Education Begins Before Birth ( - Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov
Education Begins Before Birth ( - Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov
Education Begins Before Birth ( - Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov
Education
Begins
Before Birth
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Table of Contents
Title Page
Chapter One: The first priority – educating parents
Chapter Two: Education begins before birth
Chapter Three: A blueprint for the future of humankind
Chapter Four: Don’t neglect your children
Chapter Five: A new understanding of a mother’s love
Chapter S ix: The magic word
Chapter S even: Never let your children be idle
Chapter Eight: Prepare your children for adult life
Chapter Nine: Protect your children’s sense of wonder
Chapter Ten: Love without weakness
Chapter Eleven: Education versus instruction
Chapter One: The first priority – educating
parents
If parents quarrel, tell lies and cheat other people in the presence
of their children, how can they possibly hope to educate them? It
has already been ascertained that a baby can fall ill and show signs
of nervous disorders when its parents quarrel. Even if it is not in
the same room at the time, a quarrel creates a discordant
atmosphere which the baby immediately picks up, for it is still
very dependent on its parents. The baby is not consciously aware
of the disharmony but this does not prevent it from being
extremely receptive, and its etheric body feels the shock.
I know that the future of the Brotherhood lies with the children,
but it is their parents that I am concerned with. I want to make
them understand that they must not bring children into the world
simply to satisfy an atavistic instinct of procreation. The instinct
continues to exist, of course. But it is time that it was transposed
onto a higher, more spiritual plane: the act of procreation should be
accomplished with the full participation of mind, soul and spirit,
and, in this way, your child will be linked to a world superior to
our own.2 M ost people are content to live like animals: they eat,
drink and procreate like animals. There is no spiritual content to
what they do. Love simply doesn’t come into it. All they’re
interested in is pleasure, and for a few moments of pleasure they
are going to have to pay – and their children are going to have to
pay – for the rest of their lives!
1 See The Book of Divine Magic, Izvor Coll. n° 226, chap. 11-2: ‘ The law of affinity’ .
2 See Cosmic Moral Law, Complete Works, vol. 12, chap. 14: ‘ Through their
thoughts and feelings, humans are creators in the invisible’ .
Chapter Two: Education begins before birth
If you observe what takes place in nature you will see that this
process is not restricted to the man-made techniques of gold-
plating: it exists on all levels. For instance, in the ocean of space,
the planet earth represents the cathode or negative pole, the
feminine principle, whereas the heavens – that is, the sun and other
stars – represent the anode or positive pole, the masculine
principle. There is a constant flow and interchange of currents and
forces between the earth and the sun (and other stars) because they
are both immersed in the cosmic solution: the ether or universal
fluid which embraces and encompasses all the heavenly bodies.
And the battery to which the two poles are connected and which
sets everything in motion is, of course, God himself.
A tutor or teacher can do a great deal for a child, but only in the
way of instruction. They can never change its innate nature. If the
fundamental nature of a child is defective it will never be anything
else, however excellent its educator may be. Whatever you do to
lead, it will never be anything but lead. You can polish it, file it or
slice a piece off it to make it shine: it will shine for a few minutes
but, in no time at all, will have become as dull and grey as before,
simply because it is lead. You have to make your children of gold,
not of lead, for even if a child of gold has to live in the worst
possible conditions it will never tarnish or be corrupted because
the essence of its nature is pure.
During gestation, the mother must take great care to protect her
child. Consciously, through her thoughts, she must create an
atmosphere of purity and light around it so as to protect it from
attack by harmful entities and,2 in this way, collaborate with the
soul which is preparing to incarnate.
For, contrary to what some people believe, a soul does not enter
a child’s body during the period of gestation. It is perfectly true
that, in its mother’s womb, a child is alive: the heart beats and the
embryo takes nourishment and grows, but the soul has not yet
entered the body. It does this only when the child draws its first
breath after birth. Until then the soul remains by the mother’s side,
collaborating with her in the work of building the child’s different
bodies (physical, astral and mental).3 M ost women are not
sufficiently sensitive or informed to realize that this work is going
on within them. But even if they cannot see the soul of their child,
they can at least talk to it and pray to it, saying, ‘Here you are. I’ll
give you the best possible materials and I’ll help you. But try to
bring such and such a quality or talent with you, so that my child
will be an artist or a philosopher, a scientist or a saint.’
When a mother speaks these words with all her heart they can
be very powerful, truly magic, and she emanates certain particles
that the spirit preparing to incarnate in her child can use as building
materials in the construction of its different bodies. The child has
nothing of its own; it receives everything from its mother. This is
why she must be fully aware of what she is doing and make sure
that she gives it only the most luminous and the purest possible
materials.
M en and women must never forget that the children they will
one day bring into the world will reflect their own mental attitudes,
their own behaviour in one way or another. For whatever takes
place in a person’s heart and mind always ends by taking physical
shape. Every thought and every desire in a person’s mind or heart
is a living entity, and your future sons and daughters already exist
in advance, in your minds and hearts. So if your child is perfectly
angelic as they grow up, it is because they began as a splendid idea
in your mind which has now become flesh and blood in them and
which will, through them, continue to help and sustain you. But if
your child brings you nothing but trouble, you should understand
that it is because they are the incarnation of a criminal idea, which
dwelt in you and was nourished by you in the past.
