How To Succeed

How to Succeed
A 15 point plan of success

1. Don't talk negatively about people behind their backs. If you
gossip (rumor), people won't confide (trust) in you. Mind your own business.
2. Try to work for someone who'll challenge your powers. You'll
learn more in a year than 4 years of college.

3. Successful bosses have good communication skills. They learn
from people, including their employees.

4. Work in such a way that makes your boss look good. It's not
flattery.
5. On downsizing, the first to go are those with few friends.
Bosses prefer competent people whom they respect.

6. Dress for the job you want, not the one you have. Let your dress
reflect professionalism.
7. Workout to get in good physical shape (Good appearance, &
arranged). Unless exceptionally skilled (Labor), the unhealthy are at a comparative disadvantage.
8. Personal integrity (honesty) is crucial. Tell nothing but the truth.
Bosses can forgive mistakes but if you lie, you're gone.

9. Be on time. Try to arrive few minutes early. It saves you from stress.
You'll be much relaxed & work better Strive (Struggle/ attempt) your best to keep a deadline. If you cannot meet it, then apologize & ask for an extension
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Don't take things personally. If some people are unhappy with you, it's their problem. But always strive to give your best.
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If you must correct someone, don't get personal about it. Do it never in front of others. Spend some time alone everyday. What's the mission of my life? What do I want to be? And how to go about it. As you move along Plan A of your career, maintain a Plan B as well an alternative course to rely Always remember that the secret of success is passion. Always think big. Spread love & joy. You'll have blissful years ahead
How to change your attitude?

