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A G U I D E P O S T S O U T R E AC H P U B L I C AT I O N

Overcoming
Anxiety
and
Fear
By
Norman Vincent Peale
About the author . . .
Norman Vincent Peale, often called the minister-to-
millions, was senior minister at the historic Marble Col-
legiate Church in New York City for 52 years.
Dr. Peale and his wife, Ruth Stafford Peale, founded
Guideposts in 1945, an interfaith ministry dedicated to help-
ing people from all walks of life achieve their personal and
spiritual potential. Previously, in 1940, they founded Peale
Center for Christian Living, which is dedicated to continuing
Dr. Peales legacy of positive thinking and faith. In 1995,
the two organizations merged and Peale Center is now the
Outreach Division of Guideposts.
Dr. Peale wrote 46 books, including the classic best-seller,
The Power of Positive Thinking, which has demonstrated that
a change in a persons attitude will change his or her life.
Throughout his life, Dr. Peale emphasized the individuals
ability to overcome lifes problems and seize its opportuni-
ties, through faith in God and belief in oneself. He proved
this in his own life. Although he was a minister of the Gospel,
and believed in God, he didnt always believe in himself.
As he matured from a shy boy into manhood, his faith
led him to the conviction that God had placed a portion of
His power in all of us. He reasoned that if this was the case,
then each of us was capable of doing great things, so he
wholeheartedly embraced the Bible as an infallible guide for
creative living. This was Dr. Peales message: If you believe
that the power of God within you is equal to any of lifes
difficulties, then a rewarding life will be yours.
A G U I D E P O S T S O U T R E AC H P U B L I C AT I O N

Overcoming
Anxiety
and
Fear
By
Norman Vincent Peale

Guideposts Outreach

Overcoming Anxiety and Fear


Copyright 1966, 1994 by Peale Center for Christian Living
Printed in U.S.A. 018-4709 8/08
C O N T E N T S

What This Booklet Will Do For You................................. 3

1. Anxiety and Fear Are Removable.........................4

2. Attack Anxiety With Common Sense...............7

3. Let Go the Fear of What Might Happen....... 10

4. Faith Cancels Out Fear................................................. 14

5. Dont Be Afraid of People.............................................18

6. Clean Up Guilt and Watch Fear Wither .......21

7. End the Fear of Failure ............................................... 25

8. Dont Fear a ProblemSolve It . ...........................28


What This Booklet Will Do for You

IF YOU are troubled by anxiety and fear, this booklet


will do specific things for you:
First, it will assure you that anxiety and fear are remov-
able. You definitely do not have to be afflicted by anxiety
and fear any longer. You can be free of their continued
harassment.
Second, this booklet will help you better understand
yourself and know why you have the problem of anxiety.
This is important. Self-understanding is necessary for
self-release.
Third, this booklet will help you lose the fear of some-
thing happening to loved ones. It outlines a wonderful
method of putting them confidently into Gods hands,
where is found the greatest earthly protection, so only
good surrounds them.
Fourth, this booklet will help you find lasting peace
of mind. It will help you drive out dark shadows of ap-
prehension and deepen your sense of confidence. It will
give you calm assurance for the days ahead.
Fifth, it tells you how to achieve real faith in God,
how to sense His strengthening Presence, and how to feel
certain that you are always in His loving care.
These techniques will work for anyone who really
works them. Use the booklet faithfully, and you can be
assured of the blessings listed above.
May God guide and bless you, as you find complete
release from anxiety and fear.

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1
Anxiety and Fear
Are Removable
primary fact that we need to know about
A anxiety and fear is that they are removable.
Any emotion is removable. Anger is remov-
able. Depression is removable. Hatred is removable.
Prejudice is removable. So is the inferiority complex
removable. In fact, every negative emotion is remov-
able. Once you fully understand this concept, you are
ready to make important changes in your life.
The first step in overcoming any fear is to realize
that it is, for a fact, removable. If your mother, father, or
grandfather had apprehensive fears, you need not have
them also. If you are willing to be harassed by fear all
your life, you can be. But fear is removable.
Thomas Carlyle said, The first duty for a man is
that of subduing Fear.... A mans acts are slavish... till
he have got Fear under his feet.
Once you know that fear is removable, next comes
the process of removing it. This involves a practice
not popular with the present generation: namely, self-
discipline. In the old days, this was called willpower,
and willpower used to be thought of highly. Some

