Getting Along with 0thers

PREUITt|l

E Read the website.

A Eetter \bu
If you're like most people, then there are probably a few
things you'd like to change or improve in your life.
Check out this list of the most common resolutions that
people make. Notice any of yours among them? Click
on any that sound familiar for links that'll help you
follow through with your good intentions.
Pk\t$iqel tr{ee,lth
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* Spend more time with loved ones.
Ixerc]:c
What fun is life if you don't share it with the people you care about most? If you
Nrrlrilion don't have enough time for them, then you've got to make time. They'll appreciate
it, and you'll reap the benefits, too.

*rtal *a*th r, Get in shape.

t.i.,li.rl, r You'll look and feel better if you start taking care of your body. The health
lTfilst iiaiiirttrcl benefits of regular exercise are substantial, and maintaining a healthy weight is
Sirppori 6rrui:i vital to reducing the risk of illness and increasing longevity.
Ti:ei;rrr
r, Help others.
Whether it's teaching a child to read, volunteering in your community, or building
a house, there are so many ways to make a difference in someone's life. Charitable
organizations always welcome donations of time, money, and talent.

Manage your money.

Is money a big source of stress in your life? Whether you want to get out of debt,
increase your savings, or just start spending more sensibly, there are lots of ways
to get a handle on your finances.
Manage your time.
Not enough hours in a day to get everything done that you need to? That may be
true but ,vou can still accomplish a lot by simply prioritizing your activities and
carefulll' planning when and how often to do each one.
Break a habit.
\\herher it s smoking, drinking too much coffee, or spending beyond your means,
manv cr us har,e habits that are self-destructive. Willpower is the key to fighting
habi;s i:a: br:E us temporary pleasure but can cause harm in the long run.

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 Now read the interviews. For each person, choose the nesolnrtfron on the website that
best matches the person's goal or situation.
',. "l ."My goal?That'seasv'. Iv,anttoit ntc:rEs, l r,orewhenIgotmarried. Itried
: the suit on last week, and I coLlldn't e,,er cJttorr llhe vest. l've only been married
) a year and a half! I think every guv t[rinxs f.e's jr.lst a few sit-ups away from a flat,
,' washboard stomach. lt was a shock to see hor, rnuch weight l've gained in such a
, short time."
:' -lared Strong, Colgory, Conodo

2. "l'm really fortunate that I had the opportunity to receive a good education. I know
that there are lots of kids who weren't as lucky as I was, and l'd like to do something
to give them a chance to learn. Maybe I could volunteer at a local school as a
reading or math coach."
-Amola Singh, Mumbai, lndia

3. "l spent my twenties focused on getting the next big promotion, more
responsibility at my job, and a higher salary. Now I look back and realize that
my job was my whole life. From now on I want to spend more evenings and
weekends with my family and start accepting my friends' invitations to get
together."
-Christobol Valenzuelo de Borros, Lima, Peru

4. "l make a decent salary, but I just can't

save up enough money to buy my own
home. Everything I earn gets spent on clothes, nice restaurant meals, and movies.
I wonder if l'm handling my finances as wisely as I could.,,

-Fumiyo lkedo, Nagoyo, lapon

Z wg Ag&alT 6J? Answer the questions.

1. Do you think any of the resolutions on the website might be helpful to you? Why or why not?

2. Do you ever make resolutions about things in your life that you'd like to change or improve?
lf so, have you been successful in following through with these goals?

38 UNIT 4
E Read the situations. Then identify the shortcoming that each person needs to overcome.

a perfectionist controlling hot-tempered oversensitive

a procrastinator disorganized negative

1. Tanyaspendsmoretimelookingforallthethingsshe'll needtodoaprojectthanshespends
working on the project itself. Nothing is where she thinks she left it or where it should be. She's

2. With the due date for a big assignment quickly approaching, Trevor just can't seem to make himself
do it. He'll do anything to avoid it, even clean the house, do the laundry, or go to the gym-activities
that he normally hates. Trevor is

3. You can't criticize Pam at all. She gets hurt or angry if you say even the smallest negative thing to
her. Even if you're not criticizing her, she takes it the wrong way. Pam is

