Introduction

Welcome to the Coaching from the Inside Out virtual training program!
Over the course of 19 audios, you will learn a simple but profound understanding that
explains not only why we feel the way we feel, but also how peoples experience of life
can change for the better in a matter of moments. As you integrate this understanding
into your life and work, you will begin to see seemingly miraculous transformations
happen before your eyes time and time again

Why Coaching from the Inside-Out?
In 1931, the nine year old actor Jackie Cooper was playing the title role in the film
Skippy. In order to coach a great performance out of him, the director reportedly
bought Cooper a puppy as a present. On the day of the big emotional climax of the
film, with the cameras rolling, he threatened to shoot the dog if Cooper didn't cry on
demand. Cooper bawled in terror, the scene was filmed, and Cooper went on to
become the youngest actor ever to win an Academy Award for best actor for his
performance.

That's an extreme example of what I call the outside-in approach to coaching. From
Knute Rockne's real life "Win one for the Gipper" speech to Gene Hackman's
understated half-time pep talk in the film Hoosiers, the coach finds the athlete's (or
client's) hot buttons - their values, beliefs, and emotional access points - and presses
them in key moments to "push them into greatness".

There is a place for this kind of coaching, and at its best it is truly magnificent to watch
and experience. Yet to paraphrase the great motivator Zig Ziglar, this kind of coaching
is like taking a bath. Just because you had a great one yesterday doesn't mean you
won't need another one today.

People do internalize outside-in coaching over time - they learn to give themselves pep
talks in their heads, and to visualize danger or reward to coax an extra mile run or an
extra hour of work out of themselves. But this kind of self-manipulation is ultimately self-
defeating, as it's most often driven by what a person thinks they should do and has a
tendency of pushing them further and further out of sync with their innate wisdom and
inner knowing.

Coaching from the inside out isn't just about getting more out of a person in the
moment. It's about pointing them towards the source of great performance until they
see it for themselves and can connect with it almost at will. It's less about setting
someone's emotions on fire than re-igniting their divine spark, which feels like inspired


well-being on the inside and looks like a twinkle in their eyes to the world.

There is a beautiful story about the spiritual teacher Syd Banks talking about the inside
out approach with a man who was considering changing careers and beginning to
work with people in this new way.

Syd said "We have the most wonderful job in the world. We find people in various stages
of sleep. And then we get to tap them on the shoulder and be with them as they wake
up to the full magnificence of life."

And that for me is the promise of the inside-out approach. Worst case, our clients feel
more at peace and have a more wonderful experience of being alive. Best case, they
feel more at peace, have a more wonderful experience of being alive, win the big
game, and drive home in a Porsche. Either way, the world is a better place for having
them (and us) in it.

How to get the most out of this program
I highly recommend that after finishing this introduction, you listen to the audios all the
way through one time as if you were in the room with us. Dont worry if theres
something you dont understand just keep listening and chances are it will become
clear to you later on in the program.
When there are exercises, take at least some time to reflect on whats being asked of
the live participants before moving forward. This will ensure that you have some
personal context for the experiences and insights they share in the segments which
follow. You can also share your own experiences, insights, and questions on the
Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/cftio/
Once youve been all the way through the program once, take a break. Let the
material settle in and notice what stays with you, like running river water through a sieve
to separate out the water from the silt from the gold. This workbook contains the full
text of the readings I do in the live program, as well as photos of the flipcharts and some
additional reference material to support you in your learning.
Each time you return to this program you will hear new things. Thats both the nature of
the mind and the nature of this material. So I recommend listening to it all the way
through at least three times. But you may also like to go back and listen to specific
segments again, especially if you found them particularly moving or a bit unsettling. You
will find a guide to every track at the end of this introduction to help you quickly locate
the segments you are looking for.




Whats with the language?
The controversial minister Tony Campolo once delivered a sermon that began with
these words:
"I have three things I'd like to say today. First, while you were sleeping last night, 30,000
kids died of starvation or diseases related to malnutrition. Second, most of you don't
give a shit. What's worse is that you're more upset with the fact that I said shit than the
fact that 30,000 kids died last night."
While I almost never use provocative language in my private life, I do find it can wake
people up in a coaching or training setting. Youll hear a lot of it in these audios!