Collected & Arranged by: Habibullah Qayumi
Attitude is Evaluative statements or judgments concerning objects, people, or events. Factors that determine your attitude: 1. Environment 2. Experience 3. Education
You can change your attitude in 8 steps: 1. Change focus, look for the positive. Start looking for what is right in a person or situation instead of looking for what is wrong.
2. Make a habit of doing it now. We have all procrastinated (postpone) at some time in our lives. Procrastination leads to a negative attitude. The habit of procrastination fatigues (weakens) you more than the effort it takes to do it.
3. Develop an attitude of Gratitude (gratefulness) Count your blessings, not your troubles. We are so focused on complaining about things we do not have that we lose sight of the things we have. There is a lot to be thankful for.
4. Get into Continuous Education Program It is a general belief that we get educated in schools and colleges. Do we really get educated in schools and colleges only?
5. Build a Positive Self-Esteem Self esteem is the way we feel about ourselves.
6. Stay Away from Negative Influences Sensitive minds get influenced by adult behavior and the media. It shows a lack of self-esteem when people do not have the courage to say No, thank you and stay away from negative.
7. Learn to like the Things that need to be done Start by doing what is necessary, then what is possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.
8. Start your Day with Something Positive Read or listen to something positive first thing in the morning.
Personality Development
1. Don't compare yourself with anyone in this world. If you
compare, you are insulting yourself.
2. No one will manufacture a lock without a key. Similarly God
won't give problems without solutions.
3. Life laughs at you when you are unhappy... Life smiles at you
when you are happy... Life salutes you when you make others happy...
4. Every successful person has a painful story. Every painful
story has a successful ending. Accept the pain and get ready for success.
5. Easy is to judge the mistakes of others. Difficult is to
recognize our own mistakes. It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to cover the earth with carpet.
6. No one can go back and change a bad beginning; But anyone
can start now and create a successful ending.
7. If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it. If a
problem cannot be solved what is the use of worrying?
8. If you miss an opportunity don't fill the eyes with tears. It will
hide another better opportunity in front of you
9. "Changing the Face" can change nothing. But "Facing the
Change" can change everything, dont complain about others; Change yourself if you want peace.
Mistakes are painful when they happen. But years later, collection of mistakes is called experience, which leads to success.
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Be bold when you loose, and be calm when you win. Heated gold becomes ornament. Beaten copper becomes wires. Depleted stone becomes statue. So the more pain you get in life you become more valuable.
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People cry, not because they are weak. It is because they have been strong for too long, and they come to know later.
Who is a girl???
A girl is the most beautiful part of ALLAH's creation, She sacrifices her chocolates for her brother. Later, she sacrifices her love for the smile of parents face. She sacrifices her full youth for her husband and children without complaint. And finally her life ends up only by compromising for others happiness. She is that creature of ALLAH who no one can complete. Respect every girl in your life. You will never know what she had sacrificed for you! The Will to Win If you want a thing bad enough To go out and fight for it, Work day and night for it, Give up your time and your peace and your sleep for it, If only desire of it Makes you quite mad enough Never to tire of it, Makes you hold all other things tawdry (flashy) and cheap for it, If life seems all empty and useless without it And all that you scheme and you dream is about it, If gladly you'll sweat for it, Fret for it, Plan for it, Lose all your terror of man for it, If you'll simply go after that thing that you want With all your capacity, Strength, and sagacity, Faith, hope, and confidence, stern pertinacity, If neither cold poverty, famished and gaunt, Nor sickness nor pain Of body and brain Can turn you away from the thing that you want, If dogged and grim you besiege and beset it, You'll get it.
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Call ALLAH (SWT) before HE calls you Pray before you are preyed upon Remember death before death remembers you Leave the worldly life before the worldly life leaves you Recite HIS words before HIS words are recited upon you
Education is a better safeguard of liberty than a standing army ~Edward Everett
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Lessons of Life
1. When Snake is alive, Snake eats Ants. When Snake is dead, Ants eat Snake. Time can turn at any time. Don't neglect anyone in your life 2. Never make the same mistake twice, There are so many new ones, Try a different one each day. 3. A good way to change someone's attitude is to change your own. Because, the same sun that melts butter, also hardens clay! Life is as we think, so think beautifully. 4. Life is just like a sea, we are moving without an end. Nothing stays with us, what remain are just the memories of some people who touched us as Waves. 5. Whenever you want to know how rich you are? Never count your currency, just try to Drop a Tear and count how many hands reach out to WIPE that- that is true richness. 6. Heart tells the eyes see less, because you see and I suffer lot. Eyes replied, feel less because you feel and I cry a lot. 7. Never change your originality for the sake of others, because no one can play your role better than you. So be yourself, because whatever you are, YOU are the best. 8. Baby mosquito came back after 1st time flying. His dad asked him "How do you feel?" He replied "It was wonderful, everyone was clapping for me!" Now that's what I call Positive Attitude.
1. Never play with the feelings of others because you may win the game but the risk is that you will surely lose the person for a life time. 2. The world suffers a lot, not because of the violence of bad people, but because of the silence of good people. 3. I am thankful to all those who said No to me, it is because of them I did it myself. 4. If friendship is your weakest point then you are the strongest person in the works. 5. Laughing faces do not mean that there is absence of sorrow, but it means that they have the ability to deal with it. 6. Opportunities are like sunrise, if you wait too long you can miss them. 7. When you are in the light everything follows you, but when you enter into dark even your own shadow dose not follow you. 8. Coin always makes sound; the currency notes are always silent. So when your value increases keep yourself calm and silent. 9. It is very easy to defeat someone, but it is very hard to win someone. 10. Never compete with a person who is better than you always follow him because he will make way for you to be better than him. In traffic if there is an aggressive driver, dont race him but follow and when the empty road will come you will have a chance to overtake him. I remember Amitabh Bachchans dialogue in the movie Kala Patthar " Pehle hum Pani ke liye rasta banayenge phir Paani Hamare liye rasta banayega" 11. 1] Prayer is not a "spare wheel" that you pull out when in trouble, but it is a "steering wheel" that directs the right path throughout.
12. 2] A Car's WINDSHIELD is so large & the Rear view Mirror is so small? Because our PAST is not as important as our FUTURE. So, Look Ahead and Move on. 13. 3] Friendship is like a BOOK. It takes few seconds to burn, but it takes years to write. 14. 4] All things in life are temporary. If going well, enjoy it, they will not last forever. If going wrong, don't worry, they can't last long either. 15. 5] Old Friends are ALLAH (Gold)! New Friends are Diamond! If you get a Diamond, don't forget the Gold! Because to hold a Diamond, you always need a Base of Gold! 16. 6] Often when we lose hope and think this is the end, ALLAH (GOD) smiles from above and says, "Relax, sweetheart, it's just a bend, not the end! 17. 7] When ALLAH (GOD) solves your problems, you have faith in HIS abilities; when ALLAH (GOD) doesn't solve your problems HE has faith in your abilities. 18. 8] A blind person asked Saint: "Can there be anything worse than losing eye sight?" He replied: "Yes, losing your vision!" 19. 9] When you pray for others, ALLAH (God) listens to you and blesses them, and sometimes, when you are safe and happy, remembers that someone has prayed for you. 20. 10] WORRYING does not take away tomorrow's TROUBLES; it takes away today's PEACE. SELF AWARENESS Knowing your nature, your abilities, and how you will react to people and the circumstances - May well be the GREATEST LIFE MANAGEMENT SKILLS. As compared to the people who do not know themselves very well, people who are self aware: - Are better listeners - Tend to be less Judgmental about others - Are more willing to admit their mistakes - Are less Self Conscious T Those who are beautiful are not good always, but those who are good are always good. 7 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 Important things to have and give in your marriage: LOVE : The special feeling that makes you feel all warm and wonderful. RESPECT : Treating your spouse as you would like to be treated. APPRECIATION: To be grateful for all the good things your spouse does for you. HAPPINESS: The full enjoyment of each moment spent together with a smiling face. FORGIVENESS: The ability to let things be without anger. SHARING: The joy of giving without thoughts of receiving. HONESTY: The quality of always telling the truth See More
AAccept others for who they are and for the choices they've made even if you have difficulty understanding their beliefs, motives, or actions. BBreak Away from everything that stands in the way of what you hope to accomplish with your life. CCreate a family of friends whom you can share your hopes, dreams, sorrows, and happiness with. DDecide that you'll be successful and happy come what may, and good things will find you. The roadblocks are only minor obstacles along the way. EExplore and experiment. The world has much to offer, and you have much to give. And every time you try something new, you'll learn more about yourself. FForgive and forget. Grudges (complaint) only weigh you down and inspire unhappiness and grief . Soar above it, and remember that everyone makes mistakes. GGrow: Leave the childhood monsters behind. They can no longer hurt you or stand in your way. HHope for the best & never forget that anything is possible as long as you remain dedicated to the task. IIgnore the negative voice inside your head. Focus instead on your goals and remember your accomplishments. Your past success is only a small inkling of what the future holds. JJourney to new worlds, new possibilities, by remaining open-minded. Try to learn something new every day, and you'll grow. KKnow that no matter how bad things seem, they'll always get better. The warmth of spring always follows the harshest winter. LLove: Let love fill your heart instead of hate. When hate is in your heart, there's room for nothing else, but when love is in your heart, there's room for endless happiness. MManage your time and your expenses wisely, and you'll suffer less stress and worry. Then you'll be able to focus on the important things in life. NNotice: Never ignore the poor, infirm, helpless, weak, or suffering. Offer your assistance when possible, and always your kindness and understanding. OOpen your eyes and take in all the beauty around you. Even during the worst of times, there's still much to be thankful for. PPlay: Never forget to have fun along the way. Success means nothing without happiness. QQuestion: Ask many questions, because you're here to learn. We Learn By Doing, & Teach By Being. RRelax: Refuse to let worry and stress rule your life, remember that things always have a way of working out in the end. SShare your talent, skills, knowledge, and time with others. Everything that you invest in others will return to you many times over. TTry: Even when your dreams seem impossible to reach, try anyway. You'll be amazed by what you can accomplish. UUse your gifts to your best ability. Talent that's wasted has no value. Talent that's used will bring unexpected rewards. VValue the friends & family members who've supported & encouraged you, & be there for them as well. WWork hard every day to be the best person you can be, but never feel guilty if you fall short of your goals. Every sunrise offers a second chance. X--X-Ray: Look deep inside the hearts of those around you and you'll see the goodness & beauty within. YYield to commitment. If you stay on track & remain dedicated, you'll find success at the end of the road.
To achieve your dreams remember A to Z
ZZoom to a happy place when bad memories or sorrow rears its ugly head. Let nothing interfere with your goals. Instead, focus on your abilities, your dreams, and a brighter tomorrow.
HANDBOOK OF LIFE
Health: 1. Drink plenty of water. 2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar. 3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants. 4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy. 5. Make time for meditation and prayer. 6. Play more games. 7. Read more books than you did in 2009. 8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. 9. Sleep for 7 hours. 10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile. Personality: 11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about. 12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment. 13. Don't over do. Keep your limits. 14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does. 15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip. 16. Dream more while you are awake. 17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need. 18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness. 19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others. 20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present. 21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you. 22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime. 23. Smile and laugh more. 24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
Society: 25. Call your family often. 26. Each day give something good to others. 27. Forgive everyone for everything. 28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6. 29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business. Life: 3 1. Do the right thing! 3 2. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful. 3 3. Time heals everything. Give time, time. 3 4. However good or bad a situation is, it will change. 3 5 No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up. 3 6. The best is yet to come. 3 7. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it. 3 8. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.
15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go: 1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who cant stand the idea of being wrong wanting to always be right even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. Its just not worth it. Whenever you feel the urgent need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind? Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big? 2. Give up your need for control. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel. By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning. Lao Tzu 3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or dont have, for what you feel or dont feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life. 4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Dont believe everything that your mind is telling you especially if its negative and self-defeating. You are better than that. The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive. Eckhart Tolle 5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly! A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind Elly Roselle 6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. Its not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking. 7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that youre not just to make others like you. It doesnt work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that youre not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly. 9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change dont resist it. Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls Joseph Campbell 10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you dont understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you dont know anything about. Wayne Dyer 11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesnt exist you created it. Its all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place. The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself. Franklin D. Roosevelt 12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them theyre fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real. 13. Give up the past. I know, I know. Its hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for the past that you are now dreaming about was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now. 14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but its not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesnt mean you give up your love for them because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there cant be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words. 15. Give up living your life to other peoples expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other peoples expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They
forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need.and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life this one right now you must live it, own it, and especially dont let other peoples opinions distract you from your path.
Is Stress Toxic? 9 Reasons Why You Should Give Up Stress!

