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    LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF

    When you’re happy with yourself, someone else is more able to be happy
    with you.

    You can see why this is true if you imagine the situation from the point of
    view of, for example, your partner. If you’re not at ease with yourself, you’ll
    be edgy and difficult to live with. And that undermines your relationship. So,
    in order to relate well to others, you must first relate well to yourself —
    which means that you need to have a good self-image.

    You must have enough confidence in yourself to make whole-hearted


    decisions. At the same time, you must be kind and sensitive enough to accept
    and respect your own vulnerabilities.

    For most of us, though, there are knocks and setbacks in our past that damage
    our ability to have a good self-image.

    Sometimes, these events have caused deep hurt — so painful that


    psychological mechanisms in our brain have blocked them off. It’s as though
    we’re disowning a part

    of ourselves.

    This next exercise, which can bring about the most wonderful transformation,
    will help to heal those wounds. It’s the best way to set yourself up for a
    healthy romantic relationship, and it’s also one of the most healing and -
    rewarding things you can do if you’re on your own or have recently split up
    with a partner.

    Some people, when they read through the exercise for the first time, have told
    me they’d feel silly doing it, because it involves talking to and holding your
    younger self.

    But every single one of my clients who’ve used this exercise has later
    commented on how powerful it was. And, strangely, it was those who felt
    most awkward about it at first who experienced the most profound changes.

    HEALING YOUR YOUNGER SELF


    1. Remember a time in the past, as long ago as you wish, when you were
    struggling or unhappy.
    2. Picture the scene as an old black-and-white film on a TV screen, and stop
    the action at the point where your younger self was feeling really bad.

    3. Now, imagine that, just like a special effect in a movie, you can float into
    the scene and speak directly to your younger self.

    4. Tell your younger self that you’re from the future and that everything’s
    going to be fine.

    5. Tell your younger self that you love and value him/her completely.

    6. Tell your younger self that you’ve survived, and anything else you know
    now about the unhappy situation that will help him/her feel better about it.

    7. Now, vividly imagine reaching out and comforting your younger self by
    embracing or holding him/her until you feel really warm and loving and you
    sense that your younger self has felt and accepted your love and appreciation.

    8. Finally, place your younger self in your heart so that you can continue to
    feel that love.

    Extracted from I CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY by Paul McKenna, published


    by Bantam at £10.99.
    © 2011 Paul McKenna. To order a copy (p&p free) call 0845 155 0720.

    Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1344167/Secret-happy-relationships-


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