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 Table Of Contents

Section 1 - Understanding the Male

Mental Theater................................................................ 19

Section 2 - The Big Secret of Obsession

Phrases......................................................................... 39

Section 3 - The Razzle-Dazzle Phrases ............................. 53

Section 4 - Everlasting Attraction Phases.......................... 66

Section 5 - The Whiz Bang Phrases.................................. 81

Section 6 - Attraction Spinner Phrases ............................. 95

Section 7 - Obey Me Phrases......................................... 109

Section 8 - Emotional Transparency

Phrases....................................................................... 122

Section 9 - Love Cocktail Phrases................................... 133

Section 10 - Mutual Pleasure Phases.............................. 147

Section 11 - The Monstrous Intrigue

Phrases....................................................................... 161

Section 12 - Secret Fantasy Phrases.............................. 175

Section 13 - Permanent Obsession Phrases..................... 187

Section 14- Subconscious Bonding

Phrases....................................................................... 200

Section 15 - Monogamy Awakener

Phrases...................................................................... 211

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Closing Thoughts......................................................... 224

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 Introduction

My name is Kelsey Diamond, and I’ve got a story to tell – like

most noteworthy stories, it began with hearing the most
ridiculous thing in my entire life.

Have you ever heard something so outlandish that it just makes

you kind of tilt your head like there’s water caught in your ear?

This was one of those moments. As helpless as we are to

explain these bizarre moments that defy all rationale or
standard process, we can’t help but be left in awe by them.

You may or may not have had one of these moments related to
a friend of yours going through an unexpected relationship
issue – the relationship issue may have even been your own.

Whether or not you’ve had to console a friend struggling with

an inexplicable rough patch in their love life, or experienced
such an abrupt and frustrating situation yourself, you can
probably relate to Melanie.

Melanie, one of my best friends in the entire world, had been

with her boyfriend happily for three years – that is, up until the
night that he decided to leave.

She had been going about her day without even the slightest
premonition that anything could be amiss with her love life,
when out of the blue, she found her entire world turned upside
down and shaken violently as carelessly as a bag of potato
chips.

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It was an extraordinarily late hour when the phone rang, the
time of night where the phone only rings if there’s some serious
business waiting to be discussed on the other end of the line – I
picked up the phone and was immediately blown back by a tidal
wave of torrential emotions that can only be produced by a
woman betrayed.

Melanie was on the other end of the phone, shouting her lungs
off and calling her boyfriend all kinds of nasty names.

She used a lot of different words to describe him, some a lot

less family-friendly than others, but there was one recurring
word that stuck out among all of the rest: “pig”.

“He’s a complete pig,” she told me. “A big, fat, stinking chunky
pig.”

Considering how madly in love she had been with this man, to
hear her using such words to refer to him was more than a little
jarring.

I don’t know how long she want on calling him names between
sobs, but by the time it died down, I was confident that the
volume of those insults had just about exceeded every positive
thing that she’d ever said about him before – she had said
many, many positive things about him in the past.

The volume in her voice seemed to be gaining at an exponential

rate the longer our one-sided conversation went on, and after a
bit of time, it sort of sounded like I was listening to a verbal
nuclear explosion go off in slow motion through the receiver.

To say that Melanie was pissed off wouldn’t do enough justice to

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even simply say that it didn’t do it justice.

It seemed like she didn’t only consider her boyfriend a selfish

jerk without care for anyone other than himself – she may as
well have considered him the living embodiment of pure pain,
pestilence and suffering.

When I felt like I could get a word in edgewise, I asked the

safest thing I could think of:

“What’s wrong, Melanie? What’s the matter? Care to explain? ”

She didn’t mince any words in her reply.

“He left me…” she said dejectedly.

I had been ready for her to say he’d done something on the
level of burning down her family home in an psychopathic or
alcoholic rage, but the fact that he’d just casually left her
without warning was even more strange.

They had never shown any signs of turbulence in their

relationship before, which can sometimes be sign of something
explosively bad waiting to happen, but for a couple like them to
just unceremoniously disintegrate without any incident or
fanfare didn’t make any real sense.

I had been curious before, and now I was just plain stunned.

The best that I could do to verbalize my shock and dire need for
further exposition was a sincere, “…What?”

“Are you seriously telling me that he left you Melanie?”

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“Yes! He left me.” She replied in a very convinced tone.

As she expelled the full brunt of her pain to me, I couldn’t help
but be brought back to the same times that I’d found myself in
the same position.

I knew all too well what it was like to have the romantic carpet
ripped out from under you and be left sprawling on the ground
with nothing but the emptying sensation of betrayal and wild
outrage.

I wanted to be able to lend advice to her to help her cope, but I

was helpless myself because I didn’t have any real details on
the situation yet.

But as she explained things further, I got the biggest shock of

my life.

She told me that not only had he just left her out of nowhere
like a snowstorm in June, but he’d even packed his bags and
decided to relocate his entire life into the home of another
woman that he was secretly hanging out with behind Melanie’s
back.

In fact, he just disappeared overnight and left a stupid little

note to explain the reasoning behind what he’d done, or more
accurately, the lack of reasoning.

To put it nicely, he wrote in the letter that he no longer loved

her – to be even clearer, he actually went as far as saying that
he had in fact never loved her at all.

Shocked & disturbed by this letter, Melanie felt like she had

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never really known or understood this man at all.

How could he do this to her, she thought?

Simply put, he had made a half-hearted effort at clarifying why

he had decided to leave her out in the cold, but it had only
served to raise even further questions in Melanie’s head.

But the truth was bitter because the only thing that provided
the most clarity as to what motivated his actions was,
unfortunately, the most upsetting thing of all for Melanie.

And that was this – He had been passively cheating on her for
several months.

Can you imagine how much this must have rattled her world?

Melanie was wrestling with the realization that she had

essentially been in an imaginary relationship for months.

But let me tell you the weirdest thing about it all. Melanie was
the “TYPE” who was on the “Hunt Rader” of every man out
there. Every man hungered to possess her, capture her and do
anything in the world to be with her.

When we were younger, Melanie was the type of friend that you
always have to look to with equal amounts of jealously and
admiration when it comes to physical health.

She seemed to have a supernatural ability to stay at peak

human fitness despite eating everything the rest of us try and
fail at reserving to once a week, and on top of that, her skin
was flawless.

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She had an infectious laugh, a more-than-respectable career,
and an intimidatingly sharp wit – more than a few guys had
found it too intimidating after just one or two dates.

And once she met this guy, my best friend Melanie who was the
shameless demigoddess, assumed the form of a giggling
schoolgirl.

He was shorter, overweight, and would make an eraser head

look sharp, but along with all of these things, he was the
master of making her smile and fret – eventually, he would
prove himself the master of her tears as well.

But! Melanie was in fact way too good for this man and
everyone had been telling her that all along including me.

They were that sort of a couple where people would look at

them and wonder – “What did this man have to do to have a
gorgeous woman like that by his side”.

Even our mutual friends usually had the same reaction when
they saw Melanie and that man together in public: “How did a
guy like him actually end up with a woman as beautiful as
that?”

Plain and simple, even her boyfriend knew that he was

massively lucky to have someone like Melanie in his life.

But they definitely had the right kind of understanding required

to make a relationship thrive. They had the chemistry and the
stability to stay with one another for longer than some people
are even capable of remaining married.

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At the end of the day, in spite of what people would perceive as
their physical attractiveness imbalance, there was no doubting
that it appeared as if they had that something that could make
it work.

Okay, now coming back to the subject at hand…

Over the next few days, Melanie got back in touch with me with
some really disturbing details.

She extracted a lot of information on this new mystery woman

who had stolen her beloved boyfriend and the details were
shocking.

Why was it shocking you ask? Well, because this so called

mystery woman…

Didn’t look that remarkable, didn’t have the stability Melanie

offered & was going through many issues which are too messy
to describe in one book.

The first thing to understand is the most visible aspect – this

woman was not more attractive than Melanie by any stretch of
the imagination.

When I finally got a look at her, I immediately came to

conclusion that she was decidedly the most plain-looking
woman I’d seen in a very long time.

Despite being nothing close to a head-turner, she had managed

to turn Melanie’s boyfriend’s head far enough away from
Melanie to capture him completely within her field.

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At this point you might be thinking that the critical factor must
have been some kind of personality trait the woman possessed
that won out in the end, but not even this was the case.

As a matter of fact, from that Melanie told me, this plain-

looking woman’s personality was messy, unpredictable and she
was known to have “DRAMA ISSUES”.

The more I heard, the more it started to sound like this woman
had actually made it mission to see just how many undesirable
traits she could rack up and still be capable of stealing another
woman’s man away.

This woman had the deadly trifecta of moodiness,

unpredictability, and a string of past broken relationships that
had all ended similarly and badly.

I thought that getting more information about the woman that

stole Melanie’s man away would make things just a tad bit
easier to understand, but instead, it seemed as though the
more I learned, the more confusing things got.

But after many years of research, I was finally able to identify

the core psychological components that contained the answer to
every relationship issue.

And that is something which has inspired me to write this book

for you.

All this time Melanie and I couldn’t quite put a finger on why
her boyfriend would leave a completely secure, successful and
pleasurable relationship for a woman who was completely
messed up and not even as attractive as Melanie.

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But after my research I discovered the truth and it was this –
Feelings don’t have eyes! They don’t occur based on what a
person looks like.

So the false idea that this “Mystery Woman” wasn’t as attractive

as Melanie went straight out of the window & into the trash can
because in reality, looks don’t count that much to a man.

When it comes to feelings, the things that can actually be

physically observed are not as relevant as people think –
contrary to what we may like to believe, feelings do not have
eyes.

The phrase “love is blind” may be cliché, but it’s cliché for no
other reason than the fact that it’s based in truth.

Attraction is blind too.

No matter how much we might train ourselves to deny the

truth, we simply can’t ever consciously choose who we are
attracted to – on the opposite side of the same coin, we can’t
force ourselves to not be attracted to a person either, even if we
make every effort to ensure that we don’t.

Now to be completely honest, physical looks are a factor when

it comes to the degree to which another person can attract us
or the degree to which we can attract another person.

The issue with this line of thought, however, is that people

severely overestimate the impact of looks alone.

While looks do have a measurable effect on the art of

attraction, the true effect of those looks is only about five

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percent.

The other ninety-fivepercent of attraction that we have to

concern ourselves with, which most people make the mistake of
overlooking, is communication.

Believe it or not, our words and the ways we deliver them have
the kind of weight that simply looking good can’t hold a candle
to beyond a first impression.

When I got to thinking about how important genuine

communication is when it comes to creating a relationship that
can legitimately last, the truth behind what had spelled the
death of Melanie’s relationship became much clearer than it had
been before.

The way that the mystery woman had been able to steal away
Melanie’s man had absolutely nothing to do with anything about
her physical appearance in the slightest – that would be the
ideally easy explanation, but in truth, there was something
much more intimate at work behind the scenes.

What had really attracted Melanie’s man to the mystery woman

was actually nothing more than the way she had been able to
communicate with the man.

Melanie, as can be testified by many people other than myself,

was the kind of woman that you could see just about any man
giving more than an arm and leg to be with. But these personal
qualities, however, only ever really go so far.

Physical looks can only do so much for you, but, the way that
you communicate carries massive amount of importance.

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Here is what I further discovered in my research…

With just the right word uttered at the right time, a chemical
process takes place in the male mind which can make him find
a woman 10 to 20 times more attractive than she currently is.

Very few women recognize just how powerful this chemical

reaction can be, and yet at the same time, it affects almost
every one of us, every single day.

Melanie may have grabbed her man’s attention once with her
charming personality and amazing looks, but that still wasn’t
enough to prevent this man from getting attracted to someone
else.

As weird as this sounds, we live in a society which is obsessed

with “Physical Attraction” but no one ever talks about “Verbal
Attraction”.

Honestly, here is my personal promise to you…

If you can learn how to master the art of using words to trigger
attraction, you’ll be able to stand head over shoulders above
other women who don’t have a clue of how effective such a
method can be.

