Conclusions
Conclusions
Conclusions
After a semester of Personality theories -- Freud and Jung and Rogers and
Frankl and Bandura and Eysenck, etc., etc., etc. -- students often ask, once again,
isn’t there one theory we can trust and use with confidence? Can’t we narrow
it down a bit? Tell us, what is right and what is not!
Well, unfortunately, Personality is not yet a science, at least not in the sense
that Biology or Chemistry are sciences. In those fields, although there is
disagreement about details and the latest findings, there is a common body of
knowledge that few people in the field argue about. Not so, obviously, in
Personality.
However, there are slowly emerging ideas that seem to pop up again and again
in different theories, often with different names, but there none-the-less.
Sometimes they occur in theories that are otherwise quite different, or that
come from a different perspective, such as clinical versus experimental versus
factor analysis versus phenomenological. Perhaps the field will indeed become
a science, perhaps not too far in the future!
So, I have taken the bull by the cojones, so to speak, and have compiled this
little list of things I see as being, if not universal, at least more likely features of
the future ultimate theory of personality. Here goes...
The first is biological. We come into this life with something like
Freud's id or Jung's collective unconscious in place. It is likely
composed of whatever instincts remain a part of our human nature,
plus our temperament or inborn personality, and perhaps the
preprogramming for stages of life. This biological unconscious
overlaps in part with the existentialist concept of thrownness.
Second, there is the social unconscious (as Fromm calls it), which
actually resembles Freud’s superego more than Freud's id. It might
include our language, social taboos, cultural habits, and so on. It
includes all the cultural things we were surrounded with in our
childhood and have learned so well that they have become "second
nature" to us! The negative aspects of the social unconscious
overlaps with the existential idea of fallenness and with Rogers’
idea of conditions of worth.
What consciousness is will be a question for a good while longer. It’s not
terribly available to traditional research methods! But for now, we can see it as
the ability to experience reality (outer and inner) together with its meaning or
relevance to ourselves (as biological, social, and even individual organisms).
Or the ability to be open to the world while maintaining a degree of separation
in the form of an integrated self. I would add that it may be consciousness that
also provides us with the freedom to choose among the choices available to us -
- i.e. self-determination (if not full-blown free will).
Self-determination
Free will doesn't fit very well with science. It seems to require "supernatural"
involvement in the natural world. But we really don't have to be "above" the
natural world in order to have a degree of freedom within that world.
The baby begins life nearly as intimately connected with his or her world as in
the womb. As we develop from babies into adults, we gradually separate
ourselves from the world. Our interior causal processes - especially mental
processes - become increasingly independent of the causal processes outside of
us. A gap develops that allows us to be influenced by outside situations, but not
necessarily determined by them.
This gap is like a large river: The man on the opposite bank can wave and
jump and yell all he wants -- he cannot directly affect us. But we can listen to
him or interpret his semaphore signals. We can treat his antics as information
to add to all the information we have gathered over our lives, and use that
information to influence our decisions -- influence, but not cause.
By the end of life, some of us are nearly impervious to what others think about
us, can rise above nearly any threat or seductive promise, can ignore nearly
any kind of urge or pain. We are still determined - but little in our immediate
situation is more than information we utilize in making our decisions. This
may not be free will in the absolute sense, but it is certainly self-determination.
Stages
Stages are something most personality theorists shy away from. Freud and
Erikson are the obvious exceptions, as is the developmentalist Piaget. And yet
there is a very biological basis for the idea. We can, on pure biology, separate
out at least three stages: the fetus, the child, and the adult. This is, in fact,
completely parallel to the egg, caterpillar, butterfly example we learned in high
school biology!
As this last point suggests, there are certainly cultural additions we can make.
In our culture, there is a sharp transition from preschool child to school child,
and another sharp transition from single adult to married adult. For all the
power of biology, these social stages can be every bit as powerful.
To venture a guess as to the psychological side of these biological stages: The
fetus focuses on biological development, which is transformed by the
presence of others in the infant into ego development in the child. In turn, the
ego development of the child is transformed by the advent of sexuality in
adolescence into the “trans-ego” or social development of the adult.
Another way to look at it goes like this: In the fetal and infancy stages, we lay
the groundwork and develop our temperaments (founded in hormones and
neurotransmitters). In the child stage, we develop a personality (founded in
habits). In adolescence, continuing into adulthood, we develop character
(based on conscious decision-making).
Temperament
And there are three other contenders that are a little harder to place:
Learning
With the exception of Skinner, Bandura, Kelly, and a few others, learning is
rather taken for granted by most personality theorists. But I suspect it
shouldn’t be. We can postulate at least three kinds of learning: basic, social,
and verbal.
