BUILDING SPIRITUAL

REPRODUCERS

Participant’s Guide
Version 2
 Building Spiritual Reproducers Participant’s Guide
Issue 2.0
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Table of Contents

Purpose of Building Spiritual Reproducers ............................................................4

1. What is Disciplemaking? ....................................................................................6
2. Why Make Disciples? .........................................................................................8
3. What is the Goal of Disciplemaking? .............................................................. 10
4. How do we Make Disciples? .......................................................................... 16
5. What is the Cost of Disciplemaking ................................................................. 27
6. Who is a Disciplemaker? ................................................................................. 30
Who is a Disciple? ........................................................................................... 32

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Purpose of Building Spiritual Reproducers
NOTES

CBMC’s mission is “to present Jesus Christ as Savior and

Lord” and “to develop” those who respond to carry out the
Great Commission. This is commonly referred to as a 2-fold
mission of evangelism and discipleship. The purpose of this
training is to equip individuals in discipleship.
In 2 Corinthians 5:20, the Apostle Paul tells the believers at
Corinth that they are “ambassadors for Christ.” Therefore, all
believers are Ambassadors – those who are the official
emissary or envoy of a sovereign or authority. If you are a
Christian YOU ARE AN AMBASSADOR. Since our ministry is
to those in the marketplace, we consider ourselves as
MARKETPLACE AMBASSADORS.
The question is, are we effective?
We have identified ten characteristics or “Attributes” of an
effective “Ambassador.

10 Attributes of a Marketplace
Ambassador

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Our desire is to assist Ambassadors in becoming more
effective in each of the ten attributes. Our focus with this NOTES
workshop is Attribute #4, “Helping others grow spiritually
through life-on-life discipleship.”

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1. What Is Disciplemaking?
NOTES

Disciplemaking is not just a curriculum or program that

teaches information and principles. It is receiving intimate
counsel from one who is mature in Christ and willing to invest
in another who will in turn invest in others. Instead of being a
classroom activity it is a life-on-life activity that engages either
one-on-one or with several in a small group. Simply stated,
disciplemaking is helping people mature in Christ to the point
where they will reproduce the life of Christ in others.

“Jesus chose a few men with whom He could build a

relationship and in whom He could pour His life so that
when He was gone they could turn the world upside
down.” — Chuck Swindoll

In one of His last conversations with His disciples in Matthew

28:18-20, Jesus laid out the plan, “Go therefore and make
disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the
Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to
observe all that I have commanded you.” God has specifically
chosen us to go and extend His love to His world.

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He desires close relationships with people. I Timothy 2:4
says, “He desires all men to be saved and come to the NOTES
knowledge of Him.” God did not choose angels or a few gifted
individuals to be His messengers. He chose every believer to
be a witness of His glory in their words, their conduct, their
attitudes, and their lives. He tells us in Matthew 5:16, “In the
same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see
your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.”

The Apostle Paul modelled it with young Timothy—and in

fact, called him “a son in the faith.” Today, we have an
opportunity to participate in God’s Plan of reaching people.
By the way, God has no other plan! No Plan B.

Reflection Question
How would you define or describe disciplemaking?

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2. Why Make Disciples? NOTES
Christ gave us a number of commands. We call them “The
Great Commandment” and “The Great Commission,”
respectively.

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your
soul and with all your strength and with all your mind; and
love your neighbor as yourself.”
Luke 10:27
“Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing
them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the
Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have
commanded you.”
Matthew 28:19-20

Despite the struggles and difficulties, Jesus did not offer

disciplemaking as an option. “Make disciples” is not a
suggestion, but a command.

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 “In the military, if you disobey the order of a
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commander, it is insubordination. If you take
authority away from the captain of the ship, it is
called mutiny. What is it called to disobey the
Commander, Captain and Savior of all Creation?”
Mark Cahill, One Heartbeat Away

As we dive deeper into the Great Commission, we note that

for the word “disciple” Jesus used the Greek term, “methetes”
meaning “one who follows another’s teaching, an imitator of
the teacher.” Not, the Greek term for “convert” meaning to
“turn about or turn toward.”
Additionally, the word “go” is not in the imperative tense, so
“go” is not the command – “make” is in the imperative tense
and the main verb. Jesus is in essence saying, “As you are
going, make disciples.”

