Hamlet
Hamlet
Hamlet
shifts. These shifts follow the five stages of grief laid out by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross.
Kubler-Ross conjectured that when faced with grief in the form of loss or catastrophe, in
the form of being diagnosed with a terminal illness, or suffering the loss of a loved one,
most people follow the five stages laid out in her model: Denial, Anger, Bargaining,
Depression, and finally, Acceptance. These stages can be reached in any order, and with
varying degrees of frequency, often one will revert back to an earlier stage to go through
ANGER
As Kubler-Ross’ model indicates, Denial is commonly the first stage, but for
Hamlet, Anger was the first stage. After hearing the ghost’s story for the first time
Hamlet is enraged. “ O all you host of heaven! O earth! What else? And shall I couple
hell? O fie! Hold, hold, my heart…thy commandment all alone shall live Within the book
and volume of my brain…O most pernicious woman! O villain, villain, smiling, damned
villain!” Prior to this scene with Hamlet and the Ghost of his father, he hadn’t been very
prevalent in the play, so we can identify this as his first stage of grief, brought on by the
reappearance of his father, and the new knowledge that the ghost brought to light. This
one event lays out the rest of Hamlets life, Hamlet realizes his inevitable fate from the
start, thus starting his path down the stages of grief towards the end of his own life.
DEPRESSION
must do to avenge his father’s ghost, he begins to act crazy. In the first part of this stage
he alarms Ophelia by interrupting her during her sewing. “O my lord, my lord, I have
been so affrighted!… My lord, as I was sewing in my closet, Lord Hamlet, with his
doublet all unbraced; No hat upon his head; his stockings fouled, Ungartered, and down-
gyvèd to his ankle; Pale as his shirt; his knees knocking each other; And with a look so
piteous in purport As if he had been loosèd out of hell To speak of horrors—he comes
before me…He took me by the wrist and held me hard Then goes he to the length of all
his arm, And, with his other hand thus o'er his brow, He falls to such perusal of my face
As he would draw it. Long stayed he so.” His actions here are similar to that of someone
in the depression stage of Kubler-Ross’ model. He also exhibits his depression in his “To
be or not to be” soliloquy, showing his suicidal musings. His behavior is erratic and
frightening to those around him, yet he is unconcerned, and continues on as nothing is out
of ordinary. This sets in motion a new chain of events. Because of the alarm he has
caused Ophelia, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are sent to spy on him. Also, at this time,
Claudius is first alerted to Hamlets new, odd behavior, causing him concern that perhaps
DENIAL
From his depression, Hamlet next moves to Denial. He momentarily doubts the
validity of the ghost’s claims at the very end of act II. “Why, what an ass am I! This is
most brave, That I, the son of a dear father murdered, Prompted to my revenge by heaven
and hell, Must, like a whore, unpack my heart with words And fall a-cursing like a very
drab.” Here, Hamlet curses his cowardice for doubting the apparition, but still cannot
shake the feeling that he must be certain about the ghost’s assertions before he acts on
them. Hamlet’s decision to validate what the ghost has told him shows that Hamlet is not
just a blind follower. Many would mindlessly seek revenge if charged by the soul of their
father, but Hamlet questions the ghost and decides to make sure for himself. This is an
instance of characterization for Hamlet because he is acting out of the norm and showing
BARGAINING
decision to attempt to trap the king in a production put on the an acting troupe set to visit
the castle. “I have heard That guilty creatures sitting at a play Have, by the very cunning
of the scene, Been struck so to the soul that presently They have proclaimed their
malefactions. For murder, though it have no tongue, will speak With most miraculous
organ. I’ll have these players Play something like the murder of my father Before mine
uncle. I’ll observe his looks. I’ll tent him to the quick. If he do blench, I know my course.
The spirit that I have seen May be the devil, and the devil hath power T' assume a
pleasing shape. Yea, and perhaps Out of my weakness and my melancholy, As he is very
potent with such spirits, Abuses me to damn me. I’ll have grounds More relative than
this. The play’s the thing Wherein I’ll catch the conscience of the king.” Here he shows a
classic example of this stage. Usually, with people such as terminally ill patients, this
stage includes pleas for just a little more time, until they can view a landmark event in a
loved ones life, such as a graduation, etc. But Hamlet bargains with himself, saying this
will be the deciding factor. This proves to be crucial because Hamlet receives the
After Hamlet gets the validation he needs from the play, he moves on to the final
stage; Acceptance. He now knows what must be done by him to avenge the death of his
father. Hamlet shows here that he is set on completing the task laid on him by his father’s
ghost. “I do not know Why yet I live to say “This thing’s to do,” Sith I have cause and
will and strength and means To do ’t…How stand I then, That have a father killed, a
mother stained, Excitements of my reason and my blood, And let all sleep—while, to my
shame…Oh, from this time forth, My thoughts be bloody, or be nothing worth!” At the
end of this passage Hamlet resolves to not think of anything other than his stepfather’s
blood from that point on. This shows Hamlets determination to now do what he has
accepted that he must. Also, in this stage of Hamlets grief, we see another acceptance
come to light. As Hamlet and Horatio are talking with the gravedigger, he comes to
another realization. “Alexander died, Alexander was buried, Alexander returneth to dust;
the dust is earth; of earth we make loam; and why of that loam whereto he was converted
might they not stop a beer barrel? Imperious Caesar, dead and turned to clay, might stop a
hole to keep the wind away.” Here Hamlet is coming to terms with life in that all lives
and people will eventually just be dust, remembered and revered by no one. In the last
pages of the play, Hamlet strides confidently into what he knows will be his death. He
has already read the letter the king wrote to have him killed in England, so he knows the
king wants him dead. Hamlet is smart enough to know that he will not come out of the
duel alive. Yet, in his stage of acceptance he can only decide to end both his life, and
fulfill his destiny in one fell swoop, which, by killing the king in his final moments, he
does.