Self-Discipline:

The art of saying no to ones self.

The ability to do what needs to be done,
when it needs to be done, whether you
feel like it or not.

Tapas: in Hinduism, ascetic practice voluntarily

carried out to achieve spiritual power or purification.
A standing baba has taken the vow not to
sit or lie down for twelve years.

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Self discipline means deliberately aligning our energy with our values
and priorities. Through mental practice we focus in on a task before
us and let other temptations and distractions pass us by.
Self-discipline asks that we endure frustration, disappointment, and
pain in the service of a higher goal. It means being willing to push
ourselves to the limits of our will and endurance if that is what is
needed for success.
Self-discipline need not be harsh; it can take the form of a quiet
resolve or determination that then directs our choices. It is exacting,
but is rarely served by our being self-critical or self-denigrating. Selfdiscipline allows us to make use of whatever power and capabilities
have been given us, to be all that we can in the service of our dreams.
(http://www.wisdomcommons.org/virtue/115-self-discipline/proverbs)

The difference between a savior and a sinner is this: that

the one has perfect control of all the forces within him;
the other is dominated and controlled by them.
(James Allen)

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Why Self-Discipline is Essential for Success

on the Spiritual Path:
An intending disciple said to Dhu-L-Nun,
the Egyptian mystic:
Above everything in this world I wish to enroll in
the Path of Truth.
Dhu-L-Nun told him: You can accompany our caravan
only if you first accept two things.
One is that you will have to do things which you do not
want to do.
The other is that you will not be permitted to do things
which you desire to do.
It is wanting which stands between man
and the Path of Truth.

You have to decide what your highest priorities are

and have the courage - pleasantly, smilingly,
non-apologetically - to say no to other things.
And the way to do that is by having a bigger yes
burning inside.
(Stephen Covey)

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Will Power and Self Discipline

By Remez Sasson
The possession of willpower and self discipline or their lack, play an important
role in everyone's life. For example, you wish to go for a walk, knowing how
good it is for your health and how wonderful you feel afterwards, but you feel
too lazy, and prefer to watch TV instead. You might be aware of the fact that
you need to change your eating habits or stop smoking, but you don't have the
inner power and persistence to change these habits.
Does this sound familiar? How many times have you said, "I wish I had will
power and self-discipline"? How many times have you started to do something,
only to quit after a short while? We all have had experiences like these.
Everyone has a few habits they wish they could get rid of, such as smoking,
excessive eating, laziness, procrastination or lack of assertiveness. To overcome
these habits or addictions, one needs a certain degree of willpower and selfdiscipline. Their possession makes a great difference in everyone's life, bringing
to the fore inner strength, self mastery and decisiveness.

Definitions of Will Power and Self Discipline

Will power is the ability to overcome laziness and procrastination. It is the
ability to control or reject unnecessary or harmful impulses. It is the ability to
arrive at a decision and follow it with perseverance until its successful
accomplishment. It is the inner power that overcomes the desire to indulge in
unnecessary and useless habits, and the inner strength that overcomes inner
emotional and mental resistance for taking action. It is one of the corner stones
of success, both spiritual and material.
Self-discipline is the companion of will power. It endows the one possessing it
with the stamina to persevere in whatever he or she does. It bestows the ability
to withstand hardships and difficulties, whether physical, emotional or mental.
It grants the ability to reject immediate satisfaction, in order to gain something
better, but, which requires effort and time.
Everyone has inner, unconscious, or partly conscious impulses, making them
say or do things they later regret saying or doing. On many occasions people do
not think before they talk or act. By developing these two powers, one becomes

