The Christian Concept of Marriage
The Christian Concept of Marriage
The Christian Concept of Marriage
ABSTRACT
Marriage holds a central place in Christian theology and has been regarded as a sacred
institution for centuries. Rooted in biblical teachings, the Christian concept of marriage
emphasizes the union of one man and one woman as a covenant established by God. This
abstract explores the key elements of the Christian understanding of marriage, including
its purpose, significance, and ethical implications. The foundation of Christian marriage
lies in the Book of Genesis, where God establishes the institution of marriage as a bond
between a man and a woman, designed for companionship, procreation, and the reflection
of God’s image. The covenantal nature of Christian marriage is highlighted, wherein the
couple pledges their lifelong commitment to each other and to God. This covenant is
believed to reflect the sacred and unbreakable bond between Christ and the Church,
regarded as a vocation and a calling, wherein the couple is called to support and nurture
each other, to grow in holiness together, and to raise godly offspring. The importance of
mutual love, respect, and self-sacrifice is emphasized, mirroring the selfless love
marriage promotes the cultivation of virtues such as patience, forgiveness, and humility,
CHAPTER ONE
INTRODUCTION
various forms across cultures and legal systems. In legal terms, marriage is a contract
between individuals that establishes rights and obligations between them and their
support, inheritance rights, and parental duties, providing a structured environment for
raising children and sustaining family units. Traditionally, marriage has been seen as a
union that not only bonds two individuals but also unites families and communities,
sacred rite, deeply embedded in societal norms and values. These traditions often dictate
the roles, duties, and expectations of the married partners, emphasizing the importance of
lineage, inheritance, and social order. For instance, practices such as monogamy and
polygamy, arranged marriages, and love marriages reflect the diverse ways societies
understand and practice marriage. These cultural customs often intersect with legal
In Christianity, marriage is more than just a social or legal contract; it is seen as a sacred
covenant instituted by God. The Bible presents marriage as a divine ordinance that
reflects the relationship between Christ and the Church. Genesis 2:24 (NIV) states, "That
is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one
flesh." This verse highlights the unity and indissolubility that marriage is meant to
embody. Furthermore, Jesus reaffirms this in Matthew 19:6 (NIV): "So they are no longer
two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."
Christian marriages are characterized by principles of mutual love, fidelity, and the
pursuit of holiness. The Apostle Paul, in his letters, provides a detailed blueprint for
marital relationships. Ephesians 5:25-28 (NIV) instructs, "Husbands, love your wives,
just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy... In this
same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies." This passage
emphasizes the self-sacrificial nature of love that should exist within a Christian
marriage. Additionally, 1 Peter 3:7 (NIV) advises, "Husbands, in the same way be
considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner
and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers."
The sanctity of marriage is further elaborated by its role as a sacrament in many Christian
traditions, particularly in the Catholic Church. The Catechism of the Catholic Church
(CCC 1601) describes marriage as "a matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a
woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life, which is by its
nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of
offspring; this covenant between baptized persons has been raised by Christ the Lord to
the dignity of a sacrament." This sacramental view holds that marriage is a means of
grace, sanctifying the spouses and drawing them closer to God. Moreover, the
permanence and exclusivity of marriage are reiterated throughout the Bible. Malachi 2:16
(NIV) states, "'The man who hates and divorces his wife,' says the LORD, the God of
Israel, 'does violence to the one he should protect,' says the LORD Almighty. So be on
your guard, and do not be unfaithful." This passage underscores the importance of fidelity
and the detrimental effects of divorce. Additionally, Hebrews 13:4 (NIV) declares,
"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge
the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." These verses emphasize the call to purity and
Christian marriages are characterized by several distinct features, including mutual love,
fidelity, and the pursuit of holiness. The commitment between spouses is not only to each
other but also to God, emphasizing the spiritual dimension of their union. This covenantal
aspect sets Christian marriages apart, as it underlines the belief that marriage is a lifelong,
exclusive partnership blessed by God. The characteristics of Christian marriages are often
highlighted in church teachings and ceremonies, where the sanctity and indissolubility of
Despite the clear doctrinal teachings on Christian marriages, there are significant
major issue is the increasing secularization and changing societal norms that often
conflict with traditional Christian values. This shift has led to a growing ambiguity and
doctrine. For instance, the emphasis on individual autonomy and personal fulfillment in
modern culture can clash with the Christian ideals of selflessness and sacrificial love
within marriage.
examination of the Christian concept of marriage, particularly within the context of the
Ekpeye people in Rivers State, Nigeria. By exploring how Christian marriage principles
are understood, practiced, and challenged within this specific cultural setting, the study
intends to offer insights and solutions that can help church leaders, members, and
teachings.
2. What are the main challenges faced by Christians in adhering to the Christian
concept of marriage?
3. How can church leaders and members better support and promote Christian
marriage principles’?
The primary aim of this research is to elucidate the Christian concept of marriage. The
Christian marriage.
This research will provide church elders and pastors with a deeper understanding of the
specific challenges and needs related to Christian marriages. It will offer practical
recommendations for pastoral care and guidance, helping them to better support married
To Church Members
For church members, this study will serve as an educational resource that reinforces the
In the field of theology, this research contributes to the ongoing discourse on the
intersection of faith, culture, and marriage. It provides a case study that highlights the
Christians in the Ekpeye village, focusing specifically on the Ekpeye people in Rivers
State, Niger Delta, Nigeria. The instruments used in this research were questionnaires,
interviews, and other research instruments. The sample of this study is drawn from
Baptist members in Ahoada East; it did not extend to other churches in Ahoada West.
The questionnaire was administered on five selected churches; which were First Baptist
Church Ahoada, United Baptist Church Ahoada, Gloryland Baptist Church Ahoada,
Central Baptist Church Edoaha and First Baptist Church Odiabidi. The researcher
administered the questionnaires on some members while the pastors were interviewed.
This section puts into practical sense the use of major words to be applied in this work by
way of definition. The words such as; Christian, divorce, re-marriage are defined for easy
comprehension.
Christian
A person professing belief in Jesus as the Christ or in the religion based on the teaching
of Jesus Christ.
Marriage
The Old Testament lays the foundational principles for marriage, starting with the
creation narrative. Genesis 2:24 (NIV) states, "That is why a man leaves his father and
mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." This verse establishes the
concept of marital unity and the leaving-and-cleaving principle, which signifies a new,
primary human relationship. The book of Proverbs frequently highlights the virtues of a
good spouse and the benefits of a harmonious marriage (Proverbs 18:22; 31:10-31),
The New Testament reinforces and expands upon the Old Testament teachings on
marriage. Jesus Christ affirms the sanctity and permanence of marriage in Matthew 19:4-
6 (NIV): "Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them
male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be
united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one
flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." The Apostle Paul
(NIV), comparing the relationship between husband and wife to that between Christ and
the Church.