There are a number of gifts given by the

Holy Spirit,
but there is no gift of disciplemaking.
DISCIPLEMAKING IS FOR ALL CHRIST-FOLLOWERS

God has placed within each one of us a desire to be part of

something of significance. As He reaches out to us and we
respond by reaching out to Him, our purposes are brought
into alignment with His purposes and it becomes natural for
us to engage in activities of eternal significance.

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Reflection Questions NOTES
1. Why do we as Christians engage in the
disciplemaking process?
2. If making disciples is God’s plan and God’s command
what keeps most Christians from doing it?
3. What could we do to change this? What could you
do?

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3. What is the Goal of Disciplemaking?
NOTES
When we foolishly measure a new Christian’s progress based
on the outward appearances (the right words, the correct do’s
and don’ts), we settle for the good over the best, the
expedient over the extraordinary. It is the heart motivation
that must change. And that revolutionary kind of
transformation takes place on three fronts: world view, values
and behavior.

Discipleship focuses first on worldview: the view of God and

God’s view of the world. This is where one is faced with the
big questions of life:
 How did I get here?
 Where am I going?
 Who is in charge?
The answer to these questions will affect the value system:
 What is important to me?
 What will I die for?
It is a progressive change in attitudes and behavior from the
world’s perspective to a worldview based on God’s Word.
Change from the inside must come first – it’s called spiritual

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transformation. This spiritual transformation begins with God.
Philippians 1:6 says it best: “He who began a good work in NOTES
you will perfect it...”

“An understanding of the interplay between

worldview, values, and behavior helps us to know
how to minister to others. If we want to see true
transformations occur, our efforts should be
oriented towards what a person believes and
values. That helps us take wrong behavior in stride.
We know that in time genuine changes in behavior
will appear.”
Jim Petersen, Lifestyle Discipleship

One of the goals of disciplemaking is maturity in Christ. Chris

Adsit, in his book Personal Disciple Making, said, “The
primary objective in discipleship is to bring your disciple to the
point of ‘digging his own well’ (to drink from the Word) and
lose his dependence on you.” Authentic Christian growth
comes from the inside and works its way to the surface—just
the opposite of the manner we so often seek to impose. It is
the role of the Holy Spirit and God’s Word to establish and
build us spiritually. “Christ is my life” is the ultimate goal in our
walk (Colossians 3:4). It is a life yielded to and drawing upon
the Spirit of God within us. God’s role is to grow us to
maturity; our role as a spiritual parent is to guide, counsel,

and care for the new believer.

In John 15:8, Jesus tells us that God is glorified when we

“bear much fruit.” In verse 16, he says “go and bear fruit—
fruit that will last.”

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In The Message, it is stated this way, “This is how my Father
shows who he is—when you produce grapes, when you NOTES
mature as my disciples.” God is glorified when we mature and
as we make disciples.

Paul gave instruction to young Timothy in 2 Timothy 2:2 to

reproduce the faith and life that was developed in him.
So beginning with Paul, Timothy, faithful men and others
there are four generations! This is God’s plan!

[The] word entrust [in 2 Timothy 2:2] was a first-

century banking term that literally meant “to make
a deposit.” Paul is saying, “You have learned things
from me, Timothy, now I want you to take that
truth and personally deposit it into the lives of
other disciples.”
Stephen Davey, Deposits and Investments

The GOAL is GENERATIONAL SPIRITUAL

REPRODUCTION.
Some may say this approach is too slow…too labor
intensive… it won’t reach enough people. Let’s consider
another way of viewing this before drawing conclusions.
Let’s talk about the principle of “Doubling” and how it applies
to disciplemaking.

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The principle of Doubling is 1-on-1 Discipleship lived-out.

“Paul” – a faithful man (in white) and “Timothy” (in blue)

representing someone being discipled and preparing to
disciple another.

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So after 10 Generations one becomes a Thousand. Just like
it says in Isaiah 60:22. This is God’s simple, efficient, NOTES
effective plan. The principle of Doubling is always more
profitable than addition. Would you rather do the work of ten
or train ten to do the work? Imagine the potential impact of
Doubling in your sphere of influence! In your city! In your
country! What are the possibilities?

Reflection Question
• How would you describe the goals of disciplemaking
in a way that casts vision and invites others to
engage?