-4conscious of the inner, subconscious impulses, and gains the ability to reject
them when they are not for his/her own good.
These two powers help us to choose our behavior and reactions, instead of being
ruled by them. Their possession wont make life dull or boring. On the contrary,
you will feel more powerful, in charge of yourself and your surroundings, happy
and satisfied.
How many times have you felt too weak, lazy or shy to do something you
wanted to do? You can gain inner strength, initiative and the ability to make
decisions and follow them. Believe me, it is not difficult to develop these two
powers. If you are earnest and are willing to become stronger, you will certainly
succeed.
There is a misconception in the public mind regarding will power. It is
erroneously thought to be something strenuous and difficult, and that one has to
exert and tense the body and mind when expressing it. It is a completely wrong
concept. This is one of the reasons why people avoid using it, though they are
conscious of its benefits. They acknowledge the fact that the employment of
will power in their life and affairs will greatly help them, and that they need to
strengthen it, yet they do nothing about it.
Will power gets stronger by holding back and not allowing the expression of
unimportant, unnecessary and unhealthy thoughts, feelings, actions and
reactions. If this saved energy is not allowed expression, it is stored inside you
like a battery, and it becomes available at the time of need. By practicing
appropriate exercises, you develop your powers the same way as a person who
trains his/her muscles in order to strengthen them.

Developing Will Power and Self Discipline

An effective method for developing and improving these abilities is to perform
certain actions or activities, which you would rather avoid doing due to laziness,
procrastination, weakness, shyness, etc. Doing things that you usually do not
like to do or feel too lazy to do, you overcome your subconscious resistance,
train your mind to obey you, strengthen your inner powers and gain inner
strength. Muscles get stronger by resisting the power of the barbells. Inner
strength is attained by overcoming inner resistance.

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Benefits of Possessing Will Power and Self Discipline

You need these skills to control your thoughts, improve your concentration, and
to become the boss of your mind. The stronger these skills are, the more inner
strength you possess.
Being the master of your mind you enjoy inner peace and happiness. External
events do not sway you, and circumstances have no power over your peace of
mind. This might sound too unreal for you, but experience will prove to you
that all the above is true.
These skills are vital for achieving success. They give you more control over
your life, help you change and improve habits, and are essential for self
improvement, spiritual growth and meditation.
(http://www.successconsciousness.com/index_000006.htm)

Self-discipline is the assertion of willpower

over more base desires.

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Brother, stand the pain;

escape the poison of your impulses.
(Rumi)

Without suffering the pain of self-restraint,

no recompense can follow.
(Rumi)

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The Power of Love

I believe in self-control, not coercion.
Coercion is based on oppression, and results in fear and hatred.
Self-control requires courage, and may be induced by Love.
We will do many things for those whom we Love which we would not
ordinarily do - which we would not ordinarily have the strength of
mind and power to do.
How many habits have we been able to break through Love,
which we would never have had the strength to break without Love?
(Meher Baba)

Sant Kirpal Singh

Because of Your love I have broken with my past.

(Rumi)

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In order to overcome our desires and to renounce all

those things, our love and inclination for which are wont
so to inflame the will that it delights therein,
we require a more ardent fire and a nobler love
that of the Bridegroom.
Finding her delight and strength in Him, the soul gains
the vigor and confidence which enable her easily to
abandon all other affections.
It was necessary, in her struggle with the attractive force
of her sensual desires, not only to have this love for the
Bridegroom, but also to be filled with a burning fervor,
full of anguish.
If our spiritual nature were not on fire with other and
nobler passions we should never cast off the yoke of the
senses, nor be able to enter on their night, neither should
we have the courage to remain in the darkness of all
things, and in denial of every desire.
(Saint John of the Cross)

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I once had a thousand desires,

but in my one desire to know You all else melted away.
(Rumi)

Self-respect is the fruit of discipline;

the sense of dignity grows with the ability
to say no to ones self.
(Abraham Joshua Heschel)

