Text Message Seduction
Text Message Seduction
Text Message Seduction
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Table of Contents
LIVE PROGRAMS
1
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
2
PART 1
6
MAY YOUR DATING LIFE BE
9
You will even learn:
10
BEST TEXT GAME ON THE PLANET
13
PART 2
16
HOW TO USE THIS PROGRAM
21
WHO IS THIS PROGRAM FOR?
22
WHO IS THIS PROGRAM NOT FOR?
24
WHY TEXTING IS THE PERFECT
25
Texting Messaging Statistics:
27
WHAT KIND OF RESULTS CAN YOU
28
CRUCIAL CORE CONCEPTS
31
Crucial Core Concept #1: Power & Tenderness
32
Crucial Core Concept #2: You Cannot Logic Your Way Into Her Pants
34
Crucial Core Concept #3: Sexual Attraction Sequence
36
THE SEXUAL ATTRACTION SEQUENCE:
36
QUIZ
38
ASSIGNMENTS
39
PART 3
41
GETTING PHONE NUMBERS
43
INNER GAME OF TEXTING
45
TEXTING DO'S AND DONT'S
47
DO: Understand The Purpose Of Texting
47
DO: Send The First Text Within 24 Hours
47
DON'T: Ask Boring Questions
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DO: Use Callback Humor
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Example:
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Another Example:
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DO: Use Nicknames
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Here are some examples of nicknames:
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Pro Tip:
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DON'T: Try To Impress Her Through Text
50
DO: Sign Your First Text
51
DO: Use Emoticons
51
Pro Tip:
51
Pro Tip:
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DON'T: Use Excessive Caps Or Punctuation
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DO: Have A Fun And Positive Texting Vibe
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DO: Reward Good Behavior And Punish Bad Behavior
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Example:
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DON'T: Multi-Thread Your Texts
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Example of Bad Multi-Threading:
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DO: Try To Keep Your Texts Short And To The Point
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Example of Abbreviation:
54
Popular abbreviations:
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Pro Tip:
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DON'T: Use Slang With Foreign Women
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DO: Use The Word We Whenever Possible
55
DON'T: Text Just One Woman At A Time
55
If y ou only follow one rule in this entire course, THIS is the rule to follow.
DO: Go for a Date Quickly and Often
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DONT: Text Like a Wimp
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DO: End The Conversation First
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TEXTING VS. CALLING
59
Rule #1
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Rule #2
59
WHEN AND HOW OFTEN TO TEXT
61
QUIZ
63
ASSIGNMENTS
64
PART 4
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BAIT, HOOK, REEL & RELEASE
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STEP 1: BAIT
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Examples of Good Bait First Texts When Meeting a Girl During the Day :
The Day Game Formula:
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Examples:
74
Examples of First Texts (When Meeting a Girl at Night):
75
STEP 2: HOOK
77
Challenging Hook Question:
78
REEL & RELEASE
80
PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER
82
Let's see an example:
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QUIZ
84
ASSIGNMENTS
85
PART 5
86
THE SEXUAL ATTRACTION SEQUENCE: STEP 1
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For example, y ou might find this text funny :
90
TEASING
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COCKY FUNNY
93
Pro Tip:
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BAIT & SWITCH
95
ROLE-PLAYING
101
GAMES
103
ROLE REVERSAL
105
PUSH-PULL
106
RANDOM
107
QUIZ
109
ASSIGNMENTS
110
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PHYSICAL COMPLIMENTS:
241
NON-PHYSICAL COMPLIMENTS:
IN A RELATIONSHIP
245
FACEBOOK, WHATSAPP,
246
MATCH.COM AND BEYOND
247
QUIZ
248
ASSIGNMENTS
249
PART 7
252
YOUR ACTION PLAN
254
ADVANCED
258
IN CONCLUSION...
259
LIVE PROGRAMS
260
THE END
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PART 1
INTRODUCTION
Joe was anxious. These days most of his anxiety was hidden, over-ridden by a newfound confidence, but he was
still glancing around, looking uncomfortable and making me uncomfortable. I wrapped my coat tighter around
myself as I stared at him. It was an unusually chilly Saturday afternoon in downtown San Francisco and a
constant breeze cut through Powell Street, making me dread leaving the house. But I was happy to be where I was,
happy to know that I was helping a man in need. Joe was a student of mine, an overly anxious man who had
suffered with social anxiety for most of his life. That anxiety had twisted and distorted his world and his mind,
and in his early twenties Joe suffered with a crippling depression. I was doing my best to help him and he
was making great strides, drastically improving every day.
Joe had recently ended a ten year relationship and didnt know what to do with himself. Ten years with the
same woman had satisfied his lack of ambition and his crippling anxiety, but as soon as the relationship was
over as soon as he was thrown into the scary and exciting world of dating for the first time in a decade he
was lost and ready to curl into the fetal position until the rest of the world left him alone. Despite his fear of the
unknown, Joe was making huge improvements since I first met him. It was only the second day of my 3-day one-onone with him, and his future was looking bright.
The previous evening I had taught him the James Bond Opener and the Chase Me Method which had given
him a much needed confidence boost and two girls phone numbers. Not too shabby for a newbie.
I was about to show him a surefire technique to get a girl to chase him using cunning body language, strong eye
contact, deep tonality and a few magic words that would convey dominant power and strength when, with a
puzzled look on his face, Joe muttered,Hey, Ardisson, last week we had a new intern at work named Wendy. I
liked her and she seemed into me, she even gave me her number, but she hasn't replied to any of my texts. I dont
understand. What am I doing wrong?
Well, let's see. I quickly picked up his phone and read through his texts. Great meeting you last
night.
Hey, what are you doing tonight?
I hope you are having a great day, reply back when you have a chance:)
I turned my attention to Joe, my eyebrows raised. He was smiling at me expectantly, seemingly oblivious to the
bemused expression on my face. I sighed and placed the phone on the table face down.
Well, Joe, here's the problem, I said, sensing the dejection in his eyes. Youre giving her no reason to reply.
Youre coming across as average and boring. No girl wants average, no girl wants boring. If thats what youre
like in text, shes going to assume youre no different if she were to go out with you.
Okay, I understand, Joe said, nodding his head. He leaned in closer, as if a forbidden scroll containing the
secrets of the universe was about to be unsheathed upon the cafe table. So, what do I do?
I stared at him for a moment, making sure I had his full attention. Women are emotional, I explained. You
have to trigger and excite those emotions in order for them to be compelled to reply to your texts and want to see
you.
With a sly grin on my face, and without knowing a solitary fact about Joe's one-itis Wendy, I composed a simple
text that was almost guaranteed to get non-responsive women to respond.
If you are falling desperately in love with me, then don't reply to this text.
I put the phone down in-between us and stared at Joe, maintaining my smile. He didnt speak, but he nearly
jumped out of his skin when the phone buzzed just a few seconds later. It was Wendy. She had texted him back:
Haha, sorry, I've had a crazy week :)
I showed Joe the text and watched his jaw drop as if the hinges had broken off. He was astonished.
I quickly stirred up another text to showcase Joe's dominance and playfulness: OK, I'll let it slide this time. I'm sure
you were busy finding the cure for cancer or helping little old ladies cross the street. But, next time I will sic my team
of midget ninjas on you!
I ended with a hook that was sure to grab her attention and pique her curiosity, By the way, I think you have a
confession to make....
With a few more simple, emotionally charged and cleverly composed texts, Joe won a date with Wendy at a bar just
a few blocks from his house. Joe was stricken with excitement, blabbering like an excited child. I told him that as
long as he maintained the emotional momentum until his date shed not only be excited to see him, but would
be primed and ready for a night of fun and adventure with him. As I watched the grin spread across his face,
followed by a shadowing of confidence and pride, I realized that Joe wasnt so socially inept anymore.
As you learn how to tap into her primal sexual emotions triggered by demonstrating your playful side, being a
challenge, eliciting deep trust and sparking lustful desire within her you will make her feel arousal for you even
before she meets up with you.
All of this can happen through text, you just need to learn the correct methods, which is what Im here to teach
you. The best part is you can use these techniques whether youre looking for a relationship or just looking to play
the field.
The techniques and text messages within this course have been tried and tested on thousands of women. Guys of
all ages, races and backgrounds have used these techniques to get women turned on to the point of unruly desire, in
some cases rushing over to their place and skipping the date altogether.
Before we get into the meat and potatoes of the system I must warn you to please use caution when testing out
the texts contained within these pages. If you are only mildly attracted to a girl, you dont want to get her so
sexually addicted to you that shell be breaking down your door and stalking you. Seriously though, use discretion
and judgment when applying these methods; they should not be taken lightly.
It's imperative that you carefully select texts that are in sync with your personality. The purpose of supplying you
with hundreds of different tried and tested examples is to provide you with the opportunity to choose the messages
that are appropriate for you and your situation. If she thinks youre a total badass, or some super alpha sex- god
via text, and you show up on the date looking like a conservative mama's boy with Hello Kitty nerd glasses and a
Star Wars tee-shirt, she might feel a little cheated.
To counteract this I have included a huge array of texts that can fit any style, from the bad boy to the sensitive guy;
from the 16 year old virgin to the 60 year old veteran.
The text messages and techniques within these pages will not only skyrocket your texting skills, but will also
improve your overall skills with women. As you journey through this program the concepts will internalize,
allowing you to adapt to a new understanding of the dating game.
This program is more than just a simple guide to help you text. Ive included some awesome bonuses to not only
take your texting skills even further, but also improve your overall skills when it comes to getting dates.
Seduce Her With Text will make your texting flirty and fun to get you the date and make the girl aroused. However,
you need to know how to continue that fun and flirtatious sexual vibe on your own. The texting can only take you
so far, the rest is down to you.
So Ive included a bonus video course for you on How To Get A HOT Date In Under 3-Minutes that will give you
lessons on overcoming approach anxiety, approaching women in any situation, getting women to chase you and
getting phone numbers and dates in a matter of minutes.
Go to www.TheAttractiveMan.com/THOTT-Bonuses
The bonus videos, along with this course, will turn you into a magnet, making sure women are drawn to you
wherever you go. So watch the videos, do what needs to be done, because the sooner you start the sooner you
can change your life.
Ive also include some other great texting bonuses for you:
Private Stash: 200 of my best texts messages to amp up the attract
The Texting Cheat Sheet: All of the texts in THOTT conveniently at your disposal (includes a copy-and-paste
document)
Textgasm: How to give a woman you are dating an orgasm through text. I know it sounds unbelievable but it
really does work!
3 Video Tutorials: These texting tutorials dive deep into the most crucial concepts when it comes to texting
and teach you how to use the texts in this program.
Go to www.TheAttractiveMan.com/THOTT-Bonuses
Before we dive into the meat of this program I'd like to tell you my story, to give you a better understanding of my
personal journey and help you see why I was awarded World's Best New Dating Coach and Best Text and
Phone Game on the Planet.
In 2009, I decided that more men needed to benefit from my discoveries so I created The Ultimate Guide to Texting
Girls, which received amazing reviews and won several awards. Men all over the globe were singing my praises
and telling me their success stories.
That guide taught guys how to be fun and playful so they could get dates; it told them how to stand out from all of
the other guys texting her and how to handle any texting situation they found themselves in. It told them everything
I had learned about the opposite sex and the texting game.
After the widespread success of The Ultimate Guide to Texting Girls, which crowned me King of Text Game
and Best Text and Phone Game on the Planet, I decided to take things even further. It was my goal to see how
far I could take this, to see how many of her hot buttons I could push through texting.
Could I make a girl so horny that she'd want to skip the first date and rush straight into bed? Could women really
get that turned on simply by reading a few text messages? Could women actually fall in love because of a few
messages? I was determined to find out and, as absurd as it may sound, the answer was a big fat yes. My phone
became my magic wand; it was able to do everything that I wanted, everything that I had yearned to do for so many
years.
Through my experiments and the persistence of trial and error, I found a formula for texting women that flat out
worked. Even though Id already had a huge amount of success with texting in the past, I was shocked at how
I could tap into a woman's sexual desires using simple emotional texts, turning her on and getting her to think
about me all day long.
Women were getting hooked on me, with very little effort on my part. At that point I realized that texting could
be a portal to a woman's imagination. I had the key to a secret doorway that ushered me inside the female mind,
and let me tell you, a woman's imagination can be very dirty if you know how to stimulate it the right way.
This course, and all of the information within, is that key. I am going to tell you what I have learned and give you
the key to new women, new experiences and new possibilities.
Before we get to the really good stuff, I want to tell you what you can expect from using the principles and
text messages contained within these pages. If you previously purchased The Ultimate Guide to Texting Girls, then
Seduce Her With Text will be an in-depth extension of that guide, taking you far beyond what you previously
learned. I've added so much new material to this course that you may not even notice any similarities. Seduce Her
With Text really is the crme de la crme of texting.
Turn the page and let's get cracking!
PART 2
THE FOUNDATION
How to use this program, what kind of
results you can expect, crucial
concepts and more.
Nadir was sweating bullets; partially because the Mumbai heat seemed to be scorching the flesh from his
face, but mainly because his new girlfriend, Samidha, wasn't texting him back.
This dripping mess of a man was in a quandary, compounded by the fact that it was all his fault. Hed had his first
big fight with Samidha the night before. Nadir had voiced his suspicions that Samidha was flirting with one of her
male coworkers. He had been incredibly stupid, letting his emotions get the better of him in a moment of madness;
he had overreacted and he knew it.
He was worried that she would break up with him, that their first big fight would also be their last.
For most of his life Nadir had been terrible with women. He was anxious and awkward around them and, as a result,
he had only ever been on three real dates by the time he was 28. He attended a Day Game Mastery Boot Camp
with The Attractive Man back in January and, a year later, Nadir finally learned the tools that enabled him to
score Samidha, the woman of his dreams.
She was a kind, elegant and stunning specimen whom, before his training, Nadir would have never stood a
chance with. She was Nadir's first real relationship.
