ONAMIII Black Compressed
ONAMIII Black Compressed
ONAMIII Black Compressed
I’m not “allowed” to talk about this, but I’m doing it anyway because it’s time to cut the
fluff and get real about how sex magic, the highest form of all magic, actually works.
Most of the videos you’ll see about sex magic are some variation of “make a wish, and
blow a load”, give or take “embodying” a goddess or two. At this school, we don’t care
about how good a theory sounds. We care about results. At this school we understand
that faith without works is delusion, and magic without method is a scam.
Anyone who has studied magic will tell you that all magic is in the mind. The physical
aspect of it, as well as the pageantry, is just here to help keep your mind focused.
Because all magic is objectively mental, in this work we focus on the psychological. The
psychological aspect of physical sex is called the Erotic, and it’s the key to getting more in
all areas of life, while literally falling in love with the journey.
Life has three main aims, the physical, the spiritual, and the erotic. These are the places
we will get our main blocks of life. You always know exactly where you have a block
because you’ll say things like: “why does everything have to be about money?” “why does
everything have to be about God?” “why does everything have to be about sex?”
Do you find yourself wincing at any of these statements? Are you willing to accept that
you might have a block there?
The myth is that you’re gravitating to sex magic because you want new sex. This is not
true. You’re gravitating towards sex magic because you want a new life. Think about it.
Your sexual fantasies aren’t taking place in your messy room with laundry on the floor. You
see yourself different, your body different, your surroundings different, your appreciation
for life different, the cost of that life also very very different.
You don’t want new sex, you want a new life, and that is very, very achievable, and very
very scary.
Desire is sacred. And desire makes people unpredictable, uncontrollable, and easily
unsatisfied. Do you see why society might prefer you to think desire is bad?
This is why, when I say “You’ve been lied to”, I mean it.
This is my husband, Magic. We teach this together. He’s making fun of my selfie face
here. Unfortunately we are not going to teach you how to do sexual acrobatics, yet. We
also won’t be teaching you how to perfectly wank to a vision of your future, you can get
that anywhere else. We are here to initiate you into high magic.
Magic: I see so many couples who are struggling to stay together.
They’re stressed out about money, childcare, and are looking for answers
outside of their marriage. I see couples with imbalanced responsibilities,
where one partner is doing all the work and the other is in charge of all
the childcare. We were that couple, and it was tearing us apart. My wife
did the working, and I did the childcare, and it left me feeling like I wasn’t
serving my purpose. Yes, it was great to be with my children, but I wanted
more, and I didn’t feel like it was very spiritual of me to accept that.
FOUR KINDS OF MAGIC
I was introduced to neo Tantra by Psalm Isadora in 2017, and right after that she died
at her own hand. That was my first warning that the world of Tantra, sex magic, sacred
whores and pleasure priestesses had dangers that were not immediately disclosed.
I had fears about diving into this work, but I wasn’t sure how much of it was coming from
my own sexual repression, having grown up in a doomsday sex cult and wanting nothing
at all to do with any kind of public discussions or displays of sex.
Once I started learning the different paths of ritual sex magic, it got even scarier. The
rituals were pretty elaborate, to say the least. You needed silk, or white cotton robes.
You needed a lot of other people. You had to chant things you didn’t really understand,
burn incense, do banishings, drink menstrual blood with semen, and all these other
complicated orders that were giving Eyes Wide Shut vibes. The worst part? None of it ever
ACTUALLY worked. Sure I felt abundant, but where was the actual money?
I’ve been studying magic since about 2016, but a big part of who I am and what I stand
for as a teacher is making it lean, mean, and unforgettable. Magic gets SO complicated,
requires a lot of flair, and when it has so many steps it can be hard to feel like you’re
doing it right.
I’ve sat with Ifa priestesses and done exorcisms next to real-live wolves, I’ve been with
scary-strong mediums in secret San Antonio rooms while flying on LSD, I’ve been healed
by Voodoo daddies that read a pile of bones and teeth, and been hexed by “angel
readers” in New Orleans. I have sat with all manner of Tarot readers from Budapest to Los
Angeles. I’ve drank my own menstrual blood, urine, tears, and breast milk in various ritual
forms. I’ve
I have studied and practiced (sometimes successfully, sometimes NOT)
Tantric sex magic, Taoist sex magic, Gnostic sex magic, black, white, and red sex magic,
ambrosial sex magic, Egyptian alchemical sex magic, I had an alchemical wedding,
Crowley (Thelemic) sex magic, Solomonic magic, Randolphian sexual magic, and let me
tell you honey... They ALL contradict each other. To practice one is to spurn the warnings
of another. It reminded me of when I went to nutrition school and learned that no dietary
theories agree. The only lineage I didn’t really get into was Qabalistic sex magic, and that’s
just because I’m saving Qabalah for a time in my life where I can focus fully on it. It hasn’t
been in my lineage so far. Any time I’ve gotten close there’s been some kind of drastic
intervention that kept me from it.
This study and practice period took from August of 2017 to August of 2022, and it was not a
good time.
First of all, I thought magic was going to save me each and every time, and it doesn’t work
like that. No one that uses high level sex magic is using magic alone. Beyonce and Jay Z,
for example. They work hard as fuck, inner and outer. Every single day.
Anyone that says they are doing demonic rituals to stay that successful for that long is
someone who has entered a state of jealous paranoia, and is crediting magic with far
more than it is capable of.
When you revive a corpse with magic it doesn’t look legit, and it doesn’t last. Even when
you revive a dead bird like the tantric Aghoris do all the time, it can only live for about
eight minutes.
You can get a result from magic, but you can’t keep a result without
good hard work.
If you believe magic can work so you don’t have to, you don’t know how magic works. You
can’t get bopped on the head with a scepter as a neophyte and wake up the Grand Mage
the following morning.