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Feeling Good:
But Not Necessarily About Ourselves
Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. (excerpts Part 1)
I think its safe to say that whenever we feel good about ourselves, we feel good,
period.
Our most potent safeguard against lifes ups and downs is developing the most
positive sense of self possible. Thus protected against the slings and arrows of
outrageous fortune, we can almost always feel goodregardless of whats
going on in the day-to-day drama of our lives.
Too many of us unconsciously assume that the best way to foster happiness is to
partake in as many experiences as we can that will promote feelings of euphoria.
By nature, were impelled to avoid anything painful and pursue (and maybe
become addicted to) anything pleasurable.
Unless our values and priorities have evolved beyond this elemental pleasure
principle, well remain more or less bounded by this fundamental biological
disposition. Natural-born hedonists, well follow any feel good path that
presents itself, and be seduced by any immediate promise of pleasure.
And this basic motivation will exist independent of any reflection as to whether
what, momentarily, makes us feel good will actually be good for us in the long
runthat is, will actually contribute to our feeling good about ourselves.
What Id like to illustrate is that pleasure pursuits fail to provide anything in the
way of self-nurturance. Finding ways to get high might look like an effective
way to inject more joy into our lives, but such pleasure-seeking really has
nothing to do with the fundamental nurturance of self, pivotal to achieving an
enduring state of well-being.
As opposed to self-indulgence, self-nurturance fosters both the physical and
psychological health requisite to our happiness. Here were not treating
ourselves to something that in the moment makes us feel better but ultimately is
bad for us. Were not looking for a quick fix to alter our mood or consciousness
so as to escape the boredom, drudgery or pain of our existence, or to drown out
nagging doubts we have about ourselves. Rather, were addressing our inborn
needs for self-succorbut in an adult, responsible fashion.

-11Obviously, acting in a self-indulgent fashion is virtually synonymous with

choosing things primarily on the basis of how good they'll make us feel.
Also intimately linked are self-nurturing behaviors and behaviors consciously
contrived to foster good feelings about ourself.
I'd like to describe how we can increase the likelihood that our choices-regardless of how much they may specifically make us feel good in the
moment--will increase the likelihood of our ending up feeling better about
ourselves generally. Additionally, I'll be discussing how to decide against
doing those things that won't, and can't, promote these more lasting feelings
of self-satisfaction--despite how much they might help us feel good in the
present.
Generally speaking, we can distinguish between actions that make us feel
good vs. those enabling us to actually feel good about ourselves--by
considering their aftereffects.
For typically, whatever we employ as a shortcut for feeling "up" brings us back
down in accelerated fashion as well. When the initial high has worn off, we're
right back where we started--if not a little bit below our personal baseline.
Our feeling good has had almost everything to do with something outside us.
Consequently, when our "drug of choice" has worn off, we're no happier than
when we started. The permanent form of whatever "fix" we received from
without continues to elude us from within.
The true "object of our desire" is to have a self-affirming, unconditionally
loving relationship with our self--the one relationship that's absolutely vital
to an enduring state of well-being. And although this relationship to self may
not yet exist for us, it is (whether we're aware of it or not ) precisely what we all
long for.
If we're dependent on alcohol, marijuana, cocaine, amphetamines, or any
other drug that alters our mind or mood (and such a "drug" may also
include food, prescribed medication, or tobacco), it's safe to assume that
our reliance on it keeps us from applying ourselves to--and ultimately
achieving--the growth and change we require to feel really good about
ourselves. (psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/200905/feeling-good-vs-feeling-good-about-ourselves-part-1)

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Focusing Less on Feeling Good