A child who comes into this world is not born out of nowhere.
And if you ask me why your child was born I will tell you, ‘So
that you can see the living proof of what existed in your own
mind.’ This is how men and women get to know themselves:
through their children.4
1 See The Book of Divine Magic, Izvor Coll. n° 226, chap. 11-1: ‘ The law of
records’ .
2 See The Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil, Izvor Coll. n° 210, chap. 7: ‘ The
undesirables’ .
3 See Man’s P sychic Life: Elements and Structures, Izvor Coll. n° 222, chap. 3:
‘ Several souls and several bodies’ .
4 See Le grain de sénevé, Complete Works, vol. 4, chap. 12: ‘ Croissez et multipliez’ .
Chapter Three: A blueprint for the future of
humankind
Whereas now, only very few of the spirits who incarnate in the
present circumstances come from heaven. Where do all the others
come from? The doors are closed to heavenly spirits. It is not
possible for them to incarnate in bodies which are prepared in
impurity, vice and disorder. And this is why humankind is not
getting any better. Of course it will get better, in the long run, but
only after thousands of years, during which it will have to
experience great catastrophes and much suffering. All the changes
that have taken place in recent years on the technical, economic or
medical levels have not managed to improve the human race. It is
still mired in the same passions and vices as before these so-called
improvements. In fact it is even worse than before! And yet it is
possible to improve humankind, but on one condition, and that is
that we begin at the beginning: with the expectant mothers.
Nature has given women special powers, but they used them
badly or not at all. It is important that they become aware of these
powers and realize that the future of the human race is in their
hands. If women take the trouble to understand what I am saying
they will become an unheard of force in the world, capable of
sweeping all before it. But to achieve an exalted ideal they must be
united. At the moment they are dispersed and disunited except in
their readiness to seduce men! This is why they are not very
powerful yet. From now on, all the women of the world must unite
for the regeneration of the human race. In spite of all their
intelligence and skill, men cannot do very much in this way. It is
women, mothers, who have been entrusted with this mission, for it
is they who have been given the power of influencing the child in
the womb.
You will say, ‘Yes, but this change of mentality is also due to
industrialization and technical progress.’ Of course. It is always the
same; people always put the blame on external factors. But
technical progress need not necessarily have led to the catastrophic
situation in which human beings find themselves today. M en and
women have got themselves into this situation, by reason of their
ignorance and egoism and their unbridled appetites. Everybody
blames the conditions, but who creates the conditions? They did
not just drop from heaven! Technical progress is a good thing. It
could have lightened the burden for people. Why did they have to
spoil things so that now it absorbs all their energies and has
brought them to the edge of disaster?1
And now, just reflect for a moment on this; before her baby is
born a mother nourishes it with her blood, but once it is born she
nourishes it with her milk. Blood, which is red, symbolizes life,
strength and activity, whereas milk, which is white, symbolizes
peace and purity. M ilk represents a principle of harmony which
complements and counterbalances the purely biological tendencies
represented by blood. And this is why children who have not been
breast-fed by their own mothers are not capable of manifesting
themselves ideally later on. The milk of another woman, or
animal’s milk, does not contain the same elements as that of the
mother.
Through her milk, a mother gives her baby the love and
tenderness which are vital to its proper development. This is why
she must take care not to give it the breast when she is angry or in
a negative frame of mind. The negative vibrations will poison her
milk, and her baby will receive elements that can make it
physically or psychically ill. Nursing mothers should be very
vigilant and prepare themselves in advance so as to be in the best
possible frame of mind when they feed their children.
Look after your children! Don’t neglect them. I know that a lot
of parents, nowadays, think that education is useless. They are
convinced that children should be left to develop on their own
without outside interference, which would run the risk of
destroying their originality; their qualities will appear quite
naturally if they are left entirely free. This is a very grave mistake!
Heaven and hell both lie dormant in every child, and their future
depends on whether their parents stimulate and develop the one or
the other. I mentioned, one day, the example of a young girl, pure,
innocent and beautifully brought up; she looks as though ‘butter
wouldn’t melt in her mouth’, as we say. But if she gets worked up
and finds herself in a situation where her sexuality is aroused, you
will be dumbfounded to see what that angelic creature is capable
of! All human beings are capable of every evil and of every good. It
all depends on the conditions in which we find ourselves and the
tendencies that have been cultivated in us.
Human nature has two faces, two sides to it; one is celestial,
divine, and the other is hellish, diabolical, and depending on the
method parents use in educating their children, they encourage one
aspect or the other.2 If they are not very careful they will see to
their sorrow that they have brought out the evil aspects of their
children’s characters. Great vigilance and care are needed, especially
while children are still in the formative years. While they are
growing and not yet fully formed, they are full of energies that are
looking for a direction, and this is no time to be blindly trustful and
to think that you have brought a little angel into the world. They
will become angels, certainly, as long as you are vigilant, intelligent
and wise. But if you are careless and ignorant, you will see: they
will become devils!