Let’s just take a look at how many seemingly perfect

relationships that gorgeous women like Melanie get involved in
that wind up dissolving out of nowhere – if looks alone were
enough to cement loyalty, wouldn’t these sudden breakups
happen a lot less often?

We all want to be loved by the men of our dreams, but

unfortunately, a lot of us end up resorting to a temporary
solution to lifelong matter – looking good will only get you so

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far.

I can’t tell you how many other women I’ve counseled who
have wound up getting themselves set up for failure by
committing based on a momentary infatuation that mistook for
the real deal.

When I realized these secrets, I finally understood how Melanie

had fallen for a guy who seemed so outwardly low on the shelf
as the man who left her – it was the impact of his words that
set her up on the wild ride to abandonment.

You don’t need to be in a relationship to savor the benefits of

just being a physically attractive catch, but if you want to the
benefits of legitimate commitment, you’ve got to be able to
make impact on a level that transcends beyond what can be
surveyed with the eyes.

Now while using the power of words can certainly help you get
a leg up on the competition, the power of this technique also
makes apparent the massive potential there is to screw your
chances if you use your words poorly.

Here’s the ironic thing about human communication – while it’s

something that colors just about every aspect of our modern
lives, every second of the day, lots of us are spectacularly bad
at accurately expressing how we feel when people say certain
things in passing.

How often have you ever been offended by a person but smiled
through your teeth to keep things from seeming awkward for
everyone around you? Even if you don’t do that yourself, it’s
how most people compensate for not being emotionally
transparent, which in some scenarios, can be downright
practical.

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Knowing this, it’s imperative to understand that everything you
say to a man can have massive effects that go completely
unseen on the surface, sometimes without even so much as a
facial twitch.

With how subtle and powerful your words can be, accepting the
influential power of words endows you with both extreme
capability and also extreme responsibility – play the game
correctly and you’ll get everything you wanted, but neglect the
vital signs and you’ll be left sitting out in the cold in no time.

As a disclaimer, I’ve got to let you know that this book will only
be as effective as your motivation to honestly apply everything
that you take away from it.

If you can make a honest and unshakeable pledge to genuinely

absorb and emanate the sentiment of what I share with you
here in this book, it will almost feel as though you’ve been
transported to an entirely new dimension of your love life.

Something else that’s vital to take away from this is the equally
powerful twinborn partner of words – action.

Words set the stage for success before show time, and after
that, your actions will bring forth the full power of what you’ve
set into place. Make sure to honestly apply everything you learn
here with as much consistent action as you can, and you’ll be
on your way to easy street in no time flat.

Melanie hadn’t explicitly done any one thing wrong, but in truth,
it was what she didn’t do that spelled trouble for her in the end.

She never took into account that communication with her

partner could shed light on the status of her relationship in a
way that easily discernible outward confirmations of romance
never actually could, and because of that, she wound up getting
caught off-guard in the most undesirable sort of way.

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It’s not to say that communication alone is going to make an
inherently destructive relationship suddenly work, but noticing
the power it has to influence the chemistry of you and your
partner will enlighten you to all kinds of other signs that things
may or may not be slipping out of the safe zone.

You will become attuned to the signs that your partner may be
seeking out a deeper connection with someone else, which is an
absolutely invaluable security measure. Now that we’ve covered
the basic foundation for what you’re going to be learning, it’s
time to get down to the first chapter!

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 Chapter 1 – Understanding the Male Mental
Theater.

In my line of work, I’ve coached a small group of women who

are each in need of the answer to a very understandable
question that millions of women across the country have
probably asked themselves at one point or another:

How is it possible for simple words to make a man

actually fall in love with someone?

Some of these women even wonder what makes simple words

capable of swaying the feelings of man to make him like them
even more than he does at the current point in time (or
doesn’t).

The answer to this question can be found in the bare bones

makeup of human psychology.

You don’t need to be a licensed neurologist in order to

understand the basic principles that make the human brain
especially susceptible to being influenced by the spoken word.

Before we’re even familiar with what words even are,our

perspective of the world around us is being molded by
constantly hearing them.

We learn to use words as mediators between what we desire

and what we can feasibly achieve, based in part on the people
around us who are also pursuing and expressing their own
interests with words.

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Knowing how deeply ingrained the power of words are in the
foundation of all of our vastly different societies, our status as
the human race, and as members of the animal kingdom, it
should come as no surprise how powerful words can be in the
world of romance.

Here’s one of the most important things that you need to

understand about how words are able to leave a lasting impact
on the minds of people who hear them:
The auditory element of hearing is only a means to an end, but
what’s most important is the image that the sounds of the
words create when you process the meaning itself.

In short, every time you hear a word, your mind turns that
word into a mental image which you see in the theatre of your
brain.

People oftentimes make the mistake of thinking that it’s the

tone of the words that we speak or the way in which we deliver
them that has all of the importance, but that’s really only
scratching the surface of the complete truth.

The cause of the importance of things like tone and delivery is

where we must direct the full extent of our attention, and that
cause is related to images.

Two identical phrases, simply uttered in subtly different ways,

can create entirely different mental images for the person that
those phrases are directed towards.

Think about what the purpose of the first page of a newspaper

is – it’s to catch your attention as effectively as possible with
three things:

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 1. Heavily-emboldened font
2. A significantly blown-up picture
3. Hard-hitting words.

These three elements all share something in common in how

effectively they can command your attention when you’re
presented with them – each of them are made to appeal to the
parts of your brain that process images.

The dark font and significant size of the headline text

immediately catches your eye, the heavily emphasized photo
sends you right into the heart of the action, the imagery of the
strong words increases the level of immersion into the content.

For the sake of only getting you to read something, the front
page of the newspaper attacks your image-processing faculties
from multiple angles simultaneously – this is done for a reason
that hasn’t changed since the dawn of man.

Our ability to perceive the world around us and construct

hypothetical situations before we act is based on creating
images.

When you know that the cognitive process of developing a

mental narrative is based on the construction of and immersion
within images, you can understand what’s happening on a
molecular level any time that you’re conversing with another
human being – it’s a constant flow of imagined visual stimuli.

In simple terms, every conversation you have with another

human being is an exchange of mental images.

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Now let’s just imagine that we’re having a conversation, and
eventually I mention that I took my dog to the park for a walk.

Pause and think about that for a minute.

After you heard that sentence, what happened?

Did the line, “I went to the park today to walk my dog” flash in
your mind as soon as I finished the sentence, or a little bit
before that?

Or did you actually envision a literal park in your mind that I

could walk through with a dog on a leash?

If you’re like most people, then you didn’t literally envision the
words “I went to the park today to walk my dog” sliding across
an empty space in your mind.

The way that our brains can visually consolidate what isn’t
immediately observable is why we can accurately describe it as
an image-processing machine.

The beautiful thing about this image-processing machine in our

heads is that it essentially operates on autopilot.

When you’re engaging in small talk with a cute guy that you
just met in the coffee shop, everything that you’re saying to
one another is creating an image that gives you a hypothetical
representation of what each other’s lives are like – this forms
the basis for a more significant level of attraction than what
appearances alone can do.

After you’ve just had a lively five minute conversation with the

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cute guy at the coffee shop, the volume of mental images that
were exchanged between the two of you could potentially
compose a mental narrative that could fill half of an entire epic
novel.

You may not even be consciously aware of all of the vivid

images that manifest in your mind from hearing just a few
simple sentences uttered in a particular way.

But you see, that’s just the initial step.

Once you hear something and see a mental image of it, your
mind then respond with adequate “Emotions & Feelings” in
response to that mental image.

When the emotion is created, the third stage of word-image

processing begins: our brain releases a surge of chemicals that
send off alarm systems in the body propelling us to take action.

The emotions that you experience when you’re talking to a guy

that you’re really interested in are literally signs from your body
that are telling you, “Hey! Whatever this guy is doing to you
right now, I like it! Get more of it!”

So if I say to you – “I was crossing the street and had this car
rushing to meet me at 100 miles per hour”, what happens
mentally?

Chances are that you imagined a car coming to meet you at one
hundred miles per hour, and though it may not necessarily be
an overwhelming feeling, you might have gotten twinges of
slight fear as a response.

On a slightly less dramatic scale, let’s look at the times when

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someone says something to you that just rubs you the wrong
way. Have you ever really thought of what it means for
someone to be rubbed the wrong way?

Being rubbed the wrong way means that even though there
may not be an immediate or objective explanation for it,
something about what was communicated created an
unpleasant sensation.

In essence, what has happened with these phrases that rubbed

us the wrong way is that a negative image was presented to our
brains when the words were processed, and it may be formed
based on past experiences or personal feelings.

Even though the words may not have been intended as insulting
or even objectively negative, at the end of the day, only the
image summoned in the mind of the listener matters.

Once again, in simpler terms, certain words have more of an

emotional impact than others and that’s exactly what you’ll
learn when I share my “Obsession Phrases” with you.

However, before I get to all that, I need to further explain that

in our studies of somatosensory sensation (how our body
responds to stimuli), we have discovered that different
emotions actually do physically register in different areas in the
body when you’re experiencing them.

When you’re experiencing fear, that uncertainty will literally be

creating a tugging sensation in the middle your chest or in the
lowest pit of your belly.

Understanding this, it may make a little bit more sense that

words could have as much influence over a person as I’m telling

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you they do.

When words summon strong emotions in the people who are

experiencing them, they’re not just being heard or felt – they
are literally acting upon the person’s biology in a quantifiable,
scientifically-observable way.

So, here is the most important thing I am trying to

convey with all this scientific explanation…

The stronger the image that gets created by the words that are
spoken, the more intense the somatosensory experience of
hearing them is going to be.

A person could feel fear, desire & even love based on how
powerful your words are.

Now do you understand where I’m going with this?

When it comes to falling in love, there’s always the concept of

fantasy that has kept us entrenched in the ebbs and flows of
endlessly-repeating love stories since the dawn of storytelling.

These ideas of the people we’re getting to know for the first
time, and the dreams of doing all sorts of hypothetical things
with them in the future, all of these things are the exact kind of
mental images that we’ve been going over thus far.

It’s not really so complicated when you break it down to this

golden and stupidly simple rule: good images are good, and
bad images are bad – not exactly the head-scratcher of the
century, is it?

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Despite fact of how amazingly simple this is, you wouldn’t
believe how many women don’t even have the faintest shred of
understanding about just how incredibly powerful mental
images are.

Because most women usually stick to most basic words & don’t
know how to add more punch to their conversations.

Without even having the slightest clue of how badly they’re

sabotaging themselves, they use no end of weak and negative
words that create no emotional impact on a man’s mind at best.

And consequently, they aren’t able to get the desired result

from their man.

In fact, here is the kicker…

Sometimes a woman who thinks she’s giving off all of the right
signs could actually be creating an incredibly unpleasant impact
without having any idea about it whatsoever.

Now it’s not to say that none of these clueless women are ever
able to get into stable relationships – quite the contrary.

The problem is however, that these women struggle day in and

day out to get what they want from their man.

Since they fail to take note of the subtle but powerful effects of
their own words, theirs is a life of endless confusion and
struggles with relationship issues that appear to have come
completely out of left field, without warning.

If you can learn how to see past the smallness of individual

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words and phrases and recognize how some words can get you
literally anything you want from a man…

You’ll have slightly better protection against getting blindsided

by unexpected inconsistencies in the ways that a man acts
around you.

Let’s just look at it is this way: consider the impact that

marketing has in the first world. The concept of buying and
selling encapsulates our society so completely that it’s what
many people identify as the foundation of their entire reality.

Now consider the fact that simple words, and words alone,
carry the power to sell a product.

With nothing more than words creating an image in your mind

relevant to the use of the product, you are compelled to go out
and exchange a real piece of your livelihood for the chance of
realizing that hypothetical experience relating to the product in
your mind.

We could spend many days breaking into psychological

consumer complexities, but that’s for another day.
At this point, you now understand the key basics of how words
function in our communicative world.

You know how words trigger certain images and feelings in our
minds to construct a vivid mental narrative that frames our
grasp on reality and the people around us.

