Jorge Waxemberg

SPIRITUAL LIFE

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 Contents

Introduction 3
Spiritual Life 5
The Asceticism of Renouncement 10
Inner Peace 13
Prayer and Meditation 19
Self-Control 23
Stepping Back 26
Leaving Center Stage 29
Presence 33
Participation 36
Reversibility 41
Responsibility 46
The Search for God 48
The Mysticism of the Heart 52

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 Introduction

In times like these, when continuous war, international con-

flicts, ecological disasters, famine, misery and despair fill
the daily news, it may seem out of place to talk about spiri-
tual life. It might seem better to look for concrete solutions
to these terrible problems. In this book, however, we pro-
pose another approach: we believe it is precisely because of
our lack of spiritual insight that we are unable to overcome
the tragedies we experience today.
Most people tend to separate spiritual life from daily life. We
might look for refuge in spiritual things to escape the stress
of everyday life, or to feel at peace because we believe God
is behind whatever we do in the world. While this separa-
tion can give us momentary comfort, it is unlikely that it will
really help us find inner peace in our relationship with
God or the world. Perhaps we think we have a
good relationship with God, but we don’t have such a good
relationship with all God’s creatures; until we do, our love of
God is not a real love. When we understand that spiritual
life and our life of relationships are intricately related, we
begin to have a clearer idea of the kind of spiritual life we
really have. Becoming aware of how we relate to one
another is a good way to evaluate the quality of our spiri-
tual life.
In this book we will try to broaden the meaning of spiritual
life. We won’t reduce it to the belief in a doctrine, nor as
adherence to certain rules of conduct or spiritual exercises.
Here we think of spiritual life as referring to our existence,

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of who we are as human beings, of our vision of ourselves
in the context of eternal time and infinite space, as far as
we can perceive. We also believe these ideas arise from a
process of development—or unfolding— in which we all find
ourselves. It is up to each of us to work on our unfolding
and expand our state of consciousness. At the very least
spiritual unfolding will help us to recognize how limited our
understanding is, and how our convictions—imperfect as
they are—lead us into so many conflicts and problems. In
this way we will be able to unfold our consciousness until it
embraces the divine unknown, which guides our lives within
the totality of all reality.

Jorge Waxemberg
August 2012

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 Spiritual Life

The expression spiritual life can have several meanings ac-

cording to what we understand by spiritual: we can asso-
ciate it with beliefs, practices, good feelings, artistic inclina-
tions or elevated states of mind.
Here we will talk about spiritual life in terms of states of
consciousness. By state of consciousness we mean the idea
we have of ourselves, of our surroundings and our situation
in life and in the world.
From this point of view we could say that we’ve always had
a spiritual life because we have developed our state of con-
sciousness ever since we were born. And although this is
true, this development, this unfolding of our consciousness,
takes on different characteristics according to our needs at
different stages of life.
In childhood and adolescence, we develop our state of con-
sciousness motivated by the need to understand our place
in the world and to learn how to take charge of our lives.
Rather than wondering who we really are, we pay attention
to what others say about us and what they want from us.
The idea we have of who we are and our relationship with
life and the world doesn’t come from ourselves. We learn it
from others and from the influences of the environment
around us. We come to feel that we agree with a certain
group, place or time in which we live. Our way of thinking,
our opinions, our beliefs, are all a result of our surround-
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those around us are simply variations of the same general
way of thinking, characteristic of our times and culture.
Once we consolidate this notion of being, this idea of who
we are, this way of thinking and feeling, we usually stay in
this state of consciousness. Our identity, our way of think-
ing and feeling that is a product of our times and place, and
the habits we have picked up, all these make up what we
will call here our acquired personality. This personality
makes us feel sure of who we are, of what we think and
what we believe. And from this vantage point we judge
everything around us. And so do all those who have ac-
quired their personalities in other places, different from
ours. Thus we identify with those who think and act as we
do, and we separate ourselves from those who think and
act differently.
The acquired personality enables us to take good advantage
of the culture to which we belong and thus to advance in
our unfolding. If we are consistent with the principles we
say we have, we try to live up to the spiritual aspirations of
our beliefs or our inclinations, acquired by our assimilation
to our culture. We try to live the ethical standards of our
belief system, we practice virtues and spiritual exercises,
and we train our mind, refine our artistic sense and do good
works.
However, although most of us adhere to ethical principles
and noble beliefs, we have not yet been able to create a
world without violence, destruction and tragedy—all of
which we ourselves produce.
On the one hand, in most cases what really matters to us is
limited and personal: I care about myself, my welfare and
the small number of people I love. What may happen
around us or what we could do about it might matter to us,

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but it is secondary to the importance we give to ourselves.
This makes it unlikely that we will ever create harmony in
the society in which we live.
On the other hand, although we have excellent principles
and ideals, we don’t always get good results with them. We
hold onto our truth as the only truth, not realizing that
there are as many supposed truths in the world as groups
that say they have it. We still do not accept that for a truth
to really be true, it has to be something so obvious that
there is no way of not recognizing it.
Those are the truths we can rely on; life gives them to us.
It is obvious that we cannot keep forever what we have to-
day; we cannot avoid the vicissitudes of life, illness, decline
and death.
It is obvious that, as much as we might refine our ability to
anticipate and predict the future, we live in fear due to con-
stant uncertainty.
It is obvious that, in the realm of personal relationships,
what makes us happy is to be treated with respect, love
and courtesy. It is also obvious that in many cases we do
not treat one another this way.
It is obvious that much of our suffering comes from conflict:
personal arguments where we try to impose ourselves on
others, or so-called “spiritual” debates, when we impose our
beliefs on others.
It is obvious that, although each belief proclaims a different
truth, all belief systems agree on faith in a higher principle
that governs life.
It is also obvious that, although some believe in this higher
principle and others do not, no one really knows for sure.

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It is therefore obvious that reality may be different from
what we believe or think about it.
The obvious question would then be: does it make sense to
create divisions among ourselves because we do not think
in the same way about things we do not know? Or better
still, isn’t it wiser to be united in what we have in common—
the essence of what we do believe and what we obviously
don’t know—rather than to assert something we don’t know
for sure is true?
What happens to us with our beliefs also happens to us with
our ideologies. Each of us can expound on a theory about
how to make a better world. But such thinking doesn’t un-
ite us; on the contrary, it leads us to fight those who also
want to make a better world but have a different theory
than ours on how to do it.
The obvious question is: wouldn’t it make more sense to
collaborate with each other to make that better world poss-
ible?
What could we do to break the vicious circle of good inten-
tions and terrible results?
We can continue the development of our state of conscious-
ness.
But achieving this continuity is not easy. In our current
state of consciousness, it is not enough to simply admit
what is obvious in order to live with what we do know. We
continuously confront one another, trying to impose our
ideas not only on those who don’t agree with us but on
those closest to us, our personal relationships. We even go
so far as to have confrontations with the group with which
we identify and from which we get our self-identity.

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Furthermore, we live as if death did not exist; in practice,
we refuse to admit the temporary and precarious nature of
everything we do. We think we give meaning to our lives by
accelerating our activities and wasting our time on efforts
that do not expand our state of consciousness.
In order to really develop, to unfold, we need to work deli-
berately, methodically and persistently on unfolding our
state of consciousness. In the language of spiritual life, this
work is called asceticism. In this book we call it the Ascetic-
ism of Renouncement.
The Asceticism of Renouncement begins when we work on
the personality we have acquired, because that personality
defines our state of consciousness. We have no other start-
ing point: from there we work to expand the boundaries of
that state of consciousness.