4. It's not fun to be in the car when Loren is driving. He gets angry at the other drivers over the
smallest things. lf someone drives too slowly, or turns without signaling, he gets red in the face and
starts yelling. lt's annoying. Loren is

5. Bruce seems to have a hard time focusing on what's good about a situation. He tends to see the bad
things about it, or all of the things that could go wrong. Bruce is

6. Janet needs to be in charge of everything. She can't let her employees make decisions for
themselves, even about small things. Janet is

7. David never seems to be happy with his artwork. He's a great painter, but he always sees how he
could have made each painting better. David is

Y W ? Answer the questions.

1. Describe a time when you (or someone you know) lost your cool.

2. What kinds of things can set you off?

3. Have you ever told anyone off? Has anyone ever told you off? Explain.

4. Have you ever had to walk on eggshells around someone? Explain.

5. Has anyone ever taken something out on you unfairly? Explain.

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 Write sentences using even if or whether or not
and a clause from column 1, combined with a
clause from column 2.

1. we had set an alarm she still tends to feel hurt

2. you don't mean to criticize Ellen my room still ends up being a mess
3. you tell Daniel his work is excellent we still would have missed the bus
4. it's not a big deal my boss will still make a big issue out of it
5. I try to be organized he will probably tellyou how he'd like to improve it
6. I had brought the issue up privately Jen would probably still have overreacted

1.

2.

3.
4.
5.
6.

tr Complete the sentences, using only if.

1. Onlv if you get started ns\N will you have time to finish the job.
2. Tom will succeed in controlling his temper works hard at it.
3. Jennifer gets more organized get a promotion.
4. Your problem will affect your career make a big issue out of it.
5. Tony will do well thinks positively.
6. I write a note to myself remember to run that errand.

# tLH K Now rewrite the sentences above, reversing the order of the clauses.
l.
2.
3.

4.
5.
6.

40 UNIT 4
Z Choose the correct word or phrase to complete each sentence.
1. he apologizes foryelling at me, I rvon't help him with his project.
a. Unless b. Only if
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2. Canyou call me at6:30tomorrow morning? afraid l'll sleep in.
a. Unless b. Otherwise
-,|'m
3. _ it makes you uncomfortable, I still think you should tell him what's bothering you.
a. Even if b. Only if
4. We won't make it to the airport on time we leave right now.
a. unless b. if only
5. Things are going to change, we're ready.
a. unless b. whether or not
6. Only if you learn to control your temper succeed at this company.

a. willyou b. you will

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7. lhavetoputthingsawayassoonasl'mfinishedusingthem.
a. Whether or not b. Otherwise
-,lforgetwherelleftthem.
8. Jack loses his temper easily, he usually calms down pretty quickly.
a. Even if b. Only if
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Rewrite each sentence as a cleft sentence with lvhat. Use the correct
from of be.
1. I don't understand procrastination.
Whatl Aon'I vnder<fand i<
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2. I love getting surprised with flowers.

3. You need a day off.

4. The dozens of people who visited Eileen at the hospital made her happy.

5. Seeing so many people at the reception made me grateful.

6. I didn't expect the many rules and regulations here.

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 tr Combine each pair of sentences by writing a cleft sentence with What and a noun
clause subject complement.
1. You were late for the presentation. lt bothered me.

2. James is so sensitive. lt surprises me.

3. You need to be more organized. That's what she means.

4. I really appreciated your help yesterday. That's what I was trying to say.

5. We didn't know anyone at the party. lt made us uncomfortable.

6. You need to be more easygoing. That's what I think.

@l Rewrite each sentence as a cleft sentence with lt.

1. Max made us late.

2. Yuki's perfectionism annoys me.

3. The fact that you forgot your anniversary made her angry.

4. Karl's negativity bothers his co-workers.

5. Good friends make all the difference.

6. The final exam is the most important.

42 UNIT 4
Read about the people. Then summarize the way each person handles anger.
Use expressions from the box. There may be more than one correct answer.

blow one's top keep it inside lose one's temper

calm down let it go shrug it off

hold it in let off steam vent

Because Joe works as a salesperson, he has to be nice to customers all the time,
even if they really make him angry. When he gets home after a bad day at work,
he sometimes needs to talk to his wife about it. That helps.

