Infertility
Infertility
Infertility
2006
Christopher R. Newton
London Health Sciences Center, Ontario
Karen H. Rosen
Virginia Tech
Robert S. Shulman
Virginia Tech
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Peterson, B.D., Newton, C.R., Rosen, K.H., & Schulman, R.S. (2006). Coping processes of couples experiencing infertility. Family
Relations, Interdisciplinary Journal of Applied Family Studies, 55, 227-239.
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While the majority of people enter marriage and expect someday to have biological
children, many couples will unexpectedly experience difficulty in conceiving and carrying to
term their own biological child. The latest national estimates, based on data collected in 2002,
indicate that nearly 4.3 million married women or their partners have impaired fecundity—
defined as difficulty in conceiving or carrying to live birth a child, or infertility lasting 36 months
or longer (Chandra, Martinez, Mosher, Abma, & Jones, 2005). These couples represent
approximately 15% of the 28.3 million married couples in which the wives are between the ages
As recently as the mid 1980’s, researchers proposed that infertility had psychological
belief was that females were primarily responsible for infertility (ascribed to unconscious
resistance to motherhood), and thus women became the main participants and focus of infertility
research. However, medical technologies have shown that both males and females contribute
equally to infertility and that emotional factors only represent 5% of infertility cases (Robinson
& Stewart, 1996; Seibel & Taymor, 1982). Consequently, the experience of infertility is truly
In an effort to better understand how infertility impacts both men and women, researchers
have called for studies which examine the emotional responses of both members of the couple as
they jointly cope with the experience of infertility as opposed to focusing solely on women’s
responses to infertility (Greil, 1997). The current study examined how couples cope with the
experience of infertility and how their coping patterns were related to their adjustment to
infertility.
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When a couple is faced with the experience of infertility, it is commonly interpreted as a
stressor that needs to be managed. According to Lazarus and Folkman’s stress and coping theory
(1984), cognitive or behavioral coping strategies are used to manage stress, and stress occurs as
events in the environment are perceived by an individual to exceed his or her resources. Couples
experiencing infertility commonly face severe strains on their emotional, social, and financial
resources, and thus, they are likely to use coping strategies at some point during the experience.
Coping strategies such as avoidance of the problem and accepting personal responsibility for
one’s infertility are commonly associated with increased distress, while coping strategies such as
seeking social support and engaging in active problem solving tend to decrease distress (Jordan
While understanding the relationship between coping and infertility stress is critical in
understanding how a couple copes with the experience of infertility, most studies examining the
issue have used the individual as the unit of analysis, and have focused more on females than
males (Abbey, Andrews, & Halman, 1991; Hynes, Callan, Terry, & Gallois, 1992; McQuillan,
Greil, White, & Jacob, 2003). Fewer studies have examined how couples cope with the
experience of infertility (Berghuis & Stanton, 2002; Peterson, 2003). Since infertility is
explore how each partner’s coping with infertility may impact his or her partner’s adjustment.
The present study’s emphasis on the couples’ efforts to cope with infertility, and the
implications of various coping patterns amongst couples was primarily guided by the family
systems theoretical framework. Based on general systems theory, this framework postulates that
individual behaviors of men and women are best understood in the context of their mutual
interactions and systemic relationships (Bertalanffy, 1968). Thus, the focus on behavior shifts
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from an individual perspective to one that examines the greater system or context that surrounds
the individual (e.g., the couple’s relationship). Although some studies have taken a systemic
focus in examining coping with infertility (Levin, Sher, & Theodos, 1997), researchers have
called for additional studies using this framework (Greil, 1997). From a system’s perspective, the
couple’s relationship provides a powerful system of mutual influence and mutual interaction that
more fully explains their coping processes and reactions to the experience of infertility than
considering the man’s and woman’s reports independently. Previous studies have shown support
for using a family systems approach to guide infertility research (Andrews, Abbey, & Halman,
the systemic nature of the couple relationship. For example, one partner may cope with
infertility stress by avoiding the realities of the problem in an effort to minimize emotional pain.
While this coping style may be beneficial to the individual, it may prove detrimental to the
partner if he or she feels left to face the problem alone (Beaurepaire, Jones, Thiering, Sanders, &
Tennant, 1994). For example, in two studies, Stanton, Tennen, Affleck, and Mendola (1991,
1992) discovered that wives who use more self-controlling coping strategies had partners with
higher levels of distress. They also found that wives who seek social support have partners who
report lower levels of psychological distress. More recently, Peterson (2003) found that when
couples agreed on the amounts of infertility stress they were experiencing, they reported higher
levels of marital satisfaction and decreased levels of depression. Specifically, Berghuis and
Stanton (2002) found a strong between-partner relationship with coping and the reduction of
depressive symptoms in couples who received a negative pregnancy result after an insemination
attempt. The study revealed that a husband’s use of positive coping strategies compensated for
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his partner’s lack of coping, which, in turn, seemed to help keep her depressive symptoms
The primary purpose of coping with infertility is to manage the emotional and/or
behavioral reactions the couple experiences once a diagnosis of infertility is given. For example,
couples will use coping strategies such as avoidance of the problem to deal with the unexpected
news of infertility, their perceived loss of having a child, or the difficulty they may have in
relating to friends with young children. Coping may also be used to reduce infertility stress for
the purpose of repairing rifts to the marital relationship or avoiding feelings of depression
associated with the multiple losses they perceive. This study attempted to better understand
these relationships – namely, how the coping patterns of each partner in a couple were associated
with his or her partner’s levels of infertility stress, marital adjustment, and depression.