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 The Asceticism of Renouncement

In its broadest meaning, ascetism refers to the method of

work needed to reach a specific goal. In the context of our
understanding of spiritual life, we use the word ascetism to
describe the method we embrace to expand our state of
consciousness.
We call this method the Asceticism of Renouncement. We
call it renouncement because we need to renounce to our
acquired personality to be able to transcend it; otherwise,
we would only make it stronger. We also say that the work
of unfolding is renouncement because that is what life is:
continual renouncement, even though we aren’t always
conscious that we renounce every single moment of our
lives.
Although it is obvious that nothing in life is permanent, we
don’t always relate this condition to the fact that life makes
us renounce continuously. Happy moments are so fleeting
that we have barely begun to enjoy them when they turn
into memories, also fleeting. Nor will we always have our
material possessions, and this makes us uneasy. On the
one hand we like to think we will have our things indefinite-
ly; on the other we vehemently defend them because deep
down we know nothing lasts forever. And not only will we
be unable to keep our possessions, but we even have to try
hard to remember what we have lived; we actually only re-
tain very small instances that stand out in a continuous
past.
Time, that great fabric of which life is made and which
seems eternal, belongs to us only in the present moment.

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What we’ve already lived is behind us, no matter how much
we want to hold onto it. Whatever experiences we live now
soon become part of our past. And, in the present moment,
the future is no more than the expectations we have, and
those seldom turn out as we hope.
Even though it is obvious that we are only passing through
life, we usually live in denial. We fail to recognize that
every step we take is simply one small step after another;
each one so small it could never be grasped. But if we
dared to face our state of continuous renouncement, and
we wholeheartedly accepted this renouncement as our ex-
perience of time, we would achieve the inner freedom ne-
cessary to continue the expansion of our consciousness.
This is what the Asceticism of Renouncement is all about:
through it we can unfold our highest aspirations and expand
our consciousness toward the divine. In traditional spiritual
terms, we say that the Asceticism of Renouncement leads
us towards the union of our consciousness with universal
consciousness. Throughout the process of this expansion,
we experience different states of union, depending on the
context we place ourselves in. In traditional spiritual terms,
we refer to these as mystical states. (Mysticism will be fur-
ther explained in the chapter on The Mysticism of the
Heart.)
The Asceticism of Renouncement includes all the areas of
our life. We could go into a lot of detail about this because,
in one way or another, spontaneously or imposed, we have
been renouncing all our lives. Ever since childhood we have
learned to renounce: we are taught that we cannot say nor
do whatever we want. We have to renounce following our
impulses in order to behave according to the expectations
around us. Circumstances often lead us to give up what we

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like, and sometimes we renounce out of prudence. When-
ever we make a commitment, we renounce the freedom we
had before the commitment. In everyday life, some rec-
ommendations might seem like renouncements to some
people; for others, they are simply healthy habits or com-
mon sense: for example, not seeking immediate gratifica-
tion, or living within a budget.
But in this book we will not go into so much detail. We will
describe only some aspects of this asceticism, paying spe-
cial attention to our relationship with ourselves, our sur-
roundings, and the divine.

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 Inner Peace

Although we usually say we want happiness, this is an ideal

that is rather hard to define as an immediate goal. For this
reason, we would say that what we are really looking for is
inner peace.
There are many times that we do not feel at peace. This
can happen due to misfortunes we cannot avoid: for exam-
ple, illness, the decline that comes with age, natural disas-
ters, the loss of loved ones, and the fact that we, too, are
going to die. There is a lot we can do to help ourselves re-
garding these causes of pain and sorrow. We know, for ex-
ample, how to prevent, alleviate and even cure some sick-
nesses; we can predict certain storms and other natural
events, taking preventative measures. Science and tech-
nology teach us ways to lessen our pain and suffering.
The origin of many other causes of suffering comes from
ourselves: war, conflicts, problems in relationship; harmful
habits, psychological imbalances. When we have to face
these kinds of suffering, the way to help ourselves is to
work on ourselves.
Sometimes we think we are going to feel at peace doing
things we know are not good for us. For example, we eat
something that we feel like eating even though we know it
is bad for our health. We procrastinate about something we
need to do now, knowing that later it will be harder to do.
We follow an impulse without caring what happens after-
wards.

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There are ascetic practices that help us feel at peace, al-
though not all of them affect our state of consciousness in
the same way. The intention with which we practice these
exercises can help us advance within the state of con-
sciousness we already have, or they can expand our state
of consciousness.
For example, study, reflection, meditation, concentration:
all these stimulate our mental abilities. Physical exercises
such as yoga help us control the body and some aspects of
the mind. Other exercises can help us overcome stress,
anger, distress, fear, conflicts.
In other words, there are many exercises we can practice
so that we feel better or feel at peace.
For sure, the practice of such exercises will stimulate our
unfolding, but if the intention with which we do these exer-
cises is only so that we feel at peace, no matter how much
we feel better or how much we develop certain capacities
when practicing them, we keep the same notion of who we
are, the same view of life and the world. We grow within
the boundaries of the same state of consciousness. We
continue to be centered on ourselves. It could even happen
that, no matter how much we’ve advanced with these exer-
cises, when faced with any disturbing or stressful situation
or news, we block out whatever might be painful or disturb
our inner peace.
But if instead we practice these same exercises with the in-
tention of finding out how our feelings and actions affect
everything around us, a context that transcends our person,
then we begin to expand our state of consciousness.
For example, if when we feel annoyed or angry we develop
the habit of paying attention to how our words and attitudes

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influence others—whether we are at home, at work or when
we are out—this intention affects our perception of who we
are, expanding this notion to a much greater context. By
renouncing our limited vision, which is produced by self-pity
or selfishness, we can pay attention to the greater context
to which we want to belong. This expanded view helps us
find ways to respond to situations where we don’t feel at
peace.
Problems in relationships often create very sad situations
that can last a long time. Many times we find ourselves
trapped in these problems and it is not easy for us to find a
moment of peace.
When we find ourselves upset by the attitude or behavior of
someone else, we usually cannot do much to change it be-
cause we are expecting the other person to change. Very
rarely will someone else change their behavior just because
we ask them to. But we can do a lot about our attitude and
our conduct towards those we wish would change—and to-
wards everyone—if we want to really reduce the conflicts in
all our relationships.
When we find ourselves caught up in a conflict, we often
react in the same way as those who are annoying or hurting
us; and this is what makes the conflict continue, and even
to intensify. We can get out of this vicious circle if we
change the level of our responses. For example, if instead
of reacting, we decide to act according to the level of rela-
tionship we would like to have.
Maybe we still won’t see a lot of improvement in that rela-
tionship, but certainly something will change for the better.
At least we change the way we feel. We might not feel ex-
actly happy, but we would feel at peace with ourselves.

