tbe cusblon
ot ber womb, a motber ls tbe rst assoclatlon tor a soul on tbe planet tbe cbannel, tbe conoult, tbat brlngs tbe soul lnto tbe worlo
t o ex i st . Tr easur e t hat bo nd, cher i sh i t and al l o w i t t o nur t ur e. A s a yo ungst er, many a t hi ng yo ur mo t her t el l s yo u t o do mi ght seem
unfai r, bo r i ng o r w r o ng . But w al k a mi l e l o nger, and yo u l l see ho w much sense t hey r eal l y made.
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From Kir t his Desk .....
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Mandu Mohan wr it es t o Bill Gat es
about problems associat edwit h PC
& Windows
1. M y chi l d l ear ned M S W O RD no w he
w ant s M S SEN T EN C E.
2. | no only
RE- C YC LE BIN but no
RE- M O TO RC YC LE BIN
3. I see M S O FFIC E but I w ant t o use t hi s
so ft w ar e @ ho me so I need M S H O M E.
4. Fi nal l y, ho w i s t hat yo ur name i s G AT ES
but u r sel l i ng W IN D O W S?
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The Requirement s for t his Job

Empl o yer : In t hi s j o b w e need so meo ne
w ho i s r espo nsi bl e.
A ppl i cant : I m t he o ne yo u w ant . O n my
l ast j o b, ever y t i me anyt hi ng w ent w r o ng,
t hey sai d I w as r espo nsi bl e.
Why is Facebook so successful?
T he secr et o f i t s success i t w o r k s
on tbe tbeory tbat people no otber
peo pl es l i ves mo r e i nt er est i ng t han t hei r
o w n.
Befo r e he w as k i l l ed, O sama Bi n Laden
w as k no w n t o bel i eve i n ast r o l o gy and
w ent t o an ast r o l o ger t o ask hi m w hen
he w i l l di e.
T he ast r o l o ger t o l d hi m t hat he w i l l di e
o n an A mer i can ho l i day
O sama asked hi m, H o w co ul d yo u be
sur e o f t hat ?
W el l , any day yo u di e w i l l be mo st
cer t ai nl y be an A mer i can ho l i day.
Jo kes C o nt r i but ed by K aj al Jai sw al
Quizzer ia?
Q : I m t he begi nni ng o f t he end.
Yo u can see me t w i ce i n a decade,
But o nce i n a year & no t i n day,
But o nce i n June & t w i ce i n a w eek .
O nl y geni uses can answ er
W hat am I?
Q: I am 10 l et t er w o r d,
M y 1234 has po w er t o r ul e,
U eat my 5678.
M y 89 & 10 means o f a l ady,
| can Ny wbat am | ?
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Teen Kooks
Teen Kook is back w it h a big
bang. W e br ing t o you easy
t o t ur n out r ecip es f r om
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youngst er s. D o you have
a r ecip e? D o send in your
r ecip e, a candid snap and
a lit t le about your self t o us
at edit or et g@ gm ail.com
and w in a sur p r ise gif t . This
issue w e br ing Sr ut i t o you
w ho w ill int r oduce you t o
t he w or ld of desser t s!
Chocol at e Fudge
Tr adi t i onal I ndi an sweet s ar e
usual l y t oo heavy and sweet . Af t er
di nner desser t s shoul d be l i ght on
t he st omach. Count l ess var i et i es
of desser t s gi ve us a l i ght choi ce
t o p amp er our t ast e buds. What
st ar t ed out as cur i osi t y and f un
f ol l owi ng cooker y and baki ng shows
i n channel s l i ke TLC and YouTube
devel op ed i nt o an ent er p r i se f or
Shant a Sr ut i Bhaskar.
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Chocol at e M ousse
T
he eur ek a mo ment , w as
an ent r epr eneur i al bazaar,
a busi ness t est r un fo r a
car eer. N o t fo l l o w i ng t he
co nvent i o nal i deas o f o r di nar y
cakes ano mutns, ano belng part ot a
pur e veget ar i an fami l y, al l t he cakes and
mutns wbere totally eggless, wblcb were
a bi g hi t and a chal l enge . C o mpl et i ng
her gr aduat i o n i n Jo ur nal i sm fr o m M O P
Vai shnav C o l l ege l ast year and a D i pl o ma i n
ex ecut i ve M BA fr o m LIBA , ex per i ment i ng
on varlous cakes ano mutns, lncluolng
br o w ni es, mo usse, cl ai r s, et c became her
passi o n. A ppr eci at i o n and suppo r t fr o m
trlenos ano tamlly boosteo ber conoence
. She put up smal l no t i ces o n Facebo o k
and o t her so ci al medi a si t es and w as
pl easant l y sur pr i sed t o get o r der s fr o m
fr i ends and acquai nt ances. So o n she
st ar t ed bak i ng fr o m ho me and co nver t ed
her l o ve fo r bak i ng i nt o a pr o fessi o nal set
up.
Chocol at e M ousse
Ingredient s
150g mi ni mar shmal l o w s
50g so ft but t er
250g go o d dar k cho co l at e ( mi ni mum 70%
co co a so l i ds) , cho pped i nt o smal l pi eces
60ml ho t w at er
500 gm cr eam
1 t easpo o n vani l l a ex t r act
Met hod
Pl ace t he mar shmal l o w s, but t er, cho co l at e
and w at er i n a heavy- based saucepan.
Pl ace t he saucepan o n t he ho b o ver
keepi ng t he heat fai r l y gent l e, t o mel t t he
co nt ent s, st i r r i ng ever y no w and agai n.
Remo ve fr o m t he heat .
M eanw hi l e, w hi p t he cr eam w i t h t he
vani l l a ex t r act unt i l t hi ck , and t hen fo l d
i nt o t he co o l i ng cho co l at e mi x t ur e unt i l
yo u have a smo o t h, co hesi ve mi x t ur e.
Po ur o r scr ape i nt o 4 gl asses o r r amek i ns,
abo ut 175ml each i n capaci t y, o r 6 smal l er
( 125ml ) o nes, and chi l l unt i l yo u w ant t o
eat . T he so o ner t he bet t er !
Ser ves: 4- 6
5 M i nut e Fudge
Ingredient s
2 t abl espo o ns but t er
2/ 3 cup evapo r at ed mi l k
1 2/ 3 cup sugar
1/ 2 t easpo o n sal t
2 cups mi ni at ur e mar shmal l o w s
1 cup cho co l at e chi ps
1 t easpo o n vani l l a
Met hod
C o mbi ne but t er, mi l k , sal t i n a medi um si ze
po t o n medi um heat . Br i ng t o a bo i l . C o o k
4- 5 mi nut es, st i r r i ng co nst ant l y. Remo ve
fr o m heat .
St i r i n mar shmal l o w s, cho co l at e, vani l l a.
St i r vi go r o usl y fo r 1 mi nut e unt i l
mar shmal l o w s and cho co l at e mel t and
bl end.
Po ur i nt o 8 i nch squar e but t er ed pan.
C o o l . C ut i nt o squar es.
C o mpi l ed by Ji nal Pat el
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C
o me o n gi r l s! O ut w i t h
yo ur cycl es and o ff t o
t he beach. Pack yo ur
fo o t bal l , Fr i sbee, t o w el ,
w at er bo t t l e i nt o a
back pack and peddl e aw ay. It i s summer
t i me. T he sun i s up by 5 and t he day i s
l o ng eno ugh fo r so me fun act i vi t i es. C o o l
co t t o ns, br i ght co l o ur s, sho r t s, sal w ar,
pant s o f di ffer ent l engt hs, anyt hi ng i s co o l
as l o ng as i t i s co mfo r t abl e. St yl e i t up and
pr o t ect yo ur hai r w i t h a cap o r a scar f
o r a bandana. H er e co mes t he sun and
out are ye butterNles. Aoo on tbat smlle
t hat per k s up yo ur cheek s and gi ggl e and
I n t he
SRQG
on t he bank ....
Teen Fit ness
peddl e al o ng o n yo ur bi cycl es. A ho y! Summer ho l i days .her e
w e co me.
Lo ck yo ur cycl es and r un al o ng t o w ar ds t he w at er. W at ch
t he beaut y o f t he shi mmer i ng go l d o n t he sea ..and l o o k at
t he w aves t r yi ng t o br i ng t hem t o yo u. Just l ap i t al l up - t hi s
pr et t y mo ment i s fo r ever y o ne o f yo u. Si t do w n fo r a mo ment
and j ust o bser ve t he w at er, t he l i t t l e r i ppl es t ur ni ng i nt o a w ave
pushi ng o ne aft er t he o t her and gushi ng o nt o t he sho r e o nl y t o
go back and st ar t al l o ver agai n. Fo l l o w t he w ave w i t h yo ur eyes
as t hey mo ve back and fo r t h and gent l y cl o se yo ur eyes. Feel t he
ai r br eeze o ver yo ur sk i n. Li st en t o t he so und o f t he sea and ho w
i t i s unaffect ed by w hat ever i s happeni ng ar o und. So co nst ant , so
co nsi st ent , w i t h a r hyt hm o f i t s o w n!
St r i ng al l yo ur chappal s i nt o a r o pe, any r o pe i f yo u br o ught a
sk i ppi ng r o pe j ust use i t and make a l i ne o n t he sand w i t h i t . T hi s
can be yo ur net t o pl ay Fr i sbee o r bal l . Jump up t o r each and r un
i n al l di r ect i o ns t o cat ch w hat i s speedi ng i n t he ai r. D o no t w ai t
fo r so mebo dy t o pi ck up and hand o ver t he bal l , yo u pi ck i t up
yo ur sel f. O nce yo u ar e w ar med up aft er so me pl ay, w e w i l l do
so me feet ar t o n t he sand.
Smo o t hen o ut an ar ea t o be used as a dr aw i ng bo ar d o r j ust
al l o w t he w ave t o do i t fo r yo u by t he sho r e. T ho se o f yo u w ho
have an ar t i st i c l eani ng can dr aw mehendi pat t er ns i n t he sand
o t her s j ust do w o r d ar t and w r i t e yo ur name o r j ust a j umbl e
o f al phabet s\ number s i n di ffer ent di r ect i o ns usi ng yo ur cr eat i ve
sense. Yo u k no w w hat ? Yo u ar e act ual l y t o ni ng yo ur ent i r e l egs
fr o m hi p t o t o e so bal ance i t o ut and use t he o t her l eg t o o .
Yo ur mi nd i s cal m and al er t and t he cr eat i ve ener gy bo o st s up
yo ur st r engt h and endur ance. Suck i n yo ur t ummy t o suppo r t
yo ur spi ne and get t hat bal ance w hi l e yo u dr aw w i t h o ne l eg and
st and o n t he o t her. Beach Pi l at es .j ust gi ve i t a name, aft er al l
Shakespear e hi msel f has sai d
W hat s i n a name? T hat w hi ch w e cal l a r o se
by any o t her name w o ul d smel l as sw eet .
W hat w e need t o k no w i s t hat w e have w o r ked o ur co r e w hi ch
i s t he t ummy, fo r havi ng eat i ng al l t hat yummy st uff t hat mo mmy
made.
N o w, t i me t o t o ne up yo ur sho ul der s, ar ms and t he ent i r e
upper t o r so . D o w n o n yo ur k nees i n vaj r asana, pul l i n yo ur
abs ano beno over to olg. Use a sbovel or just your ngers ano
hands- i t i s j ust sand so fo r get t he mess and l et us pl ay. Sho vel
o ut as much as yo u can and make a t unnel o r a w el l . M o del o ut
t he met r o t unnel i ng and name yo ur dest i nat i o ns. Pant i ng? G o o d,
so yo u have w o r ked up yo ur hear t and l ung syst em t ak i ng i n
max i mum o x ygen and bo o st i ng up yo ur met abo l i sm, i mpr o vi ng
yo ur i mmuni t y and get t i ng r eady fo r t hat pr et t y pi nk sl eevel ess
t o p t hat yo u saw o n t he mannequi n at t he mal l .
Ro l l o n t he sand and al l o w i t t o st i ck o n t o yo u. G et up and
w ash, w e have eno ugh w at er and mo r e w i t h ever y w ave t hat sl aps
yo u fo r bei ng sandy. Ro l l o n sand agai n and get sl apped agai n fun
ano trollc ls all lt takes to get actlve ano t. Take a walk by tbe
sho r e and l et t he sea br eeze dr y yo u up. T i me t o go ho me and
br eak fast i s r eady o n t he t abl e. Sat i at e yo ur r umbl i ng t ummy and
chat aw ay t o gl o r y.
H A PPY H O LID AYS .STA RT YO U R D AY W IT H T H E SU N
A N D W AT C H YO U R EN ERG Y FLO W EN D LESSLY C H EERS!
Vijaya Chamundeswar i
Fltness Consultant - Certleo
by T he A mer i can C o unci l o n
Ex er ci se ( A C E) ,
Reebo k , Int egr al Yo ga Inst i t ut e ( IYI) ,
Pi l at es Inst i t ut e o f A mer i ca ( PIA ) .
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Fashion Diar ies
Fashi on
Fabul ous
O n a S hoe S t ri ng B udget
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T he t i ps and t r i ck s t o a fabl uo us
w ar dr o be w i t hi n yo ur budget .
Bei ng a co l l ege gi r l i s no t easy. Keepi ng
tabs wltb tasblon ano Nauntlng tbe
same i s even mo r e t edi o us; especi al l y
fo r t ho se w i t h ho l ed w al l et s. H er e i s
a gui de put t o get her fo r C hennai i t es
w ho cal l fashi o n t hei r mi ddl e name
and defend i t , no mat t er w hat .
Let us begi n w i t h st uff w e al r eady
o w n.
RutNe tbrougb your untoucbeo
w ar dr o bes sect i o ns, t r unk s o r
dr aw er s t hat yo u may t hi nk co nt ai n
anci ent ar t i fact s. But bel i eve me,
u mlgbt be surprlseo to no olo
j ew el l er y, bags, cl o t hes t hat di d no t
t once upon a tlme llke tbe (now)
baggy j eans. Just a l i t t l e al t er at i o n o r
add- o ns l i ke sequi ns, gl i t t er, but t o ns
o r t hr ead- w o r k can t r ansfo r m o l d
i nt o new and funk y.
Si st er s, so I hear d, shar e no t hi ng, but
i f yo u have br o t her s yo u ar e l uck y.
O l d t - shi r t s, sho r t s, caps and spo r t s
w at ches can add t o yo ur al r eady
fabul o us w ar dr o be.
T hi s i s o ne pl ace yo u sho ul d no t l eave
unt o uched, t ho ugh i t mi ght be t he
end o f yo u- yo ur mo t her s w ar dr o be.
Ever y mo t her has t he habi t o f st o r i ng
and safe- keepi ng. W hat yo u mi ght no t
k no w i s t hat t hei r w ar dr o bes co nt ai n
br eat h- t ak i ng dupat t as o r sar ees t hat
co ul d be w o r n j ust as t hey ar e o r be
st i t ched i nt o et hni c sal w ar sui t s o r
k ur t i s.
O w n cl o t hes t hat have o dd o r funny
l o o k i ng sl eeves? C ut t hem o ff. Yo u
can gi ve t hem a r ugged o r j agged
l o o k o r a neat cut . W ear t hem w i t h
st o l es o r shr ugs i f sl eevel ess makes
yo u unco mfo r t abl e.
T he easi est and mo st co mmo n fo r m
o f ho me- made fashi o n- C ut o ffs.
Take o ut yo ur o l dest and mo st w o r n
o ut j eans and cut t he l egs o ff at t he
sui t abl e l engt h o f yo ur cho i ce. Yo u can
ei t her st i t ch t he edges o r l eave t hem
as t hey ar e fo r a r ugged l o o k . C ut o ffs
can al so be made fr o m t r o user s and
unusual l y l o ng t hr ee- fo ur t hs.
T he nex t o n t he l i st i s a bl essi ng i n
di sgui se. Yo u mi ght cur se yo ur sel f ( fo r
bei ng t he yo ungest i n t he fami l y) o r
yo ur co unt l ess co usi ns, but hand- me-
do w ns ar e w hat gener o usl y ex pand
yo ur w ar dr o be. If yo u sear ch t hr o ugh
t he al r eady w o r n and o w ned , yo u
wlll be surprlseo to no clotbes tbat
w o ul d l ast yo u at l east a few w eek s
( w i t ho ut r epet i t i o n! ) . Remember
tbat alteratlon ano moolcatlon can
t r ansfo r m t he dr ab t o damsel - l i ke!
C hant t hi s as yo ur new per so nal
mant r a- mend and r e- use. Be i t
sl i pper s o r bags; a t ear o r a snapped
st r ap do es no t necessar i l y put t hem
i n t he t r ash l i st . T hi s i s w hy yo u must
keep a l o o k - o ut fo r co bbl er s i n yo ur
nei ghbo ur ho o d. T hey can mend
anyt hi ng and make i t l o o k ( al mo st ) as
go o d as new.
Can't no a cobbler to temporarlly
your worn out sllppers? Wby
no t t r y headi ng t o Fo unt ai n Pl aza
i nst ead? Si t uat ed at Egmo r e, t hi s i s
t he heavenl y abo de o f fo o t w ear. Yo u
can no lncreolbly attoroable Nats,
varlous klnos ot Nlp-Nops to kolapurls
t hat co me i n a mul t i t ude o f co l o ur s.
Lo w o n under w ear ? T he sho p nex t
do o r o w ned by a mo t her - so n duo
has ever yt hi ng yo u need.
A ve mlnute walk trom Fountaln
Plaza ano you wlll no Clssons
C o r ner. T he basement o ffer s yo u a
mi nd- bl o w i ng set o f sho ps t hat sel l
t - shi r t s, sho r t s and sl i pper s fo r j ust a
few hundr ed r upees.
G o o d o l d Spencer s i s famo us fo r
i t s 100 buck s t - shi r t s. If yo u hunt
etclently, you'o oenltely no
co mfo r t abl y o ver - si zed gr aphi c
t - shi r t s at o ne o f t he numer o us
sho ps.
Jut e Sho p at Spencer Pl aza sel l s so me
ver y affo r dabl e eco - fr i endl y bags i n
di ffer ent si zes and co l o ur s.
Tr ust me w hen I say Bi g Bazaar i s no t
unco o l . It i s o ne o f t he best hyper
marts to no amazlng stutt at truly
unbel i evabl e pr i zes. W est er n, Indi an
et hni c w ear, spo r t sw ear, under w ear -
name i t . Tr ue, t hey may no t be l abel ed
l i ke so me o f o ur br and- co nsci o us
peer s t hi nk ( w i t h r epul si o n) . But
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wbo cares? You can no some unlque stutt
bere tbat no one else woulo Naunt, unllke
Li fest yl e k ur t i s w hi ch a bi l l i o n o t her gi r l s
o w n.
M ake sur e t o have st andar d co l o ur ed
bo t t o ms, dupat t as o r k ur t i s. Bl ack , w hi t e,
o ff- w hi t e, bei ge and mar o o n ar e must -
haves. T hi s can effo r t l essl y enhance and
ex pand yo ur w ar dr o be. So w hen yo u go
sho ppi ng, yo u can pi ck a k ur t i t hat w o ul d
go w i t h so me dupat t a- bo t t o m set s. O r
yo u can get a pat i al a- dupat t a set w hi ch
w o ul d go w i t h a co upl e o f yo ur k ur t i s.
H unt i ng fo r accesso r i es? W el l , hunt fo r
gypsy w o men i nst ead! T he k i nd w ho sel l
tbose gorgeous beaos. You wlll no tbem
at Besant N agar, i f no t any o t her pl ace,
si t t i ng by t he r o ads w i t h myr i ad co l o ur s
o f beaded ear r i ngs, neck l aces and ank l et s.
Bar gai n a l i t t l e ( do nt fo r get t o be ni ce)
and yo ud be o n cl o ud ni ne fo r t he r est
o f t he day.
A s t he cher r y o n t o p, w e have Po ndy
Bazaar ; w hi ch has been ever - famo us fo r
i t s affo r dabi l i t y and avai l abi l i t y o f go o ds.
T hi ngs ar e cheap o r can be mer ci l essl y
bar gai ned fo r.
H appy Sho ppi ng!
Li ya Ro y
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3 C o me summer and i t s t i me fo r a?
6 Pr o t ect s yo ur sk i n fr o m t he sum
7 I w ant t o j ump i nt o a..........
8 8lg lusclous julcy trult Nlp Nops
9 G ucci , Pr ada,Rayban
12 Bui l di ng................... i n t he sand
13 Refer eshi ng summer dr i nk
D own
1 H o t summer br eeze
2 Summer sho es
4 I scr eam,yo u scr eam,w e al l scr eam fo r ?
5 A co o l summer
6 T her e i s a cal m befo r e ever y.............
10 21 June i s t he summer.............
11 Sand, sea- sho r e and sunshi ne
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4 8 2 6 1
1 6 4
5 8
5 7
7 4 1 2
5 3
2 6
9
3 8 4 9
2 9 4 1 8 7 5 3 6
6 5 3 2 4 9 8 1 7
8 1 7 3 6 5 4 2 9
7 3 9 8 1 6 2 4 5
5 2 1 4 9 3 7 6 8
4 8 6 7 5 2 1 9 3
9 4 8 6 7 1 3 5 2
3 7 5 9 2 4 6 8 1
1 6 2 5 3 8 9 7 4
Solution
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St ew ar desses i s t he l o ngest w o r d t yped
w i t h o nl y t he l eft hand and l o l l i po p i s t he
l o ngest w o r d t yped w i t h yo ur r i ght hand..
N o w o r d i n t he Engl i sh l anguage r hymes
w i t h
mo nt h, o r ange, si l ver, o r pur pl e.
D r eamt i s t he o nl y Engl i sh w o r d t hat
ends i n t he l et t er s mt .
O ur eyes ar e al w ays t he same si ze fr o m
bi r t h, but o ur no se and ear never st o p
gr o w i ng.
T he sent ence,
T he qui ck br o w n fo x j umps o ver t he l azy
do g
uses ever y l et t er o f t he al phabet .
T he w o r ds r acecar k ayak and l evel ar e
t he same w het her t hey ar e r ead l eft t o
r i ght o r r i ght t o l eft ( pal i ndr o mes) .
T her e ar e o nl y fo ur w o r ds i n t he Engl i sh
l anguage w hi ch end i n do us :
t r emendo us, ho r r endo us, st upendo us,
and hazar do us.
T her e ar e t w o w o r ds i n t he Engl i sh
l anguage
tbat bave all ve vowels ln oroer:
abst emi o us and facet i o us .
T YPEW RIT ER i s t he l o ngest w o r d t hat
can be made usi ng t he l et t er s o nl y o n o ne
r o w o f t he keybo ar d.
A cat has 32 muscl es i n each ear.
A golosb bas a memory span ot tbree
seco nds.
A j i ffy i s an act ual uni t o f t i me fo r 1/ 100t h
o f a seco nd.
A sbark ls tbe only sb tbat can bllnk
w i t h bo t h eyes.
A snai l can sl eep fo r t hr ee year s.
( I k no w so me peo pl e t hat co ul d do t hi s,
t o o ! )
A l mo nds ar e a member o f t he peach
fami l y.
A n o st r i chs eye i s bi gger t han i t s br ai n.
( I k no w so me peo pl e l i ke t hat , al so .)
Babi es ar e bo r n w i t ho ut k neecaps.
T hey do nt appear unt i l t he chi l d
r eaches 2 t o 6 year s o f age.
Febr uar y 1865 i s t he o nl y mo nt h i n
r eco r ded hi st o r y no t t o have a ful l mo o n.
In t he l ast 4,000 year s, no new ani mal s
have been do mest i cat ed.
If t he po pul at i o n o f C hi na w al ked past yo u,
8 abr east , t he l i ne w o ul d never end
because
o f t he r at e o f r epr o duct i o n.
Leo nar do D a Vi nci i nvent ed t he sci sso r s.
Peanut s ar e o ne o f t he i ngr edi ent s o f
dynami t e!
Rubber bands l ast l o nger w hen
r efr i ger at ed.
T he aver age per so ns l eft hand do es 56%
o f t he t ypi ng.
T he cr ui se l i ner, Q E 2,
mo ves o nl y si x i nches fo r each gal l o n o f
di esel t hat i t bur ns.