and More on Feeling Good About Ourselves
Leon F. Seltzer (excerpts Part 2)
Once we recognize what allows us to feel good only temporarily, we can start
searching for more satisfying alternatives.
Generally, the path toward feeling really good about ourselves requires much
more reflection, self-restraint and discipline than we may have demonstrated till
now.
And developing these qualities begins with an almost spiritual commitment to
self that previously may have eluded usthe commitment to becoming the best,
most complete and realized person we can be.
Here our fundamental concern is with liking ourselves more, being prouder
of who we are, more self-accepting, respecting, and nurturingand, of
course, more empathic, compassionate and understanding toward others as well.
Finally, learning to feel really good about ourselves is a major part of what
personal growth and evolution is all about. And our progress in this venture
requires us to become more adult in our thinking.
Most of what I address links intimately to the core concept of self-esteem. And
my key recommendation on how to give up pursuing transient feelings of
euphoria and instead seek out those things that culminate in far-more-lasting
positive feelings about self is one that will also boost our self-esteem. And it
will promote a self-love that is totally separate from any mere narcissistic
gratification.
Here, simply put, is my recipe. And let me add that while its easy enough for
me to articulate, it may be (certainly at times, will be) anything but easy to
implementor rather, commit yourself to implementing.
For this formula might fly in the face of unconscious but firmly entrenched
defenses youve adopted over the years to protect yourself from emotional
distress.
The behavioral principle Im advocating is this. Before taking action of any
kind, ask yourself whether its likely to make you feel better about
yourselfor worse.

-13Your sole criterion for determining whether to go ahead with any

particular behavior is deciding whether doing so is in line with the more
positive self-regard you're striving to cultivate.
So, independent of how pleasant or gratifying the behavior under
consideration might be, if you evaluate it as not likely to contribute to your
feeling good about yourself, you're obliged to rule against it.
This could mean saying "no" to any number of behaviors that are enjoyable but
can offer only immediate satisfaction (while leading to regrets later on).
When you rise above your reluctance to doing something that's good for you-despite initially not being inclined to do it, or feeling afraid to do it--what you'll
notice is that with each positively evaluated action you take, you'll feel better
about yourself.
If we're finally to transcend these internal barriers and elevate how we see
ourselves, we simply must determine to choose our behaviors on the basis of
how--not immediately but ultimately--they're likely to make us feel.
And, frankly, to be honest with ourselves this way takes considerable discipline
and fortitude. But it offers considerable rewards as well.
Whenever we can disallow ourselves the option of taking the easy way out
and do what--deep down--we recognize as best for us, we can experience a
trust, appreciation, and liking for ourselves that far exceed whatever
"highs" we might derive from focusing primarily on feeling good right now.
Getting into the habit of choosing to do whatever helps us grow and expand--as
well as deciding against behaviors that ultimately keep us stuck--virtually
guarantees that we'll be on the right path to feeling better and better about
ourselves.
It will assure that over time we'll be able to say farewell to old fears--those
nervous anxieties and apprehensions that may have governed too many of our
actions in the past. And taking leave of these ultimately self-defeating behaviors
will enable us, finally, to feel consistently good about ourselves.
(http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/200905/feeling-good-vs-feeling-good-about-ourselves-part-2)

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The spiritual path is a difficult one

and requires a rigorous self-discipline.
(Sant Kirpal Singh, ruhanisatsangusa.org/receptive.htm)

While we sojourn in this dark region of matter, we have to deal with

the negative power. With him we must contend in our struggles for
spiritual freedom. It is his duty to try to hold us here, while it is our
duty to try to escape. The resulting struggle purges us and makes us
strong, and fits us for our homeward journey. This everlasting fight,
this struggle in a welter of pain and blood and heart cries, is designed
by the supreme Father to purge us and make us clean, ready for our
homeward ascent. Let us never become discouraged. All of this is
designed by the Father for our benefit. It is much as if one enters a
gymnasium to take exercise. If we meet these difficulties in the right
spirit, we shall greatly profit by them. The idea of pain and struggle is
to purge us and inspire in us a longing to rise above the regions of
pain and shadow. (Julian Johnson, The Path of the Masters, 259)

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Discipline
(Henepola Gunaratana Sri Lankan Theravada Buddhist monk)
Discipline is a difficult word for most of us. It conjures up images of somebody
standing over you with a stick, telling you that you are wrong. But selfdiscipline is different. Its the skill of seeing through the hollow shouting of
your own impulses and piercing their secret.
They have no power over you. Its all a show, a deception. Your urges scream
and bluster at you; they cajole; they coax; they threaten; but they really carry no
stick at all. You give in out of habit. You give in because you never really
bother to look beyond the threat. It is all empty back there. There is only one
way to learn this lesson though. The words on this page wont do it.
But look within and watch the stuff coming up restlessness, anxiety,
impatience, pain just watch it come up and dont get involved. Much to your
surprise, it will simply go away. It rises, it passes away. As simple as that.
There is another word for self-discipline. It is patience.