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Sometimes, despite having a good level of relationships
with those around us, we have not found inner peace be-
cause of unresolved past conflicts. No matter how well we
may feel at the present moment, if we remember a quarrel
we had with someone, it has the same effect on us as it did
when we had the argument. Not only do we lose the peace
we had before this memory but we find it hard to get it
back. If we remind ourselves that we can do little to feel at
peace until we have resolved past feelings or grudges, we’ll
be on the right track: We cannot change the past, but we
can change how we feel about it.
Thinking about the future can also bring up uncomfortable
feelings: the thought of death is especially hard for us. One
way to work with this is to think that today, this day that
we are living right now, might be the last day of our life. It
might seem like a contradiction in terms, but it isn’t: one of
the best ways to overcome a fear is to face it and work with
it.
Remembering that we are going to die helps us to value
each moment and to take from it everything that we can
learn from it—and this may be the very reason we are alive.
Every experience, every encounter, takes on a new dimen-
sion for us, an intensity that we don’t usually notice when
we go through everyday experiences without paying atten-
tion to the present moment.
This awareness of our temporality not only frees us from
the fear of death, but it opens up to us a sense of the tran-
scendent; in each and every moment we are in contact with
the eternity of time. This consciousness also enhances
every moment we have with those we love, because we
know that it may be the last time we see them. When we
lose a loved one, we can remember that we took good ad-

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vantage of every moment we had with them; every mo-
ment was unique, full and celebrated. We carry these loved
ones within our hearts, alive in our memory.
So then, how do we respond to our natural desire to want
to feel at peace?
The Asceticism of Renouncement teaches us not to depend
so much on what others do or on getting their recognition.
It also teaches us not to depend on what we can get by
what we do, but to find fulfillment by doing well whatever
we have to do. Obviously this won’t prevent suffering, nor
will we find fulfillment through suffering; what is important
is how we respond when we are faced with suffering. That
is what can give us inner fulfillment.
Let’s pay attention to what we do and not so much to what
we gain from our efforts. Anything we gain is temporary.
This is true not only with material gains but also with spiri-
tual ones. Our actions, however, have the continuity of life:
we are always doing something. And every moment in-
volves the challenge of how we are going to face it. If we
act in a manner consistent with what we know we have to
do, whether in our relationships or in our work, then for
sure we will feel at peace without depending on the results
we might eventually get.
Moreover, we know that, although at some point we will
manage to feel at peace, it is inevitable that this feeling of
well-being won’t last forever; the vicissitudes of life bring
new moments of tension, work and, perhaps, further suffer-
ing.
Furthermore, if we are open to a broader context, we will
see much better the situation of the world in which we live.
When we see so much suffering and so many conflicts in

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the world, we cannot but wonder: is it possible to feel at
peace in a world of so much pain?
When we open ourselves to the context of humanity and let
it all in: the joys and the sorrows, the beauty and the ugli-
ness, we no longer look only for happiness; we know too
well that happiness is the escape route we imagine so as to
not have to face the challenge of unfolding. It is then that
we understand that we lose nothing by renouncing the illu-
sion that we can avoid suffering; we simply let go of the
veils which, out of fear or unwillingness, hide reality so we
can imagine how we wish it to be. And this understanding is
the foundation of the perception of "being at peace".
We cannot avoid suffering nor change the laws of life. But
we can do what our conscience tells us we have to do, and
do it well. This is a source of inner peace that is always
within our reach.

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 Prayer and Meditation

Prayer and meditation are important exercises in spiritual

life; both have a special place in the unfolding of our con-
sciousness.
Prayer is the simple recognition of a superior principle that
sustains life; it also implies the recognition of our limitations
and fragility before the challenges that life brings us.
Likewise prayer suggests that the meaning of the unfolding
of our consciousness is to reach towards this superior prin-
ciple that we acknowledge. That is why all spiritual paths di-
rect us towards union with God; in other words, towards the
identification of our consciousness with universal conscious-
ness.
The various creeds and spiritual paths have also given us
ethical principles by which to guide our conduct to be able
to fulfill the ideal we yearn for. These means, of which
prayer and meditation are an important part, have helped
us reach the state of consciousness we presently have. But
they don’t always lead us to a more expansive conscious-
ness.
We can practice prayer to the great benefit of ourselves and
others without going beyond our present state of con-
sciousness. We can also attain profound states of prayer
without ever changing our prejudices or habits. Although
many of us pray to get closer to the divine or to help our-
selves or to help others, this doesn’t stop us from hurting
one another or getting into conflicts. On the contrary, many
times the identification with one’s particular truth adds
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many of the tragedies we endure. The members of differ-
ent creeds might diligently practice their spiritual exercises
without these practices ever helping them overcome their
differences and live together in peace.
Meditation exercises teach us to reflect about ourselves, our
relationships and our place in life and the world. However it
is evident that, just as in prayer, meditation does not al-
ways help us resolve our conflicts. In quiet moments of re-
collection we usually have the clarity to discern our situa-
tion, but later we are not always successful in our efforts to
apply what we understand.
Prayer and meditation have been very valuable tools in at-
taining the consciousness that we now have, and they con-
tinue to be very useful for expanding it, as long as we wi-
den the context and the focus of our prayers and medita-
tions.
Sometimes when we pray, in the elevation of our thoughts
we feel as if we are alone with God, as if our intention were
to achieve a feeling of fulfillment or plenitude that has no
relation to the situation of the world or the people around
us all. It’s like reaching for something with our hand, but
our hand is detached from our body. While this does not
happen with the physical body, it can happen in our imagi-
nation, because the state of our consciousness is so limited.
To go beyond these limits we can begin to expand the scope
of our prayers. Let us be careful of the tendency to pray
only for ourselves. If we pray only for our welfare or our in-
terests, we progressively close ourselves off to the world
and emphasize our tendency to be indifferent to what hap-
pens around us.

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When we elevate our thoughts, we do it not as one person,
but as a person accompanied by all human beings, like the
good brothers and sisters we are or want to be. And, in the
same way that we pray for those we love or who think like
us, we also make the effort to pray for those with whom we
have no affinity, or even dislike, hurt or fight. We thus
break through the barriers created by our prejudices,
ready-made ideas and preferences.
If in prayer and meditation we open the limited circle of our
interests, preferences and opinions, we can develop greater
understanding and empathy, and open our minds to all that
life and the world is.
It is also important in our meditation exercises that we do
not exaggerate our concerns about ourselves and we pay
more attention to the quality of participation and empathy
in our relationships, both in daily life and with society at
large.
The Affective Meditation is particularly valuable for working
on our emotions and behavior.
If we look at the way we feel, we see that we don’t have a
lot of control over our emotions; they come up automatical-
ly in response to stimuli. And as emotions generate reac-
tions, we often don’t manage very well our responses to
those emotions. We don’t control our behavior very well.
No matter how much we apply our will power, we have only
a greater or lesser success, depending on what our goals
are.
In the Affective Meditation we learn to associate stimuli with
the emotions that we want to have. That way we can create
new automatic responses to these stimuli and to acquire

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enough emotional freedom to act according to our con-
science and not our reactions.
The Discursive Meditation gives us the freedom to delve
deep into ourselves and see what, out of preconceptions,
embarrassment or denial, we refuse to recognize. It also
gives us freedom to discover what we want to do with our
lives and to do it.
In our inner search it is important that we don’t fall into
ready-made concepts or words that we think we have to
say. It is better to go within, holding onto absolutely noth-
ing, without expectations of what we will find there, in order
not to believe we find something new when, in reality, we
ourselves have brought it there. That way we will be able to
glimpse new horizons extending far beyond our perception
of ourselves and our place in the world.