Nadir was in pandemonium, sweating, mumbling and shifting nervously as rickshaws screamed about him in
every direction. The cafe was located at one of the busiest intersections in one of the most chaotic cities in the
world, yet Nadir seemed oblivious to what was going on around him.
He took another gulp of chai tea and stared absently at his phone, glancing away only to lock eyes with the
beautiful waitress serving him. His brain conjured up the perfect text:
Can you imagine how it's going to feel when I slowly massage the contours of your neck as the tension in your
body just melts away like a slow burning candle? As I delicately caress the curves of your lean luscious body a
rush of calm energy fills your stomach and you let out a sigh and think to yourself, 'this is a perfect moment' :)
He sent the message and held his breath.
An eternity seemed to pass, and he didnt receive a response.
His heart began to race and his muscles tensed as his Nokia knock-off lit up like a glow stick at a rave, chiming
a cheesy dance tune that attracted the attention of a smirking passer-by who threw an unseen half-smile in Nadirs
direction.
It was Samidha.
To Nadir's delight, the love of his life had responded with great enthusiasm. She mentioned nothing of the
previous nights turmoil and seemed rather excited to hear from him.
The text had worked. Nadir had dodged a bullet.
He grunted in delight and self-appreciation and punched the air with exhilaration. He looked up to see that the
waitress was staring at him, her lips creased into a baffled and quizzical smile, he opened his mouth to respond
and to explain himself, but he quickly closed it when he realized that he didnt care. He had Samidha back, she
was his again, and that was all that mattered.
His muscles relaxed and his heartbeat slowed. A calm sensation filled his demeanor and he began daydreaming
about all the pleasure they would both enjoy that evening.
We will begin this journey by discussing how to use this program properly. In no time at all you, just like Nadir, will
be able to turn any situation on its head with a simple text message; youll be able to win favors, hearts and
emotions with the press of a few simple buttons.
The completion of this course will require some effort on your part, but not a lot. To make sure that you get as
much out of it as you can, pay close attention; this is gold and I want to make you rich.
If you're the kind of guy that wants to create a long-lasting and beautiful relationship with a highly compatible
woman, then this program will speed up that process. If youre the kind of guy that just wants to date or
sleep with a lot of women with no intentions of settling down, then this course will allow you to turn them on
so quickly they'll be beating down your door with a sledgehammer. If you are already in relationship, these texts
can make the relationship fun again, rekindling the romance, ramping up their libido and making them hot for you
at the push of a button.
This course can also be used to meet beautiful women online; countless guys have told me about the success
theyve had on internet dating sites using the techniques within these pages. Youll be able to win the attentions of
more beautiful women and will be able to do so much more to them when theyre yours.
The results guys have seen with this course have been outstanding and have far surpassed our already ridiculously
high expectations. These techniques have even helped virgins lose their virginity. No joke.
Guys that are new to the dating scene after years of loveless marriages have realized how shockingly easy dating
can actually be, and are genuinely excited to be back in the game. If you are in the military and are involved in a long
distance relationship, then the following texts can help to keep the relationship alive whilst youre away from
home.
It doesn't matter if you have horrendous texting skills and have never gotten a date in your life, or if youre already
skilled at texting and just want to take things to the next level; this program can work wonders for you.
I know it's hard to believe that a few words can be digital arousal for her, but think about this: Women savor and
devour romance novels to the point where they have even been labeled, Chick Crack and Girl Porn. Women
get-off on the words within these books, so why wouldnt they get-off on text messages on their phones?
Texting, especially when used to evoke compelling emotions and specific feelings from a woman, is exponentially
more powerful than some dull, poorly written, Harlequin novel; texting is interactive, whereas a novel is only onesided.
It's like watching porn on your laptop versus having sex with a beautiful woman. Which would you prefer?
It's obvious, right? Youd go for the porn every time. Im joking, of course youd choose the beautiful woman.
Sex and texting are both interactive, unlike porn or reading a book. Most men are completely oblivious of just
what that electronic instrument in their pocket is capable of.
You are about to possess a very powerful tool that most men dont even know exists, and its right there in the
palm of your hand. In the next section you will see a clear representation of the success you can expect as you
begin to master the principles contained within this program.
Texting Messaging Statistics:
People spend more time writing text messages than they do on the phone.
Girls text almost three times as much as they talk on the phone.
Typically, text messages are read within 15 minutes of being received and are responded to within an hour.
Women text more than men.
The peak hours for texting are between 9:30 p.m. and 11:00 p.m.
Women are searching for dirty text terms on the internet 5-times more than men: Average monthly searches for
dirty texts to send a guy is 580 Average monthly searches for dirty texts to send a girl is 110
Text conversations miss out on nearly 93% of the input that face-to-face interactions have, due to the lack of
voice tonality, body language and facial expressions.
- Albert Mehrabian
Crucial Core Concept #2: You Cannot Logic Your Way Into Her Pants
Men and women are both hardwired differently. Initially, men are attracted to a woman based on her looks and
therefore think that women must think the same way, so they constantly workout, get tanned and buy expensive
things, only to be dumbfounded when they still have no luck with women.
The reason is obvious: women are emotional beings. People on the whole are emotional beings, but women are
generally more in-tune with their emotions than men. Women make all of their decisions, especially when it comes
to dating, based on how they feel. The key to a woman's heart is through her emotions, and stimulating the right
emotions in the right order will make her feel attracted to you on an instinctual level.
Even if you are not her type, shell automatically still feel attracted to you if you trigger the right sequence of
emotions. When you have a face-to-face encounter (i.e., the initial approach), everything you do and say should
stimulate her emotions in such a way that she feels an uncontrollable and primal attraction towards you.
For example, changing subtleties in your non-verbals, such as adjusting your eye contact or adding a few extra
pauses in your speak, can ignite feelings of sexual tension and desire within seconds of you opening your mouth.
This is why women say that they decide if theyll sleep with a man within seconds of meeting him.
This is great news, because it means that even if youre short, bald, ugly and fat (genetics really has been
cruel to you, huh?) you can still score a hottie by stimulating her emotions and making her feel warm and fuzzy
feelings such as joy, anticipation, desire and lust.
But there's a catch. Her emotional state is always changing, which means her attraction towards you may fade
quickly.
It's different for us guys. Attraction is like a light switch. If she's hot, then were attracted to her; if she's
not hot, then we're not attracted to her. We're either on or we're off.
For women, attraction is like a volume knob on a guitar amp. If you push all the right buttons, her attraction level
can be cranked all the way up, but three days later that emotional state can fade, and the sound begins to dim.
So, here's the deal: you managed to spark her emotions when you first got her number, so all you need to do is
continue to spark her emotions through text. And heres more good news: through text messages, you can trigger
powerful emotions and increase her attraction even more than when she first met you.
So, whenever you pick up your phone and start texting, you should know exactly what kind of emotional response
you are trying to get out of her.
Every message that you send her should serve a purpose. It should either trigger an emotion that escalates the
interaction further, or it should serve to set up the logistics of the date.
So, you text to either create more attraction and desire, or to set up the details of the date. Thats it, thats the whole
point of texting. Simple, right?
QUIZ
Research shows that the most effective way to learn and internalize something is to immediately apply it. In
fact, in Latin the word educate translates to draw out from within.
In each chapter there will be assignments and a short quiz to help you internalize what you have read. To really
get the transformational benefits that this course provides it is imperative that you complete the assignments and
quizzes.
So, grab a piece of paper and lets get started.
1. True or False? You should be worried if a woman does not respond to your text.
2. To the very core of their being, women are instinctually attracted to a man who demonstrates a balance
of
and
.
3. If you display too much __________ she may think you are overly aggressive or creepy.
4. If you demonstrate too much
5. Women make their decisions, especially when it comes to their dating lives, based on how they
6. Stimulating the right ______________ in the right order will make her feel attracted to you on a deep instinctual
level.
7. What two emotions or attributes demonstrate your Power?
8. What two emotions or attributes demonstrate your Tenderness?
Answers are revealed at the end of this chapter.
ASSIGNMENTS
1. Think back to 3 specific past relationships or interactions with women. In what ways did you demonstrate
too much Power or too much Tenderness? What could you have done differently to balance them out?
2. Login to your bonuses page a www.TheAttractiveMan.com/THOTT-Bonuses and watch your three bonus
videos on How to Get a HOT Date In Under 3-Minutes that came with this program.
These short videos will teach you:
How to Eliminate Your Approach Anxiety For Good.
The Most Powerful Opener Of All Time That Will Sweep Her Off Her Feet.
How to Avoid Using Lines And Routines And Appear Attractive And Confident.
How to Spark Instant Attraction and Get Her to Chase You.
The Simple 3-Step System For Approaching, Attracting and Getting Her Phone Number Or Date In Under 3Minutes
Quiz Answers: 1.false 2.power, tenderness 3. power 4. tenderness 5. feel 6. emotions 7. being a challenge
(uncertainty, interest), desire 8. fun (joy), trust
PART 3
TEXTING ESSENTIALS
Important do's and don'ts, texting
mindset, when and how often to text and
more.
Game on!
GETTINGPHONE NUMBERS
Before you put your thumbs to work, you need to have someone to text. As fun as it is to use those idle fingers
on yourself (weve all been there), it always works better when theres a woman involved; trust me on that one.
The good news is that getting phone numbers is a thousand times easier than you might think.
Think about how many beautiful women you see on a daily basis, its more than you can count. There are
beautiful women everywhere, you just have to start meeting them. Most guys see at least 5 beautiful women a
day while they are out shopping, on their way to work, on their lunch break, getting coffee, at the gym, leaving
work, etc. Out of 5 interactions, you should be able to acquire at least 1 or 2 phone numbers I am being
EXTREMELY conservative with these figures. Guys who have completed The Academy or our live training
programs report getting an average of 3 to 4 phone numbers for every 5 interactions, and that includes women
who claim they have boyfriends.
And, since sparking attraction and getting a phone number during the day takes a couple of minutes tops, if
you approached five women a day it would only take you 10 minutes to get an average of 2 numbers. This
figure can increase with the correct training.
Using my super simple and effective Chase Me Method, you can easily get those kind of results. This method
is the way naturals approach and seduce women. It requires no canned material, fake routines or pick-up
lines. It allows you to be sincere and authentic while conveying massive amounts of confidence, charisma and
sheer sexual attraction to literally sweep her off her feet. This is by far the most powerful way to approach,
attract and get a woman's number in any situation (especially during the day time).
Teaching the method here wouldn't do it any justice, but you can learn it much more effectively through the 3
video lessons on How to Get a HOT Date in Under 3- Minutes that you received as a bonus for purchasing
this course.
To watch your bonus videos just log in at
www.TheAttractiveMan.com/THOTT- Bonuses.
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Never ask a girl for a phone number. Asking makes you look weak and unconfident; it presupposes that there's a
possibility she will not want to give you her number. Instead, simply tell her to give you her phone number in a
confident manner. Say, Here, put your number in my phone, as you hand her your cell. Or, You seem cool, lets
exchange numbers and if you are cool on the phone maybe well hang out. Do you text? The key is to expect her
to give you her number, not to ask.
You can add some humor into the mix by telling her to, Enter your tax ID and bank account information as well,
while she's entering her number.
When she hands you back your phone, say, I'll give you a quick missed call so you know it's me when I call and
you can get really excited and jump up and down and do a little happy dance.
Then, to make it even more fun you can even leave her a message on her voicemail right there on the spot,
something along the lines of, Hey it's [Your Name], I met this cute girl, she seems pretty cool and I like that she
[Something Unique About Her], but she might be a little crazy, I'm not sure yet. This adds some great callback
humor when she listens to the message later. It also tells her that any further texts from you will be fun and
unexpected whilst suggesting that any engagements with you will be just as fun.
You should always have at least 7 to 10 phone numbers that you are working on at any given time. That way, if one
girl stops texting you back it doesn't really matter and you won't care because you still have many more irons in
the fire. This is the best way to increase your chances and to permanently eliminate neediness.
If you don't have 7 to 10 phone numbers to text right now then you need to go out and meet some more women.
Once approaching and attracting women is second nature to you, getting phone numbers will be as easy as tying
your shoes. Then, with the use of this program, your dating and sex life will reach new heights, gushing with the
sticky, sweet juices of well, you get the idea.
The foundation of your success when it comes to getting numbers, texting and getting dates, will rely on your
mindset and your focus. So, now it is time to go in-depth and break down one of the most important elements of
texting: the inner game aspect.
This section is vital. If you do everything in this guide but skip the next section, I can assure you that you wont get
the results you crave. Pay close attention because you need a solid mental foundation to get maximum results.
This also gives you an opportunity to text her later saying you divorced poor Shorteralls, allowing you to go into a
marriage role-play with her (refer to the chapter on Role-Playing). It will make her laugh and return her to the
emotional state she was in the previous night, when she first met you.
Another Example:
Lets say you met a woman who is a nanny from England, and you teased her and called her Mary Poppins all
night. You could text her,
Hey Mary Poppins dont forget to give the kids their spoon full of sugar today.
Teasing Nicknames: Queen Nerd, Dork, Goober, Nerdball, Crazy Pants, LadyFace, Dorkalicious, Midget Ninja,
Skittle Breath, Brat, Punk, Playa, Flaya (female-playa).
Sexual Nicknames: Sex Kitten, Sex Ninja, Evil Little Temptress, Naughty Pants, Cock Wiesel, Horny Toad, Porn
Princess, Butt Nibbler, Sexy Face.
You can even rhyme the end of your texts using a nickname, such as:
Peace out, girlscout
Cya later, masturbator (my personal favorite)
Have fun, cinnabun Cya soon, my lil baboon
Pro Tip:
An awesome way to create intrigue and sexual tension is to save your name in her phone
using a cocky, sexual or funny nickname for yourself, without her knowing. After you
get her number, take her phone and save your number as something creative and funny.
Think about how funny it would be for her to receive a first text from, Sex
Panther.