Covenant
In a biblical context, a covenant is a solemn agreement or promise between God and His
people. In Christian marriage, the covenant is the sacred vow between the husband and
wife, witnessed and blessed by God, committing them to a lifelong partnership of mutual
Sacrament
A sacrament in Christian theology is an outward and visible sign of inward and spiritual
the grace of God bestowed upon the couple, sanctifying their union and enabling them to
live out their vows in love and faithfulness (Catechism of the Catholic Church 1601,
Ephesians 5:31-32).
Fidelity
loyalty and support. In the context of Christian marriage, fidelity is the commitment to
remain faithful to one's spouse in all aspects of life, including emotional, physical, and
Holiness
Holiness in Christian doctrine refers to the state of being holy, which involves being set
apart for God and living a life that is pleasing to Him. In marriage, holiness pertains to
the couple’s dedication to nurturing a relationship that honors God and reflects His
Mutual Love
Mutual love in Christian marriage is the reciprocal affection and commitment between
is exemplified in the biblical command for husbands to love their wives as Christ loved
the Church and for wives to respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:25-33, 1 Corinthians
13:4-7).
Unity
Unity in marriage refers to the state of being united or joined as a whole. In Christian
doctrine, this unity is expressed through the "one flesh" principle, where the husband and
wife are no longer two separate entities but one cohesive unit in mind, body, and spirit
Sanctity
Sanctity refers to the quality of being holy and sacred. In the context of Christian
marriage, sanctity emphasizes the divine nature of the marital union, which is consecrated
by God and should be treated with reverence and respect (Hebrews 13:4, Malachi 2:14-
16).
Adultery
someone who is not their spouse. In Christian teachings, adultery is considered a grave
sin that violates the sanctity and exclusivity of the marriage covenant (Exodus 20:14,
Matthew 5:27-28).
Divorce
Divorce is the legal dissolution of a marriage by a court or other competent body. In
Christian doctrine, divorce is generally discouraged and permitted only under certain
CHAPTER TWO
Marriage was divinely established in Eden and affirmed by Jesus to be a union between a
man and a woman that will last forever in loving companionship. For the Christian, a
marriage commitment is both to God as well as to the spouse, and should be entered into
only between partners who share a common faith. The main ingredients of this
relationship should be Mutual love, honour, respect, and responsibility, which are to
reflect the love, sanctity, closeness, and permanence of the relationship between Christ
and His church. The teaching of Jesus about divorce was that any person who divorces a
spouse, except for fornication, and marries another, commits adultery. Although some
family relationships may have divorced for other reasons, Christians believe that
marriage partners who remain faithful to each other in Christ may achieve loving unity
different times, and has been defined in various ways. There is an understanding that, the
―the issues of whether the earliest societies had monogamous or polygamous marriages,
practiced sexual restraint or sexual freedom, were much debated among social scientists,
although those debates produced social theories that were based more on ideology than
empirical facts. For example, Friedrich Engels, a critic of capitalistic economies and
patriarchal families, argued that ―female dominated families were in existence in early
primitive societies, where property was held jointly, sexual relations among couples were
relaxed, and the family, when it was discrete from the larger group, was defined by
mothers and their children. On the other hand, theories that are inclined to religion also
held that male-dominated and monogamous marriages were ordained and sanctioned by
This chapter reviews existing literature on Christian marriage, exploring its biblical
challenges faced by Christian marriages in contemporary society and the role of the
Marriage is the most basic and influential societal unit in the world. It is difficult to
overestimate the importance of marriage, yet each year in Nigeria there are about half as
many divorces as marriages. In view of this, it behooves the researcher to consider the
Both the nature and length of marriage are important from a Christian perspective.
Marriage is a lifelong commitment between a male and a female that involves mutual
sexual rights. There are some basic elements in the biblical concept of marriage.
male and a biological female. This is clear from the very beginning. God created "male
and female” (Gen. 1:27) and commanded them to "be fruitful and increase in number” (v.
28). Natural reproduction is possible only through male and female union. According to
the Scriptures, God “formed man of the dust of the ground” (Gen. 2:7). Then “God made
a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man” (v. 22). The Bible explains: “For this
reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will
The use of the terms husband and wife in the context of “father” and “mother” makes it
clear that the reference is to a biological male and female. Referring to the creation of
Adam and Eve and their marital union, the Lord cited the passage from Genesis saying,
“At the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female’” (Matt. 19:4). Then Jesus
quoted this very passage about leaving father and mother and cleaving to one’s wife (v.
5), thus confirming that marriage is to be between a male and a female. So, the first and
most basic characteristic of marriage is that it is a union between a male and a female.
Marriage involves sexual union. It is also clear from Scripture that marriage involves
sexual union. It is called a union of “one flesh.” That marriage includes sex is evident
from its use by Paul in 1 Corinthians 6:16, where Paul uses the same phrase to condemn
prostitution. God commanded that the “male and female” he created would give birth to
children (Gen. 1:28). This is possible only by sexual union between biological male and
female. After God created them and expelled them from Eden, the Bible says, “Adam lay
with his wife Eve, and she became pregnant and gave birth to Cain” (Gen. 4:1). When
speaking to the matter of sex in marriage, the apostle Paul wrote clearly in I Corinthians
7:24 saying:
But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and
each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his
wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to
1
Norman L. Geisler, Christian Ethics: Options and Issues (Leicester: Inter-Varsity Press, 1989),
279.
her alone but also to her husband. In the same way the husband’s body does not
In short, marriage involves the right to sexual union between a male and a female.
Sexual intercourse before marriage is called fornication (Acts 15:20; 1 Cor. 6:18), and
sexual intercourse outside of marriage is called adultery (Exod. 20:14; Matt. 19:9). Under
the Old Testament law, those who engaged in premarital intercourse were obligated to
marry (Dent. 22:28 29). Sex is sanctified by God for marriage only (1 Cor. 7:2). Hence,
the writer of Hebrew declared “marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed
kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral” (Heb. 13 4,
NIV).2
companionship (Mal. 2:14), a union that is much more than sexual relation. It is a social
and spiritual union. Furthermore, the purpose of sex is more than procreation. Sexual
relations in marriage threefold: propagation (Gen. 1:28), unification (Gen. 2:24), and
Marriage involves a covenant before God. Marriage is not only a union between male and
female involving conjugal (sexual) rights, but it is a union born of a covenant of mutual
promises. This commitment is implied from the very beginning in the concept of leaving
parent: and cleaving to one’s wife. The marital covenant was stated most explicitly by the
prophet Malachi when he wrote: “The Lord has been a witness between you and the wife
of your youth. against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion
and your wife by covenant.” (Mal. 2:14 NASB). Proverbs also speaks of marriage as a
2
Geisler, 281.