When couples are diagnosed with infertility, they commonly report encountering a
number of stressors. These stressors can include, but are not limited to, stress related to their
sexual functioning, stress related to the endurance and quality of their relationship, and stress
related to changes in their social and family networks (Newton, Sherrard, & Glavac, 1999). Men
and women may perceive the severity of these stressors differently. Andrews, Abbey, & Halman
(1992) found that for men, the stress of infertility was not different from other stressors that they
face. Their partners, on the other hand, reported infertility stress to be highly distressing and
fundamentally different from the other stressors they experienced because infertility stress posed
a special threat to their sexual identity and sense of self. In another study, Freeman et al. (1985)
reported that, while 50% percent of women consider infertility the most distressing experience of
their lives, only 15% of men answered similarly. Although we know that infertility is a stressful
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event for couples, how men and women’s mutual coping patterns impact each individual member
and clinical reports propose that couples go through a variety of reactions including anger, grief,
and conflict, and that the experience of infertility has the risk of tearing one’s marriage apart.
However, the majority of empirical studies found that couples experiencing infertility reported
normal levels of marital adjustment when compared to standardized norms or when compared to
couples presumed to be fertile (Greil, 1997). These high reports of marital adjustment may be
because only couples who have strong marriages chose to pursue advanced reproductive
treatments, and most data on couples experiencing infertility are collected at advanced
reproductive treatment centers. However, a couple’s patterns of coping with infertility could also
contribute to strong marital relationships. This study attempted to see whether or not the coping
adjustment.
Studies examining the relationship between infertility and depression have focused
depression among women experiencing infertility. However, the level of depression reported in
these studies varies. For example, Downey and McKinney (1992) characterize women
experiencing infertility as distressed, but not impaired. Other studies have found a stronger
relationship between infertility and depression. Domar, Seibel, Broome, Friedman, &
Zuttermeister (1992) found that 37% of women experiencing infertility reported depression
scores in the clinically significant range and concluded that “depression is a very common and
significant problem in the infertile population” (p. 1161). Because depression has rarely been
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studied using the couple as the unit of analysis, the current study examined how the coping
patterns of one partner are related to the reports of depression of his or her partner.
husbands’ and wives’ use of various strategies along eight core domains. Such an approach is
similar to the conceptualization developed by Levin et al. (1997). We were particularly interested
in how couple coping patterns would affect important outcomes such as infertility stress,
The following research questions guided the present study. First, amongst couples
experiencing infertility, to what extent are the coping strategies of each partner related to the
other partner’s individual reports of infertility stress, marital adjustment, and depression?
Second, are there specific coping strategies that may be beneficial to one partner which result in
Method
The sample for this study was comprised of men and women experiencing infertility who
(ART) in Ontario, Canada. Data were collected over a 7-year time period (1995-2001).
Participants were eligible for the study if they were receiving in vitro fertilization (IVF); both
partners completed the self-report measures. Three months prior to treatment, prospective
participants were mailed a series of self-report measures including the Ways of Coping
Questionnaire (WCQ), Fertility Problem Inventory (FPI), Dyadic Adjustment Scale (DAS), and
Beck Depression Inventory (BDI). Couples were asked to complete the instruments separately
and to return them by mail before making a pretreatment appointment with the program staff
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Only those couples medically accepted for IVF participation were sent questionnaires,
and, because completion of psychological screening and counseling was integral to treatment
participation, information was obtained from almost all participants (approximately 95%).
However, because no record was actually kept of the number of questionnaires disseminated, the
exact response rate is not available. In order to be included in the study, both partners had to
have completed information on each of the four data collection measures (WCQ, FPI, DAS,
BDI). The original sample consisted of 506 males and 520 females, and, following listwise
deletion of missing data, the final sample consisted of 420 couples (n=420 males and n=420
females).
Males were slightly older than females with a mean age of 33.9 (SD=5.4) compared to
32.5 (SD=4.4) for females (t = -5.8, p < .001). The mean duration of infertility for the couples
was 3.3 years. Eighty percent of infertility diagnoses were attributable to females (e.g., tubal
factors, endometriosis), 12% of diagnoses were idiopathic (i.e., unexplained), and 8% were
attributable to males (e.g., low sperm count). All of the study participants were referred to the
clinic for in vitro fertilization. None of the couples had any children in their present relationship.
