13 Reasons Why Men Cheat

13 REASONS WHY MEN CHEAT
1. Immaturity: If he does not have a lot of experience in committed relationships, or if he

doesn’t fully understand that his actions will inevitably have consequences like hurting his
partner, he may think it is fine to have sexual adventures. He might think of his commitment to
monogamy as a jacket that he can put on or take off as he pleases, depending on the
circumstances.
2. Co-occurring Issues: He may have an ongoing problem with alcohol and/or drugs that
affects his decision-making, resulting in regrettable sexual decisions. Or maybe he has a
problem like sexual addiction, meaning he compulsively engages in sexual fantasies and
behaviors as a way to numb out and avoid life.
3. Insecurity: He may feel as if he is too old (or too young), not handsome enough, not rich
enough, not smart enough, etc. (An astonishing amount of male cheating is linked, at least in
part, to a mid-life crisis.) To bolster his flagging ego, he seeks validation from women other
than his mate, using this sextracurricular spark of interest to feel wanted, desired, and worthy.
4. It’s Over, Version 1: He may want to end his current relationship. However, instead of
just telling his partner that he’s unhappy and wants to break things off, he cheats — and then
forces her to do the dirty work.
5. It’s Over, Version 2: He may want to end his current relationship, but not until he’s got
another one lined up. So he sets the stage for his next relationship while still in the first one.
6. Lack of Male Social Support: He may have undervalued his need for supportive
friendships with other men, expecting his social and emotional needs to be met entirely by his
significant other. And when she inevitably fails in that duty, he seeks fulfillment elsewhere.
7. Confusion about Limerence versus Commitment: He might misunderstand the difference
between romantic intensity and long-term love, mistaking the neurochemical rush of early
romance, technically referred to as limerence, for love, and failing to understand that in
healthy, long-term relationships limerence is replaced over time with less intense, but
ultimately more meaningful forms of connection.
8. Childhood Abuse: He may be reenacting or latently responding to unresolved
childhood trauma – neglect, emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, etc. In such cases,
his childhood wounds have created attachment/intimacy issues that leave him unable or
unwilling to fully commit to one person. He might also be using the excitement and distraction
of sexual infidelity as a way to self-soothe the pain of these old, unhealed wounds.
9. Selfishness: It’s possible that his primary consideration is for himself and himself alone.
He can therefore lie and keep secrets without remorse or regret, as long as it gets him what
he wants. It’s possible he never intended to be monogamous. Rather than seeing his vow of
monogamy as a sacrifice made to and for his relationship, he views it as something to be
avoided and worked around.
10. Terminal Uniqueness: He may feel like he is different and deserves something special
that other men might not. The usual rules just don’t apply to him, so he is free to reward
himself outside his primary relationship whenever he wants.
11. Unfettered Impulse: He may never have even thought about cheating until an opportunity
suddenly presented itself. Then, without even thinking about what infidelity might do his
relationship, he went for it.
12. Unrealistic Expectations: He may feel that his partner should meet his every whim and desire,
sexual and otherwise, 24/7, regardless of how she feels at any particular moment. He fails to
understand that she has a life of her own, with thoughts and feelings and needs that don’t
always involve him. When his expectations are not met, he seeks external fulfillment.
13. Anger/Revenge: He may cheat to get revenge. He is angry with his mate, and wants to hurt
her. In such cases, the infidelity is meant to be seen and known. The man does not bother to
lie or keep secrets about his cheating, because he wants his partner to know about it.

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1. Immaturity: If he does not have a lot of experience in committed relationships, or if he

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