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different from what we are used to
to see people talking these days,
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we are very used to seeing self-esteem
always closely linked to issues of appearance,
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physical appearance, for example, the shape with a
person really esteems his own person his own
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individuality your own self
right, and before starting today's class I already want
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ask you how much you have esteemed yourself
lately, how much of your time have you donated to yourself.
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I know it sounds like a question one
little complex right, and abstract but it is very simple
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much simpler than it looks, maybe it's
confused there in your mind because you really
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aren't used to wondering if you're
or it's not being your priority, right, at least
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some moment of your day, of your week and I already
I'm imagining your first instinct, maybe it is
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say "But Renata I don't have time, I don't have time
for me, how am I going to take care of myself from so many things that
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I have to do during the day, right?"
I have this to do, I have that to do,
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I have to cook, I have to take care of
son, I have to finish my cbt, it's not that I don't want to
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take care of me, it's just that I just don't have
how to do it, but I want you to know that you are
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in front of a person who has already thought and already spoken
these phrases, right, I was also that person and I had
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this same speech ready with these same
apologies and yes, I understand you, I don't have network
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support for example just me and my husband to
take care of my children, my activities, my job
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of my company, and of me, but understand I'm not
here, for you to delegitimize you, right, to delegitimize your difficulties,
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everyone knows exactly where the callus
squeeze, I know that, but I'm here to tell you yes,
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it is possible to take the reins of your life,
I'm also a wife, like you, I'm a housewife
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like many your mother has two children, I even have
a baby he turned 1, I'm a businesswoman I'm
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friend, I'm a daughter, and I'm multitasking, just like
you, but what separates me from the woman I am today
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for a woman a few years ago, it's all these
sorry, and the decision I made not to be hostage
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of a stereotype that society has created, it is
fact that at some point in history we women ended up
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hugging right, much more task than
apparently we could handle it and we do, right,
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and there is indeed a pattern that was instinctively
structured by society to represent not only
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but mainly it's through clothing, right,
how we should be, or is it within each of the
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situations of our day to day and have to give
account of everything but I'll take you inside
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some situations of our day to day and make you
some questions, and I want you to stop, think
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quickly at the first thing that comes to your mind
right in your first visual memory, whatever comes into your head
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OK? So situation 1: Sunday morning, you
won't work outside the home, so you decide to invite
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your closest family to come
lunch at your house, a more intimate lunch, brothers
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nephews, father and mother, the house is ok, right, you just
need to tidy up a pat there and
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start cooking your dishes, right, the guests
as they are family they begin to arrive a
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little earlier than expected; what is the clothes
what are you wearing when they arrive? Second situation:
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Will you take your child to school
very quickly, right, it's not a routine thing
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in the morning, he is already 13 years old, so usually you
he just needs to stop the car he opens the door and gets out of the car
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to go on with life, right, and you go away
but today his teacher saw you coming and made a sign
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"Mom come here I want to talk to you,
quickly." What's the outfit you're wearing?
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this outfit you're wearing, caused some
embarrassment, because you had to get out of the car
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or were you well prepared? Situation
three: Cleaning day, and just like me and many other women
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you are the main responsible
because of the activities in your house, your husband is at work,
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the children are at school, or with their grandparents,
so today you made that day, took that day for that cleaning
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from head to toe at home, end of the day the house is ok
an earring, and you take a shower and wait for your husband
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get home maybe. What is the outfit you
use to stay at home, and what was the clothes that
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were you using to clean the house? if your
husband looking for you now to cuddle
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give it a cuddle, what is the lingerie you
are you using? Answer me with all sincerity in the face of these
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scenarios there, you answered more times than
would I be wearing something embarrassing and not prepared?
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Or would it be alright for you to find
someone from your work on the street, right, at school anyway
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if you are not married no problem you can
imagine similar situations, but if you finally
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had to get out of the car out of nowhere and at the supermarket
quickly, you found your crush, right, you would need to hide
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behind the pot behind the shelf
from the supermarket or would you be comfortable with your
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appearance? People I know, it looks like I'm
joking, but seriously the matter is real I'm sure
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that many of you who are watching
this class now, they imagined themselves in these situations with
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political, perforated, unfinished, stained,
messy hair, sometimes not even brushed teeth, right,
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lingerie so ugly you wouldn't even feel feminine yourself
when looking in the mirror so i want to say a word
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just enough, I'm here to tell you that the
same time it takes you to dress this way
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that doesn't add any happiness or
stimulus in your life, it's the same time it takes you to become
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dress in a way that you
feel ready, well to face the day to day and all the challenges
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that will arise in them, and makes all the
difference in the way you take care of yourself, with the way you
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face your life in every situation
in a confident, prepared way that will make you be
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seen in a different way by you, by the
your family, for your husband, for your children, right,
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our image it communicates so much and it's not fair
that a woman who spends all day dealing with so many
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things, with so many tasks, right, be seen
like someone mediocre, right, that people look at and feel that
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she is not capable, that she does not take care of herself,
how will you take care of other things, that the image that she
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communicates sloppily, it is carelessness, it is from whom
you really can't handle yourself, so who were you when you
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had no children, for example.
how did your husband find you when you were
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just girlfriends, right, or when you were there
in that phase of conquest, right, how you used to dress,
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how would you like to dress now?
If you had the opportunity to change your wardrobe
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with someone what would your clothes be like? Who
are you when you look in the mirror now do you recognize yourself?
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Did you spend most of the time?
your sloppy day, not just your sloppy day of your life,
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and when you get dressed it looks like you
it's set up, right, people even ask "where are you going?"
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What reference do your children have?
from you? How do they see you today, do you believe that the
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your current image really communicates what you
you are, the strength you have inside, the potential of who
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you're? I know it's strong, but look I've been
in that situation, and changing changed my life, and for
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finish this class, I can't let you go without you
give me an exercise ok? A homework assignment and I know
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it probably won't be that easy at first
moment but i need your commitment
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with you, with your transformation, we still
it will go much deeper into the wardrobe right,
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we're going to talk about styles, we're going to talk about KIBBE,
several things, but I need that for this beginning right,
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this shock treatment right at the beginning I
I want you to remove all the pieces from your wardrobe
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of a politician, all clothes stained,
all the pieces with holes, all the lingerie that doesn't
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are working for you, it's too wide or
too tight, which is torn, which is punctured, which is
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stained, all socks that have no pairs,
all the shoes that are already tearing, right, they're too worn out,
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looks awful, that you look at and
says "Oh my God, I need a new shoe" I'm not
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asking you to buy anything, I'm just asking
for you to take away what no longer serves you, what
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it's already garbage, it's leftovers, everything that clearly
leaves you a few steps away, right, a distance from your
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best version, as I said we are still going
to go much deeper into this question of the wardrobe,
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and i promise you he will stay
amazing, but that first step I want you
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get rid of what you clearly wouldn't even give away,
I wouldn't even give it to someone else and if it's in bad condition
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of use to the point that you don't even want to donate to another
person, it doesn't work for you either, but that's it in this
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class I want you to be able to meet a
a little more, walks a little ahead of knowing
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who you are and especially care
that you are dedicating to yourself and especially
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little daily care in these little things
that I said that you are dedicating to you
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in the next class we will start this self-care in a more practical way and I really
hope
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that you are prepared for this
transformation, but before going to the next class
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do what I'm telling you, you'll feel it
very well, see you in the next class.