T he mi cr o w ave w as i nvent ed aft er a
r esear cher w al ked by a r adar t ube and a
cho co l at e bar mel t ed i n hi s po cket .
( G o o d t hi ng he di d t hat .)
T he w i nt er o f 1932 w as so co l d t hat
N i agar a Fal l s fr o ze co mpl et el y so l i d.
T her e ar e mo r e chi ckens t han peo pl e i n
t he w o r l d.
W i nst o n C hur chi l l w as bo r n i n a l adi es
r o o m dur i ng a dance.
W o men bl i nk near l y t w i ce as much as
men.
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Kajal Jaiswal
Quality is what I give and is what I want,
says young entrepreneur Gunjan Parekh,
whose love and passion for art have made her
the owner of Dzine studio. Her classes offer
a range of activities for children and adults,
helping them learn different kinds of painting,
paper craft and various other art forms. Those
interested in learning 3D Acrylic painting (wall
clock, name plates, jewellery box, fancy trays),
Madhubani painting, oil and glass painting,
fower making, drawing and sketching, Quilling
and 3D origami must join Dzine studio. Today
Gunjan has a minimum of 40 students learning
art every day, with age being no bar.
From Gunjans treasure chest: Lets learn, easy
to make - gift envelopes
Thi n gs n eeded:
x Readily available plain envelope
x Craft sheet/colour A4 sheet
x Design punch machine
x Punch craft pad
x Colourful quilling strips
x Crimper
x 3mm sheets
x Glue
x Scissors
x Embossing tool
x Pearl or any other decorative stone
St eps:
1. Take any colour
craft sheet/ A4 sheet
and using a design
punching machine
punch the sheets to
create fowers and leaves as
per requirement.
2. Once the punching is
done use the
embossing tool to
add texture to the punched fowers
r eat i ve
or n er
K
and leaves placing
them on a punch
craft pad and then
keep them aside.
3. Next, take any
colour
quilling
strip
that
is in
contrast
to the
envelope and add a
corrugated effect to
it using the crimper
as shown in the
image.
4. Cut the corrugated
quilling strips
according to the
length and breadth
of the envelope
and stick them
horizontally and
vertically on the
readymade
envelope
using
glue as
shown in
the image.
5. Pick any colour
3mm sheets and cut
them into
thin strips.
6. With the
help of glue stick
the 3mm strips to
form a bouquet as
shown in the image.
7. Place some glue at
the edges of the
3mm sheet
strips
and
stick the
colourIul fowers
and leaves to
make it look like a
bouquet.
8. Use the left over
quilling strip to
make a bow
and
place it over the
bouquet using glue.
9. Place fancy stone
using glue, on the
bow for decorative
purpose and set
aside to dry.
10. Gift envelope is
ready for use.
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C hi nmayi Sr i pada vi a Tw i t t er
C hi nmayi RT @ go vi ndet hi r aj : Fo r t he
par t y t hi s eveni ng, w e ar e ser vi ng pet r o l
sho t s o f 30 ml each. Yo u do nt even need a
Li quo r Per mi t .
Bi l l G at es @ Bi l l G at es
A l l k i ds deser ve t o get vacci nes.
T hi s i s a huge vi ct o r y t o pr o t ect
chi l dr en w o r l dw i de. ht t p:/ / b- gat .es/
L0sXT7 #wba65 #pollo
C het an Bhagat @ chet an_ bhagat
So me peo pl e need t o t ake a bo w l o f r asam
and dr o w n i n i t .
Bar ack O bama @ Bar ack O bama
M i ddl e- cl ass fami l i es l i ke mi ne need t o
have a l eader l i ke yo u st andi ng up fo r t he
i ssues t hat mat t er mo st . ht t p:/ / O FA .BO /
JuZ Rj 1
Raj deep Sar desai @ sar desai r aj deep
i ndi a at 9: w hat r eal l y happened t o t he si bal
pr o mi se o f l o w co st t abl et s fo r st udent s?
A mi t abh Bachchan @ Sr Bachchan
T 755 - G o o gl i sdi ct i o npedi a .. ! ! H a ! !
A t t r i but e t hi s t o ear l y mo r ni ng befo r e t he
co ffee, hal l uci nat o r y aber r at i o ns ! !
T 755 - So ci al net w o r k i ng i s so r el i evi ng
.. glves llberty a oenltlon, unbearo ano
unt r aceabl e i n any G o o gl i sdi ct i o npedi a .. ! !
D eepi k a Paduko ne @ deepi k apaduko ne
C O C K TA IL 13t h JU LY! ! !
G enel i a D so uza @ genel i ad
T hank u so o much sk @ shahi dk apo o r A
huge sho ut o ut t o @ mubi nar at sey N @
genel i ad fo r t he t ami l r el ease o f U RU M I.
C o ngr at s o n t he super r evi ew s
Shahi d K apo o r @ shahi dk apo o r
A huge sho ut o ut t o @ mubi nar at t o nsey.
N @ genel i ad fo r t he t ami l r el ease o f
U RU M I ....... C o ngr at s o n t he super
r evi ew s
T 754 - Yo u can get l uck y al l t he t i me,
but w hen yo u get unl uck y o nl y o nce, t hat
o nce has t he capaci t y t o ei t her make o r
br eak yo u ...
Pr i yank a C ho pr a @ pr i yank acho pr a
Tbank goo tor long Nlgbts..tbe sllence ot
t he cabi n..no o ne t o di st ur b ur t ho ught s..
no t hi ng t o t hi nk o f..j ust me n my bo o k ..
t i l l u l and....
M ast M O G LI @ M ast _ M O G LI
ActorMaobavan #orlnk ano #orlve wont
be pr o bl em aft er al l ho w many w i l l ne abl e
to attoro #alcbol & #petrol on same oay
Ret w eet ed by Ranganat han M adhavan
Chinmayi / Chinmayee@ Chinmayi
W el l do ne gi r l s. Yo u r ul e! ! :D RT @ ndt v:
C BSE r esul t s 2012: O nce agai n, gi r l s
o ut shi ne bo ys i n cl ass X ex ams
24 M ay
C hi nmayi / C hi nmayee @ C hi nmayi
24 M ay
A .R.Rahman@ ar r ahman
We are tbls close to enolng #pollo. vlew
an lntograpblc on wby reacblng tbe nal
1 ls tbe most oltcult.
24 M ay
Ranganat han M adhavan @ A ct o r M adhavan
h t t p : / / w w w . yo u t u b e . c o m / w at c h ?v = C b -
29K l 2k t c .. W O W .. H ar d hi t t i ng I am t o l d..
A l l t he best fo l k s.
24 M ay
Bi pasha Basu@ bi psl uvur sel f
G et M o t i vat ed no w ! A nd fo r m a habi t o f
Lo vi ng Yo ur sel f!
T weet Beat
For Your Eyes Onl y
A l exandr eena S neha Radhi sh
56
Thi s i s a f un col umn, a f r i endl y ex change
bet ween you and your f r i ends. I f you
f eel l i ke op eni ng out your hear t t o
someone, our young f r i ends wi l l t o l end
you a hel p i ng hand t o p ut t hi ngs i n t he
r i ght p er sp ect i ve. Thi s may hel p sor t
out conf usi ons and you may be abl e t o
t ake deci si ons bol dl y. Remember, t hi s
i s not p r of essi onal hel p but j ust a l i t t l e
bi t of shar i ng and car i ng among t he
yout h commune. Those of you who ar e
i nt er est ed i n of f er i ng sol ut i ons or t hose
who seek t he sup p or t of t hei r young
f r i ends t o sor t out t hei r i ssues can
dash a mai l t o edi t or et g@gmai l .com.
Fr i ends of f er i ng t hei r t i me and t hought
t o hel p out must al so send i n t hei r p i x .
You can ask her anyt hi ng under t he
sun but t hi s col umn i s meant onl y f or
t he t eensAD U LT ALERT!
M y mai d ser vant i s a 70- year o l d l ady w ho
has been w o r k i ng fo r me fo r qui t e a w hi l e.
H avi ng been abused by and al co ho l i c
husband w ho l at er di ed, she go t al l t hr ee
o f her daught er mar r i ed t o o l der men
ho pi ng t o avo i d do w r y. N o w she w ant s
t o get her 17 year o l d gr anddaught er
mar r i ed t o an o l d man. T he gi r l i s a ver y
br i ght st udent and has go t decent mar k s
i n Pl us 2. She i s ver y keen t o do her hi gher
educat i o n ho w ever, her gr andmo t her i s
no t w i l l i ng t o l et her co nt i nue, as she i s
no w w o r k i ng and ear ni ng. I have o ffer ed
t o fund her fo r her co l l ege educat i o n. But
t he o l d l ady i s adamant t hat she sho ul d
no t go t o co l l ege, par t l y because she i s
w o r r i ed t hat t he gi r l may have an affai r and
par t l y because she t hi ngs t hat i f t he gi r l
get s educat ed, she w i l l beco me ar r o gant .
M o r eo ver she w ant s t o r el i nqui sh her
r espo nsi bi l i t i es by mar r yi ng her o ff t o
tbe rst olo wloower can set ber eyes on,
w het her he has chi l dr en o l der t han t he
gi r l o f no t . I w ant t o hel p t he gi r l w i t ho ut
seemi ng t o i nt er fer e i n t hei r fami l y affai r s.
I need so me suggest i o ns o n ho w t o go
abo ut t hi s. I canno t see t he l i fe o f a yo ung
and br i ght gi r l w ast ed aw ay due t o a m i nd
st eeped i n super st i t i o ns, i gno r ance and
avar i ce.
U mme A i man Z ak i r
H el l o U mme A i man,
Well rstly, you sboulo make your malo
under st and t hat i t i s agai nst t he l aw t o get
her 17 year o l d gr anddaught er mar r i ed o ff.
T he l egal age fo r mar r i age i n o ur co unt r y
i s 18 year s fo r a gi r l and 21 fo r a bo y. If
t he gi r l o r bo y i s under age w hi l e ent er i ng
i nt o mat r i mo ny, ei t her fo r ceful l y o r w i t h
co nsent , i t w i l l be t r eat ed as an o ffense.
Yo ur mai d needs t o under st and t hat i nst ead
o f t r yi ng t o get r i d o f her gr anddaught er,
she sho ul d enco ur age her gr anddaught er
t o co nt i nue her hi gher st udi es. By do i ng
so she w o ul d be empo w er i ng t he l i t t l e
gi r l w i t h t he k no w l edge t hat she r equi r es
t o sur vi ve i n t hi s do g- eat - do g w o r l d. T he
w i sdo m t hat she gai ns w o ul d hel p her t o
cho o se t he r i ght pat h w hen faced w i t h
llte's most oltcult moments ano belp
br i ng t he ent i r e fami l y o ut o f po ver t y
and i l l i t er acy w hi ch, acco r di ng t o me ar e
t he r o o t causes o f al l pr o bl ems. Si nce
t he gr anddaught er i s keen t o pur sue
her st udi es, by no t get t i ng her mar r i ed
ott young ano by belplng ber no a job
aft er st udi es i nst ead, t he gr andmo t her
w o ul d be hel pi ng her sel f and t he w ho l e
fami l y. In t o days w o r l d w i t h so much o f
o ppo r t uni t y fo r anyo ne w ho i s w i l l i ng
t o w o r k har d, speci al i sed under st andi ng
ot any subject, oepenolng upon ber elo
o f i nt er est , w i l l gi ve her t he necessar y
edge fo r get t i ng a go o d j o b. If yo ur mai d
i s keen t o ear n so me mo ney by mak i ng
her gr anddaught er w o r k , yo u co ul d even
suggest t hat t he l i t t l e gi r l t akes t ui t i o ns
fo r yo unger chi l dr en o f her co mmuni t y
w i t ho ut w ast i ng much o f her t i me w hi l e
co nt i nui ng t o co ncent r at e o n her st udi es.
Sbe can also no Nel or part tlme work
such as D T P, t ypi ng w o r k et c.
To day, t her e ar e many educat i o nal
i nst i t ut i o ns t hat o ffer co ur ses i n many
di ffer ent di sci pl i nes w hi ch she co ul d
cho o se fr o m. T her e ar e co ur ses i n
C o mmer ce, Busi ness M anagement ,
Psycho l o gy, So ci o l o gy, Li t er at ur e, H i st o r y
and Tami l t hat ar e qui t e r easo nabl y pr i ced,
fr o m Rupees 2000 t o 5000 ( pr i ces as per
sur vey fr o m 2008 2012) . D ependi ng o n
ber lnterest ano nanclal conoltlon, tbe glrl
co ul d cho o se t he co ur se and t he co l l ege.
I r eco mmend a gi r l s co l l ege, as she w i l l
have few er di st r act i o ns and w i l l be gi ven
pr o per at t ent i o n by t he facul t y. K no w i ng
t hat she i s at a ver y i mpr essi o nabl e age,
i t i s bet t er t hat she be i nfo r med abo ut
t he ado l escent age, and be t r ust ed t o
do t he r i ght t hi ng and st ay o n t he r i ght
pat h. I ho pe t hat yo ur mai d under st ands
and al l o w s her gr anddaught er t o co nt i nue
her educat i o n. It has been sai d many t i mes
befo r e, educat i ng a man w i l l educat e an
i ndi vi dual , but educat i ng a gi r l w i l l educat e
a fami l y and i n t o days fast paced w o r l d;
educat i o n i s t he o nl y w eapo n agai nst
po ver t y. M i l l i o ns o f peo pl e ar e fal l i ng pr ey
t o ex pl o i t at i o n due t o i l l i t er acy.
Yo u may i mpr ess upo n yo ur mai d t hat al l o f
us have ar gued w i t h o ur par ent s at so me
po i nt o f t i me i n o ur chi l dho o d r egar di ng
st udi es, no t k no w i ng ho w i t w i l l affect us
l at er ; t hr o w i ng t ant r ums o n ho w w e do nt
w ant t o st udy anymo r e; and ho w i t i s such
a w ast e o f t i me. H o w ever, she needs t o
k no w t hat w hat w e ar e t o day i s because
o f w hat w e have l ear nt . Fo r t hat w e need
t o t hank G o d fo r t he w o nder ful gi ft cal l ed
par ent s t hat he bl essed us w i t h. She needs
t o k no w t hat as a par ent and fami l y i t s
her j o b t o gui de her gr anddaught er, mo ul d
her and make her st r o ng; and gi ve her a
st r o ng fo undat i o n t o face t he w o r l d o f
t o mo r r o w.
To day, I am i n my ear l y 20s and am
r eady t o t ake o n t he w o r l d. I so met i mes
ho w ever, w o nder w het her I have gai ned
eno ugh k no w l edge t o succeed i n t he bi g
bad w o r l d o ut t her e. But w i t h r eassur ance
fr o m my fami l y I k no w no w t hat , k no w i ng
t o mat o i s a fr ui t i s k no w l edge, no t usi ng i t
i n a fr ui t sal ad i s w i sdo m . It s j ust gai ni ng
w i sdo m t hat t he gr andmo t her needs t o
fo cus o n.
Al ex andr eena Sneha Radhi sh
For Your Eyes Onl y
get out of t heir house. H er sist er lef t t heir
hom e. N ow, t hough her husband is nice t o
her and her son, she cannot f or get his bet r ayal
and want s t o leave him . She is ask ing m e if
she can com e t o Chennai w it h her lit t le son
and t r y f or a job. She is just Plus 2 w it h a
shor t cour se in com p ut er s. Though she can
st ay w it h m e, I am a w or k ingw om an m yself ,
w it h m y p ar ent s in t he sam e village as her s.
,W ZRXOG EH WRR GLIFXOW WR WDNH FDUH RI KHU
baby. Shall I ask her t o cont inue t o st ay w it h
her husband? I f eel Chennai is t oo big and
danger ous f or an innocent w om an like her,
w it h a child and no educat ion. I am also on
t he ver ge of get t ing m ar r ied.
T he st er eo t ypi cal i mage o f Indi an w o men
ls tbe personlcatlon ot martyroom! Your
fr i end has t r i ed t o gl o r i fy her sel f i n gi vi ng
l i fe t o t he si st er - a l i fe t hat pr o ved t o be
a di sast er. But t he si st er w as co ur ageo us
JusAsk Br i nda
I have a f r iend in M adur ai. H er husband ow ns
DJURFHU\VWRUH:KHQVKHZHQWIRUKHUUVW
deliver y, she had lef t her sist er ( unm ar r ied
) w ho was st udying in a college in M adur ai
( t heir p ar ent s ar e in a village) t o t ake car e
of her husband. On her r et ur n she was
KRZHYHU VKRFNHG WR QG WKDW KHU KXVEDQG
and sist er w er e having an af f air and her sist er
had conceived. Out of sheer disgust , she got
t hem m ar r ied t hem in a t em p le. H er husband
st ar t ed abusing her sist er and want ed her t o
eno ugh t o make her w ay o ut o f t hi s
muddl e. N o t hi ng i n t he past can be undo ne
because i t has beco me hi st o r y no w. Pl ease
be sur e t hat yo u canno t deci de fo r yo ur
fr i end. Yo u can o nl y gi ve suggest i o ns and
o ffer t o st and by her i n her deci si o n. W hat
happened seems l i ke an act o f l ust w hi ch
unfo r t unat el y r esul t ed i n pr egnancy w i t h
no emo t i o nal bo ndi ng w i t h t he si st er. T hat
i s w hy he w as r ude t o her. Q ui t t i ng t hi s l i fe
i s an uphi l l t ask fo r a w o man w ho i s no t
equi pped. W hat do es yo ur fr i end w ant ? If
she l o ves hi m a l o t , i s she r eady t o par do n
t hi s o ne sl i p? If she canno t par do n, i s she
pr epar ed t o face l i fe al o ne? She i s unabl e t o
deci de because no ne o f t he t w o so l ut i o ns
ar e i deal t o her. If she i s r eady t o par do n
hi m t hi s t i me and gi ve hi m o ne mo r e
chance, t her e i s a po ssi bi l i t y t hat t hey may
get cl o ser. M i st akes ar e o ppo r t uni t i es t o
l ear n. It i s her cho i ce, anyw ay
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Ap ar t f r om being t he King of f r uit s m ango is r ich in vit am ins, m iner als and ant i-
ox idant s. Encount er som e am az ingly sur p r ising f act s and unique, easy t o cook , m ango
r ecip es.
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W
i t h M angi l er a Indi ca
bei ng i t s bo t ani cal
name; mango i s an
anci ent t o pi cal fr ui t
heavi l y co nsumed
i n many par t s o f t he w o r l d. M ango i s sai d
t o be o r i gi nat ed i n So ut heast A si a and has
been gr o w n fo r o ver 4,000 year s. To day
t her e ar e o ver 1,000 di ffer ent var i et i es
o f mango s t hr o ugho ut t he w o r l d. M ango
bei ng t he N at i o nal fr ui t o f Indi a makes
t he co unt r y o ne o f i t s l ar gest ex po r t er s.
In Indi a al o ne, t her e ar e o ver 500 var i et i es,
but o nl y abo ut 35 var i et i es ar e ex t ensi vel y
cul t i vat ed. A l pho nso , Beni shaan and Kesar
mango var i et i es ar e t he mo st po pul ar
var i et i es i n Indi as so ut her n st at es,
w hi l e C hausa, D asher i and Langr a var i et i es
ar e mo st po pul ar i n t he no r t her n st at es.
M al go va, Peet har, Rumani , Bangal ur a,
Rasal u, T t ho t hapar i , N eel am, Si ndho o r a,
and Sal em ar e o t her var i et i es avai l abl e i n
Indi a.
T her e ar e var i o us t r adi t i o nal myt hs abo ut
t he mango t r ee. In t he H i ndu myt ho l o gy
mango i s k no w n as Fo o d o f t he G o ds .
Ever y par t o f t he mango t r ee i s used fo r
mul t i pl e pur po ses; Indi an ho uses, dur i ng
auspi ci o us o ccasi o ns and cel ebr at i o ns, ar e
deco r at ed w i t h mango l eaves , especi al l y i n
ar chw ays and do o r s. T he M ango t r ee pl ays
a sacr ed r o l e i n Indi a; as t hey ar e bel i eved
t o gr ant w i shes. A cer t ai n shade o f yel l o w
dye i s at t ai ned by feedi ng cat t l e smal l
amo unt s o f mango l eaves and har vest i ng
t hei r ur i ne. T he Tahi s ( Spani sh si nger ) l i ke
t o munch mango buds, w i t h Sansk r i t po et s
bel i evi ng t hey l end sw eet ness t o t he vo i ce.
T ho ugh t he mango i s a fr ui t t hat i s gr eat l y
co nsumed i n many par t s o f t he w o r l d,
l i t t l e has been k no w n abo ut i t s heal t h
benets. Mangos are useo ln rlpe ano
unr i pe co ndi t i o n; bo t h ar e w el l k no w n fo r
t hei r medi ci nal pr o per t i es. Ever y par t o f
t he mango i s useful and has been ut i l i zed
i n fo l k r emedi es i n so me fo r m o r t he
o t her. W het her t he bar k , l eaves, sk i n o r
pi t ; al l have been used fo r var i o us t ypes o f
t r eat ment s o r pr event at i ves t hr o ugh t he
cent ur i es.
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Beyo nd bei ng del i ci o us t hey ar e r i ch i n
vi t ami ns, mi ner al s and ant i - o x i dant s. T hey
al so co nt ai n an enzyme w i t h st o mach
so o t hi ng pr o per t i es si mi l ar t o papai n
fo und i n papayas.
M ango , bo t h i n i t s gr een and r i pe fo r m
i s a ver y go o d t ender i si ng agent due t o
t he enzymes pr esent i n t hem, t her efo r e
i deal t o i ncl ude i n any mar i nade. In Indi a
t hey use a so ur mango po w der co nt ai ni ng
gr o und up gr een mango s cal l ed A mchur,
bo t h as a seaso ni ng and t ender i zi ng ai d.
A n aver age si zed mango can co nt ai n up
to 40 ot your oally bre requlrement.
Researcb bas sbown tbat oletary bre bas
a pr o t ect i ve effect agai nst degener at i ve
di seases, especi al l y w i t h r egar ds t o t he
hear t ; may hel p pr event cer t ai n t ypes
o f cancer ( br east and co l o n/ co l o r ect al
cancer ) , as w el l as l o w er i ng bl o o d
cho l est er o l l evel s.
Fo r t ho se o f yo u w ho ar e physi cal l y act i ve,
w het her w o r k i ng o ut o r co nst ant l y o n
t he go , mango s ar e al so a gr eat w ay t o
r epl eni sh t hat l o st po t assi um.
H eat st r o kes l ead t o ex t r eme ex haust i o n
and w eak ness, w hi ch can be t r eat ed w i t h
r aw mango dr i nk . Yo u need t o co o k r aw
mango i n ho t ashes and mi x t he pul p w i t h
sugar. D r i nk i ng r aw mango j ui ce pr o vi des
amazi ng ener gy and hel ps i n pr event i ng
t he ex t r eme l o ss o f so di um chl o r i de.
D r i ed r aw mango po w der t hat i s pr epar ed
by dr yi ng t hem i n sunl i ght i s hi ghl y useful
fo r t he t r eat ment o f scur vy ( a di sease
causeo oue to tbe oeclency ot vltamln
C )
T he fr esh gr een mango i s hi ghl y val ued
fo r i t s abi l i t y t o cur e bl o o d di so r der. It
i ncr eases t he el ast i ci t y o f bl o o d vessel s
and hel ps i n t he fo r mat i o n o f new bl o o d
cel l s.
It i ncr eases bo dys r esi st ance agai nst
t uber cul o si s, cho l er a, anaemi a and
dysent er y
U nr i pe mango i s an ex cel l ent fr ui t
r emedy fo r bi l i o us o r l i ver di so r der. T he
aci d co nt ai ned i n unr i pe, gr een mango
t r i gger t he secr et i o n o f bi l e and act as an
i nt est i nal ant i sept i c.
C o nsumpt i o n o f gr een mango s w i t h
ho ney and pepper al l evi at es bi l i o usness,
and t her eby di seases l i ke j aundi ce and
ur t i car i a.
K aj al Jai sw al
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FOOD TANGO
T humbs up for
M ango
I n our count r y, p eop l e
wel come t he summer
season desp i t e t he
scor chi ng heat j ust
t o enj oy t he del i ci ous
summer f r ui t - mango.
M ango, i s used as a
p r omi nent i ngr edi ent i n
var i ous I ndi an r eci p es.
