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Single parents are those who raise children without the help of the other biological parent in the home. Single-parent families
are determined by the sex of the "primary carer," responsible for the children the majority of the time, and they can be either
mother-only or father-only families. There are various reasons for their formation, such as a divorce, separation, widowhood or
because the parents were never married. If single parenthood is a result of a separation or divorce, the non-custodian parent is
still entitled to spend time with the children and shares some part of the responsibility.
Until the mid-20th century, the main reason for a single-parent family was the death of a spouse, especially in the years of the
two World Wars. Single parenthood was not seen in western society as an acceptable "lifestyle choice." Unmarried women who
became pregnant would often be sent away from the family home in the latter stages of the pregnancy, and soon after birth the
child might be given up, into the care of a religious order or the local workhouse, possibly for adoption but more often to an
uncertain future.
In the second half of the 20th century, as divorce became more socially accepted, the number of single-parent families
increased. By the beginning of the 21st century, there was less of a social stigma attached to women who might choose to have
children and bring them up, without being married to or even living with the child's father.
Single parenthood can be a result of unforeseen circumstances such as death, child neglect or abuse, abandonment by one of
the biological parents, or unplanned pregnancy. The number of single-parent families reached its highest level in the 1980s and
then slightly declined in the next decade. Divorce rate in developed countries is higher than in developing countries; divorced or
separated mothers normally form the majority of single-parent families, followed by never-married women. Many children end
up living in a single-parent home after parents separate, but in case of remarriage, this is only a temporary situation after they
move into a two-parent family, with one biological parent and one step-parent.
The increase in the number of single mothers is a consequence of unplanned, accidental pregnancy or of the decision not to
marry. This number includes teenage mothers reluctant to marry and older women who delayed marriage because of career
opportunities. Non-marital childbearing is more common because of more employment opportunities for women and the
availability of welfare benefits that allow them to set up their own households.
Nevertheless, the number of father-only families increased significantly in the 1980s when social attitudes changed about the
role of the father in parenting. Traditionally, single-father families resulted from widowhood, desertion by the mother, or wives
refusing custody. The increase is also influenced by the efforts of fathers to get custody of their children. In divorce cases,
courts often issue legal rulings over which parent should have the children live with them. Mothers have most often been given
custody of their children, with fathers being given visiting rights. Fathers are more likely to obtain custody of the children when
they pay child support regularly and if the children are older and choose to live with the father. In most cases, the non-custodial
parent continues taking part in the rearing of the child.
Single-parent families face greater challenges and are at higher risk of poverty than married couples. Dependency on a single
income and the problems involved in arranging for regular childcare are the most obvious handicaps facing a single parent. The
education level, the age and occupation of the single parent also greatly affects the development of the child. According to
social scientists children of single parents are more likely to grow uncontrollable and delinquent due to the economic difficulties
and parental style. These children are disadvantaged and are twice as likely to drop out of school, or to themselves become
parents in their teens. Those risks result from less parental supervision and control, allowing children to abuse drugs and
alcohol and to be more sexually active, to join a gang or participate in crimes. Children raised by only one parent are more
likely to commit suicide and to divorce or stay unmarried in the future.
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Over the past 20 years single-parent families have become even more
and children. Today we see all sorts of single parent families: headed by
grandchildren.
stressful for the adult and the children. Members may unrealistically expect
that the family can function like a two-parent family, and may feel that
something is wrong when it can not. The single parent may feel
maintaining a job and keeping up with the bills and household chores. And
Single parent families deal with many other pressures and potential problem
relations.
The single parent can help family members face these difficulties by talking
with each other about their feelings and working together to tackle problems.
Support from friends, other family members and the church or synagogue
can help too. But if family members are still overwhelmed and having
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The Stress of Single Mothers and its Effect on Quality Child Care
Abstract
Research indicates that single mothers experience excessive stress and that the stress is a result of the need to
provide financially for the family concurrently with caring for the home in ways traditionally handled by both
men and women, acquiring new skills, and parenting. A review of the literature demonstrates that stress has a
direct impact on the child. However, results about its effect on the mothers ability to provide quality child care
were mixed. The purpose of this study was to determine whether single mothers experience stress and, if so,
whether or not the stress affects their ability to provide quality child care. Pursuant to this study, a survey
instrument that employed a six-question Likert-type scale was distributed to the single mothers of children
attending preschools in the Santa Clarita Valley as well as to students attending The Masters College. The
results of the study indicated that the single mothers in Santa Clarita Valley appear to successfully provide
adequate child care in spite of the stress they face, contrary to the perception of the students at The Masters
College.