Examples: Sex God, Sex Ninja, The New Crush, Man of Your Dreams, Prince
Charming, Future Ex-Husband, Sex Machine,
Pro Tip:
Use uncommon emoticons. Everyone uses :-) and :) so instead use:
:/
:-]
=/
=}
: {} :^) :-# :-|
=]
{:-)
|:-() ;~)
[:-{)
Pro Tip:
Use ;) sparingly as some women find a man winking at them kind of creepy. I
know what you are thinking: It's just a stupid emoticon, but multiple women have
expressed their concern (women overanalyze everything) so it's best to refrain from
using it in the beginning.
Notice in this example how Silvia ignored Jim's first question. To avoid this, simply ask one question, wait for an
answer, then ask the next one. But remember, keep your average questions to a minimum.
Pro Tip:
When you are sending Mini-Orgasm texts texts that use descriptive and sensual
language that you will learn about later
the rule of the short message no longer applies.
Use They Will Rock Your Face Off instead of They Sound Good
Use Crafted By The Hand of Zeus instead of It Was Great
Use Cinematic Adventure instead of Movie
Now, two common questions I often hear are, Should I call girls or should I only text? and, When should I
call versus text? Let's tackle these questions right now, shall we?
Rule #1
Always text her before attempting a phone call, because replying to a text is a much smaller compliance for her
compared to calling you back. Compliance is built by getting her to abide to small steps first, like a quick text
back, and then working your way up, like getting her to send you naughty pictures or to have phone sex.
There are exceptions to every rule, such as women that sleep with guys within minutes of meeting them, which
is an example of a girl jumping straight to large compliance. Later, I'm going to show you how to move the
compliance from small to large as quickly as possible.
Rule #2
If it's not working, then try something else. What I mean by this is: if you've tried texting and you are not
getting a response, try calling her. When leaving a message, make sure to use a hook statement such as, I
think you have a confession to make, call me back, to get her to call you back. The point is, if something isn't
working then you need to try something else, which is always a good rule of thumb when it comes to attracting
women.
One of the advantages when it comes to texting is that you know she is going to read your text at some point.
Whereas if you call, get her voicemail and then dont leave a message, shell never know the reason for your
call. No attraction was sparked, no emotions stimulated.
Another advantage of texting is that you have the option to respond whenever you want. Texting gives you time
to craft a clever, witty or sensual response. Due to the non-confrontational aspect of texting, you can escalate
things sexually without any risk of embarrassment, rejection or immediate pressure.
Texting also allows you to better manage your time, since you can text her anytime and anyplace you want. You
can literally set up a date with a woman while you are sitting on the toilet doing your business. Plus, you can
send mass texts to multiple recipients. Instead of calling each girl to meet you at the bar, you can just send a mass
text to all your female prospects at once. Just make sure that each girl wont know you messaged multiple
recipients. Use an application that allows sending multiple texts without the recipients seeing each other.
And lastly, younger women grew up texting and, as a result, they usually prefer it over calling. People are talking
less and less on their phones these days you can't fight the trends. Plus, before you and her are actually
dating, theres really no valid reason for you to call her unless she's an older woman who just hasn't caught on to
the whole texting fad.
With all that being said, it doesnt mean you should never call girls. If you think the initial interaction went really
well and you know its on, then you have my permission to call her quickly and set up a date. If its not on
yet, then you can use text to stimulate her emotions before going for a phone call or a date.
If you do decide to call, a great time to do it is after youve been texting for a few minutes, since you know
that shes near her phone and is more likely to pick up. Shell also be in a great emotional state (assuming you used
the tools from this program). When she picks up your call you can say, My fingers hurt from all our
QUIZ
1. Give three examples of playful nicknames.
2. True or False? When you text a girl you like, your texting should NOT be random.
3. True or False? You should make up your own texts so they are congruent to your personality.
4. When
text,
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it
you
comes
should
to
send
sending
it
a
and
girl
then
5. You should send your first text within ________ hours of meeting her, and much sooner if you met her during the
day.
6. True or False? You should reward good behavior and punish bad behavior.
ASSIGNMENTS
1.
Quickly skim through the Texting Do's and Don'ts and think back to 3 specific instances when you
broke any of those rules. With your new knowledge, how could you have done things differently in those 3
situations? Write down your answers.
2. Inner Game Exercise: Condition your mind for success.
Visit our members only forum at www.TheAttractiveMan.com/Forum and post a success story. This will help to
condition your mind, allowing you to find success in all of your texting interactions. I recommended you do this
regularly.
If you send a text, dont get a desired response and begin feeling bad, then youre conditioning yourself to
fester negativity towards texting women, and negativity breeds more negativity since negative feelings and
beliefs cause negative actions and results. The remedy is to look at every interaction as a success. If it didn't
go exactly the way you expected simply ask yourself, What can I learn from this experience? In life we learn
from our past mistakes to better our current situation, we learn from the past to benefit our future; texting
shouldnt be any different.
Get into this habit and I promise you that your entire life will be transformed. An easy way to reprogram this
thought process is to post all of your success onto our forum. Forget the negative interactions and remember:
if you are learning from them then they cant be negative. Focus on the positive and more positive interactions
and experiences will come your way.
3.
If you haven't done so already, register for your $1 trial membership to The Academy.
Quiz Answers: 1. Cutie Pants, Luv Muffin, Sugar Buns (these may vary) 2. false 3. true 4. forget it 5.
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6. true
PART 4
Whilst he was sucked into his game, Alan heard his phone go off. He saw it was Miss Malaysia, but he decided to
resist his urge to look at it and just keep playing his game. No sense in getting needy; Matt had taught him better
than that. He thought, she was probably waiting to reply so she didn't seem desperate. Girls and their silly little
games.
Finally, upon ending his game, Alan finished the conversation and casually set up a meeting with his new fling for
Friday.
Mission accomplished.
Alan slid in another game, relaxed into his chair, tossed his phone at a pillow behind him and grinned as he blithely
began maneuvering Lara Croft in an epic game of Tomb Raider.
STEP 1: BAIT
The first text you send a woman after you get her number should never be boring or generic. It should be fun
and interesting, string up emotions inside of her and baiting her to reply back.
Hey, it's John nice meeting you today! is an awful first text and is what most guys send. If you can,
include a playful nickname that uses callback humor recalling something funny from when you met her.
Your first text should also include a question or statement that baits her to respond so she becomes conditioned to
reply to your texts.
Examples of Good Bait First Texts When Meeting a Girl During the Day:
If you meet a girl during the day cast the bait after 15 to 30 minutes of meeting her. That might seem too soon
for a first text, but trust me, its not. We live in a fast-paced information age, everybody gets everything they
want quickly; they dont have the patience and they dont want to wait. You could wait in the past, patience
often paid off back then, but that was a long time ago. The idea is to text her while you are still fresh on her
mind, before she gets distracted by everything else in her world.
When you meet a girl during the day you don't need to go overboard on the fun or sexuality because a
woman's normal everyday life is usually not inherently fun or sexual. We'll start adding more fun and sexuality
as we progress.
A great technique is to send a bait question that is light, confident, and assumes she has a strong level of
attraction towards you, such as, are you always so friendly? or that hug was a little long don't you think?
When you imply that she is attracted to you she will take the bait and begin to unconsciously think, I'm not
usually like that with random people, so I must be attracted to him.
The Day Game Formula:
Hey [Nickname]
+
crazy/random/cool/fun meeting you just now.... +
Question/Statement] + [Your Name]
[Bait
Examples:
Matt: Hey Talented Tanya so crazy meeting you just now....do you always do that to
guys you just meet? :) -Matt
Note: This will drive her crazy wondering what she did to you
Tanya: Haha do what?
Matt:
Totally
when
theyre
Hey
meeting
:)
Silly
you
distract
cute
guys
innocently minding their own business lol
Sarah
just
so
random
now....are
you always so friendly?
Hey cutie so crazy meeting you just now.....I love how nervous you got when I said
'hi'
Hey crazy pants cool meeting you......what horoscope sign are you? Don't say Gemini! :)
Hey cutie so random meeting you just now....I just realized which celebrity you remind
me of
Random meeting you just now.great story to tell our grand kids lol
Matt: Hey crazy pants.too soon for casual text? :) -Matt Alexandria: Ha
yeah I mean text can be dangerous Matt: I mean I barely know you...maybe we
should wait. Alexandria: hmmm yeah that might be best :)
Matt: I could tell youre a raging text addict...I see you at the meetings all the time
Note: A play-on-words using the word text instead of sex.
'Something naughty' :)
Note: Ok, let me explain. After you get her number say Im gonna text you something
naughty, so you have my number and then 5 minutes after youve walked away just text
her, something naughty in quotations. This works great for women you meet at bars and
clubs or women that appear a little more sexually adventurous.
Last night = awesome. My head = stampede of elephants running over broken glass!
Note: She will relate to this if she was also drinking the night you
STEP 2: HOOK
Your next text should really hook her in, make her invest further and get her accustomed and conditioned to
reply to your texts. I call it a hook text because it hooks her attention to you like your phone is some
kind of super charged electromagnet.
We're going to use a marketing technique that I like to call a Cliff Hanger to create curiosity and interest,
and make her wonder what youre going to say next. Million dollar advertising agencies and Hollywood movie
writers have used this technique for years to hook buyers into reading and watching their ads, luring them
into buying their products. A cliff hanger is a short, incomplete question or statement that is very hard to
ignore and requires a response, thus hooking her into the interaction and increasing her investment.
It's kind of like a Quentin Tarantino movie. You have no idea what is going to happen next so you're on the edge
of your seat with your eyes glued to the screen. The power of the Cliff Hanger text comes from the ellipsis (a set
of dots: ) at the end, causing her mind to run wild as she wonders what on Earth youre going to say next.
Since we are going for the date rather quickly in this system, send a Cliff Hanger statement that transitions
into getting her out on a date. However, you can use a Cliff Hanger any time you want to see if she's free to start
a new texting interaction.
It's a good idea to include an emoticon at the end of your Cliff Hanger Statement after the ellipses so she knows
that youre finished with your text and that it's her turn to reply.
Matt: I think you have a confession to make.... :)
Girl: ?? what's my confession?
Matt: That you want to see me badly. Okay, I give :)
Another way to hook her is to use a qualification question that appears to be a playful challenge. Most guys
are way too supplicating and accommodating when it comes to texting women, but women enjoy a man who
challenges them because it shows he's not needy or desperate.
Believe it or not, women want a man that they have to work for. If you make everything too easy theyll lose
interest, but if you challenge her in a serious way such as texting, what do you have going for yourself
besides your looks? it may be too harsh and not playful enough, therefore pushing her away too much.
So instead, simply challenge her in a fun and playful manner:
Matt: Make it or break it question.....ninja's or pirates?
Note: If ninjas or pirates seems too immature for you then you can text, ....favorite
funny movie? and then send a funny quote from that movie or, ....favorite rock band?,
etc.
Girl: Ninjas!
Matt: My psychic ninja powers are telling me that you like to have fun..I know this
really fun place. Have you ever played laser tag?
What makes this text a challenge is the statement, Make it or break it question... This can also be sent as a
Cliff Hanger, splitting the first text into two separate texts. You'll learn more about Challenging Questions later in the
Challenge Her section.
Matt: So random meeting you just now....are you always so friendly? -Matt
Jen: Yeah there's no reason not to be...are you?
Matt: Can I ask you a really personal question....
Note: I ignored her question because I couldn't think of a way to answer that would
spark any emotion.
Jen: I suppose :)
Matt: Red wine or mojitos?
Jen: mojitos!
Matt: Yeah that'd be fun, let's grab a mojito later....but promise you won't try any funny
business! What's your schedule like?
Note: Notice how I assume that when she answered the prior question SHE was also
suggesting a date
Jen: I might be free Tuesday?
Matt: Let me ask my secretary........
Matt: Franz said no, but I think I'm gonna fire him anyways. He keeps stealing paper
clips. Need a job? The pay sucks but you get to hang out with me all day
Jen: poor franz maybe hes just making a paper clip sculpture for you lol
Matt: lol Tuesday will work. You're not going to ruffee my mojito are you? A guy can't
be too careful these days
Note: Notice the restriction
Jen: I'm not making any promises about the ruffies :)
***More examples in the section on Going For A Date
This 3-step system works like magic if you made a decent first impression and didn't wait too long to send your
first text. This killer Bait, Hook, Reel/Release formula has been tried and tested by hundreds of students; it works
and it works well.
If you find that it doesn't work for you, then there is something going wrong with your initial approach. It's nothing
to get upset about, it's just feedback. My team of coaches and I are here to help you and make sure every aspect of
your interaction is flawless. Well help you perfect your approach, trigger sexual attraction and maximize your
results.
Don't worry if you didn't intrigue her enough to get a date immediately using the system, I've still got you
covered. Next I am going to show you what to do when it's not on yet and how to use the sexual attraction
sequence to boost attraction and get her sexual juices flowing even if she's an ice queen using a few innocent
little text messages.
QUIZ
1. The 3-Step System to Get a Date Tonight consists of these steps, Bait,
ASSIGNMENTS
1. Your only assignment is to use the Bait, Hook, Reel/Release System on a woman whose number you have
just received. If it doesn't work the first time don't worry; in the next section you will learn how to spark more
attraction so you can go for a date again.
If you don't have any phone numbers then your assignment is to go out and get at least one number. If you
are not used to getting phone numbers then this will be a little out of your comfort zone, but thats a good
sign; it means you are growing as a man. Simply re-watch the 3 videos on How to Get a HOT Date in
Under 3- Minutes that you can access at www.TheAttractiveMan.com/THOTT-Bonuses and then get out
there and get busy!
If you are freaking out at the thought of approaching a woman then you probably need to work with a live
coach. You can visit www.1On1DatingCoach.com for private coaching or www.DayGameTraining.com for
group coaching to get over your fears, learn how to easily and effectively approach every beautiful woman you
see, get instant feedback on all of your approaches, and get the results you want.