While data on the participants’ racial and socioeconomic status were not collected, couples were
predominantly White, representing the Canadian population at that time. Prior to 1996,
treatment costs were paid by the Ontario government. However, since that time, treatment costs
are paid only for couples with bilateral fallopian tube blockage.
Measures
Coping with infertility. The Ways of Coping Questionnaire (WCQ) is a 50-item scale
that was used to assess the coping strategies of couples experiencing infertility in this study
(Folkman, Lazarus, Dunkel-Schetter, DeLongis, & Gruen, 1986). The instrument includes eight
subscales: (a) escape/avoidance (e.g., wished the situation would somehow go away or be over
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with); (b) confrontive coping (e.g., I did something I didn’t think would work, but at least I was
doing something); (c) self-controlling (e.g., I tried to keep my feelings from interfering with
other things too much); (d) accepting responsibility (e.g., criticized or lectured myself, realized I
brought the problem on myself); (e) planful problem solving (e.g., I made a plan of action and
followed it); (f) seeking social support (e.g., talked to someone to find our more about the
situation); (g) distancing (e.g., made light of the situation, went on as if nothing had happened);
(h) and positive reappraisal (e.g., changed or grew as a person in a good way). Participant
responses are recorded on a four-item Likert scale ranging from 0 (does not apply) to 3 (used a
great deal). The Chronbach’s alpha reliability estimate for the current study was .82. The
creators of the WCQ claim it contains concurrent, construct, and face validity, although they fail
to provide direct evidence to support these claims (Hess, 1992). The mean scores (with standard
deviations in parentheses) for females and males respectively along each coping domain were
confrontive coping 4.3 (2.7), 3.0 (2.6), distancing 5.2 (3.1), 5.6 (2.9), self-controlling 7.6 (3.8),
6.6 (3.9), seeking social support 9.9 (3.9), 7.0 (4.1), accepting responsibility 2.1 (2.3), 1.3 (2.0),
escape avoidance 7.0 (4.4), 4.5 (3.5), planful problem-solving 7.1 (3.4), 6.1 (3.5), and positive
Infertility stress. The Fertility Problem Inventory (FPI) is a 46 item questionnaire that measures
an individual’s level of infertility stress (Newton et al., 1999). The instrument is scored using a
6-point Likert scale and produces a global infertility stress score in addition to five sub-scores on
scales measuring social infertility stress, sexual infertility stress, relationship infertility stress, an
individual’s need for parenthood, and an individual’s feelings about living a childfree lifestyle.
Higher scores on each scale indicate increased levels of infertility stress. The FPI demonstrates
discriminant validity (the degree to which each sub-scale measures something different) as
intercorrelations were low to moderate in size (Newton et al., 1999). The FPI also demonstrates
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convergent validity as it had moderate correlations in the expected direction with measures of
depression, anxiety, and marital adjustment (Newton et al., 1999). The Chronbach’s alpha
reliability estimate for the current study was .78. The mean global infertility stress scores and
standard deviations for females and males were 128.9 (35.1) and 114.0 (29.0).
Marital adjustment. The Dyadic Adjustment Scale (DAS) is a 32-item scale developed by
Spanier and designed to measure the overall marital adjustment couples have within their
relationship (Spanier, 1976). The DAS produces a global score in addition to scores on four sub-
scales: satisfaction, cohesion, consensus, and affectional expression. The instrument is widely
viewed as one of the best measures of a marital adjustment. Scores 100 or above indicate well-
adjusted marital relationships. Many studies have confirmed the concurrent and predictive
validity of the DAS as lower scores are related to increased probability for domestic violence,
higher depression, and poor communication (Stuart, 1992). Studies of alpha reliability by
researchers have indicated good internal consistency for the total measure with scores as high as
.90 or above (Stuart). The Chronbach’s alpha reliability estimate for the current study was .87.
The mean marital adjustment for females and males respectively (with standard deviations in
parentheses) was 120.0 (12.7), and 120.0 (11.9), well above the 100 clinical cut-off indicated by
Spanier.
Depression. The Beck Depression Inventory IA and II were used to assess the severity of
depression among study participants (Beck, Steer, & Brown, 1996). Because both the BDI-IA
and the BDI-II were used to assess depression in the current sample, a conversion of scores
(provided by Beck et al., 1996) was used to harmonize the scores from the two instruments.
Higher scores on the BDI indicate the presence of depressive symptoms: scores from 0-13
indicate minimal depression, 14-19 mild depression, 20-28 moderate depression, and 29-63
severe depression. The coefficient alpha estimates of reliability for outpatient samples was .92
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and test-retest reliability coefficient over a one-week period was .93 (Arbisi, 2001). The
concurrent validity–or the degree to which results correlate with other measures–appears strong
as the BDI-II correlates with other measures of depression and also has moderate correlations
with ratings of anxiety (Arbisi). The mean depression scores for females and males (with
standard deviations in parentheses) were 6.3 (7.3) and 4.0 (5.2) respectively.
