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● He hails from the darkest Peru. He lives in England. He got his
name from London’s Paddington Station. With his old hat and bat-
tered suitcase, he resembles a Jewish refugee. He loves marmalade.
And now, he’s spreading that marmalade on matzah.
He’s Paddington Bear, featured in beloved children’s books and
films since 1958.
A film about the bear, Paddington 2, came out in the United States
last November, in time for the Christmas holidays. In Israel, however,
his visit to theaters was postponed for the Passover vacation season.
And on promotional posters and newspaper advertisements, at
least, his menu was adjusted to fit the holiday.
For Israeli movie theaters hoping that Paddington 2 packs them in
during Pesach, replacing the bread in the advertising — though not
the film itself — was only the bear minimum. LARRY YUDELSON
March 16 in which he accused “the Roths- The Jewish Standard assumes no responsibility to return unsolic-
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removed the video and issued an apology.
The Rothschilds are a well-known Europe-
an Jewish dynasty descended from a Jewish Candlelighting:
banker originally from Germany. White did
not specify which of the many Rothschilds he was accusing cy theorists also think that the Rothschilds, working with the Friday, March 30, 7:01 p.m.
of weather control. Rockefellers, have technology that controls the weather. Shabbat ends:
Several days later, there was another video featuring Silverman, who will host White at the seder, issued a state-
White, although apparently he did not post this one himself. ment describing his Rothschild comments as “hateful and
Saturday, March 32, 8:01 p.m.
In this second video, he said that the Rothschilds control the dangerous.” She told the Washington Post that his ignorance
World Bank and the federal government. about Judaism and anti-Semitism is a call for engagement.
Internet conspiracy theorists claim that the Rockefeller “I want to be very clear that anti-Semitism has no place For convenient
Foundation’s Resilient Cities initiative, which provides grants in civic discussion, but this has shown that there is a lack of home delivery,
to cities, including Washington, to address environmental exposure to Judaism and anti-Semitism … there are strains of
call 201-837-8818 or
and economic problems, is part of a plot to control and re- this, especially in Trayon’s community,” she said. “The way to
duce the population of North America. And some conspira- combat intolerance is to engage.” JTA WIRE SERVICE
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GINSBURG HUMOR:
Seriously… jurist
can’t take a joke
prominent British Jewish
Not a fun (She and her ideologi-
family of Iraqi origin and
schmoozer cal opponent, the late
both sisters identify as
Justice RUTH Justice Antonin Scalia,
Jewish. Kravitz’s paternal
BADER GINSBURG bonded over their love
grandfather and mater-
turned 85 on March 15, of opera and were great
nal grandmother were
and that prompted a friends.) When Colbert
Jewish and she identifies
flurry of publicity. Two asked her a semi-silly le-
as Jewish. She proved
items I saw were on the gal question she was fine
she was more than eye
light side. The Wall Street logically, but not funny.
candy with an excellent
Journal (“WSJ”) inter- Frankly, she just isn’t the
performance in the hit
viewed her about her type of person who’s HBO series “Big Little
extensive collection of capable of being cutely Lies.” (Opens March 30.)
scrunchies (the cloth or funny in response to
elastic item used to hold Colbert’s stream of cute Ruth Bader Ginsburg Stephen Breyer Lola Kirke Other TV/
hair in a pony tail). She remarks. (Video all over streaming news
told the Journal that her the Net. Google: Colbert, On March 29, the
collection of scrunchies Ginsburg.) A&E cable station
is very big and that she On the other hand, the will launch a new original
has favorite scrunchie- workout video showed, docuseries, “Marcia Clark
shopping cities and will via her limberness and Investigates the First 48.”
not hesitate to travel to responsiveness, that The seven-episode series
get a good one. The best the justice is in remark- will explore seven of the
ones, she said, come ably good physical and most high-profile cases
from Zurich, with London mental shape. Today, of the last 30 years. The
and Rome taking second we expect celebrities first episode, which aired
and third place. we admire to be every- on Thursday, March 29 at
On March 21, Ste- thing. Well, some very 8 p.m. (many encore
phen Colbert went to competent famous showings), is about the
Zoe Kravitz Ricki Lake Jemima Kirke
Washington to see how people, including Jew- Casey Anthony murder
Justice Ginsburg works ish people, just aren’t case. The episode airing
out with her personal funny schmoozers on was measured in 2005 that it will open at a starlet Heather Anderson on April 5 is about
trainer. He participated talk shows or elsewhere via counting how many theater. Look for it at (ZOE KRAVITZ, 29). Jill murder victim
in the workout and pep- and they shouldn’t be times their remarks that theater near you, or arrives at Heather’s CHANDRA LEVY.
pered their time to- put in a position where elicited laughter at better yet, make a note house one day to find MARCIA CLARK, 64, is
gether with mostly silly they are expected to be. oral argument. Justice to look for it on a her dead from a gunshot Jewish and was born
shtick. I knew from brief The justice never was Scalia was the winner, streaming service in the wound. The police Marcia Klerks. She is
past attempted comedic a schmoozer. A very with Justice STEPHEN near future. The director/ suspect Jill is the killer famous as the prosecutor
interactions with Justice reliable source tells me BREYER, now 79, finish- writer is Aaron Katz, a and she must solve her who lost the O.J.
Ginsburg that the visit that when she and her ing second. filmmaker who has made boss’s murder before her Simpson murder case.
wouldn’t work that well. late husband attended a string of good indies world unravels complete- On March 30, Netflix
When Colbert attempt- fun outings sponsored At the movies on a shoe-string budget. ly. RICKI LAKE, 49, has a will premiere “Happy
ed to liven things up by by the law firm her “Gemini” is a rare Katz, a Portland, Oregon, biggish supporting role. Anniversary,” an original
playing loud disco-ish husband belonged to, indie film, in that it native, may well be Kirke is the star of the romantic comedy/drama
music on a boom box, Justice Ginsburg, then a got such good reviews at Jewish, but bio details Amazon series “Mozart movie. It follows the ups-
the justice objected im- law professor, brought a film festival that it was about him are very scant. in the Jungle,” and the and-downs of a couple
mediately, saying that along law review issues picked up for a limited Basic plot: Jill LeBeau sister of JEMIMA KIRKE, (BEN SCHWARTZ, 36,
maybe she could work to read. By the way, the national release. It’s (LOLA KIRKE, 37) is the 32, a “Girls” co-star. Their and Noel Wells) over sev-
out with opera playing. funniness of justices unlikely (but possible) assistant to Hollywood mother comes from a eral years. –N.B.
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ing from Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel
he mystery about Rabbi Ozer to Rabbi Saul Lieberman to Rabbi Moshe
Glickman of Teaneck, who died Zucker, taught Tony. And the boundaries
last Monday at 67, was how he between the Orthodox and Conservative
found enough time to do all the worlds, while not negligible, still were far
things he did. more porous than they are today. Still, “we
The personal characteristics that were on always joked about the four-year gap on
view when he did all those things — his intel- his resume,” Ilana said. “If you go to the
lect, quickness, depth of knowledge, empa- wrong school, you can’t redeem yourself.
thy, and overwhelming kindness — could be And the fact is that JTS moved to the left,
attributed to nature, nurture, genetics, luck and we moved to the right.”
of the draw, or gift of God, depending on It was during his time at JTS that Tony
the onlooker doing the attributing, but the Glickman met Ilana Arm, fresh from
question of how his days expanded to allow Southfield, Michigan, the daughter of a
all of them seems unanswerable. Conservative rabbi. She was a freshman
A decade or so ago, perhaps addressing at Barnard, just down Broadway from JTS,
the question, Rabbi Glickman made a CD and she and her friends took their meals at
called “Bain HaZ’manim.” JTS because Barnard didn’t have a kosher
“Bain HaZ’manim” — literally between kitchen then. “I went there one night to eat
the times — is a term that yeshiva students dinner, sitting with friends, and he was sit-
use when they’re talking about the times ting with friends and said ‘I have to get that
between holidays and school terms, the In 2011, Rabbi Glickman and his youngest child, Oren, went to a soccer game. girl’s phone number.’” He did, he pursued
brief but cherished times when they’re her by phone and she was wary, but even-
relatively free of the constraining demands would intersect, others would not. Some was a teacher; they both taught Hebrew tually he was persistent enough so that she
of schedules and able to take advantage of would be huge, others would not. The school, and Bernard earned a Ph.D. from said yes, they had dinner, and she ended
that liberty. number and range of those bubbles would Dropsie, Philadelphia’s college of Jewish up having a better time on that first date
“Bain HaZ’manim,” considered less liter- astonish. studies. The Glickmans were traditional, than he did. “I was impressed with him,
ally, evokes liminality, openness, the time Who was Ozer Glickman? How did he do observant Conservative Jews. but he was less so, and he wasn’t going to
when constraints fade to allow unlikely all those things? Tony was a brilliant student and an ask me out again,” she said.
connections to evolve and different worlds Even his names showed how many unsettlingly quick study. He graduated But she saw him going to the library at
to open up onto each other. worlds Rabbi Glickman inherited and from Central High School, Philadelphia’s Barnard, “I scooped up my books and sat
It is perhaps fanciful but possibly appro- made for himself. answer to Stuyvesant or Bronx Science, a few tables away.” He was courtly, they
priately fanciful to imagine Rabbi Glickman Anthony Scott Glickman, who was an entrance-by-examination public school dated again, “that date lasted six or maybe
as living in such a liminal world, because known as Tony, was born in northeast that gave the students smart and sturdy it was eight hours, and I never went out
he managed to live in so very many worlds Philadelphia in 1950. Although it amused enough to get in an education that was with anyone else again,” she said.
at the same time. It seems almost as if an him to joke that his mother was French, in both thorough and prestigious. Her parents, Claire and Rabbi Milton
hour for us somehow was two hours for fact she was not, but she was fluent in the He planned to go to Haverford, “and he Arm, concerned that their daughter was
him, that in his 67 years he amassed a cen- language, which she, and then he, loved. was accepted,” his daughter Dalia said, but so young to be involved with someone
tury of experiences and friendships. She read him “The Little Prince” in its orig- then “his father died. It was the watershed so intensely, convinced her to spend her
Or imagine, perhaps, a Venn diagram. inal French, he said, as “Le Petit Prince.” moment of his life.” Bernard Glickman sophomore year in Israel. She dutifully
Rabbi Glickman is at the center, in a circle Although he loved to say that his real first was 59, and Tony Glickman was 16. “His went; as it turned out, that was the year
with his family, the center of his life; his name was Antoine, it was not. But the love mother wanted him to be a rabbi, and he that Tony’s rabbinical program took him
wife, Ilana, their six children, and their for literature that he got from his mother got a full scholarship to the joint program,” to Israel. The next year, 1972, they mar-
rapidly expanding cluster of daughters- lasted throughout his life. the academic undergraduate partnership ried. She was a junior in college, and he
and sons-in-law and grandchildren. When he grew up, although he main- between the Jewish Theological Seminary was a third-year rabbinical student.
(To be specific, that’s Tony and Ilana’s tained his love for English literature — and and Columbia University. At shiva for his Soon, the young couple moved to the
children, Dov, Dalia, Ron, Maya, Avigayil, his ability to quote poetry from memory, a father, Tony was persuaded to head off to apartments in Teaneck — home to genera-
and Oren; their daughters-in-law, Shoshana skill lost to most of us — Hebrew literature, New York for college. tions of observant young couples — and
and Aimee; their sons-in-law, Matthew from the medieval to S.Y. Agnon to the “He was very unhappy there his first he got a job as education director at the
Engler and Yonah Heller; and their grand- contemporary, was his real passion, Dalia year,” his wife, Ilana, said. “He was in a Teaneck Jewish Center.
children, Idan, Lital, Oriyah, Maor, Saman- said. “One of the greatest thrills of his life strange place. His father had just died. He It was then, living at the apartments in
tha, Liam, Zoe, Caleb, and Jamie.) was getting a private tour of Agnon’s home went home a lot on weekends.” But he sol- Teaneck, that Tony and Ilana Glickman
Around that central circle there would and study in Jerusalem this past Novem- diered on, graduated, and then entered formed the friendships that were to redirect
be other bubbles — the worlds of Yeshiva ber,” she said; and he was able to “daven rabbinical school at JTS. their lives. Most of the couples there were
University, Wall Street, other financial mincha next to Agnon’s desk.” “It’s a four-year gap in his resume,” affiliated with YU. “I was very impressed
institutions, academia, music, poetry, Tony’s mother, Susan Kaufmann Glick- Ilana joked. Half-joked, more accurately; with them, and my husband was too,” Ilana
Jewish texts, English literature, French lit- man, was 22 when she married, and her although he later went on to become a said. “Many of these young men had smicha
erature, technology, data, race relations, husband, Bernard Glickman, was 39. luminary in the Orthodox world, Rabbi from YU. They were working in professions
presidential politics, Teaneck, Toronto, The couple had two children, Connie Glickman’s original ordination was Conser- — finance, medicine, law. They went to shul,
and so much more. Some of the bubbles and then, two years later, Tony. Susan vative. It was a different time then; JTS was SEE GLICKMAN PAGE 8
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here are words and ideas you
study in the classroom, but you
think you will never encounter
them again after you graduate.
Words and ideas that you are entirely sure
you never will encounter for the rest of
your life.
Often you’re absolutely right.
Until, one morning, decades after you
first heard terms like “elliptical” and
“hyperbolic” in high school math class,
there stands before you an accomplished
professional, talking about his work, his
career, and the crucial role those math- Left, arrow shows Aaron Brown’s
ematical geometric concepts and their seat in mission control. Above, “The
attendant equations play. Because he uses Martian,” chosen for TABC Book Day.
them to calculate the paths of spaceships
headed to and from the planet Mars.
Yes, it’s rocket science.
But as Aaron Brown made clear to the fact, he is only unconscious. He awakens Normally, Mr. Brown is in Houston. He what’s required to get more to the emes”
assembled high school boys of the Torah to the sound of the oxygen alarm going works at NASA’s Lyndon B. Johnson Space — he used the Hebrew word for truth — “of
Academy of Bergen County last week, off in his space suit, pulls out the piece Center, part of the Orion project, which is the fuel that I need to switch orbits. This
rocket science and the design of manned of metal that pierced his suit and leg, building a spacecraft to send humans into is analogous pretty much to any page of
missions to Mars is no longer science fic- and heads back to the now empty base. deep space — first around the moon, then Talmud that you open. There’s a contra-
tion. It’s real. Having fixed his spacesuit and saved his onto the moon, and then, sometime in the diction between two verses, or between a
And it’s also a career you can pursue own life, he next discovers that his food 2030s or 2040s, to Mars. mishna and another text. In the Gemara
— assuming you’re willing to embark on will run out before the next scheduled Specifically, he works on Orion’s we find a contradiction and the Gemara
a lifetime of actually using geometry and mission from earth, and that the radio onboard navigation system. works its way out of it. Here in patched
trigonometry and calculus — while being antenna used to communicate with earth “If we don’t know where we are and conic analysis we work our way through it.
an observant Jew. was lost in the sand storm. what speed we’re traveling, we can’t figure “That skill of holding two contradictory
Mr. Brown came to TABC in Teaneck as Determined not to become the first man out how to get where we’re going,” he said. viewpoints in our mind at the time to get
the keynote speaker for the high school’s to die on Mars, he sets about improvising “Even if I know precisely where the moon to the emes is the same in both Gemara
annual Book Day, when the usual school what he needs to survive. or Mars is, I can’t guide the spacecraft to and patched conic analysis. The takeaway
schedule is cast aside for special speakers, “There’s a wide variety of scientifically ori- get there.” message is to practice this skill anywhere
discussions, and activities focusing on one ented ideas as well as psychological ideas in To figure out where it is, the Orion will you find a contradiction in life, whether
book that had been assigned reading for the book,” Dr. Carol Master said. Dr. Master rely on GPS when it’s close to Earth. Fur- in Talmud or science or relationships or
the entire school. A committee of students chairs TABC’s English department and runs ther out, it tracks its position using celes- politics. This method of holding these two
works over the summer to pick that com- Book Day — which this year featured more tial navigation — figuring out where it is in contradictory points in our mind is often
ing year’s book. This year’s choice was than two dozen different sessions on topics relation to the stars. the only way to get to the emes.
“The Martian” by Andy Weir. ranging from physics to Jewish paradigms of So how does a spacecraft plot its course “NASA is very supportive of religious
It’s the story, in the tradition of Rob- self-reliance, as well as presentations from to Mars? practice,” Mr. Brown said. “I never expe-
inson Crusoe, of an astronaut left for the Coast Guard and an Escape Room. “There’s a classic problem in orbital rienced any anti-Semitism or restriction of
dead on Mars by colleagues who think “It’s a full day, one that’s very exciting mechanics called an Earth-Mars transfer. religious practice.
him lost; they assume he died in the for the students,” she said. “We bring in It’s the kind of stuff I studied in college and “I often get questions at work from col-
sandstorm that aborts their mission. In people who normally would not be here.” grad school,” Mr. Brown, 41, said. leagues about Judaism. One of my good
This is when he showed the students friends there, a mentor of mine, is a very
an illustration of the planets, their orbits, devout Mormon. Not surprisingly, non-
and the path the spaceship would take. Jews don’t really know a lot of what Juda-
Describing the moment when the space- ism is about. I feel we have an obligation to
ship maneuvers from its orbit around the know what we’re talking about when non-
sun, which took it from Earth to Mars, to Jews asks us questions about what Judaism
its new orbit around Mars, he said: “At is or what it believes.”
this moment you can think of your orbit Mr. Brown, who is from Peoria, Illinois,
as being both a hyperbola and an ellipse. and later moved to Buffalo Grove, a sub-
Hyperbolic in respect to earth, elliptical in urb of Chicago, did not grow up observant.
respect to the sun.” That might have made it easier to embark
And there you have it. High school math on his path to rocket science, which began
terms, used in real life. with attending space camp as a child.