Because I was studying so many different lineages, which is my purpose as a sage, it was
very hard for me to go from one magical experiment to the next without being worried
that I was going to disrupt some energetic boundaries necessary for my protection. Like I
said, all the practices conflict one another.
When we were playing Tantra pretty hardcore, things got SO messy. CPS got called on
me for an accusation of prostitution (verbatim) and smoking weed. At the time I was
publicly smoking a lot of weed, like a 24/7 Shiva Yatra, but also talking a LOT about sex and
exploring the nonexistent boundaries of our relationship, which we had just opened up for
more sexual magic research.
Tantra said open the marriage up, so we did, and it damn near killed us.
Magic:
The Taoists say “men should retain semen, women should ejaculate as much as possible”,
so we did some of that until I reached the edge of reason. But the Gnostics say retain the
semen, men and women alike. FOREVER. Never ejaculate again. When I retained semen I
felt like I was pissing the Taoists off. When I ejaculated I thought I was going to Gnostic hell,
because that is their hard and fast rule. I am a professional simplifier, and luckily, during
this time, I was studying the Enneagram in its magical form, which has nothing to do
with the enneagram of personality. I was studying with all of my heart and soul. It was so
important to me because I was mentally saturated in magical theories. I knew they all had
a point and they all had to agree on SOMETHING, but what? Did they agree on ANYTHING?
As a sage, this is how I study everything. If you asked me to teach you how to make a
biscuit, I would read fifty biscuit recipes, looking for the ingredients every recipe contained.
When I found that every recipe contained flour, salt, sugar, butter, and ice water, I would
teach you the core principles of biscuitry, and have you memorize it so you could make
a biscuit without a recipe every time for the rest of your life. I teach you the rudiments, so
you can add any flair to make it your own. This is the service a learned scholar, and a sage
will both provide to you.
Sage is one of three titles given in esoteric schools, the other two being saint, and learned.
An esoteric scholar who experiences a higher than average gradation of internal and
external sufferings, which changes his way of being is given the title of saint. Typically they
adhere to one lineage of spiritual teachings, like Hinduisim or Catholicism.
An esoteric scholar who could never be satisfied on one path, devotes himself to
awakening by all manner of objective means. He awakens like the Sufis, like the Catholics,
like the Hindus and teaches people the core truths they all agree on. This scholar is given
the title of learned.
An esoteric scholar who experiences a higher than average gradation of internal and
external sufferings, and also awakens by all manner of objective means is given the title of
sage, which is what I received in my last significant graduation. This is also when I took
the name ONAMI, which means “great wave”. What does your name mean?
When I was studying sex magic, some of the manuals I read were downright scary. The
warnings of what would happen if you fucked up just a tiny bit hit me hard. They were
combined with old, complex diagrams showing that there is another world that you can
get to, but if you turn left instead of right during a thirteen step ritual, you will find yourself
in another world, that you are unable to exit.
I really want to spare you the time and confusion, because each of these books claim to
be “The One” and they are loaded with conflicting information, decoys, and red herrings
so I’ll give you a clear example of how one teaching is translated dogmatically different
depending on who you learn from.
The white magic manual is quite adamant that there should be no ejaculation, ever, for
men or women. It states over and over again that only black magicians will ejaculate.
In short, to know your inner God, you must go looking for your inner Satan. What you most
want to find is where you least want to look.
Interestingly, vitriol colloquially means cruel and bitter, but archaically it means sulphuric
acid. Sulphur is what is burned during Saturnian, or what some may call Satanic
conjurings for murder, hate, ill wishes, and chaos. Not war, which would be a Martial (of
Mars) conjuring, but for personal deeds of ill will.
If you’re familiar with conjurings and other magical rituals, you know that it can easily turn
into a D-List entity party. If you were to take the Gnostic manual that this document came
from, which is a treatise on the Arcanum AZF, you would be introduced to a fully black-
and-white approach to sex magic. The words encourage white magic, and white magic
only. NEVER ejaculate. The diagram encourages black magic. ALWAYS ejaculate, the
darker the fantasy, the better. You could only recognize an inconsistency in this diagram if
you were familiar with certain magical constants, for example Saturn and Sulphur.
We find this diagram in the “white magic” territory, but it is clearly teaching a “black
magic” practice. Why?
The reason is because you cannot cut black magic out of magic. AZF stands for Agua
(water, white magic) , Azufre (sulphur, black magic) , Fuego (fire, red magic) . These
symbolize faith, fear, and surrender. You need all three to create the final product. Gold
Magic. You can’t make a sex magic cake without the base elements of flour, sugar, and
water.
The core manuals describe a holistic approach to sexual magic, a both/and approach.
However, when we get into the tributaries, like all spiritual teachings, we find a dogmatic,
scary, hateful either/or approach. Getting lost in the offshoots can cost you a lot of time,
and a lot of money.
Unsurprisingly, the white magic approach DOES NOT MENTION the second force, the
sulphur, at any point. As a matter of fact, they act like it does not exist, and warn of the
dangers that could come up if you accidentally went down that path, which you of course
will, because you cannot exorcise a necessary element from an alchemical process. To
send someone on the pursuit of unattainable perfection is psychological torture. It is an
incomplete teaching, the incompletion of which is printed clearly in the book.
I know people who have lost the ability to rule their minds, trying to keep the practices
outlined in this white magic manual, considered a classic for early researchers.
Dualistic magic, aka the belief white magicians are “good” and black magicians are bad,
is not the truth of magic. The truth is they’re both doing the same thing, just inverted.
VITRIOL is a good example of that.
It would also be a good time to shut down the wholly modern belief that the terms black
magic and white magic are racially motivated. This narrative is both inflammatory, and
incorrect. The terms black and white are alchemical terms, and are in relation to solar and
lunar. There is a third magic, red magic, that is related to earth, and a fourth magic, gold
magic, related to God aka Creation. We can consider that later, but it is the awareness of
this third magic, and the fourth magic, which is sexual magic, that instantly neutralizes the
conflict between white and black magicians.