Quiz Answers: 1. Hook 2. Are you always so friendly? (this answer may vary) 3. Can I ask you a personal
question... (this answer may vary) 4. Promise me you will behave (this answer may vary) 5. False
PART 5
Felix had been texting Sofia, the beautiful Latin bombshell he had met at Starbucks, for four days, making her laugh,
showing his dominance and building a deep connection. He even got her to draw him a picture of a drunk monkey
falling out of a coconut tree, which she sent to him via text.
Needless to say, it was on.
It was Tuesday and Felix had already set up a date with Sofia for the coming Thursday night at his favorite
karaoke bar. Everything was going great, but Felix wanted more; he wanted to turn up the heat so that she'd start
thinking about him in a sexual manner. But he didnt want to come across as needy, nor did he want to appear
creepy. He didn't want to ruin the foundation he had already created.
Sofia was a smart girl, and Felix really liked that. She was the complete package, with both looks and personality.
She truly was the perfect girl. She had mentioned to Felix that she was stressed out about an important job
interview the following day. She was fresh out of college and it would be the perfect job to utilize her newly
gained skills. But she was dreading it, terrified because she hadn't had a proper job interview since her short stint as
a barista in high school.
Felix thought he'd take advantage of the situation and practice his texting skills, seeing if he could get Sofia
relaxed, and even slightly aroused.
Take a deep breath and imagine Im sitting behind you slowly massaging all of the tension out of your shoulders
as you feel all of your stress just melt away... Felix smiled as he sent the message, amused at his own cleverly
crafted words.
Oh that would be amazing. I feel more relaxed just thinking about it :) was Sofia's reply.
Felix grinned as he began feverishly composing another text.
Can you imagine feeling my strong hands slowly moving down your back as I lift your shirt up teasing you
slightly, you can feel my warm touch on your skin. You take a slow deep breath and relax into my arms as time
stands still. As I continue to massage your back you feel pure pleasure shooting through your body as my hands roam
and gently caress your...:)
Sofia immediately replied, You can't stop there...what a tease! :)
...lower backside as I admire the beautiful curves of your body. You feel unstrained as your imagination begins to
drift. Where is this going to lead, you wonder as you slowly place your soft delicate palms on top of my brawny
knuckles, admiring the girth and size of my hands as you move them down. I wrap my arms around your stomach
as a warm sensation shoots through your spine. I pick you up and...:)
Felixs heart started beating faster. Had he taken it too far? He was leading the interaction like he thought he
was supposed to, but maybe it was too sexual, too soon?
He was relieved when he saw his phone light up. Sofia had sent him a favorable reply: Mmm I kinda like
So, you got a phone number from the girl you like, but the Bait, Hook, Reel/Release Method didn't get you a date
because there just wasn't enough initial attraction or she was just too busy. What are you going to do?
Dont worry, you can still get a date, you just need to demonstrate your Power and Tenderness to ignite some
more attraction, get her invested, build some trust and get her thinking naughty thoughts about you all day long.
Do you remember the 4 emotions that you want her to have and to associate with you? They are:
1. Fun (Tenderness) Joy is a prerequisite to getting a date; triggered through the use of funny, playful, random
and often wacky texts.
2. Being A Challenge (Power) Sparking her interest by getting her to invest in the interaction through the use
of challenges, commands, requests and cliff hangers.
3.
Trust (Tenderness) Generally a prerequisite to sex; triggered by building rapport and bringing her into your
world. Women need to have a connection with you before theyll sleep with you.
4. Desire (Power) Getting her to think naughty thoughts about you; triggered through the use of descriptive
and sensual language.
So let's dive into the first one...
FUN
When the working day is done, Girls - they want to have fun.
That's all they really want.
~ Lyrics to Cyndi Lauper's hit song Girls Just Want to Have
Fun
Whether she's 18 or 80, a girl just wants to have fun, especially with the man theyre dating or are in a
relationship with.
The opposite of being fun is being boring. Most guys are boring during the approach, they are boring through
text, they are boring on the date, boring in bed and boring in a relationship. Women hate boring, but most of
them settle for boring because that's all they think is out there.
But youre not going to be boring; youre going to be fun and exciting, and that starts from the initial approach
and continues through texting. Remember: For women, attraction is always fading. Fun texts will keep them
on an emotional high and strengthen the attraction that you established during the first encounter. Even if there
was little or no initial attraction, sending her fun texts that stimulate her emotions will create an attraction for
you that she didn't previously feel.
Fun needs to be your foundation when it comes to texting. When you make her laugh and smile through text
you set a precedent that youre a fun guy; women want to go on dates and hang out with guys that they can
have fun with.
When she is having fun texting back with you she will feel emotions of joy and will unconsciously realize
that going on a date with you would also be very enjoyable. Furthermore, when she sees that you are
fun and that you have a great sense of humor, it lays the groundwork that allows you to get away with
a lot more in the future. What I mean is, when she sees that you have a fun positive outlook on life and that
you don't take things too seriously, you can get intimate with her a lot faster and easier than if you displayed a
stale and dull personality. Since you laid the foundation of fun and she now expects crazy and over-the-top texts
from you, it allows you to get away with being sexual through text and also lets you escalate a lot quicker
on the date.
The idea here is to train and condition her to expect fun, flirty texts from you, so that every time your texts pop up,
her endorphins immediately kick in and she instantly begins to feel a sense of excitement and joy. Through this
conditioning process once she's used to feeling positive emotions when she receives your text you can actually
send her (although I don't recommend it) hey whats up, and she will still feel the same emotions as if you sent
her something witty, random or hilariously charming. This is Pavlov's Theory in full effect.
The key is to capture her full attention and distract her from the monotony of her daily routine, which will give her
a rush of positive emotions that will regenerate her day. You will essentially become her texting hero.
So, start off with fun texts, and if youre ever in doubt about what to say, just keep it fun!
Make sure the text you send is fun for you. You should be laughing as you are sending it. If not, then choose a
different text or come up with your own. If you are chuckling, then she will most likely be chuckling too.
The key to being fun and attractive is this mindset: I am having fun FOR ME, not because I want her to like
me.
Guys that want girls to like them are seeking approval, and men of high status would not do that. It repels girls and
will put you in the friend zone.
Before you craft your own fun texts ask yourself this very important question: What does this text subcommunicate about me?
For example, you might find this text funny:
Average Guy: What do you call a guy who masturbates more than twice a day?
Girl: Um not sure?
Average Guy: Terrorwrist
Girl: Lame :(
Now that's kind of funny, but what does it communicate to your woman? Probably that you masturbate all the
time, or in the least that you think about whacking off, which is not inherently attractive. Instead, you want to
use playful texts that show positive qualities about yourself, texts that display your dominance, imply she's
chasing you, or texts that whisk her away from her mundane life.
Fun texts should contain elements of humor, teasing, flirtation (without being overly nice), role-playing,
randomness, misinterpretation, unpredictability or role-reversal (reversing the typical "guy chases girl so that she
chases you).
As with any principle in dating, dont overdo it. Anything that is used too often, even if its fun and playful, will get
old and lose its effectiveness, making her see you as just an entertainer. You don't want to be type-casted as a tap
dancing monkey or a silly clown. No girl wants to sleep with a clown.
After you've sent her a few fun texts and you have spiked her emotional state (in sales this is known as spiking
someone's buying temperature), it's the perfect opportunity for you to go for a date, hang-out, day-two, meet-up,
field trip whatever you want to call it.
The problem with going for a date out of the blue is that you have no idea what state she's in at that moment. If
she's in a negative state then she'll probably refuse the date. So, it's a zillion times more effective to make her laugh
before you attempt to make plans with her.
The following text messages are examples of fun texts. You are welcome to use them word for word; however, it
is advantageous for you to come up with your own material as it will be congruent with your personality and will
help your creativity when it comes to being fun and playful. If you do use the following texts, choose texts that are
fun for you.
TEASING
Teasing is when you playfully make fun of someone their mannerisms, style, demeanor, or personality.
Most guys are afraid to tease a girl in fear that she will get mad and lose interest, so they end up just playing
it safe. When you can playfully tease a woman it shows her that you are not an overly nice guy who is
going to succumb to her every whim. It shows that you are 100% fine with losing her, which
counterintuitively is highly attractive.
You should never tease in a mean-spirited fashion, but instead make sure that it always adds value to her
day and makes her feel good. If the teasing text you are about to send seems too harsh, then add an emoticon
so that she knows you have positive intentions and are trying to brighten her day, as opposed to bringing her
down.
I just made you open your phone for no reason...looks like I got you in check =p
Note: This is a great teasing text that playfully demonstrates your dominance.
Its me, your cell that is, not wanting anything in particular right now, just wanted to
get out of your pocket, it stinks down there :p Note: Use this only if she has a good
sense of humor.
COCKY FUNNY
Women know that cocky guys are usually confident guys. However, cockiness alone can appear rude and
arrogant, and most women dont want to date that type of guy. Try to mix cockiness with a touch of humor as
this is very effective, and will set you apart from the average (needy) guys who try to seek her approval. It also
jokingly sets the framework that she is chasing you, which baits her to play along and agree to that role.
about
again
me....you'll
soon enough :)
get
Matt: Congratulations!
Isabella: for what?
Matt: I was just thinking of you. Congratulations =)
What are you doingbesides missing me and doodling hearts on a piece of paper?
:)
Note: This can bring her back to an emotional state of when she was a little girl and
had her first crush, drawing hearts on her
Pro Tip:
It's a great idea to get a girl to add you on Facebook because then she can see that you are a real person
with a cool life and friends, making her feel more comfortable with the idea of hanging out with you.
Maybe
its
the
booze
talking,
but
I
want
you
to
knowI love...booze.
Note: You can use this the same night you meet her if it was at a bar or club and she
knows you were drinking.
Those innocent eyes, those juicy lips, a great smile, that awesome bod, so hot! But
enough about me, what r u up to?
Hey! I really miss you and want to see you badly BUT this dumbass security guard won't
let me in the zoo. Can you escape?
Hey I was just thinking about you, wish you were hereso you could fetch me a
drink and give me a foot massage ;)
I know its wrong, I know its too early and I know Im probably jumping the gun,
but I really have to tell you this, I cant hold it back any longer. Youll probably think
Im insane, that I fall head-over- heels too easily, and you might even despise me a
little for saying this, but please understand that Im only doing it because I think its
right, because I cant hold back my true feelings any longer.I think Jessica Alba is
really hot. There, I said it, phew!
Note: This works great especially if shes told you who her female crush is. Replace,
Jessica Alba with the name of her female crush.
ROLE-PLAYING
Role-playing is another very powerful tool because it whisks her off to a fantasy world and paints a picture of
the two of you doing something exciting together. This allows her to actually picture and feel the emotions of
whatever fictitious reality you are describing to her.
The psychological effects of role-playing are vast. Most of the time women will respond by role-playing along
with you. This creates further compliance and allows them to imagine what it would be like if that role-play
were real. Role-playing also allows you to be outlandish, to get away with sexual scenarios that would normally
be inappropriate. A role-play also brings one back to a child-like state since role-playing is a common way for
children to interact and play. Remember playing doctor with the little girl down the street when you were a child?
Trust me, role-playing as an adult is way more fun; you have more experience, more imagination and more
clearly defined goals. Im sure you can find more interesting illnesses in more interesting places that need
diagnosing or curing.
There are no boundaries, no limits to what can turn a woman on and ignite her imagination, so have some
fun and experiment.
Matt: hey Im boredwanna rob a bank?
Jen: haha ur crazy
Matt: seriously I need a partner
Jen: ok Im in!
Matt: awesomeness, but we need disguises.whats yours? Im thinking stilettos and a pink
ski mask...
Jen: and a machine gun!
Matt: ok well tie everyone up, take the cash and find a cheap hotel in the next town over so
we can lay low
Jen: But what are we gonna do with all that cash?
Matt: We? after a night of passionate love making fueled by the adrenaline from the crimes
weve just committedyoull wake up to find the cash gone and a note that says its been
nice, had to run, have a nice life
Jen: haha your such an ass! Well at least there was some good sex haha
Matt: meet me at X bar tonight for a drink and well discuss the heistbring ur mask and
heels :)
Matt: Youre my new text message girlfriend for the next 5 minutes.
Kelly: [No Response]
Matt: Aww now were broken up. Its not you its me. Was fun though.
Kelly: [No Response]
Matt: Aww now I kinda miss you. Ill do whatever it takes to get you back.
Kelly: Just seeing this now.....you are crazy! :)
Matt: Yous the crazy one....ya just lost the love of yer life :p
Note: If she does give you a response within 5-minutes of your initial text, still break up with
her after 5 minutes.
Im boredlets go to Vegas and get married by the fattest Elvis impersonator we can
find!
What's your take on having a love-child together? I mean he would be ridiculously good
looking, I'm talking Ryan Gosling good looking Note: Chicks love Ryan Gosling.
Other role-play ideas: old married couple, getting a divorce, tongue-in-cheek romance, pimp and ho, adopting her as
your bratty niece.
GAMES
Who doesn't enjoy a fun game now and then?
Everyone associates playing games with having fun, so interrupt her boring mundane day with a fun game and
she will always think of you as the fun guy that makes her feel good, making her feel constantly excited to
receive more of your texts.
Matt: Let's play 'Rather-Or'....If you were on a deserted island would you rather have a
musical instrument or a pen and paper? Helga: definitely a pen and paper because I don't
know how to play any instruments lol
Matt: good answer....ok your turn to ask....
Matt: Lets play the word association game. I say a word and then you say
the first thing that comes to mind
Paula: kay go
Matt: ocean
Paula: depth
Matt: relaxed
Paula: soothed
Matt: bite
Paula: down
Matt: spank
Paula: harder
Paula: lol
Matt: dripping
Paula: yes youre turning me on. you win
Paula: my turn?
Matt: no, one more
Matt: dominated
Paula: pass haha
NOTE: This is a great way to get her incredibly aroused and associate that
feeling with you, thus increasing her sexual desire towards you.
Finish my sentence: Can you imagine how good it's going to feel when I....
Note: She may respond sexually or she may turn it into a joke. Either way, it's all good.
