UNIT 1. Chapter 2-4
UNIT 1. Chapter 2-4
UNIT 1. Chapter 2-4
E. SELF IN FAMILIES
The kind of family that we are born in, the resources available to us (human, spiritual, economic),
and the kind of development that we will have will certainly affect us.
Human beings are born virtually helpless and the dependency period of a human baby to its
parents for nurturing is relatively longer than most other animals.
In trying to achieve the goal of becoming a fully realized human, a child enters a system of
relationships, most important of which is the family.
Human persons learn the ways of living and therefore their selfhood by being in a family. It is what a
family initiates a person to become that serves as the basis for this person’s progress.
A. ABSTRACTION
There are various definitions of the “self” and other similar or interchangeable concepts in
psychology.
Oher concepts similar to self are identity and self-concept:
Identity is composed of personal characteristics, social roles, and responsibilities, as well as
affiliations that define who one is.
Self-concept is what basically comes to your mind when you are asked about who you are.
Self, identity, and self-concept are not fixed in one time frame.
Carl Rogers
captured this idea in his concept of self-schema or our organized system or collection of
knowledge about who we are.
Theories generally see the self and identity as mental constructs, created and recreated in memory.
Freud saw the self, its mental processes, and one’s behavior as the results of the interaction
between the Id, the Ego, and the Superego.
There are three reasons why self and identity are social products:
1) We do not create ourselves out of nothing. Society helped in creating the foundations of who
we are.
2) Whether we like to admit it or not, we actually need others to affirm and reinforce who we
think we are.
3) What we think is important to us may also have been influenced by what is important in our
social or historical context.
Social interaction and group affiliation are vital factors in creating our self-concept especially in the
aspect of providing us with our social identity;
There are times when we are aware of our self-concepts; this is also called self-awareness;
Carver and Scheier identified two types of self that we can be aware of:
1) the private self or your internal standards and private thoughts and feelings; and
2) the public self or your public image commonly geared toward having a good presentation of
yourself to others
Self-awareness also presents us with at least three other self-schema:
The “actual” self is who you are at the moment
The “ideal” self is who you like to be
The “ought” self is who you think you should be
Self-awareness may be positive or negative depending on the circumstances and our next course
of action.
Our group identity and self-awareness also have a great impact on our self-esteem, defined as our
own positive or negative perception or evaluation of ourselves
One of the ways in which our social relationship affects our self-esteem is through social
comparison:
The downward social comparison is the more common type of comparing ourselves with
others, by comparing ourselves with those who are worse off than us.
The upward social comparison which is comparing ourselves with those who are better off
than us.
Social comparison also entails what is called self-evaluation maintenance theory, which states that
we can feel threatened when someone out-performs us, especially when that person is close to us.
In the attempt to increase or maintain self-esteem, some people become narcissistic, a “trait
characterized by overly high self-esteem, self-admiration, and self-centeredness.”
There is a thin line between high self-esteem and narcissism and there are a lot of tests and
measurements for self-esteem like the Rosenberg scale.
Though self-esteem is a very important concept related to the self, studies have shown that it only
has a correlation, not causality, to positive outputs and outlook.
Programs, activities, and parenting styles to boost self-esteem should only be for rewarding good
behavior and other achievements and not for the purpose of merely trying to make children feel
better about themselves or to appease them when they get angry or sad.
A. EASTERN THOUGHTS
Sees the other person as part of yourself as well as the things you may create, a drama in which
everyone is interconnected with their specific roles
Asian culture is called a collectivistic culture as the group and social relations that is given more
importance than individual needs and wants.
B. WESTERN THOUGHTS
Looks at the world in dualities wherein you are distinct from the other person, the creator is
separate from the object he created, in which the self is distinguished and acknowledged
The Western culture is what we would call an individualistic culture since their focus is on the
person.
C. CONFUCIANISM
A code of ethical conduct, of how one should properly act according to his/her relationship with
other people
The identity and self-concept of the individual are interwoven with the identity and status of his/her
community or culture, sharing its pride as well as its failures.
Self-cultivation is seen as the ultimate purpose of life.
The cultivated self in Confucianism is what some scholars call a “subdued self” wherein personal
needs are repressed (subdued) for the good of many, making Confucian society also hierarchal for
the purpose of maintaining order and balance in society.
D. TAOISM
Living in the way of the Tao or the universe
Rejects having one definition of what the Tao is
Rejects the hierarchy and strictness brought by Confucianism and would prefer a simple lifestyle
and its teachings thus aim to describe how to attain that life
The self is not just an extension of the family or the community; it is part of the universe.
The ideal self is selflessness but this is not forgetting about the self; it is living a balanced life with
society and nature, being open and accepting to change, forgetting about prejudices and egocentric
ideas and thinking about equality as well as complementarity among humans as well as other
beings.
E. BUDDHISM
The self is seen as an illusion, born out of ignorance, of trying to hold and control things, or human-
centered needs; thus, the self is also the source of all these sufferings.
To forget about the self, forget the cravings of the self, break the attachments you have with the
world, and to renounce the self which is the cause of all suffering and in doing so, attain the state of
Nirvana.