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proponents of todays liberal educational philosophies
dismiss it as old-fashionedcorny, you might say.
But this softened-up philosophy threatens to produce
a generation of Americans in which the incidence of
neurotic states of mind will reach ever-mounting highs.
Americans formerly were normal people, because
they practiced self-discipline. They believed that any
personality weakness is removable. They believed,
specifically, that through faith in God and Jesus Christ
amazing personal rehabilitations occur.
Theodore Roosevelt said, I have often been afraid,
but I wouldnt give in to it. I made myself act as though
I was not afraid, and gradually my fear disappeared.
Think courage and act it, and you control and finally
remove your fear.
Eleanor Roosevelt said it well also: You gain
strength, courage, and confidence by every experience
in which you look fear in the face. And, when you do
that, you discover that anxiety is removable.
When a person determinedly stands up to something,
that something tends to fold and finally give way. There
is much less danger in standing up to a difficulty or
fear than in trying to avoid or run away from it. Face
fearit never is as fearful as expected.
Most fears are baseless and empty. A friend of mine
figured out that, over his lifetime, 92 percent of the
things he feared never did happen. Of the eight percent
that did happen he said, I stood up to them, handled
them, and overcame them. He added, all fears are
controllable.

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Face Lifes Storms
An old cowboy said he had learned lifes most
important lesson from Hereford cows. All his life, he
had worked cattle ranches where winter storms took
a heavy toll among the herds. Freezing rains whipped
across the prairies. Howling, bitter winds piled snow
into huge drifts. Temperatures dropped to below-zero.
Flying ice cut into the flesh. In this maelstrom of na-
tures violence, most cattle would turn their backs to the
icy blasts and slowly drift downwind, mile upon mile.
Finally, intercepted by a boundary fence, they would
pile up against the barrier and die by the scores.
But Herefords would instinctively head into the
wind. There they would stand, shoulder-to-shoulder,
facing the storms blast, heads down against its on-
slaughts. You most always found the Herefords alive
and well, said the cowboy. The greatest lesson I ever
learned on the prairies was to face lifes storms.
The lesson is valid. Do not attempt to evade things
you are afraid of and go drifting with the wind trying
to keep away from them. Every human being has to
decide again and again whether to meet fearsome dif-
ficulties head-on or to try running away.
You can never outrun fear. Try it and you will run
yourself down, a pathetic victim of anxiety. Try a better
way. Take a long, searching look at your fear. Stand
up to it. It probably wont happen anyway. And if it
does, you have what it takes to meet it and success-
fully control it.

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2
Attack Anxiety With
Common Sense
whimsical old preacher once spoke on a

A familiar text, And now abideth faith, hope,


charity, these three. . . But, he added, the
greatest of these is common sense.
Anxiety may be defined as continuous and pervasive
apprehension that can become fear in depth. It is basi-
cally an accumulation of irrational mental attitudes.
When an anxiety is taken apart, you will find, in most
cases, there is not as much to be afraid of as you had
thought. Anxiety is like fog: huge mists arising from
little moisture. Blow fog away and moisture remaining
that caused it is infinitesimal.
I always encourage people to visualize themselves
hitting anxiety hard with reason. When you employ the
power of your mind, and unemotionally dissect your
anxiety, ask yourself if there is any real reason to feel
nervous and apprehensive. You must realize that you
possess enormous potential power to use cool, factual
thought and action. Keep anxiety under reason-control
and it cannot develop into deeper fear.
List the reasons you should be anxious and the

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reasons you should be confident on a piece of paper.
Start the confidence column with the word God. Under
this write everything about the problem that you can
relate to God, which should be just about everything.
The more sincerely you do this, the less you have to
write in the anxiety column.
You will discover that your anxiety is generally
motivated by emotional causes. If you constantly em-
phasize commonsense considerations, emotional
elements will give way, finally, and your intelligence
will take control.
The Bible says the thing which I greatly feared is
come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come
unto me (Job 3:25). In fearing is the tendency to pro-
duce the thing feared. But it is also true, paraphrasing
the Bible, that those thoughts that we greatly believe
will come upon us. But faith brings good happenings
to pass, and this is the truth to hold to.
It is important, then, to eliminate fear thoughts and
thereby stop the flow of evil happenings. A doctor came
into a sick room where family members were sitting
near the patients bedthinking and talking about
unfavorable outcomes. The doctor said, I want you
all to leave. I cannot cure my patient as long as you
are here sending out death thoughts. It was a bitter
cold day, but he threw open a window, letting a frigid
breeze whip through the room. Ive got to fumigate
this room of your anxiety thoughts, he said. That wise
doctor hit anxiety hard, with strong common sense
and action.