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4. How do we Make Disciples?
NOTES
As believers we are called to make disciples (Matthew 28:19-
20). If we examine Christ’s command in Matthew 28, we see
that evangelism and disciplemaking are one process made
up of two sub-processes. The Bible uses the metaphors of
farming and parenting to describe these sub- process. When
the Scriptures speak of evangelism, almost without
exception, it uses the picture of a farmer tilling the soil,
planting seed and harvesting the produce. When it speaks of
discipleship, it often uses the language of parenting.

As farmers, we cultivate relationships with nonbelievers (or

unconvinced), allowing them to witness first-hand the power
of a changed life.
Spiritual farming consists of three stages:

 Cultivating: The soil is the human heart, God must remove

obstacles and prepare it to receive the Word. Cultivation
begins with a relationship. Activities, sports, computers,
cooking, and music - all can become the common ground
of a new relationship. In I Corinthians 9:19-23, Paul tells
how he related to different kinds of people in order to lead
them to Christ.
 Sowing: The goal of sowing is to bring the unconvinced to
a place where they ask the question, “Who is Jesus?” It
may take years. Along the way, believers must be patient
and consistent. But when the unbelieving friend is
comfortable enough with us, and they like what they see,
we can sow the Word. Remember, we are to be “salt and
light,” (Matthew 5:13-14). Salt causes thirst. Light
illuminates. Operation Timothy is designed to sow the
Word.

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 Harvesting: We may cultivate and sow for years and never
see a harvest. We must leave that to God. Paul tells us in I NOTES
Corinthians 3:6-7 that, I planted, Apollos watered, but God
was causing the growth. So then, neither the one who
plants nor the one who waters is anything, but God who
causes the growth. This is a long process. It takes time to
turn hard, rocky clay into fertile, crop-producing soil.
Once a person becomes a believer, our role changes to that
of spiritual parent. Just as with any newborn, spiritual babes
are fragile and require a lot of time and energy. But as we
continue the life-on-life process, modeling the way and
helping the young believer grow into adulthood, our initiative
becomes less. For example, the Apostle Paul writes, “My
dear children, for whom I am again in the pains of childbirth
until Christ has formed you.” Peter spoke of “newborn
babies.” John repeatedly addressed his readers as “dear
children.” And Hebrews talks about spiritual “infancy” and the
importance of moving to “adulthood.”
It is interesting to note that Jesus took into account changing
roles and situations. For example, He dealt with Peter in a
different manner than He did with Bartholomew. As a spiritual
parent, you will be wise to keep in mind the stages of spiritual
growth in your Timothy. Infants, children and adolescent
children of God require flexibility with schedules and
materials. If you have children of your own, you will see the
parallels. As you deal with “Timothy,” begin with the patience
required of a parent with a newborn, and adjust your
expectations as growth occurs.
Care must be taken not to extend this idea of spiritual
parenthood to the point where one person virtually takes over
the life of another. This kind of control becomes unhealthy
and creates dependency rather than producing adulthood.
Paul said, “Not that we lord it over your faith, but we work
with you for your joy, because it is by faith you stand firm” (2
Corinthians 1:24).

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 NOTES

The approach of Jesus followed the patterns indigenous to

ancient Palestine. As a Rabbi (teacher), Jesus spent time
with his followers. His disciples had the opportunity to
observe his reactions to the rich, the poor, the priests, and
the politicians. He was constantly asking questions, forcing
them to think through choices and weigh events against the
teachings of Scripture.
Jesus was very practical, too. They discussed the purpose
and use of money, the importance of family, and the role of
government. For over three years, His disciples were
engaged in a life-on-life course on how to live for God in a
fallen world.

In Luke 6:40 Jesus didn’t say, when a disciple is “perfectly

trained he will think like his master or know as much as his
master. He said he will be like his master – in virtually every
way.

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Jesus did this by spending time with his disciples. He wanted

to teach them more than just information, He wanted to
impart convictions, principles and a lifestyle.

Jesus “taught, apprenticed and immersed’ his disciples.

Sometimes the teaching was in crowds such as “the Sermon
on the Mount” or in small groups or one-on-one. But he also,
“showed” or “apprenticed” the disciples and then they were
immersed in His life. We call that “life-on-life” in CBMC.