Conflict only exists in duality. In a party of two. There are three sides to all magic.
“Make a wish and blow a load” is white magic. It does not take into account fears
and unconscious ties, and it does not take into account surrender and sacrifice.
That’s why it doesn’t work.
In alchemical terms, these colors of magical processes are
The true meaning of VITRIOL is that you have to meet your Devil if you want to meet your
God. That you have to go to the depths of your own inner earth, where the hot molten
earth spits putrid sulphuric acid in your face, and there, in the places you were most afraid
to go, you find the truth of who you are.
While black and white magicians argue with each other, as if they’re the only two that
exist in the world, red magic operates in the background. Red magic sees both of them at
war, and knows what the real get down is all about. Surrender. Sacrifice. Blood.
Red magic says: “You don’t know what you like, or what you want, so say yes to
everything that is handed to you. If it stays it’s for you. If it falls away, this is not for you.”
And this is SO right. Technically, this is totally right. But just because you can, doesn’t
mean you should.
The Tantric dream is that you can just jump right into this level, and start saying yes to
everything that comes your way as a learning experience.
Psalm Isadora, my first role model in the Tantric scene committed suicide when I was one
month into my anything-goes Tantra journey. I was full on at that point. I had finished
my journey with Kundalini yoga. I had dove headfirst into Ifa, mentoring with a priestess
who saw me as an equal. Once I hit Tantra, it was ON. I was drinking my menstrual
blood, wearing all red. I was IN IT. In that month I had hit two major rock bottoms, that
left me crying on the couch for weeks. One was a threesome I forced myself to attend at
the urging of a really bad, but Tantrically “correct” friend. The other was ending up in a
situation where one yes led to another, ending with me coked out and alone at a man’s
house who I did NOT want to be with. Anything goes in Tantra, it’s all “good”, but it almost
killed me. When I had regained my strength, Psalm Isadora died. It’s a BIG thing for a
teacher to kill themselves. It’s almost deicide (killing a God).
It was made very clear to me at that time that Tantra is BYOB. Bring your own boundaries.
There ARE no boundaries assigned to you in advanced magic. The only rule is no rules.
Tantra says: Throw caution to the wind. Throw morals, white magic, to the wind. Throw
your will, white magic, to the wind. Throw your fears, black magic, to the wind. Throw your
control, black magic, to the wind. Throw everything to the wind and see what happens!
Drink, drug, fuck, fight. See what happens. If you die, it was meant to be.
People die in Tantra. A LOT of people die in tantra. Good thing I hadn’t met Osho at that
stage in my life, because the teachings are SO appetizing, I wouldn’t have been able
to deny them. Even after five years of sobriety and initiation, I almost tanked the whole
thing when I went full on red magic again. It’s always a good laugh with people who went
through a Tantra phase, wondering why nothing worked out when you’re encouraged to
find something new every time something doesn’t work out. Stick-to-itiveness is not a
common characteristic in Tantra.
While playing Tantra again, I almost lost my sobriety on my five year sober anniversary. I
almost lost my marriage, and I dealt with CPS. Red magic exclusively is so dangerous. You
have to bring your own boundaries, because if you don’t, you will get hurt. And you will hurt
others.
You NEED your will, the higher vision of yourself that you want to aspire to. You have to
have the alchemical vision for gold. You HAVE to have white magic.
You NEED to know your base elements. You need to know your demons. You are not who
you think you are. And you need to have a healthy amount of fear and control. Self control,
and fear of what would go down if you didn’t practice sexual magic in the way that is
correct for you. You HAVE to have black magic.
You also NEED to know what it means to completely and fully surrender your plan,
accepting that you don’t know what you want. You NEED to know that sacrificing the will
and control that you worked so hard for in the mastery of black and white magic is the
only way to get real power. You HAVE to have red magic.
Magic:
When I think about magic and the simplicity of it, I think about nature.
Nature doesn’t have a formula for how much rain it should or shouldn’t
get. It rains when it does, on no schedule and yet, nature always thrives.
Magic, especially when involved with sex, doesn’t need to be precise. You’re
vulnerable enough when you’re having sex; you don’t need to put a special
formula alongside it as well. Nature knows what it needs when it needs it.
I think about the time when I was in a sweat lodge, and a brother passed
me a bag of dried peyote during the healing ceremony. It was dark, and I
asked how much I should get. He said, “Pour it into your hand; you’ll either
get a lot or a little bit. There’s no specific formula.” I was going to get what I
needed at that moment, and I did. My intention was set, and my heart was
in the right place. That was enough.
Aleister Crowley died broke in some shitty room rental, psycho, and addicted to heroin.
The guy who founded AA died begging for whiskey. Yogi Bhajan, a dedicated white
magician and white tantric teacher, ran complex scams selling fake Warhols and toner
cartridges to dental offices while simultaneously selling prosperity rituals to the public.
Psalm Isadora committed suicide, drunk and on pills. Osho, who is basically the master
of red magic and an incredible teacher, his longtime girlfriend was found dead of an
overdose in Pune, which was quickly covered up. During that time he was on fulltime
nitrous oxide, with a dental staff on hand at all time. He was doing “energy darshans” with
a harem of 36 female “mediums”, and believed himself to be the incarnation of Buddha.
The only reason he didn’t present as the Buddha full time is because the Buddha could
not stay in Osho’s body because he didn’t like Osho’s jacuzzi.
I share these things because part of my research policy when it comes to all teachers who
have dedicated themselves to a certain path, is to read the story of their life and see, from
an outsider’s perspective, what it looks like to stick to these guns. Yet I have no problem
learning, stealing everything that I can from a teacher and putting it in my box of hacks.
That’s what we’re here to do.