"covenant” or mutual commitment. It condemns the adulteress “who has left the partner
of her youth and ignored the covenant she made before God” (Prov. 2:17). From these
passages it is evident that marriage is not only a covenant, but one of which God is a
witness. It was God who instituted marriage, and it is he who witnesses the vows. They
are literally made "before God.” Jesus said that it is God who literally joins the two
together in marriage, adding, “therefore, what God has joined together, let man not
One further note on the nature of marriage is that it is a God-ordained institution for all
people, not just for Christians. Marriage is the only social institution that God ordained
before the fall of mankind. The Book of Hebrews declares that marriage "should be
honored by all (people)" (Heb. 13:4). Thus, God has ordained marriage for non-
Christians as well as Christians. And he is the witness of all weddings, whether invited or
The Bible is very clear about the duration of marriage: It is a lifelong commitment; it is
designed to last for time but not for eternity. Marriage is a lifelong commitment. The
Jesus referred when he said, “What God has joined together, let man not separate” (Matt.
19:6). It is also stated by Paul when he says, "By law a married woman is bound to her
husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of
marriage” (Rom‘ 7:2). These concepts underlie the time-honored phrase in the marriage
3
Geielser, 280.
Marriage is not eternal. While marriage is a lifetime covenant before God, it does not
extend into eternity. For as Jesus made clear, “at the resurrection people will neither
marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like angels in heaven” (Matt. 22:30).
Although we will undoubtedly be able to recognize our loved ones in heaven, there will
be no marriage in heaven. Furthermore, the fact that widows could remarry (1 Cor. 7:89)
indicates that their commitment was only until the death of their mate.
Contrary to Mormon teachings about celestial marriage “for time and eternity,” the Bible
is emphatic about the fact that marriage is only an earthly institution. It is for time but not
for all eternity. This conclusion cannot be avoided by claiming that Jesus only denied
there would be any marriage ceremonies in heaven but not any marriage relationships.
For it was precisely about the marriage relationship in heaven that he was asked when he
gave his answer. For they asked him, "at the resurrection whose wife will she be of the
seven, since all of them were married to her?” (Matt. 22:28). His answer was: She will
not have a marital relationship with any of them, since there will be no marriage
There is another 'fact about which Christians agree: marriage is monogamous. It is for
one man and one wife. Paul said, “Each man [singular] should have his own wife
[singular], and each woman her own husband” (1 Cor. 7:2). An elder must be “the
husband of but one wife” (1 Tim. 3:2). But monogamy is not merely a New Testament
teaching. It was present from the very beginning, when God created one man (Adam) and
4
Geisler, 280..
Some have questioned if monogamy is God’s order for marriage, then why did he seem
to approve of polygamy? Many of the great saints of the Old Testament were
polygamists, including Abraham, Moses, and David. Indeed, Solomon had seven hundred
wives and three hundred concubines (l King9 11:3)! In response, it should be noted that
the Bible does not approve of everything it records, at least not explicitly. For example,
the Bible records Satan’s lie (Gen. 3:4) but certainly does not approve of it. Likewise, it
records David’s adultery (2 Sam. 11) but does not approve of it.
Contrary to widespread opinion, the Bible does speak strongly against polygamy in both
the Old and New Testaments. This is evident from many passages of Scripture.
Monogamy was taught by precedent in the Old Testament. God gave Adam only one
wife; this set the precedent for the whole race to follow. Monogamy was also taught by
precept. God told Moses, "Neither shall [you] multiply wives” (Deut. 17:17 NASB).
Monogamy was taught as well in the moral prescription against adultery. It is implied in
the moral prescription “You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife [singular]” (Exod.
20:17). This implies that there was only one lawful wife the neighbor could have.
Monogamy was taught by population proportion. Roughly equal numbers of males and
females are born. If God designed polygamy, there should be more women than men.
Finally, monogamy is taught by punishment. Every polygamist in the Old Testament paid
bitterly for his sin. Solomon is the classic example. The Bible declares that “his wives
turned his heart after other gods, and his heart was not fully devoted to the LORD his
permitted divorce indicates that he desired it. What Jesus said of divorce is true also of
polygamy; it was “permitted . . . because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way
The Bible clearly presents marriage as a permanent, intimate union between a husband
and wife, (Gen. 2:18-25; Matt. 19:5; Mark 10:2-12; 1 Cor. 7:39). This is God’s
unchanging ideal, but since the fall, human beings have lived on a subideal level. The
Bible recognizes this, and so in Deut. 24:1-4 there are brief guidelines that govern the
encouraged.
According to the Old Testament, divorce was to be legal (with a written document),
permanent, and permissible only when “uncleanness” was involved. Regrettably, the
meaning of “uncleanness” became a subject for debate. Some maintained that it included
any inappropriate behavior; others restricted the term and argued that uncleanness
referred only to sexual infidelity. Jesus seems to have agreed with this second view,
In the New Testament, Jesus reaffirmed the permanent nature of marriage, pointed out
that divine permission for divorce was only given because of human sinfulness (and not
because it was God’s ideal), stated that sexual immorality was the only legitimate cause
for divorce, and clearly taught that the one who divorces a sexually unfaithful spouse and
marries another commits adultery (and causes the new mate to also commit adultery,
5
Zwack, 67.
Like the Jewish leaders who questioned the meaning of uncleanness, some modern
scholars have debated the meaning of “except for marital unfaithfulness” in Matt. 5:32
and 19:9. The Greek word for unfaithfulness is pomeia, which refers to all sexual
intercourse apart from marriage. This behavior violates the one-flesh concept that is so
Even when unfaithfulness is involved, divorce is neither the solution nor commended; it
are preferable to divorce. Nevertheless, if divorce does occur under these circumstances,
it is the opinion of many evangelical biblical scholars that the innocent party is free to
remarry.
