Final Draft
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Jacob Baxter
Mrs. Cramer
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30 Nov. 2018
There have been a lot of matters destroying marriages, but cohabitation certainly isn't one
of them, Cohabitation is a way for couples’ marriages to be helped before or after marriage and
give benefits to support the couple when they are married. The definition of cohabitation is the
state of living together and having a sexual relationship without being married. Cohabitation has
been falsely blamed for divorces in a lot of marriages and is never thought to be a good thing.
Having a relationship before marriage is not a bad matter. Most people who think that
cohabitation was the cause of their divorce is because they had some kind of bad relationship and
they will not admit that they weren’t right for each other. The relationships of people are not
always the fault of cohabitation. Although sometimes cohabitation can play a part in marriage.
It's usually only the “gas of the fire” not the “spark”.
backup, which means that cohabitation can be used with that same person after the divorce.
Cohabitation is only a “trial marriage,” it tests the relationship of the couples (Hughes). Clearly
this statement shows that couples can use cohabitation as a little helper in their marriage
situation. WRONG, it states that cohabitation should be used to test a relationship before
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marriage so that the couple knows whether they are “compatible” or not. If they are “compatible”
they can marry, and it gives them some closure on their relationship. Also, with the closure it
gives the couple the freedom and choice on whether to marry or not due to cohabitation.
Sometimes after divorce, those couples will instead switch to cohabitation (McKay). This is very
helpful to the couple, maybe they have a kid or still want to share benefits in the long-term
marriage. Although this is also good for the couple, cohabitation gives them a chance to change
their minds about their divorce and go back to marriage. Also, switching to cohabitation gives
the couple the lives they might want or even set a course for them so that they don’t have to
completely split up. This could save the marriage from keeping them together to giving them a
second chance. Choosing cohabitation as a “virtual marriage”. This source shows that using
cohabitation gives the couple a chance at a practice marriage. This shows them how it's going to
be when they get married and if they should get married or know they aren't ready for the
responsibilities. Also, a “virtual marriage”, can be for couples to have a life where the marriage
isn't real until they want it to be. This means that they can be together doing things that a
marriage would be like. They won't have to be stuck in a marriage and possibly lose their lives.
So, cohabitation can most definitely help a marriage and give a couple the freedom the deserve.
Second, cohabitation can give benefits to support a couple when they get married.
As said in the definition of cohabitation, this relationship is kind of like a friend with benefits but
with the couple living together, and if the couple gains more feeling for each other, it will benefit
them with marriage. Instead of being together, they can go through cohabitation with another
person which is practically repeating the process and marrying that person instead. Although this
loses the relationship with the person before, cohabitation gives them a chance to start new lives
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with other people. There are more benefits given to singe women with children (Williams). This
example shows that single women with children can get bigger benefits from the man, and the
man of the relationship can have a family he can support and love and if everything goes right,
they get married. Also, single women get the support they deserve rather than dealing with the
relationship or marriage they were in before. The children with the single women can the father
they never had. This gives them a chance to have a normal life as a family instead of living alone
with no fatherly figure. In conclusion, there are a lot of benefits to a couples lives when they live
in cohabitation, their marriage could be even better if things are going so well.
Cohabitation is a horrible gateway to marriage and could potentially increase the chance
of divorce. This is indeed not true, there are facts that marriage does not increase the chance of
divorce and it does help couple get to marriage whether it be a gateway to it or to help the couple
fix their own relationship. There is a study made by researches showing 2003 women and 1483
men, aged 15 to 44, 60% of them were cohabitation, and 20% of them were divorced (Hughes).
This study shows that cohabitation could be a cause for divorce in marriages, but within that
20% were not just divorces caused by cohabitation. The 20% could be made of other regular
couples that decided to just break up due to some other problem like cheating or lying. Also,
with the study it shows that 60% of them were in cohabitation. These results conclude that
cohabitation is very common in many relationships which means people know that it helps their
gateway to marriage. It also concludes that the other 20% of this study is most likely successful
marriages that were in cohabitation before. Cohabitation could also not affect marriage, its
mostly affected by the wellbeing of the couple (Zimmermann). The wellbeing of the couple is
one of the most crucial parts of a relationship and this could be the main decision on whether
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they should be together or not. Cohabitation isn't affecting the marriage, couples' relationships2
with each other is due to them either not enjoying their lives or just not feeling the “fire”
anymore. So, cohabitation is not always the cause of divorce in marriage, it mostly helps and
shows the couple whether they are compatible for marriage or not.
Cohabitation hurts marriage; it can take a lot of money away from the couple and ruin
marriage (Martin). This shows that cohabitation can help marriage by giving it benefits like
marrying someone with a good amount of profit made from your job or cohabitation. It also
shows that advantages are obtained, these advantages do not only consist of profit but also from
social life to your personal life. For example, one day a couple decides to get married after being
in cohabitation, they’ve both made a lot of money and benefited greatly living good lives just
because they were cohabitating with each other before marriage. Whether it be physical contact
with another person or being able to talk to someone, cohabitation helps give two people the
chance to create marriage as well. So, cohabitation gives benefits to the couple so that they can
Cohabitation helps marriage due to providing a gateway and supporting marriage. Think
of Romeo and Juliet from the gnome movie, they both loves each other so much they were
practically in cohabitation until the end of the movie. So, cohabitation provides that gateway and
allows any couple to move on to a better marriage knowing whether they are compatible or not.
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does not completely hurt marriage, it gives the couple the chance to make sure their lives will be
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Jacob Baxter
Mrs. Cramer
21 Sept. 2018
Works Cited
Hughes, Robert. “Does Cohabitation Cause Divorce or a Better Marriage?” Huffington Post.
Martin, Paige D., et al. “Adolescent Premarital Sexual Activity, Cohabitation, and Attitudes
McKay, Kate and Brett. “Should you Live Together Before Marriage.” The Art of Manliness.
Williams, Kristi, et al. “For better or for worse? The consequences of marriage and cohabitation
for single mothers.” Social Forces. 86.4 (2008): 1481. Student Resources in Context. 20
Sept. 2018.
Zimmermann, Anke C., and Richard A. Easterlin. “Happily, ever after? Cohabitation, marriage,
divorce, and happiness in Germany.” Population and Development Review. 32.3 (2006):
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