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An Action Program
When you are struggling with anxiety, here is what
to do. Sit down with yourself and ask, How much
sense is there to this? What good is accomplished by
my worrying over this? Will my anxiety help the result,
or perhaps harm it? The more you apply common
sense, examining the situation with cool, rational intel-
ligence, the more you will reduce self-built emotion.
This will help reduce anxiety to size.
You can reduce anxiety immeasurably, if you hit it
really hard with reason ... but you must keep on hitting
it. Uncontrolled emotion cannot live in the presence of
common sense and intelligent faith.
For example, suppose you feel anxious about a
loved one. The thing to do is to employ every intel-
ligent, logical, protective procedure. Everyone knows
there is in this world the element of accident. But the
chance of anything happening to your loved one is
minimized by the law of averages. In fact, the law of
averages actually works out to peoples good rather
than to their bad. It proves that people do not gener-
ally live under a cloud of misfortune or in the midst of
ill events. Those who do are exceptions, not the rule.
So you can reduce or eliminate anxiety by reminding
yourself that God Who has permitted the element of
accident has also minimized it, and has filled the world
with His wonderful protection.
There is another law alsonamely, thoughts tend
to reproduce themselves in kind. If a person constantly

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sends out apprehensive anxiety thoughts, he actually
tends to produce accident and misfortune. Conversely,
if you surround your loved ones and yourself with
faith thoughts, protection thoughts, love thoughts
all of which may be called God thoughtsthen you
encompass your loved ones and yourself also with the
most powerful protection in this world.
Anxiety is likely to produce what you are anxious
about; but intelligent faith produces protective com-
monsense results. Anxiety is like a magnet. It draws
unhappy results to itself. But so also is faith. Faith is
a more powerful magnet, one that draws to itself the
most incredible blessings.

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Let Go the Fear of
What Might Happen
most painful and devastating form of anxiety

A is the haunting fear of what might happen. This


type of fear leaves its victim in a constant state
of apprehension that some disaster, trouble, illness, or
accident may befall a loved one or himself. To live with
the perpetual worry that some axe is going to fall can
develop a very unhappy state of mind, to say nothing
of the acute tension it creates. It is surprising how many

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people are made miserable by vague imaginings of
sinister things that might occur.
An illustration is that of a middle-aged man plagued
from boyhood by apprehensive fear of something
terrible happening. Always this anxiety lurked in
his mind, sometimes dominant, sometimes fairly qui-
escent, but never was he completely free of it.
Seemingly groundless anxiety does have its rea-
sons for existing in a human mind. In this instance, it
stemmed from an acute sense of insecurity based on
his parents poverty. As a child, there was never enough
money to pay bills, and the family could never be sure
even of the next meal. As finances improved, other
insecurities developed. One was the mothers uncertain
health. She had always had high-blood pressure and the
boy had become anxious anytime the doctor came and
wrapped the testing apparatus around his mothers arm.
He watched nervously and apprehensively as the doc-
tor pumped it up, looked at it solemnly, pumped again,
studied it, then folded it away, saying nothing. But the
sensitive and anxious boy knew that his mothers blood
pressure was again elevated.
The mother lived in perpetual fear that some physi-
cal disability would come upon hera stroke, for ex-
ample. She made the mistake of warning the boy that
he must always be prepared for what might happen to
her. So for years, especially when away from home, he
never heard a telephone ring that there was not heart
constriction and breathlessness as he picked up the
phone. It might be the long-feared word....

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The father, also, projected his fears upon the sensi-
tive boy. Grown man that he was, the father still feared
the dark and went around trying doors and windows at
night. Also, he was fearful of sea travel. There is only
a plank between us and the implacable sea, he would
remark grimly. And of air travel he would say, An
engine might fail. There is always a possibility of hu-
man error and mechanical failure. He was pathetically
fearful that something might happen to him or to his
loved ones. He was afraid about his job, that he could
not sustain his position; therefore he was always look-
ing for another one in which at long last he might be
secure. Securityinsecurity. These emotion-charged
words battled in the boys mind until he became a
victim of inordinate fear. Fear rode him hard with the
dark, sinister, and unreasoning apprehension of what
might happen. And he lived with this apprehension
every minute of every day.
The Power of Faith
Then the young man had the good fortune to marry
a clear-minded, religious girl who had no fears whatso-
ever. He never knew her to be afraid of anything. And
the reason she had no fear was that she had a simple
and controlling faith that Almighty God would always
guide and protect her.
Gradually, over the years, the faith of the wife be-
came increasingly influential in the development of
the husband. Presently, he began to see the first ray of
hope: Maybe, just maybe, he could at long last escape