“The Lord was commissioning his disciples to do

exactly what he did during his earthly ministry,
which was inviting them to follow him and turning
them from simple followers to committed
disciples, from Christians to priests, from learners
to teachers, and from followers to imitators of
Himself. This is the heart and soul of what the
Lord commissioned his disciples to do.”
Hanna S. Shahin, The Master Disciple-Maker

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Paul uses the metaphor of parenting in describing the
disciplemaking process. In I Thessalonians, he describes NOTES
how a mother tenderly cares for her child. Jim Petersen in
his book Lifestyle Discipleship uses the imagery of a nurse-
mother making her child feel secure in her love and
acceptance. “The objective of nurse-mother could be de-
scribed as giving her children the heart or desire to grow— a
heart for Christ.”

The objective of the “father” is to equip the child or youth to

live a life worthy of God, to live as a citizen of His Kingdom
ought to live.” In an article by Glenn T. Stanton, “Fathers
Matter,” Dads parent differently from moms and that
difference matters greatly to children.” Stanton goes on to say
that father’s play, encourage, communicate and discipline
differently.
Jim Petersen comments, “Our tendency is to create pro-
grams for discipleship and offer them to people as a
substitute for parental care. We put people through a
prescribed curriculum and expect that to take care of their
needs. It doesn’t work. It doesn’t work because their primary
need at this stage is not for information. Caring relationships
are far more important to the early stages.”

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Life-on-life disciplemaking is a long-term commitment. This
kind of relationship requires sacrifice and may seem too NOTES
costly to some. Those who see the end from the beginning
possess the vision necessary for success. As a spiritual
parent, you will be wise to keep in mind the stages of spiritual
growth in your spiritual offspring.
Neither Jesus nor Paul saw their ministry to others as
something that could be put on the calendar or measured in
terms of hours, days or weeks…and neither should we.
Remember, our goal is to produce a reproducer. To
reproduce a person must have knowledge of what to
reproduce, the skill to reproduce it, and the character that
provides a model of what is to be reproduced.
To move successfully toward the goal of spiritual
reproduction you need a plan, and Operation Timothy
provides a proven plan.

Operation Timothy is designed to help you present the

Biblical concepts in an orderly, easy-to-understand manner.
The content progresses from the basics to more advanced
Christian concepts.

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The original Operation Timothy was released in 1970 and
there have been a number of updates, with the latest to NOTES
include an interactive electronic version called eOT. eOT is
“free” and provides videos, audio messages and automatic
verse look-up.

So today, you have a choice between the booklets or the

electronic version of Operation Timothy. The eOT can be
accessed in the Marketplace Ambassador Advancement
System at http://advance.cbmc.com/. While there, visit other
resources such as Living Proof and Marketplace
Ambassador.

For eOT and the OT booklets, the chapter are the same:

Book 1: Life Questions

1. What Is the Purpose of Life?
2. Is the Bible Credible?
3. Where is God?
4. Who is Jesus?
5. Why Did Jesus Come?
6. Can I Be Accepted and Forgiven?

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Book 2: Life Foundations
1. New Life in Christ NOTES
2. Our New Identity
3. The Battle: The World, The Flesh and the Devil
4. Dealing with Temptation
5. Discovering the Holy Spirit
6. Communicating with God
7. Telling Others Our Story

Book 3: Life Perspectives

1. Digging into the Bible
2. Knowing God’s Will
3. Becoming a Person of Character
4. Relationships
5. Kingdom Perspectives
6. Your Calling as an Insider
7. Multiplying your Life

The extent to which GOD’S TRUTH is applied to today’s

problems or issues will determine the effectiveness of our
DISCIPLEMAKING.

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 NOTES

This picture illustrates the 3 booklets and the 20 chapters.

To assist the Disciplemaker (or “Paul”) a Leader’s Guide is

available that provides key themes, teaching points and
outlines and suggested illustrations and questions.

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Prayer is crucial! The “Paul” not only has to model prayer
during the time with his disciple (or “Timothy”), but he needs
to pray regularly for his “Timothy’s” growth.

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A typical session would be about 90 minutes in length.