How can I integrate this approach into my own practice?
While this may sound like the most important question of all, in some ways its the easiest
one to answer.
There is nothing you need to do to integrate this material into your practice.
New things will naturally occur to you as you get more deeply in touch with and more
trusting of the flow of your own wisdom, and you will notice your coaching changing,
seemingly all by itself. Some of your old outside-in tools and techniques may stop
making sense to use, and you will be pleasantly surprised at what shows up to take their
place.
While you certainly can experiment with deliberately abandoning your current
coaching model for a particular session or with a specific client, always let your wisdom
and common sense guide you. Never let a set of good ideas get in the way of being
fully present with another human being and letting the magic unfold.
Coaching is a noble profession. If you treat the people who come to you with humility,
respect, and loving kindness, you will be awed at what they (and you) are able to
accomplish. I wish you all the best on your journey
Have fun, learn heaps, and may all your success be fun!
With all my love,




Track List


Day One, Track 1

Physics vs. engineering
A new model of coaching
An overview of the 3 days
Exercise: Exploring your grounding
The power of hope
How healing actually happens

Day One, Track 2

Eating cheesecake
The self-correcting mechanism
3 models of how life works
Understanding the thought/feeling system
The gift of insight
Letting go of control
The parabolic microphone effect

Day One, Track 3

Experiences and Insights
Pointing towards whats real
Exercise: Whats your job?
Coaching session: Becoming unemployed
Coaching session: Sex and intimacy
Coaching session: Creating effortless success
Coaching Session: The source of well-being

Day One, Track 4

Questions and Insights
Coaching Session: Finding energy
Exercise: Two step coaching model






Day One, Track 5

The power of simplicity
The danger of prescriptions
David Bohm on consciousness and spirit

Day Two, Track 1

Learning how to thrive
Exploring new thought
Goals and planning
The impersonal nature of principles
The nature of thought and problem solving

Day Two, Track 2

Staying in the conversation
How shall I live?
Why people hire a coach
Laws of the outer world and innate wisdom
Waking up from the dream

Day Two, Track 3

The unknown and the known
Creating from nothing
Exercise: Sharing the inside-out understanding

Day Two, Track 4

Putting form to the formless
Going back to the drawing board
The toolbox vs. the well
The real value and purpose of coaching

Day Two, Track 5

Going to the well
Free will and decision making
Coaching session: A fresh look at relationships
The secret of resilience
Unconditional love and moods







Day Two, Track 6

Emotional detoxing
Exercise: One step coaching model

Day Two, Track 7

Living from essence
Transitioning to the inside-out
Why people actually hire you
Day Three, Track 1

Interventionless intervention
Hidden aspects of the human potential
The relative impact of state of mind
Coaching session: Navigating your life
Exercise: Making decisions from the inside-out

Day Three, Track 2

Commitments vs. agreements
Mind turtles and rumble strips

Day Three, Track 3

Simple vs. simplistic
Evaluating progress and direction
E = MC

Coaching Session: Doing business without suffering
Separating the form and the formless
Coaching session: Reconciling money and soul

Day Three, Track 4

Grounding vs. "fake it 'til you make it"

Day Three, Track 5

Looking for the truth vs. the most useful lie
Shifting the sales paradigm
The secret millionaire stratagem


How do I know what to ask next?
Features and benefits of coaching
The relevance of relevance
Exercise: Selling the invisible

Day Three, Track 6

Keys to selling to business
The "always on" nature of the principles
Exercise: Going forward with the inside-out understanding

Day Three, Track 7

The freedom to be yourself
How do I set my fees?
Reconciling conversation and quiet
The benefits of staying in the conversation
















Material from the
Live Program


















Pre-questions from the live Coaching from the Inside Out Seminar


How long have you been coaching?


What coaching training have you already done?

What coaching training have you already done?


Do you have a particular methodology or philosophical
stance you coach from?


Approximately how many clients do you currently have?

What is your own most profound experience of your life
transforming and/or changing for the better? To what do
you attribute the transformation?



If you could get only one thing or make only one change as
a result of this program, what would it be and why?