Introduction
Single mothers juggle many responsibilities including financial provision, house keeping, and parenting (Rani,
2006). In addition, they lack a supportive spouse to turn to for counsel, cooperation, and comfort. The stress
in the mothers life and the way she deals with it also impacts her child. Current research suggests that
professional help is sought for mental health reasons by single-parent mothers two to three times more often
(Cairney, Boyle, Lipman, and Racine, 2004). Even the relatively privileged single mothers found it difficult to
manage (and got little support for) the traditional female tasks of cooking, cleaning, and caring for children
(Nelson, 2004, 1). Single mothers may be exposed to enormous stress due to the need to provide the
financial needs of the family concurrently with caring for the home including those responsibilities traditionally
assumed by men, acquiring new skills, and raising a child, all at the same time. This study investigated the
potential stress of single-mothers and its effect on their ability to provide child care.
Stress may also result from various social pressures. Most immediately, conflict with the childs father, in
addition to not having a supportive husband, is an ongoing reality for many single mothers. Studies suggest
that depressive symptoms of single mothers are associated with mother/nonresident-father relationship
(Jackson & Scheines, 2005). Sometimes, the father does not acknowledge his offspring, and they go to court;
many are freshly divorced and have a hostile relationship; yet others constantly fight over child support
(Tharps, 2005). Even seeking a new relationship with a man is a challenge for single mothers. There is guilt,
Tharps says, in even contemplating a social outing without the kids (p. 5). On the other hand, she may not
want a new relationship while people around her urge her to seek one.
Social pressure may also include those of general societal expectations. That is, the society expects single
mother families to be more susceptible to problems than are two-parent biological families (Lansford,
Ceballo, Abbey, & Stewart, 2001, p. 8). Halemans research showed that public discourses about single
motherhood are manifested in their daily lives through expectations based on family form, welfare
participation, and race (Haleman, 1998, Abstract). Mothers subject to this pressure potentially develop
feelings of inferiority, aggression, and restlessness due to their single status (Rani, 2006).
The greatest challenge of all may be economical. Sixty percent of the children living with their mothers are in
poverty (Hargreaves, 1991, p. 23), and many of these mothers are young and never-married without high
school education nor the expected parenting skills. Even a middle class single mother is confronted with
financial uncertainty due to divorce and/or a lack of child support from the childs father (Tharps, 2005). The
drastic decline in income upon divorce is displayed in the US Census Bureau research: In 1992, the median
family income for two-parent families was $42,064; for families with no father present it was only $17,221
(Sroufe, Cooper, & DeHart, p. 62). They are not even able to simply devote themselves to work and/or higher
education in order to increase earnings due to their responsibilities to attend to their children (Craig, 2005).
Effects of Stress
Single mothers experience more stressful life events than do married mothers (Rani, 2006, p. 3). Single
mothers are affected by all of the above stressors, in addition to the stress of normal life and parenting. Stress
can weaken the mothers immune system when CRH, a hormone that makes one more focused and ready to
spring into action, is over secreted (Hittner, 1998). Therefore a single mother who juggles many responsibilities
more readily falls sick, creating an additional strain. Unfailingly, a study of various family structures has found
that single mothers had somewhat lower well-being than did married mothers (Lansford, Ceballo, Abbey, &
Stewart, 2001, p. 8).
The mothers stress will also affect the child, both directly and indirectly. Studies reveal that parenting stress
leads to a stricter disciplinary style and less nurturing behaviors toward the child (Crnic & Greenberg, 1987).
Mothers who are dissatisfied with their employment status enjoy their children less, are less confident as
parents, and have more difficulty controlling their children (Sroufe, Cooper, & DeHart, 1996, p. 60). These
parental behaviors mediate stress into negative influence on the development of the child. Moreover, a recent
study shows that parenting stress has a direct impact, independent from parenting practices, on preschool
childrens social competence (Anthony, et al., 2005). The mothers stress is reflected in the childrens
loneliness, withdrawal, regression, and fear of loss of the remaining parent. Socially too they showed either
aggression or withdrawal symptoms (Rani, 2006, p.3).
Admittedly, single mothers face significant difficulty in providing quality child care for their children. Rani
(2006) found that a combination of parenting single handedly, financial tension, and strain of over load often
lead to neglect of children. Time poverty is the flipside of sole mothers employment (Craig, 2005, p. 522).