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from the harsh tyranny of fear of what might happen.
Thereafter, he began a lifelong study and practice of
the power of faith in God to deliver him from his fear.
His was an undeviating search for a mastery of fear and
anxiety. He finally accomplished this in the only basic
way it can be achieved: namely, learning to have real
trusting faith in Gods love, care, and guidance.
How to Let Go of Your Fear
Here are four tried and true methods for overcoming
the haunting fear of what might happen:
1. Let go and let God. Worry is a spasmodic clutching
by the mind of an obsessive fear idea. To counteract
it, insert in the mind the thought that you can leave
your concerns with God. By a deliberate mental
act, take charge of the fear spasm. Order your mind
to release its frantic hold on the obsessive anxiety
thought. In a word, let go and let God.
2. Remind yourself of one great fact and affirm it
constantly: God loves me and those whom I love.
He is now taking care of us all.
3. Having left your fears with God, affirm His watchful
care, and go about your daily life confidently.
4. Every day, morning and night, thank God for his
loving kindness. Believe and affirm the things for
which you are thanking Him.
The daily practice of the above techniques will
condition your mind, finally, to let go of the haunting
fear of what might happen.

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4
Faith Cancels Out Fear

ittle did airline hostess Jackie Myers realize,

L on that beautiful morning as she walked out to


the huge waiting jet, that within a few minutes
she would face the greatest crisis of her life. After take-
off, Jackie suddenly found herself face-to-face with
death. At what seemed certain to be her last moment,
a remarkable insight came to her. She knew then that
the greatest thing she had ever done was to build up a
faith that could cancel out fear.
Eleven minutes after take-off, Miss Myers says,
our beautiful huge shiny jet went into a nose dive. We
were 249,000 pounds hurtling through space. We went
into the dive at 19,000 feet and, forty seconds later,
the captain pulled us out of it at 5000 feetjust eight
seconds before we would have crashed!
As we pulled out of the dive, the number-three
engine tore out of the wing and fell to earth. Number
four was hanging on by a few bolts. We lost most of
our hydraulic fluid and a lot of electrical power. Several
other mechanical failures developed. But our captain
landed the plane in an emergency field as gently as one

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would handle a newborn baby. If eggs had lined the
runway, they would not have been damaged. It was the
greatest miracle I shall ever experience.
Jackie Myers told of the thoughts that crowded her
mind in those agonizing 40 seconds during which the
plane was in a nose dive. Here was an instance. When
we started to encounter turbulence, I ran to my jump seat
in the tail of the plane, but was thrown off balance. I
grabbed onto a shelf as we nosed over. At first, I couldnt
believe it was happening. Our pilots were superbly
skilled. I felt certain they would pull us out of it.
But it was an unmistakable fact: we were plunging
through space. I thought of a beloved aunt who, every
night, says a little prayer for me. I thought how happy
I was to have been even a small part of my church.
I thought how strongly I had endorsed the power of
positive thinking and the Golden Rule. At no time did
I experience fear. I was so happy about my life, includ-
ing religion. I did tell God there were so many things
I wanted to do yet. I said Lord, I never got my happy
marriage and my happy family.
But we were still hurtling downward and I reluc-
tantly terminated my conversation with God. I accepted
that we would be blown to bits upon impact. I added a
little P.S. to God: If this is the way You want it, Lord
I guess this is the way its going to be. Then sud-
denly, the plane righted! Jackie could hardly believe
her senses. But it was real. We were flying merrily
along on a level!
Later she told me, I found in this terrible experi-

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ence that by positive thinking and right living from
day-to-day, you can develop an inner condition that will
sustain you through lifes worst ordeals and roughest
moments. By practicing faith and right thinking, by
praying to God, and by seeking direction from Him,
Jackie Myers had built up a resistance against fear so
that it could not touch her, even in the worst moment
of her life. The build-up of faith against fear is one of
the most fundamental methods for controlling anxiety
and conquering fear. Faith cancels out fear.
One night, during the Civil War, Gen. Stonewall
Jackson was in conference with his generals. He was
planning a daring sortie in the Shenandoah Valley. It
was a brilliant plan, strategically. The odds were high,
but the possibility of success existed. Only a genius
could have conceived it and carried it through. At the
conclusion of the meeting, one of Jacksons gener-
als said timorously, But, General Jackson, I fear we
cant carry it off. Jackson arose, put his hand on his
shoulder, and said, Never take counsel of your fears,
General. Jackson was a man who took counsel not of
fear but of faith and faith canceled out fear.
A How-To-Do-It Program
In canceling out fear by faith, the number one thing
to do is to say, with determination: I do not want to be
motivated by anxiety and fear anymore. I want to cast
out fear and anxiety from my mind, and no longer be
dominated by them. I now decidenow determineI
now willthat my anxiety and fear be brought under