For example, if every time your run into a tree your head
hurts, you will stop running into the tree. On the other
hand, if every time you say "shit!" your dad hits you
upside the head, you may stop... or you may avoid dad, say
shit under your breath, begin to hate your father and
authority in general, start beating up little kids after
school, and so on, until prison effectively stops the
behavior. These kind of things seldom happen with trees.
One thing is certain: The old models of the rat with his conditioned and shaped
behavior, and of the computer with its programming, are not very good ones.
If you really need a simple metaphor for human learning, you are better off
thinking of people - especially children - as sponges!
Emotions
There are, of course, many other emotions and emotional shadings we could
try to define, but that's for another time and place. Just one more thing should
be noted: It appears that, where there is consciousness, there is emotion -- at
very least an emotional tone or mood. As the existentialists point out, we just
cannot not care.
Motivation
Second, there are the social motivations. They may build on the
biological motivations, especially the instinct complexes, but they
vary enormously depending upon culture and even individual social
situations and learning. Because they are learned so well and early,
we could borrow Maslow’s term and call them instinctoid. Social
motivation may include our need for acceptance, attention, and
approval (Rogers’ positive regard), as well as those forms of self-
esteem that are based on such approval. Shame and guilt are clearly
factors in social motivation, as is pride.
Last, but not least, there are higher motivations. These are
conscious and we perceive them as providing our lives with
meaning. There appear to be two broad kinds:
The first, self-enhancement. Here we find those
motivations that lead us to extend ourselves beyond mere
survival and comfort, that lead us to be "all that we can
be." It includes such motives as desire to learn more than
is needed, attain mastery beyond mere competence, and
creativity. Adler might call it striving for superiority or
perfection.
It seems to me that all of the preceding, and probably a few I’ve missed, qualify
as motivations. Disagreements as to which are most significant are perhaps
misguided -- perhaps that differs from individual to individual! And the
possibility that higher motivations derive from lower ones in no way
diminishes their significance. Rollo May's idea of a large number of daimons,
unique to each individual, may be the best approach.
Balance
Carl Jung's entire theory revolves around balance, especially between anima
and animus and between the ego and the shadow. The former in particular
has received a great deal of attention and empirical support: Androgenous
people (those who combine qualities of both the "feminine" and the
"masculine") appear to be mentally healthier. The latter also has support:
People who are able to think in "shades of gray" are much more mature than
those who see everything as black and white, good vs. evil, us vs. them. Ego vs
shadow might also be understood as a need to balance rationality with
emotion.
The balancing act that has gotten the most attention from personality
psychologists is the balancing of our desires for individuality and
community. This idea originated with Otto Rank's contrast between a desire
for both "life" (our drive towards individuality) and "death" (our drive towards
union with others), as well as the corresponding fears (isolation vs.
engulfment). Rollo May uses the words will and love, others use words such as
autonomy and homonymy, agency and communion, egoism and altruism,
and so on. Founded in our instincts for assertiveness and nurturance, in their
highest forms they are self-enhancement and self-transcendence, respectively.
Man is, at one and the same time, a solitary being and a social being. As a
solitary being, he attempts to protect his own existence and that of those
who are closest to him, to satisfy his personal desires, and to develop his
innate abilities. As a social being, he seeks to gain the recognition and
affection of his fellow human beings, to share in their pleasures, to comfort
them in their sorrows, and to improve their conditions of life. Only the
existence of these varied, frequently conflicting strivings accounts for the
special character of a man, and their specific combination determines the
extent to which an individual can achieve an inner equilibrium and can
contribute to the well-being of society. (Einstein, "Why Socialism?" in
Monthly Review, NY, May 1949)
Neurosis
Life is filled with stress. Many people's difficulties begin with childhood
experiences of abuse, neglect, poverty, sickness, parent's sicknesses or death,
parental psychological problems, divorce, immigration, accidents, deformities,
etc. Sometimes, we are strong enough, or have enough support, to weather
these storms. More often, we find that these experiences leave us with an on-
going apprehension about life. We end up suffering from anxiety, guilt,
sadness, anger... not just as a direct result of the specific experience, but
because we no longer trust life.
A child with loving parents and compassionate relations, peers, and teachers
may well be able to cope with these problems. On the other hand, a lack of
support, a lack of what Rogers calls positive regard, can leave even a child
blessed with a comfortable environment troubled with self-doubt and
insecurity.
Many of our theories were developed in order to help those who cannot cope,
and looking at Adler, Horney, Rogers, Bandura, and others, we find a great deal
of agreement as to the details. As I said a moment ago, in order to cope with
life's difficulties, we need positive regard -- a little love, approval, respect,
attention.... But others often make that love and approval conditional upon
meeting certain standards, not all of which we can meet. Over time, we learn
to judge ourselves by those standards. It is this incongruence (Rogers’ term)
between what we need and what we allow ourselves that leaves us with low
self-esteem, or what others call a poor self-concept or an inferiority
complex.