Data Analysis
allowed us to examine whether groups of couples coping with infertility differed on more than
one dependent variable. In addition, the use of multivariate analysis helped us see the data in
multivariate perspectives, as groups that vary from each other on important characteristics (e.g.,
infertility stress) are likely to differ from each other on other interrelated characteristics (e.g.,
depression) (Gall, Borg, & Gall, 1996). Couples were divided into four groups using median
split procedures for each coping dimension according to both partners’ high and low scores. For
each coping scale, the median score was determined for both males and females. Individual
scores above the median were classified as high in terms of the frequency with which a coping
strategy was used, and scores below the median were classified as low in terms of the frequency
of use. Each couple was then categorized according to the coping patterns of both individuals in
the couple and was placed in one of four groups: a) High/High, b) Low/Low, c) F-high/M-low,
d) F-low/M-high. Couples were classified in this way for each of the eight coping processes.
This approach was used by Levin et al. (1997), who examined the effects of intracouple coping
In order to ascertain if the coping patterns of one member of a couple would impact the
infertility stress, marital adjustment, or depression of his or her partner, a 2x4 factorial
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MANCOVA using gender and groups as the independent variables were conducted for each of
the eight coping subscales. The dependent variables were infertility stress, marital adjustment,
and depression. For the MANCOVA, coping was used as a covariate in each analysis to control
for variations in individual coping and more appropriately assess the nature of the couple
pairings. Tabachnick & Fidell (2001) note that when choosing a covariate, “one wants to select
covariates that adjust the dependent variable for predictable, but unwanted sources of variability”
(p. 302). They further state that “covariates are chosen because of their known association with
the dependent variable” (p. 19). Thus, individual coping scores for each coping process were
used as a covariate to control for the correlations that previously existed between men, women,
and the dependent variables. Without the use of coping as a covariate in each analysis, a
couple’s report of infertility stress, marital adjustment, and depression would be inflated by the
individual correlations that previously existed between coping and the dependent variables.
Results
To examine the relationship between coping, infertility stress, marital adjustment, and
depression, eight separate MANCOVA analyses were conducted. Each analysis used the
dependent variables of infertility stress (global), marital adjustment (total), and depression
(total), and each used the two independent variables of coping group (with four levels) and
gender (with two levels). Furthermore, each MANCOVA used the individual coping scores
from that scale as the covariate. The analyses were conducted on 8 coping processes. This paper
reports the findings of the 3 coping processes that produced significant results.
The MANCOVA analyses showed significant main effects for groups, gender, or both.
However, the interactions between groups and gender were not significant in any of the analyses.
For the MANCOVA analyses, overall mean scores were examined for couples in each of the
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grouping variables. Follow-up univariate tests of the general linear model were then performed.
adjustment, and depression using Bonferroni post-hoc analyses (seeTtable 1). Specific gender
differences between men and women in the four couple groupings were also examined using
follow-up Univariate Analyses of Variance and are reported in the text, but not in the tables.
The MANCOVA analyses examining couples’ use of distancing found significant main
effects for group (Wilks’ Λ = .97, p < .01) and for gender (Wilks’ Λ = .92, p < .001). Univariate
follow-up tests indicated the groups differed on infertility stress (F = 7.3, p <.001), marital
adjustment (F = 3.3, p < .05), and depression (F = 4.8, p <.001). For gender, males and females
differed on infertility stress (F = 54.2, p < .001) and depression (F = 35.1, p <.001), but not
marital adjustment. A significant gender by group interaction was found for depression.