Speaking to the high school, Mr. Brown “I started on the path to observance
drew a broader lesson from this bit of from the questions I got when I was work-
orbital mechanics, which is known as ing in NASA,” he said. “It’s my non-Jewish
patched conic analysis. work environment that helped me shape
“Holding these two contradictory pic- and enhance my Jewish identity. On a
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was done even after kindergarten children
n Saturday, some 30 residents were gunned down.
of the Brightview Senior Resi- “A group of us were sitting and talking
dence in Paramus — many at dinner,” Ms. Bernstein said. “It nearly
between the ages of 80 and 90 brought me to tears. Some of the people
— showed that advancing years have noth- said, ‘What can you do?’ Then it hit me.
ing to do with activism. We can do something.”
Rena Bernstein — who originally was What they could do, she said, was march
from Elmwood Park, then Fair Lawn, then in front of the Brightview on Saturday —
Cape Canaveral, Florida — moved back to carrying signs demanding an end to gun
the area about a year ago, and she lives violence — in solidarity with the people
in Brightview now. “It’s taken me a while marching that day in Washington, D.C., in
to get settled here again,” Ms. Bernstein, local towns from Englewood to Paramus
a former member of the now-defunct and beyond, to Manhattan, to all over the
Fair Lawn chapter of American Jewish country, all under the banner “March for
Congress, said. But clearly — though her Our Lives.” Ms. Bernstein explained that
AJCongress days are far behind her — Ms. given the physical frailty of some Bright-
Bernstein, 86, who helped organize a ten- view residents, who rely on walkers or
ants association when she lived in Elm- canes, they would not be able to join a Seniors rallied outside Brightview Senior Residence in Paramus.
wood Park, still is speaking truth to power. regular march. “We’re not as physically
“About a week ago, after the shooting capable as we used to be,” she said. “But she said. And those who were unable to teachers is ludicrous.”
in Florida, I was aggravated by the lack of we decided to do something.” join the demonstration or choose not to Ms. Bernstein took her idea for a rally to
action by Congress regarding gun violence. One of her nephews sent Ms. Bernstein still can write letters to their members of Samantha Lawrence, the executive direc-
It’s disgraceful that they haven’t done any- some poster board and other supplies. Congress, she added. The activist, who tor of Brightview Senior Living in Para-
thing,” she said, citing Sandy Hook in Con- “We’ll write things like ‘Stop Gun Violence’ was a speech therapist in Ridgewood for mus, who offered her immediate support
necticut as another example of a horrific and ‘Stop the Killings in Our Schools,’” 19 years, also said “the idea of arming for the senior rally. “Being heard in this
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on the campus,” Ms. Elliott said. “On the
he anti-gun-violence marches other campus they got very quickly into
across the country on Saturday the question of school safety and arming
were led by students, triggered teachers. There are a few retired teachers
by the horrendous murders of there, so it was a hot-button issue. They
17 students and teachers at Marjory Stone- said that they were in school to be teach-
man Douglas High School in Parkland, ers, not patrolmen.
Florida, last month. “The discussions went beyond limiting
But the marches drew people of all ages; guns to understanding what leads people
there also were marches and rallies on Fri- to violence, and about bullying, and where
day and Sunday, as huge numbers of peo- bullying plays a role in gun violence. We also
ple in various circumstances tried to make talked about how high suicide rates are.
their voices heard. “It was a very powerful discussion on
Just as rallies brought people together in both campuses,” she said.
Englewood, Paramus, and Hackensack — Given the laws of physics, and the fact
many of them observant Jews who trekked that both discussions were at the same time,
there on foot on Shabbat — local nursing she could be at only one of them, she said;
homes and assisted and independent liv- she was in River Vale, but got near-constant
ing communities also hosted meetings. texts from Rockleigh.
Powered by residents who were not The day after the rally in Rockleigh, Josh Gottheimer (D-Dist 5) talked at a Residents in both facilities “read the news
willing to let their voices go unheard, March for our Lives rally in Hackensack. and watch the news, probably more than
the Jewish Home in Rockleigh and Jewish most people, and they have strong opin-
Home Assisted Living in River Vale — both said. “Probably 150 people at Rockleigh Republican who represents the 39th district ions,” she said.
part of the Jewish Home Family — held and 100 at River Vale. in New Jersey’s general assembly, spoke at Helene Glantz, who is 88, was born in
meetings where local politicians joined “We began with a moment of silence, and River Vale, and Josh Gottheimer, the Demo- Passaic, and moved to River Vale from Mon-
in discussion. then the rabbis on each campus led us in crat who represents the state’s fifth district roe Township, thought of the meeting. At
“We had a very nice turnout on both kaddish. And then on each campus we had in Congress, spoke at Rockleigh. first, she’d hoped for a rally, but “Carol said
campuses,” the Jewish Home Family’s a conversation with a legislator.” “At Rockleigh, there was a lot of con- it would be difficult,” and she agreed. “We
president and CEO, Carol Silver Elliott, Holly Schepisi of River Vale, the versation about gun control in general, have people in wheelchairs, and I’m in a
world has no age limit,” Ms. Lawrence said. “I am so — on the following Rosh Hashanah — placed
proud to be a part of this community where our resi- a greeting ad in the Fair Lawn community
dents live vibrantly, and this activism is a truly beauti- newspaper. The Jewish community recipro-
ful example of their passion for making a difference. cated at Christmas.
Ellie Berg of Fair Lawn, also a longtime member of “What I think is important is the power to
the Fair Lawn AJCongress, said that engaging in pro- protest, and prior to that, to be organized,
tests is nothing new for members of the organization. so that when the need is there, we have the
Off the top of her head, she gave a few examples and ability to act fast,” Ms. Berg said.
recalled a surveillance project, launched together with “Just because of our age, it doesn’t mean
the Fair Lawn police and the now-defunct Fair Lawn not that we’re not interested in the world
Jewish Community Council, to catch those people van- around us and the lives of our children,” Ms.
dalizing local Jewish institutions. (This writer remem- Bernstein added. She is discouraged by the
bers standing in the shadows of Congregation Shomrei current political situation, she noted, but is
Torah at midnight, holding a walkie-talkie and looking heartened by the fact that Republicans who
out for would-be vandals.) have resigned from Congress and won’t run
“In 1968, Fair Lawn AJCongress protested the again finally are speaking out. “I’m hoping
Board of Education’s intention to cancel its contract now that they can convince enough people From left, Rena Bernstein, Rosalie Blumenthal, and Doris Hambro
with the Fair Lawn Committee for Peace in Vietnam, to do something,” she said. organized the rally at Brightview on Saturday.
which had invited the famous pediatrician Dr. Benja-
min Spock to speak at the Thomas Jefferson School,”
Ms. Berg said. “Fair Lawn united its veterans groups
— unfortunately including Jewish War Vets — and
notified the FBI and the John Birch Society to encour-
age the cancellation of the event. While AJCongress
didn’t offer an opinion on the war — although we had
a stand — our purpose was to support Spock’s right
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to speak. He did speak, with the FBI on the roof of
the school ‘protecting’ the citizens.
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lished a relationship with St. Anne’s Church, which
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Growing up in Iran, life was risk my life to get where I am. God
n late 1982, a 17-year-old Jewish girl from Iran “okay,” she said. “We always had never gives us a problem we can-
fled from her home, crossed the hot and dan- Shabbat dinner, celebrated the not solve,” she added. “Sometimes
gerous Kavira Loot desert, spent several months holidays, and my father went to I wish he didn’t trust us so much.”
in Pakistan, and then arrived in Canada, where synagogue.” Still, she said, “we Dr. Goel said that when one of
she lives today. knew something was not right, her two sons, who now are 20
If crossing the desert to reach freedom sounds like a but we lived with it.” and 21, began reading her book,
familiar motif at this time of year, Dr. Sima Goel — keenly As it happens, an incident he accused her of being a “trou-
aware of the biblical story — feels that she too left behind at her school — and Dr. Goel’s blemaker.” When she pointed out
a symbol of slavery. In her case, it was the hijab that the spontaneous defense of a fel- to him that he had easy access to
Khomeini government forced her to wear. low student who was being bul- all the things she had to fight for,
The Jewish people should be a light unto the nations, lied — set in motion the events he eventually came to under-
the prophets tell us. Dr. Goel — who has more reason that led to her flight years later. stand. “It puts things in perspec-
than most to embrace the teaching in the Haggadah Relations between the students tive,” she said.
that tells us that we should feel as if we personally went at the private school — who rep- “Gratitude is the way to go,”
out of Egypt — believes that she too has a mission, “to resented many religious — were she added, noting that this is an
tell this story, the story of what it means to be a Jew.” amicable until extremists in important message for “apathetic
The author of “Fleeing the Hijab: A Jewish Woman’s Shiraz took it upon themselves youth, upset because they’re not
Escape from Iran,” Dr. Goel — who will speak about to cause unrest, said Dr. Goel, Dr. Sima Goel getting the latest sunglasses. You
her life at a meeting of the Bergen County section of now a practicing chiropractor can’t be complacent,” she said.
the National Council of Jewish Women in Teaneck on in Montreal. “If you don’t take action, you will be walked all over.
April 17 (see box) — experienced her first taste of anti- After the extremists burned many homes in the Nobody should be complacent about freedom.”
Semitism when she was 6. “I was playing in a park with Baha’i community, one of her classmates taunted a Calling Dr. Goel a “master storyteller,” Elizabeth
other girls,” she said. “One mother asked my name and Baha’i friend during a game of volleyball, “saying it Halverstam, co-president of NCJW’s Bergen County
realized that it was not ethnic Muslim. She grabbed her was a pity that her house had not been burned as well.” section, said the speaker “will take us on a journey that
daughter and called me names like filthy and impure.” Challenging the bully, Dr. Goel pointed out that “any- speaks to the power of resilience and courage…. [shar-
As Dr. Goel wrote in a 2015 essay that appears on the one who truly followed the teachings of the prophet ing] her belief that an authentic life requires freedom
AISH.com website, “As a child of Iran in the late 1970s, Mohammed would know that his name means peace of choice, the most precious commodity of all.”
I was taught to keep my head down and my mouth and tolerance.
shut. I was free to be Jewish as long as I was discreet “This is not really Islam,” she said.
and silent. My father encouraged me to follow these Dr. Goel was suspended from school for three days.
dictates, which had supported the existence of Iran’s The bully went unpunished. That was not surprising,
Jewish community for thousands of years. Every mem- she said. “People were scared and wanted to make As an Iranian
ber of an Iranian minority knew that the freedom to sure they didn’t get in trouble.”
live — and even flourish — was predicated on remaining After the government changed — when the Shah was Jew, my desire to be
small and silent.” deposed — “we were told to wear the hijab,” Dr. Goel free impelled me to
That, however, was something she could not do. said. “When they’re in the majority, everybody has to
As she wrote, “As an Iranian Jew, my desire to be free follow their rules. They think they have the keys to the leave my family
impelled me to leave my family and heritage, and kingdom.” And yes, Jewish women were forced to wear and heritage, and
travel a dangerous road to a country where I could the restrictive garb, just like their Muslim neighbors.
When a close friend of hers was arrested, she told travel a dangerous
Who: Dr. Sima Goel, author of “Fleeing the Hijab: Dr. Goel’s mother that her daughter was on the black- road to a country
list as well. After six months in hiding, she said, her
A Jewish Woman’s Escape from Iran”
What: Will speak at a general meeting of the Bergen mother gave her into the care of smugglers, calling her where I could study,
County section of the National Council of Jewish existence as it was “a living death.” She is still moved speak out, and
by her mother’s bravery, Dr. Goel said, and feels that
Women
When: On April 17 at 12:30 p.m. she is what she is today because of it. be a Jew.
Why Canada and not the United States? “At the time, I
Where: At Temple Emeth, 1666 Windsor Rd., Teaneck
didn’t have a passport, and Canada was the only place that
Cost: Free for members, $10 for non-members, was open,” she said. “Also, it was shortly after the hostage Dr. Goel said she has an active Facebook presence
applicable toward new membership if paid that day.
crisis,” and America did not look kindly on Iranians. and writes many articles. “It’s my way of giving back,”
For more information on this meeting, or on Dr. Goel feels she has to talk about her experience, she said. She also travels to speak for schools, organiza-
NCJW BCS and its upcoming programs, email especially to young people, so that they will not take for tions, and conferences. “We have to guard our freedom
[email protected], call (201) 385-4847, or go to
granted the freedom they enjoy in the United States and and our values,” she said. “If we don’t, we’ll be in trou-
http://www.ncjwbcs.org.
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portraits of young men on ancient panels
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As our readers begin their celebrations of Pesach with
seders on Friday and Saturday nights, we offer glimpses
of the holiday locally and from around the Jewish world.
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out into a museum raises the quality in our communities.
and intensity of the experience. ach year in our Passover Hagga- In our discussion, I mentioned that there
Nachliel Selevan at the Selavan is one of a handful of peo- dah, we read, “In every generation are many fissures in our world. Some peo-
Metropolitan Museum of Art. ple and companies offering private we are obligated to see ourselves ple have used the seder plate as a platform
Jewish tours at major art museums. as people who came out of Egypt.” to highlight these fractures, and they use
Egyptian ruler, or paro/pharaoh, not- David Thomas, associate coordina- This oft-quoted statement can the holiday of Passover as moti-
ing how important names were to tor of groups and visitor services at mean many things, but at its vation to help heal our world.
them. In Hebrew, he noted, the Book the Met, said the museum does not core it reminds us that each of People have used a banana to
of Exodus is known as Shemot, or disclose the number of tours led by us should develop a meaning- highlight the plight of refugees.
names, which begins with the names outside guides like Selavan. ful personal connection to the Others have used cashews to
of the sons of the patriarch Jacob, “I’m not aware of any other tour message of Passover. The rituals remind us of our need to sup-
who went down to Egypt with their guides who offer Jewish-themed of the Passover seder can seem port our troops, who are con-
father and their own families. tours, but there may be some,” intimidating, but the intimacy of tinuing to battle extremism
“It was very interesting to see Thomas said. “Many synagogues, uni- a family setting allows us oppor- around the world. I urged every-
actual artifacts, representations of versities, and other Jewish organiza- tunity to search for and seek one to think of what redemption
words we see in the Torah,” said Lori tions also bring groups.” meaning in this celebration of meant to them this year, living as
Rabbi Joshua
Leifer, 37, a Yiddish singer and com- Selavan grew up in the Jewish Quar- liberation and survival. we are in a world of uncertainty,
Finkelstein
puter database programmer who ter of Jerusalem’s Old City, the son Recently, I led a Passover work- fear, and political division.
WIKIMEDIA COMMONS/JEAN-CHRISTOPHE BENOIST
describes herself as Conservadox. of a rabbi who was also a tour guide shop at the Montebello Jewish Center, spon- One of the members of the synagogue
She heard about the tour through and archaeologist. He was educated sored by our sisterhood. At this workshop, made a suggestion. In light of my comment
Chulent, a WhatsApp group for at yeshivas; he discusses references I urged everyone to augment their seders of political division, she suggested that we
Jews who have left Orthodox com- from Mishna comfortably with a Sat- with new rituals. There are so many new place a plum on the seder plate this year.
munities. Everyone else on the tour mar chasid on his tour but dresses songs and readings that can be found online In a world where too often people see a red
appeared to be Orthodox, including more like a Brooklyn hipster. Asked and in books, and many of them can enliven America and a blue America, a purple plum
several charedim. how he identifies religiously, Selavan any seder. In addition, there are a plethora should remind us that there is only one
The Exodus tour is one of five Jew- replied, “I’m on the Orthodox spec- of activities and strategies people can bring America — purple, of course, is the combina-
ish tours Selavan offers at the Met trum, but not sure where I fit.” to their celebrations. tion of red and blue.
through his company, Torah Interme- Like the Met’s galleries, Selavan’s One of the many new rituals that has This year there will be a purple plum on
dia. Another focuses on artifacts from journey took a winding route. After become popular in many homes is the pres- my seder plate, somewhere near the shank
the time of the Maccabee revolt and yeshiva, Selavan, now 34, began ence of an orange on the seder plate. The bone and the roasted egg.
is oriented toward Chanukah. More teaching the Brazilian martial art story behind it is that someone once said that Whether you chose a plum or an orange
Passover-themed tours are planned called capoeira around Israel. At 25 a woman belongs on the bimah as much as or something else to put on your seder
for the festival’s intermediate days. he earned an undergraduate degree an orange belongs on a seder plate. The story plate, I encourage everyone this year to
“When you’re able to not just learn at a Jerusalem teachers’ college and is apocryphal, but the symbolism is meaning- ask what Passover means to you, and take
a text but see the stuff it’s talking in 2013 he came to the United States ful. An orange on a seder plate is acknowl- a few moments to share that at your Pass-
about, the learning goes to a whole to teach. edgement of the alienation many people felt over seder.
other level,” Rabbi Ethan Tucker said In his second year teaching Bible from our tradition. By putting an orange on
in an interview. at the Netivot Montessori Yeshiva our plates, we are making a symbolic state- Joshua S. Finkelstein is the rabbi of the
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Passover
In every generation
A Reading for Pesach 5778*
Rabbi Barry L. Schwartz
In every generation/We come out of Egypt.