The field of the finite is all that we can see,
hear, touch, remember, and describe. This field
is basically that which is manifest, or tangible.

The essential quality of the infinite, by contrast, is
its subtlety, its intangibility. This quality is
conveyed in the word spirit, whose root
meaning is wind or breath. This suggests an
invisible but pervasive energy, to which the
manifest world of the finite responds.

This energy, or spirit, infuses all living things, and
without it any organism must fall apart into its
constituent elements. That which is truly alive in
living systems is this energy of spirit, and this is
never born and never dies.

-David Bohm






The Nature of Thought and Problem Solving
I ran a couple of Shifting the Foundations coaching intensives in the past week,
spending three days with each client looking deep into the heart of the inside-out
understanding of life and the human experience. While they couldn't have been more
different from one another, there was one theme which emerged strongly for both of
them - how a deeper understanding of the nature of Thought can transform the way
we go about handling problems in our lives.

To better understand the power of Thought, consider an iceberg. While icebergs can
appear anywhere from 1 foot to 551 feet above sea level (the height of a 55 story
building), the visible part of the "ice mountain" is generally only 1/9 of the full size. That
means that even the smallest iceberg penetrates 9 feet deep into the ocean, while the
invisible portion of the largest recorded iceberg is nearly 4 times the size of the Empire
State Building.



So far, this fits with most models of the mind as containing a conscious part, which can
process up to 40 bits of information per second, and the sub or unconscious, which
some scientists believe can process as many as 40 million bits of information per second.
The argument is that since so much more is going on "underneath the surface" than we
know, the most powerful thing we can do to change our lives is to find ways to access,
program, and reprogram the unconscious.

But what is missed in this metaphor is that icebergs only exist in the middle of large
bodies of water - and while they appear solid, they are actually made of the same
water that surrounds them. In our efforts to get past the "icebergs" in our minds, we fail
to see that what is holding up our boat is made of the same stuff - Thought - as the
thinking we are struggling to control or change.

We can see the same distinction at play when we consider the difference between a
problem, which seems to need to be solved, and a logistic, which may or may not
need to be taken into account depending on what it is we are trying to create in our
lives.


What turns a logistic into a problem is the way that we are thinking about it. For
example, if we think that not having enough money to buy something is a problem, we
will fill our minds with thinking about how to make more money or how unfair it is that we
are unable to do so. If we recognize that the amount of money we have access to in
the moment is simply one factor in the process of creating what we want, we may or
may not even address that factor depending on what other possibilities and resources
occur to us.

Here's another example:
Imagine you wake to hear your child screaming.
You run into their bedroom, relieved to see that
there's no immediate danger but concerned about
what has them so frightened. They tell you that
there's a monster at the end of the bed. To your
surprise, when you turn to look there is indeed
something which looks like a monster looming over
them.

However, a second glance reveals that it's only the
shadow of a toy left on the windowsill, brought to
life by the moonlight which streams through the
window behind them.

To your child, who believes the monster is real, their
only choices are to cower in fear or to run through
a menu of problem solving strategies, ranging from
hiding under the covers to seeing if they can outrun
you and hoping that once the monster eats you, it
will be full and leave them in peace.

But because you recognize the "monster" is only the
shadow of a toy, you're not inclined to do anything
to make it go away. Because you understand
something about the nature of light and shadow,
you know that the moment the light changes, the
monster will transform or even disappear
completely.

When we think that our problems are real, we take the problem as a given and do our
best to navigate around, over, or through it. The logical question to ask when faced
with a "real" problem is this:

Given the reality of this problem, what are the best things I can do to either solve it or
cope with it more effectively?



But to believe that a problem exists independent of the thinking which creates it is like
believing that an iceberg can exist without the water that makes it up. It's simply not the
way things actually work.

And when we see that problems are made up of Thought, a new possibility emerges. In
any moment, what seems like a solid and insoluble problem in your life could disappear
back into the formless energy out of which it came. Which raises a different yet equally
logical question:

Given that there is no "reality" to this problem, I wonder what new possibilities will
appear to me once my thinking changes?

To me, one of the most beautiful things about Thought is that it is at the heart of
everything we experience, from monsters to angels and from problems to possibilities.
And since we have an infinite potential for new thought, we are only ever one moment
and one new thought away from a completely different experience of being alive.