In responding to a question from the Corinthians, the apostle echoes Christ’s teaching and
then adds a second permissible cause for divorce: desertion by an unbelieving mate, (1
Cor. 7:15). This same passage deals with religious incompatibility-when a believer and
an unbeliever are married. These theologically mixed marriages are not to ended divorce
(except when the unbeliever deserts), even though the differences in religious beliefs may
create tension in the home. By staying married, the believing mate sanctifies the
marriage. Regarding this, Paul wrote that with time, the non-believing mate may be
brought to Christ.7
6
Ibid.
7
Zwack, 34.
2.3.1 Marriage as a Covenant
The concept of marriage as a covenant is a central theme in Christian theology. This view
sees marriage not merely as a contract but as a sacred agreement that mirrors God's
covenantal relationship with His people. According to this perspective, marriage involves
dimensions (Malachi 2:14; Ephesians 5:31-32). Theologians like Karl Barth and Dietrich
Bonhoeffer have emphasized the covenantal nature of marriage, highlighting its role in
sacrament. The sacramental view holds that marriage is an outward sign instituted by
Christ to give grace. According to the Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC 1601),
"The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves
a partnership of the whole of life, is by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses
and the procreation and education of offspring; this covenant between baptized persons
has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament." This understanding
Ephesians 5:25-33 presents marriage as a metaphor for the relationship between Christ
and the Church. This analogy underscores the self-sacrificial love that husbands are
called to exhibit towards their wives, akin to Christ's love for the Church. The reciprocal
submission and respect outlined in this passage form the basis for mutual love and
Christian marriage principles delineate specific roles and responsibilities for husbands
and wives. Husbands are called to love their wives sacrificially (Ephesians 5:25-28),
while wives are encouraged to respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:33). These roles are
not about hierarchy but about complementary functions that promote harmony and
mutual edification. The practical outworking of these roles involves daily acts of love,
Effective communication and conflict resolution are crucial for maintaining a healthy
Christian marriage. Biblical teachings advocate for honest and loving communication
(Ephesians 4:15, 29) and provide guidelines for resolving conflicts in a manner that
honors God and strengthens the marital bond (Matthew 18:15-17). Christian marriage
The Bible emphasizes the significance of sexual intimacy within marriage as a means of
expressing love and unity. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 (NIV) highlights the mutual
"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge
the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." Upholding purity and exclusivity in marriage
One of the significant challenges faced by Christian marriages today is the secularization
of society and the evolving societal norms that often conflict with traditional Christian
marriage and family can undermine the biblical principles of marriage as a covenantal
and sacrificial relationship. Christian couples may struggle to reconcile their faith with
The increasing rates of divorce and marital breakdown present a severe challenge to the
marriage (Matthew 19:6), many Christian couples face pressures that lead to separation
and divorce. Factors such as infidelity, financial stress, and lack of communication
contribute to marital instability. Addressing these issues requires robust pastoral support,
perseverance.
The church plays a critical role in preparing couples for marriage through premarital
communication skills, conflict resolution, and financial management can equip couples to
build strong, healthy marriages. Churches can provide a supportive community that
reinforces the sacredness of marriage and offers practical guidance for navigating marital
challenges.
Ongoing support and counseling for married couples are essential for sustaining healthy
marriages. Churches can offer resources such as marriage enrichment seminars, support
support, the church can help couples address issues early, preventing minor conflicts
Regularly addressing marital issues in sermons and teaching can reinforce the biblical
view of marriage and provide practical advice for couples. By discussing topics such as
love, respect, fidelity, and conflict resolution, church leaders can educate and inspire their
congregations to cultivate marriages that honor God and reflect His love.
CHAPTER THREE
RESEARCH METHODOLOGY
To actualize the primary objective of this essay, this chapter consists of the research
design, Population, Sample and Sampling technique, Research Instrument, Validity and
The research design adopted for this study is descriptive survey method. According to
studied by collecting and analyzing data from only a few people or items considered to be
representative of the entire group.8 It therefore, involves direct contact with a population
or sample that has the characteristics, personality, qualities or attributes, which are
approach is considered appropriate for this study since the researcher is interested in
Kingdom.
The target population of this study consists of Christian families selected from five
The history of Ekpeye Ethnic nationality is traced to Benin. According to Ajugo, Akalaka
the founder of Ekpeye land, was a member of a royal family and also a brave soldier of
the Oba of Benin at about 1542 AD. This was during the reign of Oba Awuarre of Benin.
Due to the high handedness of the Oba, there was a plan to assassinate him. 9 The plot
was exposed to the Oba who instantly became hostile to the people. The hostility resulted
to a great exodus of people from the Benin Empire for fear of being killed. Among them
was Akalaka. Whose first son was called Ekpeye. This was because a plot to kill the Oba
was revealed and the Oba suspected that the assassination plan must have been
8
Esther O. Ayandokun, A Guide to Effective Study, Research and Documentation (Lagos: EASAM
SOLUTIONS, 2012), 95,
9
U.B Ajugo, The True History of Ekpeye Land (Ibadan: Institute of African Studies,University of Ibadan,
Nigeria.1971), 8.
masterminded by his nearest men among who was Akalaka. The accusation was revealed
to Akalaka’s sister. His sister revealed the secret plan of the Oba to her brother and in
order to escape the danger ahead, Akalaka fled to Agbo with his family. Having settled
there, he married a second wife who gave birth to Ogba. The first wife, (Ekepye’s
Akalaka later became very prosperous. His nature as a warrior nature could not be
hidden. According to Ekine, the Ekpeye lved in the land bounded by rivers Orashi in the
west and rivers of Sombreiro in the east, starting out at the northern end from about 3,000
movement mainly at the central geographically elevated area now called Akoh (Dry land)
and Egi. The rise and expansion of the Benin kingdom in the following centuries forced
A minority of the Ekpeye who sided with the Benin cultured Igbo immigrants moved up
north and founded what is presently called Ogba land. Their language plainly bears the
imprint of the Ekpeye today, because both are the sons of one father born of different
mothers at about 1542 A.D. During the reign of Oba Awuarre of Benin, the Benin
kingdom was at its most glorious point. Therefore, its culture became most widespread
to Ogba, which majority of them were from Benin imbibed the culture, created the theory
that its progenitor was a prince of Benin. They gave his name as ‘Akalaka.’ This name
does not match any personality in the history of Benin. Some historians hold that this
man now acclaimed as the father of Ekpeye and Ogba left Benin kingdom due to the
10
Ibid.