Let freedom ring.
In every generation/We stand up to Pharaoh.
Let freedom ring.
In every generation/We part the waters.
Let freedom ring.
In every generation/We march toward the Promised Land.
Let freedom ring.
In every generation/We teach our children.
Let freedom ring.
In every generation/Our children teach us.
Let freedom ring.
Rabbi Barry L. Schwartz
In every generation/We march for our lives.
Let freedom ring.
In this generation/Columbine, Sandy Hook, Virginia Tech/We march for our lives.
Let freedom ring.
In this generation/Orlando, Las Vegas, Parkland
We march for our lives.
Let freedom ring.
In this generation/Two hundred sixty five million guns fill our country
We march for our lives.
Let freedom ring.
In this generation/Ninety seven souls die from gun violence each and every day.
We march for our lives.
Let freedom ring.
In this generation/Young and old, black and white, Jew and gentile…said enough; enough.
This flier is promoting an interfaith seder with a freedom and Let freedom ring.
human rights theme to be held at the Universidad Camilo José *Participants at the seder are invited to echo the repeating lines.
0 Sela, a suburb of Madrid. UNIVERSIDAD CAMILO JOSÉ SELA
Barry L. Schwartz is director of the Jewish Publication Society in Philadelphia and the rabbi of
Congregation Adas Emuno in Leonia.
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ings, during Passover. A shopper browses for matzah at the Amsterdam ples of interfaith borrowings (take the oliebol, a deep-
Almost all the profits of his matzah bakery — the only Noord branch of the Jumbo supermarket chain. fried winter snack in Holland that many trace back to the
one in Holland — comes from sales to non-Jews; his prod- Chanukah doughnut called sufganiyah).
uct lacks the “kosher for Passover” certification. But for matzah, a variant matzah specialty that is even costlier Such carryovers perhaps were possible in the Neth-
four weeks before Passover, Hollandia also produces because of its stringent adherence to the kosher rules. To erlands partly because many Protestant Christians here
kosher-for-Passover matzah, which “costs more to make prevent even the hint of leavening, the wheat and flour emphasize the Hebrew Bible over the New Testament.
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FROM PAGE 23 “Then people started asking me questions,” Selavan said. Selavan lives in Crown Heights, the Brooklyn head-
in East Brunswick, Selavan took fourth graders to see the At the start of the 2016-17 school year, he started network- quarters of the Chabad-Lubavitch movement, and he
Met’s exhibit “From Assyria to Iberia.” Another visitor, ing with other Orthodox yeshivas to lead tours and quickly is finishing up a long-distance master’s degree pro-
overhearing him, asked if he read Aramaic and led him to expanded into leading adults. Last summer he took about gram in Jewish education at the Hebrew University of
the Tel Dan stele, a 2,800-year-old inscribed stone on loan 20 groups through the Met, he said, and now he leads syna- Jerusalem and enrolling in a Jewish history master’s
from the Israel Museum. Reading what turned out to be gogue and Hillel groups as well. He gave a Jewish tour of program at Yeshiva University.
paleo-Hebrew, Selavan was struck by the power of seeing Boston’s Museum of Fine Arts to members of an Orthodox On the Passover tour, as the group approached the
the earliest known reference to “Beit David,” the seat of synagogue in suburban Newton, and now he plans to do the Temple of Dendur, the massive sandstone shrine set
in a grand sunlit interior plaza, Selavan pointed out a
replica crocodile in the surrounding moat. He noted
that the Hebrew term “taneen,” found in Ezekiel
and Exodus, generally is translated as “serpent,” but
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more likely meant crocodile, the animal that infested
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the Nile.
“My dream is to do things like this with museums
around the world,” he said. “In Spain, London, France
and so on. And to live in Jerusalem.” JTA WIRE SERVICE
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Spain I felt very homesick,” she said; that feeling was
particularly strong during Jewish holidays. The Jewish
community that centers around the synagogue “made
me feel very at home and very welcome,” Elliott said.
She wanted to share this feeling with her students.
When McCall accompanied her to the synagogue for
a Shabbat, they talked to Yael Cobano, the congrega-
tion’s president, about their plans for the seder.
“It was a wonderful project, and because I’ve led
many seders and I’ve studied about it, I offered my
help,” Cobano wrote in an email.
The Reform Community has lent Elliott and Wells
their seder plates, and Cobano is helping revise the
Spanish translation of the Haggadah and prepare the
traditional seder dishes.
The two Fulbright scholars will conduct the seder in
Spanish and will include some Hebrew. Elliott will lead
the Jewish portions and Wells the interfaith elements.
“We are adapting the four cups of wine to include
different perspectives,” Elliott said. “One of the cups
will be academic, one religious, one personal, and one
political, and we hope to invite students, professors,
community members and other Fulbrights to speak at
A STROKE STARTS THE CLOCK. each of those cups in order to make it more than just
about sharing a Jewish holiday.”
OUR APP SAVES TIME. For the religious cup, Elliott and Wells are inviting
representatives of the Jewish, Christian and Muslim
communities. For the personal, they are hoping one
Following a stroke, the difference between life, serious impairment and death is measured in of the university students who is a refugee will recount
seconds. At the front line of innovation, Shaare Zedek Medical Center in Jerusalem is always a personal migration story. For the political cup, a fel-
finding new ways to save lives. low Fulbright will speak about the experience of par-
ticipating in Race Relations, a collective that promotes
Dr. Roni Eichel, director of the Stroke Unit and Neurological ICU at Shaare Zedek’s Helmsley
discussion and expression of race, culture and ethnic-
Neurological Center, conceived of a smartphone application to further speed up treatment. First
ity in Spain.
responders alert the Stroke Unit and transmit crucial patient information from the field via their
“We hope the students and the teachers who par-
phones. When the ambulance arrives at Shaare Zedek, a team is ready to seamlessly continue care.
take in the seder will get out of it that Passover isn’t
Saving lives is our mission. Join us at www.acsz.org/donate, because when it comes to treating just the moment for Jews to reflect on personal free-
strokes at Shaare Zedek, there’s an app for that. doms and the exodus from slavery in Egypt, but really
about the right for migration and the freedom of
movement,” Elliott said.
The university is offering Elliott and Wells plenty of
support by taking care of the logistics, assisting with
invitations, and funding the seder dinner for 70 invi-
tees. Elliott said the menu will be “as kosher as possi-
ble,” meaning they may serve just dairy and fish dishes.
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But the preparation of traditional Passover foods
and the seder plates is up to the two Fulbrights. With
Cobano’s help, Elliott and Wells will make everything
for the seder plates, from the charoset to the bitter
herbs. It won’t be exactly the same as back home, but
Elliott is hoping it’ll be close. JTA WIRE SERVICE
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INGREDIENTS
2 pounds chicken cutlets (thinly sliced chicken breasts) DIRECTIONS 4. Fry chicken cutlets in batches, 2-3 at a time,
Salt and pepper 1. Combine eggs, mustard or hot sauce, and until golden on each side. Depending on thick-
2 eggs, beaten water in a large bowl. Combine matzah meal, ness of chicken, around 3 minutes each side.
2 teaspoon KP mustard or hot sauce almond meal, sesame seeds (if using), parsley, Take care not to overcrowd the pan or chicken
1 teaspoon water paprika, salt, and pepper in another large bowl. will not cook properly.
1 1/2 cups matzah meal 2. Dredge each chicken cutlet into egg mix- 5. Remove from pan and allow to cool on a
1/2 cup almond meal ture, then into matzah meal mixture, pressing wire rack.
2 tablespoons sesame seeds (optional) down to ensure the entire piece is covered. Lay
2 tablespoons dried parsley flat on a plate or baking sheet. 6. While chicken is still hot from pan, sprinkle
1 1/2 tablespoons smoked paprika each cutlet with additional pinch of salt.
1 teaspoon sea salt 3. Pour oil into large sauté pan to about 1-1 ½ THE NOSHER VIA JTA WIRE SERVICE
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ning wear, is also selling plenty of
here is always a story for florals, spring tweeds, dresses, and
the new fashion season. daytime shifts in pinks and other
For spring 2018, that colors, brocades, and other fanci-
story is color. ful togs, said Ms. Parlato.
While the winter Among one of its top-selling
weather has lingered, and items this spring, and something
the lion that came in with March that Ms. Parlato says is a must-have,
seems to have been sleeping well is the very feminine handmade lace
into the later weeks of the transi- cotton eyelet dress, which is made
tion month, spring is happening. If in Italy. It comes in white, pink,
not by what the mercury says, then gray, and blue. What makes it very
certainly by the manifold of fabu- special for the store is that the dress
lous fashions, which define the sea- comes from Positano, Italy, the
son and segue the sartorially savvy same hometown as Paula Parlato,
into the summer. the store’s owner, who happens to
be Maria’s mother.
What color is that story? “This is a great vacation dress
Lighter hues, pastels in a rainbow that can be worn even to a destina-
of choices, said local fashionistas, tion wedding, where the wedding
who are seeing the pale pastels play takes place on the beach,” said Ms.
on everything from women’s ready- Parlato.
to-wear to men’s dressy shirts and That pastel color is also being
accessories such as ties. played on the other side of the
Psychologically, pastels are often aisle, so to speak, in men’s fashions,
displayed in all things spring, espe- as well.
cially in advertising to help sum- “The colors for spring in some
mon up an emotional response ties and in shirts are more muted
to the season of rebirth. Why the and toned down,” said Gerard
lighter colors? Pastels are less satu- Rivera, the store manager at Empo-
Floral pastel dress from rated than primary colors, making rio Teaneck.
Engle Shop on Dean in them feel light, soft, and calming. That is just part of the story for
Englewood makes a great For spring, they work well with men, he said. There are lots of
seasonal statement. neutral colors to create a feeling of yellows and blues, especially in
earthiness and sophistication. suit wear (postal blue) and bold
“We are seeing softer colors this patterns.
season,” said Maria Parlato, man- The big difference in the new
ager of The Engle Shop on Dean in spring and forward silhouette, said
Englewood. “There is a lot of soft Mr. Rivera, are that the lapels on
pink, blush and nude.” the suit jacket are wider. While the
The specialty boutique, which suit is still the same fit, snug and
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trim as it’s been for some time, the fuller are splashes of metallic shine and metal with evening attire and, in some cases,
lapel and the peak or point of the lapel is grommet trims that add a daring accent. “bejeweled” them enough to take you
more pronounced. The trend was started into a gala.
by Tom Ford and has trickled down into What else to look for Sheer, skin revealing fabrics were
other designers. in the spring? shown in diaphanous dresses leav-
For men’s footwear, very big sellers Flowery prints are a spring season ing little to the imagination yet done
these days are leather shoes in black or regular, but this year’s take is a little bit in sophisticated cuts. Transparencies
brown leather and white soles for a pop punchier and a lot more noticeable. Bold are also seen in accessories, like see-
of color and whimsy, said Mr. Rivera. daisies are blooming all over the new through plastic handbags.
At Mishelyne’s Fashions in Teaneck, designs. Also popular are the botanicals, Lucite is also very big. It is big in jew-
owner Sara has always been on top of a plant-based look that says it all. elry and goes with anything.
the spring trends and giving her custom- Floral might be your go-to spring print, Don’t put the white shoes on until
ers fashion-forward looks. This season but polka dots will be a close second spring. And white is might when it comes
is no different with an array of clothing come next year. The print was spotted to footwear this season, as well.
that suits the spring from casual to very everywhere, most notably as a mono- And for some, a great cheer. And oth-
dressy ensembles. chrome color way. ers a great jeer.
The casual chic Carly’z Craze in Teaneck The fanny pack is back! But it’s been
is showing multi-colored prints, stripes, Fancy pants, anyone? dressed up and made a bit more sophis-
and florals in maxi, swing, fit and flair, Perhaps fancy jeans? The all-American ticated in the new carry all looks for
sheath and bubble dresses, said Alene Spring 2018 Fashion Trends from New spring. You can tie the belts onto your
An elegant look in pastel blue from
Brodsky Bloom, who co-owns the store Staple got the formal treatment at the waist and leave your hands and shoul-
Mishelyne’s Fashions in Teaneck.
with Wendy Borodkin. In addition, there spring shows as designers paired them ders free this spring.
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How to use this seasonal color in your home decor
JoSeph pubilloneS season. This touch of electricity will ener- table or coffee table in cobalt blue or a dis- decoration so that it does not clash.
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20th century, and as the color of the blue- den behind furniture, or above all, select a patterns, and prints are fun to com- Midnight Blue grass-cloth color is deep
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ative of the ocean and of the summer. or art. With the bold color of the paint you take into account the rest of the room’s room wall or an entire bedroom suite.
Summer has come to your door. If your compensate for that lack of or minimal
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project is not so simple. ents wade through the choices and see
There is so much variety in what is best for their renovation project.
design, shape, color, and texture Some of the more popular choices,
that the choices seem dizzying and over- according to the designers in the Para-
whelming. Not that long ago tiles were mus store, include marble and marble-
mostly laid down for their functional look, farmhouse, modern, and wood-
benefits: Is it resistant to water? How look tiles. Also popular are the wood
about durable? Is it low maintenance? looks mixed with marble, which can play
But today, the aesthetics are just as well in a bathroom and kitchen, said a
important as function. designer at Floor & Door.
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t’s almost here! Summer is soon to arrive, and with it cart that can hold drinks, an ice bucket, a bottle of wine severely sensitive to mosquito bites; if that’s the case for
all the community celebrations that signal the official or a salad bowl as a functional dining piece. you, you may not be comfortable outside without a screen
start of one of the most pleasurable times of the year. Even if you can only serve four, have fun with the serv- covering the space.
Dining al fresco is at the heart of celebrating the warm ing plates, napkins, and placemats. This is the season for No matter what, you want to be able to sit leisurely in a
weather. Here are a few bits of advice that might add to vibrant color, and you have the chance to capture the comfortable chair, so test chairs out before buying. If you
your overall enjoyment. mood of your favorite travel destination, from Bali to Mex- buy online, you can return any purchases that aren’t suit-
First you need a table. The smallest size that will real- ico! Different color schemes are shown in retail every year, able. When it comes to outdoor furniture, you get what
istically work for four people is 36 inches in diameter. but finding intense colors in accent pillows, chair cushions you pay for. Cheap items will not last more than two years.
You can pick up modestly priced weather-resistant furni- and umbrellas is a reliable choice. Mix it up; you don’t I tossed out plenty of inexpensive stacking chairs until I
ture from a variety of discount retailers such as Big Lots, have to match everything. In fact, you’ll have more fun if resolved to invest in better quality items. I highly recom-
Tuesday Morning, TJ Maxx, Home Goods, and Marshall’s. you combine a few colors. Begin your inspiration with a mend Frontgate, for there is great integrity in its products
Check out your local home improvement stores like Home multicolored tablecloth or dinner napkin. and customer service policies. Everything you can imag-
Depot or Lowe’s, and don’t forget to visit Ikea, Pottery Don’t forget to add dreamy lighting. This can be in the ine to create a sophisticated outdoor room is available in
Barn, or Crate & Barrel. form of Tiki torches, but exercise extreme care if you the company catalog. Look at the Lorenzo Folding Cafe
For use on a narrow balcony or deck, consider pushing live in an apartment or condo, as open fire can be dan- Table with umbrella hole in particular. It is 41 1/4 inches in
a square or rectangular table up against the wall or the gerous and a liability. It is always safer to use a battery- diameter and can stow away compactly when not in use.
operated lantern or plug-in string lights. Look for these This table sells for $379, which makes it a quality piece
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homeowners love the look of wood siding, all of us dread washer can destroy not only the existing house siding This said, plan to do some hand scrubbing, as well.
paying the cost of having it repainted or doing the tedious paint, but also damage the wood permanently and poten- Along with the cleaning wand, you will need a garden
and often dangerous work ourselves. tially foster mold and mildew growth. A pressure washer hose, wood siding cleaning product, a soft brush and
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any stale air and also run water through all
in spring after wintering elsewhere • Restock the kitchen, pantry, and bath-
room, looking for any evidence of rodents,
the appropriate appliances until any rust
or air pockets have passed. Towels and
insects, or moth damage to linens. sheets will need rewashing if they smell
ChriStopher CroWn windows. Although this can take away from • Inspect and plug in all utilities. Follow funky, and outdoor furniture should be
the Labor Day weekend fun, a proper full- this by turning on the water (and electric- dusted and put back out.
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returning to the family summer can save thousands of dollars in roof and • Check all smoke detectors, and replace take the guesswork out of reopening your
home more than driving up to deck repair. Additionally, it is critical to turn batteries. vacation home and more quickly get to
find a slew of things that broke or off your water supply, clean and unplug • Replace all furnace filters and any what’s important: relaxing. Creators.com
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closing down your vacation home at the ables and outdoor furniture. With these
end of the season — but what’s the most
efficient way to reopen the family cabin?
simple steps, reopening will be a breeze.