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 Self-Control

Although we have achieved a certain control over our minds

through discipline and study, we usually think and feel ac-
cording to how thoughts and emotions arise in us. It is not
unusual that when we speak or act, it is more out of im-
pulse than discernment. Sometimes only after having said
or done something, we stop to consider what we have said
or done.
In order to continue to unfold we have to have control over
ourselves. The direction our lives take is determined by the
measure of control we attain over our thoughts and feel-
ings.
We cannot eliminate the thoughts and emotions that we
have, nor can we ignore them or pretend they do not exist.
Repressing our feelings doesn’t help either: we create a lot
of stress that can affect our character, our discernment and
even our mental health.
The key to self-control is to learn how to direct the energy
that is in us, whether it be our thoughts, emotions, or reac-
tions to the things that happen to us. To have enough free-
dom to do this, we need to set aside our value judgments,
those that come from our ideas or prejudices. Instead of
rating as good or bad the impulses that appear in us, we
discern the effect that they will have if we let ourselves be
carried away by them; what might happen within ourselves,
to others or to our relationships if we act on those impulses.
In this way we can change a reaction that could be hurtful
into one that is healthy and constructive. The practice of the

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Affective Meditation can be of great help in making this shift
in perspective more spontaneous.
Why do we say that we must put aside value judgments
and pay attention only to what we produce with our ac-
tions? Because by not making subjective or biased judg-
ments about what we think or feel, we avoid developing
feelings of guilt that could hinder our efforts to think and
feel as we would like to.
In addition, we sometimes have reactions that we think are
right because they make us feel better or alleviate some
tension, but they are not good for those around us; for ex-
ample, when we discharge our anger on someone else, or
we humiliate others with our witty or sarcastic comments.
We renounce therefore the patterns we have been using to
evaluate ourselves or recognize how we behave. We use
this new approach well and learn how to work on ourselves
in such a way that not only helps us feel at peace with our-
selves but actually helps us unfold spiritually. This work is
not always easy. Sometimes it takes a lot of effort and sa-
crifice to get where we want to go. From a selfish point of
view we might find ourselves asking: Why do I have to try
so hard? Isn’t it wrong to have to suffer?
Yes, useless suffering is not good. But not doing anything
about our unfolding doesn’t help us avoid suffering.
To attain self-control, it is good to remember that every
moment of our life counts. Even when we think we are not
doing anything, we are doing something. Our mind never
stops, and from this inner movement emotions and feelings
appear. It is good to pay attention to how we manage this
energy, and what good we do with it.

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We also know that the past and the future have a great in-
fluence on the quality of what we feel and, consequently, on
what we do.
What we remember most from the past are the experiences
that are engraved in our minds. Remembering what made
us happy can give us some good feelings; remembering
what was not might make us sad or feel badly. As we saw
in the previous chapter, when we remember past conflicts,
it often brings up the same feelings we had during the con-
flict, generating resentments. Just as we learn to direct
those feelings, we also need to work on our resentments.
That is why it is important to revise our memories and work
on them in order to clear up our past, because nothing is
really left behind. What we are at this moment is the syn-
thesis of our past facing the challenge of the present mo-
ment. On this foundation we create the future that we
yearn for, or we get the one that we let happen if we don’t
work deliberately to build it.
We said earlier that the future influences the quality of what
we do. Of course we don’t mean that which is not yet here,
but the future that we imagine, foresee or hope for.
It is good to imagine where we want to arrive in order to
make a plan to get there. But it is also good to remember
that we need to be conscious that every moment we are
creating our future, according to how we develop our poten-
tial and generate the attitudes and responses with which we
are going to face the vicissitudes of life. We could say that
our future will be as good as the good we do in this moment
that we are living.
To achieve enough control over ourselves to be able to do
good in the present will surely help us to realize what we
hope for in our lives.

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 Stepping Back

In order to have a view of ourselves that goes beyond our

acquired personality, we have to renounce this personality.
But it is not easy to do this as long as we are identified with
this personality. To renounce, in this case, means to gain
some distance from who we feel we are because of the con-
ditioning we’ve always had. Stepping back from ourselves
helps us attain this independence.
Throughout life we have developed our character, a way of
thinking and expressing ourselves that we consider not only
natural but which also has to do with our very notion of who
we are. Nevertheless this security about who we are
doesn’t necessarily mean we know who we really are. If we
always hold onto the idea that we have formed about our-
selves, it will be very hard for us to progress in our unfold-
ing, no matter how many teachings we study or spiritual
practices we undertake. Not only that, but in daily life, our
set ideas about who we are interfere a lot in developing
good relationships with those around us.
The idea we have of ourselves is so deeply ingrained that
when others disagree with it, we usually get upset. How we
are, what we feel and how we act can be seen by others in
a very different way than we see it. It is often the source of
many conflicts in our relationships, and it can prevent us
from being close to the ones we love.
It makes sense, therefore, to try to find a more objective
view of ourselves. If we can go beyond the way we usually
describe ourselves, we can find a solid foundation on which
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An exercise that can help us learn how to see ourselves bet-
ter is to step back from ourselves. We can imagine, for ex-
ample, the following:
“I am standing one step behind myself and from there I
observe my attitudes and my actions. I don’t judge what
I see; I simply observe. If at some moment I see myself
becoming irritated or aggressive, I am careful not to jus-
tify my reactions in my mind. I simply keep in mind how
I behave.”
“I pay attention to my attitudes when I speak, converse,
give opinions, discuss. I also observe the reactions I pro-
duce in those I am taking to: how do they feel or react to
what I say or do. I also pay attention to the atmosphere I
generate with my presence and my actions.”
To do this exercise well, it is important not to lessen the
distance we take from ourselves, not to give in to the ten-
dency to identify with our image, whatever might be the
situation that provoked what we see. We also have to be
careful not to become discouraged or to feel sorry for our-
selves if we see ourselves doing something we know is not
good. The important thing is to take a mental note, while
stepping back from what we see.
If we manage to disattach ourselves from the part of our-
selves that acts and we are objective about observing it, we
can learn a lot about ourselves and come closer to the im-
age others have of us. But this detachment is not always
easy to achieve.
As soon as we try to practice this exercise, we start to real-
ize just how strong our acquired personality is and how
much we identify with it. But although it is hard to step
back, the effort to do it makes us aware that it is our per-

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sonality that has prevented us from knowing who we really
are, due to the habits and mentality that we’ve acquired.
Although at first we probably can practice this exercise only
for a short time, it is good to try to extend it more and
more. The goal is to make ourselves witnesses of ourselves.
But we will need more than an exercise to attain a perma-
nent consciousness of who we really are. The identification
with the personality we have acquired is more than a habit;
it is what we feel as our identity. Although the practice of
stepping back leads us to perceive a deeper and more uni-
versal identity, this exercise ties us to the personality we
seek to free ourselves from. We keep looking only at our-
selves.
We need to take an even greater distance from ourselves to
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 Leaving Center Stage