11
Gift Ekine, A Concise History of Ekpeye land and People (Port Harcourt, Osal Digital Press, 2014) Page 4-
5.
infighting within the royal family. He had to flee with his family amidst rumors of his
inevitable demise for his disloyalty to the Oba. Consequently, they moved southwards
Geographical Background
Ekpeye ethnic nationality is made up of Ahoada East and Ahoada West Local
grougs, namely; Ahoada and Engenni. The Ekpeyeland lies in the centre of the old
Ahoada Division of Rivers State. It lies between the latitude 4.46’N and 5.15N and
longitude 6.26’E and 6.45’E.13 To the North it is bounded by Ogba Community, to the
East by Sombriero Rivers and by the Ikwerre’s who live across it.To the South by Abua
Clan and to the West by the Orashi and by the Delta-Cost speaking peoples who live
across. Ekpeye has an area of 566-623 square kilometers. 14 It lies between two rivers—
Orashi and Sombreiro. The Sombreiro is on the East Boundary and Orashi on the
Western side. Ozochi town lies on the western branch of the Orashi close to the Engenni
land.15 On the Engenni side there are cliffs and Ekpeye side is flooded out in the rainy
season. Akoh towns and villages are on the Sombreiro side namely; Ekpena, Odiaje,
Odiesama, Odiemudie, Upkelemini and Odieke-Akoh. The Pattern can also be traced in
Upata where towns like Ahoada, Ihuaba, Idoke, Ihuowo, Ihuama and Ogbele inhabit
12
Ibid.
13
Ekine, 4-5.
14
Ibid.
15
Ibid.
Climate: Ekpeye lies within two major climatic conditions, dry and rainy seasons.
The dry season begins from October through March while the Rainy Season falls within
march through September. The Orashi River overflows its bank and most parts of Ekpeye
Occupation: The main occupations of Ekpeye traditional society are farming, hunting
and fishing. They are predominately farmers engaged in the cultivation crops such as
cocoa and rubber. Palm produce form a major part of the earning. The youth engage in
tapping of rubber and cutting of palm produce. The main crops of the Ekpeye also
include cassava, yam, cocoyam, pineapple, plantain and banana in large quantities.
Besides farming those who live by the Rivers had fish ponds and keep their families from
Before the advent of Christianity, the Ekpeye people believed in the existence of True
God. They had consent of the divine God who is the creator. They also personalized
names such as Chikpebieh (God decides), Chizhim (God is), Chimajikpo (God knows).
Hence the Ekpeye man praying in invocation declares “Chineke Mukpuo Olu le ele”
(God who created heaven and earth).18They believe in Spirits and divinities and they
worship either the good or bad spirits. They AGBALA Spirit is said to be the spirit of the
dead. Clark supports Ekiye’s opinion in the beliefs of the Ekpeye people in Ancestral
assistance in times of problem. They also believe in re-incarnation. They have sacred
16
Ibid.
17
Ekine, 5.
18
Ekiye, The History of Ekpeye Ethnic Nationality, 30-31.
days when sacrifices are offered to deities. All the traditional worship is done in the day
Christianity came to Ekpeye land around 1864 through some Kalabari palm oil traders
who settled in Ogbele. It was not until 1898, the first church (St. James Anglican church)
was established by a Navy captain whose name was Sawyer and the first resident pastor
Socio-Cultural Life
The Ekpeye (Akpa O hia) are people of south-eastern Nigeria with distinct culture and
rulers of a former Benin kingdom. 21 They believe that: i) A woman is married into a
family and not to a man. ii) If she becomes a widow, she would either have to marry her
late husband’s immediate younger brother or forfeit much, if not all of her late husband’s
Ekiye stated that in the traditional Ekpeye society, women were regarded as second —
class citizens. They only come out to serve food when needed. 22 Age-grades consist of
men who are organized according to ages; they exist all over Ekpeye land, festivals such
as Ogwu Ekpeye, an annual celebration, Ogwu Ede (Cocoyam Festival) Ogwu Ugbede
19
Ibid.
20
Nkasiobi Ekpelaeteozu Silas, A Comprehensive History of Ekpeye People (Omoku: Jef-Printing and
Publishing Co., 2011), 217-18.
21
Webmaster @ thetidenewsonline.com March 30, 2015
22
Ekiye, 28.
23
Ibid.
Since it is impracticable to collect data from the entire population, a sample will be
selected for the study using stratified random sampling method. The sample selection is
so since all the Ekpeyeans were not used rather five different Ekpeye villages were
chosen. The method of sampling selection is very essential to the whole research process.
This research utilized stratified random sampling. Ayandokun, defines random sampling
in a way that each element (member) of the population has an equally chance of being
selected.24 This research intends to use this method because the procedure will make the
findings of the study reflective of the entire population of Ekpeye people in Ekpeye
Kingdom.
The research instrument that was adopted for this study was questionnaire.
data such as name, gender, age, church, marital status, and office held. The
Agreed (A) Strongly Disagreed (SD) and Disagreed (D) responses (restricted responses).
A total of one hundred (100) questionnaires was printed and distributed. The respondents
Enyubara, validity is how accurately the test results represent or predicts the particular
24
Ayandokun, 97.
characteristics intended.25 He further purports that “validity is to be the extent to which an
Content validity was adopted; the content validity of the instrument (questionnaire) for
this study was determined by giving it to the researcher’s supervisor who went through
and made necessary modifications. The researcher therefore modified the instrument in
line with the corrections made. This confirmed that the instrument covered the intended
order and the anticipatory achievement of the researcher is well articulated therein. 27
Therefore, for this work to be useful for all time, its consistency was tested by pilot study
of ten (10) members within an interval of two weeks. The two sets of scores were
corrected using test- and- retest method. When correlated, the result was 0.77, thereby
The administration and collection of questionnaires was done on different days with the
help of research assistants. A total number of one hundred (100) questionnaires were
Kenneth O. Enyubara, Research Methodology and Reporting (Port Harcourt: HOI Publishing Company,
2009), 29.
26
Ibid.
27
Ibid.