And all of these teachers had extremely potent skills, and incredible careers. I’ve studied
with all of them, and you can’t repay a teacher in ten thousand lifetimes.
I was born into, and escaped a doomsday, pedophile sex cult called the Children of God.
I was a casualty of my parent’s deep thirst for the Kool Aid. My life’s mission has been
to find the secrets that all charismatic cult leaders possess, without ever starting a cult.
This is why I don’t do retreats, have communities, or “meet ups”. This is why my app is a
school, that you’re not encouraged to hang out in. Work and leave. Be anonymous. Steal
everything you can from me, and move on with my blessing when it’s time to go.
All cults are easy to join and hard to leave. Have you ever done a lot of something that you
were told is essential for growth, and found it difficult to stop? Every path of magic says it’s
THE way, and they’re all wrong because no one way is the way. The way is threefold.
Hard to stop doing your kriya? Hard to stop going to meetings? Hard to say no to an orgy?
Bottom line is, you have to be careful as fuck reading these sex magic manuals, or
sticking to one lineage only. Follow nothing right out of the book. They’re filled with
intentional decoys. If you don’t know what you’re doing, you’re just following a recipe,
you could be building a bloodbath and believing it’s a wedding cake the whole time.
Trust nothing, test everything.
It’s dangerous to stick to one path and just cling to it, because you cannot use one kind of
magic alone. You need all three.
To get:
The Enneagram is a sacred Sufi symbol that depicts how three essential laws of creation
work together to make any and all things happen. These three laws are the Law of
Time, the Law of Three, and the Law of Seven. Any event or desire can be mapped on an
enneagram.
The reason why this is so useful, is that it gives us an exact to do list for every single
creation from the microcosm to the macrocosm. It’s a system you can apply to any and
everything. You never wonder if you did enough, or did too much. You just follow the exact
steps.
How much money have you paid trying to find out what the steps to your goal were?
How many times have you gotten stuck because you were missing the next step? What
if you always knew what the steps were? What if nothing ever seemed impossible again,
because you had a system for building or creating anything?
This method has been favored by various creators, mystics, inventors, and artists
worldwide. For example, Alejandro Jodorowsky, Nikola Tesla, and G.I Gurdjieff (the subject
of my upcoming erotic fiction novel). It is prized, and veiled in secrecy because it gives
you a practical, ten-step framework that exists in all creations from the microcosm to the
macrocosm.
For this reason, it is known in esoteric circles as the Master of All Systems, or the Face of
God.
With every passing year, I only see the value of the system more and more. For example,
I just worked with a coach for $10,000 for one session who offered a 6 to 12-month
strategy, but without a specific formula for locating all of the crucial components in
strategy, it can feel like getting advice from someone who says “you’re really talented
and I really believe that you can make it” without any clear, step-by-step strategic
action. Still worth it, you can’t repay a teacher in ten thousand lifetimes. But DAMN, an
organized strategy is much more useful to me than $10,000 “You can do it!”.
This is the same issue that I faced in sexual magic. All of these people say that there are
all of these things that you can do, and the list never ends, but when it comes to a step-
by-step strategic plan that can be tested, and immediately shows results, there is none.
I hate hope. I don’t ever want to hope something works. I am risk-averse. I want to
KNOW something works. The math has to math before I get started.
When we use an Enneagram, we get an exact step-by-step path that takes us from zero
to completion. Not only that, but we can clearly identify the three separate points at which
you would be most likely to fall off of your path, and exactly what needs to be done to
make sure that you don’t lose your momentum at the time when you most need it.
Mastering this system gives me and my enneagram students the uncanny ability to
accurately predict the future and provide clear milestones for what to expect on every
step of the path.
The system never breaks. It never fails. It is recyclable and reusable, and it really, really
pisses off people devoted to one path only. The complaint “It can’t be that simple.”. It
can, and it is.
You see right away that each step is working at the exact time when I told you it would
be, and when things get hard at the exact moment I told you they would, you don’t see
it as a sign that you are not succeeding. You are able to reinforce your vision, reinforce
your faith, and continue past the denying force, which is where 90% of all people give up
on their goals.
With this system, the first step is identifying the three “opposing” forces that work together
to create any and all things. The active, or desiring force. Birth. The passive, or denying
force. Death. And finally, the neutralizing force. Life.
To create a baby we need an active force, which is the sperm because that pursues the
egg. The egg is passive and selects and receives the sperm. People always insist to me
that the egg is active because it selects the sperm. Incorrect. The egg is sitting pretty
waiting for a sperm to come to it. It is not sitting there stressing about how it’s going
to pick the right one. It is waiting it’s turn. Ladies. BE THE DAMN OVUM. Let them come
compete in front of you, just like in nature, so you can make your selection. You’ll save
yourself a lot of frustration. Delete Bumble. Finally, we need a neutralizing force. This is the
womb. The neutralizing force is always related to time and space. At the correct time for
conception, the womb will shed its lining to the appropriate layer for gestation. You can’t
do a womb scraping to be ready faster. At the right time, the space will arrive. It’s law.
When Nikola Tesla said that if you understand the magnificence of the 3,6, and 9, you hold
the key to the Universe - this is what he is talking about. He is a scientist. He is NOT talking
about writing something three times in the morning, six times in the afternoon, and nine
times at night. This is not how the Tesla coil was built.
What he means is, if you can identify the three opposing forces that create the right
amount of tension for creation to happen, then you can figure the whole thing out,
because all the steps around Step 3, Step 6, and Step 9 are the same.
The reason we want to put sexual magic onto an enneagram, is so that we aren’t getting
lost in the argument of all the different practices, but also that we aren’t forgetting any of
the components. We can take it out of the pageantry, and into the practical.
To put sexual magic onto an enneagram, we aggregate what all the different practices
agree on, and place them in their correct points for balance. I cannot tell you how difficult
it was figuring out how they needed to be distributed for balance. I had to test it personally
on myself for six months at a time, and my life fell the fuck apart every time I had it set up
wrong. NOW I KNOW! And I can spot the imbalance anywhere, like we’ve discussed here.