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Next begins a rigid system of self-control, enforcing the

rule in every detail of life. We are constantly beset by
five foes - passion, anger, greed, worldly attachments,
and vanity. All these must be mastered, brought under
control. You can never do that entirely until you have
the aid of the Guru and are in harmonic relations with
the Sound Current. But you can begin now, and
every effort will be a step on the way.
(Sawan Singh, Spiritual Gems, 339)

Hazur Baba Sawan Singh Ji

It is a path of love, discipline and self-control.

After the initial spiritual experience given at the time of
Initiation, the rest depends on relentless regular practice
as enjoined by the Master.
(Sant Kirpal Singh, The Teachings of Kirpal Singh, v. 3, 52, 53)

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Lets ask God to help us to self-control:

for one who lacks it, lacks His grace.
(Rumi)

The intelligent desire self-control; children want candy!

(Rumi)

If men live decently it is because discipline saves

their very lives for them.
(Sophocles)

Freedom is not procured by a full enjoyment of what is

desired, but by controlling the desire.
(Epictetus)

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The first and best victory is to conquer self.

To be conquered by self is, of all things,
the most shameful and vile.
(Plato)

Remember that there is always a limit to selfindulgence, but none to self-restraint.

(Mahatma Gandhi)

There never has been, and cannot be,

a good life without self-control.
(Leo Tolstoy)

A horse that resists the reins, a car without brakes

and a person with no self-control, are all equally
headed for disaster.
(Sathya Sai Baba)

Self-discipline is your golden key;

Without it, you cannot be happy.
(Maxwell Maltz)

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Ultimate Fulfillment May Require You to Make

Many Painful Sacrifices.
(Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. excerpts)
Surrendering to immediate, self-indulgent attractions or enticements inevitably
leads to your becoming subservient to them. And as a consequence, the
likelihood of achieving longer-term goals is seriously undermined.
Self-discipline is what reflects your commitment to hold fast to certain values
and priorities--whether it's a pledge to follow through on a promise, fulfill an
obligation, or promote some personal or professional interest.
At any moment your actual desire to do what you know should be done may be
minimal. In these instances the only thing enabling you to drive yourself
forward is your word to yourself, your core principles, and your determination to
act responsibly--regardless of your present mood or disposition.
Self-control and self-discipline are indistinguishable. Without them, the
behavior you might be prompted to engage (or indulge) in will almost certainly
culminate in later regret.
I believe it can actually be quite gratifying to deny yourself some immediate
enjoyment in that you've demonstrated to yourself sufficient strength to
"achieve" this denial. As ironic as it may seem, realizing that you were able to
show really good judgment--and restraint--in refusing to pay the overly high
price of partaking in a particular pleasure can be unusually satisfying.
Doing what you've pre-determined is best for you--rather than permitting
yourself to constantly get sidetracked by what immediately seems more
pleasurable--will grant you far more satisfaction and joy in the long run.
(http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/201111/self-discipline-can-it-verge-masochism)

Self-discipline: a willingness to do whatever it takes to

reach personally valued goals and objectives,
independent of whatever challenges, or unpleasantness,
may be linked to the process of attaining them.
(Leon Seltzer)

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No one is free who is not master of himself.

(Shakespeare)

Most powerful is he who has himself in his own power.