The more care you put into your life, the more life will care for you, bringing you fun adventures, great friends, and real inner security. Caring is just good streetsense So, Judge less and unstress, Care more and high score. Doc Childre I know that some of you will argue that you cant just give up stress, its not that easy, and of course, you will start thinking of the many reasons you have the right to be stressed, and all the reasons why you simply cant give up so easily on being stressed. To be honest, those excuses do not interest me, for I only want to show you the things you are doing to yourself and to those people around you every time you fall into this trap called stress, and how healthier and beneficial it is to let it all go. By letting go of stress, 1. YOU WILL BECOME A LOT SMARTER! It is scientifically proven that every time you are under stress, you become stupid, and I am not being mean here. You actually lose intelligence every time you choose to feel stressed. The moment you choose to react to whatever happens to you instead of taking the time to think things through, and in the end, to actually respond instead of react, you go into the fight or flight mode, and your blood starts rushing through your veins to your extremities, away from the brain, going to your muscles. Based on your behavior and reactions, you are actually telling your body that a wild beast is coming your way and of course, the body is now ready to defend itself at the risk of you losing intelligence. The moment you understand this, you will keep your intelligence in place and you will be a lot smarter than you will be if stress is present in your life. Brain cells create ideas. Stress kills brain cells. Stress is not a good idea. Frederick Saunders 2. YOU WILL LOOK MUCH YOUNGER. Who doesnt want to look young and age gracefully? Nowadays, at the speed that we are going through life, every time stress attacks, every time we either are under stress or just thinking about this horrible beast, our cells start aging faster and faster, making us look tired, and washed out, making us look older than we actually are, and shortening our life span. Every stress leaves an indelible scar, and the organism pays for its survival after a stressful situation by becoming a little older. Hans Selye But not to worry, there is still hope. Once you learn how to cope with stress, not only your face will light up and you will start looking younger, but you will be a lot more happier, you will age gracefully and you will actually live longer. 3. YOU WILL NURTURE BEAUTIFUL, LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIPS. Who wants to be around stressed and bitter people? I know I dont and I am sure you dont either. Its so unpleasant to see how people go from being so kind and sweet to turning into real beasts the moment they are under stress. It is not healthy and nobody should live their lives this way. If you want to have lots of friends, quality people to spend your time with, and if you want them to enjoy you and your presence, choose to leave stress behind and your wish will come true. I have learned silence from the talkative, tolerance from the intolerant and kindness from the unkind. I should not be ungrateful to those teachers. Kahlil Gibran 4. YOU WILL DISCOVER THE POWER of SELF LOVE and SELF ACCEPTANCE. What does this have to do with stress? What doesnt? I know so many people who cant stand being alone with their own person not even for a second. They simply cant stand the person they are alone with. When you are under stress for too long, it becomes part of your life and you start identifying with it. You want to complain all the time and you want to tell everybody you interact with how miserable you are. They have a right to know how stressful your life is.
You get to a point where you simply cant live with yourself any longer, constantly trying to run away from your own shadows, your own thoughts, your own person. If you choose to let stress behind, that will no longer be the case, and you will fall in love with your own person, but not in a narcissistic kind of way, but a pure and selfless kind of way. By doing so, not more and more people will enjoy being in your presence, but you will too! As you love yourself, so shall you love others. Strange but true, with no exceptions. Harry Stack Sullivan 5. YOU WILL ACHIEVE INNER PEACE and HAPPINESS. Just like I was saying earlier, the moment you give up the need to react to everything that happens to you, the moment you give up the need to call yourself a victim of stressful situations and stressful people that will be the moment you will achieve inner peace, tranquility. Attachment to being right creates suffering. When you have a choice to be right, or to be kind, choose kind and watch your suffering disappear. Dr Wayne Dyer Inner peace and happiness is exactly what every human being on this planet is after, and that is exactly what you will achieve in the absence of stress. 6. YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE WILL IMPROVE. Not only will giving up on stress make you look younger and help you age gracefully, but it will actually improve your appearances. I know somebody who used to work in a very tense environment, where people will not be honest with one another, talk behind each others backs, and many other nasty things, and once she left that negative environment, something that I cant even put into words happen to her. Every time I see her, it feels like she has this inner light that gets stronger and brighter every time I see her, and her appearance has improve enormously. She is now free of stress, hers and of those around her, and she is happy, content and looking more beautiful than ever. Dont let your mind bully your body into believing it must carry the burden of its worries. Astrid Alauda 7. YOU WILL HELP THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU. If you manage to free yourself from stress, all kind of transformations will start to take place, with you and your life, and people will want to know what happened, and people will want you to help them do the same for them. You have no idea how fulfilling that will be, and by sharing with them your experiences and your transformational process, you will help them improve the quality of their lives, you will help them live more gracefully and you will help them live a happier life. 8. YOU WILL ACHIEVE YOUR PLANS, DREAMS AND GOALS A LOT FASTER. What will be another thing that will happen to you once you will start moving away from stress toward a more peaceful, serene and focused life? You will manage to achieve your goals, your plans and your dreams a lot faster. The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire not things we fear. Brian Tracy Why is that you may ask? Well, every time you are under stress, like I said it before, you start pumping up the blood from your brain to your muscles, helping you to lose intelligence, keeping you further and further away from staying focused and engaged in your activities, making it somehow impossible for you to move confidently in the direction you want to move. The moment stress is no longer present, the moment there will be no other distractions, you will manage to stay laser focused on achieving the things you want, you will have more energy, more confidence and you will be a lot more passionate about the things you do and your life. You will notice how things will start to happen for you a lot faster that you thought possible and how your life is getting better and better, every day in every way.
9. YOU WILL BUILD HEALTHY FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS. Just think for a moment how it feels for your family to see you under stress, and if by any chance have children or grandchildren, thats even worse. Not only energy is contagious and you will manage to contaminate them with your toxicity every time you are under stress, but you will teach your children, whether you realize it or not, that stress is part of life, that stress is normal, and they will grow up copying your behavior. Is that what you want for your children? Appreciating each other is a true family value, one that will bail out much of the stress on the planet and help strengthen the universal bond all people have. Sara Paddison Letting go of stress and leaving all that is negative behind will help you build healthier and stronger relationships with your family and it will help you raise healthy, strong and beautiful children.
15 Powerful Things Happy People Do Differently