In my video on the Enneagram, you can learn more about these points. For today, we’ll
establish the hardest step.
The first step in making an enneagram is establishing what the three forces are. The three
forces are the active partner, the passive partner, and the neutralizing mind that governs
the two. You don’t need a partner to do sex magic, as we’ll explain in a moment.
In classical black, white, and red magic, the points are always fixed. Active is always
active. Passive is always passive. Neutral is always Neutral.
However in sex magic, we get an added feature. The active and passive trade places. We’ll
give examples for it in just a moment. This is why sex magic is called Gold magic. It’s the
highest form of magic, and because our placements aren’t fixed, you have to understand
the essentials of black, white, and red magic in order to make it work.
If you don’t believe me, do a deep dive on “make a wish and blow a load” systems. Look up
“sex magic success stories”. Did it work? What’s the success rate? What’s the body count?
When we act out a universal law with our bodies, we get its powers. You can see this in the
movements of kundalini yoga, the show the OA, and the Gurdjieff movements. When we
act out a universal law to perfection, we get its power.
When we are doing sexual magic, we are behaving as if we are God and when done
correctly, we get God powers.
All gods have masculine and feminine energy, which are joined by one mind, singular
focus, the ability to create. When the masculine and feminine are united by one mind,
creation becomes possible. Because all creations and all existence have three states,
and everything you learn from me follows a systematic approach, the three forces here
would be the active force, which is solar, electric, or masculine, the passive force, which
is lunar, magnetic, or feminine, and the neutralizing force, which is the mind-space within
which magic can be conducted.
Please note: heteronormative relationships are not a requirement for sex magic, and
don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Traditional sex magic manuals, and the new age
community are fraught with prudes. Ignore it. If gender specific terms frustate you, I
understand. Remember that “solar”, “active”, and “electric” are other ways of saying
“masculine” and “lunar”, “passive”, and “magnetic” are other ways of saying “feminine”.
Use whatever terms you prefer, and please let me know your preferred pronouns. God is
without gender.
The body can handle no more pleasure, so it explodes via ejaculation, and the descent
begins.
When you know how to extend the pleasure, because you can handle a lot of it, you reach
higher states of ecstasy than you ever thought could exist, and it does not end when the
sexual act is completed.
You only have as much pleasure in life as you can handle, and there are no practices
developed to help you handle more pleasure besides the secret doctrine of sexual magic.
The three forces, aka the triangle, fit within the context of a larger plan, the Enneagram
which represents the Gold magic. Sexual magic.
THE ENNEAGRAM ITSELF IS SEX MAGIC. A large working wheel, with three smaller processes
contained within it. Black, White, and Red Magic.
There is one factor that needs to be present to make this gold possible, and that is love.
The energy of God, which is separate from the masculine, feminine, and mental, is the
energy of love. Ideally, we would never be having sex with ourselves or anyone else if it
wasn’t in the energy of pure love and pure desire. No insecurity, no numbing, no shame,
no escaping. Just pure love. Love is very simple. Love isn’t bubble baths or holding
hands. Love is not wanting to change anything about what is. It is fully accepting AND
approving of the Universe, your partner, and your self exactly as they are. No love. No
magic.
When the masculine and feminine are mediated by a shared vision, with strong will, in
the energy of love - creation is possible. You can create a new life, or you can create a
new world.
Magic:
Retention on the most basic physical level is not ejaculating and keeping
your sexual energy inside of you. What we’re not taught is that orgasm
and ejaculation are two separate things. Orgasm comes first, ejaculation
comes second. If you don’t ejaculate, you can have many orgasms. Once
you ejaculate, orgasms are done until you build that sexual energy back
up again. Retention requires you to understand your body, when things
are at the point of ejaculation, slowing down and waiting for the right
time to resume. That takes patience and self-control. We were taught
the opposite, that the only goal of sex is to ejaculate and then it’s done.
With retention, sex can go on and on and your sexual energy can be
transformed into anything.
There are three ways to practice sex magic. Monofocal, which is one partner, and what
we teach in our workshop Autoerotic Wealth. There is Duofocal, which is two partners, and
what we teach in our workshop Erotic Wealth. There is multifocal, which is many people
representing the active force, with one passive force. This would be like a Black Mass,
possibly a Bohemian Grove situation, or even the cliche of “hundreds of people doing
“sex magic” in an amphitheater while holding the vision of world peace”. In multifocal
the majority is active, and participate in pageantry and invocations, which are necessary
when there’s so many minds that need objective goals to keep them focused on a single
vision. There will be one passive recipient or “conduit” like the woman on the altar in Black
Mass, an effigy, or the master of ceremonies at the circle jerk. This could also be an orgy
where it’s not a bunch of duos, but many people actively pleasuring one recipient.
In monofocal sex magic, to do sexual magic alone we have to be able to split ourselves
into two. The supplier, and the demander. The master, and the servant. The dominant, and
the submissive. When you master this, you become autoerotic, meaning you supply your
own eroticism, create your own terms for life, with no need for anyone else.
The psychological side of this is instead of looking for someone to bring you what you
most need, you go into your inner Devil and develop your inner God, or vice versa. If
you’re whining about how much you don’t want to work you just want to make art, your
sex magic would create within you an unshakeable Dom who shows you the intense,
throbbing pleasure of discipline and discomfort. If all you think about is work-work-work
and you never stop, your sex magic would create within you the submissive recipient,
dying to relinquish control and let the master handle it.
The financial side of this is a reminder that we teach you how to use sex magic specifically
to create more wealth (because, admit it, the life you’re fantasizing about and all the
free time in it will require actual cash) , a creative (lunar) person would become more
strategic (solar), and a strategic person would become more creative. Additionally,
creating a new wealth baby involves changing the placement of active and passive
income. When we scale a business, or even create a new one, we must take the current
active income and set it passive so we can continue to grow our income while freeing up
time for new work.