(Seneca)

What lies in our power to do,

it lies in our power not to do.
(Aristotle)

No conflict is so severe
as his who labors to subdue himself.
(Thomas a Kempis)

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Character The Essence of Self-Discipline

I recently heard a story told by Cavett Robert, a well known public speaker,
describing how he learned about strength of character during a college class.
Dr. James picked up the roster. I knew that he was getting ready to call on me
and I wasnt prepared. I saw there were only five minutes to go. Hed been
discussing character so I raised my hand and said Dr. James, just a minute.
Would you please give me a definition of character that I could write down?
He looked at me and then he looked at the clock. He knew that I didnt really
care what character was, but he was a kind gentleman.
I remember he put his hands behind him. He walked around the room. Then he
stopped right in front of me, dropped his finger on my shoulder, and he said this,
Young man, I dont know. Im not sure. But Im going to give you a definition
of character that I want you to keep, until you can get one better. Now thats
been about forty years ago and Ive never found one half as good or one that has
helped so much in my work.
He said, Character is the ability to carry out a good resolution long after the
mood in which it has been made has left you.
He then said, I didnt say it was just the ability to carry out a good resolution;
we all have our moments of supreme dedicationbut how few of us can carry
out that resolution when the mood has left us and the tides of temptation have
come sweeping in!
He went on, Now you have a test in the morning. And you are going to get up
in the morning and study for it. And at night when you go to bed you are going
to get up. But, in the morning when the early hour comes, the alarm clock goes
off and you put your foot out on the cold floorby then the mood has left you.
So character is that which you have within yourself to substitute for the mood.
It will make you get up anyway.
You know those five minutes have burned very brightly through the last forty
years. Many times I have committed myself to some project or some
assignment when I was in the mood. I was swept along by the compulsion of
the moment. And then the mood would leave me and the task would seem drab.
No glory of attraction. And then I would try to remember that which I have
within myself to substitute for the mood.

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Mental toughness is many things and rather difficult to

explain. Its qualities are sacrifice and self-denial.
Also, most importantly, it is combined with a perfectly
disciplined will that refuses to give in. It's a state of
mind - you could call it character in action.
(Vince Lombardi)

He who lives without discipline dies without honor.

(Icelandic Proverb)

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How to Build Self-Discipline

(Peter Clemens)

Discipline is freedom. You may disagree with this statement, and if you do you
are certainly not alone. For many people discipline is a dirty word that is
equated with the absence of freedom. In fact the opposite is true.
As Stephen R. Covey once wrote, the undisciplined are slaves to moods,
appetites and passions.
Self-discipline involves acting according to what you think instead of how
you feel in the moment. Often it involves sacrificing the pleasure and thrill
of the moment for what matters most in life.
If you struggle with self-discipline, the good news is that it can be developed.
The following are what I have found to be the five traits of self-discipline:
2. Self-Knowledge
Discipline means behaving according to what you have decided is best,
regardless of how you feel in the moment.
Therefore the first trait of discipline is self-knowledge. You need to decide what
behavior best reflects your goals and values. This process requires introspection
and self-analysis.
2. Conscious Awareness
Self-discipline depends upon conscious awareness as to both what you are doing
and what you are not doing. Think about it. If you arent aware your behavior
is undisciplined, how will you know to act otherwise?
As you begin to build self-discipline, you may catch yourself being in the act of
being undisciplined. Developing self-discipline takes time, and the key here is
you are aware of your undisciplined behavior. With time this awareness will
come earlier, meaning rather than catching yourself in the act of being
undisciplined you will have awareness before you act in this way. This gives
you the opportunity to make a decision that is in better alignment with your
goals and values.