What is the difference between happy people and unhappy people? Of course, it may be very obvious, happy people are happy while unhappy people are unhappy, right? Well, that is correct, but we want to know what are the things that these people do differently and that is why, I have put together a list of things that HAPPY people do differently than UNHAPPY people. 1. LOVE vs. FEAR. Well, I can tell you for sure that those people who are really happy, FEAR less and LOVE a lot more. They see each moment, each challenge, each person as an opportunity to discover more about themselves and the world around them. 2. ACCEPTANCE vs. RESISTANCE. Happy people understand that you cant really change a situation by resisting it, but you can definitely change it by accepting that it is there and by understanding that there might be a reason for its existence. When something unpleasant happens to them, they dont try to fight it, knowing that this will make the situation even worse, but rather, they ask themselves questions like: What can I learn from this? How can I make this better? and they go from there, focusing on the positive rather than on the negative. They always seem to see the glass half full no matter what happens to them. 3. FORGIVENESS vs. UNFORGIVENESS. Really happy people know that its not healthy to hold on to anger. They choose to FORGIVE and FORGET, understanding that FORGIVENESS is a gift they give to themselves first and foremost. Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.Buddha 4. TRUST vs. DOUBT. They trust themselves and they trust the people around them. No matter if they talk to the cleaning lady or the C.E.O. of a multi billion company, somehow they always seem make the person they are interacting with feel like there is something unique and special about them. They understand that beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies, and because of that, they make sure to treat everybody with love, dignity and respect, making no distinctions between age, sex, social status, color, religion or race. These are the great men that Mark Twain was talking about: Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. Mark Twain 5. MEANING vs. AMBITION. They do the things they do because of the meaning it brings into their lives and because they get a sense of purpose by doing so. They understand that Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life like Wayne Dyer puts it, and they care more about living a life full of meaning rather than, what in our modern society we would call, living a successful life. The irony here is that most of the time they get both, success and meaning, just because they choose to focus on doing the things they love the most and they always pursue their heart desires. They are not motivated by money; they want to make a difference in the lives of those around them and in the world. 6. PRAISING vs. CRITICIZING. Happy people would probably agree with Carls Jung theory on resistance: What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size. They dont criticize the absence of the behavior they want to reinforce, but rather, every time the behavior is present, even if its not that often, they know that by praising the person and the behavior, they will actually reinforce the positive behavior. When a parent wants to make sure that his 7 years old boy will learn to always put the toys back in the box after hes done playing with them, he will make sure not to focus on the many times the child wont do it, criticizing him and his behavior, but rather, every time the little boy does put the toys back, the parent will praise him
and his behavior and that is exactly how he will reinforce the positive behavior, and in the end geting the wanted results. 7. CHALLENGES vs. PROBLEMS. Happy people will see PROBLEMS as CHALLENGES, as opportunities to explore new ways of doing things, expressing their gratitude for them, understanding that underneath them all lies many opportunities that will allow them to expand and to grow. 8. SELFLESSNESS vs. ALTURISM. They do what they do not for themselves, but for the good of others, making sure that they bring meaning, empowerment and happiness in the lives of many. They look for ways to give and to share the best of themselves with the world and to make other people happy. Before giving, the mind of the giver is happy; while giving, the mind of the giver is made peaceful; and having given, the mind of the giver is uplifted.Buddha 9. ABUNDANCE vs. LACK/POVERTY. They have an abundant mindset living a balanced life, achieving abundance in all areas of life. 10. DREAMING BIG vs. BEING REALISTIC. These people dont really care about being realistic. They love and dare to dream big, they always listen to their heart and intuition and the greatness of their accomplishments scares many of us. Dream no small dreams for they have no power to move the hearts of men. Goethe 11. KINDNESS vs. CRUELTY. They are kind to themselves and others and they understand the power of self love, self forgiveness and self acceptance. 12. GRATITUDE vs. INGRATITUDE. No no matter where they look, no matter where they are or with who, they have this capacity of seeing beauty where most of us would only see ugliness, opportunities, where most of us would only see struggles, abundance where most of us would only see lack and they express their gratitude for them all. 13. PRESENCE/ ENGAGEMENT vs. DISENGAGEMENT. They know how to live in the present moment, appreciating what they have and where they are, while still having big dreams about the future. When you are present, you can allow the mind to be as it is without getting entangled in it. The mind in itself is a wonderful tool. Dysfunction sets in when you seek your self in it and mistake it for who you are. Eckhart Tolle 14. POSITIVITY vs. NEGATIVITY. No matter what happens to them, they always seem to keep a positive perspective on everything and by doing so, they tend irritate a lot of negative and realistic people. 15. BLAMING vs. TAKING RESPONSIBILITY. They take full ownership over their lives and they rarely use excuses. Happy people understand that the moment you choose to blame some outside forces for whatever it is that happens to you, you are in fact giving all your power away, and they choose to keep the power for themselves and taking responsibility for everything that happens to them.
9 Fears that Keep Us from Achieving Our Dreams and Purpose In Life
If you look into your own heart, and you find nothing wrong there, what is there to worry about? What is there to fear? Confucius What is a F.E.A.R. and where it originates? We are afraid of so many things and because of that so many of us, instead of moving forward in life, stagnate or move backwards. This is not how life should be lived, in fear and stress. I know there are many fears that we all might experience, less or more, and from all of these fears, I have chosen to focus on the ones I found to be the most present in peoples lives. 1. Fear of Letting Go. We fear letting go of familiar places; we fear letting go of relationships that no longer serve us; we fear letting go of who we once were, of our past and we cling to all of these things, thoughts, beliefs and ideas without realizing that the past is gone forever and all that we will ever have is this very present moment. If we choose to constantly think about what once was, we miss out on what is happening in our lives in this very moment, we miss out on life. We need to learn how to let go of the things that no longer serve you and allow ourselves to be free of fear and free of stress. Your past history and all of your hurts are no longer here in your physical reality. Dont allow them to be here in your mind, muddying your present moments. Your life is like a play with several acts. Some of the characters who enter have short roles to play, others, much longer. But all are necessary, otherwise they wouldnt be in the play. Embrace them all, and move on to the next act. Wayne Dyer 2. Fear of Change. If we manage to let go, what will happen then? This is a question that hunts so many of us, and fear of change scares us so badly. Where will we go, what will we do? Are we going to be safe? What will happen to us? We have this incredibly powerful fear of change and fear of the unknown that paralyzes so many of us, not understanding that if we keep on doing the things that weve always done and if we keep on living in the familiar without leaving our comfort zone, we will always end up in the same situations. There will be no movement, no growth. Trust yourself. Learn to listen to your heart and intuition and know that the life you want wants you. 3. Fear of Failure. And if we embrace change, what if we will meet with failure and defeat? Who will we be then and what will our lives look like? This fear of failure keeps so many of us from moving forward in life, from going out there and trying new things. A lot of times, even though we are not happy with where we are and what we do, we would rather stay in our comfort zone than do something different, something new, just because we have this fear of failure hunting us, not seeing that The only real failure in life is the failure to try. 4. Fear of Being Different. You want to be normal right? You want to be like everybody else. Why be different? This is not a healthy approach to life, I would say. Constantly trying to please everybody around you and forgetting about the person who matters the most, and that is YOU, will bring so much unhappiness upon us. You dont want to be like everybody else, you want to be YOU, true to yourself, and if that implies you being different than those around you, so be it. Keep in mind that: Those who mind dont matter, and those who matter dont mind. Dr. Seuss 5. Fear of Unleashing Our Hidden Potential. Whether you believe it or not, this fear actually keeps us even farther away from making our dreams come true, from going out there and sharing with the world our amazing gifts and talents. This is because, whether we consciously realize it or not, the exposure and the responsibilities that will come once we unleash our potential scares us. We want to
move forwards, at least consciously we think we do, but deep down in our subconscious mind we keep the foot on the breaks. We are trying to move forward but with the breaks on. You have no idea how much power the subconscious mind has and how, even though we say we want something, we get stuck because of what is hidden in our subconscious mind. PUT THE PWER OF SUBC MIND. 6. Fear of Not Being Able to Live Up to Other Peoples Expectations, especially when you are constantly seeking approval from those around you in order to feel good about yourself, to feel that you are worthy, to feel validated. Whenever this fear knocks on your door, keep this in mind: You are always a valuable, worthwhile human being, not because anybody says so, not because youre successful, not because you make a lot of money, but because you decide to believe it and for no other reason. Wayne Dyer 7. Fear of Being Lonely. Nobody wants to be lonely, especially when you cant stand the person you are alone with, and you and I know that there are plenty of us in this situation. We come to this world alone, and we will depart alone. If you get to this point where you have accepted yourself completely, where you have learned to love and nurture the person you are deep down inside, you will never feel lonely again because you will now enjoy your company so much and believe me, others will too. 8. Fear of Losing a Loved One. Its hard to lose somebody you love, and I dont know how many people can actually deal with the thought of losing a dear one without feeling sad and blue. Its a normal fear I will have to say, but if we start appreciating these people more, expressing our gratitude for their presence in our lives while they are still here, when the time will come for them to leave this world, it will be a lot easier for us and we will not have to suffer that much. Instead of using your time to worry and fear about it, you can use that time to show them how much you love them, and to confess to them this love. It will do you and them so much good. Try it and see what happens. 9. Fear of Dying. Oh my, this is another one, a very powerful and delicate one I will have to say. We fear death for we have no idea what will happen after, and if you think about it, its a lot like the fear of the unknown. The fear of death is the most unjustified of all fears, for theres no risk of accident for someone whos dead. Albert Einstein It doesnt really matter what religion we belong to, whether we have one or not, and what our thought and beliefs regarding death are, for this does not keep us away from having this fear of dying. When the time will come, we will all have to leave this beautiful Earth, but until that day, lets just enjoy our time here, shall we? Dont you think it is a better idea than spending your time worrying about it? The safest course is to do nothing against ones conscience. With this secret, we can enjoy life and have no fear from death. Voltaire
Five Incredible Truths We Often Forget

