Hiya Amorpropio

Hiya
 “Hiya” (pronounced hee-ya) is an important idea in the Philippines. It literally translates to ‘a

sense of shame.
 Sometimes hiya is interpreted as ‘face’, as in ‘losing face’, but that is not the whole story.
Filipinos are very sensitive to personal affront.
 They try, as much as possible, to avoid feeling “hiya”, a painful emotion or deep shame
arising from a realization of having failed to live up to the standards of Filipino society. It is a
kind of anxiety, a fear of being left exposed, unprotected and unaccepted. It is a fear of
being shunned by their society, which would mean personal humiliation. . For example
Filipno would say ‘Di baling saktan mo ako, huwag mo lang akong hiyain: (I would not mind
if you hurt me physically, just do not shame me). A Tagalog would say ‘Ang sugat ng itak ay
mas mahanay kaysa sa sugat ng masamang pangungusap’ (The wound from a knife is
more bearable than an offensive word). Another Filipino proverb which stresses the
importance of hiya says ‘Kung gumagaling ang isang sugat, di kumukupas ang masamang
pangungusap’ (A wound may heal, but an offensive word never fades away.
 It is the Filipino reaction to anything which is an affront to his honor, dignity, or pride. It
reflects in all his personal relations, as well as how he looks at himself relative to another
individual.

 Hiya” is one value that regulates the Filipinos social behavior. Just as one is very careful not
to be subjected to embarrassment or “mapahiya” one must also make it a point NOT to
cause another person’s embarrassment. For example, in asking favor, both parties are
careful not to offend the other. So if a favor cannot be granted, the person who cannot
oblige apologizes for his failure to do so with an explanation that it is not his intention to
refuse but that other factors beyond his control keep him from doing so. */*
 Hiya is the currency applied within the society, controlling and motivating a person’s social
behavior. This is the reason why a vast majority of Filipinos still remain conservative in their
actions in the modern age. Everyone is expected to have hiya in the way they behave in
order to win respect from the community. Dressing cleanly, being friendly and living up to
your word are good ways avoiding “hiya”.
 “Public ridicule, or to be censured openly, or to fail to do what is expected of one, is to suffer

hiya, a loss of esteem. Inversely, if one has not acted improperly, or continued to behave in
a manner disapproved of by the community, it's to be without hiya o walang hiya. This label
automatically results in the withdrawal of acceptance within one’s group, if not the entire
community. To be charged with not having this sense of hiya is regarded as a grave social
sin, for one to be called “walang hiya” is an ultimate insult.
 Hiya is a controlling element in the Filipino society. A person’s behavior is socially restricted
by his sense of “hiya” while public behavior is censured, or approved of, by hiya. For
example, an employee dismissed from his job may react with violence because of “hiya.” Or
a workmate may not openly disagree with you even if he feels strongly against your opinion
out of “hiya”. For other examples, an employee could refrain from asking questions from his
supervisor even if he is not quite sure what to do, because of hiya. Or a party host may end
up spending more than she can afford for a party, driven by hiya, or the fear of being
perceived of in any negative way.

Filipino "Amor Propio "
 “Amor propio” is Spanish word which means self –love; a sense of self-esteem or self
respect that prevents a person from swallowing his pride.
 Amor propio often implies a vindictive reaction to questioning an individual’s action, integrity,
or honor. Injury is personal and does not need to be shared; it is enough to the aggrieved
person that injury has been inflicted.
 Amor propio is like a high tension wire, which holds an individuals self-respect and esteem
and provides protection from rebuff. Amor propio is not aroused by every insult or offensive
remark, but only by those which hit at an individual’s most highly valued attributes. If amor
propio is aroused, the impulse to hit back physically or verbally often overrides pakikisama
and the desire to avoid violence.
 Amor propio “includes sensitivity to personal insult or affront. A slight remark or offensive
gesture, though insulting, would not trigger a sense of “amor propio”. The stimulus that sets
it off is only that which strikes at the Filipino’s most highly valued attributes. For example, an
abandoned wife will refuse to seek financial support from a husband who has abandoned
her no matter how financially destitute she is on this principle.
 Amor propio in short means ego defensiveness, dignity or one’s personal pride akin to the
traditional oriental attitude of having ‘face’.
 Here In Philippine society, building up one’s self-esteem is essential, and to this end amor
propio in all respect reinforces the Filipino trait “hiya”. To damage another person’s amor-
propio is to invite conflict, even violence; a Filipino is prevented by “hiya” from placing a
person’s self-esteem in jeopardy For example, a bride who stoods up a groom in the altar
places the latter’s “amor propio” at risk and could lead to a conflict between the families of
both.
 A person whose breach of conduct, such as the bride in the previous example, is deemed to
have lost his self-esteem or “amor-propio” may receive the judgment: ‘Basang basa ang
papel niyan sa amin’. (’His public image is shattered with us.’) A literal translation makes
reference to one’s ‘paper’ being ‘wet’, allusions to ‘image’ being presented before the public
being ‘all wet’. Her act is said to be “nakaka-hiya” or shameful.
 Interaction between “hiya” and “amor propio”. A breach of etiquette involving the inter-play
between “hiya” and “amor propio” can be a serious matter and face to face situations
resolving the matter can be too potentially explosive to be handled delicately and
appropriately. . Like for example, a person may hesitate to collect a long overdue financial
debt or item borrowed because to raise the matter face to face may place a person’s amor-
propio at risk and can cause the latter to flare up. Public confrontation can lead to violence.
Filipinos avoiding open confict as matter of amor-propio and honour. Now if you are
wondering why a Filipino hesitates to bring up a problem, or point out that “your slip is
showing”, or call your attention to an anomalous situation, remember that it is hiya in
operation. Filipinos feel uneasy if they are instrumental in making waves, rocking the boat
and exposing someone’s volatile amor-propio to injury. To avoid further confrontation and
damage to one’s “amor propio”, the best solution one can resort to is to get a “go between”.

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 “Hiya” (pronounced hee-ya) is an important idea in the Philippines. It literally translates to ‘a

 “Public ridicule, or to be censured openly, or to fail to do what is expected of one, is to suffer

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