-243. Commitment to Self-Discipline

If you struggle with commitment, start by making a conscious decision to follow
through on what you say youre going to do both when you said you would do
it and how you said you would do it. Then, I highly recommend putting in place
a system to track these commitments. As the saying goes, What gets measured
gets improved.
4. Courage
Self-discipline is often extremely difficult. Moods, appetites and passions can
be powerful forces to go against. Therefore self-discipline is highly dependent
on courage.
Dont pretend something is easy for you to do when it is in fact very difficult
and or painful. Instead, find the courage to face this pain and difficulty. As you
begin to accumulate small private victories, your self-confidence will grow and
the courage that underpins self-discipline will come more naturally.
5. Internal Coaching
Self-talk is often harmful, but it can also be extremely beneficial if you have
control of it. When you find yourself being tested, I suggest you talk to yourself,
encourage yourself and reassure yourself.
After all, it is self-talk that has the ability to remind you of your goals, call up
courage, reinforce your commitment and keep you conscious of the task at hand.
When I find my discipline being tested, I always recall the following quote:
The price of discipline is always less than the pain of regret. Burn this
quote into your memory, and recall in whenever you find yourself being tested.
It may change your life. (http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/self-discipline/)

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The strong man is the one who is able to intercept at

will the communication between
the senses and the mind.
(Napoleon Bonaparte)

He that would be superior to external influences

must first become superior to his own passions.
(Samuel Johnson)

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Addictive Voice Recognition Technique:

How to Overcome Addictive Behavior
Observe your thoughts and feelings, positive and negative, about drinking or
using drugs or any other addictive behavior. Thoughts and feelings which
support continued use are called the Addictive Voice (AV); those which support
abstinence are you.
When you recognize and understand your AV, it becomes not-you, but "it," an
easily-defeated enemy that has been causing you to engage in addictive behavior.
All it wants is pleasure.
"I want a drink," becomes, "It wants a drink." Think to yourself, "I will never
drink again," and listen for its reaction. Your negative thoughts and feelings are
your AV talking back to you. Now, think, "I will drink/use whenever I please."
Your pleasant feelings are also the AV, which is in control.
Recovery is not a process; it is an event. The magic word is "Never," as in, "I
will never drink/use again."
Recognition defeats short-term desire, and abstinence soon becomes effortless.
Complete separation of "you" from "it" leads to complete recovery and hope for
a better life.
The only time you can drink is now, and the only time you can quit for good is
right now. "I will never drink/use again," becomes, "I never drink now." It's not
hard; anyone can do it.
AVRT is an insight into the nature of addiction which places you in complete
control over the decision to drink or use drugs (or engage in other addictive
behaviors).
Although AVRT is very, very simple, you have to know what you're doing, and
learning it can be tricky at first. This is because your AV uses your own
intelligence and personality in order to remain concealed from you. It is ruthless
in its pursuit of pleasure, but it can also be quite subtle, forceful, seductive,
persistent, patient, and has many other qualities. (https://rational.org/index.php?id=36)

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The Structural Model of Addiction

Copyright, 1996, Rational Recovery Systems, Inc.

The Structural Model of Addiction is unique to Rational Recovery. This simple

idea helps make sense of your addiction and shows you why you have been
behaving so stupidly. Ridding yourself of disease-thinking can help you recover
from substance addiction.
There is no evidence that addiction is or is caused by a disease. To the contrary,
addiction is a natural function of a healthy, human body. The disease concept of
addiction has become quite popular, mainly because it is the nature of addicted
people to dignify their deplorable conduct. The disease concept of addiction is
an example of the Addictive Voice concealing the actual reason people
drink/use while it discourages individual initiative.
Brain chemistry, genetics, and personal issues are irrelevant to addiction and
recovery. Our 2-part brain model, below, is simple, but for our purposes, not
simplistic. There are no hidden causes for your addiction; you drink because
you love to drink. You use because you love the way it feels.
When the disease concept becomes part of your Addictive Voice, you will feel
like a victim of circumstances rather than someone who is responsible for
becoming addicted, for staying addicted and for immediately quitting your
addiction right now, for good.
In effect, you have two separate brains within your head a human brain,
which supports consciousness, and an animal/beast brain which supports life
itself. The beast brain generates survival appetites which drive the rest of the
body toward what it demands, such as oxygen, food, sex, and fluids.
These survival needs are all associated with physical pleasure, i.e., the better
something feels, the more necessary it seems for survival. Alcohol and other
drugs feel better than anything else, including food, sex, even breathing. Your
survival drive has become a death drive in search of physical pleasure.
Your survival appetite is aimed at the wrong stuff, to be sure, but addiction is
more a reflection of health than of a mysterious disease. The desire for pleasure
fades among sick or diseased people, further suggesting that addiction is a
reflection of health rather than a disease process. In RR, some call the human
midbrain the party center, because of the bond between pleasure and addiction.