1 See Truth: Fruit of Wisdom and Love, Izvor Coll. n° 234, chap. 13: ‘ Scientific
progress v. moral progress’ .
2 See Man’s Two Natures, Human and Divine, Izvor Coll. n° 213, chap. 2: ‘ The lower
self is a reflection’ .
Chapter Five: A new understanding of a
mother’s love
I would like to tell you about the case of a young girl for whom
the spiritual life was all that is most important and precious. She
used to spend a lot of time in prayer and meditation, and she was
in the habit of practising various spiritual exercises in order to
come closer and closer to the high ideal she had chosen. And then
one day she married and had a baby, and since then she has given
priority to her married life: her husband and especially her child
absorb her attention and she has abandoned all the rest. And now I
would like to analyse this attitude for you.
And this is exactly what most parents do; their love is so blind
and they are so weak-minded and flabby that they turn their
children into criminals. ‘But we love them!’ They try to justify
their lack of firmness and psychology in bringing up their children
with that excuse – ‘We love them!’ Instead of saying, ‘How weak
and foolish we’ve been,’ they say, ‘We love them.’ I am the only
one who does not believe them. Behind the cry of ‘We love them,’ I
can hear a little voice, half-hidden, murmuring, ‘How stupid we
were!’ That is what I hear.
You must never abandon heaven for the sake of anyone, not even
for your child or your husband or wife, because it is only if you are
firmly rooted in heaven that you will be able to do them any good.
If you abandon the light to please another human being, you will
lose both heaven and earth, and those for whom you have given up
so much will never belong to you; you will find yourself alone. You
must seek heaven; then you will also possess the earth, for the
earth is always in attendance on heaven as its faithful subject and
servant.1
The only beings who will ever belong to you are those you have
learned to love, whether they be children, men or women.
Outwardly, family ties are strongest, but it often happens that
different members of the same family have practically nothing in
common because they belong to different spiritual families. You
can belong physically to a family of peasants, for instance, and
spiritually to a royal family. Or the reverse: you can be physically
a member of a royal family while in reality you belong to a family
of miserable tramps!2
If his family is in dire need, how will a father who truly loves
them react? He will have the courage to leave them for a time and
go and earn money in a foreign country. Whereas another, who is
not motivated by the same kind of love, will not have the courage
to leave his family. The former appears to be abandoning his wife
and children but in fact only leaves them for a time in order to help
them: he goes abroad to earn a lot of money, and when he gets back
they can all be happy together. Whereas a man who doesn’t have
the courage to leave condemns both his family and himself to
permanent poverty. And now let me interpret this for you: a true
father and a true mother will ‘abandon’ their children at intervals
and, by means of prayer and meditation, travel to ‘distant lands’ to
amass a fortune, and when they go home again their whole family
will be better off. Parents who don’t understand this will perhaps
be constantly with their children, but what can they give them?
Nothing but a few odds and ends, a few mouldy crusts of bread!
True fathers and mothers often ‘go abroad’. For how long? It
depends, for half an hour or an hour, sometimes for a day or even a
few months. And when they come home again they share their
wealth with their children. You must admit that I have arguments
that can stand up to all your ‘logical’ objections. And if any of you
who are mothers don’t agree with me, you can come and talk to me
about it! I will tell you, ‘You claim to love your child, but just
analyse your love. If you really love your child, you’ll go ‘abroad’
for at least ten minutes or half an hour every day. If you do that,
then no matter what happens your child will always have an
abundance of what it needs.’
II
You will say that it is not so easy to go and find God; but this is
a figure of speech! Simply by thinking about the heavenly
dimension a mother draws subtle elements to herself and passes
them on to her child. Cases in which a mother’s love was strong
enough to snatch a child from the jaws of death have already been
seen. The mother’s love was so intense that it transformed
something in her child: it generated currents so powerful they were
capable of expelling the negative, harmful elements that had
invaded her child’s body and saved its life. Obviously, cases like
this are exceptional, but even if they can’t always expect such
dramatic results, mothers have a great many opportunities in
everyday life for demonstrating their love for their children.
The imaginative powers of a woman are very strong, and she can
use them to fashion her child,3 and as all her hopes and prayers, all
her feelings for the child, are recorded by its etheric, astral and
mental bodies, when she does this she not only gives great impetus
to its evolution but she also creates a very strong bond between her
child and herself.
Well, there you are: this is how mothers should envisage their
work when they go up to the Rocher at sunrise. If they do so, this
way they will be astonished to see that their love makes them
tireless, for it is love that stimulates and nourishes the cells of the
brain.
And now, let me say just one more word to mothers: do you
really want your children to be a servant of God, a genius, a saint, a
splendid human being, a benefactor of humanity? If so, look after
them with all the love of which you are capable. Love is all-
powerful. Talk to them while they are asleep, caress them gently,
permeate them with light of every colour: red, orange, golden-
yellow, green, blue, indigo and purple.4 But be careful with the
colours. If you want to become familiar with the true colours
contained in the light of the sun you must use a prism, for the only
way to see the full beauty and strength of nature’s colours is with a
crystal. In this way you can contemplate them for a long time and,
later, reproduce them in your imagination. Be sure not to work
with other, impure colours but only with those of the spectrum:
they are the only true colours.