When the self-controlling coping strategy was examined, the MANCOVA analysis found
significant main effects for group (Wilks’ Λ = .97, p < .01) and for gender (Wilks’ Λ = .95, p <
.001), but not for a group by gender interaction. Univariate follow-up tests indicated the groups
differed on infertility stress (F = 4.6, p < .01), marital adjustment (F = 4.3, p < .01), and
depression (F = 4.1, p < .01). For gender, follow-up univariate tests indicated that males and
females differed on infertility stress (F = 30.7, p < .001), and depression (F = 19.6, p < .001), but
Couples’ use of accepting responsibility showed significant main effects for group
(Wilks’ Λ = .93, p < .001) and for gender (Wilks’ Λ = .95, p < .001). Univariate tests indicated
the groups differed on infertility stress (F = 18.3, p < .001), marital adjustment (F = 4.7, p < .01),
and depression (F = 3.3, p <.05). Univariate tests for gender showed that males and females
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differed on infertility stress (F = 36.7, p < .001) and on depression (F = 16.6, p < .001) but not
Distancing. Bonferroni post hoc tests were used to examine which specific couple
pairings were significantly different from the others along the domains of infertility stress,
marital adjustment, and depression (see Table 1). The Bonferroni post-hoc test showed that
couples using distancing (i.e., made light of the situation, went on as if nothing had happened) in
the F-low/M-high group reported significantly higher levels of infertility stress (M = 132.1, p <
.01) when compared to couples in each of the other three groups (High/High M = 120.4, p < .01,
Low/Low M = 119.3, p < .01, F-high/M-low M = 117.6, p < .01). This increase in the couples’
overall mean stress was most notably influenced by the female partners’ levels of infertility
stress (female infertility stress M = 145.5, male infertility stress M = 117.8, p < .01). With
regards to the BDI, couples in the F-low/M-high group reported significantly higher scores (M =
6.8, p < .01) when compared to couples in both groups in which men coped using low amounts
of distancing (Low/Low M = 4.5, p < .01, F-high/M-low M = 4.5, p < .01) with female scores of
depression in the F-low/M-high couples (M = 9.5, p < .01) significantly higher than men’s (M =
4.3, p < .01) (it is worth noting that nether group scored clinically depressed at the time of the
study). With regards to marital adjustment scores, couples in the F-low/M-high reported
significantly lower levels of marital adjustment (M = 118.0, p < .05) when compared to couples
who coped in the opposite way (F-high/M-low, M = 121.7, p < .05), although both groups can be
couples in which the female engaged in high levels of emotional and behavioral self-control
relative to her partner (F-high/M-low group) reported significantly higher levels of infertility
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stress (M = 127.9, p < .01) compared to couples in which females engaged in minimal self-
control strategies (F-low/M-high M = 116.4, p < .01, Low/Low M = 118.2, p < .01). For
depression, couples in the F-high/M-low group reported significantly higher levels of depression
(M = 6.4, p < .01) when compared to couples in the F-low/M-high group (M = 4.1, p < .01),
although both groups did not score in the clinically depressed range. For marital adjustment,
couples in the F-high/M-low group reported significantly lower levels of marital adjustment (M
= 116.6, p < .05) when compared to couples in the other three groups (High/High M = 120.4, p <
.05, Low/Low M = 120.7, p < .05, F-low/M-high M = 120.3, p < .05), although both groups
members of the couple tended to accept a high degree of responsibility (i.e., criticized or lectured
myself, realized I brought the problem on myself), the couple reported significantly higher levels
of infertility stress (M = 134.4, p < .01) when compared to couples in the other three groups
(Low/Low M = 108.0, p < .01, F-low/M-high M = 122.9, p < .01, F-high/M-low M = 124.2, p <
.01). Conversely, when both partners assume low levels of personal responsibility for infertility,
they reported significantly lower levels of infertility stress when compared to the couples in the
other three groups (see data above). Men in couples in which both partners accepted low
amounts of responsibility for the infertility had significantly lower infertility stress (M = 99.1, p
< .01) than men in each of the other three groups (High/High M = 128.8, p < .01, F-high/M-low
For depression, when both partners accepted low amounts of responsibility for their
infertility, they reported significantly lower levels of depression (M = 4.1, p < .05) than couples
in the F-high/M-low group (M = 6.0, p < .05). Again, neither group reported scores in the
clinically depressed range. Although in the well-adjusted range for marital adjustment, couples
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with low scores on accepting responsibility (i.e. both engaged in minimal self-blame) reported a
higher level of marital adjustment (M = 122.6, p < .05) when compared to couples in which men
engaged in high levels of self-blame (High/High M = 117.1, p < .05, F-low/M-high M = 119.1, p
< .05). Men in these couples reported higher levels of adjustment (M = 123.1, p < .01) when
compared to men in couples who accepted a high level of responsibility (High/High M = 116.3, p
Table 1.
Distancing
Infertility Stress F-high/M-low Low/Low High/High F-Low/M-high
(n=114) (n=114) (n=117) (n=75)
117.6 119.3 120.4 132.1
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Self-Controlling
Infertility Stress F-low/M-high Low/Low High/High F-high/M-low
(n=86) (n=131) (n=124) (n=79)
116.4 118.2 124.2 127.9
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Accepting Responsibility
Infertility Stress Low/Low F-low/M-high F-high/M-low High/High
(n=139) (n=80) (n=85) (n=116)
108.0 122.9 124.2 134.4
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Horizontal lines connect means that are equal (i.e., not significantly different from each other).
For example, for distancing and infertility stress, couples in the F-low/M-high group have
significantly higher infertility stress when compared to couples in each of the other 3 groups.
For distancing and depression, couples in the F-low/M-high group have significantly higher
depression scores compared to couples in only the Low/Low and F-high/M-low groups.