So how do you use this basic knowledge in regards to

men and making them fall in love?

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It is now that we’re going to start putting together the most
important part of the puzzle.

Are you ready?

The best way that you can get a man to love you to the point of
just about worshipping you is by using special kinds of words
that can fulfill some of his deepest desires.

The kinds of desires that you’ll be tapping into will be sort that
he goes through most of his day having largely unfulfilled, due
to how much he probably keeps them under wraps on a daily
basis.

Let’s get this out of the way before we go any further:

But when I say “Deepest Male Desires”, some of you ladies are
probably thinking that you already have the answer.

Some of you might being thinking, “Oh! Sex, obviously! I

already knew that before I started reading this.”

Here’s the deal: that line of thinking is only a little bit right, but
mostly off-base. Sex does account for a part of the equation,
but in the grand scheme of things, it’s only useful for solving
about one percent of the entire puzzle.

When you’re ready to start working on the other ninety-nine

percent of the puzzle, you’re going to have to move on past the
sex aspect.

Now before we break down into the meat of what I want to

share with you here today, we’ve got to make sure that

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something is understood before moving on even a step further.

We have to outline what the truth of the matter is with women

who are only desired by their men for sex and little else.

The truth is that when a man desires you for nothing other than
what you can offer him sexually, it means that at some point,
you were not able to fulfill him in some department of his
desires.

Now that may not be something you’d like to hear, but I urge
you to not take personal offense to it – it doesn’t always mean
that it was your fault.

In sharing with you what I am about to reveal, you’re going to

know how to properly gauge a man’s desires before getting in
too deep to understand exactly what it is that he’s interested in
experiencing with you.

When you fully understand what a man desires from you, you
will be much more capable of getting into the kind of
relationship in which you will realistically be able to have mutual
satisfaction with a man who is right for you.

Now before we get too off-topic, let’s return to the concept of

the ninety-nine percent that I mentioned earlier, with sex
composing only the remaining one percent.

The ninety-nine percent is what ninety-nine percent of women

completely miss.

The thing swooping under these women’s radars is the nature of

what their words have to be communicating in order to create
positive mental images for their men that are congruent with

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their desires, and that is what I’m going to help you with here
today.

So taking sex off the picture, here are some of the most vital
male desires you must be aware of before you star using my
“Obsession Phrases”.

The first desire that you’ve got to nail down is the desire for
approval.

Male Desire Number One – He Needs Your Approval and

Validation

Have you ever heard something to the effect of, “everyone is

walking around with an empty cup and expecting someone else
to fill it?”

Believe it or not, this saying is extremely true when it comes to

even the most independent men in our lives.

Approval and comfort are what they desire from women in

general.

A man will build an entire empire to hide this fact inside of, but
at the same time, he is helpless to escape the fact that does
desire to feel validated.

The man, no matter how secure and cool and confident he

appears, is in constant search of something in the form of
approval.

He desires the validation because all of us, as human beings,

are intrinsically validation-seeking beings.

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Every man is seeking out some form of approval from a female
figure from an early stage in childhood, and oftentimes, it
begins with the mother.

Everything we do is, in a way, based on seeking out positive

reinforcement through the things that we enjoy.

Just like you probably have, I’ve heard a lot in my life about
how it is selfish to seek out validation from others and how the
best thing to do is to make sure that we’re always secure
enough in our own skin to be content without anyone’s approval
at all.

Even though it may be unhealthy to need approval on the same

level that an addict seeks out their fix through alcohol or
nicotine or painkillers, simply desiring some form of approval is
completely natural and nothing to be ashamed of.

Men crave approval from women to the degree that you likely
have several men right now who want to feel like heroes in
front of you.

The man wants you to be grateful for the fact that he is a

constant presence in your life, and for that to happen, he needs
you to have an honest understanding of who and what he is.

After you understand exactly what it is that defines him and

how much he wants you to desire him, your choice is whether
or not you make an attempt at fulfilling that desire yourself.

If you can fulfill all of his desires to feel needed and

appreciated, he’s going to feel like the two of you are
legitimately meant for one another.

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He’s going to want to seek you out due to the fact that you give
him a feeling that no other woman can manage.

Now let’s move onto the second desire that needs to be

fulfilled…

Male Desire Number Two – He wants you to

unconditionally respect him

Now this is far from being the easiest thing to do, but if you can
pull it off, you’ll be accomplishing something that a lot of
women really tend to struggle with accepting.

If you want to fulfill this desire, then the only way to do it is to

see your man as someone who is truly deserving of
unconditional respect.
Because so many women wind up getting into relationships with
men who are not worthy of respect, however, this can be a very
difficult subject to explain with them.

Unconditional respect is not only impossible if your man

objectively doesn’t deserve it, but also if you don’t even truly
believe that your man actually deserves the respect in the very
first place.

Be aware that there is a very good reason that I chose to use

the term unconditional respect. To just about every man that
you can imagine, respect is the single most valuable thing.

In a world where we’re scarcely able to unconditionally hold

onto our own belongings or the people closest to us,
unconditional self-respect is one of the few things that a lot of
men feel some sense of security in owning, and they like people

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around them to acknowledge that.

The universal inner desire for respect makes it so that the very
moment you acknowledge his effort, he’s going to respond
positively. If you acknowledge him consistently enough, then
eventually, it’s possible for him to return it with love.

If your man doesn’t feel respected at all, though, then clearly

the two of you are going to have some serious challenges. If he
feels outright disrespected by you, then all of his attraction,
attention and feelings of desire for you are going to hit the
ground before you know it.

As respect is one of the principal things that a man holds dear,

there are few things that he despises more than the feeling of
being disrespected. What’s more is that you will rarely ever
actually have a man overtly verbalize when he feels that you’ve
disrespected him.

Chances are that if a man really feels like you’ve disrespected

him, what he’s most likely to do is actually just slowly break off
contact until he’s completely absent.

If you aren’t attentive enough, you won’t have any idea where
things went wrong when he’s completely withdrawn.

Now that you know how to avoid the worst case scenario by
making sure to maintain a consistent level of respect, it’s time
to move onto the third key point.

Male Desire Number Three – Raising a Man’s Emotional

Temperature

When it comes to maintaining a steady and powerful

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relationship with a man over an extended period of time, you
can consider it like keeping a small flame fanned and active.

If you fan it too hard, it will die out, but neglecting to tend to it
will make it lose its luster as well. We’re going to refer to this as
raising a man’s emotional temperature, and by extension, the
art of maintaining it as well.

To put it in the simplest terms, you have to learn how to “tune

up” all of the latent emotions that your man experiences when
you’re in his presence. The greater that his emotional intensity
is when he’s around you, the more intense the physiological
symptoms will be in turn.

When his emotions are legitimately clawing at him from the

inside to make him think about you on a consistent basis, he’s
going to be desiring your presence on a level that transcends
what is purely emotional and legitimately approaches physical
symptomology.

You are literally going to become a kind of “fix” that he seeks in

order to feel more at ease.

In order to even reach the point of having your man actually

want you to this degree, you’ve got to raise his emotional
temperature to the point of no return.

All of the feelings that are conducive to attraction are going to

be over clocked, and when this happens, you’ve essentially got
the system working in your favor on autopilot.

It’s going to be such a powerful effect that he himself may not

even be fully aware of why he’s as attracted to you as he is, but
there will be no denying that he’ll be consumed by an

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unshakeable and mysterious magnetism towards you.

Essentially, there are going to be three key events that occur

after his emotional temperature has reached a serious boiling
point:

1. He will Find Himself in the Zone of Consistent

Attraction

Simply by raising the emotional temperature to optimal levels,

you’ve left a legitimate carbon footprint on his physiological
composition.

He’s going to feel a level of attraction to you ingrained so

squarely and deeply in his heart that it will feel to him like his
soul is legitimately dancing in excitement at the simple prospect
of being able to spend more time with you in the near future.

Whenever he thinks about you, he’s going to feel the

inescapable tug of his feelings towards you in the pit of his
stomach.

You’ll notice that when he actually sees you, he’ll be exhibiting

signs of wanting to be physically closer to you if it’s at all
possible.

He’s going to be experiencing ripples of immense comfort

around you and the concept of your person, and when this
happens, he’s going to be both relaxed and anxious – it will be
the dual effect of a simultaneous push and pull that both work
to bring him closer to your position.

2. He Will Feel Emotionally Safe in Your Presence

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You may or may not be aware of it, but just the concept of
emotionality is a very touchy thing for the average man to
come to terms with.

While it doesn’t mean that he’ll actually feel things less, it

means he’s got to deal with the pressure of not revealing his
susceptibility to emotional fluctuations too often, lest he
compromise the masculine “image” society holds him to.

When you’ve personally raised up the emotional temperature to

a suitable level, however, you will have managed to become a
legitimate emotional safe zone for him that he can go to
without fear of being judged or insulted.

All in all, your presence is going to summon within him an

extraordinary amount of relief and safety that he’ll find
particularly valuable in his everyday life.

Whenever he knows that you’re nearby, he’ll feel relief from the
cloud of uneasiness that may have formerly shrouded him any
time that he thought about the horror stories and sacrifices of
commitment.

You absolutely cannot neglect to understand just how much

men value their personal freedoms.

Freedom is probably one of the few thing that come close to

respect when it comes to what a man values among all things in
general, and when he senses that a life with you isn’t going to
stifle or restrict him, he’ll be a lot more at ease with you than
most other women.

Number Three – He Will Not Grow Bored

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Men hate monotony as much as they love the feeling of
freedom, and so naturally, their worst nightmare is to feel like
they’re trapped in a boring life spent with a woman who drains
all of the high-octane pleasure and spontaneity out of his
existence.

When you’re able to summon intense physiological symptoms

within him that raise his heart rate, you can guarantee that he
won’t feel the slightest thing resembling boredom when it
comes to your presence.

You’ll be able to raise his emotional temperature so effectively

that it will actually seem nearly impossible for him to be bored
in your presence, because he will have essentially been
psychologically conditioned to be excited at the prospect of
spending time with you whenever possible.

Putting it All Together

You now understand the three crucial keys to raising a man’s

emotional temperature to a boiling point.

1. He’s going to feel like he has the freedom to be emotionally

uninhibited with you, in stark contrast to how he has to conduct
himself in everyday settings.

2. He’s going to feel emotionally safe in your presence, turning

every conversation into a valuable zone of security that he’ll be
extremely hesitant to let another man encroach upon.

3. He’s going to be so constantly stimulated by the way that

you can bring his male mental theater to life that he’ll never
grow bored with you, which will make him consider life with you
like an adventure that’s waiting to happen as soon as he

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becomes bold enough to embark.

Accompanying these highly desirable effects of dedicating

attention to raising his emotional temperature are the benefits
of fulfilling two other extremely important desires he possesses
– the desire to be unconditionally respected, and the desire to
be validated.

When he feels that you respect him for the essence of all that
he is, he’ll feel a certain kind of compulsion to be near you that
can’t possibly be matched just by seeing another lady in the
store who’s physically attractive.

You’re going to be triggering all of these momentous effects

simply with the use of powerful words which I call “Obsession
Phrases”.

Everything that we’ve discussed so far may sound a bit

complex, but the beauty of it all is that the complexity is
underlined by extraordinarily simple precedents.

With just the utterance of a well-time or thought-out phrase,

you can set off the chain reaction within a man that leads him
on the path to seeing you in a light that few other women in his
life have the knowledge to match.

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 Chapter 2 – The Big Secret of Obsession
Phrases.

Have you ever been so engrossed in a movie or book that you

started actually feeling like you were experiencing that fictional
story yourself?

Has the immersion ever been so great that you can’t help but
actually feel as though you personally understand the pain and
happiness that the characters are experiencing?

Have the ebbs and flows of a protagonist’s struggles ever

managed to take you on a very real emotional journey yourself?

Have you ever been so immersed in a fictional story that you

feel just a little bit empty when the story is over, like a piece of
your own story has come to an end?

When you become invested enough in a fictional work to feel

like you’re truly apart of the action, then the creator has
accomplished their mission.