Craigs research was conducted in Australia and its applicability to the United States is unknown, but its results
are noteworthy. This study categorized a mothers time committed to child care as being either a primary
activity or secondary activity for the mother. No significant difference in time commitment was found between
married and single mothers in providing child care as a primary activity. However, as a secondary activity, not
requiring active involvement with the child but constricting the mother from certain tasks, single mothers were
found to commit more time to child care. These mothers compensated for the lack of time provided by a father
by cutting down both outside work and house work, and by spending time supervising the children while
engaging in other tasks (Craig, 2005). On the other hand, a study in India revealed conflicting results: The
[single] mothers did not have time to spend with children and faced problems in disciplining the children
(Rani, 2006, p. 8).
Additionally, the absence of a father aids in the difficulty of providing appropriate discipline. A fathers approach
to child rearing differs from that of a mother ( Hamilton, 1977 ) and seems to promote achievement
motivation. That may be why children raised apart from their fathers tend to exhibit lower academic
performance than those raised with their fathers (Swihart & Brigham, 1982, p. 62). Furthermore, a boy
models and identifies in his father more than in his mother. A father s involvement is invaluable in a girls life
also as it promotes discipline and sex role learning (Hamilton, 1977). It appears that the absence of the father
deprives children of numerous learning opportunities.
The single mother lives with the competing priorities of earning money and providing caring services to their
children (Craig, 2005). According to Tharps, the secret of being sane is reaching out for help (2005, p. 6).
For example, a rotation schedule with other neighborhood mothers frees up time for everyone (Calizaire,
2005). Sharing residence reduces the cost of living in addition to creating a family-like community looking after
each other and the children (Dickinson, 2001). Simply being able to share thoughts with someone else who is
in a similar situation can prove to be extremely helpful. Even if the woman is unable to find this within her
social realm, online sites and magazines can be a source of encouragement and connection with other single
mothers. Grandparents of the child, especially grandmothers who live nearby, have also played an important
role in the life of single mothers. It has been estimated that one-third of single mothers live in their parents
home at some point, the length of that stay averaging almost two years (Bianchi, 1995). Life is made easier by
the loving care and aged wisdom grandmas can provide as well as help with cooking, chauffeuring, and
pitching in with daily tasks (Miller, 1996).
Method
The purpose of this study was to determine the potential stress of single mothers and its effect on child care.
The following research questions were explored:
2. Does single mothers stress affect their provision of quality child care?
Statistical Procedures
STATPAK was employed to examine the data; the desired scale of measurement was ordinal. In the ordinal
scale of measurement, the data are described in a ranked or dated set of values (Joseph & Joseph, 1986). The
One Dimentional Chi-Square statistical test was utilized to analyze the results because it measures the variance
of nominal or ordinal data, the discrepancy between frequencies actually observed in the sample of subjects
measured, and frequencies expected according to the stated hypothesis. The 0.05 level of significance was
used to test the results of the study. Data retrieved from the demographic portion of the survey instrument
were reported in percentages and figures.
Results
The first sample group for this study consisted of single mothers of children attending St. Stephens Nursery,
Rise & Shine Preschool, and Santa Clarita Little People in March and April, 2006. Sixty-four copies of the survey
instrument were distributed; ten were returned, and ten were used in this study. This sample will be referred
to as group A in the following narrative. The second sample group consisted of students at The Masters College
who were in a night class or in Sweazy Lounge on April 18, 2006. Thirty copies of the survey instrument were
distributed; twenty-five were returned, and twenty-five were used in this study. This sample will be referred to
as group B in the following narrative. The data collected from the 35 subjects will be discussed in subsequent
sections, commencing with the reporting of the demographic findings. Table 1 summarizes the survey
responses.
Discussion
Within the stated purpose and findings of this study, the following conclusions appear warranted:
3. Single mothers stress does not appear to affect their provision of quality child care as often as it is
perceived.
Many single mothers were under stress and lacked the time to invest in their children. However, the majority of
single mothers in the Santa Clarita area seemed to provide adequate child care in spite of the stress they
constantly experience. The Masters College students are aware of the stress that accompanies being a single
mother. They also assumed a lack of quality child care in these families.
This study revealed that there was great variance in the quality of child care provided in each of the single
mother families, suggesting that there may be other factors that contribute to the inability of mothers to
provide quality child care. A constant theme appeared to be a lack of time. It is imperative that these women
identify individuals who will assist them in their responsibilities, thus potentially enabling them to spend more
time with their children.