Discussion
The purpose of this study was to explore the coping processes of men and women
experiencing infertility and their relationship to infertility stress, marital adjustment, and
depression. This study is the first of its kind in that it identifies key couple pairings across
coping strategies that had significant relationships to partner reports of infertility stress, marital
adjustment, and depression. The study adds to the infertility literature by studying the couple as
the unit of analysis and answers a call by researchers to increase the number of studies that
examine the systemic nature of coping and the interplay between spouses’ responses to infertility
stress (Greil, 1997). The study identified three key coping strategies–distancing, self-controlling,
and accepting responsibility–that were significantly related to couples reports of infertility stress,
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marital adjustment, and depression. The discussion will highlight these coping patterns and
Distancing (M-high/F-low)
A key coping dynamic was discovered among couples in which men distanced
themselves from the infertility while their partners did not. Men who used distancing to cope
with infertility reported making light of the situation, refusing to get too serious about infertility,
and living their lives as if nothing had happened. This couple pairing, accounting for
approximately one in five couples, was especially difficult for the female partners.
The negative impact of men’s frequent use of distancing when coupled with a partner
who rarely uses distancing is particularly evident when comparing the scores of women in the F-
low/M-high to women in the low/low group. While one would anticipate the women’s scores to
be relatively equal (since women in both groups engage in relatively minimal distancing),
women in the F-low/M-high group report increased infertility stress and depression scores when
compared to women in the low/low group. This supports the idea that for women in the F-
low/M-high group, their partner’s increased use of distancing related to increases in their levels
of infertility stress and depression. These data could also be interpreted by looking at men’s
scores in the F-low/M-high group and comparing them to men in couples who use distancing
coping techniques less frequently. For men in these couples, their scores of infertility stress and
depression remain constant, indicating that their high or low use of distancing does not impact
their own individual stress and depression levels. However, women in couples where men use
infrequent distancing report significantly lower scores of infertility stress and depression when
Beaurepaire and colleagues (1994) suggested that when coping with infertility, some
coping strategies may be individually beneficial, but may become aversive when they contrast
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with a strategy used by one’s partner. For example, although a husband’s suppression of
emotions may reflect a personally adaptive response, it may have a negative impact on his wife.
She may feel that he does not share her distress and is not equally committed to having children.
The elevated levels of infertility stress and depression for women in this group may be the result
of feeling unsupported by their husbands who cope by trying to minimize the seriousness of
infertility (Williams, 1997). It is not uncommon for men and women who are coping differently
from each other to view their partner as uncaring, resulting in increased infertility stress (Draye,
group. Levin et al. (1997) found that when the man used a high degree of emotion-oriented
coping (e.g., distancing) his partner reported the lowest levels of marital satisfaction. Current
findings are also consistent with prior research which found that when coping between partners
is characterized by a lack of emotional intimacy and acceptance, the quality of the marital
Self-Controlling (F-high/M-low)
A second key dynamic occurred in couples in which females engaged in a high degree of
emotional and behavioral self-control while their partners engaged in a low degree of self-
control. This couple pairing accounted for approximately one in five couples. Women who
frequently used self-controlling coping kept their feelings to themselves, kept others from
knowing how bad things were, and tried to keep their feelings from interfering with other things
in their lives. Couples experiencing the F-high/M-low dynamic reported significantly higher
levels of infertility stress than couples where the female used low amounts of emotional self-
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control, and significantly higher levels of depression than couples in the F-low/M-high self-
control group.
As with the distancing dynamic, it appears that when one partner copes using self-
controlling strategies, it directly impacts the other partner’s reports of infertility stress and
depression. This was particularly true for men when their partners use self-controlling coping
strategies. Men in the F-high/M-low group reported higher levels of infertility stress when
compared to men in couples in which their partners used a low degree of emotional and
behavioral self-control. These findings are consistent with Stanton et al’s findings (1992) that
wives who used more self-controlling coping had husbands who were more distressed.
In addition to increased infertility stress among male partners, the F-high/M-low self-
Couples in the F-high/M-low group exhibited poorer marital adjustment than couples in each of
the other three groups–the only time this was found among marital adjustment in the study.