What do you think Hollywood is really profiting off of?

Does Hollywood profit from high-profile actors and special

effects?

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If you said so, you wouldn’t be wrong, but you wouldn’t be one
hundred percent right, either – what Hollywood really uses
those actors and special effects for is to profit from yours and
others’ emotions.

People see movies for all kinds of reasons, from the want of
laughter even to moral obligation, but at the end of the day,
those motivations are unified by the element of emotional
investment that has to happen first.

When you are buying a cinema ticket, or a soft cover pulp

fiction novel, or admission to the cinema, what you are really
purchasing is the experience of your own resultant emotions to
the content.

It may seem a bit odd that you could actually buy the
experience of your own emotions, but don’t get too caught up
in the face-value of the words – technically your emotions are
already there, and what you purchase is the entertainment
medium to serve as a temporary conduit for all of your feelings.

Your joy, your excitement, and your fear are all things that
Hollywood and other professionals in the creative medium are
monetizing.

When the production fails to make the audience feel anything

that’s conducive to engaging in it more, then that’s when it fails
to sell and gets considered a flop.

Even an emotional investment based in anger counts as a

victory for Hollywood if it results in more people purchasing the
opportunity to see what all the fuss is about.

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Now hold on, why am I talking about movies so much?

You may be wondering why I’m going on about movies when

this is supposed to be a book about obsession phrases, but if
you’ve been paying strict attention to what we’ve covered in the
previous chapter, you probably know what the point is.

What you’re going to learn has to do with taking a page from

Hollywood in the art of knowing how to effectively “”STIR
EMOTIONS” within people that you want to influence.

Here’s something interesting to know about emotions – we are

far, far more likely to mentally consolidate an event in our
memory when it’s emotionally charged.

Even if we don’t remember every detail, if it’s emotionally

charged, it will be branded into our memory and stick out like a
red-hot piece of iron in the snow.

We experience so many diverse sounds, sights and smells on a

daily basis that it would be absolutely impossible to manually
account for them all without going stir crazy.

Our brains unburden themselves of the weight of insignificant

memories of under-stimulating things for a reason – we have
absolutely no use for them, and so it’s only practical to toss
them to the side.

A human is actually about ten times more likely to remember

an emotionally-charged event than an event in which they had
no emotional investment at all.

Bland and boring events get discarded in the static of all of the
rest of our disregarded memories, but emotionally electric

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events get moved to special shelf in which they can always be
viewed more clearly.

Think of how people argue with their significant others, or how

parents argue with their children, and the frequent accusation
that somebody never does X, Y, or Z. Now X, Y, or Z could be
something as innocuous as taking out the trash or doing the
dishes, and it’s extremely unlikely that anyone has ever literally
never done those things at least one time.

The emotionally charged heat of the argument simply

superimposes the negative memories of when the other person
being argued with didn’t happen to do whatever that chore was.

Essentially, we’re going to be accomplishing the same thing with

obsession phrases that Hollywood professionals and best-selling
author can accomplish with their emotion-eliciting work.

If you can learn how to make your words contribute to a

strongly consolidated memory by imbuing them with
emotionally triggering power, you can make the impression you
want on the man you desire.

Now something vital to remember here is that the emotions

you’re looking to stir up in the man, in relation to you, should
be positive ones.

While a documentary can attract viewers based on the fact that

it triggers their righteous anger, that’s not an emotion that’s
highly conducive to a person wanting to a man wanting to
spend more time with you.

The obsession phrases we’re going to be covering are designed

to stir up emotion to maximum velocity.

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The goal seems simple enough on paper, but you might be
wondering exactly how it is you can most successfully go about
stirring up emotion in the very first place – no need to fear,
because I’ve broken it down into three essential steps.

Remember, the amount of emotion you’re able to summon

within the man’s heart and the level of benefits you’ll be able to
derive from the relationship with him are positively correlated.

So here are the details you must keep in mind before you say
anything to a man…

1. Show, don’t tell.

2. Make his mind ponder.
3. Create anticipation.

If you can fully consolidate the values of these three different

steps into an overarching attitude you adopt towards speaking
to a man, you’ll have the key to getting just about everything
you desire from him

1. Show, don’t tell. Details are necessary.

A golden rule of this process is to make sure that you prioritize

the mental images created by the words you speak instead of
simply the words themselves.

As we emphasized a great deal in the past chapter, it’s not

really the words themselves that carry any intrinsic value when
we speak them – all we ever did when we created language was
ascribe meaning to sounds, and the impact of the sound is

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determined by the mental image formulated in the mind of the
hearer.

If you really want to strike a nerve in the heart of any man,

then the principle of showing and not telling cannot be
overstated in its importance.

Every single one of your words should paint a vivid portrait in

the man’s mind that keeps him up at night.

There are millions of ways that you can paint a vivid picture in a
man’s mind, and so understandably, it can be a tad bit
intimidating to try and think of every single possibility – one
thing that you assuredly can do, however, is make sure that
your words aren’t boring or mundane.

Unfortunately, most people in society are fine-tuned to

constantly speak of the most inane and boring things
imaginable – on top of that, they oftentimes repeat these
boring things over and over again.

Here’s an example that just might illustrate the principle a little

bit more clearly.

You could very easily tell a guy something as honest and simple
as, “Hey! I like you!”

It accomplishes the basic purpose, but you can definitely do a

lot better than that.

If you really want to knock it out of the park, you’ve got to

make a point of going out of your way to make sure he
understands exactly what kinds of things he does that you like.

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Instead of just telling him that you like him and leaving it at
that, what you can do is say something more to this effect:

“I really like it when you hold my hands and hold me really

close to you, it makes me feel so wonderful.”

Doesn’t the difference strike you immediately?

The added imagery here really drives it home that you’re not
just trying to make him think that you like him.

By adding in a specific account of exactly what it is he does that

makes you feel great, you’ve given a high-quality mental image
to work with and understand more of your mental narrative.

Remember: the more detailed the mental image you can paint
in his mind, the heavier of an impact you’ll be able to make on
his mind when you’re no longer in the immediate vicinity.

When you can get him to think about you even when you’re not
actually around him, you’ll know that you’ve finally succeeded
in painting a powerful mental image in his psyche that will
gradually drive him wild with affection for you.

2. Make his mind ponder

The second extremely important principle of emotional

stimulation we’re going to cover here is the art of heavy mental
stimulation.

One of the best ways that you can see to it that a man gets
emotional is by making it so that he has to wrestle with his own

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uncertainty.

Men love to be right, and so when you don’t allow them to have
everything figured out right away, they’re naturally going to
start feeling a little bit out of sorts about things.

Your objective must be to force the man to think, consider,

ponder and internally question just about everything that you
say to him.

You don’t have to make it so that you’re outright lying to him or

saying weird things, but a real effort to leave loose ends
attached to the things you say will go a long way.

Most conversations are boring by default, which is why the most

exciting and thought-provoking conversations we have tend to
stand out so much in our minds when we have them.

When we’re able to have a conversation that really leaves us

questioning what is and isn’t true, we hold it in special place in
our minds for analysis until it’s solved, if it ever is.

Let’s just use an easy example to illustrate the effect I’m talking
about here…

Suppose you want to let a guy know that you like spending time
with him, but don’t want to make it seem like he’s won you just
because he’ made a good impression so far.

You could say something to the effect of, “Hey Eric, I enjoy your
company” and be done with it, or you could take a step farther
in order to really engage his curious mind at a level that you
haven’t touched before.

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Instead of just telling him that you enjoy his company, you can
both express your appreciation for while still allowing for some
shadow of a doubt.

Say something like – “I enjoy your company a lot but you do

have your weird moments once in a while…”

Now do you see what the critical difference is here with the
latter form of the phrase?

Instead of just leaving your statement of appreciation for him

hanging in the air so that he can take it and use to inflate his
ego, you’ve instead given him something that he can
legitimately think about.

The first sentence barely requires any thought at all on his part
to understand. Even though it may be true that you do enjoy
his company enough to express it to him honestly, it’s an
incredibly bland statement that he won’t have to roll over in his
head for very long in order to fully understand.

With the second statement, you have effectively opened up the

virtual floodgates for his thoughts.
He would be completely caught up in wondering about what
your definition of “weird moments” is, growing increasingly self-
conscious.

When he starts thinking critically about all of the things he does

that could possibly be interpreted by you as weird, you’ve
initiated the loop of constant conversation he’ll engage in with
you in order to find out.

You’ll get a better understanding of this when you see some of

the “Obsession Phrases” in the coming chapters.

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3 – Create anticipation

Now this third principle of emotional stimulation I’m going to

share with you is actually the most powerful one of all.

We’ve already gone over how heavily the movie industry

depends on emotional stimulation in order to stay afloat, and
now I ask you once again to take a moment to think critically
about the entertainment industry.

Have you ever watched the Daily Soaps?

Have you noticed how Daily Soaps are able to maintain a

constant audience by ending every episode on an open loop?

What do you think the purpose of that open loop is, exactly?

The open loop format is a truly genius approach to the ongoing

series medium. When each episode ends on an open loop, the
viewer has their anticipation triggered, which results in a
nervous brand of excitement.

Your primary goal should be to make it so that every time you

two are about to part ways, there’s always just a little bit of
uncertainty left hanging in the air for him.

When you make sure to always leave a little bit of mystery

lingering between the two of you, he’s going to be left
anticipating what you do and say a lot more than he did before.

Now it’s crucial that before I dive into the specifics of this step,

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I clarify something for you:

While this third step is undoubtedly powerful, it is not always

absolutely necessary. You should use this technique sparingly
unless the situation really calls for it.

You don’t always need to create more anticipation, and we’ll

spend some more time talking about that in coming chapters.

Now if there comes the time when you legitimately do feel you
need to employ the art of creating a sense of anticipation, I’ve
got an example you can look to for inspiration.

Imagine you’ve just finished a picturesque date with a guy who

just so happens to do an astoundingly small amount of things
to tick you off.

You’re feeling a good 8 or 9 out of 10 on the scale of

satisfaction with the night, and you know that you’ve got to let
this guy know he’s done an awesome job at salvaging your faith
in the male gender.

You could very well just say something as simple as, “It was
nice meeting you and I hope to do this again sometime.” and
leave it at that.

It’s short, simple, sweet, and about as exciting as cleaning the

lint out of the dryer.

Ending a night out with a line like this may not exactly push him
away, but it’s highly unlikely to have him chomping at the bit to
come out and see you again.

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Now if you really want to leave your potential lover off on a
serious cliffhanger, all that’s needed is a slight adjustment. Try
to instead say something to the effect, of:

“I did enjoy my time with you, but I noticed something a little

bit strange.”

Now after you say something like this, he’s naturally going to
wonder and be curious about what you thought was “SO
STRANGE” about a wonderful date.

Now when naturally expresses that curiosity, that’s your cue to

deliver the graceful coup de grace.

Instead of just letting him know exactly what it is that made

you think things were a little bit strange, you can instead say
something to the effect of:

“Oh! I really need to head back home. I’ll talk about it some
other time.”

Now after you utter this last sentence, do you have any idea of
what might happen next? I’ll tell you: you’re going to end the
date, right then and there.

Don’t offer any alternative explanation, just head on back to

where you need to go with a sense of urgency and purpose.

From the very moment you leave, you will have effectively
summoned a loop of intrigue and uncertainty in his mind that
he’ll be hard-pressed to escape from.

His anticipation will intermingle with his feeling of uncertainty,

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and more than anything else, he’ll want to clarify the truth the
mystery of your true feelings.

Now to sum this chapter up and put it all on the same page,
let’s just briefly review all that we’ve covered here thus far
about these obsession-generating phrases.

Your obsession-generating phrases will at once build up a

cocktail of comfort and anxiety in his heart – while he’ll be
relieved that you do have something resembling feelings
towards him, he’ll also be a bit wary of what the implications of
your uncertainty are.

The key to creating these effects is really just a matter of

making the words you say create strong, highly discernible
images.