When it comes to treating ourselves in the same way we treat the people we love the most, we often fail. We can be generous and kind to others, but not so much with ourselves. We can see the beauty and greatness in others, but not so much in ourselves. I think its time for us to start working on changing these things. Its time for us to start seeing ourselves for what we really are and to start treating ourselves the way we treat the people we love the most. Its time for us to become aware of these five incredible truths we often forget: 1. You have Superpowers. Are you even aware of the incredible potential that lies within you? We are often told that we only use 10% of our brain, and our mind cant even comprehend this. I strongly believe that there will come a day when we will all become aware of this, a day when we will all start seeing ourselves as we really are; a day when we will start to see how magnificent we really are; a day when we will become aware of the fact that nothing is impossible, because just like the beautiful and amazing Audrey Hepburn said it: Nothing is impossible, the word itself says Im possible! You dont believe me? Well, take the example of Anita Moorjani, an incredible woman that once had terminal cancer, with twenty four tumors the size of lemons, tumors that were spread all over her body. Eventually, she managed to recover, after being in a coma for four and a half weeks, and when she woke up, she was completely healed. This is something that no doctor can explain, as she was supposed to be dead, and not only that she is alive, but all signs of tumors and cancer are now gone. YOU, yes YOU, have Super Powers! 2. You have the power to transform lives! I remember reading these words: There are people in your beautiful life whom you unknowingly inspire simply by being you and thinking to myself: The reality could not be further from the truth.You have no idea how many people love you, how many people look up to you, how many people are inspired by the things you do, and if you will start to see yourself as the incredible being you really are, you too will feel inspired by your own SELF. You are a source of inspiration and you have the capacity and the power to transform lives. 3. You are like no other. Yes you are! In this world full of people, there is not even one single being who is exactly like you, not even one! Not even one single person who can do the exact same things you are doing, in the exact same way you are doing them. Do you realize how big this is? You are that special! Winnie the Pooh said it best: There is something you must always remember. You are BRAVER than you believe, STRONGER than you seem, and SMARTER than you think I am sure that deep down inside you already know this to be true, but maybe you are somehow afraid of the unlimited potential that lies within you, afraid of the responsibilities that come with this knowing and awareness, but there is nothing to fear, for you will never be alone. The world will always love those who dare to embrace their greatness and start achieving their big bold dreams. The world will always love you! 4. You are BEAUTIFUL. Of course you are! It breaks my heart every time I hear somebody complain that they are ugly, and that they cant stand to see their faces in the mirror, that their nose are too big, their breasts too small, their arms too fat, and the list can go on forever. And if by any chance you have a hard time seeing the beauty that you are, and if what you see by the eye doesnt please you, then close your eyes and see from the heart. Because the heart can see beauty and love more than the eyes can ever wonder.
5. Love will always find you. Who doesnt want to feel loved? Who doesnt want to be loved, to feel appreciated and cared for? There is so much love out there for all of us, and somehow we complain that there is not enough love in the world. Everybody is looking for love but somehow, everybody forgets to start giving love first, before receiving love. If you start asking the people around you what they want from life, what will make them happy, on their list, I am sure that all of them will add that they want to feel loved, that they want to be loved, so why not start sharing your love with the world, and as a result, the world will start sharing her love with you. This is how love will find you!
The Path to Happiness: Give up Blame!
In a world where people constantly blame other people for how they are feeling, for what they have/ dont have, for what they are, etc. it can be quite challenging to start taking responsibility for ones own thoughts, feeling and emotions. It can be quite challenging to understand that you and only you can determine how you feel, and you and only you can decide whether you are happy or unhappy. The moment you accept it, the moment you understand that its not other people that make you happy or unhappy, but rather, its how you choose to look at what they do/ not do to you, that will be the moment you will regain your power. I can tell you from my own experience that this is one of the most amazing things you can do for yourself, and in that moment, you go from being weak, from being a victim, to being a very powerful human being who is total control over his/her own life, and that is exactly how life should be lived. I love how Eleanor Roosevelt puts it : No one can make you feel inferior without your consent and how true is that? Its all in your hands, its all in how you choose to look at things; how you choose to interpret them its all in how you choose to perceive yourself, your circumstances, the people around you; its all in how you choose to perceive life in general. You can either choose to be a victim and blame it all on outside forces, or you can choose to take control over your own thoughts, feelings and emotions, and understand that nobody can make you unhappy unless you choose to be be so. You, and only you have control over all of these things. You and only you.
Are You a Control Freak?

This is the continuation from one of the topics I talked about in an earlier post called 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy, and as I mentioned before, because of the many requests I got, asking to go deeper into each section, I decided to do just that. The need for control How many of you out there are control freaks? If you think that you need to control everything that happens to you and all around you, and mostly, if you think that you CAN control everything, than you are doomed to a very stressful life. Things happen, and a lot of times, things that are not so pleasant, things that we will not be able to control. People will act in ways that we dont always agree, unpleasant events will take place, etc., and that is perfectly fine. Us trying to control all of these things, stressing about it and spending a lot of time, energy and effort into understanding it, into trying to correct and change it, will only create even more stress in our lives Just allow things to be as they are, allow people to act the way they act without labeling everything and without trying to control everything, acknowledging that this will only make things even worse, remembering that What You Resist, Persists! Have you ever tried to just give up your resistance and see how that makes you feel? Why wont you just give it a go it with something that really irritates you, with
something that you are really eager to change and correct. See what happens when you work with it instead of working against it. Know that it is okay to just observe events and situation without always feeling the need to change reality, and of course, when I say that you should give up the need for control, I dont mean that you should just sit with your arm crossed and do nothing, but rather to accept reality as it is, and if there is anything that can be improved to do so, but without fighting it. Learn How To Ho with the Flow of Life, not against it, and just notice how much easier your life will become. Always go with the flow, always, and remember the words of this wise man whenever you feel the need to go a little bit crazy: It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because theres nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized. Wayne Dyer
Why Being Kind to People is Better than Being Right?