The spiritual side of this is balancing the inner masculine and feminine and joining in a
shared vision..
During monofocal sex magic you are able to trade back and forth, at will, between your
fully formed active principle, and passive principle, with your strong vision deciding who
will be conjured, and when. When you need to be more dominant, you can be. When you
need to be more submissive, you can be. You’re a perpetual autoerotic switch. You can
have cake and eat it too.
Because we cannot ever do magic with two forces alone, these two forces are neutralized
by a third. The vision.. This is KEY. The neutralizing force is a strong vision, in the energy of
love. Remember: love is total acceptance of the world, the other, and the self as is. When
total acceptance becomes an automatic response, you are fully surrendered and have
reached level two of enlightenment.
You have to genuinely accept yourself, as you are, and approve of the hand you’ve been
dealt. Trauma and all. No acceptance, no love, no magic. No two ways about it. Don’t
worry, I’ll teach you how to do this, step-by-step.
Once we have that, we can develop
a strong vision for the next level of
your life, that you are in an erotic
relationship with. To speak in plain
English, you are so fucking in love with,
so fucking HORNY for this next level of
yourself that you are as driven and
unreasonable as someone in love. This
is good. CEO’s pay dommes a whole
lot of money to put them in this state,
because it’s damn good for business.
I’m going to teach you how to do it
yourself.
When we work with duofocal sex magic in our workshop Erotic Wealth, in the emotional we
show partners that their deepest, darkest desires can be met within the relationship, no
need to go without or outside the relationship. Like most kinks (more on this in a minute),
we are the most resistant to what we most crave. For example, if we are craving stern
dominance, a strong hand, someone to exert end-to-end control in the bedroom, we will
usually insist that we cannot stand when our partner expresses dominant tendencies.
If you’re a dom in the streets, the chances of you being a sub in the sheets are pretty
damn high.
All new things become old one day. You get a brand new ring, and within a few weeks it’s
not exciting anymore. When something becomes familiar to us, we are intimate with it.
Intimacy means we know it like the back of our hands. Intimacy, while “sweet’, is the death
of eroticism.
Disney is my favorite way to explain the difference between being intimate with yourself
or a partner or being erotic with yourself and your partner. The intimate represents that
scene from Beauty and the Beast where Belle is in the bookshop saying, “I love this book,
I’ve read it a thousand times.” and the bookkeeper says “This book, but you’ve read it a
thousand times?”
This is how you feel about yourself, your talent, or your partner. You think you know the
whole story, and that’s so endearing to you.
This feeling she has about loving the book she knows so well is nothing compared to the
look on her face when she walks into the Beast’s library for the first time and says,
“These are more books than I’ll ever read in my entire life.”
A dead erotic doesn’t look like a rushing river of desire. It looks like a
stagnant, buggy puddle that you’re saying “I’m very blessed” about.
Keep it moving.
A red flag for the erotic being dead is saying something like: “I could
never need more than this.”
Duofocal sex magic is harder because we have to rid ourselves of the precious
assumptions the intimate couple think are valuable. Finishing each other’s sentences
doesn’t necessarily make you feel like your partner is going going to whip out a new
move in the sack. Monofocal magicians are much more open to changing their minds.
In duofocal, two minds have to change before they can unite. When they do, the magic
is twice as strong, no doubt about it, but it’s also twice as hard to get them joined in the
energy of total acceptance. It never ceases to amaze me how many couples, like us once,
are committed to disliking each other.
Psychologically, we are reformatting how we view the partner and how we view the
possibilities for life. You don’t want sex, you want a new life. In our work we use sex magic
to quantum leap into a new wealth era. At the end of this book I’ll invite you to unpack
those three principles with me.
Financially, we are redistributing the power in the relationship by either scaling the
business together or, if that’s not possible, creating a new income stream that can be
controlled by you. In this new financial configuration, parents can trade who is active or
passive based on the needs of the family and the business. In simple terms, Bruce Willis
and Demi Moore raised their children outside of Hollywood, in Hailey, Idaho, and made the
commitment to never both be shooting a movie at the same time. Whoever had a movie
to shoot would be the active parent, the passive parent would stay at home with the kids.
They would take turns. One would go work while the other stayed home, and then they
would switch.
It is a very unreasonable expectation that someone who has always been independent,
self sufficient, and ACTIVE, should suddenly enjoy being exclusively passive, financially
landlocked, PASSIVE at home all the time. Each person has active and passive qualities
that want to be met. If a primary parent shuts of their desire for activity and becomes fully
passive, responding to the needs of the home only, they lose their shit once the children
are grown. You have active and passive sides that must be met for satisfaction. You don’t
have to like it, and you don’t have to trust me. The law is the law. Balance is not a static
state. A handshake deal of “you work, I’ll watch the kids” is not a lifelong pact. A matriarchy
is a reverse patriarchy. We want a wholarchy. We want a famliarchy. Financially this has
the impact of adding or scaling an income stream. Minus the bullshit, plus the passion.
Spiritually we are activating the latent masculine aspects in the feminine, and the
feminine aspects in the masculine. We learn to redistribute the power. We are creating
a container of safety and trust, without which no magic can occur. We are restoring the
energy of love, as opposed to nitpicking the ways you want others to change so you can
continue to blame them for your own lack of progress
Sexually we are setting the old sex and the old relationship passive, so that the new
relationship and the new sex can be active. We discard nothing in magic, we simply stop
placing active focus on systems that can be run on autopilot. The old sex and the old
relationship can run on autopilot.
Pretty cool, right?
