Source:

https://web.archive.org/web/20190404084057/https://rational.org
/index.php?id=36

Below is a set of concepts and actions that will allow you to draw the
fact of full recovery into the only moment there is — the present
moment. On the next page is some additional introductory material,
which is then followed by the Crash Course on AVRT®, which has been
available without charge at this website since the dawn of the Internet
in 1995. Many thousands of seriously addicted people have promptly,
fully recovered solely by briefly studying these vital elements
of AVRT-based recovery.

Addiction Recovery — Now

©2014 Jack Trimpey, all rights reserved.

Give these items some careful, serious thought. An awful lot is at

stake!

1. Imagine how you would feel if you knew for a fact that that you’ll
never drink/use again, that your addiction is already ended, and
you’re free at last.

2. Notice your mixed feelings, (a) freedom and hope for a better life,
and (b) a sinking feeling related to total, lifetime abstinence.

3. That sinking feeling is your Beast. The sense of liberation and

relief is you.

4. Your Beast talks in your thoughts. Your Beast is your wild appetite
for the high-life, the desire to get high.

5. You can hear your Beast sowing seeds of self-doubt that you can
decide to never drink/use again and stick with it forever. That is your
Addictive Voice.
6. Your Addictive Voice (AV) is any thinking that supports or
suggests the possible future use of alcohol or other drugs. Your AV is
the sole cause of your addiction. Your Beast speaks with awesome
authority, but it is a mere desire, utterly powerless, a dependent
quadriplegic unable to wiggle your fingers.

7. Your Beast (a) organizes your thoughts, emotions, and perceptions

to support your addiction forever, (b) develops plans for continued
drinking/using, and (c) predicts a gloomy life without the option to
get high.

8. Your Beast has only one fear, deprivation of its favorite fix. It fears
only one word, “never,” as in, “Never say never.” Therefore, that is
exactly what to say: “I will never drink/use again!” — the Big Plan of
AVRT-based recovery. Go ahead. Say it, and mean it.

9. The more you mean it, the stronger you’ll feel your Beast’s
emotional recoil. The more pain for your Beast, the better for you.
Say it again, and believe in yourself: I will never drink/use again. No
pain; no gain.

10. Feel the joy of victory! That is the Abstinence Commitment Effect
(ACE). Feel your Beast’s agony of defeat, the sinking, angry
feelings. Shift back and forth between your joy and its agony. As you
practice this, you’ll draw the fact of full recovery into the present
moment.

11. You’re fully recovered at the moment you say you are. Others will
catch on in due time.

12. Recovery now may seem premature, impossible, too simple, or

too easy. Or it may seem impossible to guarantee anything because
the future is necessarily unknown. Or, you may believe recovery
doctrines about addictive disease, powerlessness, and one-day-at-a-
time sobriety. If any of these seem so, go to #6, above.

13. Welcome your Beast into your life as a sign of health, and not
disease. Welcome your Addictive Voice as a sign that you know right
from wrong. In other words, to your Beast, anything that feels as good
as its favorite fix cannot be wrong. To you, nothing could be more
wrong than drinking/using, in the larger, moral sense of the word.

14. Now, you have two sets of eyes, the eyes of your Beast, and your
own, human eyes. The view is amazingly different from those polar
opposite viewpoints.

15. Enjoy the ACE, but realize that you have brought hardship and
broken hearts to others who have cared about you. Building bridges
back into the human family is an important part of AVRT-based
recovery. Your family needs your support and leadership today and in
the years to come.

16. Stay away from recovery groups of all kinds, set your confidence
for lifetime abstinence arbitrarily at 100%, recognize all self-doubt as
your Addictive Voice. Let the Beast count time, and you'll do fine.

AVRT-based recovery is abrupt, quite different from the

never ending process of one-day-at-a-time sobriety. You are
free to declare yourself fully recovered right now, but your
Beast is pulling hard to reserve your Option to drink/use at
some unforeseen time later on. You have already experienced
some of the main aspects of AVRT, enough for you to declare
yourself fully recovered whenever you like. Of course, it will
necessarily be now, whenever that time comes. The problem
is, other moments never come to us; we exist only in the
eternal moment of now. In addiction, your Beast owns the
moment. AVRT allows you to rebel against your Beast and
defeat it in the explosive moment of your Big Plan. Then, you
own the moment for good.
 AVRT-Based Recovery in a Nutshell
by Jack Trimpey, Founder, Rational Recovery®
There is enough information on this sheet for many people to completely recover from serious addictions.

Am I addicted, or just a problem drinker/user? My family is very supportive.