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control, even eliminated; and that I become a person
of faith. Of course, saying these things, however
strongly, will not in itself accomplish them; but they
will be accomplished when you strongly affirm them,
when you mean it deeply, and when you do determine
to make your decision really stick.
Step number two: On a sheet of paper list all of your
fears. Determine your worst fear and decide to attack
that particular fear alone. I suggest this procedure
because your strength no doubt is equal to only one
aspect of fear at a time. Conceivably, an attack upon
the entire lot of them would be more than you could
successfully mount. But if you overcome first one and
then another, and another, presently you will gather
strength to attack your entire fear pattern.
A third procedure is what might be called a spiritual
crash program, or a method for increasing faith quickly.
In the best sense faith is, of course, the result of a long
developing spiritual process. But since we have the
practical problem of dealing with fear and just havent
enough faith to counteract it, then we are left with the
necessity for building faith up at once.
To do this, I suggest taking large doses of faith
into your mind. Work at it zealously and constantly,
with the purpose of saturating your consciousness
with faith. Search for Scripture passages that express
the greatest faith men have ever had. Memorize them.
Repeat them until they take hold of you, as they will,
until they dominate your thinking.
An illustration of the type of text that will be help-

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ful in this connection is Psalm 34:4: I sought the
Lord, and He heard me, and delivered me from all my
fears. To say that I sought the Lord means that I really
determined to find Him, and this very determination
brought me to Him. Then He took all, that is every,
fear from me. Another is Psalm 23:4: I will fear no
evil: for Thou art with me. Get fixed in your mind the
presence of God and fear will fade away.
Heres another: Deuteronomy 33:27, Underneath
are the everlasting arms, which means your loving
Heavenly Father will let no harm come to you.

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Dont Be
Afraid of People
hen I was a young reporter on the old Detroit

W Journal, my editor, Grove Patterson took a


kindly interest in me. He was a man of keen
and perceptive insights. One day, he called me into his
office. Norman, he said, youve got a lot of fear
and anxiety. You must get rid of it. What is there to be
afraid of? Why should anyone go through life like a
scared rabbit? The good Lord has told us that He will
help us and be with us.

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I shall always remember that conversation. Look
son, he continued, Im going to give you a little ad-
vice. The only one in this world to fear is God, and that
doesnt mean to be afraid of Him. It means to esteem
Him. There is nothing else to be afraid of, so never be
afraid of anything or anyone.
But, Mr. Patterson, I said, how can anyone pos-
sibly go through life afraid of nothing or no one?
He leveled a long, inky finger at me. Listen, he
said, Ill tell you how: Be strong and of a good cour-
age; be not afraid.... for the Lord thy God is with (you)
whithersoever (you go) (Joshua 1:9). Just hang onto
that promise, he added, and dont forget that its made
by Someone who never let anybody down.
The world is full of individuals who live miserable
lives because fear of other people affects their personal
relationships. The employee fears the boss. The dif-
fident person is fearful of assertive types in school or
office. Some wives fear their husbands and vice versa,
and, there are parents who fear their children. The
introvert cowers before the extrovert; the shy person
cringes in the presence of the bumptious. Some people
do not participate because someone else makes them
feel inferior.
How May Fear of Other
People Be Overcome?
1. Let the shy help the shy. In every group there are
other shy people. You may be surprised to discover
who they are; often the loudest talker, for instance,

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is covering up his inferiority feelings. Single out a
shy person in the group and show him attention. This
will help him, and it will help you doubly.
2. Accept yourself. Be yourself entirely. You are dis-
tinctive, and there is only one of you in existence.
This will free you from a slavish simulation of other
people. The effort to be like someone else is, in es-
sence, a fear of other people or of being different.
3. Learn to love people. Perfect love casteth out fear.
The more you develop genuine appreciation and
esteem for others, the less you will feel inferior in
their presence and the easier, more normal, your
relationship with them will be.
4. Pray for people with whom you feel uncomfortable.
Ask God to help them with their problemsthey
also have some, you know. In time, they will sense
your prayerful regard and like you for it.
What Is Your Image of Yourself?
Emerson once said, Man surrounds himself with
the true image of himself. You develop around your-
self situations and attitudes that are, in large measure,
a reflection of the image that you have of yourself. If
you respect other people, take them as they are, practice
loving them, and deal with them on this basis of facts
rather than emotions, they will react to you in normal
and friendly fashion. But to embarrassment, shyness,
reticence, and withdrawal, people will draw away and
become aloof. These reactions denote fear of others and
always result in feelings of uneasiness in others.