Beth found an effective way to control her anger. Whenever she gets mad,
she leaves the office and takes a 10-minute walk. When she gets backto the
office, she's usually in a much better mood and she's better able to deal with her
problem.

After several weeks of being badly treated by his boss, Luis finally got ticked off
and yelled at him. Surprisingly, his boss didn'tfire him. He actually gave Luis a few
days off and began treating him better.

Maggie had a bad day at work today. Several of her clients were rude and yelled at
her. But Maggie's pretty easygoing. She just said, "They can get mad if they want
to. I'm not going to let it bother me."

1. (Joe)

2. (Beth)
3. (Luis)
4. (Maggie)

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@ Read the story.

here once was a woman

who always bought fruit and
vegetables from the same
local farmer. This farmer had earned
a good reputation for the freshness
and tastiness of his produce, which he
delivered himself in an old truck.
Then, one day, the woman planned a
large dinner party. She placed a large
order with the farmer to be delivered
on the day of the party. However, the
day of the party arrived and the farmer
did not deliver the goods as promised.
Without the necessary ingredients, the
woman was unable to cook the wonderful meal that her guests expected. Short of food,
she was embarrassed that many of her guests left her party hungry.

The next morning, the farmer appeared at the door carrying the produce that he had
promised. The woman, unable to control her anger, yelled at the man, calling him
irresponsible and lazy. she threatened to stop buying his products. "What do you have
to say for yourself?" the woman demanded.
The farmer answered,"l'm sorry to have inconvenienced you. r didn't make your
delivery yesterday because my mother passed away."
Ashamed about the way she had spoken to the man, the woman vowed never to
speak in anger again.

Now summarize the lesson that the woman in the story learned about handting anger.
Use the Vocabulary
from Student's Book page 44 or your own words

tr ?4 Y ,,xry' ? Complete the sentences in your own way.

1. When I get ticked off, sometimes I

2. Sometimes I
to let off steam.
3. I sometimes lose my temper when

4. When I need to vent I sometimes

UNIT 4
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 Now answer the questions.
1. Summarize how the writer defines a "real" friend.

2. According to the writer, what are some things real friends do that virtual f riends cannot do?

3. what does the writer mean when she says that a real friend "earns your trust"?

4. Why does the writer feel that online friends can't know the real you?

E 8& && &sV V&&,3? Answer the questions.

1. Do you agree with the writer's description of what a friend is? Would you define friendship any
differently? How?

2. Doyouagreethatvirtual friendscannotbeas"real"oras"good"asfriendswhoarepartofyour
daily life? Explain.

3. Think about your virtual friends and the friends who are part of your daily life. Do you have any
examples to support or refute the writer's opinion? Explain.

Describe one of your friends. What are this person's strengths? ln what ways do you rely on this
friend? ln what ways does your friend rely on you? Which of the qualities of frienasftip iro.
Student's Book page 46 apply to your friendship?

46 UNIT 4
tr Complete the sentences. Circle the correct word or phrase.
1. Although / As long as / Besides she drank coffee for over 20 years, my mother has recently
switched to green tea.
2. The amount of trash produced in this country has dropped. Otherwise / Sttll / In fact, there are
people who throw away things like glass, paper, and aluminum that could be recycled.
3. ln my opinion, the high price of those concert tickets is worth it. That is / Now that / Similarly,
l'd pay $100 to go if tickets were still available.
4. The best ways to lose weight are through a nutritious diet and exercise. Nonetheless / Whereas /
Unless you change your eating and exercise habits, you'll never get results.
5. Donald Frank is an excellent candidate for the job because of his education. While / Moreover /
As a result, he has professional experience in the field.

6. Georgia King is very generous with her time. For instance / Consequently / Furthermore, last
week she volunteered 30 hours at the public library.