The personality we have acquired is a product of our time

and place. This means we will need a lot of inner strength
to be able to face the obvious lack of knowledge we have
about who we really are. Our personality is so strong be-
cause of the importance we give ourselves, and because of
this it’s not unusual to think we are the center of the world.
We need to take quite a distance from ourselves to be able
to leave this self-centeredness and go beyond this illusion.
When we’ve managed to take this great distance from our-
selves, we are able to observe not only our behavior but our
attitudes as well.
As the stimuli we receive through the senses reach us from
outside, we perceive reality as if we were only observers of
the action that occurs in the vast scenery around us. While
we know that we participate in that action, we often place
ourselves mentally as if we were separate or above it, be-
cause in the judgment we make, we tend not to take re-
sponsibility for what happens.
And thus we often express ourselves as if we were indepen-
dent judges of the reality around us. We understand and
evaluate according to our ready-made opinions and our
reactions to what is happening around us. For example, in-
stead of saying "I do not like that," we say "That’s awful";
rather than saying "From my point of view, I understand
the situation differently", we say "You’re wrong." We gene-
ralize, as if what we say or think is valid for everyone,
every-where. In addition, some of us tend to comment on
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know. We tend to talk more than listen, and most of the
time we are talking about ourselves. Maybe even when we
pray, we pay more attention to what happens to us, than to
the object of our prayer.
In other words, we are used to acting was if we were the
center of the world, to the point that we can feel we are vic-
tims rather than actors in life.
In spite of all the information we have, all that we know
about our place in the world and the universe, these facts
don’t seem to affect the world we inhabit in our minds. The
inhabitants of our world are usually only those we interact
with every day or the few people we think about. The boun-
daries of that world often don’t go beyond our small inter-
ests.
Our spiritual life can become so limited by the personality
we have acquired and our attitude towards life that it seems
unlikely we will transcend it simply by studying new ideas or
practicing spiritual exercises. Although we assimilate the
culture of our country and work with some success in it
through our acquired personality, that personality strongly
ties us to the very state of consciousness that we want to
transcend. To be able to step back and leave the imaginary
center stage where we have placed ourselves, we need to
renounce this personality.
By renouncing the personality, we are able to use it without
identifying ourselves with it; we work within its limits with-
out letting it lessen our state of consciousness. It is natural
that we express ourselves according to the time and place
in which we live; we have to act in each moment to get
what we need and want. But we do this while keeping a
distance from our idea of who we are and how small is the
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While we carry out very specific actions, we keep the neces-
sary distance from ourselves to be able to put into context
these actions and, especially, to place our idea of who we
are in the greater context of life and the world.
A simple way that can help us leave center stage is to put
into context what happens to us, what we think and what
we feel.
When we contextualize, we relate what happens to us and
who we think we are with the surroundings that transcend
our person. The greater these surroundings, the more ba-
lanced our judgments will be about ourselves, what we
think and what we feel.
If when we are very upset we feel like enclosing ourselves,
not wanting to even see or hear about anything outside of
ourselves, it’s not very likely we’ll feel better. If instead we
put in context what happened to us, we can not only dimi-
nish the importance we give it, but we can also discern
better what we need to do, not only for ourselves but for
those around us.
When we put things in context, we stop seeing ourselves as
if we were the only ones around: our problems, our mise-
ries, our difficulties. We also stop seeing only our success,
our capacities, our intelligence, even our person.
When we put our thoughts and feelings in context, our opi-
nions are no longer so unique and our feelings are no longer
so extraordinary.
We are only one among many, and so are our ideas, habits
and ways of thinking. We are only one more thing in the
context of all existence.
When we haven’t renounced being center stage, we feel put
down when others think of us as simply one more. But if

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we think we are simply one more because of the awareness
we have of who we really are, then we really have taken a
step forward in the expansion of our consciousness.

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 Presence

Although we usually know where we are physically, we are

not always there mentally. Very often, just as soon as we
come through the door or we meet someone, after only a
few short moments, we withdraw into ourselves: we focus
on what we are feeling or thinking, on what we want to do
or what we want to happen.
Our body is visible to everyone, but we are not always
there.
When we interact, we usually move back and forth mentally
between the physical place where we are and what is going
on in our mind. For example, when someone is speaking,
after listening to just a few of his words, we stop paying at-
tention to what he is telling us, waiting to jump in and say
what we are thinking.
There are many ways we escape from where we are. For
example, we go out with friends to take a walk, planning to
enjoy the beautiful scenery. In a very short time we find
ourselves talking about all sorts of trivial things, and this
continues until we arrive home. We went somewhere, but
we were not there.
It might also happen that, without realizing it, we some-
times are not in life.
When we try to remember our past, it is not easy to re-
member everything we have lived but only those expe-
riences that really stand out. What happened all that time
we don’t remember? Were we present? Were we there?
Perhaps when we were doing ordinary things, because they

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didn’t require all our attention, we escaped for a while,
thinking and feeling about other things. But we were there,
and perhaps because of those mental wanderings, we lost
the opportunity to learn about ourselves and our surround-
ings. We were living in our mental wanderings; that is, liv-
ing only part of life. We needed to live in the present
context.
To be in life is to be in each moment and in the context of
the present. We call this Presence.
Presence, in short, is the encounter with life through the
present moment.
If we want to unfold, we look for this encounter.
How do we practice Presence?
Mental control, although it helps us stay in the present mo-
ment, is not enough to avoid mental escapes. When we rely
on mental control, we keep alert so as to stop our impulses
before they occur; for example, we control our self-pity,
justifications, or complacency. Or we watch out for other
impulses such as irritation or rejection.
But to be present, we have to do more than acquire good
mental control; we have to renounce to ourselves. The im-
portance we give to ourselves is what gets between our-
selves and life. When we expand our consciousness, the
only thing which remains is our notion of being, and this
has no more importance than the context in which we are.
These simple exercises can help us expand our conscious-
ness and be centered in the present moment:
• When we are with someone, we control the mental es-
capes that take us away from that person and that
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 • When others speak to us, we listen with complete at-
tention, without elaborating in our minds the
responses we will make to what they are saying. We
only speak when the other is ready and only after
we’ve thought over what we are going to say.
• We speak about ourselves only when it is necessary,
either because someone asks us or in order to give in-
formation that might be useful for those who are
listening to us.
• When we go about our daily chores or activities, we
pay close attention to what we are doing; there is al-
ways something to learn from what we are doing and
from what is happening around us, even though we
think we already know all about it and about how we
affect everything around us.
Let’s be sure to remember that wherever we may be, that
place takes on a greater expansiveness depending on how
our mind sees it.
Even if we are only sitting at our desk, we are in a house, a
town, a country, a continent, a world, a planetary system….
How far can we extend the boundaries of our Presence?
Wherever those boundaries lie, that’s where the boundary
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 Participation

We all participate in everything, but we don’t all participate

in the same way. Not all of us have the same empathy for
others, nor do we relate equally with what happens to us
and all around us.
Although we know we are part of a greater whole, our par-
ticipation depends more on our notion of who we are than
on what we know about this greater reality that we are part
of.
Our notion of being creates the relationship that we have
with everything around us. Depending on how we each be-
lieve we are, we can feel united with others or not, part of
one group and not of another; at home in one place and a
stranger in others. We can even forget that we are part of
the planet that gives us life. As we are accustomed to see-
ing everything outside of ourselves, without realizing it we
get used to feeling that we are separated from what we
perceive, oblivious to what surrounds us.
Throughout our spiritual development we become aware of
the web of relationships that connects everything with
everything. Our notion of being also changes from being
independent and isolated to being-in-participation, in other
words, we get closer to the notion of being-in-all.
There are several stages in this process. The first has to do
with our relationship with our fellow human beings. And
within this stage, we can also identify certain steps.
The first step is related to the idea we have of our fellow
human beings: how many common characteristics does a