You cant shake hands with a clenched fist. Indira Gandhi A while back I wrote this post called 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy, and because of the many requests I got, asking to go deeper into each thing, I decided to do just that. Today we will focus on the letting go of the need to always be right and why is it important to do so. I will say that giving up the need to always be right, its one of the most important lessons we can learn from life, lesson that will help us achieve peace of mind and improve the quality of our relationship, not only with those around us, but with ourselves also. Who cares if you are right or not? Who cares if after a very long and intense argument you win? Does this really bring pleasure to you? You hold onto an idea so strongly and you are willing to make the other person feel so bad just so you can show you are right. Is it really worth it? I doubt it. I think you should just do a test. Next time you feel the urge to strongly disagree with somebody over something you know for sure that you are right, pause for a second and ask yourself: Do I really care more about being right than about the quality of the relationship I have with this person? Of course, I am not saying that you should compromise and that you should just node your head, approving everything that others have to say, because that will be quite silly, and you will never learn how to have a proper conversation where you express your point of view, but what I am saying is to work on giving up the need to always be right, leaving your ego behind, to always choose to be kind over right, choosing to disagree without being disagreeable. Its not a race, its not all about who is right and who is not. Instead of arguing over who is right and who is not, not even listening to what the other person has to say, because while they talk, you are rearranging your thoughts and preparing your speech, you can choose to silent your mind and to actually pay attention to what the other person has to say. Believe me, you will learn so much more from doing that. You have two ears and one mouth for a reason, dont you think? So why not choose growth over stagnation, why not choose to be kind instead of being right? Just give it a try and see what happens.
3 Golden Rules For A Better And Healthier Life

I love life because what more is there. Anthony Hopkins. You know how us humans, when we dont like something or someone, we start complaining, whining, criticizing, we start resisting and resisting, not realizing that this will not do us any good Silly humans.
A lot of times, we simply cant change the situations that we are in, nor the people we interact with, and that is exactly why we need to learn to live our lives base on these 3 golden rules: 1. Allowance. By allowing events to take their course, by allowing people to just be, the way they are, allowing them to continue on their journey of self discovery and self mastery, on the path they are in, not only we will feel better ourselves, and more healthy, but our lives will become so much easier. If you cant control something, allow it to be, if you can control something, allow yourself to do just that, but without any pressure, any resistance. 2. Appreciation. Appreciate what is, appreciate yourself, appreciate your life, appreciate your friends and family, appreciate all the good and not so good, appreciate all your challenges, and know that everything is exactly the way it should be. The more you will do just that, the more you express your gratitude and appreciation, the happier you will feel, and the quality of your life will improve tremendously. 3. Excitement. Not only are you allowing events to take their course without trying to change everything all the time, going against the current of life, going against the flow, but you are now showing your gratitude and appreciation for what is, living in the present moment and enjoying life, really enjoying it, feeling excited for what the future will bring. Its very important to be present and to constantly stop and smell the roses, but it is also very important to see the big picture, to have a vision and a sense of purpose, to have meaning in your life, and by doing so, you will be so satisfied with yourself and the quality of your life.
Why Being True To Oneself Matters

Being authentic is the ability to be true to oneself. Living an authentic life requires the ability to be true to our own wants, needs and desires and not live our lives by the opinion of others. Being authentic is the ability to make self-honoring choices and stand firmly in who we are in our core. Being true to ourselves gives us the insight and compassion to see others for who they are, not who we expect them to be. It frees us up from the judgment of ourselves and others and it gives others the freedom to be themselves as well. Victoria J. Reynolds I love these powerful words and I couldnt agree more. Why would you want to be somebody that you are not? Why would you choose to waste all your energy trying to be like somebody else? Its really unhealthy and I know that there are a lot of people out there who struggle with understanding this, but I believe in people and I know that by taking ownership of who we are and by making a choice to become who we really are, we will manage to inspire others to do the same. I can tell you from my own experience that, those people who embrace who they are, those people who choose to be themselves and nobody else, those are the people who will always be admired and those are the people who will always inspire others. This is what authenticity does to you. Can you believe how twisted we are? Something as simple as being yourself has come to be quite challenging these days, and of course, there are billions and billions of reasons of why this is, but focusing on the negative rather than on what can be done would not help at all. Being yourself should be the easiest thing in the world, and eventually it will be. Make a commitment to yourself to do just that. Promise yourself that you will always act in accordance with who you are and with what you believe in, and even though it may be challenging at first, know that in time it will come natural to you, and people will look up to you, asking you how you do what you do. You might not understand what they are talking about, because all that you are doing is being yourself, and its the easiest and the most natural thing for you to do, but looking back, you will remember where you once stood, and you will help them achieve what youve achieved. Trying to make those around you to like you by being what you think they want you to be, its a complete waste of your energy, and believe me, even though you may get either approval for a while, the approval of the person that matter the most for you will be missing, and whos that person you may ask? That person is YOU! Love yourself first, then you can love others, heal yourself first and then you can heal others. Chunyi Lin
8 Powerful Steps To Positive Thinking

The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible. Its so much easier to be pessimistic than to be optimistic, isnt it? To look at the glass half empty instead of the glass half full, to criticize and complain instead of expressing our appreciation and gratitude for everything that happens to us and all around us. Well, not anymore. Today I want to present you 8 steps toward a more healthy and positive thinking, toward a more healthy and positive life, and hopefully you will realize that its a lot easier to be positive than to be negative, and its a lot easier and healthier to be optimistic rather than pessimistic. 1. Always focus on what you want rather than what you dont want. The mistake that most of us make when having a problem is to talk about it over and over again instead of focusing on the end result, instead of focusing on what we want to achieve. 2. Know that every problem comes with a lesson. There is always a lesson in everything that happens to us, and we should constantly look for what that lesson is and master it, because you see, just like Confucius said it: If you make a mistake and do not correct it, this is called a mistake. 3. Dont believe everything you think. Our problems arent as big as the mind is trying to convince us, and if you choose to believe every negative though that goes through your mind, you will always get in trouble. Observe your mind, observe your thoughts, but dont identify yourself with them. Go beyond them. 4. Choose to express your gratitude for everything that happens to you, whether good or bad, and also for every person you interact with. The more you choose to express your gratitude, the more reasons you will have to express your gratitude for, and when youre too busy focusing on the many things that you are grateful for, there will be no more room left for stress and worry, there will be no more room left for negativity. 5. Know that there is a reason for everything. Everything that happens to you, happens for a reason and every person that enters your life enters for a reason, and its your responsibility to act upon this knowing and not to label them as being good or bad, negative or positive, etc. 6. Let go of your need for perfection. When you try to do everything perfect, you will meet with stress and frustration, because you see, it is impossible to be perfect in everything you do, and why would you want to be perfect anyway? Dont you know that perfection leave no room for improvement? 7. Let go of your resistance. Accept things as they are without you trying to change them, without trying to fight against them. When you stress over an outcome and when you resist what is, you are in fact fighting against the present moment, against the present reality, against the whole universe, and believe me, this is a battle you will never win. Allow yourself to just be. Go with the flow, and know that life wasnt meant to be a struggle, even though thats what your mind was trying to convince you all of these years. Learn to let go and know that: By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond the winning. Lao Tzu 8. Learn to be present in everything you do. When you become present and really engaged in the now, your whole life will become so much easier and you will realize how your problems will start to disappear, little by little. If you get too caught up in your mind, if you think too much about what happened in the past and about what may happen in the future, you will create a great deal of pain and suffering, and the energy you will generate will be toxic, not only for yourself, but also for those around you, because you see, energy its contagious
How To Deal With Anger and Find Peace