ROLE REVERSAL
Role reversal texts are fun because they reverse the typical guy chases girl into girl chases guy. Women will
usually respond positively to these because it is the opposite of what theyre used to, you really would be
surprised at how often a girl will go along with the role reversal.
It is an extremely powerful tool because when she goes along with pursuing you, it subtly and unconsciously
causes her to buy into that frame of mind and conditions her to start pursuing and chasing you. Use this
technique throughout all of your interactions (including face-to-face) and watch the attraction skyrocket.
Ewww stop thinking about me, I can feel your thoughts all over me... pervert!
Hey sex ninja, orgy starts at 10:00, be there early so you can get me while Im still
fresh
Note: After she responds follow up with: Guess youll have to settle with what you
can get then :p
PUSH-PULL
Push-pull is one of the best tools to use with women in general. If you are not using it in your real-life
interactions, then start using it right away. The concept is simple. If you push too much by appearing too aloof
or uninterested, then you will usually push her away to the point that she loses interest, because she will assume
you are just not into her. However, if you pull too much, by delivering too many compliments or telling her you
like her, shell likely lose interest because you arent enough of a challenge and may appear overly eager.
When you put the two together, you can maintain a good balance of showing interest and being a challenge, the
result of which is pure dynamite!
You just popped into my head so Hi...now please stay out of there
You just popped into my head...you must be using some weird ninja magic on me
Im onto it.but Im not gonna let it slide!
RANDOM
The following texts will deliver a Pattern Interrupt (another great marketing technique), pulling her out of
her normal boring routine and making her smile, often in utter confusion.
Confusing a woman is a good thing because it will make you appear mysterious, like someone she just can't
put her finger on (ironically causing her to want to put her fingers on you). This is the exact opposite of
being predictable, which is a quality in men that most women loathe.
Remember, being random also means being random in your response time. After she sends a text, sometimes
text her immediately, sometimes wait a few minutes, sometimes wait an hour, sometimes wait a few hours,
and sometimes don't text back at all. Keeping your response time random keeps things interesting so she can't
quite figure you out and makes her further anticipate your next text, increasing her investment.
Matt: You know what I hate? When you're minding your own business then...
BAM! Youre being attacked by flying monkeys. Jenna: I didn't know monkeys
could fly
Matt: I knew it! You're one of those flying monkey lovers, aren't you?
I've got this problem I need your help with it.why was the energizer bunny arrested?
Note: The Answer is he was charged with battery. Almost any joke will do.
Hey nerdball [or other nickname] I just saw the funniest X and thought of you
QUIZ
1. True or False? You should never ask a woman for her phone number.
2. Sending her fun, playful texts will increase her level of: a)Attraction
b)Trust c)Lust
d)All of the above
3. True or False? Every single text you send a girl should be fun and playful.
4. Name 3 different categories of fun texts (three things you can do via text that are fun).
5. True or False? The texts you send a girl should be congruent with your personality.
ASSIGNMENTS
1. Generate 3 of your very own fun texts in any of the above categories. Be creative and make sure the texts are
in-sync with your personality.
2. Pick 3 girls in your contact book and send each of them one of the 3 original fun texts that you created.
Keep in mind that this is just practice.
Compose and send the 3 texts before you move on to the next section.
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Quiz Answers: 1. true 2. a 3. false 4. cocky-funny, role-playing, random (your answers may vary 5. true
THE
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BEINGA CHALLENGE
Its human nature to appreciate what you have to
work hard for
~ Unknown
After you've set the stage that texting with you will be fun, random, quirky and playful, it's time to get her more
invested and starting to chase you.
Women love to feel desired and crave it on an instinctual level, but they need to earn that desire first. If you are
attracted to her too easily then you will appear desperate and needy, and it will seem like you don't have any
other options. No woman wants a man if she is his only option.
Furthermore, if you show too much interest too soon then shell wonder why youre so into her, and since she
didn't have to earn it, she'll assume it's only because of her looks. Women do want to be desired for their
physical attractiveness, but they don't want that attractiveness to be the only object of your desire.
A prerequisite to demonstrating your desire for her is to make her earn it first. This is done by challenging her,
getting her to qualify herself to you and subtly disqualifying yourself to her, getting her to further invest in the
interaction, and showing a mixture of interest and disinterest. When you are a challenge, the woman has to work
hard to attract you and you will appear as if you have a lot of other options (other women in your life),
which is highly attractive. It's human nature to want and appreciate something that is hard to get.
Think about it, if you had to work your ass off for five years to afford a nice car, wouldn't you appreciate it a
lot more than if someone just handed you the keys for free?
Still, as with all concepts in this course, be careful not to overdo it or you can come off as aloof or disinterested.
QUALIFICATION
Qualification questions are challenging questions that show you are testing her to see if she meets your
standards. Qualification through texting is best done in a playful way.
When you qualify a woman it shows that you are high value because only a high value man with a lot of
women in his life would screen, qualify and/or test a beautiful woman. Would a guy who has no other dating
options challenge a woman to see if she meets his standards? Of course not. If he had no other options then he'd
probably do everything in his power to make her like him.
Qualifying and being a challenge for her shows that you are not desperate and that you have other options, which
makes her chase you and increases her attraction towards you.
Matt: Super serious important question to see if we are a snack food match....cheetos
or smores?
Suzy: Haha OMG this is hard :p I love marshmallows but I also love cheese.
Suzy: I'll go for cheetos
Matt: I just ate a bag of cheetos that changed my life! Not the best post workout meal,
but what can you do.
Suzy: aww im so jealous
Please tell me you don't secretly like Justin Bieber.....that's kind of a deal breaker?
What makes these questions Qualification Questions, rather than just Interesting Questions, is that she should feel
like you are screening her. This is accomplished through phrases such as, make it or break it question, this
is really important, or this could be a deal breaker.
To make sure she knows that you are qualifying her, you can always respond to her answers with something
along the lines of: Hmm OK good answer but I'm still not sure about you yet :)
NEGATION
Similar to a restricted request, Negation is the basic concept of telling a girl she cant have something, thereby
making her want it more. We all want what we cant have, it's human nature.
The technique of negating something is more powerful than you might think, because our unconscious minds
don't know the difference between a positive and negative statement. For example, if you tell a woman,
We are not having sex tonight, her logical mind hears the phrase as is, but her unconscious mind hears, We
ARE having sex tonight. This plants a seed of we are having sex tonight into her unconscious mind without
her knowledge. That may seem sneaky, but it works, and it works well.
So, when you tell a woman that she can't do something, it makes her want to do it since it's human nature to
want what we can't have, and it also plants the seed of doing it into her unconscious mind. It's a double
whammy!
Pretty potent, huh?
Matt:
I
think
you
should
draw
me
a
picture.......I
really
like monkeys :)
Heather: [she sends a pic of a monkey she drew]
Matt: Wow youre the next Van Gogh......I know you love me just dont cut off your
ear for me!
Note: Remember to always reward good behavior.
QUIZ
1. True or False? A woman needs to feel that she has earned your attraction towards her.
2. If a person has to work for something he/she will
3.
it more.
Name one way that you can express to a woman, through text, that you are challenging.
4. When you tell someone to not do something, it plants the idea of doing it into their
.
and
ASSIGNMENTS
1. Create a list of 5 non-physical qualities that you'd like your future girlfriend to possess, and be specific.
For example, if you want her to have a good personality, what exactly does that mean to you?
2.
Pick 3 of the non-physical qualities above to generate 3 of your very own Challenging or Qualifying
texts. Make sure the texts are congruent with your personality.
3. Send the 3 texts to any girl in your phone. Her response may be an indicator that you should tweak your
text. Keep in mind that this is just practice; there is no failure, only feedback.
Send the 3 texts before you move on to the next section.
4.
Make sure to share your texts in the members forum so we can learn from your wisdom:
www.TheAttractiveMan.com/Forum.
Quiz Answers: 1. true 2. appreciate 3. Any of these: qualification, negation, getting her to chase you (invested)
4. unconscious mind 5. interest, disinterest
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TRUST
All the world is made of faith, and trust, and pixie
dust.
~ J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan
The thing about trust is that it is not essential for getting a girl on a date, only fun and being a challenge
are important for getting her to want to see you. However, women need to trust you in order to be intimate
with you. So, if you want to have sex with her the next time you see her, or if you want to get sexual with her
through text, then building trust is essential.
A woman wants to feel a connection with the man shes sleeping with. She wants to feel safe with him, and
wants to feel like he understands her.
Before we talk about how to increase her trust in you, it's important to understand and thus avoid
everything that can break trust.
Responding Negatively
Women will sometimes test you to gauge your response, allowing them to decide if they want to go on a date
with you. They might send you a text that completely throws you off, is insulting or makes you mad, or
they may simply not respond to your messages or purposefully flake on you. If you text her something
angry or rude, it shows her that you are deeply affected by what she did and reveals that you are a weak man
who is easily affected by women. Be unaffected and never respond negatively through text.
MIRRORING
One way to subtly establish a degree of trust and comfort is through mirroring. Mirroring means that you
match her actions, without making it obvious to her. This makes a person unconsciously feel more
comfortable because people generally trust those who are similar to themselves.
You can mirror her through text, by matching her texting style. You can use abbreviations, emoticons,
acronyms, sense of humor, wit, text frequency and length of texts that are similar to hers.
Make sure to do this subtly and dont overthink it, as you are not trying to please her.
INTERESTING QUESTIONS
Boring questions like, how are you? can cause a woman to become disinterested fast, but asking
Interesting Questions drags her out of her mundane routine; they intrigue her, capture her attention, spark her
imagination and allow the two of you to get to know each other better.
It's really hard for someone to ignore an Interesting Question, and the natural tendency will be for her to ask
you the same question in return, allowing you both to open up. As you are getting to know each other better
your trust will grow, which leads to dates, sex and more.
What's interesting is that some women actually prefer to have serious and deep conversations over text rather
than in person. That may sound strange, but these days a lot of people use their phones as a shield that they can
hide behind, causing them to feel safe and more comfortable and allowing them to open up via text.
Here are some examples if Interesting Questions:
If I were a genie and could grant you three wishes what would they be?
Would you rather be on a train, feel no pain, or dance in the rain? Note: Women almost always pick,
dance in the rain so you can transition that into an over-the-top romantic role-play.
Have you ever done anything you could have gotten arrested for?
Note: Can transition into a crime spree role-play.
If you had to choose one thing you need to have in order to feel like life is worthwhile, what would it
be?
If you knew you had a week to live what would you do?
Would you rather have a guy who is a great kisser or a great dancer?
Would you rather have a guy that is an amazing lover or has a lot of money?
Spy, bank robber or escort? Which daring lifestyle would you have if you had to
pick one?
Note: Transitions great into a role-play.
When was the last time you felt sincerely, irrefutably, ridiculously happy?
If you get something along the lines of, I don't know, then use reciprocity to get her to respond. Simply answer
the question first, then text, what about you? and she will likely reciprocate with an answer of her own. When
one person gives, the other person is more likely to give back; thats how reciprocity works.
For example:
Matt: If you could be anything in the world without any chance of failure what would you
be?....and don't say princess!
Rose: hmm...I don't know
Matt: I'd be a rockstar....there's just nothing like being on stage in front of thousands of
people....it feels incredible
Matt: what about you?
Rose: wow I bet! um...I always wanted to be a doctor bc I love making people feel good
:)
If she asks you a question in return, be sure to give more than one-word answers. Women connect
and build trust emotionally, so give her an emotional answer. Use a lot of descriptive details and
imagery to tell her how (whatever your answer is) makes you feel.
Matt: I had the craziest day today....have you ever had a co-worker that just won't leave
you alone?
Mary: OMG yes!
Matt: Our secretary Emily keeps making excuses to come talk to me in the middle of
the day and I'm trying to get my work done so I can leave early to the gym. How can I let
her off gently?
Note: Most hot women can relate to having a coworker of the opposite sex who won't
leave them alone. This text also demonstrates that women desire you and that you have
an active lifestyle, without going overboard and coming across as bragging. Remember,
these are just examples.
Matt: Whats your favorite funny movie? Melissa: Hmm....I'd say The
Hangover Matt: Good choice!
Matt: You probably get this a lot. This isn't the real Caesar's Palace is it? Haha
Note: This doesn't necessarily bring her into your world, but it does show her that your worlds fit together.
Then, every once in a while, you can send her a funny quote from her favorite movie
The craziest things always seem to happen to me all the time. I don't know why, but it sure makes life
more entertaining :)
Sorry I didnt get back to you I was X..yeah Im a huge nerd like that
NOTE: X = playing magic the gathering, watching anime, at chess club, etc.
Being unapologetic about your nerd hobbies is very effective as it shows women that you dont care about
impressing them or hiding your less attractive qualities, which ironically, increases their attraction
towards you. Secretly, all women have a dorky side, so when you allow yourself to be vulnerable it
encourages her to feel more secure and open up about her weird little quirks as well.
I'm
actors
at
are
this
so
crazy
movie
premiere. . . . . the
impressive...how are you?
CORE VALUE
This is a great routine created by Neil Strauss that delves deep into her core values and teaches her something
she may not have known about herself, which, as you can imagine, helps you to establish a connection.
Let me first explain the routine and succession of questions, then I will provide you with an example.
1st Question: If you had to choose one thing you need to have in order to feel like life is worthwhile, what
would it be?
2nd Question: If [Answer to 1st Question] is in your life, what kinds of things does that allow you to do?
3rd Question: Let's just say that at some point in the future you have [Answer to 1st Question] in your life,
which allows you to [Answer to 2nd Question] fully. Imagine you have that perfect scenario. What would be
the feeling you get from this?
Core Value: So this feeling of [Answer to 3rd Question], you had to feel it a little to give me an answer right?
Conclusion: So now that you've felt your core value, we've fulfilled your life goal through text lol. This was
your core value, [Answer to 1st Question] was just your path to [Answer to 3rd Question]. That feeling, your
core value, is what you're truly searching for in life.
Example:
Matt: If you had to choose one thing you need to have in order to feel like life is
worthwhile what would it be?
