It Guy From Work
It Guy From Work
It Guy From Work
PCA
Prof Furuness
Nov 10, 2020
IT Guy from Work
Date: 04/12/14
Hey Girl!
I know, it’s crazy I’m writing you a letter instead of calling or texting, but girl I’m scared.
Ya know that one guy I started dating for about a month or so, the one white guy from my
work, he works in the IT department, yeah so well that didn’t work out. He got a little too clingy
and attached too fast. I feel a bit bad because he said he loved me after the middle of the
third week of dating, and ideally that would be perfect for my situation (after finding out about
testing positive for the BRCA gene and the doctor telling me that I only have about a year or
so to have a child without freezing my eggs). Anyways, him telling me he loved me that soon,
I still took as a red flag, cause even though I have to have a kid soon, to say you love
someone that quickly... you know something is off. Moral of the story, I’m not with him
anymore, and the breakup was easy but almost too easy, and I think I know the reasoning for
that now. I think he hacked into my computer and phone!!
The other day I was talking to my parents on the phone about setting up an arranged
marriage, AT HOME, and he said something really weird to me today at work. HE SAID,
“Letting a stranger into your house is dangerous. You don’t know their intentions until it is too
late.” I MEAN THE AUDACITY. My parents had an arranged marriage back in India and they
are great. Also it's not like my parents are going to set me up with some bad guy. I trust their
judgement and there is a pretty intense process to setting up these arranged marriages.
There are interviews and parents meeting family, all that stuff he obviously doesn’t
understand the culture. I can’t believe this guy and that I dated him! EWW! And maybe I’m
jumping to conclusions about what he said, but I haven’t spoken about this to anyone else
other than my mom and dad, HOW WOULD HE EVEN KNOW TO SAY ANYTHING ABOUT
MY DATING LIFE. IT'S SUPER CREEPY AND I'M FREAKED OUT, so I’m just going to
communicate in person or by letters for the time being until I feel safe again.
The fact that he said something about “letting a stranger into my house” right after I
talked with my parents about arranged marriage the night before makes me a bit suspicious.
He also asked me out two days after I heard back from my doctor. The timing just feels too
coincidental. I think he has been doing this for a lot longer than just after we broke up!!
UGHHH I get the shivers by just thinking about how gross this is!
Sadie I’m scared and don't know what to do, I’ll write you with an update soon. But at
least on a happier note, be prepared and get ready to plan my bachelorette party! (One
American tradition that I will most definitely be using).
Love you,
your girl,
Neena <3
Date: 04/14/14
Sadie,
Sorry I know you probably are busy, and since my phone is off you probably think I am
too. Not sure if you have gotten my first letter yet it may be still in-transit to your place, if you
have gotten the letter then yours is probably on its way. I mean it does take a few days to get
mail from NY to Dallas and vise versa. Wow letters are strange I haven’t written one with back
and forth conversations in a while. I have gotten too used to texting and email.
Anyways, super premature letter, just wanted to let you know that luckily Steven has
backed off a bit. I tried dropping hints that I was uncomfortable by immediately leaving a room
when he entered and I stopped talking to anyone whenever he was around until he left. So
that's good! I might even start using my phone again soon, but it is still a bit too early to tell, so
I’m going to stick to these letters.
The preparations for the arranged marriage process has been all set up. My parents
are conducting interviews and meeting with other families, all that is left is my parents finding
the guy and setting a date. I wish so badly that I could call you or something because there
are so many things I want to talk about. For starters, I thought I would have more time. More
time to fall in love and spend time with my husband and get farther in my career before having
to think about having kids. I mean I’m only 27! I didn’t ever imagine that I would have to worry
about not being able to have kids this young. I always thought that was a future me problem.
And honestly I would be okay with staying single and just getting a sperm donor to have a kid,
but we both know how traditional my parents are about this type of thing. They would want
nothing to do with me if I did that, and we also both know that there is no way I would even be
able to raise a child by myself right now, I barely have the funds for my apartment in the city
and to maintain my current lifestyle of being a young adult enjoying city living. Obviously, I will
have to say goodbye to going out and stuff, but a child is going to be a lot more expensive
than my current lifestyle, and I would need my parents help if I were to do it alone, so single
and sperm… not a realistic option. I would need their money and time which they would not
give me. Realistically, I am not going to find a man to love me (who I love back) and want to
make babies with me within a one year and a half, and I can't afford the procedure to freeze
my eggs, so arranged marriage is the most logical choice for my situation I guess.
On the plus side I guess no more new york dating! Goodbye weird creeps! But you
need to get a plane ticket and fly out here once everything is finalized! A wedding is on the
horizon!!
Love ya,
Neena :)
Date: 04/15/14
Sadie, okay I know it has only been a day since my last letter but something not right is
happening! YOU NEED TO FLY UP HERE ASAP! If you don’t get another letter from me in
the next 2-3 days call the cops and give them all these letters. I AM POSTING THIS LETTER
in priority mail! If I am in immediate danger I am calling you! STEVEN SHOWED UP TO MY
APARTMENT AND LEFT A BOX FULL OF PICTURES OF ME WITH MY EX BOYFRIENDS
WITH THEIR FACES CROSSED OUT AND EVEN ONE OF MY PARENTS HOUSE IN NEW
JERSEY! I never saw him drop it off but I know it was him! HOW DID HE EVEN GET INTO
MY APARTMENT BUILDING I NEVER BUZZED ANYONE IN?! I think he is threatening me.
What if he is going to hurt my parents or what if he is going to hurt one of the guys my parents
are meeting with for the arranged marriage!?
I went over to my parents house after I wrote your letter yesterday, to follow up with
my parents about prospective husbands. They told me that they have narrowed it down to two
people and family meetings where I will meet the guy’s family will take place sometime next
week to make sure things are a good fit. GOD HE TOTALLY FOLLOWED ME! HE KNOWS
WHERE MY PARENTS LIVE! He wouldn’t hurt my parents right? I mean surely he knows
that would mean that he would never have any chance of anything. I mean there definitely
already is ZERO chance but he must just have an insanely diluted mind to think that he could
think this is somehow going to stop me from getting married. I mean they are orchestrating
the arranged marriage but he wouldn’t hurt them right????