When the season finally comes back
Winter freeze sends Jerseyans to Florida
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authorities weigh in on the best tips for tion home, tenant needs are the first left many locals long-
streamlining your summer setup. important factor to consider. If you are ing for the warmth
To spend as little time and effort reopen- renting your vacation home, there will of southern Florida.
ing your vacation home as possible, it’s most likely be more immediate repairs “The frigid temps up
imperative to follow some of the end-of- and improvements necessary to make north have my phone
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blogger for West Bend Cares, says that family, you might have a little more time Lepselter of Remax
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school enrollment supposedly is on tend public schools. JYEP is dren there.
the decline, there are several pro- an independent outreach He- One Big Sister,
grams in our area that through commit- brew School serving the Jew- Na’ama Kaye, a ju-
ment, creativity, and love of Judaism, are ish community, and welcomes nior at The Frisch
humming along, and even thriving, filling diversity among Jews and em- School, and a resi-
in the gap that many families want for braces children on all levels. dent of Teaneck ,
their children. The formula of matching said how much she
One such program is Jewish Youth the Bigs and the Littles, said enjoys the program
Encounter Program (JYEP) in Teaneck. Dr. Debby Rapps, the direc- and especially the
Here, there are the “Bigs” and there are tor, is a win-win that ben- relationship she has
the “Littles.” And there is a big, not little, efits the high schoolers, who with her 12-year-old
bond between the twain. The relation- grow in leaderships skills, and Little Sister. “She’s
ship is forged between the “Big Brothers” the younger students, who someone who I can
and “Big Sisters,” high school age yeshiva form a deep connection with Making menorahs for Chanukah at Temple Beth Sholom Religious School in see myself being
day school, and the elementary and mid- their mentors that lasts years New City, N..Y. close to forever. I
dle school-aged JYEP students, whom after they have graduated feel like she’s family.”
they mentor. the program. addition to the high school mentors, the At Glen Rock Jewish Center Hebrew
The JYEP students, who range from Founded in 1986 by Carl and Sylvia school has a crop of “young, creative, up- School, the newest addition to the curric-
3rd to 7th grade, meet weekly at Torah Freyer of Englewood, JYEP was “a new beat and energetic teachers” who make ulum, is a dedicated Jewish art program,
Academy of Bergen County (TABC) in vision for Hebrew schools,” said Dr. Rapps. learning the curriculum interesting. The which is taught by artist Vicky Katzman,
Teaneck, but come from all over Bergen (Mrs. Freyer still supports the school.) In proof is in the generations. There are See Hebrew on page 7
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Hebrew from page 7 faith mock Seder in preparation for Pass- Jewish values, understand Israel’s past and
where students who range from kinder- over. The Hebrew School students were present, celebrate Jewish holidays and tra-
garten through 7th grade, get a period of asked to bring a non-Jewish friend to ditions, practice acts of chesed, and pray
Jewish art history and studio work each the seder. confidently in a synagogue service.
week, said Rachel Blumenstyk, the prin- “It was really wonderful,” said Ms. Temple Beth El Nursery School in
cipal of Glen Rock Jewish Center Hebrew Blumenstyk . “We wanted to share Closter provides a safe and stimulating
School. The comprehensive twice-a-week the seder with others because we are environment, which promotes positive
program covers the gamut of subjects one community.” learning experiences, builds strong self-
including Israeli history, Chumash, te- In Rockland County at Temple Beth esteem and nurtures inherent curiosity.
fillah, lifecycles, Holocaust, Irvit b’Ivrit Sholom Religious School in New City, offi- Jewish identity is enhanced through cel-
and more. cials said their formula for success — there ebration of Shabbat and the holidays.
“Our goal is for the children to know are nearly 200 students from kindergar- At the JCC of Fort Lee Hebrew School,
the history and tradition and for them ten through 7th grade in addition to a students get a solid foundation in Judaism A “Big” and “Little” at JYEP in Teaneck.
to relate positively to Judaism and make high school program — is because of its in exciting, innovative ways with highly
them life-long learners,” said Ms. Blumen- commitment to “creative, innovative and qualified teachers, hands-on learning and edge and skills in Jewish texts and his-
styk. “They are learning by doing.” dedicated staff that interacts and engages creative programming. tory, ethics and culture, Israel, Hebrew
The school recently hosted an inter- all of the students,” said Marilyn Fellows, Temple Emeth Religious School in literacy, and religious worship. In every-
director of the religious school. Teaneck exists as a Jewish community thing we do, we foster strong and pro-
“When you create an environment in miniature within the congregation ductive relationships among students,
of learning that is a space where a Jew- where the director, teachers, rabbi and families, faculty, and clergy through
ish child can flourish, they will,” said Ms. cantor, build a foundation of knowl- shared experiences.
Fellows, adding that the school’s motto is
“Where relationships matter.”
At Temple Emanu-El in Closter, the
motto is nourishing a lifelong connection
with Jewish heritage. Jewish children expe-
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to give comfort to women who were being who was a close family friend and the an organization called Sharsheret. Said Batya of her son who is follow-
treated for breast and ovarian cancer. founder of Sharsheret. Ms. Shoretz died “Rochie was an important part of our ing in the chesed footsteps of his fam-
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than created PJ’s Packages, goody bags fun, incredibly smart, and wonderful per- Said Elana Silber, executive director Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of
filled with warm and fuzzy items to help son. After being diagnosed with breast of Sharsheret: “Sharsheret’s b’nai mitzvah About Our Children.
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assover chol hamoed Jersey City produce over 281 trillion individ- celebrate Tim-Buk-Tuesday, Throw Back Thursdays, as well
or spring break gives 201-200-1000 ual colors, and new speakers ca- catch waves on a Wednesday as other specials.
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to explore local fun spots The interactive science museum of digital sound. Check it out. Or through Sunday. Urban Air Adventure Park
and spend time together. and learning center located Jer- check out the science center’s 69 Wesley Street
There are plenty of places sey City first opened in 1993 as other exhibitions. BounceU of Paramus South Hackensack, NJ
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ily busy: advanced planetarium in the hara Sam’s Oasis, one of New ables is a great spot for children Trampoline Park, in addition to
Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of western hemisphere. Only four Jersey’s premier indoor water- and those older to bounce off the its open time, has weekly events
About Our Children. others in the world, two in Japan, parks and open all year. The walls and burn off all that pent- and kids birthday parties.
one in China and one in Russia, family fun center was built up energy. Check out their cal-
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Raising funds for asliceofhope.org or the fashion savvy kid, there is magic in the air.
Magic sequins, that is. This spring, the two-in-
one sequin can be found everywhere: on T-shirts,
dresses, patches on denim jackets, backpacks, and more.
Swipe the sequins in one direction and it’s one image;
swipe the other, and it’s another look. What fun! From Carly’z Craze
Also popular for girls, said Susan Silverstein, buyer at
Marcia’s Attic for Kids in Englewood, are ruffles. Ruffles
can be seen on t-shirts and even denim. The hot color this
season is dusty pink. Also popular are retro stripes, star
prints, in foil or not, and the ever-popular unicorn as an
emblem of fanciful fun.
Alene Brodsky
Bloom, co-owner
with Wendy Borod-
kin of Carly’z Craze
in Teanec k , t he
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A Reason to Smile From Emporio metallic shine and Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Our Children.
‘Model’ Students
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t was an evening of fashion for a cause for Frisch
students who took part in the second annual Frisch,
Sharsheret, Lord and Taylor Fashion Show.
TEANECK DENTIST There were 14 student models, an event planner,
stylist, and representative of Sharsheret, the Teaneck-
based nonprofit that supports young women with
We put the Care breast and ovarian cancer, and many fashion fans,
into Dental Care! friends and family members who gathered for the eve-
ning at the department store located in Paramus’ West-
Richard S. Gertler, DMD, FAGD field Garden State Plaza.
Ari Frohlich, DMD The women and girls who attended the event got a
Sami Solaimanzadeh, DMD chance to take a look at the new spring line of clothing The students and pros at the Frisch fashion show.
ELLIANNA FRIED (ELLIE FRIED PHOTOGRAPHY)
that Lord and Taylor carries, purchased new outfits — at
1008 Teaneck Road • Teaneck a discounted price — and most importantly, raised money other and the community. And the message of putting
201.837.3000 for Sharsheret.
“Sometimes people see fashion and beauty as su-
your best face forward is a very positive one. I wanted
to use my love of fashion in a way that would positively
www.teaneckdentist.com perficial,” said Na’ama Kaye, of Teaneck, the 17-year-old benefit the community.”
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‘Just Be Happy’
Nah, That’s Not the Goal
Adina Soclof competent. Life is tough it from a perspective of We need to give to our children the
and knowing that you are teaching him/her the skills precious gift of meaning and purpose that
S
o many parents say, “I just want my able to handle whatever she needs for long-term comes through challenging effort and the
child to be happy.” But that is not life throws you makes authentic happiness. gratification of work.
the goal of parenting. In fact, the you happy. We need to The latest research When your children have a problem,
more you try to make your child happy, teach our children to be in raising emotionally big or small, this is not a catastrophe. It’s
the less happy they will be. problem solvers so that healthy kids tells us that a wonderful opportunity to help them
Children need structure, limits and they feel more invested in their home and not only do children need to feel compe- manage and tackle their problem. It is a
rules. They thrive on this. It ultimately family and will be more likely to listen tent (or resilient), they need to learn self- great time to teach them important life
makes them feel safe and secure. But they and cooperate. control and to delay gratification. They skills, how to deal with big feelings, get-
don’t like them. They don’t like being told We need to change our focus from also need to feel that they are living a life ting along with others, learn how to get
to go to bed or to leave the park. Teens making kids feel happy to making them of meaning. Finally, they need to feel truly calm.
don’t like not being allowed to stay out to feel competent needed, that they have something unique Happiness is certainly important. But
wee morning hours partying with friends. Helping children feel that they have it to contribute to the world and they, as an it’s not the goal. It’s a means to accomplish
Parents have to impose these rules mul- within them to manage life’s big and little individual human being, make the world the more meaningful and lasting goals in
tiple times a day and most kids don’t problems is the ultimate gift we can give a better place. life. Let’s help our kids feel competent and
take this lying down. Almost everyday them. That should be our parenting goal. Children today are coddled and tak- confident. That is how we can ultimately
you have to make children feel sad, (take We need to change our focus from en care of in ways that they never have help our kids be happy.
a bath, don’t eat that cake, turn off the making kids feel happy to making them been before. Children were instrumental
computer) to help them feel safe, secure feel competent. We want to raise inde- in sustaining their family. Everyone had Adina Soclof is a parent, professional develop-
and ultimately happy, healthy and clean. pendent, responsible kids. Instead of tell- chores. This gave children a sense of pur- ment instructor and speech pathologist, and
Not only that, authentic, true hap- ing yourself that you want your children pose. Spoiling our kids lessens that sense founder of parentingsimply.com. She can be
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fter a certain age there’s a limit to what one can Was the greeting at the entrance.
do with one’s grandchildren. Another granddaughter in her pre-teens took up
We introduced them to skiing and enjoyed horseback riding at a day camp in the far corner of
carving turns with them. Now, one knee replacement Brooklyn. Here was an unsurpassable picture opportu-
later, skiing for me is in the past while they schuss and nity, a young granddaughter in riding boots and jodhpurs
slide on their own. astride a majestic horse.
Skating with them was fun until I needed help get- We headed for the stable on one of the hottest days
ting up after an embarrassing spill. They kindly stifled of the summer. Instructions to get there were compli-
their laughter. cated so we allowed extra time to provide for inevitable
Running? Forget it. Not when they do their 5Ks rou- errors. From the subway, we crossed Ocean Parkway by
tinely and an occasional impressive 10K. way of the second pedestrian bridge, not the first. We
Biking? Once a favorite group activity. Now my bike knew we were on track because of the distinctive stable
idles and the tires go flat while grandchildren clock bike odor. We arrived early afternoon, the heat of the day. In
mileage to raise money for charity. the barn, horses were in the stalls, and a young man was
Yet there is a challenging and fulfilling role that re- pitching hay.
mains for a grandparent — vicarious visitant. “Where are the children?”
In her adolescent years, my granddaughter was an “Oh, they’re in the park.”
accomplished figure skater, the result of costly lessons “But the horses are here.”
and many weeks of practice. The year-end ice show was a “The kids were riding this morning. Now there’s or-
time for the young ladies to demonstrate their toe loops, ganized play with the counselors.”
spins and salchows. I looked forward to a rewarding night The camera hung limp on my belt. We met our horse-
less granddaughter when she returned from the park,
and stopped for a much needed ice cream cone. One of the many events as the author’s grandson wrestles at a
Our grandson, a sophomore at the high school of Ye- competition.
be adorable shiva University in Manhattan, tried out for the wrestling a scrape on his arm, sustained in practice, had not healed.
team, and he made it. Obviously the wrestling matches We went home only to find out that he had wrestled
would be a high priority in our lives. after all, and won.
The first would be at a high school near City College Though his victories had eluded me, I was still de-
of New York. It would be a round-robin tournament termined. The next match was scheduled at Y.U. against
with six schools competing. The subway took me there an important rival from Long Island. My son, father of
part way. The rest of the trip required my hiking up a the wrestling grandson, arranged his work schedule so
Mt. Everest-type hill. In the school gym was a chaotic he could drive up from Baltimore to attend. My other
assemblage of wrestlers and their boisterous followers. son, the wrestler’s uncle, again arranged to come in from
My grandson was in his wrestling tights with a bulging Brooklyn for the much-anticipated event. This time we
apparatus on his head that looked like earphones. faced not only record-breaking cold with paralyzing wind
“Do you listen to music while you wrestle?” It seemed chill, but also a 9-inch snowfall. It was all in vain. The
to be an obvious question. He patiently explained it was other school canceled the match.
protection to prevent cauliflower ears. I was not having much success as a cheerleading
He was matched against a young man a head taller grandpa, but all was not lost.
and seemed a year or two older. Opponents had to be My granddaughter, a fourth grader in Brooklyn’s
in the same weight class, and our grandson was dieting P.S. 39, was in the school chorus, and the time had
to make the 145 pound weight limit. The lack of food come for the December Winter Celebration. Each class
may have weakened him, and he lost on points. I told would sing holiday selections, then the chorus, in their
him he did well. “Better luck next time.” Assuming he was classy red and white uniforms, would sing the climax
through for the night, I went home. I later learned he had of the program.
a second match that night, which he won. The fourth grade, supported by chorus members
His next match was scheduled at Yeshiva University and accompanied by drum percussion, belted out “Win-
High School, a subway ride to Washington Heights, fol- ter Wonderland.” Then came the chorus. They sang three
lowed by an eight-block walk up a windswept hill in De- numbers, including “The Journey” adapted from a score
cember with the temperature in single digits. His uncle by Anton Dvorak. The audience of some 500 erupted in
traveled in from Brooklyn to meet us. After waiting an thunderous applause, which we assumed was directed at
marcia's attic for kids hour-and-a-half for the opposing team, we learned that
my grandson would not be allowed to compete because
our granddaughter.
My role as a vicarious visitant was fulfilled.
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201-894-5701 Ed Silberfarb was a reporter for the Bergen Record in New Jersey, then the New York Herald Tribune where he was City Hall bureau chief.
Later, he was a public information officer for the New York City Transit Authority and editor of one of its employee publications.
F
amed psychologist Dr. Wendy Mogel gave the gated, to say no in a confident way.”
world over, from Brooklyn to Beijing, practical par- Instead, what happened with parents was “voices
enting advice on how to raise self-reliant, ethical, went up a register, their shoulders were shrugged and
and compassionate children in her bestseller, “The Bless- raised, and fingers started pointing.
ing of the Skinned Knee,” and its follow up, “The Blessing “The parent became a child. The parent regressed,
of a B Minus,” which drew on the Torah, the Talmud and lost their stature, lost their confidence. What happened
important Jewish teachings to show parents how to turn is that it became a form of sibling rivalry, and the parent
their children’s worst traits into their greatest attributes. lost. I’ve been doing this for more than 35 years and I’ve
Now the Los Angeles-based Dr. Mogel has a new book, never seen this before. Parents were losing their patience,
“Voice Lessons for Parents” (Scribner), which offers an es- their confidence, their clarity.”
sential guide to the new art of talking to children, showing So she began to give parents voice lessons. The con-
how a change in one’s demeanor can transform the rela- tent of their message may not have changed, but the de-
tionship. Drawing on the latest neuroscience, anthropology livery did. As, did the body language. And, sometimes
and fairy tales, her new book, which will be released April the setting. And guess what? It made all the difference.