Today even r enowned
chef s and r est aur ant s
ar e usi ng mangoes
t o make t hei r menus
mor e ex ot i c. H er e ar e
a f ew uni que and easy
t o cook mango r eci p es
t hat ensur e t o i ncr ease
your ap p et i t e f or t he
season.
M ANGO BREAD
2 loaves
I ngr edi ent s
1 cup but t er
1 1/ 2 cups sugar
4 eggs
1/ 2 t sp. sal t
2 t sp. bak i ng so da
4 cups Nour
1 1/ 2 cups di ced mango s
2 t bsp. l emo n j ui ce
1 cup cho pped nut s
D i r ect i ons
C r eam t o get her but t er and sugar. A dd
eggs. St i r i n dr y i ngr edi ent s, mango s and
l emo n j ui ce. Po ur i nt o 2 8 l o af pans. Bake
at 350 fo r 1 ho ur o r unt i l l o af t est s do ne.
C o o l i n pans 10 mi nut es. Remo ve fr o m
pans and co o l t ho r o ughl y. Fo r best r esul t s,
w r ap i n fo i l and ser ve t he fo l l o w i ng day.
Kaj al Jai swal
I ngr edi ent s
1/ 2 cup r aspber r i es
2 cups mi l k
w hi pped cr eam
1 mango , cubed
D i r ect i ons
In bl ender, co mbi ne mango , r aspber r i es
and mi l k . W hi p unt i l smo o t h. Po ur i nt o
chi l l ed gl asses. To p w i t h w hi pped cr eam.
M ango-
Raspber r y
Fr ost
L i me M ango
M ousse I n
Chocol at e
Cups
I ngr edi ent s
6 o z. w hi t e o r bi t t er sw eet cho co l at e
2 cups pr epar ed w hi pped cr eam
1 t sp. gr at ed l i me r i nd
1 t bsp. l i me j ui ce
1/ 2 cup po w der ed sugar
1 peel ed & pur eed mango
1 ( 250g.) pk g. cr eam cheese
D i r ect i ons
In an el ect r i c mi x er, at medi um speed, beat
1 pk g.( 250g) C r eam C heese w i t h 1 peel ed,
pur eed mango ,1/ 2 cup po w der ed sugar, 1
t bsp. fr esh l i me j ui ce and 1 t sp. gr at ed l i me
r i nd unt i l smo o t h. Fo l d i n 2 cups pr epar ed
D REA M W H IP. Spo o n i nt o cho co l at e cups
and r efr i ger at e. To make cho co l at e cups:
mel t 6 o z. w hi t e o r bi t t er sw eet cho co l at e.
U si ng a smal l spo o n, l i ght l y co at t he i nsi de
o f 8 fo i l - l i ned bak i ng cups. Fr eeze fo r 10
mi nut es. Reco at any t hi n spo t s and fr eeze
1 ho ur.
I ngr edi ent s
1/ 3 cup o i l
1/ 4 cup so y sauce
1/ 4 cup w hi t e w i ne
1/ 2 cup gr een pepper, di ced
1 cl o ve gar l i c, cr ushed
1 cup mango sl i ces
2 l bs. chi cken pi eces
D i r ect i ons
In o i l , br o w n chi cken o n al l si des. Pl ace
i n bak i ng di sh. Seaso n w i t h so y sauce,
w i ne, gar l i c, sal t and pepper s. C o ver and
bake at 350 unt i l al mo st t ender, abo ut
30 mi nut es. A dd mango s and bake 10
mi nut es l o nger.
M ango
Chi cken
( W i t h W hi t e
W i ne)
64
Edu Talk
Road
Choosi ng t he
L ess T r avel l ed
Ever ybody want s t o be
dif f er ent ; ever yone want s t o
have an ident it y of t heir ow n
t hat m akes t hem st and out
am idst t he cr ow d. So w hat is
GEN X doing t o cr eat e t heir
ow n p lace in a w or ld of over
7 billion?
64
Educat i ng o ur sel ves hel ps us bui l d a
fo undat i o n fo r a bet t er l i fe t o mo r r o w.
But ho w much do es educat i o n hel p
w hen ever y o t her per so n seems t o be
l ear ni ng t he same subj ect s and do i ng
t he same t hi ngs?
T he w o r l d i s ful l o f do ct o r s, engi neer s,
l aw yer s and o t her such co nvent i o nal
pr o fessi o ns. So ho w i t i s t hat peo pl e ar e
abl e t o st and di st i ngui shed amo ngst t he
cr o w d? T he answ er l i es i n t he new avenues
and vi st as o f educat i o n. T he uni ver se o f
educat i o n i s o ne w hi ch i s ever changi ng
w i t h i mpr o vement s and changes i n var i o us
co ur ses and t he di mensi o n t hey o ffer. N ew
courses ln tbe varlous elos are qulckly
cat chi ng t he eye o f a number o f peo pl e.
To day, peo pl e ar e i n sear ch o f uni que
co ur ses t hat o ffer i n dept h k no w l edge
ot tbe elo. One sucb course ls Ltblcal
H ack i ng. T he co ur se has made qui t e an
entrance lnto tbe eoucatlon elo. More
peo pl e ar e enr o l l i ng fo r t hi s co ur se t o
get tbemselves qualleo ln etblcal backlng.
H ack i ng i s penet r at i ng i nt o net w o r k s and
computers to no oocuments ano otber
i mpo r t ant i nfo r mat i o n w hi ch canno t be
r eached by no r mal pr o cedur es. O n t he
o t her hand, et hi cal hack i ng i nvo l ves a
qualleo person penetratlng lnto one's
o w n net w o r k o r co mput er t o sear ch fo r
vul ner abi l i t i es and l o o p ho l es t hat o t her
backers mlgbt no.
|t ls a very lnterestlng subject ano elo
ot work, says Rona, a stuoent ot etblcal
hack i ng at A ppi ne K no w l edge so l ut i o ns.
I w ant ed t o t hi s co ur se aft er w at chi ng a
sho w o n M T V abo ut et hi cal hack i ng and
secur i t y. T hey w o ul d gi ve t i ps t o pr o t ect
o nesel f fr o m hack i ng and al so so me
et hi cal hack i ng t r i ck s, she sai d. Et hi cal
hacker s ar e hi r ed by many o r gani sat i o ns
t o hel p pr o t ect t hei r syst ems fr o m
hack i ng. Task fo r ces al so hi r e et hi cal
hacker s t o hel p t hem dur i ng mi ssi o ns
and r esear ch. I w o ul d l o ve t o
w o r k fo r a speci al t ask fo r ce, t he j o b
oescrlptlon ls lmportant ano classleo,
says Rona wltb a smlle.
Speci al t ask fo r ces and po l i ce fo r ces ar e
al so i n need o f fo r ensi c sci ence ex per t s.
T he j o b t hat deal s w i t h i dent i fyi ng D N A
and evi dence t hr o ugh w hi ch peo pl e can
be t r acked and t r aced, i s a new co ur se
w hi ch i s cat chi ng up w i t h a l o t o f peo pl e.
|'m learnlng to be a nger-prlnt epert.
It s har d w o r k and i nvo l ves a l o t o f st udi es
but t he end r esul t i s t o t al l y w o r t h i t , says
Manlsba, tralnee, nger-prlnt epert ln
fo r ensi c sci ence. I have al w ays w ant ed t o
learn more about tbls elo. | oevelopeo a
l i k i ng fo r fo r ensi c sci ences aft er w at chi ng
so many A mer i can det ect i ve ser i al s. A ft er I
nlsb tbls course, | can bopetully treelance
fo r t he po l i ce, added M ani sha w ho i s a
gr aduat e i n vi sual co mmuni cat i o n.
Vi sual co mmuni cat i o n, j o ur nal i sm and
el ect r o ni c medi a ar e al so much so ught
aft er co ur ses t o day. H o w ever, peo pl e
are eplorlng tbe elo more ln-oeptb.
Rat her t han get t i ng j ust an o ver vi ew o f
al l t he aspect s o f t he medi a, mul t i medi a
i nst i t ut i o ns and so me co l l eges ar e br i ngi ng
o ut speci al i sat i o n co ur ses such as gr aphi c
desi gni ng i n al l so ft w ar e, ani mat i o n w i t h
t he l at est so ft w ar e t hat ar e used i n
Pi x ar and D i sney st udi o s and many mo r e
co ur ses t hat pr o duce speci al i st s i n t ho se
elos. Tbese courses also enable people to
w o r k fr o m ho me as fr eel ancer s. A l l yo u
need i s a PC and l t he r equi si t e so ft w ar e
and a l o t o f pat i ence and dedi cat i o n, says
Sheet al , a gr aphi c desi gner. I w as ver y
much i nt er est ed i n gr aphi c desi gni ng, so
aft er do i ng my gr aduat i o n i n co mput er
appl i cat i o ns, I di d a co ur se t o speci al i se i n
gr aphi c desi gni ng and ani mat i o n. But my
i nt er est l i es mo r e i n gr aphi c desi gni ng,
she added. A ft er mo vi es l i ke A vat ar and
Incept i o n, mo r e peo pl e ar e j o i ni ng gr aphi c
desi gni ng, ani mat i o n and audi o engi neer i ng
co ur ses. O ne o f my favo ur i t e ani mat i o n
mo vi es has t o be, H o w t o t r ai n yo ur
D r ago n, apar t fr o m o f co ur se A vat ar
w hi ch w as a mast er pi ece, sai d Sheet al .
T her e i s an abundance o f co ur ses and
new vi st as o f educat i o n t o day. W e ar e
sur r o unded by a mi l l i o n o pt i o ns and i t i s
l eft t o us t o deci de w hi ch di r ect i o n w e
w o ul d l i ke t ake. C ho o si ng t he r i ght avenue
and w o r k i ng har d t o w ar ds achi evi ng o ur
go al s w i l l guar ant ee success.
A l ex andr eena Sneha Radhi sh
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Summer Bever ages
Smi l e Easy Reci pes
W hen it s sum m er, it s t im e t o cool your heels
w ishing t he heat t o go away. Ther es also a
sm ar t way t o beat t he heat . W ash t he heat
dow n w it h som e cool sum m er bever ages.
Aam panna
T hi s age o l d mango dr i nk i s t he i deal w ay
t o t ack l e ho t sul t r y summer s. To make t hi s
del i ci o us dr i nk , yo u w i l l need
I ngr edi ent s
Raw mango s 1k g
C ast er sugar cup
Jagger y cup
G r o und r o ast ed cumi n 2t sp
Red chi l l i po w der 1 t sp
C ho pped mi nt l eaves cup
Bl ack sal t t o t ast e
W at er
M et hod:
C o ver t he mango es i n w at er and pr essur e-
co o k t hem fo r o ne w hi st l e. Take t hem o ut
o f t he co o ker and check ; t hey sho ul d be
so ft and r eady t o be peel ed.
D r ai n o ut t he w at er fr o m t he pr essur e-
co o ker, peel t he mango es and ex t r act al l
t he pul p i nt o a co nt ai ner. D i spo se t he
peel s and t he seeds.
A dd w at er t o get t he pul p t o a r unni ng
co nsi st ency. A dd t he r est o f t he i ngr edi ent s
and mi x pr o per l y.
A dd w at er t o di l ut e t he mi x t ur e, t r ansfer
i nt o a bo t t l e o r j ug and chi l l .
W hi l e ser vi ng add i ce cubes and gar ni sh
w i t h mi nt l eaves.
C hi l l t he ser vi ng gl ass i n t he fr eezer befo r e
ser vi ng fo r added effect .
Ser ves up t o 10 gl asses
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t hat replenishes your body.
To make t his pret t y pink
dr ink, you will need:
I ngr edi ent s
Deseeded pieces of
wat er melon
50 ml of cr anber r y juice
Ice cubes
Honey or sugar (for added
sweet ness)
M et hod:
According t o t he ser ving
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ice. Place t he ice and
wat er melon in t he blender.
Pulse-blend t he
wat er melon and ice. Add
t he cr anber r y juice and
honey and pulse-blend
t wice.
Place a few wat er melon
cubes inside t he ser ving
glass. Pour t he mixt ure
on t op of t he wat er melon
in t he glass. The dr ink is
ready t o be ser ved.
Ser ves based on t he size of
t he fr uit .
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will hit t he bulls eye on your t ast e
buds. To make t his delicious dr ink,
you will need
Or ange juice (pulpy) 50 ml
Cr anber r y juice 50 ml
A squeeze of lime
Honey or sugar (for sweet ness)
Ice cubes
M et hod
Pulse-blend ser ving glass of ice.
Add t he or ange juice and lime
juice.
Add honey or sugar t o t ast e and
blend once.
Pour t he mixt ure int o t he ser ving
glass and t op it off slowly wit h t he
cr anber r y juice.
Gar nish wit h or ange peel
A fr esh and l i ght dr i nk , w hi ch
r efr eshes al l yo ur senses t hi s
dr i nk i s best pr epar ed o n per
per so n basi s o r i n smal l quant i t i es.
To make t hi s r efr eshi ng dr i nk , yo u
w i l l need t he fo l l o w i ng
I ngr edi ent s
M i nt l eaves 10- 15
1 t sp sugar 1 t sp
Jui ce o f hal f a l i me
( fr eshl y squeezed)
So da o r spr i t e o r 7 up
Ice
M et hod
M uddl e t he mi nt l eaves, l i me j ui ce
sugar i n a gl ass w i t h a pest l e.
A dd i ce t o t he gl ass, co ver t he
gl ass and shake i t t ho r o ughl y t i l l
yo u feel t hat t he gl ass i s chi l l ed.
To p up w i t h so da o r spr i t e o r 7
up. ( A dd sugar i f r equi r ed)
Ser ved chi l l ed and gar ni sh w i t h
l i me w edge and mi nt l eaves.
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Tr avelogue
Get away
T
he ho r r i d heat o f t he
summer makes t r i gger s
i n us a desi r e t o escape
fr o m o ur ho mes t o
a mo r e peaceful and
pl easant dest i nat i o n. Fr o m beaches t o hi l l
st at i o ns, w e sear ch fo r t he i deal l o cat i o n
t o beat t he summer mo nt hs. H o w ever,
even aft er much pl anni ng, t her e ar e al w ays
some gaps tbat we torget to ll wblle
pl anni ng o ur summer ho l i day. So me avi d
t r avel l er s shar e t hei r uni que ex per i ences
t hey had dur i ng t hei r ho l i day t r i ps t hat can
w hi p up no st al gi a i n ever y o ne o f us abo ut
o ur j aunt s t o ex o t i c l o cal es.
Sum m er m eans a m uch needed vacat ion f or m ost of us. But w hat is
t he ideal sum m er dest inat ion? H er e ar e a f ew p laces t hat have w on t he
p eop les vot e as t heir f avour it e sum m er dest inat ion.
Li ke t he sayi ng go es W e w ander fo r
olstractlon, but we travel tor tullment ...
a co upl e o f yo ungst er s w er e headed fo r a
bi ke t r i p fr o m Ko chi t o M unnar.
A r o ad t r i p w hi ch w as go i ng t o have
so me fasci nat i ng t ur n o f event s. It w as
pr et t y i mpul si ve, says Lak shmi , o ne o f
t he member s o f t he 7- member gang t hat
w ent o n t he bi ke ex pedi t i o n, t he w ho l e
i dea came up a day befo r e w e r o de up t he
hi l l s.
A ft er a si x - ho ur l o ng bi ke j o ur ney, w e
nally reacbeo Munnar at arouno 5pm
but w e w er e st i l l a l o ng w ay o ff fr o m t he
hi l l t o p guest ho use w hi ch w as 12k ms aw ay
fr o m t he mai n t o w nshi p, sai d Lak shmi
ent husi ast i cal l y, W e had t o make o ur o w n
ar r angement fo r fo o d, so w e deci ded t o
head back i nt o t o w n fo r di nner. W e w er e
advi sed by t he car e- t aker o f
t he guest ho use t o be back
ear l y, as t her e w er e w i l d
el ephant s r o ami ng ar o und
at ni ght , she added. A ft er
nolng a restaurant tbe gang
headed back by 9:30pm.
T her e w as a r i ght t ur n,
o ff o n t he mai n r o ad w hi ch
l ed t o t he guest ho use. T he
rst tbree blkes crosseo
t he t ur n, l eavi ng t he l ast
bi ke t o fo l l o w. A s t he l ast
bi ke w as appr o achi ng t he
t ur n, t hey st o pped i n sho ck
only to no a wllo elepbant
st andi ng i n fr o nt o f t hem,
sai d Lak shmi w e w er e al l
completely petrleo, we
di dnt k no w w hat t o do o r
ho w t o hel p o ut o ur fr i ends w ho w er e
st uck w i t h an el ephant t o t ack l e, she
added.
O ne o f t he fr i ends w ho w as o n t he
o t her si de o f t he el ephant t r i ed t o hel p
t he peo pl e w ho w er e st uck by t hr o w i ng
st o nes near t he el ephant t o di st r act i t ,
gi vi ng t he peo pl e i n fr o nt o f t he gi ant ,
eno ugh t i me t o mo ve t o safet y. T he
sho w er o f st o nes fr o m ei t her si de made
t he el ephant go ar o und i n ci r cl es w hi ch
w as hi l ar i o us t o w at ch and i t seemed
l i ke t he el ephant st ar t ed t o feel di zzy
aft er a w hi l e as i t l o st i t s bal ance and sl i d
do w n t he sl o pe, sai d Lak shmi . A ft er t he
el ephant sl i d do w n, w e checked t o see i f
i t w as al r i ght . T he el ephant w as back o n
i t s feet and w e co nt i nued t o di scuss o ur
funny yet scar y i nci dent dur i ng t he r est
o f t he t r i p. It s an i nci dent I l l never fo r get ,
ho w ever o ur t r i p t o M unnar w as l o vel y
and memo r abl e. T he pl ace i s beaut i ful and
sceni c and an i deal get aw ay, she added.
Si t uat ed o n t he W est er n G hat s i s t he
l o vel y hi l l st at i o n o f M unnar. M unnar
means t hr ee r i ver s and t her efo r e i s a
conNuence ot M adhur apuzha, N al l at hanni
and Kundal y r i ver s. It i s 140k ms aw ay fr o m
t he near est ai r po r t , Ko chi Int er nat i o nal
ai r po r t and t he near est maj o r r ai l w ay
st at i o ns ar e C o chi n and A l uva. T her e ar e
many pl aces near by t o see and ex pl o r e
w hi l e i n M unnar. T he C hi nnar w i l dl i fe
sanct uar y, M anj apat t i val l ey, echo po i nt ,
A namudi peak , Kundal a Lake, M at t upet t i
dam and t he Induk k i ar ch dam. M unnar
ls oenltely ln tbe top 10 |nolan summer
spo t s.
Fr o m t he beaut i ful hi l l s o f t he M al abar
C o ast w e mo ve t o t he i sl ands o f Indo nesi a.
Sl yvi an Pat r i ck shar es hi s ex per i ence i n
Bal i , Indo nesi a w i t h us. O ur mai n i dea
o f pl anni ng t he w eekend i n Bal i w as t o
par t y har d, says Pat r i ck , t he par t y usual l y
st ar t s at ar o und 10.30 w i t h t he r eal fun
begi nni ng at 12 am and go es o n t i l l 5 i n
t he mo r ni ng. W e w er e al l set fo r a fun and
unfo r get t abl e w eekend, but w e fo r go t t o
abo ut pl an mo ney ex change, he added.
T he gr o up o f guys t hat vent ur ed o n t he
ho l i day w as car r yi ng eno ugh mo ney fo r a
smashi ng w eekend ho w ever t he o nl y gl i t ch
w as t hat i t w as no t i n t he nat i ve cur r ency.
W e had 100s o f do l l ar s but no pl ace t o
co nver t t hem t o Indo nesi an r upi ah and yo u
cant par t y w i t ho ut t he mo ney, r eco unt s
Pat r i ck , In fact w e di dnt even have mo ney
t o pay t he advance fo r t he ho t el but bei ng
Indi ans w ho ar e nat ur al l y endo w ed w i t h
nego t i at i o n sk i l l s, w e co er ced t he ho t el
manager, a pr et t y Indo nesi an l ady t o l end
us al mo st - 2.3 M i l l i o n Indo nesi an Rupi ahs
w hi ch i s ar o und 250 U S do l l ar s; and do
yo u k no w w hat w e gave as secur i t y? Tw o
passpo r t s, w e w er e so cr azy t o enj o y t he
ni ght l i fe o ut t her e t hat w e mo r t gaged
o ur passpo r t s i n a fo r ei gn l and t hat s
qui t e k no w n fo r passpo r t t heft , chuck l es
Pat r i ck .
A ft er enj o yi ng t hr ee l o ng days i n t he
t r o pi cal par adi se, Pat r i ck says, o ur gr o up
made a pact , t o keep t he ex per i ences
o f t hi s t r i p t o o ur sel ves. A ft er al l w hat
happens i n Bal i st ays i n
Bal i , shr ugs Pat r i ck w i t h a
smr i k .
T he co unt r y has a gr o up
ot ve major lslanos wblcb
i ncl udes Bal i , Java and
Sumat r a and 30 o t her smal l
gr o up i sl ands. Indo nesi a
i s k no w n fo r i t s nat ur e
t o ur i sm especi al l y i n Java,
Sumat r a, Bi nt an and o t her
pl aces o n t he i sl and w i t h
a var i et y o f act i vi t i es such
as nat ur e w al k s, vo l cano
t o ur s, vi si t s t o r o ck t empl es
and advent ur e spo r t s fo r
t he o ut do o r sey t o ur i st s.
Indo nesi a o ffer s t w o
co mpl et el y di ffer ent w o r l ds
o f t o ur i st at t r act i o ns. T he
myst i c i sl and w hi ch i s sceni c and peaceful
by day, i s fun and ex ci t i ng by ni ght . T he
ni ght l i fe i n Bal i i s cr azy , as descr i bed by
mo st peo pl e w ho have vi si t ed t he co unt r y
fo r a t hr i l l i ng vacat i o n.
Fr o m t he t hr i l l i ng i sl ands o f Indo nesi a
t o t he ser ene H i mal ayan hi l l s, her e i s an
enco unt er o f a r o ad t r i p t o Leh, Jammu
and K ashmi r. Fo ur guys set o ut fr o m
D el hi t o Leh o n t hei r bul l et s. D escr i bed
as a t r i p t hat ever y bi ker must t ake,
t hese bi ker s w er e i n fo r a l augh. W e
set o ut fr o m D el hi w i t h a seven- day t r i p
pl anned t hr o ugh t he val l eys o f t he mi ght y
H i mal ayas, says Shyam, o ne o f t he fo ur
bi ker s. W e deci ded t o camp al l al o ng t he
t r i p t o Leh, so o n o ur t hi r d day, 600k ms
fr o m o ur dest i nat i o n w e r eached a smal l
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r ecept i o ni st w ent o n t o say, i f yo u w ant a pl ace t o st ay, I w i l l pr o vi de
yo u w i t h r o o ms at a ver y cheap r at e but do nt camp o ut si de and fal l
pr ey t o t ho se i mmo r t al bei ngs, Shyam quo t ed t he ver y co ncer ned
ho t el r ecept i o ni st . W e t hanked t he r ecept i o ni st and co nt i nued t o
set up camp t hat ni ght . A l t ho ugh, aft er l i st eni ng t o t he r ecept i o ni st ,
w e w er e a l i t t l e w o r r i ed, w e managed t o sl eep w el l and w o ke up
t he nex t mo r ni ng, r eady t o t ake o n t he nex t l eg o f t he r i de, he sai d.
A ft er co mpl et i ng ano t her 200k ms t hey deci ded t o check i nt o a ho t el
t hi s t i me i nst ead o f campi ng o ut si de as t her e w er e no pr o per camp
si t es ar o und t hi s vi l l age. W e checked w i t h t he ho t el st aff r egar di ng
t he fact s t hat t he pr evi o us ho t el r ecept i o ni st had t o l d us. T he st aff
l aughed at o ur st o r y and sai d t hat i t i s o ne o f t he famo us st o r i es t o l d
ar o und t hese ar eas t o at t r act peo pl e i nt o st ayi ng at t he ho t el , says
Shyam w i t h a hear t y l augh. T he ex per i ence w as amazi ng! Reachi ng
K har dungl a pass o n t he sevent h day w as so sat i sfyi ng and t he beaut y
w as si mpl y br eat h- t ak i ng, he added.