It makes no difference whether you’re truly addicted or a Only because they are afraid of you. Their “support” is little
problem drinker/user, because those words have little to do with different from not aggravating any other unpredictable animal.
reality. If you have problems related to your use of alcohol and As a traitor to your family, you deserve no support, and would
other drugs, you are a problem drinker/user, and if you continue better earn their respect through unending abstinence.
to drink/use against your own better judgment, you’re addicted.
What is Addictive Voice Recognition Technique® (AVRT®)
Why am I addicted? AVRT® is family-centered, based upon universal family
There’s nothing wrong with you that causes you to intoxicate values. That makes it very different from addict-centered
yourself. In fact, addiction is a natural function of a healthy, approaches which expect the family to accommodate the
human body, not because of any disease, nor some inherited uncertainty of one-day-at-a-time sobriety. AVRT® is based
defect, nor emotional stress, nor childhood misery, nor upon the successful experiences of addicted people like yourself
nutritional deficit, nor the tricks of codepenents and enablers in who abruptly recovered from serious addiction through a
your life. You fell in love with the effects of your favorite drug, personal commitment to lifetime abstinence.
and your desire for that pleasure has overtaken all other loves
and interests – even your sex drive. We call your desire for 1. I finally face intolerable consequences if I continue to
addictive pleasures the Beast because it is ruthless in its intent intoxicate myself.
that you will use, use, use, for the rest of your days. 2. I know my drinking/using is voluntary and solely for the
purpose of pleasure, and because of that, my desire for
But I don’t drink for pleasure, I drink to feel normal, to addictive pleasures is an immoral disposition.
cope, deal, and escape from problems I can’t handle. 3. I will never use again, and I will never change my mind.
The Beast speaks in your head in a special language called the 4. I hear the voice of my addiction rage against my decision,
Addictive Voice (AV), which is the sole cause of your and recognize that my AV is the voice of my healthy body
addiction. The idea that you drink/use for reasons other than the demanding unspeakable, destructive, addictive pleasures.
sheer pleasure of it is a perfect example of your AV. As long as 5. I know that God, Mother Nature, or the “Committee of Two”
you believe you drink to cope or deal with issues, you’ll likely gave me free will, the ability to choose between good and evil.
continue struggling against your desire, and you’ll very likely 6. Endowed with free will, I am willing to endure any emotional
have “relapses.” Actually, you’ll have yummy relapses, distress which abstinence may bring.
choosing the best quality booze or drug you can afford. Once 7. I realize that all of my problems are caused by my self-
you make the decision to use, you’ll feel wonderful, knowing intoxication and with abstinence they will fade and disappear.
how wonderful you’ll be feeling very soon. Cope? C’mon. This brings me certainty of success and great emotional relief.
8. Because my addiction blinded me to the feelings of others, I
My problem is that I drink too much. I need to cut way will ask my family and others I care about how, and how
back and drink moderately. deeply, I have harmed them.
The desire to drink modertately is unknown among those who 9. I abjectly apologize to my family for my incorrigible self-
actually drink moderately. Either you do or you don’t. It’s not intoxication because I knew all along but did not care that my
that you can’t drink moderately; the problem is you don’t want quest for addictive pleasures was placing them in danger and
to drink moderately. Under the influence of just one drink, you causing them to suffer.
change your mind and have “just one more.” 10. I surrender ideas of justice as a condition of reconciliation. I
will continue to assess harm, assuming responsibility for all of
I don’t really need alcohol, but whenever I drink, I get the family’s problems, and apologize when I can.
stupid and regret it next day. 11. I am not my body, but a self-identity in my mind. I have
You don’t get drunk and get stupid; you first get stupid and then firm and final control over my physical behavior, and I can
you drink. Because you are addicted, your thinking is guarantee everyone I’ll never commit certain immoral acts.
backwards, actually inverted, and you don’t learn from your 12. I now see both the animal and conscious realms of human
mistakes. The Grand Inversion is the idea that drinking/using is existence, and know that human civilization is a fragile vessel
an innocent act, a symptom of some hidden condition. That is of human consciousness on a sea of animal desire.
original denial, which turns your mind upside down, and turns
you into an animal. Your recovery from addiction will be as difficult as you believe
it will be and take as long as you choose. Your Beast says
I’ve been to rehabs and recovery groups, but still relapse. independent recovery is impossible, and you’ll have to struggle
Groups and rehabs are based on the beliefs and values of one-day-at-a-time against addictive desire, forever. That’s
addicted people, not the wisdom of those who have defeated depressing, but when you imagine how it would feel to know
their own addictions. Sober isn’t good enough. Sober means beyond any doubt that your addiction is ended, you can feel the
between drinking or using episodes. As long as there’s a drink, return of hope, freedom and dignity.AVRT® is fully described
fix, or relapse out there with your name on it, you will almost in the book, Rational Recovery: The New Cure for Substance
certainly have it, and your days will seem darker until you do. Addiction, at the Rational Recovery® website:
Abstinence is forever, the minimum your family deserves. http://www.rational.org
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Combining EasyPeasy with Jack Trimpey’s Addictive Voice Recog-