-28Of course, it is often quite stupid (self-defeating) to act on healthy desires or

impulses, as in substance addictions.

We call your desire for the pleasure of alcohol and other drugs the Beast. The
Beast of Booze, or the Beast of Buzz, is ruthless in getting what it wants because
it is about survival. It cannot speak, it cannot see, it has no arms or legs, and it
has no intelligence of its own.
The Beast is utterly powerless to act on its own. Instead, it uses your thoughts
and intelligence, sees through your eyes, creates strong feelings, and persuades
you to use your hands, arms, and legs in order to obtain its favorite substance. It
must appeal to you to get alcohol or drugs into your bloodstream.
Although your beast brain has no language ability, it uses your language and
thinking centers to get what it wants. It is an animal mentality that can talk in
your head. For example, if you wisely decide that drinking is bad for you, and
that you will stop, you will soon hear that old, familiar voice telling you why
you should continue drinking. You may even imagine a picture of what you
want to drink. That is your Addictive Voice, the sole cause of addiction,
expressing the Beast's demand for alcohol/drugs. Addictive Voice is to Beast as
bark is to dog.
There are two parties to your addiction - you and your Beast, I and it. You
can easily recognize your Addictive Voice using the following definition:
Any thinking, imagery, or feeling that supports or suggests the possible future
use of alcohol or drugs -- ever.
AVRT allows you to become acutely aware of Beast activity and dissociate from
it so it can no longer instigate action. Then you may confidently decide youll
never drink again, and feel the grand relief of knowing your addiction is finally
over.

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Meher Baba on Addiction

The value of sense-objects is great or small according to the intensity or urgency
with which they are desired. If these lusts and longings increase, the
corresponding objects assume greater importance. If they subside in their
intensity or urgency, the objects also lose much of their importance. If the lusts
and longings appear intermittently, those objects retain possible value when the
lusts and longings are latent, and actual value when they are manifested. All
these are false values because they are not inherent in the objects themselves.
When in the light of true knowledge all the lusts and longings disappear
completely, objects vested with importance through the working of these lusts
and longings immediately lose all their borrowed importance and appear
meaningless.
Now just as a coin which is not in current use is treated as false, though it has a
kind of existence, so the objects of lusts and longings when seen in their
emptiness are treated as false, though these objects might continue to have some
kind of recognition. They are all there, and they may be known and seen, but
they no longer mean the same thing. They hold false promise of fulfillment to
an imagination which is perverted by lusts and longings, but to the tranquil and
steady perception they are seen to have no importance when they are considered
separate from the soul. (http://discoursesbymeherbaba.org/v3-140.php)

After half a century in psychiatric practice,

I know without a doubt that the source of addiction is
spiritual deficiency. Irrespective of whether we are
religious or atheist, all human beings are spiritual by
nature and spirituality is the cornerstone of our recovery.
(Dr. Abraham Twerski)

For an addict any excuse is a good excuse.

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Discipline is remembering what you want.

(David Campbell)

The successful person has the habit of doing the things

failures don't like to do. They don't like doing them
either necessarily. But their disliking is subordinated
to the strength of their purpose.
(E.M. Gray)

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It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand

battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken
from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell.
(Buddha)

Some form of self-discipline is necessary to transmute

material desires into spiritual aspirations.
(Paramahansa Yogananda)

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My face is overrun with wrinkles;

My head is marked with gray.
My limbs have gone flaccid;
Craving alone keeps its youth and vigor.
(Vairagya-Shataka; Hindu scripture)

May your soul be happy;

journey joyfully.
(Rumi)
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