When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others. Peace Pilgrim Well, you and I know that we dont live in a perfect world, where the sky is always blue, the sky is always shining and the birds are always singing. There are times when, because we gather so much frustration, so much tension and so much stress, we become like a bomb who is ready to explode, and unfortunately, eventually we do just that. We explode! We get so mad, so angry, and we eventually explode, hurting others peoples feeling and hurting ourselves also. Its only human to get upset, to get mad, to be sad, but there has to be balance. If you stay for too long in these states, they will eventually take over. If you allow these emotions to take over you, to take over your life, they will eventually control you, and you will then be at their mercy. At the mercy of your feelings and emotions, at the mercy of your moods, and the one in charge of your life will no longer be you, but them. The ones in charge of your life and your well being will be your moods, your emotions and your feelings You have to learn how to work with these emotions, and I am here to help you on this journey and help make your life a little easier, a little happier, a little better. Whenever you feel like there is too much on your plate; whenever you feel like you simply cant take it anymore; whenever you feel like you have gathered too much anger and frustration, and that you are ready to explode, take some time off from whatever it is that you are doing, and give yourself 5, 10 minutes to detoxify yourself, to clear your mind. If you wont do this, and if you choose to go ahead and let all that anger out, you will say, and you will do things that you will later regret. You will end up hurting other people and you will also end up hurting yourself, and I can tell you this from my own experience. On the other hand, you might be one of those people who choose to suppress everything, and you will suppress and suppress, but in the end, you too will explode, within and without, so it is better to give yourself some time to observe yourself, your thoughts and your feelings, and try to understand what is it that really bothers you so much, and choose to do something about it. You are the one in control, its always up to you. Your happiness and your unhappiness are just choices you make. Another thing you can always do, is to write angry letter to the people that angered you, without sending them. That will also help release a lot of the tension. Just look how powerful these words of Louis LAmour are: Anger is a killing thing: it kills the man who angers, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before it takes something from him. It takes something from him How true is that? Whenever you feel like anger is coming to get you, try acknowledging that you have a problem, and you will also want to change the word problem with challenge. Acknowledge that there is a challenging situation you need to face, and do just that, face it, in a way or another. If you need to speak out, speak out, but do it in a civilized manner, without hurting other peoples feeling and without hurting yourself. Always remember to disagree without being disagreeable. Choose responding instead of reacting. When you respond, you take time to think things through. You have the stimulus, that which is causing the stress, you have the space where you analyze and you observe what is happening, and then you have your response, which is always constructive , while on the other hand, when you choose to react, you only have the stimulus and the reaction, and thats when things get messy, and a lot if negativity is being built.
Negativity can only feed with negativity, anger can only feed with more anger. When you choose to step back from the dark, things will change for you, and you will find inner peace. Your relationships will improve, you will be happier, you will find peace. You will go back to being true to yourself, you will get back to being you. You will get back to serenity.
Dont Look Back With Regrets

As some of you might remember, not too long ago I have written a post on letting go of attachment , asking those of you who had a story on how they manage to let go of something they were attached to, something that was keeping them stuck, stressed, unhappy, and so on, and how that changed their lives, send it to us, and the story which was found the most interesting would later be published. Well, from all of the stories I got, the one that you will read today was one of the many inspiring stories, the one that I found it to be the most powerful, the one that really inspired me, and I hope that it will have the same effect on you. As the person didnt want me to use her real name, we will call her Sarah. Bellow is her story, with her exact same words, no editing, no nothing. Thank you Sarah for showing us how important is to let go and to never look back. Here is her story: I guess many of us have lived this story, loving someone and making so many mistakes that we have pushed that someone so far away from us that the love he shared for you turned into dust. We all want to feel it, that love that picks you up when you` re down, that puts a smile on your face when you are down, that makes the Sun seem brighter and brighter everyday, that makes you feel complete This is my story He came into my life when I least expected it and when I least wanted someone by my side and yet it came. Without even knowing he entered my heart and after months I realized that he might be the one that could really make me happy, but you see life is so unpredictable and us people have the tendency to make everything more complicated than it is. Even when you go through so many difficulties, bad choices, arguments, you try to make it work, you try to make it worth the effort, the time and the emotions invested in the relationship. People need to feel loved, need to feel that there is someone there waiting to hear about their day, someone to hold them and give them the security they need to feel when they feel lost and maybe that is why sometimes we people make the mistakes of closing our eyes. We close our eyes and stop seeing what is right there in front of us, mistakes that ruin it day by day, something that you might have done and made him grow apart from you. We refuse to see when we hurt the people we love the most and we refuse to see that maybe they can` t be there for us anymore and that is when it all slips away from you. It takes some time, it takes a lot of tears, regrets, to see that what is done is done, the past can` t be changed, it will always be the past and that is when you get the wake up call. How can you make someone that left change their mind? You can` t and that is because there are wrongs that can` t be mend, broken pieces that can` t be fixed anymore. It hurts so much sometimes that you would give anything to have him back, but that is not going to happen, not anymore. Most of the times the things that are broken can not be put back together and it is for the best to accept them as broken, but we refuse to understand it. How do you get from being complete to knowing that you have to let him go? How do you let go of that someone that has proved unconditional love to you? The best thing you can do is this: let go of all the hurt you have inside, let go of all the regrets, those will only harm you, you and no one else. They say that if you love someone and want them to be happy you should set them free, but this is what sets you free also. The moment you realize that the happiness of others will bring happiness to you, that is the moment you are truly free, free and happy. People come into our lives with a meaning, so that we can learn from them, so that we can learn from the relations we have with them, so that we learn from the mistakes we make, but how can we learn from our own mistakes when we can` t forgive ourselves for them? The moment we accept our past with everything that is in it,
we are truly ready to step further, to move along with our lives and be happy. The moment we can forgive ourselves for our past transgressions is the moment we will find peace, the peace we need to live a happy and balanced life. It is difficult to forgive yourself and I am still struggling with it but I found peace in accepting and letting go of the past. I have stopped wondering what it would be like if I had made other choices, said other things, I have stopped thinking that maybe it would have been different. No! I am happy and I thank you for having you there for me, I am grateful for having met you and having lived those beautiful moments with you. I am grateful that I have grown and learned the things I have learned from this experience and I am grateful for the love I have received and the happiness I have felt, and I know that now, the best thing I can do is be happy and be me, live in the present, be love and be opened to what there is yet to come.
Let Go Of Pain And Anger

I like to think that people are good, that we are all good deep down inside, and that maybe, because of some past and unpleasant events, because of some misfortunes, because we have been hurt and injured emotionally, we are now wearing all kind of masks in order to protect ourselves from being hurt again. If you look around, you will notice how people are building walls, as many as possible so they can feel safe, so they can feel secure, to protect themselves from the outside world and the danger that it represents for them. When you start protecting yourself from the outside world for too long, when you decide to start protecting yourself from the environment, you will eventually be cut off from it, you will eventually be cut of from the world, and of course, you will be left behind, feeling lost and lonely, not understanding how you got to feeling this way. For some people, it seams quite hard to understand that its not so much about what happens to them that cause them so much pain, but rather how they choose to process all of these events and situations. Its all about how we perceive them all, and how we choose to think about them, because you see, we first experience the thought and than the feeling, and if we insist on thinking about how bad weve been treated by X or Y person, how they made us feel, and how much pain they brought upon us, we will feel horrible for as long as we will live. By doing this, we perceive ourselves as being victims, people who have no control over their lives, and who are a the mercy of other peoples actions and behaviors. I suggest you to take a look at yourself in the mirror, and try to see something in yourself that you havent seen before, something that you havent noticed but it was there all along. Try to see yourself for who you really are; see yourself as the powerful, loving and beautiful man/woman that you really are. Go back to being you, go back to feeling confident and loving, not only toward yourself but also toward everybody around you. So what if youve been hurt by other people, so what if there is anger, hate and bitterness in the world? Would you rather choose to focus on the ugly and negative rather than on the beautiful and positive? Let me tell you something. The moment you chose to do all of these things and even more, your whole life will start to shift; the level of your energy will go way up, and this will have such an impact on the quality of your life, and also of those around you. The moment you change your attitude, your thought, your beliefs and perceptions, the moment you raise your vibrational energy, that will be the moment your whole life will start to change. Open your heart, and let your own light shine. Dare to dream big, to take risks, dare to love with your all your heart, without thinking whether you will be loved back or not. Choose to laugh, choose to play, to sing, to dance, to do all the things that make you happy. Choose to be true to yourself, and treat yourself with the love and
respect that you really deserve. Give, give, and then give even more, and believe me, by doing so, you will get so much more in return. Do all those things that make you happy, and dont let the fear of pain keep you stuck in experiencing pain, and always remember the words of Thomas Jefferson: How much pain they have cost us, the evils which have never happened.
The Power of Tolerance