T he w ar mt h o f t he peo pl e o f Leh and t he sceni c beaut y o f t he
l andscape i n and ar o und t he H i mal ayan val l eys makes Leh, o ne o f
t he best pl aces t o vi si t any t i me o f t he year. Leh i s o ne o f t he few
r emai ni ng abo des o f Buddhi sm i n so ut h A si a. H o me t o many Buddhi st
mo nast er i es, i t i s t he i deal pl ace t o vi si t i f yo u ar e l o o k i ng fo r spi r i t ual
peace and enl i ght enment . T he H eni s M o nast r y, Physang G o mpa and
T hi ck se M o nast r y ar e so me w hi ch can be vi si t ed o n t he w ay t o Leh.
A par t fr o m spi r i t ual bl i ss, Leh al so gi ves yo u br eat h- t ak i ng scener i es,
so me o f w hi ch has been seen as beaut i ful back dr o ps fo r mo vi es l i ke
3 i di o t s t he Pang o ng t so and Pso mo r i r i l akes ar e a must see o n
your trlp to Leb as well as reacblng tbe nlsb llne ano enolng your
j o ur ney at t he hi ghest mo t o r - abl e pass at K har dungl a. Vi si t i ng Leh w i l l
be an ex per i ence o f a l i fe t i me.
C ho o se a pl ace ever y summer and r evel i n yo ur o w n uni que
ex per i ences. T her e ar e i nnumer abl e beaut i ful pl aces i n o ur co unt r y
w hi ch many o f us have no t even hear d o f. Resear ch i n t he Int er net
and unear t h such ex o t i c havens w her e yo u can put up yo ur feet and
r el ax aft er l o ng and l ei sur el y w al k s i n beaches, sun bat hi ng, advent ur e
o r w at er spo r t s, t r ek k i ng and ever yt hi ng el se yo u w ant t o do . W i t h
t he co unt l ess t r avel o ffer s, co nt empl at i ng o n vi si t i ng pl aces abr o ad i s
al so no t a bi g deal . Set yo ur t r avel bug fr ee and det er mi ne yo ur sel f t o
be a gl o bal no mad. T he ex per i ences w i l l make yo u enr i ched!
r ecept i o ni st w ent o n t o say, i f yo u w ant a pl ace t o st ay, I w i l l pr o vi de
i h h b d i d d f l l
vi l l age cal l ed Tabo . W e deci ded
t o set - up camp fo r t he ni ght , he
r ecal l ed. Li ke any o t her t o ur i st
gr o up, t hey deci ded t o ask t he l o cal s
abo ut ar eas w her e i t w as safe t o
camp. W e st o pped at a ho t el asked
t he r ecept i o n i f t her e w er e any camp
si t es near by, as t hese ar eas r ecei ve
many hi t chhi ker s and back pack i ng
t r avel l er s w ho r est at camp si t es,
says Shyam. T he r ecept i o ni st gave
us di r ect i o ns t o a bar r en far m near by
but w ar ned us no t t o camp o ut si de as
t her e ar e w i t ches and gho st s l ur k i ng
ar o und past 12 o cl o ck , he added. T he
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w at er ever y day. Says t he der mat o l o gi st ,
T he mo r e t he w at er i n- t ake , t he bet t er
i t i s fo r t he bo dy t o be r epl eni shed w i t h
tbe requlreo Nulos. Our skln ls prone
t o co nst ant sun ex po sur e especi al l y i n o ur
co unt r y, as i t i s si t uat ed i n t he t r o pi cal
bel t w her e t he sun i s a per manent and
per si st ent r esi dent . H o w ever, w e ar e
ex cept i o nal w her e o ur sk i n i s co ncer ned,
because A si ans po ssess sk i n t hat abso r bs
tbe sun llgbt ratber tban reNects lt,
w hi ch causes sk i n damage. Eur o peans
and A mer i cans ar e mo r e suscept i bl e t o
sun damage. M o st o f us w o ul d t hi nk t hi s
i s because o f t hei r fai r sk i n. T hi s i s no t
t r ue, fai r sk i nned A si ans al so abso r b t he
suns r ays w hi ch cause l ess damage t o t he
sk i n. But t o pr event sun damage, l o t i o ns
and cr eams
ar e r eadi l y
avai l abl e i n
t he mar ket .
W e need t o
u n d e r s t a n d
ho w t o cho o se
t he r i ght
pr o t ect o r fo r
o ur sk i n.
S u n s c r e e n
l o t i o ns ar e
made w i t h an
SPF o r Sun
P r o t e c t i n g
Fact o r w hi ch
w hen appl i ed,
act s as a t hi n
lm, almost llke anotber skln to protect
t he sk i n bel o w i t . C ho o si ng t he r i ght
sunscreen lotlon ls not tbat oltcult, to
avo i d per spi r at i o n and t he gr easi ness o f
t he sunscr een, avo i d buyi ng an o i l based
l o t i o n, t he o i l co at s t he sk i n, mak i ng t he
po r es sw eat , advi ces D r. Shant ar am, a
t hi n appl i cat i o n o f t he sunscr een l o t i o n i s
t o be appl i ed 30 mi nut es befo r e headi ng
o ut i nt o t he sun, o ver al l t he ex po sed par t
o f t he sk i n. Si nce o ur sk i n i s al r eady
pr o t ect ed i nnat el y, an SPF 10 TO 40 car i ng
l o t i o n i s t he mo st t hat w e r equi r e t o keep
o ur sk i n aw ay fr o m sun damage.
H o w ever sun bur n and sun t an ar e no t
t he o nl y co ncer n dur i ng t he summer.
Infect i o ns, r ashes, pr i ck l e- heat and
dandr uff cause a l o t o f i r r i t at i o n and
pr o bl em fo r mo st o f us. T he mar ket s ar e
i nundat ed w i t h al l k i nds o f pr o duct s t o
r el i eve us fr o m such pr o bl ems but ar e
t hey r eal l y o ffer i ng us any vi si bl e r el i ef? D r.
Shant ar am says, T her e ar e many pr o duct s
i n t he mar ket w hi ch w i l l gi ve yo u an
artlclal rellet. Mentbol soaps, sbampoos
and po w der s ar e avai l abl e i n al l di ffer ent
shapes and fo r ms i n t he mar ket t o day
but t hese w i l l no t hel p get r i d o f such
pr o bl ems. A l t ho ugh w e use mo r e nat ur al
so l ut i o ns l i ke put t i ng o i l o n o ur head, t he
dandr uff do esnt seem t o go . A l so si t t i ng
i n an ai r co ndi t i o ned r o o m so met i mes
do esnt hel p. So w hat i s t he so l ut i o n T he
do ct o r r espo nds, W el l , havi ng a bat h and
w ashi ng yo ur head r egul ar l y w i l l keep t he
dandr uff aw ay; o i l o nl y mask s t he dandr uff
i t do esnt t ake i t aw ay.
O ur sk i n needs t o br eat he j ust l i ke w e
do ; i t co nsi st s o f a mi l l i o n po r es w hi ch
br eat he and keep
t he sk i n al i ve.
T hey al so t ake i n
t he mo i st ur e and
secr et e sw eat .
W e o ft en use w et
t i ssues o r dr y
t i ssues t o w i pe
aw ay t he sw eat
and gi ve o ur sk i n
a co o l sensat i o n.
H o w ever usi ng
w et t i ssues i s no t
al w ays a go o d
i dea. A l co ho l
based w et t i ssues
have t he t endency
t o r emo ve t he
sk i ns nat ur al o i l s fr o m t he sur face, l eavi ng
i t pr o ne t o dr yness and i r r i t at i o n. W e
need t o ensur e w e use t he r i ght pr o duct
t o avo i d i r r i t at i ng t he sk i n. Keepi ng
o nesel f co o l and dr y w i l l keep t he
i nfect i o ns, r ashes and pr i ck l e- heat aw ay
and mai nt ai ni ng a heal t hy di et w i l l keep
yo u at bay fr o m any di seases dur i ng t he
summer, says D r.Shant ar am. Eat i ng a
w el l - bal anced meal hel ps us gai n al l t he
nut r i ent s w e need.
Lear ni ng t o keep o ur sk i n co o l and
cl ean hel ps us st ay aw ay fr o m al l k i nds
o f unw ant ed pr o bl ems and faci ng t he
summer heat , w i t h a fr esh and co o l mi nd,
bo dy and so ul i s t he i n t hi ng t o do ! So
w i t h t he r i ght advi ce fr o m t he do ct o r s
desk , dr i nk pl ent y o f j ui ces and eat t he
br i ght est fo o ds and beat t he heat t hi s
summer.
Summer Smar t ness
Tack ling t hose sum m er ir r it at ions and
it ches w it h t he doct or s advice
M any o f us k no w t hat o ur sk i n i s t he
l ar gest and t he mo st i mpo r t ant o r gan o f
o ur bo dy, but mo st o f us do nt r eal i se j ust
ho w i mpo r t ant i t i s t o pr o t ect i t and t ake
pr o per car e o f o ur sk i n especi al l y dur i ng
t he summer. To k no w j ust ho w i mpo r t ant
o ur sk i n i s, w e appr o ached D r. Shant ar am,
M A D er mat o l o gi st , A po l l o cl i ni c, T.N agar,
C hennai fo r hi s co unsel o n ho w t o
mai nt ai n t he sk i n dur i ng summer.
O ur sk i n act s as a physi cal bar r i er t o
i nfect i o ns and cushi o ns mi no r i nj ur i es,
says D r. Shant ar am. It t akes i n al l t he
r equi r ed nut r i ent s and act s as a shi el d fo r
o ur o t her vi t al o r gans and t hat s w hy i t i s
ver y i mpo r t ant t o t ake go o d car e o f o ur
sk i n. W e k no w t hat o ur sk i n i s i mpo r t ant
but ho w much do w e act ual l y do t o t ake
go o d car e o f i t ? Par t i cul ar l y dur i ng t he
har sh summer mo nt hs?
T he sk i n abso r bs and secr et es mo st o f
t he w at er t hat w e co nsume, t her efo r e i t i s
essent i al t o co nsume at l east t hr ee l i t r es o f
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RISE AND SHINE
o day, summer camps ar e no t
o nl y abo ut ar t and cr aft but
t hei r pr i mar y agenda i s t o
w o r k t o w ar d bui l di ng a chi l ds
per so nal i t y and IQ and t each
t hem t o be eco - fr i endl y.
T he summer seaso n mar k s t he begi nni ng
o f t he act i vi t y seaso n fo r k i ds as t hei r
par ent s hunt fo r t he best summer camp
i n t he ci t y t o enr o l t hei r k i ds. H andw r i t i ng,
cal l i gr aphy, ar t and cr aft , o r i gami , pai nt i ng,
dr aw i ng, bui l di ng bl o ck s, danci ng, si ngi ng,
veget abl e pr i nt i ng, bui l di ng sand cast l es,
pbyslcal tness, rbyme classes are a tew
co mmo n act i vi t i es t hat ar e o ffer ed by
mo st summer camps. But t o day ever y
o t her summer camp i s t r yi ng t o pr o vi de
us w i t h a huge r ange o f unusual act i vi t i es
and ex cl usi ve act i vi t y pack ages t hat r esul t
i n a number o f co upl es enr o l l i ng t hei r
chi l dr en i n such camps.
O ur summer camp, no t o nl y pr o vi des
ar t and cr aft but t he pr i mar y ai m i s t o
i mpr o ve a chi l ds per so nal i t y, IQ , and
gener al k no w l edge. says Laj w ant hi , a
psycho l o gi st and a co nsul t ant i n C hennai ,
w ho handl es nur ser y t w o o f t he A LPS
( pr e- scho o l ) , G o pal apur am. T hei r summer
camp per i o d ex t ends fr o m M ar ch M ay
ever y year w her e t hey o ffer a huge r ange
ot actlvltles sucb as non- re cooklng tor
k i ds w hi ch i nvo l ves, mak i ng snack s l i ke
sandw i ches, j ui ce, chat i t ems et c. T hey
al so co nduct speech t her apy cl asses and
o r gani ze gener al k no w l edge sessi o ns fo r
k i ds dependi ng o n t hei r age, as t he cl asses
ar e di vi ded acco r di ng t o t he age gr o up.
T hey al so have so met hi ng cal l ed Spl ash
Po o l t hr o ugh w hi ch t hey i nt r o duce k i ds
t o t he co ncept o f w at er. In addi t i o n t o t he
abo ve she says, W e t each k i ds t o be eco -
fr i endl y, t hey ar e made t o w at er pl ant s
ever y day and al l t he mat er i al s used by
t hem fo r cr aft ar e eco - fr i endl y i n nat ur e.
W e bel i eve i n t he go gr een co ncept .
M r s. A bi r ami Vi vek , t he o w ner o f t he
Li t t l e M i l l enni um ( pl ay scho o l ) , A nna
N agar, C hennai says, W e fo cus o n t he
t o t al i nvo l vement o f st udent s i n ever y
act i vi t y co nduct ed by us dur i ng t he camp.
T he hi ghl i ght s o f t hi s summer camp
i ncl ude k ar at e so met hi ng t hat k i ds
enj o y, yo ga and medi t at i o n w hi ch hel p
k i ds t o co ncent r at e, pho t o gr aphy w hi ch
pr o vi des t hem w i t h hands- o n ex per i ence
i n handl i ng di gi t al camer a and t r ai ni ng o n
ho w t o use a l apt o p. T he camp al so has a
mo vi e cl ub t hat scr eens mo vi es o nce i n
a w eek fo r ent er t ai nment . O ne o f t he
o t her uni que feat ur es i s t hat o ur camp
ex t ends fo r si x w eek s and w e enr o l k i ds
bet w een t he age gr o up o f 2 - 12year s,
glvlng tbem certlcates at tbe eno ot tbe
camp. says A bi r ami .
I have a mi ni mum o f t w o k i ds j o i ni ng my
camp ever y day, says 30 year o l d Revat hi
G anesh w ho o w ns G .R A r t and C r aft ,
R.A Pur am. H er cl asses o ffer a w o nder ful
ex per i ence t o al l t he ar t l o vi ng k i ds as
t he camp speci al i zes i n var i o us t ypes o f
pai nt i ngs l i ke o i l , acr yl i c, Tanj o r e, fabr i c,
po t , al umi ni um embo ssi ng, i mpo r t ed
mur al s, Ker al a mur al s, char co al , l amasa, 3D
cl ay, w al l hangi ngs et c. T he ar t pi eces ar e
pr i ced fr o m Rs.15 15,000. I handl e k i ds
bet w een t he age gr o up o f 3 16, says
Revat hi , T her e i s a hi gh demand fo r gl ass
pai nt i ng and si t o r ex pai nt i ng t hat i s do ne
usi ng st o nes and cement bar, she added.
A s t he gr o w i ng demand fo r summer
camps has l ed t o a bur geo ni ng o f sever al
camps i n t he met r o s and even smal l t o w ns.
T hee i s a pr essur e o n t he o r gani zer s o f
such camps t o pr o vi de so me uni que and
unusual act i vi t i es t o pr o ve t hemsel ves t o
be a bet t er o pt i o n fo r par ent s t o enr o l
t hei r k i ds. A s mo r e and mo r e i nno vat i ve
i deas ar e chur ned o ut by t he summer
camps, k i ds ar e havi ng al l t he fun!
K aj al Jai sw al
Summer camps
i n t hei r new avat ar
H
er es a pl ace t hat can t empt yo u
t o vi si t aw ay fr o m t he ho t and
gr i my met r o s w e l i ve i n. D el ve
i nt o t he co o l and br eat ht ak i ng
envi r o ns o f o ur o w n M o t her
Ear t h, t ucked aw ay i n di ffer ent par t s o f t he
co unt r y w hi ch many o f us ar e no t aw ar e
o f. T he N o r t h East has sever al unex pl o r ed
l o cal es. A mo ng t he t o ur i st spo t s, Shi l l o ng
i s a po pul ar pl ace w i t h easy access yo u
can l o o k o ut t o spend yo ur summer. D o
yo ur r esear ch o n w hen t he r ai ns w i l l
co mmence and pl an yo ur t r i p.
T he N o r t h East Indi a co nst i t ut es o f ei ght
st at es .M eghal aya i s o ne amo ng t he ei ght
si st er s, al so k no w n as t he abo de o f cl o uds
.Shi l l o ng i s a beaut i ful hi l l st at i o n and t he
capi t al o f M eghal aya .It i s si t uat ed at t he
1496 m abo ve sea l evel . It i s k no w n as T he
Scot land of t he East due t o i t s st r i k i ng
si mi l ar i t y w i t h t he Sco t t i sh hi ghl ands.
T he ci t y has a br aci ng cl i mat e t hr o ugho ut
t he year.It i s l o cat ed i n East K hasi H i l l s
di st r i ct ar o und 100 k ms aw ay fr o m
G uw ahat i ( A ssam) .T he t emper at ur e var i es
fr o m 23 C i n summer and 3 C i n w i nt er s .
C her r apunj ee one of t he wet t est
places on ear t h and l o cat ed at an
at t i t ude o f 1300 met er s i s al so si t uat ed
j ust 56 k ms fr o m Shi l l o ng.
Reema C het t r i Sesh
er es a pl ace t hat can t empt yo u
Scot l and of t he East , Shi l l ong
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o ne ar e t he days w hen ho l i days
w er e l i ke w el co me sho w er s.
Ex ams o ver and pi cni cs and
t o ur s w er e smi l i ng at t he fami l y
w i t h o pen ar ms. N o w ! T he
ex pr essi o ns have t ur ned al l t o psy - t ur vy.
M o t her s dr ead ho l i days. T her e i s a w ho l e
l i st o f cl asses t hat t he k i ds ar e t o be t aken
t o be i t per t ai ni ng t o st udi es o r ar t o r
so me spo r t . Sadl y t he r easo n i s mo r e t o
get t hem o ccupi ed i n so met hi ng o r t he
o t her so t hey do no t si t o n yo ur heads as
an i mpedi ment t o yo ur ( dr ab) r o ut i ne o r
i t i s j ust t o keep up w i t h t he Jo neses! Fr ee
t i me has co me t o be t ho ught o f as t he
devi l s pl ay t i me. M o t her s w ho chat aw ay
t o gl o r y abo ut t hei r needi ng t hei r o w n
space fai l t o r eal i ze t hat t hese pr essur i zed
k i ds t o o need t hei r o w n space, so j ust gi ve
i t t o t hem and r el ax .
You neeo a relaeo mlno rst betore you
even tblnk about gettlng t ano bealtby.
Resul t s ex pect ed w i l l never happen i f
yo u w er e t o be j o ggi ng o n t he t r eadmi l l
w o nder i ng w hat t he k i ds ar e up t o . T he
st r ess cr eat ed r el eases ho r mo nes t hat
gi ve w r o ng si gnal s. T he bo dy r eco gni zes
any st r ess as hunger and fami ne, so t he
bo dy st ar t s st o r i ng up i n t he adi po se
t i ssue t o feel secur e. It i s t he feel i ng o f
bavlng sutclent bank balance ln case ot
an emer gency. M o st o f t hi s fat i s st o r ed
ar o und t he abdo men. So no w yo u k no w
w hy so met i mes w e w o nder ho w t he
r esul t s ar e no t i n pr o po r t i o n t o o ur
tness plan tbat we bave tolloweo so
olllgently. 8ottom llne ls to rst rela ano
enj o y t he mo ment w i t ho ut cl o udi ng yo ur
mi nd w i t h a cl ut t er o f t ho ught s.
A sw i m i n t he po o l need no t al w ays
be do i ng di ffer ent st r o kes t hat many
t i mes. Tr y cl appi ng yo ur hands i n w at er
fo r t o ni ng yo ur ar ms. W al k o n t he shal l o w
si de fo r co r e st abi l i t y and add a chal l enge
by car r yi ng yo ur l i t t l e o ne o ver yo ur
sho ul der s. She w i l l be t hr i l l ed by t hi s
mamma r i de. W hy o nl y fo r w ar ds? St ep
back and ask yo ur k i d t o st eer yo u safel y.
A ct l i ke a cr ab st ep si dew ays. H mmm
w hat a w o r k o ut fo r yo ur o ut er and i nner
hi ps t o o ! A dd a dance st ep i f yo u l o ve t hat .
W al k si dew ays w i t h a cr o ss- l egged st ep
added and end w i t h a j umpi ng j ack i n t he
w at er l augh yo ur hear t s o ut t o gl o r y as
yo u l o se bal ance and pr o babl y go spl ash
i nt o t he w at er, bo t h o f yo u w i l l l o ve t hi s.
Take a br eak fr o m yo ur usual gym, cr o ss
t r ai ni ng w o r k o ut o r w hat ever yo u do as
a tness routlne ano step asloe tor some
fun and funct i o nal st uff. Let t he k i ds j ust
be t hemsel ves fo r a change. Yo u st ep i nt o
t hei r sho es and enj o y a seco nd chi l dho o d.
H ave fun w at er i ng t he pl ant s i f yo u ar e an
avi d gar dener. Pl ay j umpi ng t he r o pe w i t h
t he ho se w i t h t he w at er st r i ngi ng o ut
i nt o a r o pe. G et w et never mi nd. G et t he
bo dy i mmune t o fever and co l d by gi vi ng
i t a do se o f w at er vacci ne. Fi l l a squeezy
w i t h w at er and pl ay t he guessi ng game by
squi r t i ng o ut shapes, number s o r al phabet s
o n t he back . T hr o w w at er bal l o o ns o n t he
Noor besloe eacb otber's teet ano watcb
t he face pl ump up gl eeful l y. W i pe dr y and
get back i nsi de fo r a ho t cup o f bever age
and r el ax o n t he co uch w i t h a bo o k . Yo ur
w o r k o ut fo r t he day i s do ne.
Yo u canno t o bvi o usl y do t hi s ever y
day so pl an a t r i p t o t he beach and pl ay
Fr i sbee. Fl y a k i t e. Let t he k i ds pl ay by
t hemsel ves w hi l e yo u w al k bar e fo o t
ar o und t hem o n t he sand. Take a t r i p t o
a near by pi cni c spo t . Pr epar at i o n w i l l be
yo ur w o r k o ut w hi l e r el ax i ng aft er fo o d
w i l l be yo ur chi l l pi l l . Take so me pai ns
t o make an i nt er est i ng ar r ay o f go o di es.
Let us no t al w ays t ake t he sho r t cut and
depend o n vendo r s and r est aur ant s. Take
fr i ends al o ng and so ci al i ze t he heal t hy w ay.
Set an ex ampl e fo r t he chi l dr en t o mi ngl e
w i t h al l k i nds o f peo pl e and st i l l mai nt ai n
t hei r i ndi vi dual i t y. T her e i s a l esso n t o be
l ear nt i n al l t hat w e do .
Your lesson learnt wlll be tness ls
no t hi ng but st ayi ng act i ve. W e ar e so
used t o do i ng w hat w e ar e used t o and
never at t empt anyt hi ng o ut o f t he no r mal
r o ut i ne. By t he w ay, aft er a br eak t he bo dy
r espo nds bet t er t o w o r k o ut s. C r eat e
tbose bumps ano oltcbes ln your tness
and chal l enge t he pl at eau t hat sho w s
no r esul t s. O ur bo dy i s ver y cl ever and
i nt el l i gent . It adapt s qui ck l y t o w hat ever
chal l enges yo u t hr o w befo r e i t . So cheat
yo ur bo dy i nt o no chal l enge but j ust fun
and l at er cat ch i t by t he neck w hen yo u
get back t o yo ur w o r ko ut r o ut i ne aft er
t he ho l i days. Yo ur r esul t s w i l l be ever so
r ew ar di ng.
T he appl e o f o ur eye o ur l i t t l e o nes
need us t o pamper t hem, pl ay w i t h t hem,
feed t hem, bat he t hem and chi de t hem
w henever necessar y. T he t i me yo u spend
w i t h t hem w i l l st ay i n t hei r mi nds and
hear t t hr o ugho ut t hei r l i ves and yo ur s t o o .
T he gr umpy face t hat sul ked w i t h yo ur
ever y admo ni t i o n w i l l fo l l o w yo u t o t he
T i n t he upbr i ngi ng o f t hei r k i ds. H ave yo u
no t o ft r epeat ed w i t h pr i de yo ur sel f abo ut
ho w yo ur par ent s t r eat ed yo u?