You don’t have to literally create fantastic images off of the top
of your head, but you can benefit simply from taking care to
make specific mentions of all of the things it is that he does that
please you.

Instead of making ambiguous mentions about the kind of

person you think he is, substitute those things with ambiguous
mentions about things that might actually be turning you off.
Never forget that men are, by nature, enamored with the allure
of the chase.

Everything that we desire is always perceived as most valuable

when it seems as if it’s the farthest out of our reach, due to the
aura of exclusivity.

When your phrases compliment him while still giving off the
impression that your approval is something that he still has to

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work for, you’ll be triggering ancient components within him
that kick start the emotions conducive to pursuing you –
frustration, happiness, determination, confusion, and obsession.

Once you feel you’ve gotten a good grip on whatever I’ve

explained thus far, it’s time I share my obsession phrases with
you one by one. Move on to the next chapter.

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Kissing is probably the most physically romantic two people can get. There really is no wrong way to
kiss. The thing to remember is that everybody kisses differently and different people prefer different ways
of kissing. Some people, believe it or not, are appalled at the idea of French Kissing or using your tongue
while you kiss. While others can't imagine kissing without using your tongue. The thing is to try kissing
that person a few times before deciding how you and your partner prefer kissing and to get used to the
way that person kisses.
A first kiss should always be done while the two of you are alone. This will help to avoid any
unnecessary nervousness and embarrassing situations. The best type of kiss is one that uses different
variations, such as starting with a small kiss, working into a French kiss, maybe sucking on your
partner's upper or lower lip, then trying the other two types. And don't just leave kisses to the lips. Kiss
their cheeks, their chin or their eyelids. This can be very seductive and romantic.
The perfect kiss is one that is done with someone you really care about. There is more caring and
sincerity in a kiss with someone special than with someone you hardly know, although a really good kiss
can certainly bring two people closer together.
A lot of people is in the fear of kissing someone. The best remedy is…not kiss that person right away.
Wait until an attraction builds between the two of you and a romantic situation evolves. Go out with the
person a couple of times before having that first kiss.

KISSING BASICS:
There are so many different ways to kiss. The two main
basic ones are close-mouthed kissing and French kissing. French
kissing involves an open mouth and with tongue, while close-
mouthed kissing is pretty self-explanatory. We thought it would be
easier for first-time kissers if they knew at least the kissing basics
before they try to approach other kisses, such as French kissing.
Great Breath - This is very important. Make sure you brush your
teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse than
kissing someone with bad breath. If your date consists of having
something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint
on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don't take the mint just
before the kiss or chew on gum. You don't want to have something
in your mouth when you kiss.
Moist Lips - You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss.
Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Don’t wear lip
gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey. And don't
wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss. Slightly moist lips makes it
easier to move your lips over your partner's and gives both you and your partner a more pleasant
experience
Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer
together tilt your head slightly to one side. If you don't, don't worry about it.
Your partner will still tilt their head slightly so your lips meet on a slight angle
or they will kiss you straight on. If you can see which way your partner's head
is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.
Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer
to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until you know what your partner
prefers, it is best to close your eyes. Kissing with your eyes open, looking into
 one another's eyes while you kiss, can be very erotic and some people
find it quite enjoyable. You may want to try kissing this way once you're
more comfortable kissing your partner.

Open Lips - Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your
partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breathe through your nose. As your
lips meet, press them gently over your partner's. You may wish to move
your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your
partners.

Closed Lips - This is like the type of kiss you'd give your grandma or aunt.
Instead of opening your mouth when your lips meet, keep them closed. Thi
s is also a good way of letting your partner know this is as far as it goes. It also makes a great hello/good-
bye kiss or a great first time kiss if you're nervous.
Hands - There are many ways you can use your hands during a kiss. The most popular way is to put one
hand on your partner's waist and the other one against the middle of their back. Other ways to use your
hands are to cup your partner's face in your hands (very romantic!), put them
around your partner's neck, put them around their waist, hold your partner's
upper or lower arms gently, run your finger's through their hair, or just hold
their hands in yours.
And there you have it, the basics of kissing! When you try to put them all
together in your mind it makes it seem like kissing is very difficult. But when
you actually apply them in real life it's quite easy. Kissing is a natural
response to show affection for someone and if done with someone you really
care about it will feel totally natural.

DO’S AND DON’TS

Don’ts
Don't use too much tongue.
Don't mash your lips against your partner's.
Don't look terrified when the other person approaches you for a kiss.
Do not talk about a first kiss with the person you're going to kiss for
the first time. This will ruin the excitement and may turn down
expectations.
Don't salivate all over your partner while kissing.
Don't just let your partner do all the work during the kiss.
Don't eat garlic or other harsh foods before a kiss.
Don't remain emotionless after the kiss.
Don't wait until the 20th date to kiss her/him.
Don't open your mouth so wide that it feels like you are sucking the
other person in.
Don't have the first kiss with someone in public in front of others.

Do’s
Only use enough tongue to feel the other person's tongue.
Be gentle with the first kiss.
Smile after you kiss. Or in the least laugh or giggle to show some
emotion.
Swallow periodically during the kiss.
Participate in the kiss.
Make sure your breath is fresh by either brushing your teeth or
having a mint or piece of gum.
It is OK to kiss someone on the first date. And if not the first date
at least during the second.
Always make sure the first kiss is when the two of you are alone.
WHERE TO KISS AND WHAT IT MEANS:
KISS on the hand means: FRIENDSHIP.
KISS on the nose means: YOU'RE CUTE.
KISS on the cheek means: I NEED YOU.
KISS on the neck means: I WANT YOU.
KISS on the lips means: I LOVE YOU.
Kissing with eyes closed means: I'M IN LOVE WITH YOU.
Kissing with eyes opened means: I'M WATCHING WHERE YOUR HANDS ARE GOING.
The military KISS means ..... "Keep It Simple Stupid".
Stolen Kisses ARE THE SWEETEST! (Always want to return it)
Morale of the story is ... It’s not WHO you are KISSING but WHERE you're KISSING that matters
Other signs ................Often thinking of you means: I CARE FOR YOU
Holding hands means: I LIKE YOU
Looking into the eyes means: DO YOU LOVE ME?
Squeezing fingertips means: I WANT A KISS
Leaning on the shoulder means: COMFORT ME
Getting occasional short hugs: I MISS YOU
Biting lips means: I AM JEALOUS
Winking at you means: I WANT TO GO WITH YOU
Playing with your hair means: I ADORE YOU
Stepping on toes means: I HATE YOU
Getting hit in "very painful places": I REALLY HATE YOU
Dreaming of you at night: YOU'RE SOMEONE SPECIAL
Always being with you means: I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT YOU
Wearing his or her ring means: YOU'RE MINE FOREVER
Often giving you something means: CARE FOR YOU VERY MUCH
Placing hands on shoulder means: GET THE HINT STUPID!!!

FIRST KISS
Everybody is anxious about their first kiss. This is understandable since
anything that is unknown can be scary. We've all seen people kiss, either in
movies, TV shows or in real life. But how exactly is it done? How do you get
over the nervousness? Following questions are answered on this page about
The First Kiss. One note, though. In order to experience a truly wonderful first
kiss, it must be done with someone you really care about. Someone whom
you've been thinking about day and night. Someone who makes your heart
beat faster. Otherwise it's just another kiss and that is boring. So do not kiss
someone just to say you've been kissed. Kiss someone that really means
something to you.
What is the earliest time for kissing?
I would have to say 13, but only close mouthed kisses. French kissing
shouldn't be introduced until around 15 or 16.
Will The Other Person Know It's My First Time?
Not at all. Because everyone has a different style and way of kissing. Also, some people are more into
strong, passionate kisses while others prefer to start off gently. You won't know what style that person
has until you've kissed them a few times, and vice versa. Also, once you've kissed someone a few times
your kisses start to meld together, meaning that your styles start to intertwine with one another's. That
especially happens when one person didn't realize it was enjoyable to kiss a certain way until they tried it
with that person. So then they change their style to this new technique.
How Do a guy approach The First Kiss?
This can be done in one of two ways. You can either just do it or you can ask/demand a kiss. Asking for
a kiss is gentlemanly but not romantic. After the date is over, when the two of you are alone, tell her
what a good time you had. Then say something like, "Is it OK if I give you a kiss good-bye?" Of course
the other person will know what to expect but it's not very romantic. But you can demand a kiss. You
can say something like, "I'd like to kiss you goodnight" or something along that line. More appropriate I
believe.
Just doing it is the best and most romantic way of having the first kiss. It shows that you have enough
feelings for that person that you just HAVE to kiss them! The best approach for this is the slow and
gentle approach. You're standing in front of them as you're saying good-bye. Then take a step or two
towards them, hold their hands in yours and lean towards them. Then give them a gentle, lingering,
close-mouthed kiss. An even more romantic approach is to cup their face in your hands. This is
extremely exciting when the guy does this to the girl.
Is it Ok for a girl to make the first move?
Most certainly! When the two of you are walking just go ahead
and take his hand. Look at him sweetly when you do this to
check his reaction. Then, when you are ready to say good-bye
just go ahead and give him a kiss.
How Long Should A First Kiss Last?
A first kiss should only last a few moments. Don't worry about
the exact time. Once your lips have touched the other person's
lips then give it a few seconds and end the kiss. To end the
kiss just gently close your mouth and pull away gently. If you
get carried away and find that you've lost track of time and the
kiss is still continuing then that is OK. As long as the other
person is reciprocating in the kiss the kiss can continue for as
long as you wish.
What would be the best place or way to really get the moment of the first kiss so we can do it for
awhile and not make it short?
A great first kiss should always be when you're alone with her. A movie theatre is a good place because
it's dark and people won't be paying attention. Try to sit near the back, though, for privacy. Somebody
believes that a first kiss should be the good-bye kiss. When you're dropping her off at her place or saying
good-bye from seeing one another until the next time, ask her if it's okay if you kiss her. It's not childish
or geeky to ask a woman that. It's respectful and kind.
How should we approach a in the time of our first kiss? Like coming up to him/her and kissing
him/her, how should we do it?
Just act naturally. Walk up to him, put your hands on his shoulders or on his upper arms and kiss him.
There shouldn't be any thought to what is going on. Do what feels comfortable and natural for you. And
you don't need to start off with a huge, open-mouthed kiss, either. Start with a small one and work your
way up, so to speak.
What to do when our lips meet? Somebody feels
fear of messing up when they are going for their
first kiss with a experience partner.
When your lips meet, just gently press yours against
hers. If you wish, you can move your lips a bit back
and forth against hers or in a small circular motion.
The best type of kiss is when you meet hers at a
slight angle. This gives more opportunities to explore,
it feels nicer, and will give you a chance to French
kiss if you wish.
I'm afraid to kiss my boyfriend because my nose
is too big, and it might get in the way and that
would be embarrassing. What should I do?
You shouldn't worry about it. Your nose won't get in
the way because your heads will be slightly tilted so
that the noses won't bump straight on. And even
people who have small noses bump occasionally so
don't sweat it. Just enjoy it!
What Type Of Kiss Should We Use The First Time?
It is suggested to start off slowly. You don't want to scare them away the first time with a lot of tongue
and saliva. You want the kiss to be gentle yet exciting. You can do this by approaching with a close-
mouthed kiss or a tongue less kiss. Let the kiss be gentle and let it linger. Let the other person yearn for
more so that they will be in dire need of another kiss from you the next time the two of you are together.
I feel like when I am kissing my boyfriend that I breathe too loud on his cheek. Is that normal?
Yes
How can she tell if he's ready to kiss her?
The best way to tell if a guy is ready to kiss is by the way he acts around you. If he looks at you when
he's talking, if you catch him gazing at you, if he acts affectionately around you by holding your hand or
holding you close, then it's pretty sure that he's ready to kiss.
How does he find out if she wants to kiss him or not?
The only way to find out if she wants to is to ask. There is nothing wrong with asking her if it's okay to
kiss her. Actually, it shows that you respect her and her feelings and that you're thinking about her
interests. You can take a risk and just kiss her and wait for her reaction, but actually asking her is the
safest and most respectful route to take. Good luck and take care.
When kissing a girl, how would I know if the
reason behind the kiss is merely sexual desire
or that she truly loves me? How would I know
the difference between the two types of kisses?
Kissing does not mean you have to be in love with
someone. It could mean that you like them or are
just physically attracted to them. I'm not really sure
if there is a difference between a kiss that is love
felt and one that is not. You can kiss passionately
with someone that you are only physically attracted
to and you can kiss passionately if you are in love. I
would say that someone who kisses you who is in
love with you will want to prolong the kiss. While
someone who is not in love will want the kiss to be
quick and then move onto the next level, which
would be touching.
Is it OK to give her a French Kiss for the first kiss?
We wouldn't advise it, especially if she's nervous and maybe she's never kissed before. What we
recommend is that you start off with a gentle close-mouthed kiss. If that goes well, then you can move
into a French kiss, but it's not necessary. So don't feel pressured into giving her a French kiss.
If any body experience French kiss in the first kiss and he/she don’t like it then what he/she do?
If you don't like French kissing tell him/her! There's nothing wrong with not liking it. Many people don't
like it or are not ready for it. Unless you tell him/her he/she is not going to know. The next time he/she
kisses you, after you've finished the kiss, let him/her know that you would like to try kissing differently. Be
sincere about it. When he/she asks you how, tell him nicely and calmly how you would like to be kissed.
Don't get mad or frustrated with him. Communication is the key to a strong and healthy relationship.