Brittany: Hmm that's a good question. I'd have to say traveling
Matt: If you were able to travel, what kinds of things does that allow you to do?
Brittany: See all the places I've always dreamed about seeing
Matt: Let's just say that at some point in the future your life is full of traveling, which
allows you to see all the places you've dreamed of seeing. Imagine you have that
perfect scenario. What would be the
feeling you get from this?
Brittany: Excitement and freedom! :)
Matt: So those feelings of excitement and freedom, you had to feel them a little to give
me an answer right?
Brittany: Yeah I feel excited just thinking about it right now ;)
Matt: So now that you've felt your core values, we've fulfilled your life goal in 10
minutes through text lol. Those were your core values traveling was just your path to
excitement and freedom. Those feeling, your core values, are what you're truly searching
for in life.
Brittany: wow you just blew my mind! what are your plans this weekend?
FLIRTING
Showing that you are interested in her in a fun and flirty way creates trust; it shows you are not trying to hide
your interest in her (like most guys). Contrary to popular belief, women actually do like guys who like them
back. The idea that women love guys that treat them like crap only applies to very insecure women and very
shoddy romantic comedies.
In fact, the two emotions that gradually lead to the feeling we call love are Joy and Acceptance. So, if you
want a woman to actually fall in love with you then you just need to facilitate the feeling of Joy (Fun) and
Acceptance (Flirting + Appreciation) over time. But be warned: If you show too much interest too early on,
and if you havent built up enough fun/joy, it can backfire. Also, you need to make sure that she's earned your
interest first through the use of challenging texts.
As with any technique, dont overdo it. The idea is to make her confused and keep her guessing so that she never
knows what to expect from you. When you flirt with her by complimenting her or by telling her what you
appreciate about her personality, make sure you use plenty of details so that it appears genuine. A genuine
compliment can go a long way and, believe it or not, is a hundred times more effective than buying her a gift or
giving her flowers.
I just wanted to start your week off on a high note by saying hiso without further
ado...hi!
Note: This is just a cute text to make her smile. It works great on a Monday morning.
I would so flirt with you right now if I didn't have to get back to work
Note: Uses Negation. Can be used to end the texting thread.
NON-PHYSICAL COMPLIMENTS
Non-physical compliments allow you to show your interest in attributes other than her looks, which will make
her feel special and begin to facilitate feelings of love. If you don't want her to fall in love with you then keep
the appreciation texts to a minimum.
These work great after you've sent her a Fun text and bantered for a while, or after sending an Interesting
Question that leads into deep conversation.
I love how fun you are....you don't take life too seriously and that's rare these days
It's hard to find someone as weird and random as me.....keep up the good work :)
If you do want to give her a physical compliment then it's best done in a fun and flirty manner, as opposed to just
giving her a generic compliment like, You are so beautiful. That might seem nice, but when sent through text it
won't do much for her on an emotional level.
These are better:
We'd make the hottest love child
I'm pretty sure we're like the hottest people in this entire state...nay, the entire country
Did you notice the use of we instead of you in these examples? If I were to say, You are so hot you'd have
the best looking child, it would be way too complimentary. Using the word we helps tone it down and bit. It
makes it slightly cocky and it offers a touch of togetherness. So, get used to using the magic word we in your
texts.
INCEPTION
Inception texts can be used to pre-frame a positive attribute that you desire a girl to have by telling her that she
already has it. By telling her that you like a certain quality that she possesses, she naturally wants to be consistent
by continually demonstrating that quality to you. Simply pick a positive quality that you would like her to
demonstrate, tell her she seems to possess that positive quality, and then watch as she begins to demonstrate it to
you (this may not happen immediately).
This also creates comfort and trust because people always want to feel like they have a lot of positive qualities. It
will make her feel like you really get her and appreciate her.
I love how responsive and fun you are....I am going to keep you as a texting buddy :)
It's fun texting with you....I bet you are fun on the phone...I'll call you later...if you're
lucky :p
You seem like a girl that keeps her word...that's rare these days :)
Note: Use this so she doesn't flake on you.
COLD READING
Cold reading is a cool technique used by mentalists, psychics, fortune-tellers, mediums and illusionists to
determine details about another person, building a connection and demonstrating that the reader understands a
lot about that persons thoughts and life.
When you read a woman in this way, telling her something about the way she thinks or behaves, it can and
often does create a sense of trust and rapport. The beauty behind this technique is that you can use female
truisms things that are true for all women to create the illusion that you possess a deep understanding of
her world.
When people feel understood they feel connected, and this is what we want to achieve. The key is to tell her
something about herself that she hasn't told you yet. If she tells you that she loves adventure and then you say,
You seem like an adventurous person, that doesnt mean you read her, it just means you listened to her.
A lot of cold reading is based on black and whites, on one extreme or the other (like/ dislike, want/dont want)
but people have a lot of grey areas. So, a simple formula when composing a cold read is to tell her that she
possesses two opposite, yet favorable, qualities.
Begin your cold read with phrases like, You seem like...., I can tell you have/are..., I bet there's a part of
you that. or I can sense.....
You seem like on the surface you're a very good girl. Like people think you are very well
mannered. But, I think underneath it all you have a very naughty side. Like I bet you have
a very dirty imagination
Note: This is true for just about every woman on the planet. All women have a naughty
side that theyd prefer to hide from mainstream society.
I can tell there's a part of you that is very outgoing and you just go for what you want, but
then there's a part of you that wants a guy to just take the lead
I bet you go on dates with guys and at first you like the guy and want to give him a fair
chance, but after the first date or two you lose all interest in him....and you have no idea why.
Note: This is generally true for really hot women. They lose attraction quickly because they
guy is boring and/or he doesnt make a move.
Do you think you're ready to ramp up the arousal and get her completely turned on and craving you through
text? I assume you are so pay close attention; this next section is pure gold.
QUIZ
1. True or False? Mirroring refers to a technique that involves matching her actions, while making sure she
knows you are doing it.
2. True or False? You should never respond negatively to a woman through text.
3. Name 2 methods for increasing Trust via text.
4. True or False? You should never show your interest in a woman you like.
5. Fill in the blank: By telling her you like a certain quality about her she will likely want to be
continually demonstrating that quality.
by
ASSIGNMENTS
1. Take a moment to create 3 of your very own Interesting Questions.
2. Send each of the 3 Interesting Questions to girls that you've already sent Fun and Challenging texts to.
Keep in mind that this is just practice; there is no failure, only feedback.
3. Post your own Interesting Questions (or other Trust texts) in the members-only forum and share your
ideas. You can also see the wealth of
texting knowledge from others as well:
www.TheAttractiveMan.com/Forum.
Send the 3 texts before you move on to the next section.
Quiz Answers: 1. false 2. true 3. Any two of the following: Mirroring, Eliciting Her Core Values, Asking
Interesting Questions, Flirty Texts, Inception Texts, Cold Reads. 4. false 5. consistent
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DESIRE
To this day, I feel a fierce warmth for women that
have the same disregard for the social conventions of
sexual protocol as I do. I love it when I meet a
woman and her sexuality is dancing across her face,
so it's apparent that all we need to do is nod and find
a cupboard.
~ Russell Brand
This is probably the part of the course you've been waiting for. I have to hand it to you for not skipping straight
to this section.
Here's the deal, diving straight into graphic, erotic texting right off the bat without laying a solid foundation of
Fun, Being a Challenge, and Trust will ensure your skin boat does not make it to tuna town. Catch my drift?
Once you've triggered attraction and have shown that you are quirky and playful using the fun texts; made her
qualify herself to you and invest in the interaction using the Challenging texts; and built trust and rapport, it's
time to turn things up to the nuclear level and dive into her deepest desires, making her fall to her knees...
figuratively speaking of course.
By implementing everything in this course so far, you may be utterly shocked at how comfortable she will seem
when you transition into sensual texts. In fact, she may even be the one to initiate them, which is what a lot of
guys fantasize about.
As the man its your job to be in charge of the set-up, to take control and to lead her emotions, bountifully
liberating the fantasies locked deep within her devilish imagination. How far you take this is totally up to you and
depends on what kind of relationship you want to have. You'll be astonished at how far you can take it, how
much fun it can be, and how much it can turbo charge her desire towards you.
Remember, texting is like having a doorway into a woman's imagination; a doorway that you have access to any
time you want. Your goal at this stage is to enter that doorway and build a fantasy world where she feels
comfortable doing whatever her naughty imagination desires.
Women easily get turned on through the use of descriptive language and fantasies. Don't believe me? Just jump
on Amazon.com and download yourself a romance novel. You'll be shocked at the dirty subject matter and erotic
language; it'll make the sex stories you and your buddies exchange seem tame and juvenile in comparison.
For men, romance and desire is physical, but for women it's mental and emotional. It's up to you to tap into her
imagination using vivid words and stories that make her heart pound and her loins tingle. Fill your texts with as
much descriptive detail as possible. Create an elaborate picture in her mind; the more real it seems the more
impelling and intoxicating it will be for her.
As you text, focus on describing her feelings and her reactions to what is going on in your story. Keep in mind
that a woman wants and desires to feel pursued and appreciated by a man (after she's earned it). However, it's not
a good idea to dive straight into the ultra-sexual stuff. You want to ease into it, let her imagination run wild and
direct her thoughts to exactly what you want her to visualize.
Take your time and tease her. Keep your texts drawn out, take things slow, and tease her to the point of explosion.
Thats when she will invite you over for some non-digital foreplay.
So, let's have some more fun with her imagination, shall we?
COVERT COMMANDS
The covert command is a sneaky hypnotic technique that injects a command, in which she will start to act upon,
in the middle of a sentence so that it appears in context with the rest of the text.
For example, if you texted her the command, Hey you should get incredibly turned on right now, which is
NOT a covert command, she would probably respond with WTF!? and think you were a pervert.
Whereas, if you sent her, Hey, do romance novels cause you to get incredibly turned on? it would cause her
to feel the emotion of getting turned on without it being obvious what you are doing.
In the rest of this section the covert commands will be underlined. I recommend going back and seeing if you
can find any other covert commands previously used in the course.
Matt: Do you know what it's like to feel an instantaneous connection with someone?
Stephanie: Yeah of course
Matt: That's interesting because for me it takes longer. It's those moments when you
are away from that person and you just think about them and how they make you
feel.
Do you know what it's like to be totally fascinated with someone? Like everything they
texted you just seemed to fascinate you that you just long for that person's text?
SEXUAL SUGGESTIONS
The Sexual Suggestion is a technique in which you mention something sexual that someone else did or said.
This allows you to send her outlandish content in an indirect fashion, because you are not the one who did it or
said it. She cannot get mad or upset because you are just the messenger. Don't shoot the messenger.
It's all about context. In the context of someone else's experience you can get overly vivid and sexual very
fast. On the other hand, out of context it could be very offensive or inappropriate.
Let's see what I mean:
Matt: I was at this bar last night and you won't believe what I heard this guy say...
Courtney: what did he say?
Matt: He walks up to this random girl, gets really close to her and says, 'can you imagine
me going down on you all night long, and you get so hot and horny that you beg me for
more?'
Courtney: That's crazy what a weirdo!
Matt: I mean can you believe that? Did he actually think she would picture that and she'd
get so incredibly hot and turned on?
Matt: Do you know what it's like to feel really attracted to something out of no where?
Kara: yeah I guess :)
Matt: I was just at this bookstore and I started to get mesmerized by this text and it just made me
feel really turned on.
Kara: haha what book was it?
Matt: It was this book called Fifty Shades of Grey....'He grabs me suddenly and yanks me up against
him, one hand at my back holding me to him and the other fisting in my hair. He kisses me, forcing my
lips apart with his tongue, taking no prisoners'
Matt: and that wasn't even the best part :)
The only way it can backfire is if you get too sexual too fast. If you sound like you're Ron Jeremy on the set of
21 Hump Street then it probably isn't going to work. Start small, keep it simple and work your way up.
Are you ready to feel like you can instantly send a beam of dangerously erotic electricity into a woman's mind and
activate her sexual imagination within seconds?
I hope so!
USING ROLE-PLAY:
Matt: I'm bored, let's fly to Vegas and elope
Zoey: I was just thinking the same thing lol
Matt: but where should we go on our honeymoon? Zoey: I've always wanted
to go to the Bahamas for my honeymoon!
Matt: Could you imagine us in our little beach villa watching the sunset as I wrap you in my
strong arms and look deep into your eyes and.your turn :-)
Zoey: no keep going!
Matt: I scoop you up in my arms, you feel a surge of energy flood your body as I spin
you around leaving you slightly faint and dizzy, and then I lay you swiftly upon our fluffy bed,
the sheets feel smooth against your skin as if you are laying on puffy clouds in the sky...
Matt: Hey I'm free next week let's hang out again, I have a fun idea....
Olga: Sure...what do you wanna do?
Matt: I was thinking I would just pick you up in my private helicopter and we'd land on the
top of the empire state building to watch the sun set over the city and drink a hearty glass of
red wine that feels like a sensory explosion in your mouth...
Olga: I guess I'd be up for that lol :)
Matt: Then we'll go to a quaint cafe in Paris for some coffee and Tiramisu. You'll be wearing
a silk blue dress that clings to the curves of your body. As you take your last sip and savor the
taste...I will pick you up and swing you around holding you in my arms and slowly press my
lips firmly against yours as you feel a nervous excitement shoot through your entire body that
feels like a breath of fresh air. Olga: OMG that sounds so amazing!
Matt: Or we can just grab a bite at Denny's lol
Note: Only send this last part (Denny's) if she sends a negative response or doesnt respond at
all
Matt: Would you rather have a guy who's an amazing kisser or a good dancer?
Urma: Amazing kisser for sure
Matt: Would you rather kiss in the rain or on the beach during sunset?
Urma: The rain is pretty romantic.its like something from a movie
Matt: Imagine what it would feel like if we were walking in the city, holding hands when suddenly out of
nowhere it started pouring.