T her e w as no t much ex er ci se t hat
o ur fo r efat her s di d. T hei r l i fe st yl e had
i t al l . W e ar e co mfo r t abl y pl aced t o o ur
di sadvant age o f l o si ng heal t h so w e need
to aoo tness to our oay to oay llte. Make
t he best o f t hei r yo ung year s mo t her s;
k i ds gr o w up ver y fast . It i s j ust a mat t er
o f ho w w el l yo u use t he r eci pe t o co o k a
del i ci o us meal w i t h w hat yo u have i n hand.
Ingr edi ent s needed yo u, yo ur chi l dr en,
t hei r i nt er est s, yo ur t i me, so me pl ay, so me
t al k , so me cl eani ng and so me r est i ng and
yo ur ho me sw eet ho me. A dd a pi nch o f
cr eat i vi t y t o yo ur t ast e and sl ur p up t he
summer ho l i days w i t h abundant l o ve.
Vijaya Chamundeswar i
Fltness Consultant - Certleo
by T he A mer i can C o unci l o n
Ex er ci se ( A C E) ,
Reebo k , Int egr al Yo ga Inst i t ut e ( IYI) ,
Pi l at es Inst i t ut e o f A mer i ca ( PIA ) .
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es i t do es hel p i n r educi ng w ei ght but i t al w ays depends
o n t he met ho d i n w hi ch i t i s made and co nsumed. C er eal s
are meant to be rlcb ln bre, proteln, carbobyorates ano
ar e gl ut en fr ee. Int ake o f such cer eal s hel ps yo u r educe
cbolesterol. However bavlng oats ano cornNakes wltb
ei t her mi l k o r w at er makes t he di ffer ence. If yo u have i t w i t h mi l k and
sugar t hen i t r eal l y do es no t hel p yo u r educe any w ei ght but i f yo u have
w i t h w at er i t do es hel p i n w ei ght r educt i o n. Peo pl e w ho canno t have
oats ano cornNakes wltb water can reouce tbe lntake ot sugar wltb mllk
i n o r der t o l o se w ei ght .
What i s t he r eci p e f or I dl i mol aga p odi - wi t hout t oo much sp i ce
p l ease? Can we add t i l t o i t ? I s i t necessar y t o add oi l or can
we r oast t he i ngr edi ent s wi t hout oi l ? Whi ch oi l t ast es best whi l e
p r ep ar i ng t hi s p odi ?
Ar chana Ram, Chennai
Take a pan and dr y r o ast so me r ed chi l l i es, ur ad dal , Bengal gr am, so me
sesame seeds and ver y l i t t l e t ur mer i c po w der and add sal t t o t ast e. Ro ast
t hem fo r a few mi nut es and t hen r emo ve t he pan o ff t he heat . Leave i t
asloe to cool. Atter lt cools, grlno tbe lngreolents ne to make a powoer.
Idl i po di i s r eady fo r use.
I am a 21 year ol d gi r l havi ng sever e hai r f al l i ssues. What ki nd of
f ood i nt ake wi l l hel p me get r i d of t hi s p robl em?
Saki na Gheewal a, Chennai
Lack o f pr o t ei n i n human bo dy i s t he maj o r cause fo r hai r fal l , dr y scal p
and dandr uff. Int ake o f i r o n and pr o t ei n r i ch fo o d l i ke spi nach, co d l i ver
o i l , k i dney beans ( r aj ma) , meat , dai r y pr o duct s w i l l hel p r educe heal t h
pr o bl ems such as hai r fal l . I per so nal l y suggest t o peo pl e w i t h hai r fal l
pr o bl ems t o t ake 3 4 al mo nds w i t h 1t sp o f ho ney o r 1t sp fenugr eek
o nce dai l y. T hi s w i l l hel p r educe o r get r i d o f t hi s pr o bl em.
M y mom says t hat p eop l e wi t h st omach ul cer s shoul d not dr i nk
f r ui t j ui ce or eat f r ui t s i n t he mor ni ng. I s i t t r ue?Why?
Janaki Shi vshankar, Chennai
N o , t hi s i s j ust a myt h. St o mach ul cer s ar e t he r esul t o f ex cess i nt ake o f
medi ci nes such as pai n k i l l er s; t hey ar e t he r eal cul pr i t fo r peo pl e w ho
al r eady have gast r i c pr o bl ems. H avi ng fr ui t j ui ce o f any k i nd, nei t her l eads
t o t he fo r mat i o n o f ul cer no r w o r sen i t . H o w ever mi l k o n t he o t her
hand i s so met hi ng t hat i s meant t o be avo i ded dur i ng st o mach ul cer s as
i t co nt ai ns bact er i a w hi ch aggr avat e st o mach pr o bl ems.
When t he sal t added t o a di sh i s mor e, what i s t he r emedy t o cor r ect
i t ?
Renu Agar wal , Bengal ur u
W hen a cur r y beco mes r eal l y ver y sal t y, due t o addi t i o n o f ex cess sal t
dur i ng pr epar at i o n, yo u sho ul d add a pi ece( o r a few, dependi ng o n t he
amo unt o f cur r y) o f po t at o o r banana st em t o t he gr avy. T he po t at o o r
banana st em hel ps by abso r bi ng t he ex cess sal t fr o m t he di sh. Remo ve
t he pi eces o f po t at o o r banana st em fr o m t he cur r y befo r e ser vi ng.
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maj o r aspect o f
o r t ho paedi c pr act i ce t o day
i s o bvi o usl y t r auma based
cbleNy because ot lncloent
o f fr act ur es due t o r o ad
acci dent s t hat o ccur because o f po o r
tratc rules ano tbe epanolng populatlon
t hat o ur co unt r y has, says O r t ho paedi c
Sur geo n, D r. Shai l endr a S Tel ang, M umbai .
T he maj o r i t y o f casual t y cases t o day ar e
t r auma r el at ed. Tr auma l t r ansl at es t o
fr act ur es. Br o ken bo nes ar e i ncl uded i n
i t . W o men i n par t i cul ar ar e affect ed by
t r auma due t o o st eo po r o si s.
D r. Tel ang ex pl ai ns, A co mmo n fr act ur e
t hat w e see i n t he o l der po pul at i o n i s t he
hi p fr act ur e. T hi s usual l y happens aft er a
t r i vi al fal l . T hey co ul d get a hi p fr act ur e
so met i mes even w hi l e t ur ni ng i n bed.
A gai n t he cul pr i t i s o st eo po r o si s. U sual l y
t he cal ci um i n o ur bo dy i s mai nt ai ned
by many mechani sms, o ne o f t hem bei ng
t he ho r mo nal r egul at i o n. In a femal e
aft er meno pause, t her e i s an al t er at i o n
i n t he ho r mo nal l evel . T he ho r mo ne
pr o duct i o n suddenl y st o ps. T hi s causes
demi ner al i zat i o n o r t he cal ci um i n t he
bo nes co mes o ut i nt o t he bl o o d. T he
bo nes beco me so ft because t hey beco me
devo i d o f cal ci um. T hey beco me l i ke ho l l o w
shel l s. A ny st r ess i n t hi s co ndi t i o n causes
a fr act ur e. Fo r t he o l der po pul at i o n t he
co mmo nest ar ea o f fal l i s t he bat hr o o m.
T her e sho ul d be met al bar s o n t he w al l s
o f t he bat hr o o m fo r t hem t o ho l d o n t o i n
case t hey sl i p.
O st eo po r o si s i s seen i n w o men as
ear l y as 35 year s o f age. T he pr o bl em
w i t h o st eo po r o si s i s t hat i t o ft en do es
no t pr esent any sympt o ms unt i l bo nes
fr act ur e. A l so so met i mes o st eo po r o t i c
fr act ur es go undet ect ed unt i l t hey cause
sympt o ms. Pai n and di sabi l i t y fo r m t he
sympt o ms o f fr act ur e. T hi s depends ver y
much o n t he l o cat i o n o f t he fr act ur e. T he
agi ng pr o cess i n a w o man i ncl udes t he
l o ss o f 0.3- 0.5% bo ne densi t y per year. In
w o men, est r o gen ho r mo ne mai nt ai ns t he
bo ne densi t y. A ft er meno pause, w i t h t he
dr o p i n est r o gen l evel s, t her e i s i ncr eased
l o ss o f bo ne densi t y. A n i mpo r t ant
cause o f o st eo po r o si s i n w o men i s t he
i ncr eased bo ne l o ss aft er meno pause.
H o r mo ne r epl acement t her apy may hel p
aft er meno pause. H o w ever, i t may no t
make much di ffer ence o nce t he po st -
meno pause 6 year w i ndo w per i o d i s o ver.
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T he r i sk fact o r s fo r o st eo po r o si s
i ncl ude femal e gender, A si an r ace,
t hi n and smal l bo dy fr ame, fami l y
hi st o r y o f o st eo po r o si s, ci gar et t e
smo k i ng and ex cessi ve al co ho l
co nsumpt i o n. O st eo po r o si s al so
o ccur s i n w o men due t o po o r di et ,
l ack o f cal ci um suppl ement at i o n,
r epeat ed pr egnanci es, po o r
ex po sur e t o sunl i ght , po o r amo unt
o f ex er ci se, sedent ar y l i fest yl e, et c.
D r. Tel ang i nsi st s, Ever y w o man
aft er meno pause sho ul d get her
Bo ne M i ner al D ensi t o met r y ( BM D )
do ne t o eval uat e o st eo po r o si s. It
i s a ver y si mpl e t est . It i s t he scan
o f t he l eg. It sho w s t he amo unt o f
cal ci um t hat i s pr esent i n t he bo dy.
It gi ves t he o r t ho paedi c sur geo n a
basi c gui del i ne t o t r eat t he pat i ent .
If t he pat i ent has no r mal cal ci um
l evel s w e do nt have t o do anyt hi ng.
If di agno sed, o st eo po r o si s can be
t r eat ed w i t h pl ai n cal ci um. If i t i s
o f a hi gher degr ee, w e add Vi t ami n
D 3. D ependi ng o n t he sever i t y, w e
al so use st er o i ds and o t her dr ugs.
It i s an i r r ever si bl e degener at i ve
di sease, w hi ch i s al so o ne o f t he agi ng
changes. Yo u can o nl y decr ease t he
amo unt o f damage.
D ai l y w al k i ng, sunl i ght ex po sur e and
go o d cal ci um r i ch fo o d can del ay t he
o nset o f o st eo po r o si s.
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T agor e And M e
I nspi r ed
T he W oman W ho
Fr om Shant iniket an t o Shanghai t he w or ld has just com p let ed
celebr at ing t he 1 5 0 t h bir t h anniver sar y of I ndian N obel
Laur eat e Rabindr anat h Tagor e, also k now n as Bengals
Shakesp ear e. This f eat ur e is dedicat ed t o t he m em or y of
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social and cult ur al scenar io.
K adambar i r i di ng a ho r se, and Sudhak shi na
w o ul d even r i de an el ephant and w i el d a
gun. Tbe rst Tagore glrl to graouate was
Indi r a w ho mar r i ed t he w r i t er, Pr amat ha
C haudhur i . T he o ne w ho w as eni gmat i c
and ar o used my i nt er est w as K adambar i
D evi w ho w as t he w o man w ho pl ayed a
ver y i mpo r t ant r o l e i n Tago r es l i fe.
K adambar i D evi w as t he w i fe o f
Jyo t i r i ndr anat h Tago r e and daught er - i n- l aw
o f D ebendr anat h Tago r e. She w as t hi r t een
year s yo unger t han her husband, but near l y
t he same age as Tago r e. She i nspi r ed yo ung
Rabi ndr anat h Tago r e t o co mpo se many o f
hi s po ems w i t h her cr eat i ve feedback and
co mment s. H er r el at i o nshi p w i t h Tago r e
w as co nt r o ver si al and has been a r ecur r ent
t o pi c o f di scussi o n fo r many gener at i o ns.
She w as an i nspi r at i o n t o yo ung Tago r e,
as w el l as a go o d fr i end and pl aymat e,
even aft er her mar r i age. K adamabar i , t he
myst er y l ady, l o ved po et r y, musi c and
l i t er at ur e. She r ead a l o t , so met hi ng no t
t aken easi l y by t he o t her w o men i n t he
i n t he Bengal i l i t er at ur e, musi c, ne arts,
dr ama and ci nema. It w as but nat ur al t o be
dr aw n t o w ar ds Rabi ndr anat h Tago r e, t he
most lmportant cultural gure ot 8engal.
Bo r n 150 year s ago , Rabi ndr anat h Tago r e
sho ne as a w r i t er, musi ci an and act i vi st t o
beco me t he Bengal i i co n.
T he names o f Tago r es w o men keep co mi ng
l i ke t he j i ngl i ng o f ank l et bel l s w hen a
dance i s go i ng o n. Saudami ni , H i r anmo yee,
M ani sha ( w ho co r r espo nded w i t h M ax
M ul l er ) , D i gambar i , M adhur i l at a. W e have
o ne hundr ed pages o f geneal o gi cal i n t he
w eb w hi ch i s mi ndbo ggl i ng t o . I had t he
go o d fo r t une o f go i ng t o Ko l k at a o nce
agai n w hen my husband w as po st ed
t her e and made a vi si t t o T hak ur Baar i
at Jo r o sho nko . T he Tago r e fami l y space,
w i t h Jo r o sanko as i t s cent r e, seems t o
have been a vast nest o f beaut i ful and
t al ent ed w o men. N at ur al l y, w o mens
l i ber at i o n spr ang fr o m her e i ncl udi ng t he
epo ch- mak i ng mo ve fo r t he mar r i age o f
w i do w s. Even i n t he 19t h cent ur y w e have
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i t er at ur e fo r me i s fo o d
fo r t he so ul . A Tami l i an by
bi r t h but o ne w ho has l i ved
i n many di ffer ent pl aces i n
Indi a dur i ng my chi l dho o d
and t eens, I have been i nt r i gued by Bengal i
and M al ayal am Li t er at ur e. Ko l k at a i n
t he ear l y ei ght i es, dr ew me t o w ar ds t he
cul t ur e o f W est Bengal w hi ch has i t s r o o t s
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w i t h K adambar i , caught t he nuances o f
t hi s bo nd;
K adambar i w as affect i o nat e t o
Rabi ndr anat h fr o m t he ver y begi nni ng
ano ln return Rablnoranatb palo sutclent
r espect t o her w hi ch w as r eveal ed i n
Pushpanj al i , w r i t t en by Rabi ndr anat h.
M o r eo ver he w r o t e many so ngs and
dedi cat ed many bo o k s i n r emembr ance t o
K adambar i . H o w ever, due t o unr eveal ed
r easo ns, she co mmi t t ed sui ci de aft er
fo ur mo nt hs o f Rabi ndr ant ahs mar r i age
t o M r i nal i ni . T he Tago r e Fami l y al w ays
r emai ned si l ent abo ut her sui ci de. Rumo r s
o f fami l y pr o bl ems havi ng l ed t o her
sui ci de have ci r cul at ed. A ft er K adambar i
D evi s deat h, Rabi ndr anat h w as co mpl et el y
br o ken. H e t o o k w hat i s k no w n as C hut i .
Fo r l o ng aft er her deat h, Tago r e w r o t e
many so ngs and po ems i n her memo r y.
Tago r e r eco ver ed and co nt i nued t o w r i t e
and st ar t ed Shant i ni ket an, and go t deepl y
i nvo l ved i n hi s o w n w o r l d. K adambar i
w as fo r go t t en at Jo r asanko , but Tago r e
co nt i nued t o i ncl ude her i n hi s w r i t i ngs.
H e had dr eams and ni ght mar es fr equent l y
o f her and sket ched facel ess w o men, many
al l udi ng t o memo r i es o f K adambar i . In fact
Tago r e even admi t t ed t o t he ar t i st N andal al
Bo se w hen he w as i n hi s l at e sevent i es
t hat i t w as K adambar i s eyes w hi ch l ay
behi nd t he hundr eds o f haunt i ng po r t r ai t s
o f w o men he pai nt ed dur i ng o l d age.

A ft er t he deat h o f K adambar i , many
go ssi ps and specul at i o ns er upt ed i n and
ar o und Ko l ak at a w hi ch st i l l per si st . T he
r el at i o nshi p bet w een Rabi ndr anat h and
K adambar i i s st i l l a myst er y. So me say i t
w as j ust fr i endshi p but o t her s say t hat i t
w as a t r agi c l o ve affai r because K adambar i
D evi k i l l ed her sel f aft er Tago r e go t mar r i ed
t o M r i nal i ni D evi . T hey l o ved each o t her
but t hi s l o ve w as fo r bi dden and co ul d
cause a scandal . So i t w as kept a secr et .
Readi ng a bo o k cal l ed, T hak ur Bar i r
A nt ar M ahal , by C hi t r a D eva o pened
my eyes t o t he gr eat changes br o ught i n
t he so ci et y by t he w o men o f t he Tago r e
fami l y. W i t h t he suppo r t o f t he Tago r e
men, t hese w o men t r avel ed, go t educat ed,
par t i ci pat ed i n per fo r mances and changed
many cust o ms o f t he Bengal i w o men.
No wonoer tbat we no many strong
w o men i n t he w o r k s o f Tago r e. Tago r e
po r t r ays w o men as t he i nspi r at i o nal
fo r ce o f change. I admi r e Tago r es vi si o n
o f fr ee w o men and men. A vi si o nar y par
ex cel l ence w ho bel i eved i n r espect i ng
humani t y, Tago r es fo r w ar d t hi nk i ng year s
ago has l ai d t he st r o ng fo undat i o n fo r t he
r espect abl e st at us Indi an w o men r ecei ved
i n t he C o nst i t ut i o n.
M al i ni Shank ar
ho useho l d and she co o ked w el l , fr o m
w hat w e k no w, br i ngi ng many new di shes
t o t he ho useho l d. T he yo ung Rabi w as
i nt ensel y j eal o us i f she w ent aw ay t o vi si t
r el at i ves, but K adambar i handl ed hi m w i t h
mucb aplomb. Sbe loveo Nowers ano blros,
i t w as she w ho co nver t ed t he t er r ace t o a
gar den and she w ho i ncessant l y cr i t i ci zed
hi m al w ays, ex cept hi s sl i ci ng o f t he bet el
nut by do i ng i t she per haps kept hi s vani t y
i n check as hi s po ems br o ught hi m fame,
l i t t l e by l i t t l e C o nvent i o n per mi t t ed
an i nt i macy no t al l o w ed bet w een o t her
i n- l aw s, w i t h an el ement o f danger, t he
po ssi bi l i t y t hat a r el at i o nshi p o f a r at her
deep i n nat ur e mi ght devel o p, i n t he
woros ot Satyajlt Ray. Hls lm Cbarulata
based o n Rabi ndr anat hs o w n r el at i o nshi p
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keep i t safe and so depo si t ed i t w i t h t he
bank i n a savi ngs acco unt . Bank s w er e
i mpl i ci t l y t r ust ed as t hey w er e r egul at ed
by t he Reser ve Bank . D epo si t o r s co ul d
fr eel y dr aw any amo unt fr o m t hei r
savi ngs acco unt w henever t hey w ant ed.
Bank s kept an i nvent o r y o f l i qui d cash
as pr escr i bed by t he RBI. M o r eo ver t he
saver s go t a smal l i nt er est fr o m t he bank
o n t hei r year l y savi ngs.
A t al l t i mes, Bank s had a po o l o f saved
mo ney fr o m t he savi ngs acco unt , w hi ch
t hey l ent at a hi gher r at e o f i nt er est t o
t ho se i n need o f i t fo r busi ness. Bank s t hus
became mi ddl emen o r i nt er medi ar i es,
co l l ect i ng mo ney at a l o w er i nt er est fr o m
depo si t o r s w i t h o ne hand and l endi ng i t at
a hi gher i nt er est t o bo r r o w er s w i t h t he
o t her hand, and i n t he pr o cess ear ni ng a
oecent prot. |t lnvolveo tbe task ot olllgent
evaluatlon ot tbe nanclal sounoness
St ar t Smar t Invest ment
History, Art and
Science of
Ther e was a t im e w hen
or dinar y p eop le never
t hought about invest m ent .
They only k new about
saving f or t he r ainy day.
They w or ked har d, lived
f r ugally, sp ending only f or
t heir basic necessit ies of
lif e and p ut t ing away t heir
sur p lus cash saf ely.
Tr adi t i o nal l y t he fami l y savi ngs w er e si mpl y st o r ed i n bo x es i n t he puj a r o o ms. W el l -
t o - do peo pl e saved go l d co i ns and bur i ed t hem i n po t s i n t hei r hear t h o r back yar ds
fo r safet y. O ft en, t hey used t hei r har d ear ned savi ngs t o buy a pi ece o f l and t o t i l l ,
t o per fo r m mar r i ages o r t o buy so me si l ver o r go l d o r nament s. T hey di d o ver spend
o n such fest i vi t i es and bo r r o w ed mo ney fr o m t he so w k ar ( paw n br o ker ) by pl edgi ng
t hei r bel o ngi ngs and payi ng ex o r bi t ant i nt er est s. Event ual l y so me o f t hem r et r i eved t hei r
pr o per t y w hi l e many o t her s l o st i t t o t he so w k ar o r o t her l ender s.
Tben banks came lnto tbe scene ano began to oo ln a more sclentlc manner wbat
paw n br o ker s w er e al r eady do i ng. C r udel y put , i n a sense Bank s r o bbed Pet er t o pay
Paul . T hi s w as t he basi c busi ness r evenue mo del . Peo pl e, w ho saved mo ney, needed t o
o f bo r r o w er s descr i bed as cr edi t w o r t hi ness t o
ensur e pr udent l endi ng. A s busi nesses gr ew and
demand fo r l o ans i ncr eased, bank s i nt r o duced mo r e
at t r act i ve t er ms fo r depo si t o r s l i ke Fi x ed D epo si t s,
Recur r i ng D epo si t s, C umul at i ve D epo si t s et c. T hese
i nst r ument s car r i ed much hi gher i nt er est s, w i t h t he
di sadvant age t hat a penal t y w o ul d have t o be pai d i f
yo u br o ke yo ur depo si t befo r e t he mat ur i t y per i o d.
T i l l dat e, bank depo si t s co nst i t ut e t he safest
i nvest ment fo r depo si t o r s. A depo si t up t o Rs 1 l ak h,
i n any schedul ed bank , i s pr o t ect ed by i nsur ance by
t he Reser ve bank o f Indi a. Tak i ng cue fr o m Bank s,
bo r r o w i ng busi nesses ar e al so t ak i ng depo si t s fr o m
saver s di r ect l y and o ffer i ng sl i ght l y hi gher r at e o f
i nt er est , t her eby cut t i ng o ut t he mi ddl eman banker.
By t hi s pr o cess t he l ender get s a sl i ght l y hi gher
i nt er est , w hi l e t he bo r r o w i ng co mpany i ncur s a
sl i ght l y l o w er i nt er est t hat i t w o ul d o t her w i se have
t o pay t o t he Bank . Such a w i n w i n ar r angement has
i t s snags. T her e i s a ser i o us r i sk t hat t he co mpany
t ak i ng depo si t s may go bank r upt o r fai l t o r et ur n yo ur
mo ney o n t i me. To mi ni mi se t he r i sk , r at i ng agenci es
l i ke C RISIL r at e co mpani es as A A A , A A , A , BBB et c,
t o i ndi cat e t he so undness o f t hei r busi ness and t hei r
cr edi t w o r t hi ness. T hi s i s a psycho l o gi cal co mfo r t
t o t he depo si t o r, w ho can have so me cl ue w hi l e
cho o si ng t he co mpany. Yet t her e i s st i l l no assur ance
t hat hi s mo ney i s safe.
M o st peo pl e i nvest fo r t hei r chi l dr en. It i s al so
lmportant tor parents to teacb tbelr cblloren scal
r espo nsi bi l i t y, budget i ng and bal anci ng i nco me and
ex pendi t ur es. T hi s i s a l i fe sk i l l t hat many usual l y fai l t o
i ncul cat e i n t hei r chi l dr en. W e sho ul d cat ch chi l dr en
even w hen t hey ar e smal l and educat e t hem o n t he
need t o r educe w ast e and co nser ve r eso ur ces. Pi ggy
bank s w i l l t each t hem t he habi t o f savi ng and sho w
ho w smal l savi ngs can gr o w bi g. G r adual l y t hey sho ul d
learn tbe value ot money ano nally avolo a llte ot
o st ent at i o n.