Attempt to establish a regular pattern or schedule to meet
together. If your Timothy comes to the session with a major
problem or “life issue” be prepared to put the lesson aside.
Discuss the issue and look to the Scriptures for guidance.
Fellowship and sharing—Every session should begin with
relaxed conversation allowing you and Timothy to get to know
one another and to build toward a strong relationship. This
relationship provides the environment for character
development and ultimately determines your success as a
disciplemaker. This is an opportunity for you to identify needs
and evaluate progress. You, the leader, control the pace and
direction of the conversation by asking questions (see
appendix). It’s an excellent way to gain insight and to express
interest in his life as well.
Scripture Memory—(Begins in Book 2, Life Foundations).
When Jesus was tempted by Satan in the wilderness
(Matthew 4:1-11), three times Jesus replied: “It is written.”
Jesus quoted specific and pertinent Scriptures to combat
Satan’s attack. If Christ found the Scriptures necessary to
battle Satan, how much more do we need this weapon, the
Word of God? Key verses have been chosen to help your
Timothy grow in his spiritual walk with Christ. Have him
repeat the verse assigned from the previous lesson.
Encourage him to include the reference location and the
topic. Make sure that he knows how to apply the verse in his
life. Also review all the verses memorized in the previous
lessons.
Review of previous lessons—Briefly review the previous
lessons and discuss how they “fit together.” Discuss any
questions he may have and assess his understanding by
asking him some questions.

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Discuss current lesson—You and your Timothy will study
the Bible verses relating to the major concept and discuss NOTES
why and how you would apply them in your day-to- day walk.
Again, ask questions.
Assignment for next week—Let your Timothy know what is
expected of him next week. Remember, there will be times
when you might not complete a chapter in one session. It is
important not to go on to the next chapter until you have
finished the present one. This is a good time to give him the
CD with the message that compliments the lesson for the
next week.
Prayer—Because this is the last part of your session, you
may be inclined to hurry or shorten your prayer time. Don’t.
This is one of the most important portions of your time
together, and you amplify its importance to Timothy by the
time and priority you give it

Reflection Questions
1. What is the value of having a plan to guide you in the
process of disciplemaking?
2. How would you ensure that the plan does not turn the
process into a program?
3. Where in the process do you need to be before you
can begin the process with another?

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5. What is the Cost of Disciplemaking?
NOTES

Disciplemaking is not a piece of cake! It involves sacrifice

“Making disciples is not an easy process. It is

trying. It is messy. It is slow, tedious, and even
painful at times. It is all these things because it is
relational.”
David Platt, Radical

and unfortunately too many people are unwilling to make the

price.

Jesus made it very clear! Putting Him first is a requirement.

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 One big difference between comfortable NOTES
Christianity and costly Christianity is spiritual
reproduction. It costs to become involved in the
lives of people. This is why there is not a stampede
to accept God’s gracious offer of allowing us to give
our lives in exchange for people as He did.
Walt Henrichsen, Disciples are Made, Not Born

While Discipleship has a cost, it also has a promise.

Following Christ will cost us time, possessions, priorities,
attitudes, habits and perhaps dreams and ambitions, but
when we make disciples, He will be with us!

“Giving your life in exchange for people means

getting involved in the gut issues of life. People can
be superficially involved in teaching classes, or
committee work, or programs without any heart
involvement.”
Walt Henrichsen, Disciples Are Made, Not Born

As Joel Rosenberg has said, “Christ doesn’t want us to

simply spend our lives. He wants us to invest them.” And
Dietrich Bonhoeffer made it clear, “Salvation is free, but
discipleship will cost you your life.”

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 NOTES

Our focus on 1-on-1 or individual discipleship is not to say

that people cannot grow to maturity in other ways. Since
discipleship includes teaching, accountability, apprenticing
and life-on-life, our experience indicates that the greatest
success comes from a one-on-one model (Individual Model).
It is logical, that a private tutor is better than a class room of
students or a large auditorium. When it comes to
accountability, did you ever ask a large number of people to
do something? Apprenticing is the way individuals move
from the classroom to becoming proficient. Jesus “showed”
the 12 how to lead by washing feet. And it would not be very
practical to have a large group observing every interaction,
but it is very effective in a 1-on-1.
While this “Individual” model is the most impactful, it also
requires the greatest investment of time, talent, and treasure.
But, it is well worth the investment. Guaranteed.

Reflection Questions
1. What more can be said about the cost of
disciplemaking?
2. How do you feel about the “ROI” of disciplemaking?
3. What price are you willing to pay?