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person have to have for us to feel fellowship with that
person? The greater this number, the greater is our preju-
dice towards those that don’t look like us or think like us.
The lower this number, the more open we are to participate
beyond our family or social circles.
From there we can identify three stages in this first step we
take in the process of participation:
• Paternalism
• Solidarity
• Inclusion
The first stage is that of paternalism. What happens around
us matters to us though it doesn’t really impact our inter-
ests or our welfare: We want to help; we want to alleviate
the evils that we see in our society or in the world. But
neither this noble intention nor the help we bring really un-
ites us with those who receive our help.
We belong to the group that has more, can do more and
knows more (or at least that is what we believe.) We make
sure we don’t miss the chance to give advice, even though
no one asks us for it, or to give our opinion about what oth-
ers should do and how they should do it, and to help those
we consider deserving of our help, whether they ask for it
or not. We feel sorry for those that suffer and we feel good
about giving them something that might help them or alle-
viate their situation. Once we’ve given what we can, we
continue with our lives without changing anything about it.
Although at this stage we feel as if we were above others, it
is still a great advance to arrive at this point in our notion of
who we are: We are no longer insensitive or indifferent to
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The stage of solidarity is characterized by a greater empa-
thy. We unite with a group because it matters to us what is
happening to them, or we agree with their ideas, their ac-
tions or their complaints, even when this group is different
from the one that we feel part of. We participate in works
of solidarity to better their economic level, the sanitation or
education of a district, a region or a country; or to better
the ecology of the planet. These works of solidarity are
very beneficial, for others and the environment as well as
for ourselves, because they make us become conscious that
we are part of a reality that is much greater than that of our
daily lives.
Out of solidarity we also tend to join ideological or social
movements, either in favor of or against a state of affairs.
The stage of solidarity implies active participation in the
movements that we join. But at the same time that we join
others in a cause, we can deepen the separation we have
with others. When we adhere to ideological or religious
groups, such separation tends to be very deep, especially
when these groups each claim to have their truth. In some
cases we can even demonize our adversaries.
Sometimes these connections produce greater evils than
the ones each group tries to remedy. The sad thing about
this situation is that our solidarity comes from noble ideals,
and the last thing we want is to cause any harm. But noble
purposes do not always allow us to distinguish the great
force behind our rejection, antipathy or hatred towards that
which we do not want to exist. That force can actually con-
nect us more to what we hate than to what we love. We do
not always keep present those we love, but we find it diffi-
cult to get out of our minds those we dislike or hate. We do
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do not like or do not approve. Nor do we manage to see
that by dividing ourselves into opposing groups we are try-
ing to separate something from a whole that cannot be
divided.
At the inclusive stage our compassion begins to unite us
with those who suffer and in time extends to include all
human beings, in whatever circumstances they may be. We
no longer make a difference between those who think, feel
or act as we do and those who don’t. Our notion of being
now includes everyone and everything. We-are-one-with-
all not only in our joys and sorrows but also in our human
condition: the fact that we don’t have answers to the
fundamental questions of life and we are all looking for
those answers.
In addition, we-are-one-with-all because we remain con-
scious of the greater whole. Beyond the reaches of our
world and our humanity, there is a greater reality that con-
tains and sustains us.
In whatever stage of participation in which we find our-
selves, sometimes we can reduce our notion of being to the
point of thinking we are not part of the human species. For
example, when we complain about the obvious laws of life
or we don’t accept them; the uncertainty of life; the con-
stant struggle for survival, suffering, physical decay, death.
If we feel good, we want to stop time; if not, we wish it
would pass more quickly. In other words, we do not always
keep in tune with our human condition. We should under-
stand that it would be difficult to expand our consciousness
if we do not knowingly integrate ourselves into existence as
we know it to be.
We participate in everything and with everything, whether
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leads us to become aware of this reality. We can assimilate
the process of this awareness through the development of
empathy.
We begin to empathize when we participate in an emotional
way with a reality outside of ourselves, for example, when
we suffer at seeing the suffering of another, or when we are
happy because someone else is happy, independently of
what we may be feeling due to whatever we are living. If
we work to expand our empathy, we identify interiorly with
the suffering of even those we don’t see, until we identify
with all beings for the simple fact that they exist.
From this point of view, the process of participation merges
with the process of empathy, and both merge into the
process of our spiritual unfolding.
To expand our consciousness, everything continues being
incorporated into our notion of being, not because we are
everything, but because everything is included in our con-
sciousness.
Participation, empathy and mystical union become, at the
end, aspects of the same expanded state of consciousness.

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 Reversibility

Everything we know has more than one side to it: there is

obverse and reverse, not only in things but also in situa-
tions. For every opinion that exists, we can come up with
an opposing one; every moment soon becomes a different
one; for every change, there’s another change. But we
don’t always keep this in mind when we are thinking, feel-
ing or acting.
We say we are one way and not another; we don’t give our-
selves alternatives, and we don’t even want to consider
them. We are so stuck in our opinions that, even though
we know they are not perfect, we find it hard not only to
change them but to even consider working on them. The
same is true about our way of being: we cannot imagine
another way of seeing ourselves, much less work on chang-
ing ourselves.
Very often this attitude—or rather this lack of willingness to
learn—causes us to get into conflicts with others. We take
antagonistic positions, we get into useless discussions, dis-
agreements, and confrontations, and we even fight among
ourselves.
If we pay attention to our conflicts, we will see that very of-
ten they stem from this mental and emotional rigidity.
Even those of us who want to unfold spiritually are not
exempt from this tendency.
No matter how sure we are of our way of thinking, it is ob-
vious that we could never claim that everyone thinks like
we do; the fact is they don’t. But why is it so hard for us to

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admit this? Because even though we know we don’t pos-
sess the absolute truth, we think our opinions are the best.
If we were to really look at our beliefs, we might see that
we are even more rigid about them than with our opinions.
It is hard for us to admit that our beliefs might not describe
things as they really are, even though we know we believe
precisely because we do not know. There are many beliefs
in this world, and they don’t always coincide with one
another. Do you ever wonder what would happen inside
us—and among us—if we were to admit that our belief is
only one among many interpretations of reality? It is possi-
ble that the differences and rivalries among us that have
lasted for centuries would simply vanish.
The same thing would happen if we were to admit that our
opinions reflect a point of view that is as limited as our per-
ception of reality, as do the opinions of those who think dif-
ferently than us. If we were all to agree on the temporality
and limitations of our opinions, we’d probably get along
much better and improve our chances of unfolding spi-
ritually.
Reversibility, then, is to recognize first of all the limits of
our perception, our judgments and prejudices; second, it is
to improve our way of thinking. This means not only learn-
ing about information and facts, but especially learning
about our way of thinking. From there we place our opi-
nions within the vast range of outlooks that are different
from our own.
This doesn’t mean we have to change what we think or be-
lieve, but that we have to learn how we think and believe.
And when we find thoughts and beliefs different from ours,
we include them in our vision of reality in order to adjust
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to be. Once we are able to make this inclusion, we open our
minds to understand why those who think or believe in a
way very different from ours think they are right—and also
why we think we are right. Only then can we say we have
placed our way of thinking in context. It is in this context
that we can see the obverse and reverse of that way of
thinking.
On the other hand, although we feel sure about some things
because these things are evident, our opinions are always
relative to the moment and to circumstances. We need to
keep this in mind so as to not hold onto opinions that are
outdated.
In this sense, then, reversibility means to have the mental
flexibility that is necessary for adapting our points of view
and, consequently, our opinions to the rhythm of changing
times.
Reversibility also applies to our way of understanding and
living spiritual life.
One could think that the expression, “spiritual life” refers to
a life that is different and even opposed to material life.
This supposition could lead us to look for spiritual life as a
kind of refuge, where we could forget—and even devalue—
the worries, problems and sorrows of our material lives.
We might even think that paying attention to material
things would be to the detriment of our spiritual possibili-
ties. And even more than that, we might actually think that
material success in our work would be a sign that only
material things were important to us and not spiritual life.
One thing is for sure: we all have possibilities of all kinds,
and all need our attention. Independently of what we think
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world. We have needs, and we also have the capacity to
satisfy them. We have problems, some which are inherent
to the law of life and others that are created by ourselves.
It would not make sense to think that spiritual life is sepa-
rate from this reality.
That is why we could say that spiritual life presents us with
two clear challenges.
The first challenge is to develop our capacities and apply
them to overcome our material problems as well as our
problems in relationships.
Accepting this challenge broadens our consciousness to the
limits of the world in which we live.
The second challenge is to expand our consciousness
beyond the one that allows us to lead a better, more peace-
ful life.
Whether we believe in a higher principle or we think we dis-
appear into nothingness at death, we can expand those
beliefs. For example, we can use the idea we have of the
divine—or of nothing, if we believe in nothing or can im-
agine it—as a starting point to deepen into this mystery. Or
we can contemplate the vastness of the universe and try to
empathize with that infinite reality. Or better, we enter
eternity through the eternal present with which we connect
at each instant.
In practice, reversibility helps us work on both challenges.
In daily life, we work as if what we care most about is to
get the best quality and greatest result from our efforts.
And we relate to one another with the attention of those
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When we can stop, besides assessing what we have done or
prayed or meditated about, we remember that we are not
of this world, for our time here is so short, only a brief pas-
sage.
There is no contradiction, then, between spiritual life and a
concrete and practical attitude about everyday affairs. Quite
the contrary: we need to have practical criteria about things
that are practical and concrete. Spiritual life does not make
us underestimate the concrete and practical, nor is it an
idealism that is not connected to life. Spiritual life is conti-
nually expressed in all we do; in increasing capabilities, effi-
ciency and common sense before the challenges and oppor-
tunities we encounter everyday in life.
Here we find yet another aspect of reversibility: to know
what our relationship with God is, we don’t have to look to
the infinite; it enough to observe the relationship we have
with our fellow human beings. One is the reverse of the
other. Let us work on both of them.