E Complete each sentence with a conjunction or transition from the box.

as
as long words
in other nonetheless so

besides likewise now that whether

1. Charlie did poorly at school but was successful in life. his son James was never

a good student but started a very profitable business.

2. we're tested on this information or not, we should still study it. lt could be
very useful later on.
3. Bob Alderson really dislikes public speaking. he does it frequently for his job.

4. People were stressed out for a while. a decision has been made, everyone is

feeling relieved.
5. Clark College appeals to a lot of non-traditional students. night and weekend classes,
the school offers several online courses, which allows people to continue to work while they study.
6. lean Hicks continues at her current pace, she'll easily win the race.
7. Lauren Cook has the best sales record in the company. she's the company's
most valuable salesperson.
8. The department head wanted to show his appreciation for the employees' efforts,
he took the entire group out to lunch.

E Combine each pair of sentences into one sentence. Use the conjunction or transition in
parentheses and the correct punctuation.
1. Harry has only studied ltalian for a year. He is the best student in the class. (however)

2. Karen has a good head for numbers. She's very good at chemistry and physics. (furthermore)

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 3. We'refacing a big challenge. We're managing to stay positive r'e,,er ti-cugh)

4. sharon is saving money right now. She can buy a house in a ferv,r,ears. (so that)

5. I don't really like vegetables. I eat them because they're good for me. (though)

6. Lucia disliked the ring that her husband gave her on their anniversary. She wore it every day to avoid
hurting his feelings. (yet)

Complete the answers with information about yourself and your friends. Complete each answer
with
a cleft sentence with What, using the underlined information.
1. Are you lookinq forward to relaxino this weekend?
Actually,
2. Do your friends like going to concerts?
Actually,
3. Does it bother vou when someone interruots vou?
Actually,
4. Would your friends say that you're oversensitive?
Actually,
5. Do vou eniov exercisino?
Actually,
6. Are you looking forward to spending time with your family this weekend?

Actually,

tr Restate the answers, using cleft sentences with lt to clarify who, what, when, where, or why.
1. A: Did they decide to have the meeting in Boston?
B: (They decided to have it in Houston.) Actually, il was houslon where fhey decided lo have it
2. A: Did you yell at your boss in the meeting today?
B: (ldidn't, butJanie did.) Actually,
3. A: Do long meetings really bother Gretchen?
B: (They don't, but unnecessary meetings do.) No. lt's
4. A: ls the restaurant usually crowded at 6:00?
B: (No, but it's crowded fromT to 8:30.) No, usually
5. A: Are you mad because Tammy interrupted you?
B: (l'm mad because she's always late.) No,

"Don'f askyovrself whatlhe worl[ needs-osk yovrself

whal maket you come alive, anA then 9o do fhof. Becarte
whal the worll neeAs is people who have coz:e ct,ive!'

-Harold Thurman Whitman, cni a:-:r---:-: ---E: :t ?.

48 UNIT 4
 Transitional topic sentences

tr W gKK ; TL3 * You are going to write some tips for making a
Changes:
change. Choose one of the changes in the box or think of your own. Write it . Overcome a
on the line labeled "Change" and then propose three ways of making
shortcoming
the change. . Reduce stress
Change: . Manage anger
. Adopt a new
Ways to make the change:
lifestyle
1. . Your own idea:

2.

3.

I Example:
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I Ways,ta-make !h,e_ shats.et

, !, be, lets erlfjcq) of -ysel.f Wheqllroke mistqker
2. learnto acceTl -yself the wayl am
Presenting contrasting
3. sel realislie goals information
Although
However,
On the other hand, . . .
AT7- On a separate piece of paper, develop each way listed in Eventhough...
Exercise A into a paragraph. Start all three paragraphs with topic
Despite the fact that . . .
sentences. Be sure to use a transitional topic sentence for Nevertheless, . . .
paragraphs 2 and 3.

Presenting additional
E sffi$.p-sx*ffi6x
information
I Oo.t the first paragraph have a topic sentence? Furthermore, . . .
I Oo the paragraphs that follow have transitional topic sentences? Moreover, . . .

More importantly,
I Ooet each transitional topic sentence clearly link to
previous content?

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