nition Technique (AVRT)
Credit to az#8773 on Discord
This is for people who are struggling to use Allen Carr’s Easyway method to recover from an addiction, despite
removing the brainwashing. I’m going to assume that anyone reading this has read any of Allen Carr’s books
and understood his Easyway (AKA Easypeasy) method. If not, I strongly recommend doing so. It would also
help if you read ‘Rational Recovery’ by Jack Trimpey. If you haven’t read it then no problem because I’m
going to cover the basics of it here, but I recommend reading it anyway since it will go into far more detail
than I will. This is not going to be aimed at any one particular addiction and will therefore be applicable to
any addiction. The purpose of this writing is to compare Easyway with another successful method of addiction
called the ‘Addictive Voice Recognition Technique’ (AVRT) and to combine the 2. While I believe that Easyway
is superior to all other addiction recovery methods by far, I believe that understanding AVRT too could be the
missing link for so many who fail using Easyway despite killing the big monster.
There are many competing methods for overcoming addiction, each with different success rates. I’m not going
to mention any of them because most of them are a waste of time and I want to keep this as short as possible.
The only methods I’m going to write about are Allen Carr’s Easyway and Jack Trimpey’s (founder of Rational
Recovery) AVRT. Both methods have extremely high success rates, but each targets a different thing. Easyway
and AVRT are similar in the fact that Easyway separates the addiction into the ‘Little Monster’ and ‘Big
Monster’ and AVRT separates your mind into the ‘Addictive Voice’ (AKA the beast) and ‘You’. The addictive
voice and the little monster are the same thing, and the big monster (AKA brainwashing) is the belief system
that you hold that makes you think your addiction gives you some kind of benefit or crutch. Easyway focuses
on eliminating the big monster with little regard for the little monster while AVRT focuses on the little monster
with no regard for the big monster. While Easyway destroys the psychological addiction, AVRT teaches you to
recognise the physical addiction masquerading as you and to separate yourself from it. I find it interesting that
Easyway and AVRT both have very high success rates despite focusing on the opposite thing.
While I believe that Easyway is superior to all other addiction recovery methods by far, and while I recommend
it above all else, I can pick 2 small holes in it. Firstly I find it underestimates the little monster. I want to
avoid using personal anecdotes in this writing, but from my experiences and the experiences of others it seems
that some of us fail at Easyway not because we failed to completely eliminate the big monster (although this
can and does happen) but because we underestimated the little monster. The little monster isn’t a problem for
most people which explains Easyways high success rates, but for others myself included it can be. The second
hole is that Easyway says that all failures are a result of either not following instructions or not removing the
big monster.
The basic gist of Easyway is this. The addiction has 2 components, the physical addiction to dopamine and the
psychological addiction composed of beliefs (brainwashing) that your addiction gives you some kind of pleasure
or crutch. These are called the little and big monsters respectively. According to Easyway, the little monster
is nothing more than an empty, slightly insecure feeling which is barely perceptible. Once you kill the big
monster by undoing the brainwashing by learning how your addiction has no benefits and how any perceived
pleasure or crutch is just illusion, and just as importantly how there is nothing to fear from a life without your
addiction, the cravings disappear. The cravings stem from your fear that life without your little crutch would
be unbearable, which causes you to doubt quitting, which is the craving. You overcome the fear by realising
how much more enjoyable your life will be without your addiction, and you maintain that feeling of elation.
While I believe this is the best method for recovering from an addiction, it doesn’t put emphasis on the little
monster because in theory once the big monster is taken care of, the helpless powerless little monster will just
wither away and die on its own, and it’s almost imperceptible anyway so who cares. The little monster may be
insignificant for a lot of people, but from my own experiences and that of others it seems this isn’t always the
case. When people fail with Easyway, according to Easyway, there are only 2 possible reasons, either you didn’t
follow the instructions properly or you failed to remove the big monster. I believe that this is detrimental and
I’ll explain why later.
The Addictive Voice Recognition Technique (AVRT) separates the brain into 2 parts, the lower brain (limbic
system) where your addiction resides and the higher brain (prefrontal cortex) where you (or at least your
thoughts and ego) reside. Jack Trimpey refers to the addictive voice as the beast because it resides in the
animal part of our brain and it only knows one thing, “I WANT IT AND I WANT IT NOW”. I myself don’t
find it helpful to personify it as a beast but I suppose it’s better than believing it’s you. The addictive voice
(AV, little monster) will hijack your mind-voice and use it against you to get you to indulge in your addiction.
It has to do this because it cannot control your motor functions itself. You can try this now, raise your hand in
33.3. THANK YOU 107

front of your face and wiggle your fingers. Now ask your addiction to do the same. It can’t. This means that
you are ultimately the one in control here.

Figure 33.1: The ‘two brain’ model of addiction.