Biblical reference
Abraham is ready to sacrifice his son Isaac – Gen. 1-18
1 See Love and Sexuality, Complete Works, vol. 15, chap. 25: ‘ Love God so as to
love your neighbour better’ .
2 See On the Art of Teaching – from the Initiatic P oint of View, Complete Works, vol.
29, chap. 5: ‘ On perfection’ , part IV.
3 See La pédagogie initiatique, Complete Works, vol. 28, chap. 3: ‘ L’ imagination
formatrice’ .
4 See The Splendour of Tiphareth – The Yoga of the Sun, Complete Works, vol. 10,
chap. 11: ‘ The spirits of the seven lights’ .
5 See above, chap. 19: ‘ The sun teaches unity – the power of penetration’ .
Chapter Six: The magic word
And if some of you say, ‘Well, before doing as you advise, I’d
like to understand exactly what takes place and what processes are
triggered on the etheric plane’, all I can say is that if you never act
until you’ve seen and understood every possible repercussion
beforehand, you will have to wait centuries! And in the meantime
your child will have grown up to be a good-for-nothing. Don’t
wait! Take care of it right away, for you have a very great
responsibility.
And the same is true for the children who come with their
parents to be present at the sunrise: some people think they would
be better off in their beds. Not at all! Even if they go to sleep on
the Rocher, they will still absorb the ambiance of prayer,
meditation and contemplation all round them and receive the
benefit of the sun’s rays. Never forget, the sun’s rays are
conscious, spiritual entities, which caress and influence the children
and leave their mark in their etheric bodies.
In fact, I will go much further than that: I have already told you
that once a child is born it is too late to begin its education. Yes,
already then a child’s parents no longer have the power to influence
their child decisively. They must begin before birth, even before it
is conceived! True education, the only kind of education which is
really potent, effective, real and indestructible, begins before a child
is conceived.
1 See The P ath of Silence, Izvor Coll. n° 229, chap. 10: ‘ Speech and the Logos’ .
Chapter Seven: Never let your children be idle
I am sure you must have noticed today how proud the children
were to sing for us. It was a very serious matter for them. Oh, yes!
They have done something really important today and they will
remember it all their lives: they have sung in front of an audience!
Possibly for you it was not noteworthy, but if you were capable of
looking into the hearts of those children you would see that for
them it was a great event. And now it is up to you to encourage
them, tell them that it was a magnificent performance and that they
should learn more songs because we need to hear them sing again.
I know many parents who made this mistake with their children
and are suffering because of it, and all I can say is, ‘It’s your own
fault. You should have started teaching your children to help you
to wash a few plates and lay the table, or do some other little job
very early on’. Obviously, most jobs in the house are too difficult
for toddlers; they have neither the strength nor the ability, but they
can watch you: you can do something in front of them and tell
them, ‘When you’re bigger you’ll do this or that.’ And, in the
meantime, there are all kinds of little things they can do to help,
only the trouble is that parents do not give them anything to do,
because it is so much quicker and easier to do it oneself than to
show a child what to do and then keep an eye on them while they
are doing it! But this is not a good educational method, for later on
when you want them to do something they have not learned to do
when they were very small, they will not want to. Their faculties
were not trained early enough. And when this happens it is no
good scolding, ‘Lazy bones! Go and do this or that; try to learn’,
for they will not want to. It is too late.
There are a certain number of good habits you should teach your
children while they are still very young, because then they will
never lose them. I once met a man who had been to prison several
times for theft, and he admitted that even in prison he always said
his morning and evening prayer. It was a habit his father had
instilled into him when he was still small and he could never forget
it. So I asked him, ‘You mean that you pray every morning and
evening and yet you go on stealing?’ ‘Ah, yes’, he replied, ‘but
that’s different.’ For him praying and stealing were not
incompatible. Of course, it would have been better if his father had
given him the habit of not stealing!
This is why I often tell parents, ‘Take care! Take care! Your
kindness is really weakness and ignorance in disguise. Later on you
will be reduced to tears, because you will be the first victims of
your own misguided kindness.’ So many parents come and
complain to me about their children’s attitude! I am obliged to tell
them that they have brought it on themselves, and of course they
do not understand. You must never be weak with children, because
if you are they will abuse your kindness and it will not be their
fault but yours. If no one shows children that there are certain rules
they must learn to obey, and if while they are still very young they
have the impression that everything can be made to give way to
their every whim, how can you expect them to listen to someone
who tries to remonstrate with them? They will refuse to obey, and
it is normal. They want to defy everyone, to destroy everything,
to destroy themselves even rather than give way. This is what they
have been accustomed to; it has become a habit and it is not their
fault.