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6. Who is a Disciplemaker or Disciple?
NOTES

The late Dr. Howard Hendricks of Dallas Theological

Seminary put it this way: As a follower of Jesus Christ, you
need: a “Barnabas”—a friend who encourages you, teaches
you, and keeps you accountable; a “Paul”—an older and
wiser believer to invest in your spiritual growth; and a
“Timothy”—a younger believer in whose life you can invest

A disciplemaker doesn’t have to a gifted speaker or trained

professionally as a pastor. A Paul simply needs to be
relational and know enough Scripture to encourage another
to follow Jesus.

“You will not be a perfect example, but you can be a

living example.”
Mike Breen, Building A Discipling Culture

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 NOTES

Being a Disciplemaker is more than being a teacher. While

teaching is an important part of the process, true
disciplemaking takes it to a whole new level.

The Disciplemaker or “Paul” should have the qualities listed

in this picture. Don’t let this discourage you, rather be
encouraged because these characteristics are all the result of
growth in Christ and lived out in the power of the Holy Spirit.

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Some doubt that they have the skills or time to give
themselves to becoming a disciplemaker. Ultimately, it is a NOTES
matter of the will and of obedience.
Obviously, we don’t have to be perfect to be a
disciplemaker.

The Lord would not ask us to do something and then not

equip us.

6. Who is a Disciplemaker or Disciple?

Ask the Lord to make you attentive to whom He may bring

into your life that He wants you to disciple.

Look for the following qualities and trust that the Holy Spirit
will lead both of you down this exciting path of discipleship.
Something has to be said of what might feel like “failure.”
Understand that you will probably disciple individuals who
may stop walking with Jesus or may not become spiritual
parents. You have not failed. Your responsibility has been to

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be faithful to what He had called you to do. That defines
success. Let God be responsible for the results. NOTES

Here are some “Tips” for inviting a Timothy into a

discipleship relationship.

“Laborers are few. They were few in Jesus’ day and

they are few today. Churchgoers are many.
Seminars are many. Conferences are many.
Religious institutions are many. Programs are
many. But laborers are few.”
Leroy Eims

Reflection Questions
1. What is your main take-away from out time together
today?

2. What specific actions will you be taking as a result of

participating in this workshop?

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APPENDIX
I. Disciplemaking Do’s and Don’ts

1. Do establish a relationship of honesty, openness and confidentiality. Being open with

your Timothy increases his trust in you.
2. Do prepare for the lesson, but follow the Holy Spirit’s lead as you meet with your
Timothy. Current life issues may “trump” the lesson for the week.
3. Do model a lifestyle of prayer by praying with Timothy at each meeting and as he
matures encourage him to pray aloud with you.
4. Do be creative regarding the meeting place. Consider an environment that is conducive
to talking and praying. If you meet in a restaurant for the lesson you may want to
retreat to your car for a time of prayer.
5. Do call your Timothy periodically between meetings. Demonstrate love and care for
him and his family.
6. Do life together in between meetings - have dinner with spouses, go to a football game,
etc. Be sure you know his birthday; know his wife’s and children’s names.
7. Do have Timothy read the Scripture passages aloud during your sessions. It is good for
Timothy to hear himself read Scripture.
8. Do use the Operation Timothy Leader’s Guide which is available for free at
www.operationtimothy.com.
9. Do be sensitive to your Timothy. You may need to go through every question in the
chapter or you may select key questions which will ensure he “gets” the heart of the
lesson. Ask your Timothy if there were any questions that he had trouble with or had
specific questions about.
10. Do periodically ask your Timothy how he would present a section or topic to his
Timothy - get him accustomed to being a Paul.
11. Do serve with your spouse – if you are married do as many activities as possible as
couples.
12. Don’t fall into the trap of “punctuation prayer”(using prayer as the bookends to the
meeting)
13. Don’t correct everything your Timothy says. If he responds with answers that cause
you alarm, consider asking another question, rather than making an attempt to refute
the statement. Find common ground through the use of a personal illustration, “I felt the
same way at one time...” Remember, we want Timothy to feel safe to “open up.”
14. Don’t attack any of his precious beliefs (on religion, politics, or immature beliefs). Let
the Holy Spirit through Scripture change him. There will be time to lovingly confront
him.
15. Don’t meet one-on-one with a person of the opposite sex (unless it is your spouse).

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