Total Total Total Percentage Percentage
100 95 5 5% 95%
For the data to be effectively analysed the Chi-square statistical analysis is applied and
OF FINDINGS
Chapter four presents the result under investigations and interpretation of result based on
the research questions raised in chapter one. Since investigation was based on the facts
and figures about Christian response to the concept of marriage amongst the Ekpeye
Ekpeye
RESPONSES
S/N SA A % SD D %
1 67 11 82.09 10 7 17.88 95
2 71 19 98.94 0 5 5.26 95
3 52 25 81.04 8 10 18.94 95
4 48 10 63.52 18 16 35.78 95
5 79 10 93.67 0 6 6.31 95
6 72 11 87.35 7 5 12.65 95
significant effect on the attitude and character of people of Ekpeye living in it towards
there Christian commitment a mean percent of approximately 84.4%, where as those who
disagreed has a mean percentage of 16.14%. Hence, the result above revealed that people
of Ekpeye who either divorced or are remarried as a result of divorce are regretting their
Table 3:Showing the Gap of Commitment of Ekpeye People and their Attitude toward
RESPONSES
S/N SA A % SD D %
1 78 12 94.16 0 5 5.3 95
2 49 9 60.53 21 16 38.95 95
3 39 31 73.68 21 4 26.32 95
4 70 20 74.73 5 0 5.3 95
5 81 9 94.73 0 5 5.3 95
From the above table the respondents are in strong agreement that there is a great gap of
Christian commitment between Baptist members who are polygamists and monogamists
realized, leaving those who think otherwise with the mean percentage of 16.2%. This
viewed that more than sixty- six per cent of the people in Ekpeye Kingdom strongly
agree that there is a great lacuna between Christian commitment of polygamists and/or
divorcees and monogamists. From this table therefore, it is very clear that polygamy
brings about lack of commitment in the Christian life of Ekpeye people living in divorce
and remarriage.
Table 4: Shows the Gap between between those living either in divorce or remarriage and
RESPONSES
S/N SA A % SD D %
1 10 9 19.99 86 8 78.99 95
2 4 11 15.78 71 9 84.10 95
3 6 9 15.78 69 11 74.20 95
4 15 2 17.89 70 8 72.20 95
5 12 10 22.58 72 11 76.83 95
6 18 12 31 65 10 78.94 95
7. 9 10 19.99 76 10 90.52 95
From the above table, respondents were in strong disagreement that divorce is not playing
a setback in their lives and this came out with a mean percentage of approximately
79.4%. This leaves those who agreed that divorce has no negative effect in their Christian
lives with a mean percentage of 20.43%. The result above shows a wide range of
disagreement clearly indicating that majority of people in Ekpeye Kingdom who are
Table 5: Shows the Extent of effect of divorce and remarriage among the people of
Ekpeye kingdom
RESPONSES
S/N VH H % L VL %
1 4 21 26.31 27 43 73.68 95
2 5 12 17.81 24 54 82.10 95
3 2 18 21.05 10 65 78.94 95
4 5 15 21.05 11 64 78.94 95
5 8 17 27.36 22 48 73.68 95
6 5 18 24.21 16 56 75.78 95
7 4 11 15.78 26 44 73.68 95
From the above table, respondents were in great affirmation that people in Ekpeye
Kingdom who are divorced or remarried are facing a great setback in their spiritual life
and the areas of Christian home and family life have a mean percentage of 76.7%.
Whereas, those who think that divorce does not in any way affect them have a mean
percentage of 21.9%. The result above shows that people in Ekpeye Kingdom who are
This section discusses the findings. The concept of Christian marriage is deeply rooted in
biblical teachings and has been the subject of extensive theological, sociological, and
cultural studies. This research examines the challenges faced by Christian marriages in
contemporary society and the role of the church in supporting and promoting these
values.
From the findings, it is clear that the state of a home affects life directly. Though some so
called Christian for one reason or the other get involved into divorce and remarriage
giving reasons such as to “ensure the bearing of many children so that the status and
property of the man may be passed on and the family become extended in space and time,
and a solution to a wife’s infertility”, 28 therefore it is not without regrets. This is reflected
28
Stanley Ellison, Divorce and Remarriage in the Church (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1977), 45.
in the eighty four (84) mean per cent expressions of regrets over twenty six per cent non-
regrets expression.
Most of these people who got involved in divorce and remarriage for reasons of wealth,
inheritance, and children and so on, forgets the spiritual aspect of their lives. But the data
analysis of this work proves that due to its disadvantages, most of the divorcees are
seriously regretting their decision of taking another wife. The result of divorcing and
marrying another wife has resulted to rivalry, home division, nagging, some even to the
point of death.
Therefore, the act of divorce and remarriage has affected socio-economic, moral,
physical, religious and spiritual life of the divorcees. One of their reasons of divorce and
remarriage, as mentioned earlier, is children. But the issue of divorce and remarriage does
not affect their life only; it also affects behaviour and thinking, feelings and actions and
also result in lack of good parental modelling. Divorce and remarriage have helped to
produce wayward children, criminals, robbers and even illiterates. 29 In a nutshell divorce
and remarriage has helped in producing children who are without moral or spiritual
character making their parent to regretting their decisions of having another wife as result
The issue of divorce and remarriage has not only affected the people morally, it has
affected the people economically. It has affected their productive force and their use of
resources and thus it affects especially the children of the families. The negative
economic effect of the general well-being of the people has been observed; for example,
29
Frank S. Pittman, Turning Points: Treating Families in Transition and Crisis: (New York: Norton, 1987),
89.
there are observed neglect. Neglect is as a result of one not meeting or taking care of
Another reason why they are regretting is because of too much quarrels between either
the new wife or her children and the children of the former wife. In a divorced and
remarried family, quarrels are very common. Sometimes it occurs due to favouritism. The
children that are favoured or who feel that their needs or their welfare are not taken care
of, will confront their father. The children will sometimes stand boldly to challenge and
quarrel with their fathers because their needs are not attended to. Many families
experience quarrels when the man brings in a second wife into the home. The worst is
when the second wife starts having children and if it happens that the man is the type that
is anxious of having male child and the first wife did not have male children or male
child, it causes quarrel in the home; 30 It also brings about jealousy and envy which are
Therefore, these make some divorcees sorry for their wrong decision to take to another
wife. They show signs of regret for their divorce and remarriage living, made open
confessions of regrets of divorced and remarried life; they try to avoid group fellowship
that remind them of these problems, withdrawn from their church assignments and they
It was discovered that those who are not divorced are found to be more committed and
responsible in most things.31 Most of them are usually found to be fully participating in
church activities such as Bible study, witnessing, prayers, stewardship, worship etc. 32
30
(en.wikpedia.org/wiki/child. neglect)
31
David Thompson, Counselling and Divorce (Waco, Tex.: Word, Forthcoming, 1997), 324.
32
bid.