People are running trying to get dry. You start to run too, but I grab you pulling you into me. We are sopping
wet. You have this grin on your face like you know something good is about to happen....:) Urma: Hmmm
I like where this is going :)
Matt: Would you like it if I told you there was this invisible tractor beam between us like we are lost in our
own world. Everything else just fades away. I wrap my strong wet arms around you pulling you close, our
lips just inches apart. You feel an incredible yearning inside you like a child that wants to run wild. The
tension is driving you crazy but you are enjoying this moment. My lips lightly brush against yours and it
sends a shiver down your spine. Suddenly our lips meet. You taste delicious. Time stands still. You feel my
breath pushing into you and it makes you weak in the knees.
Urma: omg I'm getting so turned on!
Matt: I'm bored....got any good pics you can send my way..no nudes lol
Ginger: Yeah but you go first...
Matt: (Send Fake Pic of Ugly Guy)
Note: She may send a real pic of herself to try to impress you or she may send a fake pic to play along.
Matt: You are so hot it makes me want to bend you over, grab
your wavy long brown hair forcing your head back as I begin to have my way with you.
Ginger: It's the white glasses that give me sex appeal :)
Matt: Yeah it makes me wanna viciously rip off your black top with my mouth and lick you head to toe
and ravish that sexy body of yours..:)
USING NEGATION:
Matt: Hey where you at Sharkeez last night?
Cassie: No I was in LA lol
Matt: Oh because this girl grabbed my ass and then ran away into the crowd...and from behind it totally
looked like you!
Cassie: Haha that's funny
Matt: You better not be grabbing my ass now! :)
Cassie: no promises ;)
Matt: In that case I will have to gently slide my hands down the curve of your back and send a shot of
slight pain to your cute little behind and return the favor
Cassie: mmm I kinda like that
Matt: But, I'm not sure if you will like it when I push you up against the wall pinning your hands behind
your back with one hand, firmly grasping your hair pulling your head back with my other hand, as my lips
gently graze the side of your neck causing every hair on your body to stand up...
Cassie: I kinda like where this is going :)
Matt: I don't know if you will like all the anticipation that's building in your body, and you can barely stand
it. And I lift you up in my toned arms and firmly place you on the pool table knocking the chalk and sticks
down as the balls hit your thighs. You anxiously pull my shirt off over my head and place your hands on my
chest feverishly digging your nails into my skin. You feel a rush of excitement shoot from your toes to the tip
of your nose. A bead of sweat falls from your cheek as I..... :-)
Cassie: oh come on.you have to finish this
Matt: As I trace my tongue over every curve of your beautiful body. You taste delicious. Energy floods your
body and you feel weightless. Your imagination is running wild as you fantasize about all the naughty positions
I could put you in. 'What's going to happen next' you wonder as a sense of adrenaline fills your stomach....:)
Cassie: what happens next???
Matt: I'll tell you later when I see you :)
After you send her a Mini-Orgasm you could send her this Covert Command:
I really don't want you to start visualizing what I'm texting you because you really shouldn't get
incredibly turned on right now. Note: This also uses the technique of Negation.
Or you could send this:
Good thing you aren't here right now because I would.... :)
Note: Then you can keep talking about what you would do to her.
You can also add a touch of humor, especially the first time you do this, by texting, Que cheesy romantic movie
music, or, And my part will be played by Ryan Gosling, at the end or in the middle of the texting thread.
Women are very sensual creatures and by leading with sultry, descriptive, fantasy texts youll show them that you
understand sensuality in its deepest meaning. She will wonder, If he can make me feel this good through text, I
wonder how awesome it will feel to actually be intimate with him in person.
WARNING: Don't use this stuff every day or it will lose its potency. In fact, these texts work best after youve slept
with her at least once. When you already have an intimate connection with a girl and you begin to give her MiniOrgasms every few days or weeks, watch out! She may be tempted to steal you away whilst you sleep, tying you
up and locking you away in her sex dungeon.
Let your erotic adventures begin.
Role-Playing Scenarios:
First Date First
Kiss
Dancing in the Rain Romantic Night in
Paris/Italy Vacation Getaway
Robbing a Bank Getting
Married Honeymoon
Massage
Pillow Fight (Introduce it using an interesting question such as, Pillow fights or bed time stories?)
you
Throw you on my bed
Hold your wrists behind you
Pin you down
Eyes drinking you in Kiss you
Overpower you Roam
over you Caress you
You crave me too
Body Parts:
Down your spine Googly
eyes
Strong fingers on your neck Naughty
glimmer in your eye Edge of your skin
Smile lights up
Specs of [color] in your eyes
Mouth / Lips
Subtle curve of your... The shape of
you
Up your neck
Feeling Words/Phrases:
Tingle
Tiny prickle
Weak in the knees
How you feel against me
Energy in your chest/stomach
Desire coming off you/me like heat
Burst of energy
Shiver
Descriptive Adjectives:
Shiny Bright
Curvy
Wonderful
Delicious
Sultry Luscious
Sensual Carnal
Soft Gently Firm
Strong Powerful
Like/As If:
As if time was standing still Like
quenching a thirst
As if the whole world fades away As if all I can
see is you
Like we were in a bubble
QUIZ
1. Name 3 methods for introducing a Mini-Orgasm text.
2. True or False? Most women get aroused through descriptive sensual imagery.
3. Fill in the blank: It's best to establish a sense of ____________ before evoking her desires through MiniOrgasm texts.
4. Name the two keywords used to help her visualize in her mind and experience in her body what you are
describing.
5. Fill in the blank: If you want to send her an outlandish or overly sexual text out of the blue, it is best done
using an
.
ASSIGNMENTS
1.
Read a romance novel. Youre probably going to hate me for this, and no doubt youd rather shoot
yourself in the foot with a nail gun than read any of this tripe, but you have to trust me on this one. Reading a
romance novel will increase your texting skills (and overall dating skills) tenfold. I've read several sleazy chickbooks and they really aren't as bad as you might think. Reading and analyzing a Harlequin Novel will help you
to understand and begin to adopt the sensual language and verbiage used to illicit the dirty thoughts and
fantasies of horny women worldwide. You'll also begin to see the qualities and attributes that the male hero in
these books inherently possesses so that you can begin to internalize and acquire those qualities yourself.
2. Create Your Own Mini-Orgasm Text using the guidelines in the above section cleverly titled Creating Your
Own Mini-Orgasm Texts. You can use a Role-Play, Interesting Question, Negation, Hook Statement or any
other method you wish to introduce the sensual imagery. Make sure your text is at least 30 words long so
that you can really get the hang of it. Have fun with it. If you've already read a romance novel in the past, then
this assignment should be a breeze for you.
3. Use the Mini-Orgasm text that you created by sending it to a woman with whom you've already established
a sense of Trust. Remember, this is only practice, it doesn't count. This is all about learning and improving your
texting skills (and overall dating skills), so if you don't get a desired result, just keep practicing and youll get it
soon.
4. Post your Mini-Orgasm text in the members-only forum and share your ideas. Check to see if others
have posted Mini-Orgasm texts that you can try for yourself: www.TheAttractiveMan.com/Forum.
Send the Mini-Orgasm text before you move on to the next section.
Quiz Answers: 1. Interesting Questions, Role-Playing, Hook Questions (answers could vary) 2. true 3. trust 4.
imagine and feel 5. Sexual Suggestion
Now you know how to create amazing levels of eroticism and intimacy just by tapping a few digits on your cell, and
how to pump her full of joy, make her chase you and build a truckload of trust. So, lets talk about how and
when to use the Sexual Attraction Sequence.
THE
SEXUAL
ATTRACTION
SEQUEN CE
TEXTINGTIME LINE
Every woman is a mystery waiting to be solved
~ Johnny Depp, Don Juan DeMarco
The point of texting is to stand out from all other guys texting her, show you are fun and playful so shell
want to meet up with you, stimulate her emotional and sexual side so she craves you inside her, and make
her desperate to see you again. Simple, right? Well, actually, yeah it is!
This timeline will help you understand when and how to use the above sexual attraction sequence in the most
effective manner possible. The sequence works great for women that gave you excuses prior to giving out
their number, are only responding positively to a portion of your texts, did not go for the hangout right away, or
are just showing mild interest. These types of women typically just need a little persuasion and exertion via
emotional stimulation in order for them to give you an affirmative to hanging out.
If you meet a girl and it's totally on then use the 3-Step System to Get a Date Tonight. But, if it's not on yet, or
she didn't go for the date when you used the Bait, Hook, Reel/Release Method, then proceed with the following
sequence.
Pro Tip:
Spark Her Emotions Then Go For a Date
A woman will always be more apt to comply with any request or escalation if you stimulate
her emotions first. Women make decisions based on their emotions, so if you make her feel
happy, jealous, intrigued, eager, or aroused immediately before you go for the date (or any
other form of escalation), she will be more likely to comply.
Day 1:
You successfully got her phone number and used the Bait, Hook, Reel/Release system you learned in the section 3Step System to Get a Date Tonight; however, you were not able to secure a solid date.
Day 2 & 3:
Send her one or two Fun texts (see section on Sexual Attraction Sequence #1: Fun) and then send a Challenging
Text (see section on Sexual Attraction Sequence #2: Being A Challenge).
Go back and forth a few times. If you seem to be getting good responses then, when things are on a high, go for
a date. Make sure you keep things fun and playful and end the texting conversation first.
Day 4:
Don't text her on day 4. This will keep her on her toes and cause her to wonder why you aren't texting her you
want to be unpredictable.
Day 5:
Send her another Fun text and if you get a positive response then go for a date (See section on Going For a
Date).
Day 6:
Send her a text to build some Trust (See section on Sexual Attraction Sequence #3: Trust).
Mix in one Fun text as well to keep things random. As always, after a high note go for a date.
Day 7:
Don't text her.
Days 8 - 10:
Mix in a series of Fun, Challenging and Trust messages. If you get a positive response after going back a forth a few
times then go for a date.
Day 11:
Don't text her.
Day 12:
If you haven't achieved a date by day 12 then it's time to bring out the big guns and spark her Desire (See section
on Sexual Attraction Sequence #4: Desire) and make her wet. Stimulate her erotic imagination using vivid imagery
through a Mini-Orgasm text (See section on Mini-Orgasms).
You want to create a solid foundation of attraction (Fun + Challenge) and Trust before arousing her Desire through
the use of Mini-Orgasms.
You will know that there is sufficient attraction and trust if her texting behavior matches one or more of the
following:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
Day 13 14:
Mix up sending her Fun, Challenging, Trust and Desire texts and continue to keep things random, fun and
unpredictable. After she's responding favorably to your texts then go for a date.
TIMELINE BREAKDOWN
In general, for any type of girl the sequence of texting goes like this:
1st: Send her Fun texts so she knows that hanging out with you in person will be a fun and to condition her to
expect unexpected texts from you.
2nd: Send her Challenging texts to build compliance, to show that you are a challenge and to make her appreciate
what she has to work for.
3rd: Send her Trust texts so she develops a feeling of trust towards you and is more willing to open up
emotionally and sexually.
4th: Send her Desire texts to arouse her imagination and get her thinking about having sex with you.
Keep in mind that this is just a guideline to help you understand the proper flow and sequence of texts. There are
many exceptions to this timeline. You may text her for two weeks before you send her a Desire text, or you
may effectively shoot off a Desire text the day after you get her phone number. You have to experiment and
see what works best for you.
Pro Tip:
Once you get more advanced, send a Fun text, then a Challenging text and then a
Trust text all on the same day.
It's up to you to understand and digest the concepts and examples and then use your own calibration for each
particular circumstance. For example, if you have a cold fish type of girl on your hands then slow things down a
bit, but if you have a girl who is practically begging for you, then speed things up and use the 3-Step System to Get
a Date Tonight.
In the beginning, follow the Timeline as a general guideline to get a feel for what to text and when to text it. If
after two weeks she hasn't said yes to seeing you again and doesn't seem exceptionally interested, then its time
to move on. All is not lost though. I've been able to get a woman out on a date 9-months after the initial interaction,
without seeing her before then. Remember, some women are just busy or may have a boyfriend and didn't tell you.
One day soon they might break up and shell become available. Sometimes a little diligence pays off.
Read the next section to learn how to maintain the connection, even if she's not texting back, and resurrect
dead numbers, eventually transforming them into dates.
QUIZ
1. True of False? You should go for a date with a cold response girl right away.
2. True or False? Always delete numbers that have gone cold.
3. You should send a mass text to numbers in your Cold Leads group approximately every 1 to
to stay on their radar.
4. A girl may not be responding to you because she: a)is
sick
b)has a boyfriend
c)is playing hard to get d)is
really a man
e)all of the above
5. True or False? You should always build up attraction for at least a week before going for a date.
ASSIGNMENTS
1. Download a group texting app from your app store and create a group called Cold Numbers or something
similar. Add all of the female contacts that you no longer text or whom don't text you back regularly to that group
and save it.
2. If you don't have a smart phone then your assignment is to buy a smart phone. Although you won't get
laid for simply owning a nice phone, it can definitely hurt your chances if you own a brick from the late 90s.
PART 6
SPECIFIC SITUATIONS
Going for a date, getting her on the
phone, responding to tests, if she flakes
or doesnt reply back, cold numbers and
more.
The words were wedged inside his mind like some aggressive cancer, floating around behind his eyes as if
imprinted or branded onto his retinas. He was being dramatic, maybe a bit too much, but he felt he had every
reason to be.
What's your idea of a good first date? I really like STK.
She was testing him, and he knew it. STK was an expensive restaurant, he knew that and he was sure she knew it as
well.
Joel cautiously weighed his options. On the one hand, he really wanted to see Jillian again and he didn't want to
ruin his chances, but on the other, he did not want to spend that kind of money. Vegas is an expensive city; his
bank balance would never recover from a trip to its most expensive restaurant.
After flipping through the pages of the program that he had dubbed the holy grail of texting, a thought came to
him. He quickly picked up his phone and sent her a message, his mind clearing and his confidence returning: I
have a super fun and even better idea...
What is it? she replied.
Joel had no idea. He was hoping some stroke of genius would come to him, but his mind was as empty as the
hollow chamber of a spent pistol.