M o r e abo ut i nvest ment s nex t mo nt h......
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s a mo t her o f t w o gi r l s, I am
o ft en assai l ed by t er r i fyi ng
dr eams. I am sur e mo st ur ban
Indi an w o men w o ul d be
subj ect ed t o t he o nsl aught
o f such t r aumat i c er upt i o ns fo r m t he
subco nsci o us ever y no w and t hen. I go t
up w i t h a j er k , as co l d sw eat br o ke o ut
despi t e t he chi l l i ness o f t he M ar gazhi
br eeze i n C hennai ! T he pl i ght o f Indi an
mo t her s i n t o days er a o f gl o bal i zat i o n i s
i ndeed pat het i c.
A mo t her s ni ght mar e br i ngs t o l i ght o ne
o f t he gr eat est t r agedi es t hat mank i nd
has ever k no w n. T he i r o ny o f i t al l i s t hat ,
i t i s happeni ng i n t he gl o bal er a, t o t he
mo st educat ed and el i t e sect i o ns o f t he
fai r er sex , w hi ch have t he r espo nsi bi l i t y
o f ensur i ng t he empo w er ment o f t hei r
unfo r t unat e si st er s. Yet , t he w o r l d at l ar ge
has shut i t s eyes t o t he co nsequences t hat
mlgbt atNlct tuture generatlons. Desplte
vo ci fer o us cl amo r s by t he so - cal l ed
w o men act i vi st s and so ci al i st s o n al l i ssues
affect i ng w o men, t hi s i s o ne i ssue, w hi ch i s
per meat i ng st eal t hi l y l i ke cancer, and w hi l e
t he w o r l d sl eeps o n, w i l l er upt o ne day
l i ke a t empest , mai mi ng fut ur e gener at i o ns
physi cal l y and i nt el l ect ual l y.
D o w e r eal i ze t hat t o day, t he w o r l d i s
w i t nessi ng gender i nequal i t y at i t s w o r st ?
A nd unfo r t unat el y, t he l ear ned and t he
so - cal l ed el i t e w o men ar e t he vi ct i ms?
To days nar ci ssi st i c cul t ur e i s br eedi ng
such a fer vent passi o n amo ng t eenager s
t hat sado maso chi sm i s at i t s peak ! N ever
befo r e has an ent i r e gener at i o n o f scho o l
and co l l ege go i ng yo ung and heal t hy
gi r l s depr i ved t hei r gr o w i ng bo di es o f
t he no ur i shi ng mo r sel s t hat w i l l nur t ur e
fut ur e gener at i o ns. It i s an undeni abl e fact
t hat nat ur e has ent r ust ed w o men w i t h
t he r espo nsi bi l i t y o f no t o nl y cr eat i ng new
gener at i o ns, but al so nur t ur i ng t hem so
t hat t hey can car r y t he so ci et i es fo r w ar d.
T he w o r l d seems t o have fo r go t t en
t he par amo unt t r ut h t hat o ver r i des al l
o t her co ncer ns- i t s o w n ex i st ence and
co nt i nui t y i s at st ake!
T he er a o f myr i ad beaut y pageant s has
br o ught abo ut a dr ast i c mut at i o n i n t he
mi ndset o f t he yo unger gener at i o ns. W hi l e
o ne canno t bl ame t he i mpr essi o nabl e
yo ung age t hat i s enamo r ed by t he
i nundat i o n o f o pul ence, gl o bal j aunt s,
i nnumer abl e gi ft s and adul at i o n apl ent y
t hat go w i t h success i n such vent ur es
t hat r eek o f vani t y, i t i s depl o r abl e t hat
t he ent i r e w o r l d has pai d t he sl i ght est
at t ent i o n t o a mat t er t hat needs t o be
addr essed o n an ur gent basi s.
D epr i vi ng essent i al nut r i ent s t o t he bo dy
at a gr o w i ng age, especi al l y by t ho se
w ho can affo r d, i s an unpar do nabl e si n.
W hat k i nd o f fut ur e gener at i o ns can
t hese gi r l s, w ho have w r eaked havo c o n
t hei r co nst i t ut i o ns and hence st unt ed
t he gr o w t h o f t hei r bo di es, nur t ur e? I am
sur e t her e ar e no ser i o us st udi es o n t he
appal l i ng co nsequences o f t hese so cal l ed
beoonlstlc (but actually selt-Nagellatlng)
pur sui t s. Yet , t he i r o ny o f i t al l i s t hat t he
pat h t o t he hedo ni st i c pur sui t co mmences
w i t h sel f- deni al . Remember w hat o ne
o f t he w i nner s o f t he M i ss W o r l d t i t l e
bl ur t ed o ut aft er her success? T he yo ung
|nolan woman oeclareo tbat tbe rst tblng
she w o ul d do aft er t he event w as t o have
a hear t y meal ! T hi s si ngl e sent ence o ffer s
a di squi et i ng i nsi ght i nt o t he t r avai l s o f
a beaut y pageant aspi r ant . A nd t o t hi nk
t hat t hi s t r end may event ual l y l ead t o
t he st ar vat i o n o f al mo st hal f t he w o r l ds
po pul at i o n, even i f al l t he co unt r i es o f t he
w o r l d so meho w manage t o make fo o d
avai l abl e i n abundance, makes us w o nder
w her e w e have go ne w r o ng. W hi l e i t i s
no t an o ffense i f peo pl e go t o bed w i t ho ut
t w o squar e meal s a day dur i ng t i mes o f
dr o ught and fami ne t hat o ft en pl ague
sever al under devel o ped co unt r i es, t he
peccadi l l o es o f vani t y canno t be par do ned.
It i s t r ue t hat t he passi o n fo r anyt hi ng
fo r ei gn co ur ses t hr o ugh t he Indi an bl o o d
ever si nce days back t hen w hen w o men
maneuver ed ast ut el y t o l ay t hei r hands
o n cr i mso n, succul ent t o mat o es fr o m t he
Br i t i sh, t o t ur n o ut del ect abl e far es. It i s
al so t r ue t hat even as t he w i ndo w s o f t he
w o r l d have been t hr o w n w i de o pen t o day,
ur ban w o men have been emanci pat ed
fr o m many a shack l e t hat had chai ned
t hem fo r cent ur i es. W hi l e o ur o w n
cul t ur e had acco r ded a pl ace o f di gni t y
t o w o men w ho w er e cent r al t o fami l i es,
w e needed w est er n cul t ur e t o i nst i l l i n
us concepts ot nanclal ano emotlonal
lnoepenoence. Western lnNuences bave
t r ansfo r med many an ur ban w o man i nt o a
t hi nk i ng i ndi vi dual w ho i s w el l o n her w ay
t o r eal i zi ng her po t ent i al t o t he ful l est .
Yet, tlme was wben atNlctlons sucb as
ano r ex i a ner vo sa and bul i mi a w er e al i en
t o o ur co unt r y. To day, w hi l e so me yo ung
gi r l s w ho ar e t r aver si ng t he pat h o f sel f-
oestructlon are severely atNlcteo wltb
t hese di so r der s, w hi ch at best co ul d have
been kept at bay had t hey r efur bi shed
t hei r bo di es w i t h a bal anced di et , t he
day i s no t far o ff w hen o t her s w i l l fo l l o w
sui t . I w as shel l - sho cked w hen my t w el ve-
year o l d daught er t o l d me so me t hat her
e- mai l fr i end fr o m Lo ndo n, Jenny, aged
t w el ve, di ed due t o ano r ex i a! She w as
a mo del ! C an yo u i magi ne t he pl i ght o f
her di st r aught par ent s? T he angui sh o f
a mo t her w ho w i t nesses her daught er
w i l t i ng aw ay under her eyes fo r an
unfat ho mabl e cause i s i nex pl i cabl e. T he
angst t hat st r i kes t he w o mb t hat bo r e
her chi l d i s unendur abl e. T he ex cr uci at i ng
t o r ment t hat assaul t s t he bo so m t hat fed
manna t o her t ender i nfant even sur passes
t he pai ns t hat st r i ke her w hen she br i ngs a
l i fe i nt o t he w o r l d! A mo t her s gr i ef? G o d
fo r bi d i f a w o man has t o ever under go t he
t r auma o f l o si ng her chi l d! If t hi s t r end
A i sw ar ya Rai i s a cl assi c ex ampl e o f a
w o man under nat i o nal pr essur e t o l o se
w ei ght ! T he gr o ss at r o ci o usness o f i t al l i s
t hat she i s a feedi ng mo t her w ho i s o ut
o f her pr egnancy j ust si x mo nt hs back .
A i sw ar ya i s bei ng cr i t i ci zed by many i n
tbe meola ano lm clrcles as well as by
i nsensi t i ve ci t i zens fo r her po st - baby
w ei ght gai n. It i s t o her cr edi t t hat she has
appear ed at t he C annes 2012 pr emi er e
l o o k i ng st unni ng, despi t e t he w ei ght gai n.
W hat i s t r agi c i s t hat det r act o r s fai l t o
under st and t he i nt r i nsi c desi r e o f t hi s
w o man t o feed her baby and t ake car e o f
her per so nal l y. C ant a st ar cho o se t o be
l i ke any o t her mo t her ? D o esnt she have
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t he cho i ce t o deci de w hen she w ant s t o
w ean t he baby and get back t o shape? It
i s no t o nl y i nsensi t i ve but al so i nhuman
t o put pr essur e o n a w o man w ho w o ul d
l i ke t o t ake a sabbat i cal and savo ur t he
ex per i ence o f mo t her ho o d t hat she
has cho sen t o embr ace. W hat A i sw ar ya
do es abo ut her l i fe, her fami l y and her
appear ance i s no bo dys busi ness. W het her
t ho se w ho cr i t i ci ze her hai l fr o m t he
medi a i ndust r y o r no t , no ne has t he r i ght
t o i nt er fer e i n t he per so nal l i fe o f ano t her
ci t i zen. In a co unt r y w hi ch i s co nsci o us
o f H uman Ri ght s such o bj ect i o nabl e
di spar agement w i l l never ar i se. It i s t i me
o ur ci t i zens r eal i zed t hat t hey must l eave
w o men al o ne t o t hei r o w n devi ces!
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co nt i nues ceasel essl y, t he end o f t he
w o r l d may no t be a fat uo us t hi nk i ng any
mo r e because i t may be submer ged by
t he t o r r ent o f do w npo ur fr o m t he eyes o f
t he i nnumer abl e, hapl ess mo t her s o f t he
w o r l d!
C o nst ant i nundat i o n fr o m t he w est has
managed t o sust ai n Indi a as a l and o f
par ado x es. W hi l e o n t he o ne hand, t he
gi r l chi l d i n t he r ur al and semi ur ban ar eas
i s l angui shi ng i n mi ser y, sho ul der i ng t he
bur den o f r unni ng a ho useho l d, t ak i ng car e
o f her si bl i ngs, depr i ved o f educat i o n, o r
even basi c human r i ght s l i ke appeasi ng her
hunger o r l i vi ng w i t h di gni t y, w est er ni zed
gi r l s i n t he ur ban ar eas ar e o n t he r o ad
t o sel f- dest r uct i o n, and i n t he pr o cess,
j eo par di zi ng t he br i ght fut ur e o f ent i r e
so ci et i es w hi ch mi ght event ual l y end
up bei ng po pul at ed by st ymi ed, cr i ppl ed
gener at i o ns.
T he i nco ngr ui t y o f t he
sltuatlon ls magnleo
by t he fact t hat ho r des
o f pr o fessi o nal s fr o m
varlous elos are tbrlvlng
magnlcently, rlolng on
t he fr agi l e sho ul der s o f t he
pet i t e damsel s, w ho t hey
ar e gr o o mi ng as gl amo r o us
champi o ns o f so ci al i ssues .
W hi r l w i nds o f act i vi t i es ar e
sw i r l i ng ar o und at a fr enzi ed
pace i n t he w o r l d o f gl amo ur. T he
co r po r at e w o r l d t o o has j umped
i nt o t he fr ay w i t h mul t i nat i o nal s
co mpet i ng aggr essi vel y t o spo nso r
o st ent at i o us beaut y pageant s. T he
catalog ot tbe Nourlsblng gaggle ln
t he beaut y t r ade o ut t o make a fast
buck makes i mpr essi ve r eadi ng: fashi o n
desi gner s, mo del co o r di nat o r s, event
manager s, cho r eo gr apher s, gym and
aer o bi cs pr o fessi o nal s, dent i st s, sk i n
speci al i st s, pl ast i c sur geo ns and var i o us
o t her s fr o m t he medi cal pr o fessi o n et c.
H o w l o ng w o ul d t he dai nt y damsel s be
abl e t o haul t he encumbr ance o f t hese
mul t i t udes o f pr edaceo us po pul ace? It
i s o nl y sagaci o us t hat a co r r ect i ve mo ve
t o w ar ds emphasi zi ng heal t hi er l o o k s be
made t hat w o ul d no t o nl y save t he w o r l d
fr o m fut ur e di sast er, but al so ensur e t hat
t hese pr o fessi o ns co nt i nue uni nt er r upt ed.
It i s i mper at i ve t hat t hi s i ssue i s addr essed
by t he nat i o n o n a pr i o r i t y basi s. W hi l e
o n t he o ne hand, w e ar e bat t l i ng po ver t y
and i l l heal t h t hat hamper o ur co unt r ys
pr o gr ess, w e canno t affo r d t o l o se a
subst ant i al per cent age o f o ur l ear ned
and o t her w i se heal t hy po pul at i o n t o such
gr o ssness o f mi nd t hat pr ecl udes del i cacy
and di scr i mi nat i o n.
T he go ver nment as w el l as so ci al act i vi st s
and advo cat es fo r t he r i ght s o f w o men
must t ake up t he i ssue al o ng w i t h o t her
pr essi ng co ncer ns. T hr o ugh t he medi a,
t he medi cal fr at er ni t y sho ul d bo mbar d
t he yo unger gener at i o ns w i t h fact s abo ut
t he i l l effect s o f i nt ense di et i ng. Inst ead o f
ex t o l l i ng emaci at ed w o men as har bi nger s
o f fashi o n, t he pr i nt medi a sho ul d make
a co ncer t ed effo r t t o i ni t i at e
pr o paganda abo ut
beaut y, br ai ns
a n d
h e a l t h .
T he medi a must
be banned fr o m ex hi bi t i ng
scr aw ny mo del s, mo vi e st ar s and st ar s
o f t he smal l scr een, w ho l o o k gaunt , but
o t her w i se st uffed up at t he r i ght pl aces!
( W hat an i r o ny! W hi l e Indi an w o men
w er e k no w n t o be bux o m beaut i es,
t o days gener at i o ns have t aken t o sal i ne
sachet s and spo nges t o gi ve t hem t he
r i ght cur ves at t he r i ght pl aces. ) O ur
nat i o n can t ake t he bul l by t he ho r ns
and be a fo r er unner i n campai gni ng fo r
t he al t er at i o n o f gui del i nes t hat ar e t he
fundament al cr i t er i a fo r sel ect i o n i n
i nt er nat i o nal beaut y pageant s.
A ft er al l , Indi a has t he l egi t i macy t o
co nvi nce t he w o r l d at l ar ge, gi ven i t s
pr i cel ess cul t ur e and her i t age. Indi an
myt ho l o gy and anci ent hi st o r y ar e r epl et e
w i t h st o r i es abo ut t he gener o si t y and
co mpassi o n t hat under l i e t he act o f
feedi ng hungr y mo ut hs. Indi an k i ngs w er e
k no w n fo r t hei r magnani mi t y o f feedi ng
t ho usands o f subj ect s. Ever y vi ct o r y,
ever y fest i val w as an o ccasi o n fo r a huge
banquet .
W ho can fo r get t he humi l i t y w i t h w hi ch
Suoama carrleo a sttul ot putteo-rlce
t o hi s bo so m fr i end Lo r d K r i shna as a
pr esent ? O r t he anecdo t e abo ut ho w
D r aupadi go t o ut o f a di cey si t uat i o n w i t h
Lo r d K r i shnas hel p? T he st o r y go es l i ke
t hi s- o nce a bevy o f sanyasi s descended
upo n hapl ess D r aupadi at her ashr am
i n t he fo r est w i t h r umbl i ng st o machs.
U nfo r t unat el y she had co mpl et ed her
mo r ni ng cho r es and w ashed up t he
k i t chen. A ppr ehensi ve o f i ncur r i ng t he
w r at h o f t he sages, D r aupadi appeal ed
t o Lo r d K r i shna fo r hel p. In a t r i ce,
t he myst i cal Lo r d appear ed befo r e
D r aupadi . H e spo t t ed a gr ai n o f
r i ce st i ck i ng t o t he po t and at e
i t w i t h gust o . T hi s act o f Lo r d
Krlsbna ls salo to bave lleo tbe
st o machs o f al l t he sanyasi s
w ho t o o k l eave o f D r aupadi ,
ful l y sat ed and happy. T he
co mpassi o nat e gest ur e o f
feedi ng a hungr y mo ut h
w as co nsi der ed t he mo st
subl i me act o f man and
ear ned hi m punya, t he
go o dw i l l o f t he Pr o vi dence.
A no t her st o r y go es t hat o nce Par vat i ,
sur pr i sed t hat her husband, t he Pr o t ect o r,
t o o k car e o f ever y t i ny bei ng o n Ear t h,
deci ded t o l aunch i nt o an i nquest . She
chal l enged Lo r d Shi va t hat he co ul d no t
t ake car e o f al l t he bei ngs, al l t he t i me.
A ft er al l , i t i s pr o babl e t hat t her e co ul d
o ccasi o nal l y be a sl i p o r t w o i n o nes
endeavo ur s. Par vat i t hen st eal t hi l y pi cked
up a busy l i t t l e ant t hat w as hunt i ng fo r
fo o d i n an o bscur e co r ner o f t he Ear t h.
She put i t i n a smal l bo x and t i ed i t i nt o
a t i ght k no t at t he edge o f her sar ee,
t uck i ng i t i nt o her sl ender w ai st . W hen
Lo r d Shi va r et ur ned aft er hi s t o ur ar o und
t he U ni ver se, she enqui r ed i f he w as sur e
t hat he had fed each and ever y bei ng o n
Ear t h. Lo r d Shi va had never been mo r e
conoent. Wltb a smlrk, Parvatl unolo tbe
knot ot ber pallu ano stareo borrleo as
mai nt ai ned by t he gent eel mal e po pul at i o n.
M ay be, t he st ur dy and br aw ny po pul ace
has o ne mo r e ammuni t i o n up t he sl eeve
t o under mi ne t he st eel y det er mi nat i o n
w i t h w hi ch t he w o men o f t he mi l l enni um
ar e sur gi ng fo r w ar d. N o w o nder, many
yo ung men w i t h mo der n t ho ught s ar e
par t y t o t hi s t r ansgr essi o n t hat go es i n t he
name o f i nfusi ng a new w ave i n t he r eal m
o f fashi o n. N o new i dea can be co nsi der ed
mo der n i f i t i s det r i ment al t o any sect i o n
o f t he w o r l ds po pul at i o n. It i s sur pr i si ng
t hat t he ast ut e w o r l d o f men has fai l ed t o
r eal i ze t hat t hi s t r end w i l l ul t i mat el y affect
no t o nl y w o men and t hei r babi es but w i l l
shake t he fo undat i o ns o f w hat ever i s l eft
o f t he co hesi ve fami l y syst ems i n o ur
co unt r y.
T i me w as w hen nat i o ns used t o t et her
under t he st r angl eho l d o f a di ffer ent k i nd
o f Fo o d Pr o bl em t hat w i ped o ut mi l l i o ns
o f l i ves fr o m t he face o f t he ear t h. W hat
a bl asphemy t hat t he w o r l d has fo r go t t en
t he dr eaded fami nes and dr o ught s t hat
assai l ed t he w o r l d, o nce t o o o ft en dur i ng
tbe rst balt ot tbe twentletb century
and t hat w as no t even a few decades ago .
W hat t hen mar s o ur mi nds w i t h ut t er
cal l o usness t hat w e shun t he o nce scar ce
co mmo di t y, t he dear t h o f w hi ch at e
aw ay many l i ves? M ank i nd has di ver t ed
al l i t s endeavo ur s t o w ar d vanqui shi ng
t he t r avai l s o f hunger pangs. W hen man
event ual l y di d o ver po w er t he so l i ci t ude
o f fo o d scar ci t y, ho w much di d he gl o at
o ver hi s ast ut eness and success? W hi l e
many nat i o ns ar e st i l l gr appl i ng w i t h t he
pr o bl em o f pauci t y o f co mest i bl e, ho w
can t he w o r l d l et i t sel f be st eer ed by
t he apat hy o f a few chauvi ni st i c nat i o ns
w hi ch ar e do mi nat ed by avar i ce and
w ho se o nl y phi l o so phy o f l i fe seems
t o be I, M e, M ysel f . It i s t r ue t hat
mank i nd has w i t nessed t he hi ghest o r der
o f i nt el l ect ual advancement t o day. Yet t he
i r o ny i s t hat man i s bl i nded by t he dazzl e
o f a few unseeml y gr een paper s!
W hi l e l i t t l e mer mai ds ar e fr o l i ck i ng i n t he
aquamar i ne seas o r busy chasi ng a mi r age,
t he w o r l d l o o k s o n apat het i cal l y, and
terrleo motbers are spenolng sleepless
ni ght s, t r aumat i zed by ho r r endo us
t ho ught s o f ent r ust i ng t he fut ur e o f t he
w o r l d t o feebl e hands t hat w i l l o ne day
cl asp t he br i dl e!
Swat i Am ar
she caught a gl i mpse o f t he di mi nut i ve
cr eat ur e feedi ng mer r i l y upo n a few gr ai ns
o f sugar, w hi ch she had never pl aced i n t he
bo x . Lo r d Shi vas smi l e sai d i t al l . W el l , t hat
i s t he po w er o f t he Pr o t ect o r !
A nd her e w e ar e, go i ng agai nst t he l aw s
o f nat ur e, defyi ng t he pandect s o f t he
Pr o t ect o r, t r yi ng t o pr o ve . W hat ?
T he bo di es o f r eno w ned champi o ns
fo r w o mens cause, C l ar a Z et k i n and
A l ex andr a Ko l l o nt ai mi ght be w r i t hi ng
i n t hei r gr aves. H avi ng t aken up t he
co ncer ns o f ex pl o i t ed w o men as t hei r
l i ves passi o ns, t hey w o ul d never have
dr eamed t hat a day w o ul d daw n o n t he
uni ver se, w hen w o men w o ul d w i l l i ngl y
gi ve up t hei r basi c needs, i f o nl y t o capt ur e
Neetlng, covetous glances trom tbelr male
co unt er par t s.
T he mo st pai nful t ho ught t hat cr o sses
o nes mi nd i s t he st aunch si l ence
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Y
es, o h hel l o N ai na, ho w
ar e yo u? H o w w as yo ur
w eekend? she asked o n
answ er i ng t he pho ne.
O nl y t he usual , Suni t ha.
A k hi l has so me r evi si o n t est s t hi s w eek ,
and I had t o pest er hi m t o st udy. M ak i ng
hi m so l ve mat hs has beco me such a
H er cul ean t ask , si ghed N ai na, Suni t has
fr i end o f seven year s. T hey had met w hen
t hei r chi l dr en j o i ned pr e- scho o l and had
event ual l y beco me fast fr i ends. N o w even
aft er bo t h t hei r chi l dr en w er e st udyi ng i n
St or y Club
di ffer ent scho o l s, t hey co nt i nued t o be i n
t o uch, cal l i ng each o t her at l east t hr i ce o r
fo ur t i mes a w eek . A k hi l w as N ai nas so n
and D hanush w as t he name o f Suni t has
so n.
W hat , mo r e r evi si o n t est s? A k hi l s scho o l
seems t o r evo l ve ar o und t est s N ai na. T he
po o r t hi ng al w ays has t o have hi s no se i n
t he gr i ndst o ne!
T hat po o r t hi ng i s me Suni t ha, t o make
blm stuoy ls so oltcult tbat | teel llke golng
and w r i t i ng hi s t est s mysel f!