17, the same day that Dr. Mogel will give a talk at the 92nd “One of the remarkable things that happened was
St. Y in Manhattan, gives parents a paradigm for speaking that the voice lessons were so effective. It made a big
to their children at every age and stage of their develop- difference. It’s never too late to start.”
ment, from infant to teen, in an effort to deepen the com- Dr. Mogel attributed the breakdown in communica-
munication shared between parent and child. tion to over scheduling, too much digital time, too much
“Children will lead you on an incredible journey if screen time, angst about the state of the world — “Which
they trust you, if you make the time, and if you are will- is going to go first? The government or the planet?” Too
s ing to follow,” said Dr. Mogel, who spoke to About Our
Children from her office in Los Angeles. “These conver-
much stress, and too much anxiety and home life has lost
its joy, lost its sense of humor.
sations are about deepening your relationship with your “Where is the delight?” she asked. “Families were not
children — and enjoying them.” developing in-jokes. They’ve lost the opportunity to look
“Voice Lessons” was born out of what she saw with forward to events and then to look back on them. Even a
greater frequency in her practice, that is parents who be- bad vacation is good.
came transformed “physically, emotionally and mentally” “Hurry, worry and digital distractions have intruded
when discussing how their children had a different point on our conversations,”
Wendy Mogel AMY DICKERSON
of view — “which was most of the time,” she pointed out. But Dr. Mogel offers a way to get them back. She
“Kids were just being regular kids. They’re supposed offers specific guidance for talking to children across
the expanse of childhood and adolescence and
explains the best ways to talk about
your child with others.
“No matter how much the
culture changes, kids develop
at the same rate and they
“The way to protect your
need the same things
they’ve always needed
child is by focusing on what
from their parents,”
she said.
is timeless and providing
Words, or voice
lessons, that are a
the basics children have
, blessing indeed.
always needed: stability,
Heidi Mae Bratt is the
editor of About Our
consistency, tenderness
Children.
and acceptance.”
— Voice Lessons for Parents
by Wendy Mogel, Ph.D.
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Simchas
Blessing from page 15 of childhood and adolescence and ex-
and too much anxiety and home life has plains the best ways to talk about your
lost its joy, lost its sense of humor. child with others.
“Where is the delight?” she asked. “No matter how much the culture
“Families were not developing in-jokes. changes, kids develop at the same rate
They’ve lost the opportunity to look for- and they need the same things they’ve
ward to events and then to look back on always needed from their parents,”
Bnai mitzvah
them. Even a bad vacation is good. she said.
LILLY GOLDFARB “Hurry, worry and digital distractions Words, or voice lessons, that are a
Lilly Goldfarb, daughter of have intruded on our conversations,” blessing indeed.
Alyson Yashar and James But Dr. Mogel offers a way to get
Goldfarb of Saddle River, them back. She offers specific guidance Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Our
celebrated becoming a
for talking to children across the expanse Children.
bat mitzvah on March 24
at Temple Beth Rishon in
Wyckoff.
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University of New Mexico baseball camp. American League MVP. “I liked him since
The Lobos’ baseball coach, Ray Birming- he was at LSU,” where Bregman was a first-
ham, preached dedication to greatness. team All American at shortstop. “I saw him
“Alex took that so literally that he’d hit hit a homer, and I fell in love with him
in the batting cages until he got calluses,” as a player.”
recalled Sam Bregman, who had grown The trio jogged toward
up on the field at Robert F. Kennedy Sta- a batting cage, Bregman
dium, where his late father, Stan, worked stopped to sign autographs
as a lawyer for the Washington Senators. after he finished hitting.
It was Stan, “Grandpa Zayde,” who gave He’ll be signing plenty
his grandson a card set of Jewish baseball more when the Astros
HILLEL KUTTLER
players. come home next week for
Someone else who saw that commit- their opener at Minute Maid
ment was Darvin Ham, who coached Park. His parents will be
the New Mexico Thunderbirds, an NBA there.
Development League team the Bregmans Sam Bre gman joked Alex Bregman signs autographs at the Houston As-
owned. In postgame conversations and at about guarding the champion- tros’ spring training complex in West Palm Beach, Fla.
the Bregman home, Alex Bregman “was ship ring his son will receive.
like a sponge” of information about the “I know that the Jewish commu-
makings of athletic achievement, said nity around the country is so proud
Ham, now an assistant coach with the of him,” Jackie Bregman said. Referring
Atlanta Hawks. to the card collection of Jewish players,
“He was a very good listener. He took she added, “I hope that one day he’s in
mental notes,” said Ham, who considers that collection.” JTA WIRE SERVICE
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That huge full moon, giant and yellow-gold in the
sky, is a signal that the next one will be Pesach, and spate of articles has been published suggest- Ron Lauder’s op-ed in the New York Times last week
that the cleaning and cooking will be over and the story- ing that American Jews are turning away from was one of the worst examples of this behavior. Lauder is
telling will begin. Israel. I do not believe it is true, but the behav- a wealthy philanthropist who does much good work for
It’s been an insane month and a half. The Parkland shoot- ior of some of the community’s leaders is doing the Jewish people, especially in eastern Europe. I have
ings were two weeks before Purim — see how the Jewish and nothing to help and a lot to contribute to this perception. personally witnessed his outstanding work. But he has no
American calendars come together! — and last Shabbat it cul- What is especially galling is that unlike the officials in business using his title as president of the World Jewish
minated in the marches across the United States, saying no Israel whose policies they are attacking, none of the lead- Congress to chastise the Israeli government and propose
to gun violence, no to fear, no to making schools into armed ers engaged in public criticism of Israel were democrati- his own ideas for what is best for Israel. The WJC has an
redoubts and teachers into police officers. cally elected, and their comments do not appear to reflect impressive sounding name. But when Lauder publishes
It made me think of some of the books of my childhood. the views of their constituents or to have their approval. New York Times op-eds against Israel he is demonstrating
I don’t remember if any of the teachers in the remote one- The Jewish community is not monolithic, and there that the organization is little more than Lauder’s personal
room Western schoolhouses that I read and reread and read have always been marginal figures who have found that fiefdom. So perhaps he does not have to answer to anyone.
again were part of the Little House series, or Caddy Wood- the way to get attention is to be the Jew who attacks The WJC has no members or constituency that the public
lawn, or by some other writer whose stories and characters Israel, the proverbial man-bites-dog story. In recent is aware of, so perhaps Lauder really speaks only for him-
I’d surely remember if ever I were to see them again were months, however, it is not the extremists self. But in that case he should have omitted
the ones who carried guns, but I’m sure that at least one of from J Street or the Beinerts who have been his affiliation from his byline.
them did. Most of them didn’t though; they just had chalk marching out of step with Israel. It is many I was also struck by the comments made
and firewood and bread and maybe coffee for lunch. establishment figures. by AIPAC’s longtime executive director
And if they didn’t have guns, then most certainly teach- Don’t get me wrong. As Americans, we Howard Kohr at the annual policy confer-
ers today are far less likely to. My sister and my niece are all have the right to speak our minds, and ence. There is no more important organiza-
both New York City outer-borough public high school I have not held my tongue on moral issues tion that AIPAC when it comes to strength-
librarians. They would just as soon bring a gun to school where Israel must be better, like recognizing ening U.S.-Israel relations, and no one more
as I would ride to my Teaneck office on a horse that I’d the Armenian genocide. But when it comes skillful and committed to that objective than
feed sugar cubes to and tie up in the parking lot. (In a to directly condemning Israeli policies, the Kohr. Howard is a friend for whom I have
reserved space, of course.) principal pro-Israel organizations have Rabbi endless respect. Few American Jews have
But this Shabbat was the marches. My shul is close to long held to the convention that the proper Shmuley done more good for Israel then Howard has
Central Park West, so we headed out, behind a banner means for expressing criticism is privately Boteach at the helm of AIPAC.
from the shul, for the fourth march in the last 14 months. and directly to Israeli officials, and that pub- Nevertheless, I was mystified when he
Unlike the first women’s march, which was oddly festive, lic declarations are usually made only by talked about working toward a two-state
or the science march, which was cold, drizzly, and grim, those who have no influence and feel the need to draw solution and the creation of a Palestinian state “with its
or the second women’s march, which was somehow deju attention to themselves and their personal views. own flag and its own future.” It’s not that this is neces-
vu, this one was plaintive, disbelieving, but hopeful none- Israeli officials also broke with convention in the sarily an unreasonable position. The point is that it is not
theless. Something has to change. Children can’t be shot 1980s and 1990s when they eschewed the longstanding even on the agenda at the moment. As Kohr knows, the
in schools. We can’t be a society where children are shot tradition of avoiding criticism of the government when Palestinians have repeatedly rejected this “solution” and
dead in schools. Can they? Can we? Are we? abroad. Initially, it was the Labor Party that was guilty the Palestinian dictator Mahmoud Abbas has refused to
And now, it’s Pesach. of this when it lost power, and it was roundly criticized negotiate with Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu
Maybe, maybe, please, the sun will come out, and the by the Likud. When Labor returned to power, how- for a decade. Why is Kohr advocating a push for two-states
snow will stop, and the clouds will lift, and we will be able ever, some Likud officials engaged in similar behavior. at this time when it has so little support in Israel and the
to bask in family and friends and freedom, and look ahead Israeli politics has been more politicized ever since and PA? Is he really speaking for the members of AIPAC or the
to joy and hope. The crocuses already are out, some par- frequently embroiled diaspora Jews in the internecine broader pro-Israel community?
ticularly foolhardy trees are developing buds, and, at least battles between the parties. What made it worse was that AIPAC did not make pas-
according to their songs, at least some of the birds are Recently, American Jewish leaders have taken it upon sage of the Taylor Force Act one of its priorities at the pol-
ignoring the temperature and going with the light. themselves to adopt policies at odds with the Israeli gov- icy conference. This bipartisan bill, which just was signed
Maybe, if we’re lucky, liberation lies ahead. And maybe, ernment. Again, I have no complaint with them speaking into law, represents a much-needed response to Palestin-
if we’re good, we’ll do all that we can to hasten it. as individuals, but when they express views under the ian intransigence and ongoing support for terror.
We offer all of our readers and their families and imprimatur of organizations they represent, that’s a dif- Howard’s speech about a two-state solution at AIPAC
friends our best wishes for a zissen Pesach, for joy and ferent story. startled many, as all polls show that Hamas would quickly
good food and good wine and good dark chocolate and
easily cleanable matzah crumbs and lots of singing at the Rabbi Shmuley Boteach is the author of 31 books, including his most recent, “The Israel Warrior.” Follow him on
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should the foremost pro-Israel organization
in America be talking about this while Mah- he following is a pop quiz on Jewish priorities. Take it investors, community organizing, better laws and policing, empow-
moud Abbas insults and demeans Ameri- yourself or, better yet (for reasons I will explain below), erment of former slaves, journalism that exposes traffickers.
ca’s ambassador to the United States, David take it with someone under age 18. But the main factor is will. Slavery can be eliminated in our life-
Friedman? Last week alone they took the What commandment is emphasized through repeti- time. Whether or not it will be is up to us, based on how we vote
unbelievable and disgusting step of trying tion more than any other? According to rabbinic count (Baba Metzia and lobby, what we buy, and which governmental programs and
to have the ambassador labeled a terrorist 59b), the Torah prohibits oppressing a stranger at least 36 separate charities we fund.
k after Mahmoud Abbas himself called the times “because you were strangers in the land of Egypt.” A big part of the Passover seder is teaching our children, telling
ambassador a “son of a dog.” Such revolt- Which holiday do more Jews celebrate than any other? It’s not the story that they may not yet know, or not know as fully as we
r ing displays of anti-Semitism should be Rosh Hashanah or Yom Kippur. Though the High Holidays bring do. Yet, the biggest moments of discovery don’t come from adult
condemned by every Arab leader, espe- large crowds to synagogue, Passover is celebrated by greater num- answers, but from children’s questions and challenges. (Think of
cially those who enjoy a close relationship bers of Jews. More than 90 percent of Jews participate in seders most the Four Sons.) That’s why I began this column by inviting you to
with the United States as major allies. The years. A recent Pew study found that 70 percent of American Jews invite a young person into the discussion.
e abominable attacks against an American attended a seder in the last year. Among Jews married to another On the seder night, the rabbinic strategy is to spark curiosity,
n ambassador — and one who enjoys a close Jew, the figure was 91 percent, and 42 percent of those who identify encourage inquiry, and invite everyone — especially children —
relationship with the president of the United as “Jews of no religion” said they attended a seder the year before. to speak. The last word does not rest with the Haggadah. It lives
States — are an attack on America itself. And What is our most influential Jewish story? The stories of around the table, in the mouth of any child or adult who is moved
it’s the pro-Israel organizations that should creation (including Shabbat) and of the giving of the Torah at to interpret, wonder, argue, imagine, or suggest.
. be at the forefront of holding the Palestin- Mount Sinai are essential narratives, but the master story that With almost 900 protests this past weekend, we saw a stunning
ians leadership accountable for incitement shaped and continues to shape Jewish identity is this one: “We example of what children can add to a conversation. Learning and
- against Americans. were slaves in Egypt, and God took us out with a mighty hand growth happen not just when we teach young people, but when
A third example of American Jewish and an outstretched arm.” Morning and eve- we listen to them and encourage them to take the
leaders out of step with the realities on ning, in both weekday and Sabbath prayers, we lead.
the ground, and the government of Israel, describe the terrible tyranny of slavery and reen- The Torah describes that “in time to come” (Deut.
r were the men who accepted junkets to act our relief and salvation at the Red Sea. The 6:20), parents will need to speak (Hebrew root:
- Qatar and gave legitimacy to the emir, story of the Exodus defines us as a people and a.m.r.) about the message and history of Passover
- whose PR media enterprise was spying on also has inspired liberation movements around to children who are born into freedom. Interest-
- American Jews, and who supports Hamas the world over the course of centuries. ingly, this same Hebrew root is used to introduce
terrorists, and who has cozied up to the The other top contenders mentioned above for children’s questions about Passover, along with the
genocidal mullahs in Iran. the title of “master Jewish narrative” — creation/Sab- root sh.a.l., meaning “ask.” Exodus 12:26 describes
The only thing these leaders did by going bath and receiving the Torah — significantly include a future time when children will state (a.m.r.) their
to Qatar was to confer Jewish legitimacy the Exodus. At Mount Sinai, the first of God’s ten Rabbi Debra questions about Passover. Children are not just
on the emir and strengthen his public dibrot (sayings) is: “I am Adonai your God who took Orenstein “straight men,” setting us up for our perfect one-
relations efforts in the United States just you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of liners. As every parent can tell you, children’s ques-
when he was finally facing immense pres- slaves.” The commandment to observe Shabbat is tions can contain whole worlds — and not just of
sure to stop funding the Muslim brother- connected to our liberation: “The seventh day is a Sabbath unto inquiry, but of instruction. One way older generations can pass on
hood and Hamas. They claimed to be act- Adonai your God. On it you shall not do any work — neither you, a better world is to listen expansively and minutely to the Torah
- ing in Israel’s interest even though Israel’s nor your son, nor your daughter, nor your manservant, nor your that the younger generation has to offer.
t ambassador to the United States made woman-servant, nor your ox, nor your donkey, nor any of your Some of my greatest teachers on the subject of human traffick-
clear — repeatedly and publicly — that cattle, nor your stranger who is within your gates; that your man- ing have been children. I was inspired to do my part for today’s
Israel’s government disapproved of their servant and your woman-servant may rest as you do” (Deut. 5:13). slaves because my daughter, at age 7, challenged a modest goal I
amateur diplomacy. Amazingly, during In the Friday night Kiddush, we name Shabbat both a memorial had originally set. As we reviewed our spiritual intentions during
the Presidents Conference trip to Israel, —zicaron — to creation and a reminder — zecher — of the Exodus. the High Holiday season five years ago, I stated my goal to help
Prime Minister Netanyahu said in front of This brief quiz proves what is intuitively felt, but not always con- free 18 slaves. She was unimpressed. “Why 18? Why not 100?” I
Malcolm Hoenlein himself that he opposed sciously known, by Jews: that there is an essential, unseverable con- was convicted by her words. Eighteen might seem manageable
American Jews engaging with Qatar. nection between Jews and freedom. It’s impossible to tell the story for me, but the point is that slavery is chaotic, violent, lawless, and
Jewish organizations have never been of the Jews without telling of our enslavement, our liberation, and in completely unmanageable for the people who suffer it. Why not
- democratic. Leaders have little or no response to those experiences, our duty to protect the vulnerable. aim for a disruptive and ambitious goal?
- accountability to the Jewish community or By latest count, there are approximately 42 million slaves in the We have tolerated slavery until now, but the world is at a tip-
their own membership. Perhaps, at times, world. It’s a shocking number, and up significantly since the last ping point. A united (and uniting) effort by the Jewish community
- that can be construed as a good thing since estimates, now that the International Labour Organization and can free millions of people – and it will require relatively simple
leaders should not follow but lead. But the others are counting forced marriage as a form of slavery. Although changes and modest contributions. If individual Jews do our part,
growing gap between what Jewish leaders slavery is not legal anywhere, it is practiced everywhere, includ- it will begin with raising this issue at our seders — and continue
y are doing ostensibly on Israel’s behalf in ing in the United States and Israel. The Catholic church has made from there. Imagine if, when you opened the door for Elijah, a
direct contradiction to the wishes of their a commitment to end all forms of slavery by 2030. The United family of slaves stood on your doorstep. You would never hand
American Jewish constituents is troubling Nations has taken on the same mission and deadline as one of its them back to their captors. You would not be able to look them
and must be addressed. goals for sustainable development. in the eyes and then turn your back on them. Slavery persists
The Jewish community, whose narratives, laws, and holidays because it is hidden from us. Supply chains are deliberately murky.
inspired the Western value of freedom as we know it, has done We indirectly benefit from a crime that we do not endorse. Once
less than many of our neighbors. Until now. we look the reality of slavery in the face, I believe that each of us
The present moment is auspicious. Hundreds of nations and a will take action to end it.