How do you know when a girl wants to be French Kissed?

You won't know unless she uses her tongue first. The best way to approach a French kiss if she hasn't
first is to kiss her. If her tongue doesn't enter your mouth to touch your tongue then just move your
tongue between her lips until it touches hers.

What does a guy want when kissing?

Every guy expects something different when they kiss. That is because every guy is an individual and
each guy has his own likes and dislikes when it comes to kissing. It usually takes a few times kissing
with one person before the two of you know how the other person kisses and what they enjoy. You can't
tell after only one kiss. Everybody kisses differently.
CELEBRITIES FIRST KISS STORIES:
"It was the most disgusting thing in my whole life. The girl injected about a pound of saliva into my
mouth, and when I walked away I had to spit it all out." - Leonardo Di Caprio

"It was my prom night and it was a complete disaster. I rented a limousine so I could take this beautiful
girl. At the end of the night, I went to kiss her and she responded. I was so nervous that my stomach got
really nauseous. I said, ‘Excuse me'-and threw up all over my shoes and rented tux." - Nicholas Cage"
The first boy I ever kissed was Ronny Howard in the fifth grade. He had real white blond hair and sky-
blue eyes. I wrote his name all over my sneakers and on the playground, I used to take off the top part of
my school uniform and chase him around. “– Madonna

"I was about 15 and met her at a party. I suggested we meet at a park the next day. We held hands and
there was a little kissing and sort of fumbling. But once that happened I didn't really know what to do
next. It was a very clumsy affair." – Sting

"I was in the fourth grade. We made a plan to meet in her garage and kiss. It was like this business deal.
I go right up to her, kiss her. Then I ran home." - Brad Pitt
“I didn’t have my first kiss until I was 14 and had my braces off. I was just getting into hip-hop and I was
totally overdeveloped, had breasts already and was at least two of three feet taller than other kids in my
class. Whenever I was out with my friends, grown men would talk to me and when they asked my age,
I'd say,'13', and they'd be terrified. I got a kick out of that." - Liv Tyler
"My first kiss was from a boy in second grade. He was really pretty and it was good because there was
this really tough girl there who fancied him too. So she would hang around with me to be near him. That
gave me a good bodyguard. Mind you, I wouldn't know the boy now if I tripped over him."-Kylie Minogue

"My first real kiss was at a girlfriend’s sweet 16 party. I kissed the most gorgeous boy in high school, the
guy everyone fancied, and I was so overcome, I cried. But he didn’t know I was crying because it was
dark." - Lisa Kudrow
"I was in fifth grade and thought I was in love with a boy named Graham. So we kissed. Then he broke
my heart and told everybody that I was flat-chested and that’s why he didn’t like me anymore." - Reese
Witherspoon
"I was 15 or 16. I had heard about French kissing and thought it was the most disgusting thing in the
whole world. There was only one guy interested in me, and one day he kissed me and it freaked me out
so much I went running over to my friend’s house, so repulsed by it and yet excited because I'd never
been kissed by a man before." - Lucy Liu

"I was 12. His name was Nicky and he had braces. We were in the backyard, and I’m like, you wanna do
it, you wanna do it? Well, okay, let’s do it. And then we did. It was just awful. But then it was darkness,
saliva and tongue." - Charlize Theron

"My first kiss was so bad. It was on the cheek but it was too much. We were at the sixth grade dance,
and we were sitting down outside. I held her hand and she suddenly leaned over and kissed me on the
cheek. I yelled,' Hey!', but I didn’t mean to. It just came out, and I said,' I’m sorry'. Then we didn't walk for
the rest of the night and the next day I broke up with her." - Freddy Prinze Jr

"I was at this party and I was 11. We were playing truth or dare and I was a nervous wreck. I remember it
was this guy Peter who was from Sweden; he was really really cute. So thankfully he was attractive, but
it was terrifying 'cos there were 15 other people in a semicircle looking at me while I was trying to appear
very experienced. It was pretty traumatizing - and exhilarating." - Claire Danes

"I had my first kiss when I was 12 and the chap I was kissing was 17, so he knew a thing or two. He had
been drinking beer and smoking cigarettes - and it was simply the best taste I think I had ever
encountered at that time." - Emma Thompson
FRENCH KISS:
This is the most popular type of kiss. This involves touching your tongue with your partner's and it can be
quite a pleasant experience. There are a few tips to create a great French kiss.
Relax - You lips should be relaxed, you body should
be relaxed, otherwise it will be like kissing a dead
fish for the other person. There are only two things
involved in a French kiss: your lips and your
tongue. That's it!
Open Lips - Your lips should be slightly parted, not
open wide like you're at the dentist. Open them just
far enough, just like you are regularly breathing
through your mouth.

Positioning - Do not have your face dead on to

his/hers, otherwise your noses will touch. You want
to move your head to one side just enough so your
nose is out of the way of theirs. If you think about it
then, with your head tilted one way and his the other way, your mouths will not reach dead on. Your
mouths will meet at the corner of the other's mouth. If you look closely at the picture, you will see that
their noses will actually touch the cheek of the other person. Their lips have already touched. When you
touch the other person's lips and you stretch your tongue out a bit, your mouths will instinctively open as
much as the couple.
Tongue - Practice on your own if you'd like.
Open your mouth enough (while you're by
yourself of course!) just enough to stick a bit
of your tongue out. It will go past your teeth.
Don't stick your entire tongue out... just an
inch or two. That is how far you should stick
your tongue out in a kiss. So your tongue
will go into their mouth and theirs will go into
yours. When this happens, both of your
tongues will touch. Then just circle the tip of
your tongue around the tip of theirs. If they
do something different (because you have
to remember that everyone kisses differently
so some may move their tongue around a
bit differently) then just do the same as they
do. They may flick their tongue over yours
or they explore the inside of your mouth with
their tongue, do the same thing. Or you can
just lightly touch their tongue while they are exploring. The best thing is to NOT just leave your tongue
doing nothing. You may explore different ways of using your tongue. Try running the tip of your tongue
over your partner's lips. Do this slowly and gently, just using the tip of your tongue.
Movement of the head - This is entirely up to you. Some people will move their heads very slightly in a
small circular motion or figure eight. Sometimes they won't. Sometimes just one person moves their
head and the other doesn't. It's totally up to you.

FRENCH KISSING TIPS:

1. Brush your teeth; get a good bath, nicely groomed and clean and fresh, before meeting the other
person. There's nothing worse than kissing the rear end of a garbage truck
2. Get into a comfortable position - you can't kiss if your back feels like it's gonna break. Suggestion
- Sit side by side on a comfy sofa.
3. Hold your lover, firmly but gently - don't cause pain. Suggestion would be to hold the shoulders,
the neck or gently on the side of the face, one side or both sides.
 4. Move your faces closer. Don't bump noses. Suggestion would be the guy angles his face slightly
so you don't bump noses.
5. Kiss gently, normal closed lips kissing, and close your eyes. Closing your eyes increases the
sensations you feel, and also sets the mood.
6. Continue kissing gently. Get comfortable with simple closed lips, lip-to-lip kissing before going
anywhere else.
7. If fine till here, tentatively, slowly and lightly draw your tongue across the other person's lips.
8. Chances are from here, if the other person lightly parts her tongue; slowly explore the other
person's tongue in a light licking motion.
9. The tongue has a very sensitive surface, which is why tongue to tongue the essence of is French
kissing.
10. After you've tried lightly licking the other person's tongue, you can try sucking on it, wrestling with
it (see if you can hold it to the floor of her mouth) and other things like that.
11. Swallow your own saliva. It’s the only polite way.
12. Keep mainly to the front of the mouth, concentrating on her lips and tongue. You don’t need to
mess with anything back there and gag her.
13. Don't bite. Just nibble. Whatever you do, don't bite.
14. Don't swing your tongue round and round like a windmill. Explore lightly, don't drill your way
through.
15. Breathe through your nose. Breathe through your nose. I say again, breathe through your nose.
16. Follow so far? You can lightly use your hands too, running your fingers lightly along her waist,
along the back, the arms, especially the inside of the arm, the neck, maybe running your fingers
through her hair. Again, don't cause pain.
17. Girls like it if you make a little noise. Sort of like mmmm .. Softly and lightly. Don’t overdo it.
18. Continue kissing.

FRENCH KISSING TECHNIQUE:

This is some general advice for French
kissing. Be relaxed and breathe softly yet deeply
through your nose - you don't want to get choked
to death during your first French kiss, do you?
Also, a relaxed breathing will help keep down your
nervousness. There are many places where you
could put your hands. You can hold her chin,
place both of your palms on her cheeks and put
your arms around her waist or her neck. Be gentle
- gentle kisses are easier than the deep,
passionate ones you see in the movies, so you'll
want to practice with the easier stuff first. Lean
forward, and gently press your lips against hers -
don't be tense or it will be uncomfortable for the
two of you. You might want to keep your eyes
open until you make contact, just to make sure
you end up where you want.
However, if you want to make it last, you'll have to play with her a little: move your lips against hers by
opening and closing your mouth slightly and slowly. You can also suck gently on her lower lip, girls
usually love that. If your hands are near her back, you can massage her gently. Hold her close to you,
but not too tight or you won't be able to breathe. If you want to French, just part your lips open slightly
and run gently the tip of your tongue against the inside of her lips; hopefully, she'll get the message and
open up her mouth. Just open your mouth a little more and gently push your tongue inside her mouth.
Once again, she might be the one who will take initiative and try to French kiss you first. If that's the
case, just relax, open your mouth (not too wide, just enough to let her in) and follow her lead. Once
you're inside her mouth or she's inside yours, just play gently with her tongue. Do whatever feels
comfortable and natural, and don't try something which feels awkward. Don't make rash moves and don't
try to lick her tonsils or shove your tongue down her throat, that's not the idea. You can run your tongue
along hers, tease her just a little with the tip of your tongue, gently caress the inside of her mouth, etc.
 Just do what feels good - it's easy, even if practice
always makes it more simple. Oh, and one last
piece of advice about technique - watch out your
teeth, it's really not comfortable when they hit your
partner's own teeth.
Once you're over, if it was your first time, tell your
GF about it. She won't laugh at you - actually, she
might be excited by the fact she was your first time.
Also ask her if there are things she likes and what
she don't likes - the key to being a good lover is to
know what gives your partner pleasure. Once you
get more familiar with the basic stuff, don't be afraid
to experiment - there are plenty of nice and very
pleasant things you could discover by being bold a
little.