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 Responsibility

Because we are conscious, we are responsible.

Because we have free will, we decide how to respond to our
responsibilities.
We assume our responsibilities according to our state of
consciousness. For this reason, the way we respond to our
responsibilities is evidence of our consciousness. But not
everyone always responds responsibly with the conscious-
ness we have of the happenings around us.
In general we can say that we respond with a certain kind
of responsibility to that which matters most to us. We say
“certain kind” because we don’t always respond responsibly
to that which is most important to us, such as our needs or
our health. Sometimes we burden others with the work we
need to do to provide for our needs or what we want to
have. Or we knowingly follow a lifestyle that exceeds our
resources or that harms our health.
But whatever may be the way that we respond to our re-
sponsibilities, we cannot escape the consequences of our
attitudes, actions and even our thoughts and feelings.
Everything we do has an influence on us, on those around
us and on the world, whether we perceive it or not. The
importance we give to this influence and to our way of life
reveals who we are, not only to others but also to
ourselves.
The context of our responsibility has three aspects:
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Our personal responsibility is to get the training necessary
to support ourselves and those who depend on us; it is to
take care of our health with good habits; it also includes
developing good relationships with those around us.
Our social responsibility is to contribute with our knowledge
and our work to the welfare and progress of the society in
which we live.
Our global responsibility is to generate peace and harmony
among human beings.
No matter how broad might be the areas of our
responsibility, we respond to them according to what we
think, feel, decide and do in each moment of our lives. If
we keep this present, our state of consciousness will reach
ever-widening areas, as will our awareness of our responsi-
bility.
As our sense of responsibility deepens, the broader be-
comes the context in which we consider situations and the
narrower the range of our free will in which we respond to
them: we no longer feel free to misunderstand or to do
things we know are not the best.
And in this way we discover one more way to know and
evaluate our spiritual life: to see how far-reaching the con-
text is that we give to our responsibility and how we re-
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 The Search for God

The eagerness to learn, to advance in every way, is some-

thing inside each one of us. We all aspire to excellence,
whether it be excellence in our abilities, our understanding
or our consciousness. How we define this excellence de-
pends on what we think the purpose of human destiny is.
No matter how we each might define our ideal of excel-
lence, in the context of this book we would say that all of us
are searching for God, although we know not everyone
would define this search in that way.
In this search, we sometimes feel very far from God
because of the limitations of our perception and our con-
sciousness. Other times we feel close to God because we
sense a superior intelligence behind everything we live and
experience, or a cosmic consciousness, or the divine in its
creative aspect: the Divine Mother of the Universe.
We intuit an infinite distance between our consciousness
and the consciousness that governs all of existence. This
moves us to lift our thoughts and ask for help and protec-
tion. This feeling is the basis of our prayers. Rather than
search for God, sometimes we ask for help in order to
search.
But we also intuit that, in some way, there exists in our
consciousness the way to reach universal consciousness.
This moves us to look for God within ourselves. And this is
the basis of mystical asceticism.
In our search for God, besides elevating our thought toward
the ideal point we yearn to connect and unite with, it is
good to look at the state from which we depart in this
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Whether we be devout or not, let us look not only at the
state of our consciousness but especially at what we do
when we search for transcendence.
If we feel that God is far away, whether within us or out-
side, it can be helpful to think that this distance is one of
amplitude and not longitude: God is not far away. Although
we speak figuratively of the spiritual path as a path towards
God, it is not the same as walking to a distant point. God is
inherent to our consciousness, at any stage of expansion.
We can perceive this reality by expanding our conscious-
ness.
First we’ll need to understand how the limits of our con-
scious work, and if those limits will allow an expansion.
There are many ways we can advance without expanding
our consciousness. For example, we can get an education;
we can develop skills, we can be successful in our work. But
these developments do not necessarily mean advancement
in the way we think and feel, nor in the way we relate. Of-
ten it is as if we advance within a tiny capsule of conscious-
ness, with walls so thick they do not let us see beyond what
we have in our mind.
In order to unfold, therefore, not only do we need to work
within the state of consciousness that we already have, but
especially to work on the limits of that state of conscious-
ness. If not, no matter how much we advance in our know-
ledge and abilities, we are trapped within the vicious circle
of the problems, confusion and tragedies we produce be-
cause of the state of consciousness we are in.
To be able to work on the limits of our state of conscious-
ness, we will need other methods than the ones we usually
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we need to recognize what they are and understand why we
have them.
Every time we reject someone else’s opinion, or we strive to
get more than we need, or we insist on being more or hav-
ing more than others, or feel that those who are not with us
are against us, we show clearly how strongly our insecurity
limits our state of consciousness.
Because we are used to being in denial about our limitations
and our uncertainty, we hold onto certain “truths” that ac-
tually have no more validity that what we ourselves give
them. How can we go beyond these limits? It makes no
sense to fight against our own ignorant stubbornness; it
would be like fighting against our very idea of being.
Instead, the simplest way to overcome our limits is to
renounce them.
In everyday language, to renounce is to leave something
that we have a right to have; in the context of spiritual life,
to renounce is to recognize what is evident.
What is evident with respect to the condition of our state of
consciousness? It is evident that we are nothing before the
vastness of reality and the superior intelligence behind it all.
If we were to recognize our true nothingness, if we were to
renounce to our daily attitudes, to the greed of wanting to
gain and to possess, to the idea we have of ourselves, of
our value or inferiority; in the end if we were to renounce
what we have in our minds and the way we believe the
world to be, we would really feel free. Free not only from
the limits that we put on ourselves but free to grow, depart-
ing from the state of being nothing.
From this point of view, spiritual unfolding is to expand in-
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the way for us in our search for God.

