Habits of Great Parents

Habits are repeated behaviours.
Whatever habit you would like to develop consciously behave the same way for 21 days continuously.
1. Great Parents Communicate their love. (Consistently )
2. Great Parents Have one-on-one time with each child.

Kids like their parents one at a time and will often compete for parental attention. Set
aside some regular time for each child and give them A-grade attention on your terms.
2. Great Parents - Parent differently for each child.

What worked with one child wont work
with another so be flexible with your behaviour management, communication and relationship-building skills. etc.
3. Great Parents Make it easy for their kids to behave well.

Kids usually want to behave well but many find behaving well hard.
Make it easy for them not by lowering your standards but by giving gentle reminders, setting up simple routines and giving simple verbal and non verbal cues.
If you child does something out of incompetence, then take the time to teach your child how to do it right.
4. Great Parents Know the difference between incompetence and rebelliousness.
If your child acts out of rebellion toward your authority as a parent, then this behavior needs to be disciplined or punished, and cannot be tolerated or accepted.
Great Parents Pick the battles
5. Rules, Consequences, Privileges
6.Great parents let children experience natural consequences.

Natural consequences are fabulous teachers so step back and allow kids to experience the outcome of their decision, whether pleasant or unpleasant.
7. Great parents Focus on feelings not just behaviour.

Next time a child asks for an extension to T.V. time because they enjoying a program , resist going into behaviour management mode and move into emotional intelligence mode. Its great to see you happy and really enjoying that program. Whats it like having so much fun? Then move them to bed while you are listening.
8. Great parents Use of Teachable moments

The best teaching moments aren't ones that are planned-they happen unexpectedly. Look for moral issues to talk about as they come up. Take advantage of those moments because they help your child develop solid moral beliefs that will help guide his behavior the rest of his life.
9. Great Parents are aware of Whats influencing children

As parents we must control the flow of ideas and images that are influencing our children. Great parents have an eye and ear for what children are absorbing.
10. Standing by your partner

Dont contradict your partner in front of them, dont fight with each other in front of them, and most definitely dont ever abuse each other. How you treat your partner affects their selfesteem, and the way they will treat themselves and their partner when they grow up. Be kind and respectful and loving of each other. And always work as a team never contradicting statements of the other.
10a. Keep your partner informed.

It helps if the primary parent, usually mothers, can keep partners informed about whats going on in childrens lives. These can include
updates about behaviour, educational achievements and their general wellbeing
11. Divide areas of responsibility.

Dont keep all the responsibilities to yourself. Bring your partner into the loop, and give them a share of the parenting jobs.
12. Make their problem, their problem.

Sometimes we as adults can take on their concerns and make them our own. If something doesnt bother a child, and there is no risk involved or no infringement on other peoples rights then let them be.
13 .Make Peace with Clutter

When they are little, they absolutely should learn to clean up their messes, but your house shouldnt be sterile. Its a home. Kids live there. And kids are messy.
14 .Get down and Dirty often

Guidelines to get down and dirty with your kids: Be an idiot. Face your fears. Enjoy the unknown.
15. Learn when to break rules

Part of a parents job is knowing what rules to make, how to enforce them, and when to break them. And then comes the hard part: explaining
why to your other kids.
16 . Warning Time
Give Warning Time: Give children a 5- 10 minute warning time to allow him to
finish what he is doing before you expect him to do something else. For
example, if your child is playing, you may say, "Youve 5 minutes to complete your game and then its study time
17 .Allowing experiences
Provide opportunity: Children need opportunities to explore different things. Let your child try things that they find interesting and enjoy the process of getting better rather than just the final outcome. The trip to the grocery store offers wonderful learning opportunities, from reading labels to using money to budgeting.
18 .Give your child some control over his life:

Kids want a little independence from you. From the time they wake up, let kids make their own choices for small decisions such as whether they want toast or cereal for breakfast, or allowing them to choose which shoes to wear. This helps to learn decision making.
19 .Encourage kids to be selfoccupiers.

Kids ability to keep themselves occupied cannot be underestimated. Avoid rushing in when they seem bored. Suggest ideas rather than provide entertainment. Self-occupiers readily get into the state of flow and get lost in play which is great for achievement and mental health.
20. Build layers of community around kids.
Family, friends, teachers, coaches, people in the broader community form a protective circle around kids, help keep them safe and prevent them from falling through the cracks. Encourage a sense of community. Let them bring friends home. Encourage them to take up community-based activities and value relationships they have with coaches, teachers and people in their neighbourhood.
21. Understand child development.

Some stages are harder than others and different stages require different things of kids.
Early childhood is about bonding and then breaking away. Middle childhood is about developing competencies and self-esteem and adolescence is about identity formation and breaking away.
Each stage has its own joys and challenges for parents. Appreciate each stage and dont wish them away.
22. Have regular family meetings.

They dont have to be too formal, and they are a great way for both parents address family issues together with their children.
23 .Have fun as a family.

Its hard to fight when youre having fun and enjoying each others company so look for ways to inject some fun and games into family life.
24. Talk with other parents.

Draw strength from other parents
Bad Habits
Dwelling on the past Nagging and Lecturing Feeling guilty
Children are tender, unique and precious;

they are not here to make you happy, meet your expectations, help you experience what you missed out in life, or to fulfill your needs.
Our sincere appreciation for doing a Great Job as a parent!!!.

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Habits are repeated behaviours.

1. Great Parents Communicate their love. (Consistently )

2. Great Parents Have one-on-one time with each child.

2. Great Parents - Parent differently for each child.

3. Great Parents Make it easy for their kids to behave well.

4. Great Parents Know the difference between incompetence and rebelliousness.

Great Parents Pick the battles

5. Rules, Consequences, Privileges

6.Great parents let children experience natural consequences.

7. Great parents Focus on feelings not just behaviour.

8. Great parents Use of Teachable moments

9. Great Parents are aware of Whats influencing children

10. Standing by your partner

10a. Keep your partner informed.

updates about behaviour, educational achievements and their general wellbeing

11. Divide areas of responsibility.

12. Make their problem, their problem.

13 .Make Peace with Clutter

14 .Get down and Dirty often

15. Learn when to break rules

why to your other kids.

18 .Give your child some control over his life:

19 .Encourage kids to be selfoccupiers.

20. Build layers of community around kids.

21. Understand child development.

22. Have regular family meetings.

23 .Have fun as a family.

24. Talk with other parents.

Children are tender, unique and precious;

Our sincere appreciation for doing a Great Job as a parent!!!.

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