FAQ ABOUT FRENCH KISSING:

I just wanted to know how far you keep your mouth open when you French kiss?
If you have your mouth open too far it will feel like you and your partner are being smothered. Open your
mouth up to what feels comfortable. There's no set rule as to how far you open it. You can open it
slightly during one kiss, then the next time (usually during a more passionate kiss) open it a little more.
How are you supposed to move your tongue in a French kiss?
There is no one way to move your tongue. You can either just move it across the tip of his, or you can
slide it down the side of his tongue (not too far though) and circle his. Use the tip of your tongue to
explore the tip of theirs. Or you can explore the inside of their mouth with just the tip of your tongue, like
their teeth or the roof of their mouth, whatever you feel comfortable with. Just remember not to force your
tongue all the way in or it will feel like he's being suffocated.
When French kissing, when your tongue goes in is it supposed to go in sideways?
Your tongue goes in naturally, just like sticking your tongue out on its own. It won't curl or turn
sideways. It may go in a bit sideways into their mouth but that is because the two of you have your
heads on an angle, slightly tilted.
Is it OK to suck on their tongue?
Yes, of course. There is no ONE way of using your tongue when French kissing. You can move your
tongue in a circle around theirs, dart it in and out of their mouth teasingly, you can rub the tip of your
tongue up & down their tongue. Do whatever feels comfortable for you.
What do I do with my lips when French
kissing?
You can close them once in a while so that you
can swallow. So your mouth will be open and
you'll be using your tongue for a bit. Then you
close your mouth for a second with your lips still
on your partner's and then you open your mouth
again. Their mouth will instinctively follow yours.
When French kissing, is it better to close your
mouth once in a while or just keep it open?
Definitely close it once in a while kissing. Variation
is very exciting in a kiss. Kissing only one way can
be a bit boring and tiresome if the kiss is lasting a
long time.
How do we switch our head positions in the time of French kissing?
To switch head positions, just break the kiss gently & turn your head to the other side. As simple as that!
How do you know when to close your mouth during a French kiss?
It will just come naturally. Whoever starts to close their mouth the other person will just instinctively
close theirs also.
How do I move my head when French kissing?
Pretend you are Stevie Wonder and move your head very slightly the way he moves his head, almost
like a figure 8 motion. Your lips won't move themselves but they will move with the motion of your head.
It's like your lips want to rub themselves against the other person's.
I've never French kissed my boyfriend and I'm scared I'll do it wrong.
I wouldn't be concerned about what other people think or say. It's what you feel comfortable with. Some
people don't like the idea of French kissing. But being nervous about it if you've never done it before is
quite normal. But if you don't feel comfortable with it and your boyfriend hasn't mentioned anything, I
wouldn't worry about it. Maybe your boyfriend isn't too thrilled about the idea either. Ask him what he
thinks. If he's game for it and so are you, then experiment with what feels comfortable for the two of you.
There is nothing wrong with asking and it’s a lot better than worrying about it.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a month and the relationship is great except
our French kissing. We both seem to have two completely different styles in kissing and can't
seem to get our tongues in sync. What do you suggest?
I would suggest talking to him about it. You tell him how you like to use your tongue and have him tell
you how he likes it. Hopefully the two of you can come to some type of happy medium. Maybe it's not a
matter of being in sync but that maybe the two of you don't like the way the other kisses. If that is the
case then the two of you will have to talk about it.
My boyfriend has a long tongue and he sticks it all the way down my throat. What should I do?
Tell him honestly that you would prefer to be kissed with less tongue. That you enjoy the feel of the tip of
the tongue. Otherwise, if you don't tell him how will he know? Tell him that you also want some variety
and that you found some different types of kisses at my site and would like to try them out.
What is the general procedure to having a first
French kiss?
First, cup her face in your hands. Or, you can put
your hands on her arms. Bring your face towards
hers and leave your mouth a bit open. Tilt your head
slightly to one side so that when your lips meet the
top and bottom of your lips will meet the corners of
her mouth. It doesn't have to be dead on so don’t
worry about that. When your lips meet hers,
because your mouth is open hers will instinctively
open, too. So wait until hers are open and then put
your tongue in her mouth. Use just the tip of your
tongue to touch hers. Rub the tip of your tongue
over hers, either in a slow circle or up and down the
front of hers. Now, you can either leave your lips the
way they are or you can move them very slowly in a
circle over hers.
Remember, this is not an exact science. Play around with it and find something that makes you feel
comfortable and that you enjoy. But remember... do not force your tongue all the way in. Try using just
the tip of your tongue on the tip of hers to get the idea of how far to put your tongue in her mouth. It is
very normal to feel nervous about French kissing for the first time. After the two of you have kissed a few
times, ask her what she likes about it or if there is something you can do that she enjoys that you haven't
done before.
DIFFERENT IDEAS OF KISSING:
Spiderman Kiss: It's just like in the movie. You kiss upside down, taking in both of your lower lips and
do all those other kiss listed above.
Spitzer Kiss: What you do is when you are ready to kiss (or even while you're French kissing or doing
any other kiss) is gently nibble and/or lick the parts just above or below your partner's lip. Now don't
slobber all over your partner. Just give enough saliva to get them damp. This is very fun and romantic. It
will also turn your partner on or in other words make them like the kiss more.
Lap Kiss: While your partner is laying with his/her head in your lap, lean over and kiss her/him.
Your bottom lip will be on your partner's top lip, and vise versa. You can even French kiss while in this
position. This kiss is a playful kiss, and it can lead to much more.
Muzzle Kiss: When kissing the neck of your partner, at one point blow air out of your mouth while
pressing the lips down, creating the sound of some sort of... flatulence! It should be ever so unexpected
and quite interesting indeed.
Breath Kiss: In a hot moment - creates major anticipation - barely touch lips with lips slightly parted...
then breath your partner's breath... moving heads slowly to experience different sensations... lips
touching on and off slightly... it is a very teasing sort of kiss and builds passion tremendously.

Chew Kiss: Tell your partner to place their tongue

deeply into mouth deeply... you VERY GENTLY
"chew" on the back part of their tongue... do not
suck. This will create a sensation in other places
that can be very exciting!
Chin Kiss: Hold your partner's chin with your
middle, index, and thumb and tilt their head in the
right direction. Continue to hold it as you kiss.
Underwater Kiss: Have your partner hold their
breath underwater and when he or she taps you
give them air.
Moving Kiss: Make sure a bed or couch or chair is
behind your partner and when French kissing gently
push your partner onto the chair or whatever is
behind them. Very good for serious couples or just
beginners.
Flavour Kissing: Put a piece of long lasting gum in your mouth (Hubba Bubba, Trident) just before you
and your partner French kiss. While kissing pass the gum back and forth, and see how long it takes for
the flavour to run out!
Suck Kissing: This can be a very seductive type of kiss. Instead of French Kissing with your mouth
open, while your partner's lips are parted suck on their top our bottom lip with your own, just for a second
or two. Then go back to another type of kiss or try the other lip.
Nip Kissing: This type of kiss has to be done carefully, but when done correctly can create a wonderful
effect on your partner. While suck kissing, gently bite their lip, but be VERY gentle so as not to hurt your
partner. This kiss should only be done with someone that you've kissed a few times before; otherwise
you may shock your partner.
Surprise Kissing: This type of kiss is done when your partner is lying down on a sofa or the ground,
either asleep or just lying with their eyes closed. Quietly approach your partner and place a small, very
gentle kiss on their lips. Intensify the kiss until your partner opens their eyes or awakens.
Vacuum Kissing: This is a playful kiss. While in an open-mouthed kiss, suck in deeply so you're
sucking the air from your partner.
Butterfly Kissing: Put your eye really close to your partner's cheek and flutter your lashes upon their
skin. You can also do this on their lips.
Melt Kissing: Pass an ice cube back and forth in mouth while French kissing.
Tongue Sucking: When you have the chance to get really deep into your partners mouth, suck on their
tongue as far as you can. Don't suck to hard, you don't want to hurt your partner. Otherwise it's very
pleasing!
Sigh Kiss: When you first start kissing your partner gently lick their lips with the tip of your tongue. Then
blow or sigh into their lips, causing a tingling feeling that will intensify your kiss for sure.
Steam Kiss: You or your partner drink a very hot drink while the other drinks a very icy cold one and see
if there's some steam. It's fun because if it doesn't work, just keep trying!
Who Lasts Longer Kiss: Sit very close to each other, your lips almost touching, arms where you
please. Sit like this, very close, and see who can go the longest without kissing the other. It's great fun,
because you can lose on purpose and still win!
Do What You Want Kiss: This is always fun. One of you just lies there, and the other does whatever he
or she wants to give pleasure. Then, you switch roles. See who can give the most satisfying kiss, with
the other not participating at all.
Pepper Kiss: Take a hot pepper and roll it on your lips then kiss your partner. It gives the kiss a kick.
(Use peppers as hot as you or your partner can take, but not too hot or it will just burn and ruin the kiss.)
Lip Venom: Before you go to kiss your partner, apply lip venom to your lips when he isn't looking. Lip
venom is a safe cosmetic item that you can buy at Scarlets and other cosmetic stores and what it does is
it draws the blood to your lips, making them red and tingly. A little bit goes a very long way and can still
be passed up until probably about a half an hour after applying. When your partner kisses you, he will
have this sensual feeling running through his lips for the rest of the day
Marathon Kissing: See how long you
can kiss for (try 5 - 10 minutes straight)
Candy Kiss: Use either a Jolly
Rancher or some type of hard
candy/mint. Either you or your partner
place the candy in your/their mouth
and then it is like a game of keep
away. Whoever starts tries to keep the
candy in their mouth while the other
person tries to get it in theirs. But you
can only use your tongue and lips.
This can be very fun if you have the
right partner!!! Enjoy.
The Tickle Kiss: In this kiss you make
use of the fact that the roof of the
mouth is the most ticklish part of the
body. Begin a normal French kiss and
(be sure your partner understands the
game) stroke your tongue across
the roof of each other's mouth. This
will create almost unbearable chills
down your spine and the winner is the
person who can stand them because
the loser pulls away. The best part
about this kiss is that it is different
every time and always fun.
Name Kiss: If u have run out of things
to do with your tongue spell your
name. This works very well and
everyone likes it!
Tongue Wars: Each person tries to get their tongue in the other persons mouth while they try to get their
tongue in your mouth. Each person "blocks" the other persons tongue with theirs. The winner gets to
pick the next type of kiss. This game is great for reliving first make-out tension.
Tongue Tease: When you're French kissing, if/when you pull back, and before your mouths meet again,
you can flick your tongue up and down quickly against the other person who is doing the same. It's very
teasing and fun to see how long it lasts. Its hard to resist going strong after a while of flicking.
Ice Kiss: Celebrate the first day of winter with an ice kiss. Put an ice cube in your mouth until your
mouth becomes cold. Remove the cube, track down your love and plant a kiss that will send chills!
Reward kiss: Next time your love performs some disliked home chore like cleaning the bathroom,
mowing the lawn, or taking out the garbage, show your appreciation by tucking a candy kiss in a
strategic location.
Post-it kiss: Use 3M Post-It notes to make a trail through your house that leads to your lips. Put a
lipstick print or lip symbol on each note with an arrow pointing to the next note. You, of course, are at the
end of the trail with a Post-It note over your lips that says, "LIFT FOR KISS"
Kissing in the rain: The next time it rains, grab an umbrella, rain coats, and your love. Then go outside
and kiss in the rain. If the spirit of the kiss moves you, remove the umbrella and kiss 'till the two of you
are soaked.
Check kiss: With your personal check, make a check out to your love for 1,000 kisses. Tell your love he
or she can cash it in any time.
Bad habit kiss: Offer to stop a bad habit if your love will pay you kisses. For instance, a kiss for each
cigarette not smoked, putting the toilet seat down, and/or every phone call kept under three minutes is
rewarded with a kiss.
Blanket kiss: Wrap yourselves in a blanket outdoors on a blustery winter day & warm each other's lips.
Lemon kiss: Sprinkle two lemon wedges with sugar. Each take one. On the count of three...bite into the
wedge. Immediately kiss each other's perfectly puckered lips.
Nape of neck kiss: Surprise your love from behind. Move his or her hair and/or pull down his or her
collar to expose the back of your love's neck. Kiss and blow on the nape of the neck
“30 kisses”: Inform your love that in honor of the 30th of the month, you will kiss him or her 30 times
during the day!
Eyelid kiss: While kissing your love, watch for his or her eyes to close. Sweetly place a light kiss on
each eyelid. Note: Be careful!
Ear kiss: Whisper to your love how special he/she is to you, and then seal your message with an ear
kiss!
Sleeping beauty kiss: Awaken your love from slumber with a tender kiss on the lips!
No-cal kiss: After dinner, give your love a no-calorie desert...your lips.
Cab kiss: Hire a cab, Instruct the cab driver to drive around for 15 minutes while you and your love neck
in the back seat.
The necklace kiss: Deposit sweet kisses that circle your love's neck. (1: Concentrate your kisses along
the back of the neck. 2: If the first necklace went well...try a second!!)
New kissL: Think of a kiss you and your love have never shared. Then send your love off in the morning
with it.. Say nothing if your love asks the reason for the sexy send off. Disclaimer: It is guaranteed to
make your love think about you all day. Not responsible for what happens later!
Ear we go kiss: Lightly envelop your love's entire ear inside your mouth. Let it fall out of your mouth
very slowly, earlobe last. Finish with a light nibble on the earlobe!
German morning kiss: Write on the bathroom mirror in lipstick or soap the following: MORGENKUSS
(German for "a morning kiss") When your baffled love asks what it means, define it in body language !
Clandestine kiss: Quietly tell your love you want to meet at a special place (e.g. garden, backstairs,
closet) at a specified time without explaining why. When he or she arrives, greet your love a wonderfully
romantic kiss. HINT: Wear something fun like a trench coat or a towel!
Rear-view mirror kiss: Apply lipstick or chapstick to you lips. Kiss the rearview mirror of your love's car,
leaving a lip print for future discovery!
Chewing gum kiss: Lady chews a piece of gum until it`s nicely chewy. Guy goes and uses ONLY his
tongue to try to get that piece of gum out of the lady`s mouth.
Lady & tramp kiss: When you and your love are eating spaghetti or any other food or candy item that is
long and string like, (i.e. licorice, candy straws, even a french fry) you take one end in your mouth and
have your partner take the other end and eat your way to the middle until your lips meet and kiss.
Unexpected kiss: When the two of you are doing the usual, lean over and give your love a sweet kiss
on the cheek for no good reason and whisper...I LOVE YOU!
Post office kiss: Notify your love you have personal mail to deliver. Pull your love into the nearest dark
closet; close the door and play POST OFFICE: No instructions included!
Beggar’s kiss: That's right, on your knees with your hands clasped, plead for any kiss you love is
humbly willing to give you!
Palm kiss: Holding your love's chin with your palm, smile and deliver a sweet kiss to his or her lips!
Rendezvous kiss: With a note/phone call, tell your love to meet you at a certain place and time for a
present. When your love arrives, have a bow stick to your lips.
Bath kiss: Surprise your love with a kiss while he/she is showering or in the tub. (Prepare to get wet)
Machine gun kiss: In rapid succession, plant 12 quick ones on your lover's lips.
Kiss-a-thon: Practice for this most sensuous of endurance sports. Passionately kiss your love for at
least five minute longer than usual.
Thirst quencher kiss: For no reason, stare at your love's mouth while licking your lips as though dying
of thirst. Inevitably, your love will ask what you're doing. ANSWER: I want them! I have to have them! I
yearn to drink from them! Then ask for a kiss to quench your thirst!
Toll kiss: Next time when driving your love somewhere, stop the car before a bridge or going through a
tunnel & say the toll must be paid before you can go any further. Of course, the toll cost in one kiss.
Morse code kiss: If you know Morse code, great, If not, this is a great way to learn. Find a Morse code
chart. Using long & short kisses spell out a message to your love and have him/her try to decipher them.
Audio simulation: Make a cassette of kissing noises and place in your love's cassette player (walkman,
car or home) with a note attached.
Breakfast in bed kiss: Slip out of bed early and prepare a special "Kissing" breakfast to serve to your
love in bed. Pick foods that you can easily pick up and feed to your love. Kiss between bites!
MORE FAQ ABOUT KISSING:
Is it normal for a kiss to be really wet?
It is if you are making out or passionately French kissing for a period of time. There is always going to
be a slight bit of wetness because your mouths are left open. But to minimize the amount you will need
to stop and swallow your spit once in a while. You can do this so quickly it need not affect what is going
on. Just close your mouth quickly, even if it's on their lips at the time, and swallow. Then proceed with
the kiss.