Have fun, learn heaps, and happy exploring!
With all my love,















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Additional Material



The Three Principles of Mind, Consciousness, and Thought as
articulated by Sydney Banks


Mind is the intelligence of all things; Consciousness makes you aware; and Thought is
like the rudder of a ship. It guides you through life and if you learn to use that rudder
properly, you can guide your way through life far better than you ever imagined. You
can go from one reality to another. You can find your happiness and when illusionary
sadness comes from memories, you don't try to figure it out. Please don't try to do that -
you'll get yourself in trouble. All you have to do is realize that it's Thought.

The second you realize that it's Thought, you are touching the very essence of
psychological experience. You're back to the "now," you're back to happiness. So don't
get caught up on a lot of details...

When you're ready, you will find what you're looking for. I don't care who you are. I
don't care where you are. If you're in the middle of the Sahara Desert...and it's time for
you to find the answer, the right person will appear in the middle of the desert and let
you know. He will say something to you that will trigger something inside you.

And that's where that life comes from...inside out. It's spiritual knowledge. It's there,
everybody has it and people don't realize that. There's no human being more spiritual
than you--everybody is equal.

And you know what the equality is?

That we all derive from Mind, Consciousness and Thought.

That's the equalizer. And while you have that equalizer you're as good as anybody on
this earth, you're as holy as anybody else on this earth. You always have been, always
will be, the only thing is you don't see it because of your thoughts."



ON MIND

"You know the eastern philosophers say: "big Mind, little mind". And here's the paradox.
The little mind is the ego mind, that's the self-centered "me" the big hotshot, the only
thing in the world worth looking at in the mirror, is me.

The big Mind is the Divine Mind--the Universal Mind, which is the intelligence of literally
all things in this world or any other world. That's the Mind you should be looking for. That's
the Mind that has the power to guide you through life, and if you can see that, life
becomes simple and you'll find your happiness. Because happiness is inside,
honestly...it's inside."

ON CONSCIOUSNESS

"Consciousness gives us the ability to realize the existence of life. Consciousness has
infinite amount of levels; you will never come to the end of Consciousness. It is literally
impossible, because Consciousness is infinite--there is no end. And that's a beautiful
thing to know, because it means to say there is no end of you finding beauty, love and
understanding in this world. You're not going to stagnate, you're going to keep growing,
and the secret to growing is not to try.

The secret to happiness is not to go out there and try and find it, because happiness is
not out there. Happiness lies within the consciousness of every human being if you can
take your mind, clear it, become healthy, and see what you've got. Because you all
have within you a divine secret, that all the wise, from the beginning of time have been
trying to tell the world. You have it. That's why the great mystics of the world tell you to
look within, because what you seek is inside."

"The way I see it, levels of Consciousness are similar to an outside elevator on a tall
building. It goes up and it goes down all day, every day. The higher the elevator car
ascends, the more can be surveyed. Views that may be blocked from the fourth floor
can easily be seen from the tenth.

Similarly, the higher your level of consciousness, the more understanding will be in your
heart. The higher the consciousness elevator ascends, the more you see and
understand, allowing you access to more common sense and wisdom. That is, when
your consciousness ascends to a higher level, it assists you to see beyond whatever
misled thoughts were obscuring your vision yesterday.

Now consider that if someone were trying to explain such a psychological elevator ride-
-say, to the twelfth floor-to a person who had never been above the second floor, the
conversation would appear mystical for the simple reason that he would be talking
about the as yet unknown."
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ON THOUGHT

"Remember--and this is very important--you're only one thought away from happiness,
you're only one thought away from sadness. The secret lies in Thought. It's the missing
link that everybody in this world is looking for.

We worry over nothing. How many times have you worried, and you look back in your
life and say, "I don't know why I ever worried about that," or you're in a big tantrum and
you're mad at the world or you're mad at your spouse and three days later, you can't
remember why you were mad - because all it was was thought and you forgot what
the thought was. The past is now, it's history, it's an illusion in time and if you're going to
work from that illusion in time, you're going to keep it going, there's no end to it.