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A young man consulted me about a fear of his boss,
a stern, hard man. The young man said, I feel shaky
whenever I go into his office. I offered the opinion that
the boss may have become seemingly stern because
of his own problems. I suggested that the young man
pray for his employer and think thoughts of friendly
affection toward him. It will be like trying to dent a
wall of steel, he complained.
But when the young employee began to see his boss
as a human being, a warm feeling developed between
them, and fear passed away. It is a simple law of human
relationships: genuine love and friendliness overcome
fear of other people.
Freedom from the fear of other people results when
you override your own self-consciousness and become
fully conscious and aware of other people.

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Clean Up Guilt and
Watch Fear Wither
uilt and fear are so inextricably interlocked

G that, when these two enemies of human happi-


ness gang up, they make life miserable. I urge
anyone who suffers from fear or anxiety to face hon-
estly whether guilt is a possible cause and to consider

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the necessity for spiritual healing.
Fear is an overwhelming anxiety. Anxiety is related
to something we can generally handle by trying to think
it through intelligently. If, however, this becomes too
great in degree, it develops into fear, which freezes the
personality and frantic action often results.
The difference between fear and anxiety may be
illustrated in this way. If a big dog barks at you, you
may feel anxious and walk faster to avoid it; but if a
lion in the street roared at you, your fright would cause
you to run in terror. This would be fear.
Some anxiety is normal. It helps us cope with ev-
eryday life by the exercise of caution. But abnormal
fear, or overwhelming anxiety, is destructive. And one
of the most destructive is the fear-anxiety state that
results from guilt. It actually is a kind of terrora
running away.
Fear and anxiety often are rooted in childhood.
Sometimes parents, however loving and well meaning,
project their own fears upon children. Superstitious
fears of the human race are thinly covered with a ve-
neer of civilization. Then, too, traumatic experiences
in life often activate fears. But the biggest factor in the
fear cases that I see is a sense of guilt. It is pretty hard
for a sensitive personality to incorporate the foreign
element of guilt without hatching a flock of anxieties
and fears. It would seem that if we could get rid of all
guilt in peoples minds, fear would weaken to the point
of withering away.
An old friend became a pathetic victim of anxiety in

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a dramatic reversal of his personality, which formerly
was completely free of unwarranted fear. In our talks,
he revealed an enormous sense of guilt based on vio-
lation of his moral code, the general abandonment of
which was deeply affecting his conscience. He had
stimulated deep guilt feelings as a result of living at
variance with his convictions of right and wrong. He
had discovered that these values ingrained in his con-
sciousness could not be set aside without disastrous
disintegration of his personality. Hence he had sprouted
a large assortment of anxieties, and these had hardened
into chronic fear.
The Way To Overcome Guilt
I recommended several steps to him. First, a com-
plete catharsis with a spiritual counselor. By catharsis,
I meant he was to empty out of his mind all the evil
he had thought about and done, holding nothing back
from his counselor. Second, he was to ask and to receive
Gods forgiveness. God forgives quickly and gener-
ously. Third, he was to forgive himself and no longer
condemn or excoriate himself for past sinfulness.
Man instinctively believes he must continually pun-
ish himself. Self-forgiveness comes hard but is vital.
Fourth, he was to rebuild his personality on a moral
level harmonious with his deepest convictions.
These were difficult, especially self-forgiveness and
rebuilding; but all were possible to achieve by real ef-
fort and through prayer and faith.
These, then, are the techniques for cleaning up guilt