The AV not only hijacks your mind-voice, but also deceptively hides behind the pronoun “I”. It says “I could
really do with X right about now”, “I sure do miss doing X”, “Wouldn’t it be nice to do X right now, after all
I deserve it after today.” AVRT emphasises the fact that you are not your addictive voice, you just think you
are. When you recognise the AV as ‘not you’ and say no to it, it drops the “I” and starts using “you”, “us”, or
“we”. This is proof that it is not you.
When you say “No” to your AV, this happens: “I could really do with X right about now” becomes “Oh come
on, you could really do with X right now and you know it”. “I sure do miss doing X” becomes “Oh come on, you
definitely miss doing X, can’t you feel it?” “Wouldn’t it be nice to do X right now, after all I deserve it after
today.” becomes “We deserve to do X right now after all we’ve been through, how could you deny us this?”
At this point I have to clarify something. This is not the ‘tug of war’ that Allen Carr refers to. The ‘tug of
war’ is cognitive dissonance, which is where you have 2 or more conflicting belief systems and is a result of not
killing the big monster. “I really don’t want to do X because of this negative effect it gives me, but it also makes
me X so I want to do it”. This is the tug of war and is the doing of the big monster. Once the big monster is
dead by removing the brainwashing, the only voices telling you to engage in your addiction will come from the
little monster (the AV). Because the AV uses the pronoun “I”, confusing the AV with the big monster becomes
a possibility.
It’s also important to point out that the AV is a massive liar. It’s only concern is getting dopamine at whatever
cost. Your AV will try to convince you to put yourself in potentially deadly situations if it means getting a fix.
Earlier I said “When people fail with Easyway, according to Easyway, there are only 2 possible reasons, either
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you didn’t follow the instructions properly or you failed to remove the big monster. I believe that this is
detrimental and I’ll explain why later.” I believe this is detrimental because failure to recognise the AV has
lead myself and others who have used Easyway to falsely believe we haven’t fully killed the big monster, so we
re-read the book to try to kill the brainwashing again even though we already have. Failure to recognise the
AV combined with the belief that ‘if you failed with Easyway it means you failed to kill the big monster’ will
cause you to focus your efforts on the big monster again when it’s already been defeated. You may end up in a
cycle of re-reading Allen Carr’s books, lasting a while then relapsing over and over again.
When the AV says something like “I want to do X now because it makes me X”, if you’ve undone the brainwashing
and removed the big monster you may think “But I know that this isn’t true, so why do I still believe it is?
Have I failed to completely undo the brainwashing”. The truth here is that you have removed the brainwashing,
evidenced by the fact that you know better than what your AV is telling you, it’s just that you think that the
AV is you because it used the pronoun “I”. Recognising the AV and forcing it to reveal itself by dropping the
“I” for “you”, “we” or “us” should confirm to you that it’s not the big monster here, it’s the little monster. If
it was indeed the big monster it wouldn’t replace the “I” for “you”, “we” or “us”.
Now when the AV says “Please, can we just do X one more time for old time sake, just one more?” and you say
“No”, you may feel an emotional response. You may feel fear or sadness. It’s extremely important to realise
that this feeling isn’t coming from you, it’s coming from it. If you’re unable to recognise the AV, you will think
this emotion is coming from you and will be more inclined to give in. Recognise the AV and the fact that the
emotions coming from it are not coming from you, then feel joy in this.
When you put both these methods together (if necessary, not all people seem to have a problem with the little
monster) and maintain a feeling of joy and elation whenever you recognise the AV, success is yours.
Source:
https://www.reddit.com/r/pmohackbook/comments/u37ptt/brief_e
xplanation_of_avrt/

Brief Explanation of AVRT

AVRT stands for Addictive Voice Recognition Technique. It helps

you to recognize your addiction fighting for its life, and then you can
move on. Basically, it splits you into two. One, your neocortex, your
intelligent human brain, and two, the midbrain, your primitive animal
brain, carried over from millions of years of evolution. Your midbrain
is referred to as the "Beast", and is responsible for your survival. It
keeps track of oxygen levels, the last time you ate, etc.

However, it has confused internet porn as one of these things that are
essential for your survival, as if you will literally die without it. It
should be pretty clear why this happens. When you use porn, your
brain is tricked into thinking you are having sex which in turn would
increase population and survival of your species, so you are supplied
with feel good chemicals as a reward. However, porn is not sex as we
all know. That's another lesson to be learned. When you feel urges for
porn, that's really just because your midbrain wants sex, not porn, and
by using porn, you are only falling short of satisfying your desires.

So, what you do is use your neocortex's (the human brain's) superior
intelligence over your animal brain to say "no." And not just no, but
never. The beast is dumb. It really thinks that you are sacrificing your
survival by choosing to not fap to pixels on a screen. When, in reality,
there are very significant costs to using porn, and it is the non-user
who is happier.

The only resources your Beast has are ones that you can control. The
feeling of being deprived of porn is merely a feeling, but it manifests
itself through thoughts and mental images in your head. However, the
language and mental imagery centres are all located within your
neocortex, and so is movement of your muscles. Try this. Put your
fingers in front of your face and wiggle them. Now ask your Beast to
do the same. See? You are the one in control here.

The manifestation of the feelings of deprivation is called the

Addictive Voice, and it is defined by anything thought that supports
or suggests the future use of porn in any away. It can be extremely
deceiving at first, but with time, you will be able to recognize it as
what it really is: not you, but your Beast fighting for its life. Here's
something straight from the AVRT book as proof. If you go to the
grocery store and see some fresh strawberries in a container, do you
take one out and plop it in your mouth? No, you think, "Pay first, eat
later." Recognizing your AV will soon be as easy as that, only you
won't ever do porn later, because you will just never do it again.