The decreased marital adjustment may be related to the discrepancy in each partner’s use of self-
controlling coping. For example, men in the F-low/M-high couples may feel pressure from their
spouse to be protective about information related to the infertility experience, while they, on the
other hand, may feel a desire to share this information with others. This contradiction between
the partner’s coping style may fuel marital conflict which decreases adjustment. A second
possible explanation for the decreased marital adjustment in couples using the F-high/M-low
coping dynamic is related to partner support. Since females in the F-high/M-low group are less
likely than females who use low amounts of emotional self-control to communicate with their
partner or others about their infertility stress, both members of the couple fail to receive the
benefit of support from their partner and from others which is a critical element of the coping
process (McDaniel, Hepworth, & Doherty, 1992). O’Brien and DeLongis (1997) found that if a
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spouse is unavailable to offer support and understanding regarding the difficulty of coping with a
stressor, support received from other sources is not an adequate replacement. And finally,
decreased marital adjustment in these couples may be related to a woman’s emotional isolation
that is likely to accompany this coping dynamic. For example, women who attempt to control
their emotional and behavioral reactions to infertility may prevent their partner from hearing
about significant emotional distress. This creates a potential barrier to emotional cohesion and
However, the opposite of this coping style (F-low/M-high) does not appear to produce the
same negative results. When females engaged in low amounts of self-controlling coping
strategies and their partners engaged in high amounts, the couples were likely to report lower
levels of infertility stress and depression and higher levels of marital adjustment. Couples in
which men use more self-controlling than women may reflect the more common and traditional
dynamic in which men are less likely to discuss their problems and women are more open to
expressing discomfort and sharing their difficulties. Studies have indicated that males were
much less likely than females to confide in others regarding infertility (Daniluk, 1997). As a
result, the F-low/M-high dynamic may appear normal and more acceptable to the couple and,
related to infertility as well as one’s attempt to correct the problem (e.g., “criticized or lectured
myself,” “realized I brought the problem on myself,” “I made a promise to myself that things
would be different next time”). Couples in this study who tended to assume a high degree of
responsibility for their infertility, reported the highest amount of infertility stress and lowest
levels of marital adjustment. On the other hand, when both partners did not accept sole
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responsibility for the infertility (e.g., low/low group), they reported the lowest levels of infertility
stress and the highest amounts of marital adjustment. For accepting responsibility, 28% of
couples were in the high/high group, while 33% of the couples were in the low/low group.
Although studies have examined the relationship between accepting responsibility and
coping individually with infertility, less is known about how a couple’s use of accepting
responsibility impacts a couple’s distress. In a study examining how individuals cope with
infertility, a strong relationship was found between accepting responsibility and increased
emotional distress (Stanton, 1991). For couples who both accept responsibility, this relationship
appears be heightened. One possible explanation could be that when both members of the couple
accept blame, couples feel unable to console and support each other when experiencing the
feelings of guilt and hurt that are associated with accepting blame for their infertility. When at
least one member of the couple does not accept responsibility for the infertility, this appears to
have a buffering effect on the couple’s reports of infertility stress and marital adjustment.
It is noteworthy that the most favorable outcome is found when neither partner assumes
blame for the infertility. This dynamic is important for both males and females. When neither
partner assumed responsibility for the infertility, men reported lower levels of infertility stress in
comparison to men in the other three groups. Similarly, when neither partner assumed
responsibility women reported lower levels of infertility stress in comparison to women whose
partners accepted a high degree of responsibility. Research examining the coping process of
accepting responsibility for infertility has found that men and women may accept blame in an
effort to protect one’s spouse from additional stress-related burdens (Tennen, Alleck, &
Mendola, 1991). The current study appears to show that removing this protective function by
both partners refusing to accept responsibility may be the best coping strategy of all.
Limitations
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It should be noted that the current study contains a number of limitations. First,
participants represent only a sub-set of couples experiencing infertility whose earlier treatments
have failed and who have made a decision to pursue in vitro fertilization. While approximately
75% of couples will pursue some form of infertility treatment (e.g., medication, surgery, etc), it
is estimated that only 3% of infertility services are accounted for by IVF and other assisted
reproductive technologies (American Society for Reproductive Medicine, 2005; Sadler & Syrop,
1987). Thus, the findings from this study are limited in their generalizability to couples pursuing
in vitro fertilization. Reactions and coping processes might be different for couples in other
phases of the infertility experience or who are pursuing other forms of treatment (e.g.,
Second, the research design and multivariate analysis used in the study do not allow for
causal relationships to be determined between the independent and dependent variables. Thus, it
is difficult to determine if the coping patterns used by couples reduce negative outcomes, or if
patterns. Future studies which use more highly controlled research designs would be useful in
Third, due to the cross-sectional design of this study, the analysis fails to capture the
impact of time on infertility treatments. Berg and Wilson (1991) have shown that infertility
treatments longer than 2 to 3 years typically result in negative outcomes such as decreased
marital satisfaction. On average, the current sample indicated that couples in the study had well-
adjusted marriages. This characteristic of the sample is consistent with claims that participants
in infertility research studies are those whose marriages have survived the initial stress of
infertility and who proceed to advanced treatment on a self-selected bias of high cohesion.
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Fourth, the findings regarding depression and marital adjustment should be regarded as
preliminary and should be interpreted with caution. For the majority of couples in the study,
they reported minimal levels of depression and normal levels of marital adjustment. Although
statistically significant results were found using the MANCOVA analysis, the clinical
significance of these study findings must be examined. These scores can likely be explained due
to timing factors (e.g., couples completed the measures prior to treatment when they are more
hopeful about the possibility of treatment) and also to social desirability factors (e.g., couples
want to make a good impression at the medical treatment clinic so they won’t be denied
services). It is interesting however, that even though the majority of couples were well-adjusted
and non-depressed, statistically significant differences were found in the sample. Although these
couples were well functioning prior to their first treatment cycle, it would be interesting to
examine these coping processes during a more distressing period (e.g., following a treatment
failure). Such studies may find greater group differences and expand on the preliminary findings
in this study.