Multifocal sex magic is not something we teach here, but the basic gist of it is that a
collective makes up the active force, which is directed toward and processed by one
receiver. In order to keep the collective minds trained you need all the paraphernalia. The
incense, invocations, pageantry, symbolism. The more steps the better. This helps the
collective minds to focus.
The single biggest objective obstacle to getting more out of life is shame. Shame is an
affliction of the second chakra, home to the world of pleasure, and “more than enough”.
You know you deal with shame when you suffer from (in no particular order):
Difficulty being alone, fears of abandonment, able to get what you need but never
more, difficulty accepting that someone like you could ever even have more, numbing
addictions like binge eating, drinking, or watching, opiates, shopping addictions, alcohol,
sex addictions as a way to avoid loneliness or boredom, scarcity, harmful fetishes as an
expression of scarcity (“there’s only one thing I want and it’s bad so I’ll never have what I
want I’ll just be obsessed with it”), desperation, clinging (“in a world full of billions there’s
only one person I can love and I can’t have them so I’ll never be loved”), inability to
recognize or install boundaries, codependency, poverty mindset, the fear that everything
is running out, difficulty retaining money, feeling deserving of all bad things and no good
things, body dysmorphia, Universal laws work for everyone except you, and more.
A real pain in the ass. All of this lives in the sexual center, which is why overcoming shame
is the key to getting more.
If you have suffered from sexual abuse or trauma of any kind, or your sexual orientation
goes against what you were told was “right” as a child, you will have to work shame
harder than a regular person would, and the sooner you accept “I have extra shame
homework” without being upset that it’s not fair, the better. A good place to make a
significant dent in this is my video on How to Heal From Shame and Sexual Trauma - By
Yourself on YouTube
If you want to know more about chakras, you can watch my video on the seven signs of
core trauma, and how to heal them.
Kink:
There are three levels of kink. The conscious, the subconscious, and the unconscious.
There are two ways of being with kink. You can either express it, or repress it. When you
allow yourself to be with the yin/yang nature of a kink, it is fully expressed, and a new
one arrives. Like desire, it is sacred, and cyclical. When you do not express a kink, you are
repressing it. Repressing desires does not make them go away, it makes them worse. They
become an obsession, and can lead to all kinds of problems. You can repress something
your whole life, but if you’ve ever read about any closeted being, it’s not a very happy life.
Additionally, you cannot grow in the physical and the spiritual only. You will never reach
the heights you want to reach with repressed desires and no way of expressing them
healthily.
The conscious kink is what a BDSM test would tell you about yourself. You’re cool with it.
The subconscious kink is the equal and opposite response to the conscious kink. You’re
also cool with it. If your conscious kink was dominant, your subconscious kink would be
submissive. It’s like a yin yang.
The unconscious kink is what really gets you, and it’s the one you have the most resistance
towards, and what unconsciously governs most of your life. It represents taboo. What
you most insist you do not want. What you most insist you could never be into. What you
despise and resist most in the world, basically.
When you never process your unconscious kink, which is pretty hard to locate, let alone
accept, let alone alchemize, it becomes a theme. A recurring theme, which makes you
hate it even more. It’s a gigantic ourobouros, a snake eating it’s own tail, and a real pain in
the ass.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will rule your life, and you will call it Fate. “
I’ve studied a lot of sex magic, like I’ve told you. I’m telling you with a straight face and my
whole heart, this is the strongest psychological sex magic you can get your hands on.
The physical is a no brainer, learn to have multiple orgasms through retaining the semen.
No big deal, you can learn this anywhere. And it absofuckinglutely will NOT work on it’s
own. All magic is in the mind. We are taking your biggest block, and turning it into your
greatest asset, but you won’t be doing it alone. Your deity is going to do it for you, and
when it’s time to go unconscious, your fucking jaw will be on the floor. How did they know?
How did you know? What magic is this? How is it possible? The synchronicity is insane.
Goosebumps. Chills.
Invoking and Embodying the Deity:
In this work, you will be chosen by a Deity that wants to use your body for this round. For
the rest of your life, you will have a relationship with this deity. Not exclusively, but it will be
special. My husband and I got tattoos to commemorate, and it was uncanny how they
came about.
The purpose of sex magic the way we teach it is not to throw shit to the wall and see what
sticks 99% of the time, and then have a perfect round of “sex magic” and hope it works.
Not only will it not work, but you’ll ruin your sex life as you blame yourself for not doing a
ritual perfectly when it doesn’t work.
This isn’t a workshop on how to do Tantric sex. This is a workshop on how to do a Tantric
life. As we go deeper into the work, and lean harder and harder onto our deity, the lines
between the seen and the unseen worlds start to blur. As we further understand the true
nature of time, and prepare for our quantum leap, things start to feel surreal.
Unlike most “make a wish and blow a load” practices, we aren’t meditating before sex to
“embody the Goddess” for 30 minutes one night. We are LIVING it. Their life and your life
start to blur together until you can’t tell the difference between you and it. You see them
when you look in the mirror, the halls of your house change into a desert palaces, cosmos,
or a castles in the sky. All magic is in the mind, so why limit would you sex magic to the
body.
When it’s time to explore the taboo, you won’t be doing it as yourself alone. Trust me, you’ll
need the company.
Like I said. I’ve done all the sex magics. This is the strongest, by a long shot.
If you’ve loved this so far, I would like to invite you to a second event. I want to do the
first module of Autoerotic Wealth (or Erotic Wealth) with you. I want to personally hold
your hand, check your homework, and walk you through the first step of this mission
so you know EXACTLY what you’re getting into. We will cover quantum leaping, your
deepest desires, kinks, and the game plan going forward. An invitation was sent to the
email you received this at.
Additionally, when you signed up we automatically made you a login to our app,
Safehouse Global. If you download the app in the App or Play Store, you’ll have access
to the audiobook file, as well as a QA chat where you can ask any questions your heart
desires, and get an answer. At the end of our masterclass, there will be homework of
yours for me to check, you can also see how we do that there.