A very important technique to learn is called Addiction Diction. Many

people still believe they want to use porn, so they think, "I want to use
porn." But, with AVRT, one can recognize that is actually the Beast
that wants porn, so they switch the pronoun to "it". It wants porn, not
I. Imagine what it would feel like if you knew that you would never
use porn ever again, and that you have quit for life. For some of you
reading this, you may have already achieved that, or you just only feel
positive emotions when thinking about that. thanks to EasyPeasy.
However, some may feel as if they feel both ways about quitting,
even after reading EasyPeasy. The negative emotions felt are really
just your Beast, and the positive ones are you, the real you. This
ambivalence causes many to feel confused, and this confusion will
inevitably lead to further strengthening the addiction. AVRT can lead
you out of this trap though.

The Beast wants you to never quit ever, and to PMO for the rest of
your life. But, recognize the anxiety it feels when you think about
never PMOing again. Doesn't that mean that it is the one that's
scared? Scared of what? It's scared of you, and what you can do! It
knows that you can be free for life, because if not, then it wouldn't be
so stressed. Just think about people who fast for extended periods of
time. Although their Beasts know eating is essential for survival,
many still abstain from eating, because they are the ones in control of
their actions, not their Beasts. Only in this case, it’s made much
easier, because porn is not food, it's poison!
Source:
https://www.reddit.com/r/pmohackbook/comments/mauhy1/avrt_tip
s_and_ideas/

AVRT Tips and Ideas

AV = Addictive Voice

AVRT = Addictive Voice Recognition Technique

The Bully:

Some call the Voice a Beast and thus picture it as such. I for one call
it the Bully, with a capital B. And it really is. It’s so antagonistic.
Usually shower time used to be a bring "big urges" for me, and when
I sing in the shower the urge goes away. Now, I happen to not sing to
get rid of urges, because I know how to deal with those urges without
singing. Rather, I now sing just because I enjoy singing. The Bully
however points it out saying, “You’re singing! That means you’re
afraid of me!”, and that’s exactly what a bully would say. "You're
afraid of me!"

There’s a difference between talking to yourself, and talking to the

Bully. When you talk to yourself, you address yourself as … yourself.
When you talk to the Bully you address it as the Bully. When the
Bully says something, like “I want to watch some right at now. You
know what? I’m just going to do it.” I need to talk to two different
things.

1. I tell myself that I recognize that the mean Bully is trying to

bully me by trying to force me to do something I don’t want to
do. I tell myself it’s a stupid bully, and picture it suffering.
2. I laugh at its discomfort, and call it out, saying it’s a Bully. Best
to ignore the Bully and not let them bother you. If they see
 you’re ignoring them, then they’ll eventually grow annoyed and
stop bullying you.

The Bully is manipulative. It tries to make me think it cares for me

(like for my health or happiness or whatever), but that can’t be farther
from the truth.

The Bully will literally put hope into you that a loved one dies or you
get sick, so that you suffer and thus have an "excuse" to PMO.

The Bully often puts images into my head of certain scenes. It will
also say, “Does X and Y type of porn exist?”, “Does this MO
technique exist?”. This is an attempt to make me have FOMO, but
I’m really not missing out on anything. Rather, I would be missing
out on a good happy life if I did decide to use.

The Bully says to me “You know that you can do it now. You’re
alone. You can get away with it. It’s so easy. Just do it.” and this often
creates a pang and a lot of discomfort.

There is no reason to fear or doubt. I know that fear creates pangs and
that there’s no reason to have FOMO. I know that there’s no reason to
doubt. Thousands of people have left the trap easily, and we can too if
we just easily eliminate the problems we have.

Finally, the Bully tries to make me impatient. Oh how amazing it will

be when the Bully gets suspended from school or when I leave school
and the Bully behind. But the Bully will build up anxiety about what
it thinks is a wait. The Bully says “It’ll be a long three weeks for
you.” The Bully wants you to think that recovery is a process, when
it’s really an action. True, there’s a withdrawal period when your
body goes through a bit of trauma, but that doesn’t mean anything.
The pangs won’t be serious anyway, and really, the moment you stop
- you’re free. There’s also waiting for a “moment of revelation” and
honestly, it will come in time. All I have got to do during these three
weeks is use AVRT, and actively apply the mindset. Then it will
probably be automatic after the three weeks. Three weeks is not a set
time. It can be two weeks, four weeks, anything really, and that’s
okay. I’m free now, and happy.
As I think more and more, the AV really really acts like the typical
bully. Manipulative, blaming, insulting, offensive. Like bullies, the
Bully is fuelled by your attention. Any bully’s goal is to annoy or
offend you, and if you don’t give the bully attention, they’ll get bored
and will just quit trying to harm you.

Bullies are Bad:

The Bully is a master at projection. Bullies in general project their

personal feeling of inferiority onto their victims.

The Bully (with a capital B) projects many feelings onto you and I,
and it’s important to note that all these feelings are really its own.