Fifth, while specific data on race and ethnicity of study participants were not collected, it
is estimated that the sample was comprised primarily of patients who are Caucasian reflecting
the Canadian population during those years (Newton et al., 1999). As a result, minority groups
are underrepresented, which is a limitation in the majority of studies examining infertility (Greil,
1997).
Finally, because 80% of the sample had a female factor diagnosis (e.g., tubal factors,
endometriosis), participants represent only a subset of the infertility population. It has been
estimated that 40% of infertility is attributable to females, 40% to males, and 20% to a
combination of male and female factors (Robinson & Stewart, 1996; Wright, Allard, Lecours, &
Sabourin, 1989) although this distribution is rarely found in research studies (Ulbrich, et al.,
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1990). Ulbrich et al.speculated that the underrepresentation of males in infertility research may
be a function of men being more reluctant to discuss their infertility and seek social support. It is
likely a similar dynamic is occurring here, but further research is needed to assess the frequency
of male-factor infertility and the reasons why men diagnosed with infertility choose not to pursue
Many clinical approaches to working with infertility fail to take into account the
relational and systemic nature of the experience. Instead, therapists commonly view infertility as
an individual problem, which often leads to unsatisfactory outcomes (Greil, Leitko, & Porter,
1988). Such approaches to therapy fail to take into account the complex interpersonal
relationships that are often found among couples coping with infertility.
However, in recent years, systemic clinical approaches have been emphasized to help
couples more successfully adjust to the infertility experience. Newton (2000) writes about
Diamond, Kezur, Meyers, Scharf, & Weinshel (1999) use a narrative approach to help couples
re-story their experience and work through a series of predictable stages in the infertility
experience. The current study suggests that couples coping patterns using distancing, self-
cognitive-behavioral strategies and techniques restory the intended experience of infertility might
be helpful interventions to use when working with couples using these coping patterns.
For clinicians who work with infertile couples, integrating the findings from this study
into their treatment can assist couples in moving away from negative coping patterns to coping
patterns that are related to reductions in infertility stress and depression and increases in marital
adjustment. For example, findings from this study showed that coping strategies may benefit the
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individual but negatively impact the partner. Clinicians can use this information to alter negative
relationship dynamics which occur when one partner is coping using strategies which have a
deleterious effect on his or her partners functioning. For example, this study found that couples
where the female engaged in a high degree of emotional self-control and the males used a low
degree of self-control had lower levels of marital adjustment. In this situation, clinicians could
help the couple understand the mutuality of the problem. The therapist could help the couple to
see how each partner’s behaviors impact the other by discussing how the wife, by keeping her
feelings to herself and not involving her husband, may trigger negative emotional reactions in
her husband. Likewise, a husband who discloses how difficulty the infertility experience is to
others may further increase the wife’s use of self-controlling coping strategies.
A similar rationale could be used for couples where the man distances himself from the
experience of infertility where his partner does not, and for couples who both use a high degree
of self-blame to cope with infertility. Using the findings from this study, therapists can help
couples alter their coping patterns to either promote or discourage any of the dynamics that were
Findings from this study also point the direction to future research which may benefit
couples experiencing infertility. First, the creation of a new instrument which measures
(WCQ) helps one to understand the coping processes of individuals and couples experiencing
certain stresses, some of the items appear to have little relevance to couples experiencing
infertility. This new instrument could be developed in conjunction with the Fertility Problem
Inventory (FPI) so that various types of coping could be linked with specific forms of infertility
stress.
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Future research that examines the impact of coping with infertility stress in understudied
populations (e.g., minorities, couples not pursing treatments) is also needed. Findings from such
studies would be valuable in identifying the relationship between infertility and coping among
minority couples and those who do not pursue treatment. In addition, studies which examine the
relation coping processes of couples pursuing other forms of infertility treatments (e.g., tubal
surgery, artificial insemination, etc), would be valuable in helping further the understanding of
the coping processes of couples dealing with the unique stresses of other treatments.
Qualitative studies that examine the coping processes of couples experiencing infertility
would be of great value. These studies could help reveal the complex processes of coping with
infertility and could shed additional light on the couple groupings that reported positive
outcomes (low/low accepting responsibility), as well as those that reported negative outcomes
Finally, future research could include longitudinal studies that track changes in couples’
coping strategies over time. Coping strategies that appear ineffective at the early stages of
treatment may prove to be effective given a new set of circumstances. If longitudinal designs are
not possible, cross-sectional designs that replicate this study using couples experiencing
infertility who are not pursuing treatment or who recently completed treatments would be
valuable. This would allow researchers to more fully understand the relationship between coping
and infertility stress, marital adjustment and depression across the various phases of the
infertility experience.
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