Also in their manner of relating with others they are found to be polite in approach,
happier in their homes and even in their places of work. 33 This assertion was found to be
true for most churches studied in this work. Most of the members of missionary
organizations who were said to be very committed in propagating the kingdom of God
through the churches where they belong were found to be either not divorce or singles. Of
course the mean percentage of sixty four (64%) positive affirmation on divorcees’
Christians as followers of Jesus Christ were first called “Christians” in Antioch (Acts
11:26) because they believed in Christ and followed his example. The word was initially
used by their detractors in a derogatory sense. Christians are to be like a light set on the
hill which cannot hide from the eyes of men; hence Christians are like a glass house,
every one aside and within can see and read to make criticisms. This should make the
Divorce and remarriage bring division or separation among Christians or the church. This
happens in a church when a divorcee and his new wife are worshipping in the same
church. For instance, if a divorcee and his family happen to worship in a particular
church and his new wife is occupying different positions in the church, most people will
never agree on any matter or issues easily. They will never want to be sharing any idea
even if that idea will favour the church. And when such happens, it hinders the growth of
the church.34
33
Ibid.
34
deprived of his/her position/office in the church, he/she will never be happy with the
persons but find a way to frustrate the work by withdrawal of himself and his financial
support.35
Divorce and remarriage bring conflicts among the Christians: conflict as a result of
divorce is problematic and there is a stigma attached to it, especially among the
Christians who know that divorce is a sin, an act condemned by God. So it becomes a
problem among the Christians especially when the divorcee is occupying a position in the
church and is removed. Such affects divorcees and make them not to participate in
missionary activities of the church, makes them to be aggressive and hostile to people,
defensive in their attitude with regards to their responsibilities to the church, refuse to
join the church in witnessing and makes them to be mute in church business meeting. The
Many people read about divorce and remarriage in the Bible but have a gut feeling that is
wrong. They often think that it must be banned in somewhere in the bible and perhaps
recall sermons when Christian leaders either directly condemned it or hinted that it was
sinful. But they also know that they cannot rely on other people to do their Christianity
for them and so they cannot simply take someone else’s word about what the bible say-as
From the table above, both Christian Leaders and the led in Ekpeye Kingdom have an
objection about divorce and remarriage. Some hold to the Adam and Eve Defense: Adam
was given Eve as his wife. He was given one wife not two, three or four. One wife was
enough for Adam. One wife was what God intended. Marriage today should be “as it was
35
Ibid, 346.
in the beginning”. If God had wanted Adam to be a polygamist he would have given him
more wives.
Secondly, the Bad Effect Fallacy:36 divorce and remarriage in the Bible associated with
bad things happenings like jealousy, murder and immorality whilst it was not condemned
out right, they can tell it is bad because of the things associated with it and the bad
consequences it has; because it creates an environment for jealousy in which sin can
Thirdly, the “Not the Ideal” Diversion: 37 divorce and remarriage may not be outlawed by
God but he does show it is not the ideal by limiting it in the Old Testament and by
stopping divorcee from having positions of responsibility in the church. He does not
really like it even if he did not say so and they should not do it because they should be
Fourthly, the “Against the law”:38 misunderstanding divorce and remarriage might be
concerned, and as Christians they have to respect God. As we have to obey God’s law
The spiritual growth of people is very vital because nobody excels without being
tasks. If there is time, it then means that any person that is living in divorce and
remarriage is seen as not being committed to God and that person is spiritually blind. 39
36
Hastings, Christian Marriage in Africa, 56.
37
Hastings, 56.
38
Ellison, Divorce and Remarriage in the Church, 67.
39
Ibid., 69.
The affirmation result of seventy-seen (77) mean percentage shows the serious effects of
divorce on the spiritual lives of the people under research. It is clearly not exaggeration to
say that if the people are who the image of God and the Christians mean “the followers of
Christ” or “little Christ” there should be spiritual sanity among the Christians and the
people who called themselves children of God. Any Christian that practices or involves in
divorce and remarriage is spiritually empty. This is to say, he/she cannot worship or serve
God in truth, if he/she is still in the act of divorce. The church cannot experience soul
enriching and spiritual worship if the Christians indulge themselves in the act of
polygamy or divorce and remarriage. There are areas to be considered that affects the life
of divorcees.
First, areas of witnessing: witnessing or evangelism is the heart beat of God. Christian
witnessing is one of the most important reasons of the existence of church as recorded in
Matthew 28:19-20. When the Christians are into divorce, they cannot evangelize to
people, knowing fully well that already they are guilty of the act of either polygamy
or/and divorce which is a sin before God. The purpose of evangelism is for the salvation
of the lost souls. The first aim of evangelism is to confront the sinful world with the
Christ commissioned Christians for the continuation of his redemption work. In the night
of his ascension, the Lord with his disciples and commission them to go into the world
and preach the gospel to every person. It is the task or duty of the redeemed people to
continue the task of sharing that message. But the bitter truth is that a good number of
Christians have overlooked this command because of one sin or the other. It becomes
40
Charlie Shedd, Praying Together: Making Marriage Last (Grand Rapids: Pyranee Books, 1987), 234.
hard for a divorcee to do evangelism because of the guilty of the act of divorce and
remarriage. How can one preach against or condemn the act, if you are guilt of the same?
Another area again is prayer: prayer in itself is the fastest vehicle that can take a person to
his long expected destination. Prayer is the greatest privilege God has given to Christians.
From the study, it is obvious that those who are in the act of divorce sometimes may not
pray effectively as a result of guilt in their hearts. As the guilty feeling continues to exist
in their hearts, their prayer life may become something else. 41 This renders their
The attitude of a divorcee toward his/her Christian life is nothing good to describe
with. Their attitude to prayer life is very low; their attitude toward bible study is not
encouraging. The importance of the word of God in Christians’ lives is inevitable. The
bible describes in clear and unmistakable language what Christian should do with the
word of God in all its different forms. Christians must read God’s word (the Bible) daily
and meditate upon it day and night (Joshua 1:8). They must eagerly listen to God’s word
and seek to understand it (Matt. 13:23). They must accept what the word of God says;
hide it deep within their hearts, trust in it and then hope in its promises (psalm 130:5).
Above all, they must obey what it commands and live according to it (psalm19:9).