The opinions expressed in church of more than a billion people have set a deadline to end slav- A short time after my holiday discussion with my daugh-
this section are those of the authors, ery that is just 12 years away. There are many reasons why this auda- ter, I read a story in the Jewish Standard about Jessica Baer,
not necessarily those of the cious goal is in sight: improved technology and communications, then 11. She saw a single presentation about modern slavery
consumer awareness of supply chains, Fair Trade options, activist at Jewish summer camp and went on to free 30 child slaves in
newspaper’s editors, publishers, or
Ghana before her bat mitzvah. I photocopied the article and
other staffers. We welcome letters to To learn what you can do in — 10 hours, in 10 minutes wrote above the headline in sharpie (for myself and others
the editor. Send them to or even in 10 seconds — to remember and rescue
to see): “This is what a child did. What can you do?” (Since
[email protected]. slaves this Passover, download Passover Prep at www.
Lois Goldrich wrote that story in 2013, the Baers have rescued
FreeTheSlaves.net/Judaism.
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y first column in the Jew- others, was devastated to hear of the unex- Rabbi Anthony Glickman to be a larger-than-life figure
ish Standard was a remem- pected death of Rabbi Ozer Anthony Glick- whose first semicha was in the world of investment
brance of Rabbi Dr. Eugene man, one of today’s preeminent modern from JTS (followed by a risk management and busi-
Borowitz, one of the major Orthodox leaders and role models, about number of Orthodox semi- ness, and who had pursued
theologians of the Reform movement in whom the Standard’s editor wrote so chot from RIETS and lead- graduate studies in philoso-
the 20th century, who recently had died. movingly last week. Unlike Rabbis Borow- ing rabbinic figures). There phy, religion — and finance.
He was also the founder and editor of itz and Pelcovitz, however, whom I knew was the Rav Ozer Yeshayah And, of course, there was
Sh’ma magazine, and I was privileged to for decades and who lived into their 90s, HaCohen Glickman, a rosh the loving husband, devoted
work with him there for several years. I felt aging gracefully while continuing to be yeshiva in RIETS, teaching and adored saba, and the
even more privileged that our friendship inspirational to many until almost the Yoreh Deah, Talmud, and Joseph C. beloved abba of six wonder-
continued until his death. end, I knew R. Glickman only a few all too halacha to undergraduate Kaplan ful children, one who beauti-
On the morning of March 19, 2018, some short years when he was suddenly felled and semicha students. There fully described her parents at
two years plus a bit after this first column by a heart attack at age 67, still influential, was Professor Anthony the funeral with these words:
appeared, I paid a shiva call on the family vigorous, and active. Glickman teaching “Jewish Values in the “When you need a favor go to Ima, when
of Rabbi Ralph Pelcovitz, the rabbi emeri- The deaths of Rabbis Pelcovitz and Contemporary World,” “Business and you’re in a crisis go to Abba.”
tus of the White Shul in Far Rockaway and Borowitz saddened their families, friends, Jewish Law,” and American legal theory All this made R. Glickman different, per-
one of the leading modern Orthodox con- and communities, both narrow and wide, (among other courses) at Isaac Breuer haps unique. But what made him special
gregational rabbis of the 20th century. I but that’s the way the world is supposed College, Sy Syms School of Business, and was his ability to connect with so many
had grown up in his shul in the 1950s and to work; dor holech v’dor bah, a genera- the Cardozo School of Law, where he was different types of people of all ages and
60s, and continued as an intermittent tion departs and a new one takes its place. also the senior resident rabbinic scholar beliefs on a myriad of important issues,
attendee after getting married, listening to R. Glickman’s death, however, in addition and an adjunct professor of law at its Cen- both ancient and contemporary. In addi-
his sermons on Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kip- to bringing grief to so many, was a trag- ter for the Study of Jewish Law and Con- tion to being a superior talmid chacham
pur, and other holidays and Shabbatot for edy; taken at the height of his powers, as temporary Civilization. There was the with an incredible breadth of secular
more than 30 years when my family visited he was continuing to impact increasingly Ozer/Anthony Glickman who was a much knowledge, he was an unyielding sup-
my parents. In later years, I would call him larger and more disparate parts of the Jew- sought after speaker on topics ranging porter of civil rights, an outspoken cham-
from time to time to wish him a gut yon- ish community. He left us when he had so from the stock market to Jewish philoso- pion of the need to purge all vestiges of
tif or shana tovah, and I always received a much more to give, and there was so much phy to Jewish civil law to medical ethics. racism from our community, a strong pro-
bracha and d’var Torah in response. more we thirsted to receive. There was the Tony Glickman who ponent of the need for decency in govern-
And then, shortly after returning home R. Glickman was eclectic in both back- formed deep social and personal rela- ment leadership, and a vocal advocate urg-
from this shiva visit, I, along with so many ground and profession. There was the tionships with so many, who continued ing that honesty, morals, and ethics must
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becoming lost in our world, where group applauded and appreciated students. The video of their
assover begins this Friday night, think and conformity seem to own the day. — but they are rare. confronting Weinstein went viral. A Vice
and soon the familiar smells of And beware anyone who dares challenge The good news is that there are some story featured one student who felt differ-
the seders — brisket, turkey, the conventional wisdom. Could this be a faculty who realize what is at stake and ently worry about being stigmatized. She
chicken soup with matzah balls, reason why we are instructed as individu- have decided to fight. Take the case of said, “I do not have the ability to speak if
and so much more — will fill our senses, als? Is it a warning about the precarious NYU’s Professor Michael Rectenwald, I have disagreements with methods being
unearthing warm, wonderful memories state of freedom and the need to fight for who, according to the Daily Caller, “is used in protests.”
begun when we were so small we could our liberty in every generation? After all, suing NYU and four of his colleagues for This is a college campus? Weinstein
only sit at the table. Never mind the excite- when Jacob and his sons were invited to defamation, alleging that he was subjected since has resigned, as part of a financial
ment we felt when we finally were old stay in Egypt by Pharaoh, they were not to a campaign of ostracism and harass- settlement with the university, and others
enough to sing the four questions on cue. slaves. But after Joseph died, another pha- ment when he criticized campus political have followed. Bullying is nothing com-
That Passover is the most beloved holi- raoh enslaved them. correctness.” Professor Rectenwald, who pared to what is going on.
day for the Jewish people makes sense as We are all too familiar with the intimi- called himself a former communist and ex- As Bill Maher said when discussing stu-
the reading of the haggadah and the seder dation, and even physical assault, perpe- leftist, is known as a free speech advocate dents interrupting Charles Murray’s speak-
remembering our escape from slavery has trated by numerous supporters of the Boy- and became alarmed with “indoctrination ing engagement in 2017 at Middlebury Col-
tied us together, generation to generation. cott, Divestment and Sanctions movement in the classroom.” lege (with one female teacher ending up
And though this happened thousands on too many campuses across the United Or what about a professor of evolu- with a concussion), “Debate him. Opinions
of years ago, we are instructed in Exodus, States and Canada. Though still not on a tionary biology, Bret Weinstein, who is shouldn’t be illegal.”
once again be core values practiced by our He reached out to those with different I only knew him through Facebook I felt When I answered “yup, if you like I’ll be
community and that Hoshen Mishpat must ideas without rancor or animosity and a strong kinship to him, and now deeply happy to teach you how to tie them,” he
still be relevant to our 21st Century lives with the utmost respect, refusing to let regret I never met him personally.” Luckily replied “last time I wore one another
outside the beit medrash. political considerations get in the way of for me, though I too first encountered him diner asked me for her check.”
One other thing that made him, for his love for people, Torah, and ideas. on Facebook, I later met him in the flesh as And one about bittersweet regret. My
a rosh yeshiva, different, unique, and His affinity for those he disagreed a result of his kind “let’s meet for coffee” very last words to him were also in the
special was that he was a force on social with was particularly important to me invitation. I jumped at the opportunity and context of a Facebook discussion where,
media, appearing on Facebook to dis- because, as he recently wrote, “my two delightful hours at Lazy Bean ensued, as usual, we were disagreeing. It became
cuss all these issues; speaking truth friend Joseph Kaplan and I disagree on with our discovering how much we had in too complex for short written back and
to power clearly, openly, and without substantive issues in halacha and Ameri- common (including daughters who were forth comments, so I ended the discus-
fear. And of great, perhaps paramount, can politics.” (The “my friend” touched good friends and later thought it “cute” sion with a simple “we’ll have to talk.”
importance, is that notwithstanding my heart.) And we did, indeed, disagree that we also became friends), how much The bitter part is that I let it slide, not
his passion for what he believed in, — often. But notably, he ended that com- we agreed on, and how much more we dis- picking up the phone, finding him after
he always did this with civility to and ment by observing that “we agree that agreed about. And we continued talking, shul, or this time my inviting him to Lazy
respect for all, including, or perhaps Torah is to be cherished, and that those agreeing, and disagreeing, civilly, respect- Bean to do just that — talk. The sweet part
especially, those with whom he dis- who are devoted to it can learn from one fully, and often with humor, sometimes on is that, unlike those who never had the
agreed. Always. So in a significant depar- another,” but only if civility and respect Facebook, sometimes in shul, and some- opportunity, or missed the opportunity,
ture from internet norms, he refused to are embedded in the disagreement. times after a shiur of his that I attended, to meet him personally, I grabbed that
allow ad hominem attacks and pejora- In the days following his death, my which enabled me to add teacher-student opportunity (or was it just plain dumb
tive personal comments to intrude into Facebook feed was flooded with expres- to my description of our relationship. luck?), thus having the privilege of expe-
serious discussions of issues, and would sions of grief and shock, and warm mem- Let me end (though I still have much riencing what it means to interact face-
unfriend people who violated that rule. ories by his growing international fol- more to say) with two stories: one about to-face with, and be a student/friend of,
His gentle, sweet side, however, also lowing. Many posts and comments arose humor and the other regret. His humor a truly great man.
believed in second chances for those from an appreciation of his deep and sin- was sharp, could be earthy, and therefore A light has gone out and our world is
who were introspective and apologetic. cere acts of kindness, in word and deed, often was meant only for private con- darker. We are truly bereft. Yehi zichro
Like others, he was a critic of certain and active involvement in combatting sumption. But I can share the following baruch.
aspects of open Orthodoxy. Unlike some, unfairness and injustice to those without conversation in a family publication. In
however, his criticisms never had a touch power or prestige. Rabbi Shai Held has the midst of a serious discussion we were Joseph C. Kaplan, a regular columnist,
of condescension, condemnation, or noted that from a religious and human having on Facebook, he suddenly non- is a long-time resident of Teaneck. His
crude nastiness. Indeed, a leader of Open perspective, kindness is more impor- sequitured into “is that a bow tie I see in work also has appeared in various
Orthodoxy with whom R. Glickman dis- tant than anything else. And Reb Ozer/ your profile picture?” (It’s the same pic- publications including Sh’ma magazine,
agreed online recently noted that Reb Tony personified this with warmth, care, ture as the one used with this column, the New York Jewish Week, the Baltimore
Ozer was truly tolerant and open minded, empathy, compassion, and love. though larger, and if you look carefully Jewish Times, and, as letters to the
enjoying people who disagreed with him. Another online thread was “although you can see the bow tie tips peeking out.) editor, the New York Times.
And it happens beyond the campus. Democratic Senator Zell Miller of Georgia.
This freedom of expression exclusion hap- Though he did continue to work, he said
pens within families, in the workplace, that he knew he lost jobs and some friends
and even for volunteers and staff within due to his support of President Bush on
charitable organizations. If you think that this issue. I was fortunate enough to meet
everyone shares one political ideology, life him again about a year before he died, and
is more complex. It just means that some- he was very gracious when I reminded him
one (or perhaps more than one) is afraid that we worked together on that ACLU
of losing your friendship or being ostra- project. Sadly, he passed away nine years
cized from the group if they shared their ago this month. Interestingly, Senator
real opinion. Miller just died.
But there are those who are willing to So why is it important to think of these
take the heat. Remember Ron Silver? He incidents as we read this commandment
was an accomplished actor who was most at our seder table? Each person involved
readily known for his performance as Der- understood that his ability to think and
showitz in the film “Reversal of Fortune” speak freely was important to fight for,
and he won a Tony for his performance in even at the risk of damaging his livelihood
Mamet’s “Speed-the-Plow.” Silver was New and reputation. And there are others,
York-born-and-bred and quite liberal. He including students, who we know risk a
was a president of Actors’ Equity and in lot to stand up for what is right — some-
1989 he founded the Creative Coalition, times doing so more effectively behind the
a nonprofit advocacy group made up of scenes — so that the freedom to think and The 1969 movie Easy Rider was about individualism (among other,
members of the entertainment industry. debate is not shut down and lost to future flashier things).
That is how I worked with him, producing generations. We must join them in calling
a PSA for the ACLU down on Centre Street out these purveyors of tyranny. of a life fulfilled. This is the only road to to bondage. As John Keating said to his
before the turn of the century. Let’s turn the tables and challenge them help them summon the courage to reject students, “You must strive to find your
Everything was great until 9/11 hap- to put their big boy and big girl pants on the prison of conformity, the one that peo- own voice, because the longer you wait to
pened. While still remaining a liberal on and debate ideas, in the open, without ple in Russia, China, Venezuela, and too begin, the less likely you are going to find
most causes, Ron, like many others, took a using derogatory language, demonization, many countries live and die in every day. it at all.”
more realistic — some might say conserva- or physical force. If they are intellectually And for those of us who are shy, remem-
tive — view of security and defense of the honest, they will put aside the rhetoric and ber that this is the only way to assure Martha Cohen is an award-winning
United States. Still a Democrat, he spoke realize that the freedom to think freely and future generations the freedom to think producer and creative executive. She lives
at the 2004 Republican Convention, as did debate all ideas is very powerful and part and express themselves and not return in Fort Lee with her husband and son.
A
powerful mystery should haunt core belief and the actions of his students through increasingly critical might want to become sol-
us each year at this time of the may reflect a universal challenge inherent and jaundiced eyes, a world diers in the Israeli army? How
year, a mystery that strikes to in the task of Mesora, intergenerational in which the historical con- do we respond even to much
the core of the Pesach festival transmission. nection between the Jewish simpler requests — the desire,
with its overriding theme of “V’higadeta Perhaps Rabbi Akiva failed to teach his people and their homeland for example, for “shana bet,” a
l’vincha” — “And you shall teach your child.” students the central value of his worldview comes under daily attack. second year of study, in Israel
Consider the following two talmudic precisely because he considered that value In our effort to convey after high school?
assertions: to be self-evident. critical ideas and principles Don’t get me wrong. As the
• Rabbi Akiva declared: “‘Vahavata We often make the mistake of assuming to future generations, we parent of five children and
l’re’acha komocha” — “Love your neighbor that just because something is vital to us can make no assumptions Rabbi their wonderful spouses (and,
as yourself. This is the great principle of the automatically it will be important to our of prior knowledge, feeling, Shmuel thank God, the grandfather of
Torah.” children. We feel that the ideas and beliefs and commitment. We must Goldin many more), I deeply under-
• Rabbi Akiva had 12,000 pairs of stu- lying at the heart of our worldview are so consciously and actively stand the desire to keep our
dents. All of them died in one period, obvious they need not be openly stated and teach each and every one of children close and safe. I also
between Pesach and Shavuot –the Omer taught. the ideas and principles we feel important understand that the decision to make aliyah
period — “because they failed to treat each Nothing could be further from the truth. through open discussion and deed. and the ability to build a successful life in
other with respect...” Our children grow up in worlds differ- When it comes to Zionism in the diaspora, Israel involve many factors at any age. But
How can it be that one of our greatest ent from our own, and within those worlds however, we must admit that the problem we need to ask ourselves what messages we
sages apparently failed to impart his core they form their own personal convictions. runs much deeper. In this arena, even when are or are not communicating both in word
belief to his students? Had Rabbi Akiva’s stu- The basic foundations that we consider cen- we are successful in communicating central and in action. Are we implicitly declaring
dents perished as a result of any other sin, tral to our lives are not automatically givens beliefs to our children, our messages often that our Zionism stops at the door of real
the tragedy might have been comprehensi- within theirs. are inconsistent and contradictory. We pro- commitment and self-sacrifice?
ble. But to transgress the very precept that While I now live in Israel, allow me to fess a deep connection to the State of Israel, As we approach the holiday of Pesach,
served as the core of their mentor’s beliefs cite an example from my many years of yet we remain unwilling to carry that con- with its overarching emphasis upon the
and practices? How can it be? experience as a diaspora Jew, rabbi, and nection to its logical conclusions. conveying of critical ideas and principles
Perhaps the issue is one of chronol- educator. The deep connection that Jews We send our children to schools where to future generations, we would do well to
ogy. We do not know when Rabbi Akiva of my generation feel towards the State of they learn that Israel is the true home of the explore the current character of our own
determined the centrality of the mitzva of Israel will not develop automatically in the Jewish nation. We define ourselves as Zion- communication to our children. Are we
V’ahavta. Perhaps he reached this realiza- hearts of our progeny, who are more tem- ists and bemoan the anti-Israel bias from clearly saying what we want to say, and,
tion only in retrospect, as a result of the porally and emotionally removed than we countries around the world. We involve when we say it, are our messages both com-
tragic loss of his students. Perhaps it is pre- are from the creation of the State. The sign- ourselves in continuing political action plete and consistent? By confronting these
cisely their deaths that led their mentor to posts of our life journey and the journeys on behalf of the Jewish state and express questions, on the holiday of questions, we
recognize the emptiness of Torah obser- of our parents — the Holocaust, the birth deep admiration for the soldiers of the IDF, will come closer to a true confrontation
vance absent a foundation of interpersonal of the State of Israel, the War of Indepen- bravely guarding the borders of our land. with the character and strength of our own
respect. dence, the Six-Day War, the Yom Kippur And yet, what is too often our response beliefs and commitments, as well.