When you feel fear that you won’t be able to make it with porn or that
you’ll suffer, it’s really the Bully feeling the fear that it won’t get its
fix.

The Bully has a defence mechanism where it will send what it feels
back to you.

If it doubts that you’ll come back to the addiction, it will project

feelings of doubt that you’ll be able to quit.

If it mopes that it hasn’t been getting its fix, it will make you mope as
well.

If it feels discomfort, it’ll make you feel discomfort. In fact, that’s

literally what withdrawal pangs are; the Bully’s discomfort.

The Bully is desperate to find a way to hurt you. It’ll put fear, doubt,
moping, sorrow, anger, etc. Anything to get you back to its prison.

The Bully began as just a misguided little thing, thinking that you
need to PMO to survive, but then evolved into an evil horrible
monster. It used to work for you, to help you survive, but now it only
works for itself. It finally realizes that you can live without the drug.
But, it also now knows that if you stop using, it will die.
Some don’t even know the Bully is manipulating them. The Bully
wants to be envisioned as a nice little person who is harmless. The
Bully wants people to feel guilty for “killing and torturing” it.

Should you be guilty for killing the AV? No. It’s self-defence. If you
don’t kill it, it will kill you.

The Bully will project feelings of impatience onto you. It waits for
you to watch once more, and it makes you wait for the Moment of
Revelation or for the addiction to go. Waiting is bad. Impatience is
bad. Counting days is bad.

One trick that the Bully has is what I call “Decision making” and
what Jack Trimpey calls “Vertigo”. At times the Bully will just put
the thought in my head “Frick. I’ll just do it. Yeah, I’m going to do
it.” This is at its peak discomfort, and it is not the ex-user making the
decision. Rather, it’s the Bully. All that needs to be done is to laugh,
recognize, and ignore it.

Anyway, if you feel moping, doubt, or fear, it's either because the
Bully is projecting these emotions onto you, or it's for a totally
unrelated reason and has nothing to do with porn use (like if you're
just in a bad mood). Note that the Bully will try to make these
situations even worse, and using porn will only make these situations
worse.

Regret:

I’m sure every ex-PMOer regrets PMOing, or the things they’ve done
while PMOing. I for sure do. I sometimes open my eyes and look at
myself in the mirror, confused. How was I ever a person like this?
How did that happen?

Well, regret is one of the Bully’s weapons. Regret, of course, is a

natural thing. If you’ve regrettable things, then it’s completely normal
to regret doing these things, but to an extent. I mean, feeling guilty all
the time will not make the situation any better. Remorse is healthy,
but it needs to be a healthy amount of remorse. You can’t change the
past, but you can make sure not to repeat it.
The Bully will say things like “I am hopeless,” or “The damage is
way beyond repair. No point in quitting”. It’ll just say other things,
just to make you feel bad. The more you feel bad, the more you want
to feel “good”. And then when you feel miserable from all the guilt,
the Bully will suggest treating your sad butt to some porn. After all,
you deserve it. Won’t that make you feel better?

No. It’ll just cause more things to be regretful for. Just resolve never
PMOing again.

Guilt is saying that you did something bad. Shame is saying that you
yourself are bad. Guilt is good and constructive. Shame is not. Porn
use is surely something to be guilty about, but shame is different. The
Bully wants you to be ashamed, just as a school bully would want you
to cry after he bullies you. Many bullies will manipulate you into
thinking you’re stupid for falling for the prank, or that you deserve it,
and things like that. So too, PMO makes the user feel horrible about
themselves, as if they’re worthless failures. The Bully even tells
themselves “Gee, you weren’t able to quit this time. You must not be
able to quit at all.” You don’t have a character defect that makes you
watch. The only thing wrong with us in this situation is that we PMO.
And we have free will. With the mindset, AVRT, and removal of your
brainwashing, we can easily just not PMO anymore. The Bully is
always fuelled by having the ability to instil emotion into you. It can
be shame, anger, sorrow, desperation, but most of all, fear.
 Chapter 8 – The Addiction

You’ve destroyed your old and false beliefs, but that

doesn’t mean that the physical addiction is not there
anymore. Your rational mind has well-absorbed the
message: porn has no benefits, but your primitive mind still
seeks dopamine.

When you get addicted to a substance, your primitive

mind believes that the substance is essential in order to
live: like food, water, or sleep. For dopamine, there’s an
entity in your mind which firmly believes that dopamine
is a must-have for you to survive.

We will call this “entity” the Addiction – with the

capitalized “A”.

Your Addiction doesn’t understand that porn has no

benefits. The new information you just acquired is not
understandable by your Addiction.

Your Addiction doesn’t understand why you’re so difficult

about getting some dopamine.

Your Addiction would love if you would just stop fussing

over all of this and provide dopamine, for the sake of
things.
Your Addiction resides inside the brainstem, which is the
most primitive part of our brain. Here, there’s no space
for “good” or “bad”, “poison” or “medicine”, “health”
or “disease”, only two things are understood:

Survival or death

Explaining that porn is not functional to survival due to a

long series of side effects and damages is of no use. Your
Addiction won’t understand.