So, when parents realize that the mistakes they have made in
bringing up their child have damaged their character, they have only
one recourse and that is to call on heaven and the spirits of wisdom
to teach the child a lesson which will make them think. The child
will cry a little and the parents will console them, but they will
have understood, and in this way, after a few good lessons, they
will be saved. I have often watched parents with their children, and
I have seen that it is kindness, misguided kindness, that encourages
vice. Kindness is wonderful, but only so long as it is subject to
wisdom.1
A few years later, the situation was so bad that they remembered
my advice. But I had the surprise of my life when I heard what
they had done: instead of sending their boy as an apprentice in a
garage as I had advised, they bought him the biggest, most modern
and most expensive garage they could find! Obviously nothing in
his previous experience had prepared him to run a business like
that, and before long the inevitable happened, he went bankrupt
and his parents lost enormous sums of money. There is no point in
telling you all that happened later. The point is that here is an
example of parents who brought suffering and misfortune on their
son through their weakness and foolish love.
Whereas it would be far better if those who were very rich did
not let their children realize it; otherwise, they will never make an
effort to learn how to get on and make their own way in life.
Children who are used to wealth think that all their wishes should
be granted, that they have the right to taste all the pleasures of life,
and they grow up to be indolent and slothful. This is the worst
possible kind of upbringing. So, as far as possible, parents should
keep their children in ignorance of the wealth they will have when
they grow up. Once they have acquired good habits of work and
self-control, their parents can talk to them about the money they
will inherit later, but not before.
If you think about it, this is what God himself does with his
children. He is the greatest educator, the supreme pedagogue; he
never reveals the heritage he has prepared for us on high. He lets us
believe we are poor and miserable so that we will work and make a
real effort on our own, and when in toil and tears we have become
worthy of our heritage, he reveals all the treasures he has in store
for us. At that point we understand the wisdom of the Father who
reveals none of this to us in advance. Initiates, who endeavour to
work in the same way, also conceal many things from their
disciples so that they will develop and grow strong.
1 See Truth: Fruit of Wisdom and Love, Izvor Coll. n° 234, chap. 3: ‘ Wisdom and
love; light and warmth’ .
2 See Cosmic Balance – The Secret of P olarity, Izvor Coll. n° 237 , chap. 11-1:
‘ Sceptre and orb’ .
Chapter Eight: Prepare your children for adult
life
Even if you have the impression that your children are too
young, you should begin to prepare them now for the life they will
lead later on, and they will gain a deeper understanding if they are
in the company of adults and see how they live. Children
themselves feel this need to prepare for adulthood: look at how a
little girl instinctively wants a doll to cuddle and wash and feed.
She is preparing herself for her future role as mother. Something
within her spurs her on to explore the terrain in view of the future.
This is a topic which is worth investigating.
So, there you are: just a few words to explain that one must not
let young people do only what pleases them or is agreeable to them
at their present stage of development. They must always be helped
to aim a little higher, a little further, and to anticipate the future.
Oh, I know. A lot of children anticipate, but not always in the best
way. A lovely, graceful little girl, for instance, may have one
ambition in life: to be like her aunt with her lips and nails painted
bright red and rings on all her fingers. Or a little boy dreams of
being like his grandfather, because he smokes a pipe and has an
enormous walrus mustache! Without knowing it, young people
often anticipate. They are in too much of a hurry to grow older and
look important or blasé. If they only knew! They need not hurry:
it will happen soon enough without any help from them! If there is
anything that is absolutely certain it is this: nothing can prevent
them from growing old!
1 See Youth: Creators of the Future, Izvor Coll. n° 233, chap. 2: ‘ The foundation
stone of life: faith in a Creator’ and chap. 3: ‘ A sense of the sacred’ .
2 See above , chap. 12: ‘ Benefit from the experience of older people’ and chap. 13:
‘ Compare yourself to those who are greater’ .
3 See New Light on the Gospels, Izvor Coll. n° 217, chap. 2: ‘ Unless you become
like children’ .
Chapter Nine: Protect your children’s sense of
wonder
Once a child has lost its sense of wonder it has lost its most
precious faculty. For you cannot think that it is any great proof of
superiority for adults to maintain that the universe has no soul and
no intelligence, and that humans are the only living creatures who
have the power of thought. The whole of nature is alive and
intelligent and peopled with living, intelligent creatures, many of
whom are far more intelligent than humans! As soon as someone
rejects and denies that the whole of creation is alive and intelligent,
death begins to get a hold on them. If you believe that everything
around you is endowed with intelligence and life, then both
intelligence and life will grow and increase within you.
When I was a child there were a few very old people in the
family whose words expressed great wisdom. They were not
educated people, most of them had never been to school (in a tiny
village in rural M acedonia more than a century ago that was not
unusual), but their whole attitude expressed such dignity and self-
control that I admired them enormously. They were models for me.
When they came to see us at home (I was six or seven years old) I
was always delighted to see them and listened to them with rapt
attention. I always asked them to tell me a story, and one of them
in particular – called M ikhaël – made a deep impression on me. He
was very wise. When he talked he would measure his words and
gestures. Like my grandmother, he would tell me fantastic tales of
battles between the forces of good and evil, the powers of light and
darkness, white magicians and sorcerers! Good always triumphed
over evil in the end. Ever since, I have felt that by means of these
tales this old man and my grandmother gave me an impetus
towards good and the light and sowed in my heart a yearning to see
the triumph of light over darkness.
