KJ47.4 Kim Hyun Mee The State and Migrant Women
KJ47.4 Kim Hyun Mee The State and Migrant Women
KJ47.4 Kim Hyun Mee The State and Migrant Women
Abstract
* The Korean version of this paper was presented at the international conference
“Knowledge Production and Challenges of Feminisms in the Glocal Era,” organized
by the Korean Women’s Institute, Ewha Womans University, South Korea, Novem-
ber 1-2, 2007.
Kim Hyun Mee (Kim, Hyeon-mi) is currently an associate professor in the Department
of Sociology at Yonsei University, Korea. She received her Ph.D in Anthropology from
University of Washington in 1995. Her current research includes the Korean pop cul-
ture flow in the Asian regions and global migration issues including cross-border mar-
riage in Korea. Email: [email protected].
The State and Migrant Women 101
Introduction
them to treat their husbands well (Han and Seol 2006, 60):
If the marriage migrant women policy reflects the demands and influ-
ences of Korean families, it ignores those of migrant women for
“social and familial recognition for their mother tongue and native
culture,” the most important factor in the creation of the multicultur-
al family (Kim Y. 2007, 30). Many migrant women acknowledge the
importance of treating their husbands and family members with the
same amount of education that they receive in learning the Korean
language and about Korean tradition.1 These women say that the
biggest difficulty they experience is coping with the Korean family
culture, which is still often maintained in a premodern style, wherein
the married son lives with his parents. Like Korean women, migrant
women also consider their relationships with parents-in-law the most
difficult (Seol et al. 2006, 100). In other countries, this intergenera-
tional combination usually applies to some upper- and middle-class
people who need to hand down their economic and cultural assets to
the next generation. In Korea, however, this intergenerational combi-
nation occurs in almost every class, and they do so in the name of
tradition, etiquette, and custom. The mother-in-law plays the biggest
role in propagating this intergenerational combination. As a stranger
among her husband’s family members, a woman gains power only
by giving birth to a child, thereby producing a paternal family.
In Korea, where the characteristics of the “uterine family” are
maintained, maternal power is exercised by making children (espe-
cially boys) emotionally dependent on their mothers. In the “multi-
cultural family,” the mother-in-law considers it her duty to mold her
daughter-in-law into the fabric of the family. In many cases, mothers-
in-law extensively control the eating habits, manners, etiquette,
1. When questioned about the necessary educational programs that husbands should
receive, 27 out of 108 replied saying that “education regarding wife’s nation and
culture’ was important, while 26 cited “education in the wife’s native language”,
and 18 said “education regarding international marriage” (Yi 2007).
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This woman had married with the belief that “prepared maternity”
was possible, but now she has experienced violence from both her
husband and mother-in-law, and is selling shoes and pins on the
street for a living. Since many migrant women were unaware that
many older Korean men typically lack economic resources, are not
well-educated, and may have even left the labor market, they mar-
ried based on their idealized image of Korean men without suspicion.
They believed that while the man supported the family, they could
realize their dreams of establishing a modern family and fulfill their
imagined role of “high quality emotional care, systematic guidance
and education, and rational operation of the family economy”
(Hwang 2005). Those Filipino women who have had experience
working as domestic maids before coming to Korea through interna-
tional marriages want to experience and practice genuine maternity,
as opposed to “commercialized” maternity (Chang 2007). Also, Kore-
an-Chinese women and Mongolian women wish to move to Korea
with their children from previous marriages in their hometowns, but
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they have to constantly prove that their marriages to Korean men are
not “disguised marriages” for that purpose. A Korean-Chinese
woman, who divorced after 15 years of marriage and tried to bring
her son from China following the death of her former husband, told
me that her Korean husband and parents-in-law accused her of fraud
and claimed that she had faked the second marriage in order to bring
her son to Korea, and even planned to steal their money.
Child-bearing and child-rearing are also problems caught in
webs of power relations. One recommendation given by brokers to
prevent migrant women from running away and making them accul-
turate quickly is by “getting the women pregnant.” Thus, a serious
problem that emerged in the course of the interviews with migrant
women is that “pregnancy” and childbirth in many cases are not
considered “blessed” events that help strengthen the marital bond.
Many studies about international marriages have interpreted child-
birth positively for foreign women since it is said to improve marital
relations by providing the assurance that the women will not run
away. However, such an interpretation does not apply in many
cases. Strong opposition from husbands, especially due to concerns
about having “mixed-blood children,” sometimes leads to abortion.
In some cases, Korean men and migrant women who have both
internalized and taken for granted the idea that their children will
experience discrimination in Korea deliberately avoid pregnancy, and
some husbands even force their wives to abort. Moreover, those
Korean men who treat foreign women simply as sexual objects or
docile housekeepers sometimes express strong objections when these
women become “normal” wives upon becoming pregnant and giving
birth. On the contrary, some Korean men tend to avoid taking the
responsibility of creating the idealized nuclear family consisting of a
couple and their children.
Meanwhile, migrant women are very realistic when it comes to
matters such as raising children and maintaining the family, quite dif-
ferent from the Korean government’s expectations of the multicultur-
al family. While child-rearing in Korea is a heavy responsibility for
both Korean and migrant women, migrant women tend to actively
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control childbirth the longer they stay in Korea.2 Migrant women are
surprised by the substantial amount of money needed to raise their
children and the lack of public facilities for children. Many also give
up whatever hope they have of getting a job. The women I met dur-
ing this research said that even if they love children they “cannot
give birth to more children. We don’t have enough money. We can’t
raise them,” with some resorting to birth control as an inevitability.
Similar to marriages among natives in Korea, divorce rates
among “multicultural families” are also soaring. The number of mar-
riages between Korean men and foreign women that ended in divorce
rose from 401 cases out of the total number of 11,017 in 2002, 583
out of 19,214 in 2003, 1,611 out of 25,594 in 2004, and 2,444 out of
31,180 in 2005 (Seol et al. 2006, 21-22). These migrant women are
thus deviating from the so-called state-governed status of marriage
migrants. Since the legal process for divorce is not simple, many
women either return to their home countries without getting divorced
or remain in hiding in Korea. Some of the women I met who had
children at the time of their divorce said they have to simply accept
their existence with “fatherless” children. While lamenting that their
early experiences of being raised by a sacrificial mother in the
absence of a father are being repeated once again in their lives, they
stress it is better to remove their children from “the violent father”
and describe separation from their husbands as a “choice.” Some
other migrant women have come to realize that their husbands are
economically and socially marginalized, and they conclude rather
quickly that they should not rely on their husbands for support.
Instead, they seek “economic independence” through part-time and
temporary jobs, and earn a living while staying at a friend’s house
and returning home periodically.
As women begin to realize the discrepancies between their initial
expectations before migrating and the actual reality during the early
2. As stated in the report, the women who replied saying they “have no plans for
future childbirth” cited difficult family circumstances and the economic burden of
child-rearing and providing education as the main reasons (Seol et al. 2006).
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Conclusion
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