Because of this plain truth, it is bad to find that one is not in the bible study. This most
Another area that divorcees are not doing well in the Christian life is in the area of
stewardship. The scripture makes it clear that everything on this earth belongs to God,
including human beings who occupy the earth (psalm 24), this understanding makes it
clear that whatever a Christian possesses comes from God. Whether riches or honour,
41
(www.paulawhite.org/effective-prayer).
power or might or other possessions that make them feel great (1chron.29:12-15). 42 But
this understanding is lacking among some divorcees. In fact, it was reported that most of
them are not faithful in their tithing and offerings “the stewardship of possessions has to
do with using all that God has gifted and blessed one with for the good of man, the
society and to the Glory of God”. Therefore it is a sign of any Christian, divorcee or
polygamist and non-polygamist is found wanting in this area. The lesson on the parable
of the rich fool in the Luke 12:13-21, and Paul words in 1Cor. 4:2 should be learnt and
42
(www.paulawhite.org/effective-prayer,
CHAPTER FIVE
5.1. Summary
The primary aim of this research is to elucidate the Christian concept of marriage based
on biblical teachings. This researcher investigated the Christian response to divorce and
remarriage amongst the people of Ekpeye Kingdom and how it has affected their
Christian life. The purpose of conducting this research was to identify and assess some of
the life challenges and feelings of people of Ekpeye Kingdom, who because of one
reason or the other decided to involve themselves into divorce and remarriage.
As discovered from the study, some of them got involved with “tangible reasons”. Some
of the reasons include looking for male child, wealth, sexual satisfaction, good luck,
continuity of the family name and self-defence among others. But it is obvious that
most of these divorcees who claimed to profess Jesus Christ as their Lord and Saviour
have denied the responsibility attached to their faith which has been addressed in this
work. From the five churches surveyed, the responses regarding the commitment of
divorcees were the same. It was also discovered that most of these divorcees are
Therefore, divorce and remarriage life lured them into a negative attitude towards their
Faith. Most of them are nowhere to be found in missionary organizations of the church,
Christian witnessing, Bible study above all they are not faithful in their situation.
5.2. Conclusion
It is true that the culture of most of the ancient world permitted a man to divorce and
remarry. This culture was not the culture of God, “it was not so from the beginning” but
was the human culture of its time, sometimes reinforced by the civil laws of man which
were not laws or customs of God. As clearly shown by Biblical examples, divorce and
remarriage often encourages rivalry, quarrelling and emotional misery. It is not condoned
by God and He never originally intended for marriage to permit multiple partners.
Originally God intended the best, happiest, most loving marriage to be between a man
and a woman for their natural life time, until death do them part.
Divorce and remarriage is sin. While divorce and remarriage was practiced by some of
the Patriarchs and was permitted by the oriental cultures and civil laws of their times, it
clearly was not the ideal marital relationship blessed and approved by God. Today even
among most modern cultures that permit cohabitation and easy-to-obtain living, divorce
God’s Word vehemently speaks against fornication and adultery as found in the 7th
because of the hardness of human hearts), cited the original marriage to reveal God's will.
This is depicted in the fact that God made one wife for Adam, and God told Adam that a
man should leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife (not many wives), and the
two of them should become one flesh (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5-6).
The New Testament makes it clearer that each husband should have his own wife and
each wife her own husband (not multiple partners – 1 Corinthians 7:2). Paul, mindful of
God's instruction, captured it all when he stressed that the high priest could only have one
wife. Paul again commanded that a man ordained to the ministry must not have more
From every indication, monogamy, not polygamy or divorce and remarriage, is the given
honourable status as commanded by the Bible. Today, in some nations of the world,
divorce and remarriage are pronounced illegal by civil law. In such nations, law-abiding
Christians are commanded to live in subjection to the laws of the land (Romans 13:1-7).
In cultures where divorce and remarriage are made legal and accepted, persons who are
being baptized into the Body of Christ (the Church), and who are already legally bound to
two or more wives are advised to continue to honour their civil law commitments. A
divorcee should not be contracted once a person is a member of the Church and has
5.3. Recommendations
First, monogamy should be encouraged: It is not out of place to say that God instituted
marriage right from the unset with the intension of monogamy. Genesis 2:18-25, stated
clearly that one man one wife. It was deliberate in the sight of God. God has foreseen the
problem of divorce, no wonder the Bible says “…a man leaves his father and mother and
is united with his wife and they become one” (Gen. 2:24 GNT). Therefore, one man one
wife was deliberate in the sight of God. If God had wanted to give more than one wife to
Adam, he would have done so but because of unnecessary excuses many so called
excuses that are making some so called Christians to get involved in divorce can be
avoided if proper teaching and orientation is given at the initial stage. Therefore,
counsellors and also by prayers in the churches. This will help to avoid it continued
occurrences.
Third, churches should embark on prayers and visitation to divorced families. From the
research there are indications that many divorced families are being abandoned in the
name of “discipline” that may have contributed to their lack of commitment to church
task and responsibilities. If visitation and prayer can be embarked upon, it will go a long
way in retrieving them back to their normal life. But many of them felt abandoned by
their church, they either stop coming to church, or not punctual to Bible study, Mission
work, prayer Meeting and Bible study. Therefore, discipline should be redefined in
Church setting so as not to lose these people rather discipline should include total
expression of love, care and concern for every member. Who knows whether they will be
better tomorrow?
ones. The reason is that it was also noted that, many of these members are waiting only
on what church pastor would say about divorced and remarried members. They do not
care whether they are coming to church or weekly activities, which contributed a lot to
Fifth, Churches and pastors should not give room to bad cultures that negates Christianity
and its teaching. Though divorce and remarriage or polygamy are sometimes attributed to
African culture, it is not really true. Most of the African cultures regard the first wife. In
some cultures the second wives are not regarded as to the first; they are in sometimes
given a portion of land in terms of communal farming. Some are not regarded in
community meetings and to every other legal tender pertaining to marriage. Polygamy
also has no regard constitutionally. It was just a strange culture that has influenced in the
life of the African man and because of that discomfort, rivalry, aggressiveness; quarrels
enveloped the lives of divorcees. Pastors need to stand and preach/teach the undiluted
word of God so as to discourage the practice of divorce. Many churches have been
observed, indirectly they allowed divorce and remarriage, it has been discovered that
there are some churches who does not frown at divorces. They defined Polygamy as
having two or more wives the same time without cautioning someone who divorces his
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1. Gender:
o Male
o Female
2. Age:
o 18-25
o 26-35
o 36-45
o 46-55
o 56 and above
3. Marital Status:
o Single
o Married
o Divorced
o Remarried
4. Religious Affiliation:
o Christian
o Baptist
behaviors.
o Strongly Agree
o Agree
o Neutral
o Disagree
o Strongly Disagree
o Agree
o Neutral
o Disagree
o Strongly Disagree
o Strongly Agree
o Agree
o Neutral
o Disagree
o Strongly Disagree
o Strongly Agree
o Agree
o Neutral
o Disagree
o Strongly Disagree
not?
3. How do you think divorce and remarriage affect the Christian commitment
Please use this space to provide any additional comments, experiences, or observations
you have regarding the Christian concept of marriage among the people of Ekpeye