TOLERANCE: the practice of permitting a thing of which one disapproves, such as social, ethnic, sexual, or religious practices. Often we interact with people who are different from us, who talk in a different way than we do, who dress different than we do, who think different from us, who have different beliefs, habits, etc. and we cant always accept and embrace these differences. We want others to think exactly as we do, to act in the exact same way that we do, to dress like we do, to have the same beliefs and habits, same religion, the same of everything, we want them to like what we like, and we want them to be just like us, because we really believe that the way we are living our lives is the best way, and they should do whats best! Think about it for a second. Would you really like to live in a world where everybody thinks in the same way, acts in the same way, where there is no diversity, no social cognitive conflicts, no growth, no challenges, no evolution, no nothing? Is that what you want? I really dont think so, and that is exactly why I suggest you to start working on accepting everybody as they are without trying to convince them that they should change, without trying to convince them that your way is the right way and their way is the wrong way, because you see just like Friedrich Nietzsche said it: You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist. You cant always change what others are doing but you can always change what you are doing, you can always change the way you look at things and the world around you, you can always change how you perceive those who might be different from you, and you can always let go of your need to label them, to call them names and to judge them, knowing that: Judgements prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances. Wayne Dyer Can you imagine how easier your life will get the moment you will let go of your need to always point the finger at those different from you; how easier and happier your life will get the moment you will let go of the need to control their every step, their every action? This behavior takes a lot of your energy, and if you dont believe this to be true, why not make a test? Try going one day without judging, without pointing your finger, a day dedicated to tolerance, and notice how will that make you feel, but from my own experience I will have to tell you that it is possible that you will never want to go back to your old negative patterns and behaviors, chances are that you will never want to go back to feeling offended about every little thing that is not going how you will want it to be going, and you will realize that this is the way to a peaceful and beautiful life. You cant fight what is, and you need to understand and accept that everybody is doing the best they can with what they have, and you should allow them to just be. Learn to accept the world as it is and you will realize how this will put you in an empowering position, making you feel so much better about yourself and the whole world, giving you more time and energy to focus on improving yourself and your life.
How to Live an Inspiring Life

It is one of the most beautiful compensations of this life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself. Ralph Waldo Emerson Would you say you are living an inspiring life and that others look up to you; would you say that others are inspired by your actions, by your words, by the way you are living your life? Would you like to live a life of this kind? Would you like to know that you have the power to inspire others through the work you do, to know that what you do is meaningful, not only for yourself but for others also?
I like to believe that everybody wants to live an inspiring life. I like to believe that everybody wants to bring value in this world, and to have an impact on other peoples lives. If you think about it, people want to be liked, people want and need to be approved by those around them, in fact, so many of us are willing to act like somebody we are not just so we can get some attention, affection, just so we can be liked and approved by those around us, and if thats the case, I would say that living an inspiring life is what we all want, living an inspiring life is what we all need, its what were all after. Just imagine how beautiful your life would be, doing the things you truly believe in, doing the things you are passionate about, because you see, this is the way towards living an inspiring life. This is how you will manage to inspire others, by doing what you love, by doing those things you strongly believe in, through your commitment to bring value into this world, and by doing so, you will receive all the love and approval you once needed, all the attention and affection you once were after. Once you get to this point in your life, where you only do those things that really matter, where you only do those things that you truly believe in, getting other people to like you, getting other peoples approval will be the least of your concerns, and the irony is that, the moment you stop chasing that, the moment you no longer are interested in being liked, in being accepted by those around you, that will be the moment you will received all of these things. Not too long ago, you were the one chasing after approval, and now approval is chasing after you. Isnt this a wonderful thing? I call this the incredible power of letting go. When you let go, the things you were once after, will come running after you. So, if you really want to become an inspiring person, if you really want to start living an inspiring life, you will have to start by being true to yourself and your values, by respecting your own integrity. You will have to start by always doing those things you love, by always doing those things you are passionate about, those things you believe in, those things that really matter to you. By doing so, you will be able to inspire others, you will have the power to inspire others to do the same thing with their lives. You will be an example for others and you will be admired for your courage, because you see, if you look around you, you will notice that it takes a lot of courage to accept who you really, to embrace who you are and to act in accordance to that. By always being true to yourself, you will become somebody that people will want to be around, you will become somebody that people would look up to, and you will get to a point in your life where you will realize that this is exactly what the world needs more people who arent afraid to be themselves, more people who have the courage to say YES to who they are, YES to their passions, YES to their values, YES to their inner calling, YES to LIFE!
Achieve Complete Release From Your Past

There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go isnt the end of the world, its the beginning of a new life. I know that by being present from our past, and also free from our need to control the future, we will be able to rediscover the peace that lies within and be content with our own selves. Our lives can become so much easier, so much happier, so much simpler if we could only learn how to stay present in the now and enjoy every moment of it. Of course, we all have a past, of course we all may have some regrets regarding something that might have happened, something that we would like to
change and correct, and this something is now keeping us feeling stuck, not allowing us to move forward and enjoy life. From what I know, nobody ever managed to change the past, and chances are that you wont succeed at it either, and by resisting what the present moment has to offer, you are making your life situation even worse. Surrender to what is, accept your past as it is, accept your mistakes and choose to be grateful for the many lessons they had to teach you. Be grateful because, and know that if it werent for them, you wouldnt be the wonderful, powerful and wise person you are being today. Dont look back, and if you cant do this, at least dont look back with regrets, but rather look back with gratitude and appreciation, and act as if the life you are now living, your present situation is here because you chose it. Dont look back with regrets, because if you do, you wont not be able to see the many incredible things that are happening right now, in this very moment, in front of you and all around you. Surrender to what is, let go, and let yourself become a channel of peace in the world; let yourself become a channel of joy and serenity in the world. Let go of your past and let yourself become who you really are deep down inside. Let yourself become YOU!

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How to Succeed

A 15 point plan of success

learn more in a year than 4 years of college.

from people, including their employees.

Bosses prefer competent people whom they respect.

Bosses can forgive mistakes but if you lie, you're gone.

How to change your attitude?

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compare, you are insulting yourself.

2. No one will manufacture a lock without a key. Similarly God

won't give problems without solutions.

4. Every successful person has a painful story. Every painful

5. Easy is to judge the mistakes of others. Difficult is to

6. No one can go back and change a bad beginning; But anyone

can start now and create a successful ending.

7. If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it. If a

problem cannot be solved what is the use of worrying?

hide another better opportunity in front of you

9. "Changing the Face" can change nothing. But "Facing the

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Education is a better safeguard of liberty than a standing army ~Edward Everett

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To achieve your dreams remember A to Z

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Five Incredible Truths We Often Forget

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The Path to Happiness: Give up Blame!

Are You a Control Freak?

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3 Golden Rules For A Better And Healthier Life

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Why Being True To Oneself Matters

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How To Deal With Anger and Find Peace

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Dont Look Back With Regrets

Let Go Of Pain And Anger

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The Power of Tolerance

How to Live an Inspiring Life

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