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Overview
Academic Achievement
Having only one income earner in the home puts single parent households at risk for poverty, finds research compiled by the
University of Washington's West Coast Poverty Center. Living in poverty is stressful and can have many emotional effects on
children, including low self-esteem, increased anger and frustration and an increased risk for violent behavior. Besides financial
constraints, other emotional effects of growing up in a single parent household may include feelings of abandonment, sadness,
loneliness and difficulty socializing and connecting with others. Effects vary from child to child, however, and the individual
parenting style of the single parent is also a big influence on the childs development.
Positive Effects
Single parenting can have positive effects on children as well, depending on other factors such as personality types and
parenting techniques. According to a study at Cornell University, positive single parenting did not show any negative impact on
the social and educational development of the 12- and 13-year-olds participating in the study. In addition, children in single-
parent families may exhibit strong responsibility skills, as they are often called upon to help out more with family chores and
tasks. Children in single-parent families often form close bonds with their parent, as they are closely dependent on each other
throughout the childs life. Children from single-parent families may also form closer bonds with extended family members or
Overview
A report from the University of Florida Extension Office notes that one of
the major psychological effects of living in a single-parent family is a
greater sense of responsibility. Children tend to assume responsibilities at
home and learn to appreciate the sacrifices and effort made by the single
parent with whom they live. Kids may at times resent having to grow up a
little faster, which means it's especially important for their single parents to
make sure their children still enjoy some of the typical parts of childhood,
whether it's youth sports, summer camp, or the other fun parts of school and
friends.
A child who lives with one parent may find many things to resent about his
life. He may be angry with one or both parents for having to grow up in a
single-parent home, and blame one or both for being the cause of a single-
parent arrangement. He may also resent other kids who appear to have a
happier, more secure home life, and resent the lack of attention he receives
from his working parent. When these feelings start to appear, it's important
for a child to speak out, particularly with individuals in the home, advises
KidsHealth.
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age 15, according to the Social Science Research Network. With the increase of divorce rates throughout the United States
and elsewhere in the world, single-parent homes are a major segment of all households with children. Accordingly, it's a point of
intense interest to educators and parents how a single-parent environment affects children's learning.
Potential Challenges
Typically, single parents have to manage far more tasks than the mothers or fathers in two-parent households, simply because
of practical limitations on the division of labor. At least until children are old enough to take on household chores, all the
housekeeping responsibilities fall on one person, as well as wage earning and parenting. As a result, it's possible for single
parents to have less time or energy to encourage their children's learning by reading together, overseeing homework or
planning educational, entertaining and fitness activities and outings for the family.
Aside from the direct influence of household structure on academic achievement and learning, a single-family home
environment may influence a child's behavioral performance in school, which can indirectly affect learning and interest in
school. According to Adoption.com, when single parents are working full time and therefore have less available time for their
children, the situation may lead to either behavioral issues or lower academic achievement.
Historical Trends
In the late '80s, when single-parent homes were less common than at present, a study carried out at the University of Illinois at
Urbana, reported by "The New York Times," found that children raised by one parent were less likely to continue their schooling
through high school and into college. From a sample of 2,500 children, the longer kids were in single-parent households, the
shorter their educations. Since the early 1990s, however, a new model has become the standard for statistics measuring
academic performance in children of varied household types. Instead of using a Family Deficit Model, which presupposes that
single-parent households are incomplete and nonstandard, contemporary statistics instead use a Risk and Protective Factor
Model. The model views family structures based on multiple risk factors, including positive and negative life events and general
Sociologists continue to chart the relationship between household structure and academic performance. With the increasing
prevalence of single-family homes and continuously changing methods of measuring educational performance, it's impossible
to reduce the relationship to one of direct cause and effect. According to Adoption.com, statistics such as a 1992 study
published in the journal "Sociology and Education" show that children from one-parent households generally evidence lower
academic achievement. However, the site also points out that many studies, including the 1992 investigation, indicate that
income level has much greater effect on education than family structure.
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Multiple studies have demonstrated that children fare best in households with both biological parents, but bringing up your child
in a two-parent home is not always possible. A variety of circumstances result in single parenting, including: death of a parent,
military service for one parent, an incarcerated father or mother, and divorce. Single parenthood affects children, but not all of
Parenting Style
Parents do not always parent in harmony; in fact, they may have vastly
different expectations of their children and ideas about discipline. For
instance, one parent may approve of spanking, while the other finds it
abusive and prefers the utilization of time-outs. An advantage of a single
parent home is the ability to parent the way you feel is most effective and
manageable. You can set the pace for getting ready for school in the
morning, doing homework and completing chores in the evening and what
time your child goes to bed at night. You don't have to compromise or
negotiate with the other parent.
Making Decisions
Family Health
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