To forgive is to forget, so you have to forget the past to forgive. Once you do that, you'll
find your freedom. But again I'm going to say to you, you don't just do that to other
people. When you look in the mirror, you see an innocent person. And I know
sometimes you might look in the mirror and say, "Innocent my foot." Because you don't
like what you see.

Why don't you like what you see? Because of your thoughts, we're back to that again.
It's always Thought, the missing link called Divine Thought. It's a gift that we were given
to have the freedom to walk through life and see what we want to see. How much
better than that can you get? That you have the freedom to walk through life and see
as a free thinker, that is the greatest gift ever, to be a free thinker.

Now this doesn't give you the permission to act on your thoughts because then again,
you have the freedom to have a thought to put life into it or let it die. I might have the
thought all of a sudden, "Ooh, I'd love to have more money, I'm going to rob this bank,"
but if I don't do anything about it, I haven't done anybody any harm. It's only when I put
life into my thoughts. But if I have the thought, "I'd like to help those people," so I put life
into this thought, and the second this life goes into this thought, my actions start, and I
go out and I help people because you put life into your thoughts. It's all Thought."





How Transformative Coaching Actually works
My son Oliver and I were talking the other day when he commented about how cool
he thought my job was, and I had to agree with him. After all, I spend my days talking
with people all around the world about their lives and the nature of life itself, and as a
result of those conversations, I get to witness their well-being and wisdom bubble up to
the surface as their lives begin to soar.

But even while we were speaking about that, I recognized the question he was likely
too embarrassed to ask, as I've seen it in the eyes of many people in the past and
heard it spoken aloud dozens if not hundreds of times:

What do you actually do?

I've had the question from my wife, my mother, my best friend, my students, radio
interviewers and potential clients. I've even had actual clients confront me after a
particularly dramatic transformative experience and say What the hell did you do to
me?

While I've never held back with my answers, I have struggled at times to make them
satisfying as I try to connect up the invisible, almost magical nature of what goes on
inside us with the wonderfully visible and tangible results that we can see showing up
outside us in our lives.

So in today's tip, I thought I'd share a bit of my current understanding of why something
that works so well actually works so well

If you have ever seen a post-apocalyptic film or comic book, from War of the Worlds to
Mad Max to modern classics like The Watchmen and The Book of Eli, you'll recognize
that one universal symbol that they nearly always contain is an image of new life
emerging through the scarred and scorched remains of a barren wasteland.

The most common one I've seen over the years is a green plant growing up through the
cracks of a concrete wasteland - a symbol of new beginnings and hope for the future.

It is not we humans who grow these plants - it is life itself, which like hope, springs
eternal.

So what does this have to do with transformative coaching?

Well, what we are doing as transformative coaches is not attempting to change our
clients to make them more or less like some sort of societal norm for happiness or
success. It is rather opening up cracks in the concrete of their world view that allows the
wonder and beauty that is inside them to find it's way to the surface, and then nurturing
that new life until its roots have truly taken hold.



This involves a shift from attempting to continually control the world in order to feel
better about ourselves to allowing our true self to guide us from the inside, and let the
chips fall where they may. Fortunately, the chips most often fall in the form of
meaningful work, wonderfully loving relationships, gentle prosperity, and happy success.

What can be frustrating about this approach is that we as coaches don't control the
timing of the insights that lead to transformation. A breakthrough may or may not
happen in a particular session, and new growth may or may not be evident each and
every week.

And because of the inside-out nature of this approach, at times it may seem like the
coach isn't even necessary. After all, if new life will find a way to emerge in even the
most difficult of circumstances, why pay all that money for a coach?

My answer comes in the form of a story I first wrote in Feel Happy Now:
A minister is driving through the country when he comes across a
truly glorious farm being tended to by a lone farmer.

Keen to remind the farmer of the source of his blessings, the minister
pulls over to the side of the road and calls the farmer over.

'The Lord has blessed you with a beautiful farm,' said the minister.

After a few moments' reflection, the farmer nodded his assent.

'He certainly has, Reverend - but you should have seen it when he
had it all to himself!'

Have fun, learn heaps, and if it feels like life is battering you, let it crack you up instead -
because it's through those cracks that your true self can most easily emerge!








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