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and watching fear wither: counseling, Gods forgive-
ness, self-forgiveness, and rebuilding. Of course, guilt
thoughts must be kept from the mind and action related
to such thoughts avoided. So keep your thoughts under
control. I reminded my friend of the old saying: You
cant stop the birds from flying over your head, but you
can prevent them from building nests in your hair.
You may not prevent guilt thoughts from entering your
mind, but you can keep them from staying there and
taking charge of your actions.
Do all this as best you can, and in direct proportion to
how well you do your best your fear will wither. Most
people are not fear-dominated persons, and you can
become the fearless person God meant you to be.
Branch Rickey, who had a rare talent for making
real men of his baseball players, once had a player
who almost hysterically rushed into the clubhouse after
every inning to telephone his wife. He was neurotically
suspicious of his wifes faithfulness, although she was
completely trustworthy and loyal.
It turned out that the player was projecting his own
disloyalty on her. You know how it is, when youre
on the road with the boys and there is a lot of pressure
on you. . . he lamely told Mr. Rickey.
But Branch had an answer for the miserable young
man, Where are your inner braces? If you really want
to go straight, theres Someone who can help you, and
you know who He is. Branch Rickey prayed with that
player about his fear-morality problem, brought some-
thing real into that baseball players life, and saved his

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marriageand a player, too. The boy stayed on the
reservation there after and played good ball.
So guilt adds up to fear. When you subtract guilt,
fear folds up and fades away.

7
End the Fear of Failure
than might be supposed are
M
ore people
deeply troubled by the fear of failure. It is a
dangerous fear to have working against you,
for it can cause the personality to freeze and therefore
induce the very failure you fear.
Everyone is bound to fail at times. The important
question is, how do you react? A failure can be an
excellent teachermistakes teach us how not to do
something. Then, too, our successes tell us how some-
thing is done right. It is important to seek persistently
within both failure and success to discover new insights
and know hows. You can bring great accomplishments
out of what at first seemed overwhelming failure; but
if you permit failure to continue as failure, it will be
failure in outcome forever.
When failure occurs, simply do the best you can
with it. Never let yourself acquiesce in a continuing
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more failures. The best strategy is to continue striving
for better performance until it is attained.
Look at a failure and ask yourself why you failed.
Then go back at it again wiser, more competent, and
never entertain the thought that you will continue to
fail. Such practice strengthens faith in the process of
thinking failure out and thinking success in.
The person who is able to control and use his thought
processes need never be afraid of failure. W. Clement
Stone, who has inspired many to successful living
by his books, says, Think, think, think. Never give
up. You will get an answer, if you keep on thinking
without panic, without fear of failure. If you learn to
recognize and bypass emotional reactions, and stress
cool, rational thinking, you can think your way out of
any trouble or ineffective living.
There is no satisfaction in this world quite like
overcoming fear of failure. If you prepare for a frontal
assaultplanning, learning, thinking, studying, work-
ing, believing, prayingyou have all the ingredients
to conquer the plaguing fear of failure in a manner full
of joyousness, happiness, and expectation.
Dont Be Afraid to Be Afraid
The secret of courage is honestly to admit to your
feelings of failurethen, with Gods help, go on and do
your job in spite of them. This procedure will keep fear
under control and, when controlled, it cannot bother
you, for then you are in control of fear.
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his era. Suddenly one night he felt extremely dizzy.
His brain seemed on fire. Cues seemed to reach him
from far away. He tried desperately to get back on the
track, but his mind was a jumble. His fellow actors
covered up for him, but the old debonair ease that was
his trademark was gone. He would hesitate and stam-
mer. Failure for the first time in his professional life
had come to the great performer.
Ordered to rest, Maurice Chevalier came under
the care of Dr. Robert Dubois in the southern part of
France. I am beaten. Im afraid of being a failure. I
have no future, he told the doctor. He was advised to
take long walks to repair his damaged nervous system.
Yet the inner turmoil did not leave him. He had lost all
confidence and he was afraid.
After a time, the doctor suggested he entertain before
a small group in the village hall. But, said Maurice,
I am terrified at the thought. What guarantee is there
that my mind will not go blank?
There are no guarantees, the doctor said slowly.
But you must not be afraid of failing. You are afraid
to step on a stage again, so you tell yourself that youre
finished. But fear is never a reason for quitting: it is
only an excuse. When a brave man encounters fear. He
admits it and goes on despite it.
Maurice suffered untold agony of fear before his ap-
pearance but he went on and performed very well. Joy
welled up inside him. I knew that I had not conquered
fear. I had simply admitted it and gone on despite it;
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From that night, Maurice Chevalier performed be-
fore audiences everywhere. There have been many
moments of fear, he said. The gentle doctor was
right; there are no guarantees. But being frightened
has never since made me want to quit. And Maurice
added: My own experience taught me this: If you wait
for the perfect moment, when all is safe and assured,
it may never arrive. Mountains will not be climbed,
races won, or lasting happiness achieved.
So the way to end the fear of failure is this: First,
dont be afraid to be afraid. Honestly admit your fear.
Then act as though you were unafraid. With the help
of God, do your job with total neglect of fear. You will
make the grade with the Lords kindly help.