Your Addiction is that little voice that constantly puts you

in doubt about your choice. It is pretty persistent. It will
bring up thoughts about porn, even if you’re happy about
having quit.

Your Addiction thinks that you will die without dopamine

and that is exactly why it will constantly remind you that
you should get some.

In the next days, weeks, and months, your Addiction will

talk to you, trying to get you to consume. It will gradually
decrease its presence over time, but it will spawn every
now and then. You’ll hear your Addiction sporadically talk
also after months of freedom.

Remember: YOU ARE NOT your Addiction. You are the

owner of your body. Your addiction is just a part of your
brain, namely an organ of your body.

For instance: your stomach doesn’t care if you’re on a

diet. It doesn’t care. You got it used to a certain amount of
food and it will ask for that exact amount.

It has NO INTEREST in YOU, your life goals, your fitness

plan, or whatever you as the body owner decide to do with
your life. This is not its business. Its job is to ask you what
it thinks is the correct amount of food, end of it.

Just like that, your Addiction will ask you for dopamine.
For you, as the body owner, this is wrong because you’re
gonna destroy your life, your goals, etc.
But your Addiction has no visualization of the future and
your goals, the only thing it worries about is the present
moment. It wants to ensure that you get dopamine now.

Your Addiction is nothing more than a precise and

efficient mechanism prompting for survival needs. Your
job, your relationships, your hobbies, are nothing to it. It
doesn’t care about your long-term happiness.

You are not your Addiction. You are a healthy and mindful
owner of a capable body, you care about life, health,
happiness, rewarding challenges, hobbies, people. This is
you.

Your Addiction doesn’t care. It only cares about the high

life. It wants the high and will ask for the high, at all
times. It’s pretty stupid and will not take objections.

It doesn’t matter how much you are sure of your choice to

quit. Your Addiction will ask, ask, ask, and ask again.

No worries, your Addiction speaks likes it’s the boss, but it

has no power over you. Your Addiction is just a little stupid
voice, with no arms and legs. You own your arms and legs.

Raise a hand. Good, now ask your Addiction to raise a

hand. Persist. Ask again! Challenge your Addiction! Your
Addiction can’t do so. Where’s its power? It can only yap
about getting high. Such a powerless Addiction.
You must understand that you are superior to your
addiction. Do not be scared of it, rather look at your
addiction as an inferior entity.

You’ve been its slave for so long, but as you see, it only has
the power when you listen to it.

8.1 – Go against the Addiction

Now, just think of your whole life without porn. Don’t just
think normally, think deeply, picture that. Picture
yourself living without porn till the day you die.

You will notice that you’ll have mixed feelings about this.
On one hand, you may have a sense of liberation, a feeling
of hope. On the other hand, you may feel somewhat
doubtful and unprepared about your choice.

You are the first feelings, the ones of liberation and hope.

The last feelings are the Addiction. The Addiction reacts to

your thoughts and understands that you’re cutting it off.
Your Addiction doesn’t accept that you’re gonna live a
whole life without porn.

Your Addiction will not accept thoughts of complete

freedom while it is alive, it will say: “Well, you can’t be sure
that you won’t ever slip back in the trap... maybe, one day...”.

Don’t worry. You are not doubtful, this is just your

Addiction suffering. It is going crazy because things are
getting very bad for it. Its reign of terror is ended and it
wants the power back. No way it can get it. That stupid
Addiction is a powerless little entity.
Your Addiction will speak in your thoughts. It will try to
make you doubtful about your decision. But who cares?
You have free will, you can decide to never watch porn
again, and that’s it, you’ll never do it again.

No point in demonstrating to your Addiction your decision

to never watch porn again. It wouldn’t understand
anyway, it just wants to doubt, doubt and doubt.

Now please listen closely: EVERYTHING, every thought or

feeling that suggests the present or future use of porn is
the Addiction. No body-owner wants to watch porn after
understanding its real mechanism.
So I want to make it clear that ANY thought, feeling, or
whatever may lead you to porn, now or in a possible far
future, is just your Addiction talking.

Your Addiction loves the idea that one day you’ll slip back
inside the trap. It supports the use of porn, so don’t worry
if it looks like you still crave it – remember that it is not
you, it is the Addiction, your animal side that can’t
understand logical thinking.

Your Addiction can be deceptive. It will use your own

thinking to trick you. It will instill little doubts here and
there. It will make false affirmations about porn as if it
was you.

At its roots, your porn addiction is all caused by the

Addiction. It is the same entity that led you to believe the
illusions of pleasure, stress, concentration, etc. It used
them to keep you in the trap, unaware of the slavery.

Now it’s stripped of every mask. You can see your

Addiction in its smallness. A little deceiving thing.
8.2 – Challenge the Addiction
Your Addiction can and will die. While it's alive, it will act
as you’ll never get free of it, but remember: it's a little
helpless entity. You will get free of your Addiction, the
more you deprive it of porn, the more it will go towards its
inevitable death.

How much time it will take for it to die depends on you: if

you keep listening to your Addiction, rationalizing its
claims, arguing with it, you will give it power.