Laughi ng, Suni t ha sai d, By no w yo u ar e
so used t o mak i ng hi m pr epar e fo r t est s
N ai na, so t he j o b sho ul d seem l i ke a cake
w al k fo r yo u .
N ai na si ghed and sai d, W hen do es
D hanush st ar t hi s t er m ex ams?
N ex t mo nt h o n 25t h , sai d Suni t ha, but t he
po r t i o ns ar e no t o ver yet and w hat ever
t hey have been t aught , t hey make t hem
r evi se i n t he scho o l . W hat r emai ns o f
t he r evi si o n, t hey ar e asked t o co mpl et e
as ho me w o r k . H e co mpl et es t hat i n a
j i ffy and w hen I ask hi m t o st udy So ci al
Tr i ng t r i ng.. t he t el ephone r ang i n Suni t has house on a Monday mor ni ng.
i n t he mo r ni ngs o f w eek days, so i magi ne
havi ng t o get hi m up o n a Sat ur day!
N ai na sai d, yest er day A k hi l w o ke up at
6a.m. H e do es t hi s o n al l Sat ur days and
Sundays. I ask hi m t o go back t o sl eep as
I l o ng fo r t he w eekends w hen I can sl eep
l at e and no t have t o go t hr o ugh t he mad
r ush o f w eek days, but he si mpl y r efuses
t o do so .
So w hat do es he do t hen? asked Suni t ha.
O h, he go es and br ushes hi s t eet h
and ei t her sw i t ches o n t he T V o r t he
co mput er. It amazes me t hat he i s so w i de
aw ake and act i ve, w hi l e o n a w eek day; he
can har dl y o pen hi s eyes even at 7 a.m.
Even aft er he i s aw ake, he go es abo ut as
i f i n a sl umber w hi l e my husband and I
t o get her have t o hel p hi m dr ess, o ne o f
us feedi ng hi m br eak fast and t he o t her
t yi ng hi s sho el aces. Real l y, Suni t ha, i f any
o ne sees t hese mo r ni ng scenes, t hey
mi ght t hi nk t hat w e ar e br i ngi ng up such
a spo i l t bo y
D o yo u t hi nk i t i s any di ffer ent i n o ur
ho use N ai na? A nd no t o nl y t he t w o o f
us; so many par ent s have t o say t he same
t hi ng , sai d Suni t ha w hen her do o r bel l
r ang.
N ai na asked, Is t hat yo ur do o r bel l Suni t ha?
O k bye t hen, I l l cal l yo u ano t her day .
Suni t ha al so sai d a hur r i ed bye and w ent
t o answ er t he do o r.
Tw o days l at er N ai na cal l ed Suni t ha.
Suni t ha answ er ed and asked, H el l o ? H i
N ai na. H o w ar e yo u?
'| am ne Sunltba. Are you busy now?'
Yes, N ai na. M y nei ghbo ur s ar e vacat i ng
as I t o l d yo u l ast mo nt h and mo vi ng t o
t hei r new l y co nst r uct ed ho use, t o day. So
I co o ked so me fo o d fo r t hem w hi l e t hey
ar e busy pack i ng and shi ft i ng. I am go i ng
o ver t o gi ve t hem t he fo o d and al so see i f
I co ul d l end a hand i n pack i ng.
Yo u must be feel i ng sad t o see t hem l eave.
Yo u have k no w n t hem fo r si x year s no w,
i snt i t Suni t ha?
Yes, but t hey ar e j ust mo vi ng t w o
st r eet s aw ay. So I do nt mi nd. M y
nei ghbo r o n t he co nt r ar y i s ver y
upset and has been cl o se t o
t ear s t he w ho l e mo r ni ng. W e w o men get
at t ached t o ever yt hi ng ver y so o n be i t a
r ent ed ho use, nei ghbo r s o r j o bs.
T hat s r i ght . A nyw ay I w i l l cal l up nex t
w eek t hen, yo u go gi ve t he fo o d, o k bye
Suni t ha, sai d N ai na and she hung up.
Tw o days l at er t he pho ne r ang i n N ai nas
ho use.
H el l o , o h hi Suni t ha, sai d N ai na.
'Hello Nalna, nlsbeo all your work?'
asked Suni t ha.
N o I j ust st ar t ed co o k i ng.
O h t hen I l l cal l a l i t t l e l at er o k ?
'No, lts ne Sunltba. | am useo to oolng
w o r k ho l di ng t he co r dl ess; I can t al k w hen
I am cut t i ng veget abl es .
Yes, I al w ays w o nder at t hi s abi l i t y o f
yo ur s. I pr efer si t t i ng i n o ne pl ace w hi l e
t al k i ng. H ey I keep fo r get t i ng t o ask yo u,
ho w i s yo ur nei ghbo r do i ng no w N ai na? Is
t her e any i mpr o vement i n her co ndi t i o n?
N o Suni t ha, she i s t he same. G o d k no w s
w hen she i s go i ng t o r eco ver. It has been
a year no w.
Yes, i t s r eal l y ver y t r agi c. It scar es me t o
k no w t hat a mi no r pr o cedur e o f mer el y
r emo vi ng a cyst o n t he neck can end i n
sucb a borrlc way all because ot tbe
faul t o f an anest het i st
T he gi r l s mo t her sai d t hat t he anest hesi a
w as admi ni st er ed befo r e
t he r eact i o n o f t he
t est do se w as fo und
o ut . She sai d o x ygen
suppl y t o t he br ai n
st o pped fo r a mi nut e
and t hat w as al l i t t o o k
t o r educe her t o t hi s
st at e.
Is she st i l l bei ng fed
t hr o ugh t ubes?
Yes, she has
o r Sci ence, he says he k no w s ever yt hi ng.
So met i mes I feel t hey do no t gi ve t hem
much w o r k at al l , co mpl ai ned Suni t ha.
N o w i t w as N ai nas t ur n t o l augh, W hy
do nt w e ex change o ur pr o bl ems? W e
seem t o have ex act l y o ppo si t e t hi ngs t o
w o r r y abo ut .
Suni t ha l aughed t o o , A s I t o l d yo u l ast
w eek t hey had so me fun fest i n t he scho o l ,
so t hey had t hr ee days o f ho l i days and
no w t hey ar e havi ng scho o l o n Sat ur day
t o o t o make up fo r t ho se ho l i days. A s i t
i s, D hanush makes such a fuss t o w ake up
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been o n a l i qui d di et fo r a year no w. She
i s al l sk i n and bo nes. She canno t r eco gni ze
anyo ne and w e canno t make o ut i f she
hear s o r under st ands. M y st o mach chur ns
ever y t i me I vi si t her and my hear t go es
o ut t o her, such a yo ung gi r l , she w as
al w ays so bubbl y and cheer ful . G o d k no w s
w hen she i s go i ng t o r eco ver, Suni t ha sai d
sadl y.
I feel sho cked and sympat het i c t o o . T he
o t her day my aunt had t o go i n fo r a mi no r
sur ger y and I w ar ned her r epeat edl y no t
t o go i n fo r gener al but spi nal anest hesi a,
sai d N ai na.
Yo u ar e co r r ect N ai na, such ex per i ences
make us aw ar e and caut i o us. O k N ai na,
I have t o go no w, I w i l l cal l yo u aft er t he
fest i val . H appy Vi nayak a C hat ur t hi t o yo u. I
am gr eet i ng yo u i n advance as w e w i l l no t
be abl e t o cal l each o t her o n t hat day bei ng
busy w i t h t he fest i vi t i es , sai d Suni t ha.
T hat s t r ue Suni t ha. H appy C hat ur t hi t o
yo u t o o .
T he nex t w eek Suni t ha cal l ed N ai na.
H i N ai na. H o w di d yo ur fest i val go ?
W e had a go o d t i me Suni t ha. I made
mo dak s fo r t he puj a i n t he mo r ni ng and
t hen w e w ent t o my mo t her s pl ace fo r
l unch. W hat abo ut yo u?
I made i dl i s w hi ch ar e a bi t di ffer ent fr o m
t he usual o nes. T hese i dl i s ar e made w i t h
r aw r i ce and ur ud dhal and no t bo i l ed r i ce .
O h yes I r emember yo ut t el l i ng me abo ut
t hi s l ast year fo r Vi nayak a C hat ur t hi .
I mi ght have t o l d yo u t he pr evi o us year
t o o , l aughed Suni t ha.
N ai na l aughed t o o , W hat el se di d yo u
make?
O h, t he usual ko zako t t ai , r asam, sambhar,
ko o t u, po r i yal , payasam . and she r eel ed
o ff a l i st o f names.
W o w, sai d N ai na, t hat s qui t e a spr ead
Suni t ha, yo u al w ays make so many t hi ngs.
D i d yo u go t o t he t empl e as usual ?
Yes, w e w ent i n t he eveni ng, but befo r e
w e l eft o ur ex - nei ghbo r s came t o gr eet
us .
O h, so have t hey set t l ed do w n i n t hei r
new ho use?
Yes, t hey have, o nl y a few mo r e o dd j o bs
have t o be co mpl et ed. But , t hat s ex pect ed
i n any co nst r uct i o n w o r k . It w i l l t ake a
few mo r e mo nt hs t o be co mpl et el y do ne.
T hey sai d t hey w er e t hi nk i ng abo ut t he
year s w e had cel ebr at ed al l t hese fest i val s
t o get her, ex changi ng go o di es, so t hey
deci ded t o spend so me t i me w i t h us.
Yo u sai d t hei r daught er i s go i ng abr o ad
t o st udy. D i d she get i nt o t he uni ver si t y?
Yes, she di d. She i s l eavi ng fo r U K nex t
mo nt h .
H er par ent s must be t hr i l l ed. A few mo r e
year s and w e w i l l be di scussi ng abo ut o ur
chi l dr ens car eer s! began N ai na.
O h, N ai na, do nt l et s t al k abo ut such scar y
t hi ngs r i ght no w, w e l l do t hat w o r r yi ng
w hen w e co me t o i t , Suni t ha i mmedi at el y
r et o r t ed.
N o t t hat such a t i me i s t o o far aw ay,
ano t her t en year s o nl y, sai d t he ever
w o r r yi ng N ai na.
St o p bei ng such a w o r r yw ar t N ai na, t r ust
yo u t o sei ze any o ppo r t uni t y t o w o r r y. I
r emember w hen yo u w o r r i ed abo ut ever y
si ngl e ache o r pai n yo u suffer ed, al w ays
co nnect i ng i t w i t h a bi g ai l ment , r eadi ng
abo ut i t o n t he net and w o r r yi ng so me
mo r e!
N ai na l aughed and sai d, Yes, I w o r r i ed my
husband so much w i t h my anx i et i es t hat he
t hr eat ened t o cut o ff t he net co nnect i o n!
Bo t h o f t hem l aughed and aft er chat t i ng
fo r so me mo r e mi nut es, hung up.
Two weeks New by wltb tbe usual actlvltles
o ccupyi ng bo t h N ai na and Suni t ha. A ft er
nlsblng ber mornlng cbores one oay,
Suni t ha cal l ed N ai na.
H el l o N ai na, w hat w er e yo u do i ng?
O h hel l o Suni t ha, I w as pack i ng, w e ar e
go i ng t o Pal ani t hi s ni ght .
W hat ? A no t her pi l gr i mage? l aughed
Suni t ha. Yo u r eal l y have t ur ned i nt o a
r el i gi o us fr eak N ai na .
N o Suni t ha, pr o t est ed N ai na, I havent
go ne o n a pi l gr i mage fo r so met i me no w .
Ya, r i ght ! sai d Suni t ha, w ho w ent t o
G ur uvayur fo ur mo nt hs back ?
'Tbat was ve montbs ago!' crleo Nalna
Suni t ha bur st o ut l aughi ng. T hen she asked,
A r e yo u t ak i ng A k hi l al so ?
Yes, w e ar e.
H as he agr eed t o co me? U sual l y he
r efuses w hen yo u go o n yo ur t empl e
vi si t s, do esnt he?
N o , t hi s t i me he i s ex ci t ed, but al l fo r
t he w r o ng r easo ns! H e w i l l mi ss a mat hs
r evi si o n t est w hi ch i s t o mo r r o w ! l aughed
N ai na.
O h, t hat ex pl ai ns i t , l aughed Suni t ha t o o ,
i f he di d no t have t he t est , t hen he mi ght
have sai d no t o t he t r i p .
T hat he w o ul d have, sai d N ai na. Even
no w he i s acco mpanyi ng us w i t h many
co ndi t i o ns. H e sai d w e have t o st ay i n a
ho t el t hat has a T V w i t h car t o o n net w o r k .
A no t her co ndi t i o n i s t hat he w ant s t o st ay
put i n t he t ax i and no t co me i nsi de t he
t empl es!
M y G o d, t hese chi l dr en, ho w par t i cul ar
t hey can be! T he ex ci t ement o f a t r i p i s
l o st o n t hem w i t h al l t hese di st r act i o ns. A s
chi l dr en w e w o ul d w ai t fo r o ppo r t uni t i es
t o t r avel by t r ai n o r bus, t he j o ur ney i t sel f
w as aw ai t ed w i t h ex ci t ement and j o y.
Yo u ar e r i ght Suni t ha, si ghed N ai na.
C hi l dr en t o day ar e havi ng t o o much, t o o
so o n.
O k t hen N ai na yo u have a ni ce t r i p and
do o ne pr anam t o G o d fr o m me al so !
T hat I w i l l Suni t ha, l aughed N ai na, I l l cal l
yo u aft er I r et ur n .
T he nex t w eek Suni t ha answ er ed t he
pho ne w hen i t r ang and fo und i t w as
N ai na.
H el l o N ai na, ho w w as yo ur t r i p?
G o o d Suni t ha, w e had a w o nder ful
dar shan.
I m gl ad, sai d Suni t ha. So di d A k hi l
acco mpany yo u t o t he t empl e o r di d he
j ust si t i n t he t ax i ?
N o , no he di d no t si t i n t he t ax i . T hank ful l y
he came w i t h us t o t he t empl e w i t ho ut a
fuss. W e even had hi s head t o nsur ed.
W o w, sai d Suni t ha, ho w di d yo u get hi m
t o co nsent ?
Yo u k no w ho w bi g a fan he i s o f Raj ni k ant h.
So he fel t he can spo r t Raj ni k ant hs bal d
l o o k i n t he mo vi e Si vaj i and he i nsi st ed
t hat w e have hi s head t o nsur ed, w hen he
saw many devo t ees do i ng t he same t her e.
O f co ur se, t hat had t o be t he r easo n!
D o es he w ear sun gl asses behi nd hi s head
as Raj ni k ant h di d i n t he mo vi e?
O h yes, he st r ut s ar o und no w w i t h t ho se
gl asses behi nd hi s head and keeps l o o k i ng
at t he mi r r o r ever y no w and t hen.
Suni t ha l aughed unco nt r o l l abl y t r yi ng t o
i magi ne A k hi l w i t h a t o nsur ed head and
sun gl asses.
So , asked N ai na, ho w i s D hanushs scho o l
w o r k ?
G o i ng o n N ai na. T hey have been gi ven a
pr o j ect fo r t hi s t er m fo r bo t h Sci ence and
So ci al . Fo r Sci ence t hey have t o sho w t he
var i o us st ages o f ger mi nat i o n o f seeds and
fo r So ci al t hey have t o st i ck pi ct ur es o f
|nola's treeoom gbters.'
T hey, meani ng t hei r mo ms, pi ped i n N ai na
Yes, t hat s r i ght . I have so aked t he seeds
t o pl ant t o mo r r o w and have t o be o n t he
w at ch o ut fo r t hei r var i o us st ages aft er
t hat ! sai d Suni t ha.
T he mul t i t ask i ng mo t her s, yep, t hat s us!
T hr ee cheer s t o us! ex cl ai med N ai na and
hung up aft er sayi ng bye.
A no t her t i me Suni t ha pi cked up t he pho ne
t o cal l N ai na i mmedi at el y aft er seei ng o ff
D hanush t o scho o l and her husband t o
w o r k . Befo r e she co ul d di al , her husband
came back as he had fo r go t t en so me
paper s.
W hen he saw t he pho ne i n her hand, he
asked her W er e yo u go i ng t o cal l N ai na?
Suni t ha no dded.
Yo u t w o speak t o each o t her so r egul ar l y
fo r ho ur s o n t he pho ne but havent met
i n year s t ho ugh yo u st ay j ust ar o und t en
k i l o met er s fr o m each o t her s pl ace. So
w hy do nt yo u meet up?
Pat came Suni t has r et o r t , W ho has t he
t i me fo r t hat ?
H er amused husband co l l ect ed hi s paper s
and w al ked o ut smi l i ng and t hi nk i ng abo ut
hi s dear w i fe w ho di d no t have t i me t o go
o ut o f t he ho use t o meet her fr i end but
had al l t he t i me t o chat w i t h t hat fr i end
w i t hi n t he ho use. T he t w o fr i ends w er e
i ndeed t r ue pat r o ns o f BSN L!
K anchana.Rao
94
H o w ever, t he i nvo l vement o f st ar s and
t he r esul t ant i ncr eased po pul ar i t y have
hel ped t he gr o w t h o f IPL i mmensel y. IPL
has sho w cased unk no w n per fo r mer s
w ho hel ped br i ng vi ct o r y t o t hei r t eam.
T hi s League r eco gni zed po t ent i al pl ayer s
w ho no w co nt r i but e and pl ay fo r t hei r
co unt r y, says Pr at ap Jado n, a cr i cket fan.
T he Indi an Pr emi er League has cur r ent l y
ni ne ex i st i ng t eams t hat per fo r m i n
di ffer ent ci t i es. But i t has been r acked by
co nt r o ver si es w hi ch ar e r ui ni ng i t s i mage
and r eput at i o n. A number o f al l egat i o ns
about matcb/spot lng, bookles ano
bet t i ng have l ed t o an i ncr ease o f cr i me
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T
he Indi an Pr emi er League
( IPL) , a game o f fame,
gl amo ur and mo ney i s a
l eague based o n Tw ent y
20 cr i cket .T hi s l eague has
made a uni que mar k i n t he mi nds o f t he
peo pl e and w o r l d cr i cket . Lal i t M o di , w i t h
t he hel p o f BC C I i n 2008 st ar t ed t hi s
sensat i o n, mak i ng Indi a a pr o ud o r gani zer
o f t hi s mega event . T he l eague has gai ned
a l o t o f po pul ar i t y o ver t he year s. T he IPL
has gi ven a pl at fo r m fo r r i si ng st ar s and
ho pes fo r a br i ght fut ur e i n t hei r cr i cket
car eer. It has al so sai l ed o ver t w eet s,
scanoals, matcb lng ano corruptlon
char ges fo r o ver 5 year s no w, r ai si ng a
quest i o n abo ut t he aut hent i ci t y o f t he
game.
C r i cket i s a gent l emans game k no w n
fo r chi val r y, val ues and i nt egr i t y. But
t hi s has no w been r educed t o gr o ss
co mmer ci al i zat i o n i n t he name o f
ent er t ai nment . W i t h cel ebr i t y o w ner s
and a st ar st udded o peni ng cer emo ny w i t h
emi nent Bo l l yw o o d and H o l l yw o o d st ar s,
IPL has gai ned a l o t o f at t ent i o n. Si nce t he
i ncept i o n o f IPL cel ebr i t y o w ner s, st ar s
and po l i t i ci ans asso ci at ed w i t h IPL and
i nt er nat i o nal and nat i o nal pl ayer s have
been i n t he new s due t o scams, scandal s
and o t her at t ent i o n- get t i ng gi mmi ck s.
and o t her unsavo ur y i nci dent s as a
r esul t o f w hi ch t he val ue o f t he game i s
pl ummet i ng w i t h ever y mat ch.
D ur i ng t he co ur se o f t hi s seaso n t he
unnecessar y fr acas bet w een t he st ar,
w ho i s al so a t eam o w ner w i t h cr i cket
otclals ano securlty personnel coulo
have been avo i ded. T he unsavo r y l anguage
used and t hr eat s met ed o ut by t he st ar
br o ught no cr edi t t o anyo ne mak i ng i t a
cl ear publ i ci t y st unt . By no w, cr i cket fans
w er e so i mmune t hat i t came as no sho ck
w hen t he new s er upt ed t hat an IPL pl ayer
o f Ro yal C hal l enger at t empt ed t o mo l est
a U S ci t i zen dur i ng a po st - mat ch par t y.
Fo l l o w i ng i mmedi at el y w as t he scandal
w hen t w o IPL member s w er e nabbed at
a r ave par t y i n M umbai w her e t he po l i ce
fo und dr ugs. T he nat i o n w as amused
w hen t he chi ef mi ni st er o f t he w i nni ng
t eam had t o i nt er vene t o di sci pl i ne t he
cr o w d i n t he st adi um. IPL has usher ed i n
a cul t ur e hi t her t o al i en t o a co unt r y no t
mat ur e eno ugh t o handl e t he asso ci at ed
co mmer ci al i zat i o n and publ i ci t y o f a huge
magni t ude. T he cul t ur e o f cheer l eadi ng,
asso ci at i o n o f st ar s, po l i t i ci ans and
i ndust r i al i st s, mega event s , st ar s danci ng
i n t he venue and t he huge medi a publ i ci t y
have no t enhanced t he di gni t y o f t hi s game
w hi ch i s a par t and par cel o f t he l i fe o f
many Indi ans.
D espi t e t hese devel o pment s, t he co unt r y
uni t es dur i ng IPL mat ches t o cheer and
suppo r t t hei r favo r i t e t eams. T he sal es o f
t i cket have al w ays been hi gh despi t e t he
i ncl usi o n o f a speci al ent er t ai nment t ax o n
ever y t i cket bo ught t hi s seaso n.
I do o nl i ne sho ppi ng and buy a new
j er sey ever y year fo r t he t eam I suppo r t .
T her e ar e o t her pr o duct s l i ke caps, key
chai ns, mi ni at ur e bat s et c so l d t o o . T he
pr i ce i s a l i t t l e ex pensi ve but i t i s bet t er
t o buy aut hent i c pr o duct s t han go fo r
fake o nes avai l abl e at hal f t he pr i ce. IPL
bas been protable tor leaolng branos llke
Reebo k , A di das and al so smal l r et ai l er s
w ho sel l T- shi r t s, Fl ags, and bands o ut si de
tbe staolum. |PL bas ottereo a protable
pl at fo r m fo r br andi ng and sal es says
Sw et ha Jai n, an M BA st udent .
So ci al l y IPL has ho w ever pl ays a r o l e i n
bo ndi ng. Fami l i es enj o y w at chi ng t he
mat ches t o get her. So me even ho st ho use
par t i es. Yo ungst er s shar e a cuppa o f co ffee
o r a snack , w at chi ng l i ve act i o n i n a bi g
scr een at pubs and cafes ami dst cheer i ng
and r evel i ng w i t h t hei r fr i ends.
W e fr i ends usual l y w at ch mat ches o n a
pr o j ect o r, o r gani ze po t - l uck and enj o y t he
IPL ex per i ence at affo r dabl e ex penses. It
i s a go o d w ay t o be t o get her as w e k no w
t hat t he men o f t he ho use w i l l gr ab t he T V
r emo ve w el l i n advance, says ho memaker,
Savi t ha Raman.
Ir r espect i ve o f scams and scandal s, IPL fo r
t he cr i cket fans i s a del i ght ful ex per i ence.
T he l evel o f ent er t ai nment i s hi gh. T he
r eal ex ci t ement o r anx i et y emer ges w hen
yo u see yo ur per so nal favo r i t e pl ayer hi t
a si x er o r a bo undar y o r w hen yo u see
yo ur favo r i t e capt ai n ho l d t he C up o f Jo y
al o ft ! Repl et e w i t h endl ess emo t i o ns and
pr i cel ess mo ment s, t he IPL i s enj o yed and
much aw ai t ed by Indi an cr i cket l o ver s.
- Ji nal Pat el fr o m Pune
96
I
t i s k no w n t hat a huge chunk o f
o ur mo ney co mes fr o m Indi an
C o mpani es i n t he U S. W i t h t he
U S Eco no my sho w i ng no si gns o f
i mpr o vement and t he Indi an Rupee
fal l i ng i n val ue each day, t he co mmo n man
feel s t he pi nch. Ever y r upee saved i s a
r upee ear ned.