All you need to do is log in using the email you used to receive this, and reset your
password. Your content will already be on the app, and if you head to the “FREE” section,
you’ll find many more educational appetizers I know you’ll love.
You’ve been told your whole life that desire is bad, that it’s the root of all suffering and
pain. That it’s greedy, that it wil ruin you. None of this is true.
Let’s say a caveman moved from a place where wild blueberries grew, but now he lived in
a place where there were no blueberries. The caveman doesn’t need to eat blueberries to
survive. He can eat leaves; he could even eat dirt if necessary, but he wanted blueberries.
It wasn’t about need; it was about want. If this caveman never pursued his desire for
more than just the minimum requirement for food, we might never have agriculture.
To take it even more into the realm of the divine, there was never any need to paint a pot.
A painted pot does not work better than an unpainted pot, but there was something about
making something more beautiful that evoked the nature of God for early men.When
they looked out at a beautiful sunset, they understood that beauty is God. By elevating
something that became both beautiful and useful, they were bringing God into their
everyday life. Nobody needed to paint a pot beautifully, but they wanted to do so because
of that desire for beauty. That desire for more than enough was seen as something
sacred. When you create, you are channeling God; you are wholly and fully possessed
by God. That is why when you are in the creative zone, you were not hungry, you were not
sleepy, you were not thinking. Just like the erotic world. You were totally fully present in the
moment, and this is also possible in sexual magic. The erotic energy is the sexual energy.
Combining your sacred creative mission with your erotic desire is HOW we do magic 99%
of the time in this work, and you will feel it.
Desire is the voice of your soul, and it is insatiable.
It will only be satisfied with death, because
what it really wants is to be free of the body
and its limitations. Because you came here to
experience limitations, desire acts as a sacred
driving force to help you enjoy life more through
the pursuit of desires. The soul bumps up against
the body and says “All I can do is push you more
towards oneness, with the craving for this, or
the desire for this. Please do not judge this, trust
that I will guide you and that God wants what you
want.”
Don’t move forward in this book until you answer these questions. I
mean it.
When was the last time you felt like other people could have what they
wanted and not you?
When was the first time you ever felt this way? Trust in what you see
and spend ten minutes writing, talking, or describing the experience.
SOUL MATES
If you have not met your soul mate, but you want to, Autoerotic is for you.
You don’t manifest what you want, you manifest what you are.
You attract spiritual people who are super broke because you are a spiritual person who is
super broke.
Autoerotic is about falling deeply in love with yourself, because you activated a part of
yourself you didn’t know existed. The part of you that you were so certain was not there,
that you looked for it in everyone and everything.
When you see that part of you for the first time, the part of you that symbolizes all the
things you have craved so deeply, you can’t help but become totally in love with yourself.
Totally obsessed with yourself. This is the healthiest thing in the world. If you are writhing in
denial over this here, you are codependent. Watch the narcissist video.
Think about the ex who you never really got over, or the person you wish you could be
with now.
For me, it was success. He symbolized success. It felt like I would never be successful if I
wasn’t with him. It wasn’t him that I wanted. It was success that I wanted. Success on my
terms.
You are not in love with this person, or hung up on this person. You want what they
symbolize to you, and this is why you are dreaming of them.
It’s time to go pedal to the metal and PURSUE THAT THING THEY ARE SHOWING YOU THAT
YOU WANT.
When you are fully in love with yourself, the person who is fully in love with you for life must
manifest.
When YOU are your soul mate, you attract your soul mate.
They will get on your fucking nerves. The erotic will die. The things that used to be so cute
about them will chafe the bane like you would not believe. You will wonder if you married
the wrong person. You will blame it on the job, kids, or the monotony.
This is not because you have married the wrong person. It’s because the erotic died, and it
needs a refresh.
If you want to know if the erotic died or it’s really time to move on from your partner, try
this simple test:
What is it about them today that drives you crazy, in a bad way? For example: “they drink
too much”
Revisit the first time you met, spare no detail, and try not to be mean about it. Whatever it
was, it seemed like a good idea at the time, so tell the story of how you first met.
By any chance was this thing that drives you crazy today something they were doing back
then? For example: “we stayed up all night talking and drinking wine”
Did you find it cute back then? For example: “yes, because I also used to drink back then.”
If you once found it cute, endearing maybe, the erotic just died. It’s okay to raise your
standards, and it’s okay to change, but you can’t blame people for never changing.
People don’t change, that’s the beauty of people.
If you never found it attractive, there’s your truth. You’ve never liked them, you just had
low standards and poor taste. Accept the responsibility, and you won’t find yourself in the
same pattern with the next person.
We’ve covered the four types of magic, the definition of the erotic, the mechanics of
monofocal, duofocal, and multifocal sex magic. We discussed the symbolism of semen.
We’ve covered kink, taboo, and invoking the deity. We discussed all magic being in the
mind, as well as the law of three with it’s active, passive, and neutralizing principle.
I would now like to invite you to a second event. I want to do the first module of
Autoerotic Wealth (or Erotic Wealth) with you. I want to personally hold your hand,
check your homework, and walk you through the first step of this mission so you know
EXACTLY what you’re getting into. We will cover quantum leaping, your deepest desires,
and the game plan going forward. I’m checking every single piece of homework.
Additionally, when you signed up we automatically made you a login to our app,
Safehouse Global. If you download the app in the App or Play Store, you’ll have access
to the audiobook file, as well as a QA chat where you can ask any questions your heart
desires, and get an answer. At the end of our masterclass, there will be homework of
yours for me to check, you can also see how we do that there.
All you need to do is log in using the email you used to receive this, and reset your
password. Your content will already be on the app, and if you head to the “FREE” section,
you’ll find many more educational appetizers I know you’ll love.
Thank you for giving me the opportunity to guide you here, and I am looking forward to
continuing to do so.