Confronted with the difficulties of life, lacking in the support of others, and not
even enjoying confidence in ourselves, we find we must defend ourselves
however we can. We can list a large number of defense mechanisms, as Anna
Freud did, or we might be able to simplify a little, like Carl Rogers: We defend
our sensitive egos by denial and rationalization.
Either way, they are lies we tell ourselves and others in order to minimize the
impact of that incongruence between our need for love and security and what
is afforded to us. We use these lies because they help, actually. But they only
help in the short run: Over time, they lead us into a possibly serious
misunderstanding of how the world (especially other people) works, and of
who, in fact, we are.
For those people who are, perhaps, a bit stronger than those who succumb to
neuroses, we still find suffering in the form of alienation: There develops a
split between the deeper, "truer" core self within, and the persona (to borrow
Jung's term) that we present to the outside world to attempt to meet with those
conditions of worth that Rogers talks about. We feel inauthentic, false,
phony, dishonest on the one hand, and misunderstood or unappreciated on the
other. Over the long haul, this is likely to lead to depression and withdrawal
from social life. But sometimes, alienation can lead to new perspectives on life
and some remarkably creative insights. Perhaps we owe a good portion of our
art, music, and literature to these same people.
At the other end of the spectrum are those people whose psychological
suffering is founded on physiological problems. Schizophrenia, although it
certainly has some sizable social and psychological causes, seems to have a
considerable physiological component. Other disorders, such as bipolar, major
depression, and obsessive-compulsive disorders, improve with the use of
medications that enhance the effects of our own neurotransmitters. The
borderline between psychology and physiology is becoming increasingly
blurry!
Coping strategies
And a last, fifth candidate is the infantile style, AKA, the phallic or
marketing style. These people avoid responsibility by essentially
extending their childhoods into adulthood. They are obsessed with
youth, fun, adventure, and even high risk activities. They tend to be
shallow and hedonistic.
One could argue that the most common coping strategy of all -- most common
because it works so well -- is conventionality, "busy-ness," getting lost in the
day-to-day. It will be up to future personality researchers to determine which
of these are true styles, if the idea of a few styles holds up, or if we should stick
to a more individualistic way of describing people's coping.
Therapy
Now, each theory has its own set of preferred techniques. Some, such as the
radical behaviorist approach, insist that techniques are all you need. Others,
such as Rogers’ approach, suggest that you don’t need techniques at all, just an
empathic, respectful, and honest personal presence. Probably the majority of
therapists, however, follow the middle path and use a few techniques that they
have found useful and that fit their clients’ and their own personalities.
In addition, we now have a fairly reliable set of drugs that appear to help. Our
understanding of the physiological bases for psychological problems has been
growing rapidly, and, while that understanding is far from complete, it has
allowed us to help people more effectively. Most therapists are still hesitant to
rely entirely on medications, perhaps rightly so. But these medications
certainly seem to help in emergency situations and for those whose suffering
just doesn't respond to our talk therapies.
Conclusions
What you see here is "poor me" (or "poor you"), at the center of enormous
forces. At top, we have history, society, and culture, which influence us
primarily through our learning as mediated by our families, peers, the media,
and so on. At the bottom, we have evolution, genetics, and biology, which
influence us by means of our physiology (including neurotransmitters,
hormones, etc.) Some of the specifics most relevant to psychology are instincts,
temperaments, and health. As the nice, thick arrows indicate, these two mighty
forces influence us strongly and continuously, from conception to death, and
sometimes threaten to tear us apart.
There is, of course, nothing simple about these influences. If you will
notice the thin arrows (a) and (b). These illustrate some of the more
roundabout ways in which biology influences our learning, or
society influences our physiology. The arrow labeled (a) might
represent an aggressive temperament leading to a violent response
to certain media messages that leads to a misunderstanding of those
messages. Or (b) might represent being raised with a certain set of
nutritional habits that lead to a physiological deficiency in later life.
There are endless complexities.
Last, but not least, there's (d), which represents our own choices.
Even if free will ultimately does not stand up to philosophical or
psychological analysis, we can at least talk about the idea of self-
determination, i.e. the idea that, beyond society and biology and
accident, sometimes my behavior and experience is caused by... me!
Perhaps there is more agreement than I originally thought! This bodes well for
our field. Perhaps we can get through the next so many years intact, and
arrive, somewhere in the twenty-first century, at full scientific status. I do hope
so, although I also hope that Personality continues to be a bit of an art as well. I
choose to believe that people will always be a bit harder to predict and control
than your average green goo in a test tube!