I would like to think, however, that our War, Entebbe, the dramatic aliyot from when our children decide to practice what
tradition is referencing an entirely differ- Yemen, Ethiopia, Russia, and more — are we have preached? How do we react when Rabbi Shmuel Goldin, rabbi emeritus of
ent life lesson through this tragedy, a lesson not the signposts of theirs. Our children live a son or daughter expresses a desire to Congregation Ahavat Torah in Englewood,
of overarching significance for us all. The in a world where Israel always has existed, explore the possibility of living in Israel? recently made aliyah and now works with
stark inconsistency between Rabbi Akiva’s a world in which the Jewish state is viewed What is our reply when they suggest they Nefesh b’Nefesh on Israel education.
donating all the proceeds. Vivienne’s first and they now do in freedom, with smiles on for them.”
Speaks publication is a children’s picture book about their faces, what they used to do in misery, “When your child asks you in the time
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her journey in helping others. The title says under threat of beatings and death. One freed to come, saying: ‘What are all the testimo-
dozens more children and helped build a it all: “When Life Gives You Lemons, Change woman declares: “Having our own brick kiln nies and the statutes and the ordinances,
school for them. Go to www.btcte.org to the World.” This year, I gave that book as an makes us happy. And if more freed people which Adonai our God commanded you?’”
learn more.) afikomen prize to the youngest students in work here, I’ll be even happier.” (Deut. 6:20), by all means give the full bibli-
A 9-year-old named Vivienne Harr saw a my Hebrew school. I look forward to being After screening the film, I asked the chil- cal answer. Add the wisdom of the Hagga-
photograph of two child slaves at a quarry, amazed at what they, too, can accomplish. dren: “What connections do you see between dah and all the commentaries you read and
carrying enormous slabs of rock on their About a month ago, I served as a scholar- this film and Passover?” Their replies were invent. “The more you elaborate on the Pass-
backs down a steep hill. She noticed that in-residence at Kehilla Synagogue in North varied: “They were slaves, just like us.” “They over story, of course this is to be praised.” But
they wore torn clothes and ill-fitting shoes, Carolina and spoke to Hebrew school stu- were whipped and they cried.” “We became before the kids get too tired, bored, or intimi-
and that they were holding hands. Vivienne dents about “Modern Slavery and Our Jewish free, and so did they.” “They are able to be dated, take a breath. Pause. Ask what may be
saw their humanity and wanted them to be Problem.” I showed a 4-minute film, available happy now that they are free.” One adult, an one of the most important questions that the
able to play. She told her parents, “Compas- on Youtube, called Building Freedom Brick elder imparting an important detail of history, elder generation can direct to children: “So,
sion without action is not compassion.” By Brick. It features a community of peo- added, “They made bricks as slaves, and we what do you think?”
Vivienne decided to run a lemonade stand ple in Kukdaha, India, who were enslaved, did, too.” The children gasped in recognition. In fact, don’t wait to ask. Start now, with
to raise money for the cause of child slaves. under brutal and violent conditions, to make Pharaoh forced us to make bricks. It is mind- what is at hand. Share this column with a
The story might have ended there, with a bricks. They were terrorized and didn’t see boggling that the work our people did as child or teen and follow where they lead.
small donation to a worthy cause, except a way out until field workers from Free The slaves in the 13th century BCE is still imposed
that Vivienne ran that lemonade stand every Slaves found them, advocated for them, and on human beings in the 21st century CE. Debra Orenstein is rabbi of Congregation B’nai
day, rain or shine, for an entire year. Adults supported them in breaking free. As their Then a young man named Asa spoke up Israel in Emerson and founder of the Passover
were inspired. She got press coverage. She story unfolds on screen, we see them mak- and changed my view of a film that I had Project, which provides resources to Jews
gave a TED talk and attended the Global ing bricks. It’s hard labor, under a brutally hot watched at least half a dozen times. “Moses and Jewish institutions about the mitzvah of
Forum. Within months, she raised more than sun. Gradually, we realize that they are mak- was an outsider,” he said. “We needed some- freeing captives and ending slavery. You can
$100,000. Later, she bottled her Fair Trade ing those bricks of their own free will. Free one to come from the outside to help us download Passover Project materials for your
Make-a-Stand Lemon-aid and sold it in stores, the Slaves helped them buy their own kiln, become free. Now we have to be the Moses Seder at www.FreeTheSlaves.net.
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mong Sephardic Those who maintain that Lazar speaks the truth and Yet the welcome absence of anti-Semitism as an
Jews of my grand- those who argue that he is compelled to say such things organizing principle of Russia’s present regime does
mother’s genera- are, paradoxically, both correct. Perhaps the most impor- not mean that the country itself should be regarded as
tion, there was a tant task of a Jewish leader in a country like Russia—with more trustworthy or reasonable on the international
popular, if unproven, belief its authoritarian and violently anti-Semitic traditions—is to stage. The incoming U.S. national security advisor, John
that Gen. Francisco Franco— ensure that the existence of a secure, vibrant Jewish com- Bolton, explained the challenge well in a television
the military dictator who ruled munity remains an important national interest, as Putin interview discussing Russia’s use of a chemical weapons
Spain from 1939 until his death evidently believes it to be. agent in the attempted assassination of a former KGB
in 1975—was of Jewish parent- Yet Putin’s cultivation of warm relations with Russia’s officer, Sergei Skripal, and his daughter, Yulia, in the
age, and that this explained Ben Cohen Jews, along with his regime’s respectful relations with the United Kingdom. The violation of British sovereignty for
why he granted refuge to sev- State of Israel, serve as a reminder that the transnational the purposes of assassination, Bolton said, was part of a
eral thousand Jews who were ties that bind the Jewish people aren’t immune from the larger pattern of aggression that also included Russia’s
fleeing the Nazis. pressures of geopolitics. A century ago, that reality mani- tactical embrace of certain international agreements,
I’ve heard tales of a similar belief about Russia’s pres- fested on the battlefield, with more than 500,000 Jewish like the 2015 Iran nuclear deal, as a cover for its broader
ent republican tsar, Vladimir Putin, along with a similar soldiers serving in the ranks of rival national armies dur- ambitions. Any arrangement that rested on the faith
explanation that his largely benevolent attitude toward ing World War I. These days, the stakes are lower (or we at that Putin’s regime—or other authoritarian regimes—
the more than 1 million Jews under his rule stems from his least believe they are), but the fact remains that the Vladi- would honor their commitments to an agreement was
supposedly Jewish ancestry. mir Putin lionized by Rabbi Lazar is the same Vladimir “doomed to failure,” Bolton argued.
In an interview this week with the Jerusalem Post, Rus- Putin who is regarded by most Jews outside of Russia as The basic insight that dictators cannot be trusted has
sia’s Chief Rabbi Berel Lazar didn’t go as far as to claim a transparently nasty threat to the democracies in which been out of fashion in the White House for more than a
Putin for the Jewish people, but he did laud him as the they live as free citizens. decade. Now that it apparently has returned, it remains
first leader in Russia’s long history “to say that Jews had Putin certainly is a historical oddity. He is a ruthless to be seen whether its application in the case of Russia
the same rights as anyone else.” The rabbi also related dictator with philo-Semitic leanings, who nonetheless is will become a point tension or harmony in the relation-
the story of an elderly Jewish woman who told him that sophisticated enough to grasp the crucial political role ship between Bolton and President Donald Trump.
Putin’s attendance at a synagogue dedication left her feel- that anti-Semitism has played—and still may play—in Rus- In the meantime, what is certain is that Russia will
ing that she could now hold her head up after a lifetime sia’s national development. continue its efforts to confound Western public opinion,
of looking down. But there is a more immediate, overriding point: for the including, when it makes sense to do so, accounts of the
Lazar’s comments were situated in a broader defense of time being, none of this history really matters. rekindling of Jewish life in a country unfairly excori-
Putin against the charge of anti-Semitism, the product of The big difference between now and the Cold War ated by the West for its alleged intolerance. Such a story
a recent NBC interview in which the Russian leader sug- is that Russian Jews no longer are the hostages of their doubtless would be a magnificent example of how a ker-
gested that ethnic minorities with Russian citizenship—he own national authorities, even if Putin’s regime increas- nel of truth can be spun into a web of falsehoods—a craft
named “Jews,” “Tatars,” and “Ukrainians” specifically— ingly recalls the Soviet Union in other ways. Nor is the at which Russians excelled throughout the course of the
were responsible for Moscow’s interference in the 2016 struggle against “international Zionism” an obsessive Putin regime—but none of us should be fooled. JNS.ORG
U.S. presidential election. But while Jewish leaders in the propaganda theme of Putin’s Russia, as it was under the
United States and Europe condemned Putin’s apparent Communist Party. Ben Cohen writes a weekly column on Jewish affairs and
invocation of shadowy Jewish power, Lazar countered that There are few signs that Putin is pursuing policies Middle Eastern politics. His work has been published in
Putin was implacably opposed to anti-Semitism, having abroad that would lead him to turn on the Jews of Commentary, the New York Post, Haaretz, the Wall Street
presided over an unprecedented rebirth of Jewish identity Russia, as happened more than once under his Soviet Journal, and many other publications.
and community in Russia over the last two decades. predecessors.
Letters
Valor in Le Chambon colleague of one of the undersigned at Wes- all segments of the disparate, wider Engle- more than lip service to our mission of “tik-
We were very pleased that in profiling the leyan.) What set the villagers apart was the wood community, we could not help but kun olam,” we should take advantage of
young actor Timothée Chalamet in his lead cowardice and anti-Semitism of many of their notice that our own insular Orthodox Jewish every opportunity to engage with our fel-
anecdote in Noshes on March 23, Nate Bloom countrymen and women, typified by the community was grossly underrepresented. low community members in furthering this
devoted some well-deserved attention to the Vichy collaborationist wartime government. One of the Orthodox shuls, Kesher, did worthy cause.
French Protestant village of Chalamet’s pater- Florette R. Koffler, Ph.D., Richard Koffler, make a strong showing, but we were sad- Michael K. Eidman, Englewood
nal grandparents, Le Chambon in south cen- Ph.D., Teaneck dened to see neither members nor leaders
tral France. That village shielded and rescued from the other established Orthodox shuls. Exodus and comets
some more than 5,000 Jewish refugees dur- Why weren’t you at the march? This lack of participation in this particular Regarding Rabbi Engelmayer’s article titled
ing the German occupation of France during On Saturday, March 24, my wife and I partic- event was a mistake because there are many “The Exodus: Debunking the debunkers”
the Second World War. Not much is known ipated in Englewood’s March For Our Lives, community-wide events where it is difficult (March 23) there’s a book by Immanuel
in this country today about Le Chambon and joining hundreds of communities through- for us to fully engage with the community Velikovsky that attempts to corroborate the
its collective courage, which surely deserves out the country and even throughout the due to our religious codes, whether it be plagues listed in the Torah.
your readers’ attention and gratitude. world in a broad-spectrum show of support kashrut, Shabbat, yom tov, etc. I believe that Written in the 1960s, “Worlds in Collision”
Anyone who wants to learn more should for students who were affected by the Park- our low turnout was caused, in large part, tells of other societies that have recorded
turn to an exemplary book about it by the late land murders and in support of gun control. by the failure of the local shuls and religious events that are comparable to those recorded
Professor Philip P. Hallie of Wesleyan Univer- As a member of the local Orthodox com- leadership to publicize or advocate on behalf in Exodus. He posits that a comet passed near
sity, “Lest Innocent Blood Be Shed: The Story munity, I was pleased to see that the march of this event, since a surprisingly low number earth at the time the Jews left Egypt causing
of the Village of Le Chambon, and How Good- had been scheduled to start at 12:30 p.m., of our Orthodox community members knew the miraculous events to occur at the most
ness Happened There,” published by Harper so that it would not impinge upon my morn- that it was taking place. propitious moments. It was fascinating read-
and Row in 1979 and still in print. (Full dis- ing at shul, and was taking place within easy Responsible and sane gun ownership ing when I came across the book about 50
closure: Hallie, the author of several nar- walking distance. ought to be the concern of every commu- years ago, and it is worth examining today.
rative studies of ethics, was a distinguished Although the march was well attended by nity. As committed Jews, if we wish to pay Kenneth Bander, Teaneck
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Video crews and newspaper report- Sayer, and Bruce Pollack from the
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Join Rockland Jewish Family Service on May 6 at 5 p.m. for a lavish cocktail Channel 1, the local Patch news service, vice president of supermarket sales for
hour and dessert tasting honoring Dr. Nancy Goldman, Cantor Barry Kanarek, and Journal News were on hand. Those KAYCO, the nation’s largest kosher food
and Dr. Steve and Judy Levy, at Congregation Shaarey Israel. For information, present were asked to share how lim- distributor, and Laurent Szanto, the
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I
love the Passover Haggadah. Each all around the world and called Haggadah for the Lib- reference to the three leaders: Moses, Aha-
time I find a new edition, I get giddy the Haggadah reflects the erated Lamb. It is a vegetar- ron and Miriam: “…And God brought us
with excitement. I am proud of my environment that we each ian Haggadah that celebrates forth out of Egypt, with joy and singing, and
diverse collection of Haggadot (plural live in. Even our children compassion for all creatures. guided them in the wilderness, as a Shep-
of Haggadah), gathered from different eras have their own Haggadot. Published in 1988, in both herd cares for his flock.”
and from different parts of the world. For Some are accompanied by Hebrew and English, it has no However, given all of these different ver-
example, I have the simple Hebrew Yeynot toys, which stand for the mention of a lamb shank! sions of the Haggadah, how do we deter-
Karmel Haggadah, a very thin, unimpres- ten plagues or the little baby Nanette Stahl from Yale mine how old it really is as a liturgical guide
sive, wine stained Israeli Haggadah (from Moses in the bulrushes. University summarizes the at Passover? Various opinions exist, but
the 1960s), which served my ultra-secular One of the strangest Hagga- Rabbi/Cantor role of the Haggadah: “The the most widely accepted earliest histori-
family in Israel for four decades. I also have dot was given to me as a gift. It Meeka Haggadah is a timeless book; cal reference comes from the 10th century,
the incredibly beautifully illustrated Hagga- is the Tzahal (IDF) Haggadah, Simerly it has given voice to the hopes indicating that the Haggadah was part of a
dah created by the great Polish Jewish artist, published in the 1970s. It con- Temple Beth and dreams of Jews through- prayer book compiled by Rabbi Sa’adiah
Tikvah, Wayne,
Arthur Szyk, first published in the 1930s and tains some of the traditional Reform
out the generations. And from ben Yosef Gaon (c. 892-942 CE). Two early
reissued in 2008. references to the Biblical story medieval times to the pres- known Haggadot, as separate units from
I have developed a special fondness for related in the Book of Exodus ent, artists have expressed the Siddur, were produced in 14th century
Passover Haggadot because they are an of the Israelites’ redemption from slavery these hopes and dreams in the magnificent Spain: The Illuminated Golden Haggadah,
unending source of educational materi- to freedom in Egypt. However, the Biblical illuminations they created. Text and image in the British Library in London; and the
als. Each Haggadah reflects the tradition, narrative is combined with photographs of maintain an ongoing dialogue… Many art- Sarajevo Haggadah, in the National Museum
struggles, history, and local color of its Israeli soldiers in tanks, carrying weapons, ists have specific agendas, be they religious, of Bosnia in Sarajevo.
audience as well as the emotional tenor of expressing the current stories of liberation political, or social. The lack of women in Another intriguing and well known Hag-
the Jewish people at that time, wherever of our strong and brave Israeli soldiers. the Haggadah, for example, has become an gadah is the Birds’ Head Haggadah, the
they lived geographically. One of my most precious Haggadot is issue that many current artists address in oldest surviving Ashkenazi (German, c.