T he r ecent pet r o l pr i ce hi ke, t he st eepest
ever, gener at ed a l o t o f buzz o n so ci al
net w o r k i ng si t es. T ho ugh hi l ar i o us, t her e
cer t ai nl y w as a l o t o f angst hi dden i n each
o f t ho se updat es. H er e ar e a sel ect ed
few t w eet s, i f yo u mi ssed o ut o n t hem:
@ Pm0Indi a: Pl ease no t e: no w guv
empl o yees ar e accept i ng br i be i n fo r m
ot #Petrol. RT ano create awareness.
@RoN|nolan: Tbe best way to please your
wlte ls to ll ber tank wltb #petrol regularly.
@ A ar t i M adan: T he M o nk W ho So l d H i s
Ferrarl Knew About Tbe #Petrol Prlce Hlke
@ abdul l ah_ o mar : ( O mar A bdul l ahs
Otclal Twltter Account) Petrol Pump
A t t endant : Saab, K i t ne k a daal o o n?
C ust o mer : 2- 4 Rupye k a car ke upar
spray kar oe bbal. Aag laganl bal #petrol
#prlceblke (Translateo: Petrol Pump
A t t endant : Saab, fo r ho w much? C ust o mer :
Spr ay Pet r o l w o r t h 2 o r 4 Rupees o n my
car. Neeo to set lt on re!)
Facebo o k w as no t l eft far behi nd. H er e ar e
a few updat es do i ng t he r o unds:
G uys, I Just Bo ught A N ew H o use W i t h
A LU X U RIO U S VIEW . It s PET RO L PU M P
FA C IN G !

O nl i ne so ci al net w o r k s asi de, w e asked
few peo pl e w ho depend heavi l y o n t hei r
t w o o r fo ur - w heel er s t o co mmut e, abo ut
t hei r o pi ni o n o n t he pr i ce hi ke:
T he go ver nment despi t e k no w i ng t hat i t
w i l l be an unpo pul ar mo ve has go ne ahead
w i t h t he hi ke. T hi s t i me, i nst ead o f bei ng
fur i o us, I am appr ehensi ve o f my co unt r ys,
t hi s w o r l ds and my fut ur e. T hi s hi ke has
o nl y r ei t er at ed t he fact t hat w e ar e st ar i ng
at a huge, i r r epar abl e cr i si s i n t he face and
w e have t o act N O W , co nser ve N O W
and t hi nk o f al t er nat i ve so ur ces o f ener gy
r i ght aw ay. T hi s hi ke sho ul d be l o o ked at
as a w ar ni ng si gnal fo r t he cat ast r o phe w e
may have t o suffer i f w e fai l t o co nt r i but e
t o co nser vi ng t hi s pr eci o us so ur ce o f
ener gy. ~ A ar t i , Independent D esi gn
Pr o fessi o nal
O ne w ay o r ano t her, t he G o ver nment
has t o pay o ff t he bi l l fo r i mpo r t i ng o i l . It
i s bet t er t hat i t co l l ect s i t di r ect l y fr o m
t he user s o f pet r o l t han subsi di ze i t and
pass i t o n t o ever ybo dy, i ncl udi ng t he po o r
w ho cant even affo r d a vehi cl e, t hr o ugh
i ndi r ect t ax es. ~ So ur abh, Law yer
T he r ecent hi ke i n pet r o l pr i ce has had
a huge i mpact o n my per so nal budget
and Ive had t o r est r uct ur e i t and use t he
publ i c t r anspo r t i nst ead o f a car fo r t he
l o ng di st ance t hat I have t o co ver ever y
day t o get t o w o r k and back ! W i t h t he
r i se i n pet r o l pr i ce havi ng a cascadi ng
effect and t he pr i ce o f o t her ever yday
co mmo di t i es go i ng up, i mpul si ve buys ar e
pass. I can st i l l manage w i t h a few cut s
i n my budget , but w hat abo ut peo pl e
w ho canno t affo r d a decent l i vi ng? T he
G o ver nment sho ul d w o r k o n subsi di zi ng
co st s. It w i l l br i ng a huge r el i ef t o t he
mi ddl e- cl ass Indi an! ~ A r adhana, Pr o j ect
M anagement Ex ecut i ve
T he hi ke i n pet r o l pr i ces i s mer el y ano t her
reallty tbat we bave to oeal wltb. | no lt
unset t l i ng o f co ur se and w o r r y abo ut ho w
lt wlll lmpact my overall nanclal stablllty.
But al l t hi ngs sai d and do ne, l i fe w i t ho ut
veblcles was stlll a llte ano | oon't no lt
oltcult or unreasonable to cut back on
my vehi cl e usage t o beat t he fuel pr i ce
hi ke. It i s ul t i mat el y an adj ust ment i ssue.
T he eco no my i s no t do i ng w el l o n an
i nt er nat i o nal scal e and w e mi ght as w el l
vo l unt eer t o i mpl ement a few aust er i t y
measur es as ci t i zens. ~ A sho k , Law yer
Petrol prlces bave never been justleo ln
Indi a. T he i mpo r t t ax es seem t o be qui t e
hi gh fo r a co unt r y t hat i s st i l l devel o pi ng.
W i t ho ut dw el l i ng i nt o co r r upt i o n and
po l i t i cs, mass co nfusi o n and hyst er i a
seem t o be affect i ng ever y sect o r i n t hi s
co unt r y. A nd w i t h t r anspo r t at i o n bei ng an
i mpo r t ant par t o f t he eco no my, t he fuel
prlces seem to be lncreaslng tbe lnNatlon
t hat t he co unt r y i s al r eady suffer i ng fr o m.
Fr o m a l abo ur er t o an IT pr o fessi o nal ,
pet r o l vehi cl es seem t o be t he mo st
co mmo n mo de o f t r anspo r t . W i t h t he
i ncr ease i n fuel pr i ces, ever y ho useho l d
i t em w i l l i ncr ease i n val ue and w i t h t he
dr o ppi ng val ue o f t he r upee t he co unt r y
seems to be lncreaslng lts scal oebts by
t he day. Lack o f po l i t i cal i nfr ast r uct ur e
and a ver y l o w G D P sco r e seem t o be
upset t i ng t he al r eady uncl ear st at e o f t he
co unt r y. W i t h i ncr easi ng t ax es, peo pl e
w i l l no t be abl e t o t ake car e o f t hei r dai l y
needs. A l t ho ugh r educi ng t ax es seems t o
be t he r at i o nal cho i ce, t he i ncr easi ng debt
o f t he co unt r y cer t ai nl y w o nt al l o w t hi s.
If no t pet r o l pr i ces, t he pr i ce o f o t her
ever yday ho useho l d i t ems sho ul d be
bougbt oown to oecrease tbe nanclal
bur den o f t he co mmo n man. ~ Vi no t h,
Independent IT C o nsul t ant
W el l , i t i s no t t he i deal si t uat i o n. W het her
w e l i ke i t o r no t , t he G o ver nment has t o
co mpensat e fo r t he i mpo r t o f o i l and t her e
i s no bet t er gener at o r o f i nco me t han
t he mi l l i o ns o f peo pl e w ho co mmut e o n
pet r o l vehi cl es ever y day. H o w ever, ho w
abo ut cut t i ng do w n o n t he quant i t y o f o i l
i mpo r t ed by sw i t chi ng t o C N G en mass
st ar t i ng w i t h al l t he G o ver nment vehi cl es
t hat ar e used t o chauffer M i ni st er s fr o m
o ne par t o f t he ci t y t o ano t her ? T ho ugh i t
w i l l no t br i ng do w n t he pr i ces by a huge
mar gi n, a smal l r educt i o n i n pr i ces o nce i n
a w hi l e w i l l be a much appr eci at ed effo r t .
Fo r no w, al l t ho se w o men w ho dr eamt o f
t he man o f t hei r dr eams co mi ng fo r t hem
i n a w hi t e ho r se can r ej o i ce! Yo ur man w i l l
no t have much o f a cho i ce i f pet r o l pr i ces
keep sk y- r o cket i ng!
By A nur adha G anesan
D esi gner at A nanyah, Bangal o r e
Cit izens Voice
Fuel l i ng Peopl e s Fur y

Just as t he t emper at ur e keeps so ar i ng, so
t o o do es t he pr i ce o f pet r o l ; t he pr i ce
hi kes have added t o t he gr i m and sw eat y
si t uat i o n pr evai l i ng i n t he co unt r y. T her e i s
gener al di sgr unt l ement amo ng t he publ i c.
Yet , al l i s no t l o st . Peo pl e ar e st i l l abl e t o
l augh and be mer r y and make l i ght o f t he
cur r ent scenar i o .
So ci al net w o r k i ng si t es and SM S buddi es
st r i ve t o make l i ght o f t he spi r al i ng
pet r o l pr i ce hi kes by po st i ng o n t he net
o r sendi ng o ne- l i ner s, car t o o ns and l i ght
hear t ed co nver sat i o n pi eces t o fr i ends
and co l l eagues, t her eby st r i vi ng t o br i ng
fo r t h l i ght hear t edness i n t hese har d
t i mes.
A l l o ver t he ci t y, at var i o us pet r o l pumps,
peo pl e can be seen w ai t i ng pat i ent l y i n
l o ng w i ndi ng queues i n o r der t o get t hei r
vehi cl es fuel l ed. T hi s i s i ndeed t he st eepest
ever pr i ce hi ke i n pet r o l r at es and t hi s has
fr eaked o ut a maj o r sect i o n o f t he so ci et y.
T he G o ver nment has beco me t he t ar get
o f shar p and bl unt cr i t i ci sm fr o m t he
co mmo n man.
Mr. Subramanlan, a bank otcer baseo at
C hennai o pi nes t hat cur r ent hi ke i n pet r o l
pr i ces i s a sur e k i l l er fo r t he mi ddl e cl ass
t hat st ands t o l o se t he mo st . T hi s st eep
i ncr ease i n pr i ce o f pet r o l w o ul d have a
olrect lmpact on every elo ano woulo
turtber belp to accelerate lnNatlon rates.
A r una M ani mar an, a ho usew i fe based i n
N o l ambur, C hennai i s t o t al l y agi t at ed-
T he G o ver nment has l o st al l co ncer n
fo r mi ddl e cl ass fami l i es. W i t h t he i ncr ease
i n fuel pr i ces, r at e o f fo o d pr o duct s t o o
w o ul d sho o t up. M anagi ng t he mo nt hl y
ho me budget i s go i ng t o be a H er cul ean
endeavo r !
Pr aveen D ubey, an IT co nsul t ant based at
C hennai w ax es el o quent o n t he subj ect -
T he mar ket fo r ces ar e co nt r o l l i ng
pet r o l eum r at es; and so t he r at e o f cr ude
o i l has so ar ed up i n t he i nt er nat i o nal
mar ket s. H ence, i t i nevi t abl y i mpact s r at es
o f pet r o l i n o ur co unt r y. T he G o ver nment
i s hel pl ess w hen i t co mes t o subsi di zi ng
pet r o l r at es i n Indi a. It i s i ndeed bad new s
fo r t he co mmo n man, but as far as t he
mar ket i s co ncer ned, t he pr i ce hi kes w er e
ex pect ed.
K avya Ramdass, a st udent at St X avi er s
M umbai st at es t hus, Fr equent hi kes i n
pet r o l pr i ces ar e r eal l y t o ugh fo r us si nce
lt gets lncreaslngly oltcult to manage our
ex penses w i t h l i mi t ed po cket mo ney. A l l
t hat w e get i s spent o n co mmut i ng and w e
ar e l eft w i t h no t hi ng t o even get us so me
l unch!
Yes, net i zens and sms buddi es ar e havi ng
a elo oay bavlng a wbale ot a tlme ano
mak i ng l i ght o f a gr i m si t uat i o n. Let us ho pe
t hat peo pl e st r i ve t o mai nt ai n a po si t i ve
at t i t ude t hr o ugho ut and t hat pet r o l pr i ces
w o ul d be r educed i n t he near fut ur e.
M eanw hi l e, pr o fessi o nal s fr o m al l w al k s
o f l i fe ar e w o r r i ed abo ut t he sal ar y hi kes
w hi ch j ust canno t co mpet e w i t h t hat o f
t he fuel pr i ces. H er es w hat a can o f pet r o l
w as o ver hear d t el l i ng a so ft w ar e guy, t hi s
i s my fo ur t h hi ke t hi s year. W hat abo ut
yo u? H o w many have yo u go t ? Lo l .
Keepi ng yo ur co o l despi t e so ar i ng fuel
pr i ces and r i si ng t emper at ur es i s t he
so l e need o f t he ho ur - o t her w i se, t her e
w o ul d be gener al mayhem and chao s. St ay
po si t i ve, t o ar r i ve at po si t i ve so l ut i o ns.
Val sal a M eno n
S pi r al l i ng P r i ce H i kes
98
Jeevan Vaibhav
Jeevan Vai bhav
J
eevan Vai bhav i s t he new far e fr o m
t he Li fe Insur ance C o r po r at i o n o f
Indi a ( LIC ) l aunched o n 21 M ay 2012
i n a funct i o n at t he LIC pr emi ses i n
A nna Sal ai , C hennai . Rel easi ng t he new pr o duct ,
t he C hi ef G uest R.A r umugam, Inspect o r G ener al
o f Po l i ce ( Eco no mi c O ffenses W i ng) l auded t he
o r gani zat i o n fo r i t s ex empl ar y r o l e as t he si ngl e
mo st l eadi ng i nsur ance o r gani zat i o n t hat cat er ed t o
a huge net w o r k o f cust o mer s acr o ss t he co unt r y. H e
ent r eat ed t he publ i c t o t ake advant age o f t hi s new
proouct, wblcb be telt woulo be ot lmmense benet.
T he Z o nal M anager, LIC o f Indi a, D .D .Si ngh, K .K i sho r e
Kumar, Sr. D i vi si o nal M anager and P.R.Shank ar a Raj u,
Sr. D i vi si o nal M anager w er e t he o t her member s o n
t he dai s.
Jeevan Vai bhav i s
a si ngl e pr emi um
no n l i nked
i nsur ance pl an
w her e t he r i sk
co ver i s t he Sum
A ssur ed w hi ch
i s al mo st do ubl e
t he pr emi um
cho sen by t he
cust o mer and
o ffer s guar ant eed
r et ur ns at
M at ur i t y. T he
pl an, w hi ch i s an
i deal co mbi nat i o n
o f Insur ance and
Ret ur ns, w o ul d
be avai l abl e fo r
a l i mi t ed per i o d
o nl y up t o a max i mum o f 120 days. A maj o r hi ghl i ght
ot tbls plan ls tbat lt otters multlple benets to tbe
cust o mer :
Secur i t y A l mo st do ubl e t he si ngl e pr emi um i s bei ng
o ffer ed as t he r i sk co ver.
G r o w t h M at ur i t y Sum A ssur ed al o ng w i t h Lo yal t y
addi t i o ns, i f any ( based o n t he C o r po r at i o ns
ex per i ence)
C o nveni ence O net i me payment o nl y.
Fr eedo m T her e i s no upper l i mi t o n i nvest ment fo r
el i gi bl e l i ves.
Li qui di t y Po l i cy l o an i s avai l abl e aft er j ust o ne year.
In t he event o f t he unfo r t unat e deat h o f t he Li fe
assur ed dur i ng t he cur r ency o f t he po l i cy, t he Basi c
Sum A ssur ed shal l be payabl e w hi ch i s al mo st do ubl e
t he Si ngl e Pr emi um. ( D ependi ng o n t he age) ex cl udi ng
ex t r a pr emi um, i f any. O n M at ur i t y, t he M at ur i t y Sum
A ssur ed ( w hi ch w i l l depend o n t he si ngl e pr emi um
payabl e and t he age at ent r y o f t he l i fe t o be assur ed)
al o ng w i t h Lo yal t y A ddi t i o n, i f any shal l be payabl e.
El i gi bi l i t y fo r Lo yal t y A ddi t i o n w o ul d be co nsi der ed
dur i ng t he l ast year o f t he po l i cy dependi ng upo n t he
C o r po r at i o ns ex per i ence and t he r at es and t er ms
w o ul d be as decl ar ed by t he C o r po r at i o n.
T he M i ni mum age at ent r y fo r t he pl an i s ei ght year s
( co mpl et ed)
w hi l e he
max i mum i s 65
year s ( near er
bi r t hday) . T he
t er m under t he
pollcy ls eo
at 10 year s. T he
mi ni mum Sum
A ssur ed i s Rs.2
l ak hs w hi l e t her e
i s no upper l i mi t .
T he mi ni mum
pr emi um under
t he po l i cy i s Rs
95,210 w i t h no
upper l i mi t .
T hi s i s an i deal
pl an fo r al l age
gr o ups o f peo pl e
i ncl udi ng yo ungst er s l o o k i ng at a nest - egg w hen
t hey need t o pur sue t hei r go al s and chase t hei r
dr eams o r fo r par ent s w ho w ant t o save mo ney fo r
fundi ng t hei r chi l d/ gr andchi l ds hi gher educat i o n o r
tor nanclng tbelr own neeos or tbat ot cblloren wbo
have gr o w n up. T he po l i cy o ffer s hi gh l i qui di t y t hr o ugh
po l i cy l o an aft er j ust o ne year.
On 16 May L|C launcbeo [eevan Aksbay v|, lt rst
o n- l i ne pr o duct . It i s an i mmedi at e annui t y w hi ch, o n
payment o f a l ump sum, ent i t l es t o an annui t y fr o m
t he ver y nex t mo nt h. Jeevan A k shay i s avai l abl e under
any o ne o f t he 7 annui t y o pt i o ns l i st ed by t he LIC and
i s avai l abl e fo r ages 30- 85.
Fo r det ai l s vi si t w w w.l i ci ndi a.i n
LI C of I ndi a l aunc hes a new pr oduc t -
St at e Bank o f Indi a, C hennai C i r cl e do nat ed an A mbul ance Van
and medi cal equi pment t o t he Paedi at r i c C ent r e o f C ancer
Inst i t ut e, A dyar val ued at Rs. 52.00 l acs o n 29 M ay 2012. Pr at i p
C haudhur i , C hai r man, St at e Bank o f Indi a handed o ver t he keys
o f t he ambul ance van t o D r. Shant ha, C hai r man, C ancer Inst i t ut e.
Durlng a press meet, tbe Cbalrman announceo tbat tbe net prot
ot S8| lncreaseo trom Rs. 8,265 crores ln tbe nanclal year 2011
to Rs 11,707 crores ln tbe nanclal year 2012. State 8ank ot |nola
r ank s t hi r d hi ghest i n t he co unt r y r eco r di ng t hi s magni t ude o f
prot. He also salo tbat 29 new brancbes were aooeo last year,
t ak i ng t he t o t al number o f br anches t o 862 i n Tami l N adu.
Tbe pertormance ot S8| bas been eemplary ourlng tbe nanclal
year 2011-12 wltb an lncrease ln operatlng prot trom Rs. 25,336
cr o r es i n 2011 t o Rs. 31,574 cr o r es i n 2012, and an i ncr ease o f
net i nt er est fr o m Rs. 32,526 cr o r es t o Rs. 43,291 cr o r es. T he net
i nt er est mar gi n i ncr eased fr o m 3.32% t o 3.85%. D i vi dend o f Rs.
35 per shar e has been pr o po sed fo r t he year ended 31st M ar ch
2012.
CSR I ni t i at i ve By St at e Bank Of I ndi a
Fo r mi l l i o ns o f
under pr i vi l eged chi l dr en i n
Indi a, hi gher educat i o n i s a
di st ant r eal i t y. D i sha, a so ci al
endeavo ur by T he M a Fo i
Founoatlon loentles sucb
chi l dr en, pr o vi des t hem
t he necessar y suppo r t t o
nur t ur e t hei r dr eams and
acco mpl i sh t hei r go al s.
T hi s year, t hei r st udent s
bave passeo out wltb Nylng
co l o ur s i n t he Pl us 2 bo ar d
ex ami nat i o ns.
O f t he 302 st udent s fr o m
C hennai and Vi r udhunagar
w ho w r o t e t he ex ami nat i o n
t hi s year, 9 o f t hem have
sco r ed mo r e t han 1100
mar k s and 45 have sco r ed
abo ve 1000 mar k s; t he
o ver al l pass per cent age bei ng
97%. M aheshw ar i fr o m
Vi r udhunagar has sco r ed
1187 mar k s o ut o f 1200 and
st ands 3r d i n t he St at e and
1st amo ng D i sha scho l ar s.
Radhi k a, st udyi ng i n Vel ammal
M at r i cul at i o n Scho o l ,
C hennai has sco r ed 1161
and Yasw ant h fr o m K anada
Sanga Scho o l , C hennai has
sco r ed 1160 mar k s.
Mabesbwarl wlll be a rst
gener at i o n co l l ege go er
i n her fami l y. H er fat her S.
Pal ani samy and mo t her P.
Bhagyal ak shmi r un a smal l
eat er y i n T i r uchengo de
w her e she st udi es i n Vi dyaa
G i r l s H i gher Seco ndar y
Scho o l . M aheshw ar i st o o d
t hi r d i n t he Tami l N adu
St at e i n t he C l ass X ex ams.
She r epeat ed her feat t hi s
t i me sco r i ng cent um i n al l
t he fo ur maj o r paper s. She
aspi r es t o be a neur o l o gi st .
Educ at i ng
Under pr i vi l eged Chi l dr en
100
June 1 st t o 3 0 t h
A maar a pr esent s an ex hi bi t i o n ent i t l ed
C r epe Spl endo ur s, a co l l ect i o n o f
el egant , cr ease fr ee cr epe sal w ar k ur t as
fo r al l o ccasi o ns casual s, fo r mal s
bl o ck pr i nt s and k amal k ar i w i t h var i ed
co o r di nat es o f dupat t as and chur i daar s
avai l abl e fr o mRs.2,500/ - o nw ar ds, fr o m
10:30 am t o 7:30 pm at 27 / 14 C V
Raman Ro ad, A l w ar pet C hennai . Pho ne
45000020.
Event s for You
August 2 nd 2 0 1 2
Rak sha Bandhan 2012 at A met hyst :
W hat bet t er w ay t o ack no w l edge and
t hank t he speci al l i t t l e w o man, w ho has
st o o d by yo u t hr o ugh t hi ck and t hi n, t han
by pr esent i ng her a pi ece o f beaut i ful
A mr apal i j ew el l er y fr o m A met hyst , namel y
sllver olppeo ln golo wltb sllver butterNy
chat t ai w o r k ( Rs.4,190/ - ) , go l d ear r i ngs
(Rs.55,000/-) or tbe golo jumkallgree
w o r ked i n w i t h emer al d ( Rs.98,350/ - ) .
A nd o f co ur se, t her e i s a beaut i ful and
ex t ended r ange o f beaut i ful Rak hi s o f
si l ver, w i t h t hr eads and beads i n apr i ce
r ange o f Rs.500/ - t o Rs.1500/ - . A sel ect i o n
t hat w i l l undo ubt edl y appeal t o and
appease t he si st er o n t he speci al o ccasi o n
o f Rak sha Bandhan.
A met hyst pr o duct s avai l abl e at :
A met hyst ent r ance, nex t t o C o r po r at i o n
Bank , W hi t es Ro ad, Ro yapet t ah, C hennai
600 014;Ph : 044 45991630 / 31 / 32
June 2012 at Dakshi na Chi tr a
Chi l dr en s wor kshop:
Photogr aphy wor kshop for chi l dr en : 16th June 2012
- Rs. 750
Adul t wor kshop:
Kal amkar i wor kshop : 9th - 11th June 2012 - Rs. 3500
Puppet door hangi ng :21st & 22nd June 2012 - Rs. 1500
Lamp shade mak i ng: 23r d & 24t h June
2012- Rs. 1500
A r t G al l er y
A r t ex hi bi t i o n : Pai nt i ngs and met al w o r k s
by S. Shant hi :1st - 17t h June 2012
Puppet Ex hi bi t i o n :A n ex hi bi t i o n o f
t r adi t i o nal puppet s fr o m D ak shi na C hi t r as
co l l ect i o n :20t h - 30t h June 2012
Ret r o spect i ve o f Sak t i Bur man at A mbur
A r t G al l er y - t i l l Jul y 2012.
100
June 2012 Eves Times
Eves Times June 2012
Registrar of Newspapers for India
Registration Number TNENG/2005/16719
Regn. No: TN/ CC (S) Dn 354/ 11-13

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