I can see now that all this was planned: I had to hear those tales
for they left a deep impression on me. Everything I learned later in
books or at the university has been forgotten; the thing I remember
is these tales in which the powers of light always triumphed over
darkness.
1 See The Wellsprings of Eternal Joy, Izvor Coll. n° 242, chap. 16: ‘ Opening the
doors to the dream world’ .
2 See The Book of Divine Magic, Izvor Coll. n° 226, chap. 8: ‘ Working with nature
spirits’ .
3 See Angels and other Mysteries of The Tree of Life, Izvor Coll. n° 236, chap. 1:
‘ From man to God, the notion of hierarchy’ .
Chapter Ten: Love without weakness
‘If a child puts its fingers into a flame or onto a block of ice, the
physical laws of heat and cold will not be changed to spare it.
Nature looks on completely unmoved by what it does, and this is
why it learns to respect her. For a child, its mother represents
nature, and if she fails to do so faithfully the child will never learn
that certain limits must not be overstepped and will be headed for
catastrophe. The mother’s weakness is very often the cause of
children turning into complete scoundrels later on in life.’
I could go on talking all day but I know that parents would still
not agree with me, because my advice goes against their own
methods. But isn’t it obvious that they have problems with their
children? And isn’t it reasonable to think, therefore, that they
would do well to revise those methods?
In the text I read at the beginning I said that you should never hit
your children. In point of fact, in exceptional cases, a slap or a
good spanking does no harm. But there is one thing you have to be
very careful about if you hit your child and that is your expression,
the way you look at them. Your eyes must not express anger or
hostility or negative feelings towards them, because although they
will quickly forget the spanking, they will never forget it if you
look at them with hostility. They will bear a grudge and sooner or
later try to take revenge. Be very careful of what your eyes express
if you have to hit your child!1
Often parents slap a child because they are exasperated and lose
patience, but this is a very bad reaction. Corporal punishment
should never be the expression of a parent’s exasperation –
exasperation is not educational – but only to make the child
understand that there are certain rules which have to be obeyed.
This is the reason for a method which I know some of you find
bizarre: when mothers have to punish their children they must be
in full control of themselves and show that they hate having to hit
them. They should even let them see them cry and tell them, ‘I
don’t want to beat you, but I have to because you have done
wrong and you have to be punished for it.’ Then they can go ahead
with the spanking! In this way children understand that their
mother is unhappy, that it hurts her to have to beat them and that
it is their own fault if she is obliged to punish them. This will make
them reflect and understand that there are certain laws which must
not be broken.
We cannot educate all the mothers and fathers of the earth, but I
hope that at least those who are members of the Brotherhood will
accept the light of this Teaching. Let them punish their children
when necessary, but without the destructive feelings which expose
them to the influence of the powers of darkness. For there is
another point I have not explained, and that is that later on when
they want to guide their children, they will find they cannot: they
have no influence on them. Instead of being docile and obedient to
their parents, the children obey only the spirits of darkness; it is
these that have become their guides. You must give all this a lot of
thought. Punish your children if you have to, but only to make
them aware that there are certain laws which they cannot disobey
without endangering themselves.
This is how nature behaves. Suppose it is win- ter and very cold
and you break a window: unless you mend it you will have to put
up with the consequences and spend your time shivering. If you
appeal to nature, ‘I’m cold! Couldn’t you make it a little warmer?’
it will remain completely unmoved and implacable. It is up to you
to realize that you have been clumsy and repair the damage and not
be so awkward in the future. A mother should treat her child in the
same way as nature treats us: by being unmoved and implacable
and, at the same time, showing that she too obeys the same laws.
In doing so she will inculcate in her child the notion of order and
hierarchy: you can expect wonders from a child who has been
brought up in awareness and respect for the law.
Obviously, children are not all the same. In bringing them up you
have to make allowances for their different degrees of evolution,
their temperament, their health and many other factors besides.
There are so many different cases that one cannot establish a
blanket rule for everyone. It is up to the parents to study their
children and prove themselves sufficiently intelligent and
enlightened to choose the method that best suits each one.
You will start raising all kinds of objections: ‘Yes, but we know
families in which the children are far more intelligent than their
parents. No wonder they refuse to obey them.’ I know that every
now and then there are exceptional children, but they are rare –
very rare. I am speaking generally, and in general I simply do not
believe what so many people would like me to believe: that most
children are little geniuses who are justified in rebelling against their
mediocre parents. It is not true! Children are born into a particular
family for a reason, and since that is where they are, it is too late to
criticize and condemn. If they are such geniuses, why did they
choose to be born into such a family?2 They have been born into
this particular family because they have something to learn from
them, and to do this they must obey their parents. Later on they
will prove themselves, like the princes of royal blood who were
sent into the army as simple soldiers so as to be treated (or rather
ill-treated) like the others.
Some of you may object: ‘Yes, but these schools that are so well
equipped nowadays are very useful. Thanks to all that equipment
our children can learn to be technicians and engineers, etc.’ True!