Throughout the generations, the Hagga- called Agada De Pesah, published in 1934 their illustrations.” 1300) illuminated manuscript, currently
dah has given expression to creative Jewish in Istanbul, which is old and falling apart. It Neither Miriam, nor her brothers Aha- in the Israel Museum, Jerusalem. Its name
liturgy and is perhaps the most popular Jew- belonged to my grandparents, Regina Nassi ron and Moses, are mentioned in the tradi- is derived from the birdlike human figures
ish literary work. Everyone can find their and Avraham Chasid Z”L, Sephardic Jews tional Haggadah, but their roles are integral illustrated in the manuscript’s margins,
own stories reflected in the Haggadah. Each whose families originated from Spain and to and intertwined in the Passover story. exemplifying the Biblical prohibition against
year we are invited to relate to the ancient were exiled to Turkey in the 1400s. When Thus, in recent years, combined within the creating graven images.
story of redemption from exile, from both my grandparents left Turkey to escape the traditional text, particularly for progres- In summary, no one knows exactly who
our collective and personal stories of lib- Nazis in the early 1940s, they packed two sive Jewish communities, editors have been wrote the first Haggadah based on the
eration. We also have the freedom to add Ladino Haggadot, among the few posses- inserting additional stories to represent story in our holy scriptures. The Haggadah
our stories to a traditional Haggadah or to sions they carried with them when they fled our Biblical leaders, especially the role of is ageless and timeless; it is an evolving
develop our own version to express them. to Palestine. (Ladino is the Sephardic lan- women in the story. For example, the Story story that reflects our individual, as well
No single Haggadah represents all of guage that combines Hebrew and Spanish.) of the Oppression, in the CCAR Revised Edi- as collective experiences, as a people and
our people, because Jews are scattered Another unique Haggadah that I have is tion of The New Union Haggadah contains as God’s holy vessels.
Tests
I
cannot seem to recall my first test
in school. But I can recall how
much I enjoyed the tuna fish sand-
wich on white bread that they
served in the lunch room — why is that
not surprising? Tests were never my
thing. I vaguely remember doing very
poorly on several Hebrew subject tests
in elementary school. I remember that
I would do well on vocabulary tests and
my friend Michelle, sitting next to me,
would do better on spelling tests. Or it were going to have to take the SATs. So,
could have been vice versa. I am not instead of going the really expensive pri-
even sure what day of the week it is. vate tutor route, we did some research
Sophomore year of high school into Huntington Learning Center. And
was not a stellar one for me in the test we decided that is where we were going
department. Chemistry, French, and to send our precious angels to begin
geometry … oh my! I often their ascent into SAT star-
see my math teacher from dom. Who am I kidding,
that year around town and we are still their parents,
every time I do, I shudder and we would be happy
with fear. When each of my with anything over 1,000.
boys successfully made it Aim high kids. Aim high.
through tenth grade with- Son #1 and Son #2 each
out the threat of summer were given almost a year
school looming over their to prepare, and both of
heads (do they still have them did us proud. They
summer school?) I thought Banji both got into the college
I was safe as a parent. Ha Ganchrow of their choice — some Across Down
ha, joke is on me…you of you might have heard 1. Bank robbery 1. “Lishana ___ B’Yerushalayim”
6. Ivory product 2. The middle of Eilat and Holon?
are never safe as a parent of it — it is the Harvard of
10. Locales with gyms and Torah classes; 3. Touch device
because something is always going to Washington Heights, better known as Abbr. 4. O.K. Corral event
come up. But that is for another time. Yeshiva University. A respectable insti- 14. Not omega 5. Just a bit
In any event, this brings me to the tution, where Husband #1 attended, and 15. Guitar plug-ins 6. Judge who anointed Saul
SATs. I rarely mention first and last I attended the girls school, better known 16. Vera that soothes 7. Barbra’s “Funny Girl” co-star Sharif
17. Alcoholic drink for the First Plague? 8. Mth. for Seders, often
names in my column, but if it wasn’t for as Stern College for Women and Others.
19. The Settlers of Catan, e.g. 9. Eager to proceed, slangily
Andrew Treitel (who now lives in Israel The “others” are yet to be determined. 20. “___ I” (“Ditto”) 10. Black-spotted cat
and most likely does not read this or Anyway, the past summer ends, and son 21. Sharer’s word 11. Chowder no-no, for the kosher keeper
even knows that I have a column) I never #3 informs us that he wants to take the 22. Challah leftovers? 12. Honey structure
would have gotten over 200 on the math ACTs. Sure! Why not! We will look into 24. “Rent” actor Diggs 13. Has a prophecy
26. Where the Mets once played 18. Stringed toys
portion of the SATs. (And 200 is the it! And that is where this story goes ter-
27. Harry Potter treat for the Second 23. Court official, for short
score you would get for correctly writing ribly awry. Plague? 25. Makes like Scarlett Johansson
your name on the exam.) Poor Andrew. I Poor son #3. We really dropped the 33. Some lake fish 26. “Rugrats” dad and “The Simpsons”
honestly felt bad for him, because math ball with that one. His brothers had 34. It must be chewed for kosher status disco dude
just isn’t my thing. Though he probably at least six months to study — and we 35. Target of #neveragain 27. Emulate Mel Torme
36. Kimmel and Corden, e.g. 28. ___ Mubarak, president of Egypt
made enough money off of my inability signed up our sweet little baby boy five
37. Ararat and Everest, briefly starting in 1981
to do simple multiplication to buy a car. weeks before the test. Bad parents, very 38. White shirt woe 29. Daniel Day-Lewis, e.g.
Or a house. Or both. But he achieved the bad parents. But just before you start 40. Many many years 30. Broadcasting live
impossible, and I received a respectable to feel too badly for our inadequately 41. It’s usually taken before chem. 31. Cracks a smile
600 on the math section. prepared genius — the kid does have 42. Paddling 32. Made like a cantor
43. Kid snacks for the Fourth Plague? 33. “Take ___ Train” (jazz classic)
When you have kids, you never his own car. You just can’t have every-
47. 12 and 13 are important ones for 37. Karaoke gear, for short
know what they are going to be like. thing. Which is a life lesson that applies Jewish youths 38. Japanese rice wine (var.)
For example, I always thought I would beyond having parents who never would 48. CBS lead-in to “Los Angeles” or “New 39. Ignore the “Keep Out” sign
have chubby kids. And, miraculously, I have become parents if they had to take Orleans” 41. Like some Scotch
do not. But will they be smart? Will they a test to do so. 49. District 42. Happen
52. 2002 NBA Rookie of the Year Gasol 44. “... falls ___ on the plain”
inherit my terrible math skills? My ter- Truth is, when son #3 leaves for his
53. ___over 45. Way back when
rible study skills? My temper? My sar- year in a bubble, also known as his year 57. Raichel who sings “Mi’Ma’amakim” 46. Darth Vader, once
casm? My oversensitivity? You never in Israel, I will have an empty nest. Just 58. Coffee brews for the Ninth Plague? 49. Copies digitally
know — but as time goes on, it becomes me and husband #1….perhaps I am 61. Alternative to liquid medicine 50. Cut, for Spielberg
more apparent who has been blessed sabotaging his chance of doing well so 62. “The Time Machine” people 51. Hearty party
63. “Have ___” (“Get comfy”) 52. Boat bow
with what. My boys are thin AND they he will never leave the nest. And is that
64. Lisa Loeb’s #1 hit 54. On a boat
are not afraid of math. Truly miraculous. really so wrong??? 65. 1961 novel by Elie Wiesel 55. Daniel Day-Lewis
Unfortunately, the sarcasm has trickled 66. Former Russian rulers 56. Retired fast fliers: Abbr.
down, but that was inevitable. Their love Banji Ganchrow of Teaneck knows that it 59. ___ mode
of minyan has nothing to do with me, is wrong. But she does not know what life 60. Granola morsel
The solution to last week’s puzzle is
but you can’t win them all. will be like without a table full of empty on page 63.
In any event, when sons #1 and #2 water bottles, Jolly Rancher wrappers,
began eleventh grade, we knew they and banana peels…
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ight hours long, shown in two
parts on different days, the
National Theatre production
of Tony Kushner’s multi-award-
winning play “Angels in America” is one of
the most extraordinary theatrical experi-
ences I’ve ever had.
Brilliantly directed and staged by Mari-
anne Elliott, the play manages to be thrill-
ing and moving, challenging and funny,
surreal and realistic, all at the same time.
First produced in the midst of the AIDS cri-
sis, at a time when many gay people were
hidden deep in the closet, the play feels as
contemporary today as it did in the early
1990s, even though the disease is now man-
aged reliably and gay people find wide- 1204-Beth-Malone-as-Angel-
spread acceptance in culture and society. Alternate-in-AIA-_Perestroi-
Kushner’s amalgam of politics, religion,
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psychology, sex, and American history still
provokes and reveals and probes issues that genburg.jpg
continue to confound us.
The play also provides great, juicy roles
for actors, and this production boasts a
ton of them. Andrew Garfield as Prior,
Nathan Lane as Roy Cohn, Lee Pace as
Joe, Denise Gough as Harper, James McAr-
dle as Louis — all are marvelous. Nine
actors play many parts; they must be in
great physical shape to get through the
three-hour-plus performances. Beth Malone and Andrew Garfield PHOTOS BY BRINKHOFF/MÖGENBURG
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FROM PAGE 8 was him — and so after the meal some friends and I went Selma B. Dubnick, 95, of Old Tappan, died March 24. She
and often he would maintain those relationships. He’d to hear him. He was honest and interesting and he gave earned a bachelor’s degree and master’s at Kean College
answer immediately with in-depth, closely reasoned examples of halacha that he found challenging. He was of New Jersey (Kean University) where she was director of
emails. Sometimes those correspondences would very approachable. I spoke to him, and he was super graduate studies. She was a co-founder of the Mid-Bergen
lead to in-person meetings; at other times a friendship friendly. And he came back the next year, and we made Community Mental Health Center in Paramus (CarePlus NJ),
would develop based only on email. Often, Tony’s cor- sure to stay and hear him. And then we became close.” a long-time board member of the CarePlus Foundation, and
respondents would plan to meet him, assuming that Soon, when Mr. Friedman had some issues that he an active member of Temple Emanuel in Woodcliff Lake.
there would be enough time, sometime in the future, wanted to discuss, he realized that of all the roshei Predeceased by her husband, Bernard, in 2002; she is
only to learn that time had run out. yeshiva he knew, Rabbi Glickman was the most survived by children, Ruth Levy, Joshua Dubnick, Deborah
Elanit Z. Rothschild Jakabovics lives in Washington, approachable, and the one whose answers were Levy, and Jeffrey Dubnick; and grandchildren, Micah,
D.C., where she is president of Kesher Israel, a promi- most likely to provide the kind of support he needed. Gabriel and Luka.
nent Orthodox congregation. “Rabbi Glickman and I “An enormous strength of Rabbi Glickman’s was how Donations can be sent to the Dubnick annual scholarship
never met in person,” Ms. Jakabovics said. But when he listened to you, and in terms of his experience, for single mothers with dependent children at the Kean
her shul hit the news — its rabbi is now imprisoned for his exposure to the world, and he talked about his University Foundation, or the Dubnick scholarship at
spying on women in the mikvah — “he sent an email to own struggles.” the CarePlus Foundation. Arrangements were by Robert
Kesher, and it was very heartening. It was very sweet The two developed a close relationship; mainly Schoem’s Menorah Chapel, Paramus.
of him to send it. they’d email, but Mr. Friedman also went to his house.
“He wrote that someone had sent him the text of “I felt very close to him,” he said. “He was so generous. Marianne Elling
the speech that I gave at the shul and he thought it was He gave his time, his attention.” He also was generous Marianne “Mimi” Elling, 97, of Pompton Plains, formerly of
inspirational. So I looked him up — I didn’t know who financially, treating students to dinners, always pick- Ridgewood, died March 26.
he was at the time — and I saw that he had a presence ing up the check. “He was worldly; he had a mixture Born in Vienna, she immigrated to the U.S. in 1939.
on Facebook. And I started following him. I quickly of the knowledge from his Torah background and his Predeceased by her husband of 46 years, Alfred, she is
became a fan because of what he wrote and the types scholarship background.” And because his career was survived by children, Vivian Dorman (Daniel), George
of discussions he had, the way he interacted with outside the Jewish world, Rabbi Glickman “knew what (Ferne), and Diane Winter (Guyler); and grandchildren,
people. And the fact that he was a rosh yeshiva and it meant” when there was a Jewish holiday coming, Jessica (Garth), Gabriel ( Jennifer), Michael, Lauren, Rachel
still he had an online presence, and he was engaging and no one else understood the complications of that ( John), Ashley, Alyssa (Ryan), and Jeremy.
with people in very substantive conversations, and he day in the non-Jewish world. They grew so close that Contributions can be made to the U.S. Holocaust
always tried to find the nuance. Rabbi Glickman “gave one of the sheva brachot at my Memorial Museum, Washington, D.C. Arrangements were
“Everything isn’t all black and white. It’s easy to say wedding,” Mr. Friedman said. by Gutterman and Musicant Jewish Funeral Directors,
that, but when you are having a conversation that is Mr. Friedman talked with awe about the amount of Hackensack.
getting heated, and people on the right and the left time that Rabbi Glickman gave to tutoring students,
are screaming at each other, it’s not so easy. But you sometimes as part of a program, sometimes outside Sidney Feldman
couldn’t peg him as left or right. formal frameworks. He’d recognize talent and need Sidney Feldman, 97, of New York City, died March 26.
“You couldn’t paint him in a box. It always seemed and help, he said. He was a retired writer for the New York Times and a
like he was trying to engage, instead of living in an As a way to pass on some of Rabbi Glickman’s wisdom, member of the Workmens Circle Branch in Jersey City.
ivory tower. He wasn’t living in an ivory tower.” Mr. Friedman has put together a 182-page collection of He is survived by his wife, Frieda, née Klempner; children,
Ms. Jakabovics was struck by Rabbi Glickman’s some of his online posts. It’s called “His Torah U’Madda Jonathan of Sweden and Rachel of New York City; siblings,
openness and kindness, as well as by his intellect and Life, In All Its Worth,” and it begins with the blurb that Matthew of Maryland and Fay Julis of New York; and two
breadth of knowledge. “There are I would say hun- appeared by his posts. “Very responsive to message,” it grandchildren.
dreds of people who have never met him but who says. (And he was. Breathtakingly responsive.) Arrangements were by Eden Memorial Chapel, Fort Lee.
had interacted with him online or by email or over Tikvah Wiener of Teaneck, an educator who is
the phone, and these people are in intense mourning about to open the Ideas School, an Orthodox high George Kroll
over the fact that he is gone,” she said. school that will meet at the Kaplen JCC on the Pali- George L. Kroll, 93, of Wayne, died March 23.
Malka Zeiger-Simkovich is the chair of Jewish studies sades in Tenafly, also knew Rabbi Glickman. “He has After graduating Passaic High School in 1942, he enlisted
at Catholic Theological Union in Chicago. Like Ms. Jak- been a mentor, a colleague, a friend, a real rebbe,” she in the U.S. Army. In 1944 he flew 50 combat missions in the
abovics, she knew Rabbi Glickman only electronically, said. “He got great satisfaction from connecting peo- 15th Air Force European Theater based in Italy and earned
but the bond between them was strong. “He took the ple in a genuine way.” the Air Medal-Three Oak Leaf Clusters, along with two
initiative to get in touch with me regularly in response He was funny, too, she added. “He had a real, genu- distinguished citations for outstanding performance against
to my articles, and he took a real interest in my work,” ine curiosity and openness, and he was a real lifelong the enemy. He attended Rutgers and Fairleigh Dickinson
she said. “And I know that I was just one of the schol- learner. He always was learning. He had a childlike universities and was the former publisher and editor of the
ars he reached out to. I was just one of the many peo- wonder about learning.” original Clifton Journal and Dateline Journal. He was also a
ple he took the initiative to forge a relationship with.” Tony Glickman had deep feelings about politics, and sales rep for the Jewish Standard for many years.
Dr. Zeiger-Simkovich is Orthodox, but she works in was about to reenter that fray, his wife and daughter He is survived by his wife of more than 50 years, Lorraine;
a Catholic institution, and “a lot of people won’t bring said. “My parents shared a sense of justice,” Dalia children, Annlyn of Boca Raton, Fla., David (Robin) of Glen
me in to speak because I work with Catholics every said. “They always wanted to advocate for the under- Rock, and Michael of Coral Springs, Fla.; grandchildren,
day,” she said. “He didn’t care. He lived on the mar- dog.” That could be on a personal level. YU students Lauren, Amanda, and Taylor Kroll, and David and Paige
gins, in an intentional way. He wanted that fluidity, reported that if they sat alone at a meal and Tony came Rind; nieces and nephews.
and I think that people appreciated that fluidity more into the dining room, he’d sit with them. “It hurt him Donations can be sent to the National World War II
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His relationship with her went beyond the purely continued. “One thing we — the family — always feel
professional. “My mother died very suddenly, and he very strongly is that we appreciate how much he Ira Samson
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ries he had of his own mother, who also died suddenly. There was never a doubt that we were first. We appre- He served in the Army Reserves. Before retiring, he was a
“He said that his mother used to read Proust to him, ciate the things that other people say about him, but printer at the Bergen Record.
and now he reads Proust to remember his mother. the six of us and our mother — he was our protector. Surviving are his wife, Maxine, née Lefkowitz; a son,
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was about what we actually can get done, ton D.C., she had been the victim of two sep- old — and so I don’t feel comfortable having we need to start listening,” she said. “I have
and about how we have to keep going,” he arate violent crimes within a seven-month a gun in my household.” found that people want all or nothing from
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In River Vale, Holly Schepisi told the audi- second crime, a carjacking, the criminal women legislators, and they have begun to “But if we want real change, if we want
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