A Valediction Forbidding Mourning by John Donne

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A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning

John Donne

As virtuous men pass mildly away,


And whisper to their souls to go,
Whilst some of their sad friends do say
The breath goes now, and some say, No:
So let us melt, and make no noise,
No tear-floods, nor sigh-tempests move;
'There profanation of our joys
To tell the laity our love.
Moving of the earth brings harms and fears,
Men reckon what it did, and meant;
But trepidation of the spheres,
Though greater far, is innocent.
Dull sublunary lovers' love
(Whose soul is sense) cannot admit
Absence, because it doth remove
Those things which elemented it.
But we by a love so much refined,
That our selves know not what it is,
Inter-assured of the mind,
Care less, eyes, lips, and hands to miss.
Our two souls therefore, which are one,
Though I must go, endure not yet
A breach, but an expansion,
Like gold to airy thinness beat.
If they be two, they are two so
As stiff twin compasses are two;
Thy soul, the fixed foot, makes no show
To move, but doth, if the other do.
And though it in the center sit,
Yet when the other far doth roam,
It leans and hearkens after it,
And grows erect, as that comes home.
Such wilt thou be to me, who must,
Like th' other foot, obliquely run;
Thy firmness makes my circle just,
And makes me end where I begun.
Summary

The speaker opens with an image of good men dying quietly,


softly urging their souls to leave their bodies. These virtuous
deaths are so imperceptible that the dying men's friends
disagree about whether or not the men have stopped breathing
yet.
The speaker argues that he and the lover he's bidding farewell
to should take these deaths as a model, and part ways silently.
They should not give in to the temptation to weep and sigh
excessively. In fact, grieving so openly would degrade their
private love by broadcasting it to ordinary people.
Natural earthly disturbances, such as earthquakes, hurt and
scare human beings. Ordinary people notice these events
happening and wonder what they mean. However, the
movements of the heavens, while being larger and more
significant, go unnoticed by most people.
Boring, commonplace people feel a kind of love that, because it
depends on sensual connection, can't handle separation. Being
physically apart takes away the physical bond that their love
depends on.
The speaker and his lover, on the other hand, experience a
more rare and special kind of bond. They can't even understand
it themselves, but they are linked mentally, certain of one
another on a non-physical plane. Because of this, it matters less
to them when their bodies are apart.
The souls of the lovers are unified by love. Although the
speaker must leave, their souls will not be broken apart.
Instead, they will expand to cover the distance between them,
as fine metal expands when it is hammered.
If their souls are in fact individual, they are nevertheless linked
in the way the legs of a drawing compass are linked. The soul of
the lover is like the stationary foot of the compass, which does
not appear to move itself but actually does respond to the
other foot's movement.
This stationary compass foot sits in the center of a paper. When
the other compass foot moves further away, the stationary foot
changes its angle to lean in that direction, as if longing to be
nearer to its partner. As the moving foot returns, closing the
compass, the stationary foot stands straight again, seeming
alert and excited.
The speaker's lover, he argues, will be like his stationary foot, while
he himself must travel a circuitous, indirect route. Her
fixed position provides him with the stability to create a perfect
circle, which ends exactly where it began—bringing the speaker
back to his lover once again.

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