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 The Mysticism of the Heart

The unfolding of our state of consciousness is a natural

process that happens through our adaptation to our sur-
roundings, our upbringing, the education we receive, our
relationships and the work we do to make a living. As we
pointed out at the beginning of this book, this process ad-
vances rather rapidly during childhood and slows down as
we gradually come to feel that we know who we are and
what place we occupy in the world. It especially slows
down when we think we’ve learned everything we need to
know about life and how to live well.
There is only one way for this process not to slow down,
and that is to work deliberately on our state of conscious-
ness. This is what spiritual life is all about. We call it “spi-
ritual” because we seek to unite our consciousness with the
consciousness that gives life to the universe. In other
words, we seek God.
There are two kinds of exercises in spiritual work: ascetic
practices and mystical exercises.
Ascetic practices can be physical exercises and/or mental
exercises. Their aim is to maintain or improve health,
achieve relaxation, calm the mind and attain a certain level
of physical well-being.
Mental exercises include meditation and prayer.
Through meditation exercises we attain a certain control
over our thoughts and feelings. We improve habits and we
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Exercises of prayer can consist of elevating our thoughts to
God, or doing so with a particular intention, such as for the
good of others or ourselves.
Mystical exercises are contemplative in nature.
The traditional exercises of contemplation are usually based
on creating inner silence, focusing the intention on God.
According to the spiritual tradition, the culmination of con-
templation is ecstasy. Ecstasy is an instant of illumination or
inner clarity. We usually look for or expect to obtain ecstasy
through our spiritual practices because that is what we’ve
always heard from the different spiritual traditions.
Attaining ecstasy is not the goal of The Mysticism of the
Heart. Instead of seeking extraordinary experiences, we
understand mystical union as something different.
The Mysticism of the Heart is based on the process of the
expansion of consciousness.
We do not seek moments of extraordinary expansion but
rather an ordinary state of consciousness that is broader
than the one we currently have. This process is continuous;
rather than ending in a mystical experience, each expansion
of our consciousness is the starting point for greater expan-
sion.
The spiritual work of The Mysticism of the Heart is to incor-
porate within ourselves an ever greater context. More than
a momentarily glimpse of a broader horizon, what really
matters is that we expand the horizon that limits our notion
of being.
The Mysticism of the Heart begins as an exercise and later
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As an exercise, we take into account certain mental aspects
which we can summarize as: Who, What, and Where.
Who refers the one who thinks.
What refers to the state of our mind.
Where refers to how far our consciousness reaches.
Who thinks?
The one who thinks is the spark of consciousness behind
the continual inner dialogue of the mind.
What is the state of our mind?
The mind is busy discussing, associating, remembering and
imagining when it is not busy reacting to what is happening
around us. This state of our mind is obvious. If we want to
work on our state of consciousness, we need to quiet this
movement and attain a minimum of inner silence. If we
don’t, we continue within the same level of ideas that we al-
ready have. We might be able to stretch a little the limits of
our consciousness, but these limits would not change. What
we need to do, then, is to create inner silence.
Creating inner silence is a way of thinking. Instead of
stringing thoughts together, we pay attention to the content
of our mind: our acquired idea of who we are, what we are
living, what we desire, what we like or dislike, as well as
ideas and opinions that we have not been willing to touch.
Although this state won’t take us any further than what we
believe or think we know, it helps us contemplate and un-
derstand who we believe we are. The one who thinks is a
witness of the discourse of a mind conditioned by the
context of its world.
Once we begin to quiet our minds, we realize just how
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ts. When we place that content before the immensity of a
universe which we yearn to embrace, we realize just how
small we are, we see our nothingness. To be able to expand
ourselves to embrace this immensity, we will need to tran-
scend the content of our minds. It doesn’t make much
sense to fight against it because that would be like fighting
ourselves. But we can go beyond it if we renounce who we
believe we are, if we discard the garments we use to cover
our nothingness. We renounce, therefore, all that is in us
related to a body and a world which one day we will surely
leave behind.
And we firmly place ourselves in our nothingness, where the
spark of consciousness we wish to expand resides.
To be conscious that one is nothing grants us an extraordi-
nary freedom to interact in everyday life. On the one hand,
one stands up for what is right and works enthusiastically
for valid and noble causes. On the other, one isn’t offended
by comments or actions that could damage one’s temporary
notion of being. One knows there is nothing to defend since
nothing can change one’s spark of consciousness.
To be nothing doesn’t have to do with feelings of impor-
tance or inferiority. To be nothing gives an extraordinary
inner strength, and one is able to face the challenges of life
with objectivity and serenity.
Where does our consciousness of being nothing reach, how
far does it go?
We know many things about the world and life, but this
doesn’t necessarily mean that everything we know is incor-
porated into our consciousness of being part of the known
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We only reach what we include in our consciousness; what
we don’t include is no more than accumulated information
that doesn’t change who we believe we are.
For example, although we know there are several billion
people living on the earth right now, we keep very few of
them in our consciousness. Most of them—including those
who cross our path everyday—are like shadows that vanish
as soon as they are out of sight. Even those who live with
us; we seldom think of them as a part of ourselves. It only
takes a misunderstanding for us to cut them off and want
nothing to do with them. Neither do we include those who
think, believe or act differently than we do, even if they’re
right beside us.
What we do is draw a line between the information that we
include in our consciousness of being and that which we
consider no more than an appendix that we can disregard.
When we add something to something else, the only thing
that changes is the number. When we include, however,
that inclusion allows for a new change. When elements
combine, a new element is produced. The same thing hap-
pens in our consciousness: to add knowledge is to know
more things; to include knowledge is to understand in a
new way.
To include in our consciousness something that until now
has only been news, we need something more than simply
wanting that inclusion. What we need is love. The kind of
love that finds plenitude in loving without expecting any-
thing in return: This is the love that unites and that union is
transformed into consciousness.
Centered in the inner silence of being nothing, we radiate
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don’t, but who accompany us in this journey on earth. This
love unites us not only ideally, but also in all the circums-
tances we undergo in life. The love of the Mysticism of the
Heart unites us to the pain that exists in the human condi-
tion in a way that goes beyond the initial sympathy we feel
at the pain of others but at the same time makes us wish
not to suffer. The love of the Mysticism of the Heart unites
us to the sorrow that exists in the human condition, as it
does to the yearning for peace and plenitude for all human
beings.
We unite inwardly through love for all that exists on earth;
and from there we aim towards the infinity of space and
cosmic time. By including all that we know exists, our con-
sciousness of being nothing goes from a mere attempt to
find our place in life to being a self-evident reality.
We can therefore return to wearing the habits of the perso-
nality with which we act in society without losing conscious-
ness of who we are in the web of time and the context of
the universe.
When we first begin these exercises, we might see that the
only thing in our consciousness is what we’ve learned from
our beliefs. At this stage our mysticism consists in identify-
ing with what we believe, and we could experience profound
states of expansion from this identification. But we can
continue expanding our consciousness if we understand that
what we have found was already in us, coming from how we
believe.
We could say, then, that the Mysticism of the Heart begins
with the empathy of feeling what another person feels and
understanding what another person thinks—even when we
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ness of being-in-everyone and from there, of being-in-
everything.
Each advance in the expansion of our consciousness is ac-
companied by great inner plenitude. In the measure in
which this expanded consciousness continues, it becomes
our natural and spontaneous state. We no longer feel any-
thing extraordinary since this feeling is now our state of
consciousness.
Can we go farther? We think that, yes, we can, as long as
we have really included everything we perceive within our
consciousness of being: from the individuals who are close
to us to the world in which we live. It’s not likely that we
could journey to God if we tried to avoid any part of life,
even those things we don’t like or don’t want to endure.
There is no trampoline to God, jumping over the life that we
know exists.
How do we know if we have expanded our consciousness?
One proof is found in the measure of serenity we have at-
tained. We don’t mean indifference, repression or emotional
control, but real serenity, the serenity that comes from the
expansion of our consciousness. The more we include, the
less we react: we face serenely the situations that could
distress or irritate us. We are more open to listen without
reacting and we can understand other ideas without
arguing.
Of course, this serenity does not prevent us from suffering
when there is cause—and there is always cause, since suf-
fering is ever-present this world. Nor does it prevent us
from being happy when there are reasons for happiness.
But our suffering doesn’t weigh us down: each expansion
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and our place in the world. We are serene in happy mo-
ments as well as sad.
If we don’t see any major changes in ourselves, if we con-
tinue with our moods, reactions and aggressive attitudes,
any expansion we may have had was no more than a tem-
porary experience, without really affecting our unfolding. If
these feelings of expansion come easily to us, we need to
be careful not to reduce our spiritual life to the search for
sensory experiences. We have to especially guard against
the mistake of thinking we are more spiritual because of
them.
And so the firm foundation on which we base our unfolding
is to know and feel that we are nothing before the immensi-
ty of existence. And to love for the sake of love, without ex-
pecting anything in return is the dynamic force behind the
continual expansion of our consciousness.

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