They can learn whatever you like on the technical level. But is
humankind any happier because of technical progress, comfort or
speed? I am certainly not opposed to progress, but you have to be
sure that you’re ‘progressing’ in the right direction! At the
moment, men and women are only interested in improving material
conditions, as though there were no other areas in which they
needed to improve. I am all in favour of progress – but what kind?
In spite of all the technical progress of the last few decades, the
quality of life has not improved. People are no happier than they
were before; they are no less troubled and anxious; they are no
more radiant with inner light than they were in the past; their
health is no better.1
The only way to get good results in education is for teachers and
educators to be models for the children. The first and most
important educators are parents, and if they betray their vocation,
if they fail to practise what they preach, the children will very
soon realize that something is not right. When this happens, not
only do the parents lose all authority but their children begin to
follow their example. They learn that truth is a coin which has two
sides: one for public consumption and one for private use and that
you can do whatever you like as long as you do not lose face. They
all practise deceit and fraud because this is the example they have
before their eyes.
One day he left the school and was replaced by a funny little
man who came quietly into the classroom without even looking at
us. As soon as he appeared, the pupils went to their places
without a word and never stirred during the whole lesson. The
teacher put his register on the desk and in a very quiet voice began
the lesson. He never got angry, never threatened us, never punished
anyone. He knew his subject inside out, he never hesitated, and we
had to work very hard. I was fifteen or sixteen at the time and this
made a great impression on me. I never forgot this little man that
looked so completely insignificant, not because he was so
knowledgeable but because of something in his presence, something
which emanated from him and impressed us all. And this happens
in schools and universities: every now and then you meet teachers
who, without doing anything special to impress their students,
command respect simply by their presence.
There are other cases, for instance, of certain yogis in India who
live in the jungle in the midst of tigers and cobras, and the animals
never harm them: because of their innate purity and virtues the
yogis give off powerful vibrations which the animals can sense and
which keep them at a respectful distance, whereas they would
attack anyone else.
This is why I always tell parents, ‘If you don’t want all that
instruction you are giving your children to be used against you one
day, you must accept the Teaching of Initiatic Science. If you do,
you yourself will become better in every way, more luminous and
more radiant, and in that way you will impress your children a
hundred times more than all their educators.’
Parents must not think that they are satisfying the essential
needs of their children when they provide them with instruction.
This is an illusion which can only lead to war between the
generations: at school the children learn all kinds of things their
parents never learned, and when they get home, armed with their
diplomas and their so-called superiority, they give their parents a
very hard time! And the parents are unhappy and disappointed to
see that their children are ungrateful, rude and violent. But they
have only themselves to blame! Why have they never done
anything to acquire the inner light and strength that will always
impress the children with their superiority? This should be the goal
of all parents: to become so noble and high-minded, so radiant and
strong that they will be exemplary.
The cells of our bodies are alive and endowed with intelligence;
they watch us. As they are permanently in contact with us we
cannot escape their vigilance, the least little deceit or dishonesty
leaves its imprint on them, and before long they begin to follow the
example we give them. They say to each other, ‘Come on, it’s quite
all right to drink and plunder, the boss does it!’ Nobody realizes
that our cells follow the example we give them.
Real magic exists only where there is truth and unity. M agic
presupposes unification, a mustering of forces and energies; there
can be no magic in the presence of dispersion and dislocation. But
although I am saying this about magic, you must understand that it
is not really magic that interests me. I never read books on magic or
sorcery, although I did glance through some at one time just to have
an idea of what they said, but I have no time to waste on this kind
of reading. No! For me, magic is life; magic is the whole universe.
This is the true treatise on magic, and it is lying open before us,
waiting for us to read it – but we still haven’t learned to read!
And this is why, for me, the greatest of all teachers is the sun.3
Yes, it is the sun that is my M aster. Do you know what it told me
one day? It said, ‘Believe me, all those so-called teachers know
nothing of true education. They don’t even know that if you want
to warm someone you have to be warm yourself, and if you want
to communicate light and life to someone you have to be luminous
and alive yourself. Educators try to force the young to develop
moral qualities which they themselves don’t possess and which
they are incapable of demonstrating in their own behaviour. How
can you expect the young not to rebel? It’s normal that they should
refuse to obey people like that!’ There – that’s what the sun says!
The magical power of education lies in one thing and one thing
only: example. I cannot repeat this too often. All the rest is
trimmings, stuff and nonsense! Teachers ‘know’ a great deal; they
read, write, explain and expound all kinds of clever theories, but
they are incapable of being living examples. That’s not good
enough! I never read books on education any longer; there are too
many of them and they all contradict each other anyway. If you
asked me about educational programmes in other countries or the
latest educational systems and trends, I would have to admit that I
know nothing about all that. All my energy, all my willpower is
concentrated on one central goal: how to become a model, a living
example. Only that!
II
If teachers and professors are worn out at the end of the school
year, it is not because it is so exhausting to take care of children but
because all too often they work with a mercenary mentality: their
main concern is to earn their living. They are not interested in the
children. They simply try to get through their work as quickly as
possible, never stopping to reflect on the exalted nature of their
calling, which is to look after the souls of all these children that
heaven has entrusted to their care. It goes without saying that
children have failings, but once you embark upon a career as an
educator you assume the obligation to think of the children’s
future, to be attentive and considerate towards them, in fact to love
them. And as all children are responsive to affection and kindness,
after a time they will begin to respond and to change.