How do I kiss for a long period of time?

There are different ways you can do it. I wouldn't keep your tongue in their mouth for the entire time.
That can get very tiring. You can vary the way you kiss by using different types of kisses. You can pull
your tongue away. You can use different tongue motions. You can also break the kiss once in a while
with a small close-mouthed kiss and then start again Frenching. But remember... don't forget to swallow
your spit now and then or it can get fairly wet and messy.
Where do I put my hands when kissing?
There are many places you can put your hands. You can put them around their neck, around their waist,
on their back, on their forearms. You can hold hands or even cup their face in your hands.
How come I make a smacking sound when I kiss?
This is caused by you sucking in air as your lips part from the other person's. Try not to suck in as much
air and also swallow periodically so you don't build up so much saliva.
How do I end a kiss?
To end a kiss simply pull your tongue back into your mouth and then move your lips away from the other
person, thus ending the kiss. After the kiss is ended, look warmly in their eyes, smile and give them a
warm hug.
What do you say right after a kiss?
You don't have to say anything, but if you want to you can say something like, "mmmmm, that was nice"
or something like that.
What are the advantages and disadvantages of kissing?
Disadvantage of kissing is it can sometimes lead to more than just kissing. What sometimes happens is
that once the two of you get used to kissing a lot that after awhile you want more than just that. On the
plus side, kissing is a safe way of showing affection & can make you feel good.
How do you kiss on the neck?
Kiss their neck like it is the most exquisite thing you ever touched. There are so many ways to kiss
someone's neck. You can place gentle kisses on different areas of the neck. You can vary this by also
running the tip of your tongue gently along their skin. You can place very gentle love bites on the neck.
If you put some feeling into it it can be quite enjoyable for both of you.
How do you give someone a hickey?
A hickey is just a bruise that is caused by sucking on the skin. Usually it's placed on the side of the
neck. Just suck on the skin on the neck, about 10 seconds or so, then let go. What you are doing is
sucking the blood to the surface of the skin. You will need to try it a few times on your partner to see
how hard you need to suck before it shows because some people bruise easier than others. And
remember.... there is NO way to make it go away. It has to go away on its own.
What is "Making Out"?
Making out is just a lot of passionate French kissing. Sometimes it can go a bit further to touching. So
there is no ONE way to make out. It's just doing what you feel like doing. Being passionate about one
another. You can use your hands over his chest, back, arms or put your arms around his neck, his back
or his waist or even run your fingers through his hair. Things like that. As for guys, you can put your
hands in her hair, the back of her neck, arms or put your arms around her neck, holding her tight. Also
her back and around her waist are other great places to place your hands.
How do you kiss with glasses?
If it's just a quick kiss, whether or not it is a close-mouthed kiss or a French kiss, then keep the glasses
on. But if you plan to kiss for a long time, have a passionate kiss or "make out" then I would suggest you
take the glasses off. Glass do not ALWAYS get in the way, but they can at times.
What is the way to kiss a guy/girl having braces?
Kiss him just like you normally would with someone who doesn't have braces. Just remember not to
press your lips hard against his.
Can the other person tell if I have bad breath or not? If so, how can I guarantee myself fresh
breath or even just a quick improvement?
If you have bad breath it will show up in the kiss. But sometimes what we think is offensive in ourselves
is not offensive to the other person. If you are worried about bad breath and want a quick fix, my best
suggestion is to buy one of those small breath sprays. Keep it in your pocket and use it periodically
during the day. Also, those Tic Tac breath mints are great because they are small and dissolve quickly.
What if they think I'm a bad kisser?
Tell them to "show" you how they would like to be kissed.
How can I be a better kisser? More tongue or less?
First thing is not to use too much. Use just the tip of your tongue to do the exploration. If your partner
uses too much tongue just tell him or her that you want to slow down a bit with the kisses and take time
with the kiss. They should get the hint.
How do you kiss someone to show them that you care, instead of just kissing them because they
are kissing you?
You have to use real feeling in the kiss. Let the kiss be gentle yet passionate. Hold their face in your
hands, this is a very intimate way of kissing. Or hold them close to you. Little things like that.
What are the different "bases"?
First base is kissing, second base is fondling above the clothes, third base is pretty much everything
"except" going all-the-way, and home base is actual sex.
Is flirting OK? My soon-to-be wife flirts with married guys at work. She does tell me all the
happenings of office but it bothers me. I don't see the need to flirt if you love someone.
Some people are just natural flirts. It's an ego trip for them. As long as they don't do it in front of their
partner I don't see any harm in it. And as long as it doesn't lead anywhere. They like the attention and it
doesn't mean they are interested in the person. They just like the attention. Flirting has nothing to do
with love. It's an attention-getting mechanism is all.
I LOVE YOU IN VARIOUS LANGUAGES:
Language I Love You Language I Love You
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Albanian Te dua Indonesian Saya cinta padamu
Arabic Ana Behibek Irish t'a gr'a agam dhuit
Armenian Yes kez si'rumem Italian Ti amo
Basque Maite zaitut Japanese Kimi o ai shiteru
Bengali Ami tomake bahlobashi Korean Tangshin-i cho-a-yo
Berber Lakh tirikh Latvian Es tevi milu
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Bosnian Volim te Malaysian Saya cintamu
Bulgarian Obicham te Mandarin Wo ai ni
Cambodian Bon sro lanh oon Marshallese Yokwe Yuk
Catalan T'estimo Mohawk Konoronhkwa
Cheyenne Néméhotâtse Polish Kocham Cie
Chinese Wo ai ni Portuguese Eu Amo-te
Creole Mi aime jou Romanian Te iubesc
Croatian Volim te Russian Ya tyebya lyublyu
Czech Miluji tev Sanskrit twayi snihyaami
Dutch Ik hou van jou Serbian Volim te
Eskimo Nagligivaget Sesotho Kiyahurata
Esperanto Mi amas vin Slovak Lubim ta
Estonian Mina armastan sind Slovenian Ljubim te
Farsi Tora dost daram Spanish Te amo
Filipino Mahal Kita Swahili Nakupenda
Finnish (Mä) rakastan sua Swedish Jag älskar dig
French Je t´aime Tagalog Mahal kita
Frisian Ik hald fan dei Tahitian Ua Here Vau la Oe
Hoon tane pyar karoochhoon! Phom rug khun(m)
Gujarati Thai
tane chaahuN chhuN Chan rug khun (f)
Galician Querote Turkish Seni seviyorum
German Ich liebe Dich Ukrainian Ya tebe kokhayu
Greek S´agapo Urdu Main tumse muhabbat karta hoon
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Hebrew Ani ohev otach Welsh Rwy'n dy garu di
Hindi Main tumko pyaar karta hoon Yiddish Kh'hob dikh lib
Hungarian Szeretlek Zulu Ngiyakuthanda

COLOURS OF ROSE SIGNIFY:

Red I love you
Pink Elegance, grace, and frivolity
Yellow Friendship and joy
Peach Desire and excitement
White Innocence and secrecy

A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous. - Ingrid
Bergman
I married the first man I ever kissed. When I tell my children that they just about throw up. - Barbara
Bush
Love sought is good, but given unsought, is better. - William Shakespeare
Love and work are the cornerstones of our humanness. - Sigmund Freud
Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all. - St. Augustine
Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. - Robert Frost
Love is stronger than justice. - Dinah Shore
We can do no great things- only small things with great love. - Mother Teresa
I don't want to live. I want to love first, and live incidentally - Zelda Fitzgerald
You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her. - Unknown