8
Dont Fear a Problem
Solve It
any people seem to believe that this world

M would be wonderful, if we had fewer prob-


lems, less difficult ones, or, better still, none
at all. But really, is a problem a bad thing? Would we
be better off with no problems whatsoever?
Perhaps I can best answer by trying to recall where
it is that no one has problemsand I remember exactly

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where it isthe cemetery. There they are, at rest from
their labors, and for them lifes fitful fever is over. They
could care less about health, taxes, or wars. They have
no problems; but they are dead.
It follows then that problems are a sign of life. I
would even say that the more problems you have, the
more alive you are. The individual who has ten good
old tough man-sized problems is, on this basis, twice as
alive as the poor apathetic character who has only five
problems. And if you have no problems at all, I warn
you, you are in great jeopardy. The life force must be
running low in you; and you had better take it up with
God and ask Him, Please, Lord, dont You trust me
anymore? Give me some problems!
One of the basic and certain facts about life is the in-
evitability of problems. We might as well face the hard,
cold, realistic fact that we are going to have problems
until the day we die. The Bible, most realistic of all
books, says: Man is born unto trouble, as the sparks
fly upward (Job 5:7), and In the world ye shall have
tribulation (John 16:33).
This Bible verse also says: Be of good cheer; I
have overcome the world. This is what you and I can
do. I want to assure you that we need fear no problem
on earth but, with Gods help, can overcome it, how-
ever formidable it may appear to be. So dont fear a
problemsolve it.
A psychiatrist is reported to have said, The chief
duty of a human being is to endure life. That seems
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it. There are, of course, certain inevitabilities in this life
from which we have no alternatives. They just have to
be faced and endured.
My father had arthritis until death at 85 years of age.
He told me that it bothered and pained him for years,
until he made up his mind that he had it, that there was
no real cure for it, and that he would have to live with
it. When he had adjusted his thinking to the inevitable
facts, the arthritic condition did not annoy him nearly as
much. He lived a long, vigorous life, regardless of his
arthritic affliction. Actually, in a mental and spiritual
sense, he mastered his problem.
Master Your Problems
If the chief duty of a human being were simply to
endure life, the prospects would be bleak indeed. A far
better concept is to charge ourselves with mastering
life. Then we can master our problems.
The secret that I personally worked out for dealing
with problems is an uncomplicated one, but it has the
virtue of working. Namely, a complete commitment
of my problem and myself to Gods help and guid-
ance. I found that by practicing, however inexpertly,
the teachings of Jesus Christ, I had an increased inner
peace and a better ability to organize myself and my
thoughts; and that fear, tension, and inadequacy in the
face of a problem were brought under control. Here are
some suggestions to help you do the same:

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Seven Ways To Solve a Problem
1. Remember (Psalm 73:24): Thou shalt guide me
with Thy counsel. Ask God for guidance and follow
it when it comes. Believe that God will guide you.
2. Dont panic or you will not be able to think clearly.
First, get quiet. How do you do that? Pray to God
and relax in faith. Then keep relaxed and calm.
3. Dont be overwhelmed or make the problem bigger
than it is. Simply apply common sense.
4. Dont spend time on regrets. Dont ask Why did I
ever get into this? Begin where you are.
5. Seek a solution, not for the whole problem, but for
one step. Take it a step at a time. As you do so, pray
continually.
6. Ask yourself what is right and avoid the wrong, for
no wrong thing ever turns out right.
7. Never give up. Keep at it. Keep praying. Keep
believing. Keep thinking until the answer comes.
Remember, the darkest hour is often just before
the dawn.

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Prayer When Worried
By Norman Vincent Peale

d ear lord, Im worried and full


of fear. Anxiety and apprehension
fill my mind. Could it be that my love
for Thee is weak and imperfect and, as a
result, I am plagued by worry?
I have tried to reassure myself that
there is nothing to worry about. But such
reassurances do not seem to help.
I know that I should just rest myself
confidently upon Thy loving care and
guidance. But I have been too nervous
even to do that.
Touch me, Dear Lord, with Your peace
and help my disturbed mind to know that
You are God and that I need fear no evil. In
Christs name, I offer this prayer. Amen.
Reprinted from A Prayer for Every Need by Norman Vincent
Peale. Copyright 1964 Peale Center for Christian Living.
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