When I was still in Bulgaria, more than fifty years ago, I knew a
very old woman who had never learned to read and write. Towards
the end of her life, when she was seventy years old, she asked to
go to the village school. She lived in a small village and the
schoolmaster agreed to let her join the class. Well, you can just
imagine the children’s reaction when they saw an old lady sitting in
the classroom with them! They did nothing but tease and laugh at
her. And she? Not only did she never get angry with them, but she
would hug and kiss them and bring them little presents. Before long
the children stopped laughing at her. They adored her. And one
day, when she had got a chill and could not go to school, the whole
class trooped off to her house to beg her to get better quickly and
come back to school with them. They did not want to learn their
lessons if she was not there.
Yes, but if you want to have this kind of effect on children you
need a great deal of love and patience. The world has had a few
great educators, such as Pestalozzi for instance, who was not
especially learned but who achieved amazing results with difficult
children because of his great love. But such people are rare. I know
what a tremendous job it is to educate children; if I can talk to you
about this it is because I, too, have been first a teacher and later the
principal of a college in Bulgaria, and I have seen with my own
eyes the effect of love and patience on children. Because of all the
tales my pupils used to tell their parents about me, they would
often come and see me to thank me and bring me presents. In fact I
had so many presents that in the end I did not know what to do
with them or where to put them all! When I left to come to France,
they all came to the station and cried to see me go! I can never
forget that. I often think of all those children who are grandfathers
and grandmothers by now!
As you can see there are certain methods you must know about
in order to work with children. You could say that you should not
even think of them, only of yourself. If you do not want to end up
exhausted and in a state of collapse, keep calm, be more patient and
attentive, and you will save a lot of energy. If you are always tense
and irritable you will end up falling ill.4
I hear that people, these days, are focusing more and more
attention on the subject of human nature, psychology and
education. This is because they have begun to realize that there can
be neither success nor lasting happiness for humanity as long as
these questions are not properly understood. Before long people
will be talking of nothing else. The only trouble is that there is a big
difference between the realization that something has to be changed
in this area and the ability to bring about the necessary changes.
Look at politics! Everybody talks about change: this must be
changed and that should be changed... It is easy to talk, but when
you have not prepared yourself to bring about the necessary
changes it is simply grotesque to talk like that!
So, three or four years at a university is not enough to be ready
to assume the responsibility of an educator. A whole lifetime of
study, in fact several lifetimes, is necessary, for the key to
education lies in Initiatic Science. An educator must have
something special in their heart and soul and spirit: the sacred
flame of the born teacher, which pulses and glows and reaches out
to influence others. In the presence of a true educator, other people
are seized with a desire to imitate them even before they have
opened their mouth. They sense that there is something luminous
and warm, something alive in them, and it is that warmth and light
and life that helps them to understand whatever the teacher
explains to them.
What can one do with young people who believe in nothing any
more and who live in disorder and chaos? Is that the purpose of
philosophy? What good does it do them to know that one imbecile
taught one thing and another taught just the opposite? Young
people need to learn the one true philosophy, that which is found
in the living book of nature. But their professors themselves have
never studied that book, so all they can do is present a hodgepodge
of ideas, some true and some false – and inevitably there is a great
deal of falsehood and very little truth! Let me warn you that by
continuing to use these methods the schools are preparing an
upsurge of anarchy and suicides amongst students.
So, be glad, because even if you learn nothing new here, at least
you receive the impetus of enthusiasm and life – and that is what
matters. Before all else you must be alive. Later you can go and
learn whatever you like!
Biblical reference
‘If you had faith even the size of a mustard seed’ – Matt. 17 :
20
1 See Youth: Creators of the Future, Izvor Coll. n° 233, chap. 6: ‘ Knowledge cannot
give meaning to life’ .
2 See above, chap. 7: ‘ Character counts for more than knowledge’ .
3 See The Splendour of Tiphareth – The Yoga of the Sun, Complete Works, vol. 10,
chap. 20: ‘ The sun teaches by example’ .
4 See Harmony and Health, Izvor Coll. n° 225, chap. 8: ‘ How to become tireless’ .
5 See The Faith That Moves Mountains, Izvor Coll. n° 238, and Love Greater Than
Faith, Izvor Coll. n° 239.
6 See Life and Work in an Initiatic School – Training for the Divine, Complete
Works, vol. 30, chap. 8: ‘ The meaning of initiation’ , part I.
7 See The Splendour of Tiphareth – The Yoga of the Sun, Complete Works, vol. 10.
8 See The Living Book of Nature, Izvor Coll. n° 216.
9 See The Yoga of Nutrition, Izvor Coll. n° 204, chap. 1: ‘ Eating: an act which
concerns the whole person’ and chap. 2: ‘ Hrani yoga’ .
10 See Sunrise Meditations, Brochure n° 323.