Don’t. You don’t have anything to say to your Addiction,

it’s a stupid thing, incapable of understanding logic and
common sense. The more you argue, the more power you
give it.

Remember: the Addiction doesn’t talk with users who

don’t want to quit, because they’re used to satisfy its
hunger at all times.
When the Addiction is talking, it is a sign that things are
turning badly for it. Very badly. No more porn, forever.

Your addiction will scream when you make statements

like “No more porn for the rest of my life”, in fact, it hates
this idea.

In the next days, you may re-read this book, or you may
talk about quitting with someone, and you may notice
some discomfort while doing this, or even while thinking
about doing this: your Addiction doesn’t approve these
behaviors.

Your Addiction thinks that your porn-recovery ideas are

stupid and useless. It thinks that you’re the worst body-
owner to ever exist.
Such a stupid Addiction, with no understanding of how
life really works.

Your Addiction always likes to speculate on a possible

future in which you’ll slip back into the porn trap. It is its
favorite hobby. It will try to convince you that in some
mysterious way you’ll fall again for the slavery.

Your Addiction will constantly look for a little, even

microscopic, chance that you’ll start consuming again.
Hopeless Addiction.

8.3 – Beat the Addiction

Now think: “I will never watch porn again”. Don’t just think
it, mean it. Picture yourself and your entire life with the
benefits of being a clean and happy person.

Re-affirm this thought as much as you want. You will feel

discomfort inside yourself. See? The Addiction is
suffering. The Addiction hates this. The more you affirm,
the more you are real about it, the more your Addiction
will suffer.

The more details you imagine, the more you’ll beat up

your Addiction. For example, imagine something that
your Addiction always denied to you.
Let’s say: “I never did rock climbing, cause porn addiction
destroyed my motivation”.

Now picture yourself as a rock climber for the rest of your

life. Imagine yourself doing it every weekend and
becoming better and better at it. Your Addiction hates this.
You will become a rock climber, you have no doubt. Your
Addiction is trying to instill doubt in you, but it has no
power. It can only talk, talk, talk. Little boring thing...

Your Addiction likes to think that you’ll have a peek at

some porn site someday, even a little one. It will make you
feel like it is inevitable.
Your Addiction genuinely thinks that it is not possible to
live a life without porn. Your project seems crazy to it. But
you know better than it, so who cares.

Your Addiction will constantly try to rearrange your

emotions and thoughts to sustain the high life. But you
are in charge, your Addiction is not. You are the decision-
maker, your Addiction can only suggest. And its
suggestions go directly in the trash.

Imagine yourself as an older person, looking back and

seeing your life: a clean life, a life free of porn. This is a
nightmare for the Addiction.

Now picture yourself watching some porn. Tease your

Addiction. Feel how it is so relieved that you’re getting
“back on track”. Now tell your Addiction that it’ll never
see porn again. Mean it. Feel the discomfort. It is the
Addiction slowly dying.

Maybe one day you will slip back into the trap. No worries,
you will just have given more fuel to the Addiction, which
will wake up and start suggesting again to watch more
porn. Repeat the process, beat it, feel the discomfort and
let the Addiction die.
Just acknowledge that you’ve made a terrible error and
you can decide to never do it again. You’re free of porn
every time you decide so, and the fact that your Addiction
doesn’t approve your choice has no importance.

Remember to never argue with your Addiction. Arguing

and rationalizing only gives fuel to the Addiction. If you
argue, it means you’re still considering it.

Your Addiction will gradually die over time. This also

depends on you. The less fuel you give, the quicker it will
die. On the first days of freedom, its presence will be
greater. You’ll hear your Addiction lurking in the back of
your mind even after weeks and months, with less power
and presence. Remember to not be scared, you are
superior to it. Rejoice, because you are free from its slavery. It
is just a little, powerless voice.

8.4 – Accept its presence

Do not try to make your Addiction go away immediately.
You have indirect power over it, and you can kill it with
time, but you can’t decide to make it go away right now.

If you want to make it go away immediately, that means

that you’re scared. Don’t be! Remember: it talks like it is the
boss – but it is nothing.

So don’t argue with it, don’t chase it away, just recognize

that it is the Addiction talking. Recognize its presence,
accept it, take it as a sign of health and freedom, not as
slavery. Recognize that its talking is a sign of its slow but
steady decomposition.

Don’t give it space. Your Addiction doesn’t deserve

anything. Accept the discomfort and do your own thing.
Sometimes its presence will be greater, sometimes it will
be asleep, lurking in the back of your mind.

Your Addiction liked you because you have arms, eyes, and
everything that was needed to remain addicted – it liked
to use you to satisfy its hunger for dopamine.

Your Addiction will try to discourage you from doing the

normal and joyful activities that you couldn’t do before,
but you must act in spite of it.

You can’t go rock climbing it says? Then go rock climbing.

It will suffer because you’re doing whatever you want.
That’s a double win! Do whatever you want then! It’s your
life, not its!

This life is yours, yours, YOURS!