He scrolled through a few more pages of his texting bible and another idea came to him:
It's a secret.you arent against having a ridiculously good time are you?
He knew he could come up with something fun to do. This was Vegas, the party capital of the world. A place
where super-hot, superficial cocktail waitresses like Jillian werent used to fun guys who didnt go to great lengths
to impress them.
Hmm well I don't know if I can hang out if I don't know what we are going to do, replied Jillian.
Surely another test, Joel thought. He knew he could handle it. In fact, it was starting to feel like a little game to him.
And you were doing so well a moment ago....just wear a skirt and heels and I'll take care of the rest :) He loved
the dominant nature of that text. Joel hit send.
What woman can resist a man who takes charge of the situation? Jillian quickly and
instinctually gave in, Ok well I'm free at 10.
Joel resisted the urge to be overly excited. He wanted to continue displaying his masculine dominance and
decisiveness, since it seemed to be working. He fully understood the magnitude of exhibiting the proper balance of
Power and Tenderness.
He cleverly composed, That's kind of early, don't wanna be stuck with you that long....let's do 10:03 :p
Haha good thinking ;) she wrote back, as a boyish smile crept across Joel's face. The rest, as they say, was
history.
Cancel all plans tonight. Were hanging out. But promise me you will behave yourself
What do you have going on this weekbesides matching your first name with my last
name in cursive with hearts?
Tues Im going to X its one of the best bars in town they have the coolest Y
Note: X=name of bar; Y=something cool about the bar.
Once shes complied to hanging out with you, you have to keep texting her randomly up until the date. If you set
up a date 5 days in the future and you don't text her any of those 5 days, then theres a high probability that she'll
flake on you because her attraction will have faded significantly.
If, however, you text her several times during that 5-day gap, she will be much more likely to show up. If you
are setting up the date for a day in the future, then only solidify the actual meeting day with her. There is no
need to tell her the exact time and location so far in advance.
SLOWLY DRIP her a few details each day as the date approaches. This will keep the date fresh in her mind,
increase her excitement and ensure she doesn't forget or flake.
Let's pretend you planned a date with her for next Monday and today is Wednesday. After she has agreed to meet
up with you, end it there. You don't need to keep texting her back and forth all day. One or two more texts is fine,
but remember: the rule of ending every texting interaction still applies.
DRIP #1: Three days before the date you should tell her the location.
DRIP #2: The day before the date you should tell her the time to meet.
DRIP #3: Finally, on the actual day of the date, you should tell her what you'd like her to wear.
Slowly dripping her details about the date every few days will significantly decrease the likelihood of her flaking.
And of course, make sure to have a few fun text exchanges to spike her buying temperature each day before
you fill her in on the details of the date.
For example: Let's say that on Wednesday you found out that she's free on the following Monday. So, on
Friday (3 days before the date), you should text her something like this:
The key is to always make plans with her and assume compliance. Now, heres the main issue. Most guys
passively go for the meet-up by asking her if shes free or by asking, whens a good day for you to meet up?
or want to hang out? If you are doing that, STOP IT right now, as it just makes you look weak and puts her
in the decisive masculine role, a role that the man is supposed to take.
Women want a man who is dominant and decisive, so instead of asking, be more commanding and tell her
that you and her are going to hang out.
If she says no to hanging out or just stops responding then it might be a test. Don't sweat it, just move on and try
again later. Be persistent, keep trying.
If you have several flaky girls on your hands then you can always ask them all out at a time. It shouldn't be a
problem since you are texting 7 to 10 girls at a time, right?
Let's say you text 3 different girls to hang out with you tonight. This will triple your chances of getting a date.
Now, if more than one of them agrees, just tell the one that seems less into you (lower compliance) that
something came up and you need to reschedule. Bam! Now you just got two dates scheduled. See how powerful
this can be when you get the hang of it?
Historically, the best nights to schedule dates are Monday through Thursday, because Friday and Saturday are
generally going-out-with-friends nights for most women and Sunday is often reserved for chilling out or
recovering from the weekend. There are a million exceptions to this rule, but its good to bear in mind.
Below I have included more flirty fun texts that also show your dominant masculine side to quickly get her on a
date:
Matt: I'm so excited I bought a bunch of tasty cheese and Pinot Grigio and gonna watch
The Notebook tonight...don't judge!
Riana: omg that sounds like a great night
Matt: Jeez just invite yourself over why don't you!? Rude! lol Ok, well as long as you pick up
some crackers. Deal?
Riana: I wasnt saying I was coming lol But how can one resist lol
Note: The wasn't the Riana. I wish lol.
Matt: Let's meet up tomorrow night for drink.....but NO sex! Got it? :p
Note: This uses Negation.
Michelle: [No Response]
Matt: Ok fine, we can do it your way.....but be gentle, I'm fragile!
Michelle: just seeing this...you're crazy lol
Matt: Not as crazy as this cinematic masterpiece that we are going to watch this
weekend....what night are you free?
Michelle: I'm off sunday....what movie is it?
Matt: Can't tell you it's a surprise...Sunday works....but promise me you won't pee your pants
with laughter when you see this movie...I just got a new couch!
Michelle: Well I can't promise if I don't know what movie it is :)
If we don't hang out soon then I'm going to start cheating on you
Note: Works great after a marriage role-play.
Come meet me for a spontaneous romantic adventure and wear that black dress I love with
those matching heels....rawr!
Ok, I got something fun going on Wednesday, wanna join? If not you got a sister? Haha
Note: Slightly cocky-funny.
I've thought about it long and hard. I've decided to shave my head and be a monk in a monastery.
Saturday is my last day of freedom. Lets meet up before then
Hey goofball! X bar Friday night! Be there or we are breaking up and I'm not taking you back
this timeI'm signing the divorce papers and fighting for full custody
Note: X = name of the bar or club. Works great after a marriage
Do you like X? I was considering inviting you if you can promise NOT to embarrass me in public
:p
Note: The restricted request and saying, I was considering inviting you shows that you are not
overly eager to see her, thus demonstrating non-neediness
Pro Tip:
Want to get her to start subconsciously thinking about having sex with you before the date? Tell her to
wear a skirt and heels. Commanding her what to wear demonstrates your power, which triggers primal
animalistic attraction. It also builds compliance and conditions her to want to please you through the use of
her sexuality. Furthermore, as she feels sexy in her skirt and high-heels, she will unconsciously be driven to
want you to devour her. There's really no other way to explain this. Try it out and see for yourself.
Pro Tip:
When they first meet someone on a date, a lot of guys make the first five minutes or so very awkward: So
how was the drive over? Did you find parking OK? Don't get involved in this type of boring jargon
its a date with a hot chick, not Sunday dinner with your grandparents. Once you arrive at the bar or
meeting spot (make sure to arrive before her), set the stage that the date will be fun and playful by sending
her something totally off the wall like this:
I'm inside the bar, wearing the tuxedo, holding the bouquet of long stem roses next to the Peruvian
orchestra that I hired to follow us around all night serenading you with 17th century love ballads.
This works even better if you previously texted her a marriage or over-the-top romance role-play. When
she arrives you can continue the role-play, setting a fun and playful context from the very start. Do this
correctly and you will be off to an awesome first date!
So bottom line you kinda impressed me tonight...and I don't get impressed very often. Keep up
the good work ;)
Note: It shows that youre a bit of a challenge.
I just saw this number on the wall of the [Name of Bar That You Met Her At] bathroom and
it said 'text for a good time'
I think you have a confession to make...call me and Ill tell you what it is
Note: When she calls and asks what the confession is, say, I got out of the shower and
saw you peeping through my window trying to sneak a peek at me you perv! Make sure
to say this in a very playful tone.
Im gonna be busy for the next 10 min so Ill have my assistant Fritz call you!
Note: Then call her in a hilarious gay German accent and it will crack her up.
This texting thing is giving me carpal tunnel ... I'm gonna call you in 5
RESPONDING TO TESTS
Are you wondering if a woman has ever tested you? Well, there's a simple way to know for sure: are you
breathing right now? If the answer is 'yes' then a woman has tested you before. It's just a part of life so you
better get used to it.
Examples of tests from women via text are, I have a bf, I want you to take me to dinner, I don't sleep
with guys on the first date, I'm not that kind of girl, can I bring a friend? or she may just not respond at
all.
Here's the good news: Women will often test a man she is interested in just to see how he will react. It means that
shes actually attracted to you and is simply testing you to make sure you don't freak out and get all butt-hurt
over nothing. It's an easy way for her to see if you are a dominant man that gets his self-worth internally, or a
weak man who gets his validation from others approval and is going to go home and cry to his mommy
because he let a little girl get to him.
Think about it, she gave you her number so she wants you to succeed. She just wants to be 100% sure that you
really are a fun, confident, normal guy. Women meet guys all the time that fake their confidence and then turn
out to be total nut-jobs. A test is a simple way for her to cut those guys out of the equation as fast as possible.
So, you can't really blame her, can you?
The main rule when responding to any number of tests from a woman is to be completely unaffected. Stay
positive, playful and dont argue with her. When she sees that you get all of your value from yourself and that
she cannot get under your skin, you will pass her test every time. Whereas, if she can shift your emotional state,
then she knows she has control over you and will lose attraction.
Here are some examples of how to respond to a test to show that you are unaffected:
I don't know who your boyfriend is...but he's not spanking you hard enough!
Well your still my favorite little bratwell your at least in the top 5
Do you text all guys like this....or just guys you are attracted too?
Matt: Hey I saw a cute little squirrel the other day and it reminded me of you. Hope you
didn't turn into a squirrel. If you don't reply I will assume the worst.
Sally: haha no I've just been super busy with school
Matt: hmmm....well I'm going to call you in 5 minutes just to make sure this isn't the
squirrel texting me...
Note: Then you can just call her.
OMG did u get kidnapped into white slavery or something? Holla back
What happened to us? I can't eat. I can't sleep. My heart is breaking into a thousand
unfathomable pieces. Text me back punk
Note: Use after a over-the-top romantic role-play
If you are regularly getting numbers that don't text you back then it's probably not your texting that's the problem,
it's your initial interactions. If you made a great first impression then the vast majority of women will inevitably text
you back.
If you are regularly not getting responses then take that as an indication that you need to work on your approach and
fine tune your first encounters. Just know that you are doing something to push women away, and it may be
something very subtle that you would never have guessed.
Solution: Get a friend, wingman or professional coach to see what you are doing wrong and take his criticism
as honest feedback and make the suggested changes in your approach.
Remember, my team and I are always here to help.
For more texts to send women that havent responded, see the section on Numbers That Have Gone Cold.
Something terrible must have happened. I hope you are OK. Don't worry about me I'm meeting up with my
friend she's only in town a few days anyways.
Note: This shows that you have other women in your life
I'm sure something important came up...like your future self came back in time to assassinate the robot
ninja who keeps making you flake on hot guys that you are super attracted to :)
No problem...you can just cook me dinner next time....I really like peanut butter and bacon pizza!
Guess who gets to bring me a bottle of my favorite wine since she missed out last night?....yep it's you.
Thursday is looking pretty good.
No biggie, thanks for letting me know so I can take someone else. Note: This shows that you are
unaffected and have other options. Can only be used if she told you in advance.
the usual
Note: Use any absurd activity or far-fetched adventure.
Matt: If you are falling desperately in love with men then don't reply to this text
Gigi: [No Response]
Matt: I knew it....listen, here's the thing, this just isn't working out....you just text too much.
I'm sorry *sniff sniff* I know this is hard for you. But we can still be friends you know.
Gigi: You are so crazy lol. Sorry I haven't been responding lately just been going
through some stuff with my bf. We are probably breaking up.
Matt: I understand....unfortunately I make an awful rebound guy :]
Note: This uses negation
Gigi: Why is that?
Matt: bc I would just ruin you for all other guys in the future :p
Gigi: You are so bad! I love it
Hey, just been sorting out my phonebook and found out I have three [HER NAME]s, which
one are you......the crazy one, the hot one, or the shy suggestive one?
Note: This shows that you have a lot of women in your life.
Hey [Wrong Name] come over the key is in the normal spot, just wake me up when you
get here ;)
Note: This is a sneaky movie as its meant to seem like you sent a text to the wrong girl. Use
between 1am 3am because thats the booty-call time. This will show her that other women
find you sexually desirable and should only be used as a last-ditch effort.
AMBER Alert: Missing single white female, short, funny, kind of a dork. Last seen
desperately trying to get into the pants of a tall, witty confident malehave you seen her?
Note: AMBER is an official acronym for America's Missing: Broadcast Emergency Response.
TURNINGTHINGS SEXUAL
If you want to turn things sexual, its best done using the Mini-Orgasm technique or using one of the following
funny and playful texts.
Sexual texts, used very sparingly in the beginning, show that you are a sexual person and make it easier to
transition to sex during the first date because she will already see you as a sexual guy. Just be careful not to come
off as a pervert and remember: There is no tonality through texting so she cant hear how you are intending to
say it.
Here are some playful ways to turn things sexual:
Hey I've been thinking we're going to need a safe word... and it shouldnt be more
Note: Best if you are doing some sort of role-play such as marriage or overly romantic role-play or youve
already had sex with her.
SEX!!!
Ok
now
attention....[Interesting Question]
that
I've
got
your
Since we are on the topic of sexy pics, we really can't have a texting course without talking about dick pics! First
of all, even if she's sending you hot pictures of herself, try to refrain from whipping out One Eyed Willy to return the
favor.
But, what if she actually wants you to send her a naked picture of yourself? First of all, I advise against it. But, I
know that some of you will, despite my word of warning, so here's the deal:
First, don't make it too easy for her. If she asks, don't just pull down your trousers and start shooting away. Make
her really earn it by texting, say please... or, ok but you have to promise not to imagine putting it in your mouth
and sucking on it.
Be forewarned that once you send a picture of yourself you have no idea where itll end up. Do you really want
your goods plastered all over the internet? I know a guy who sent very explicit printed-out pictures of his exgirlfriend to her entire family, office and every venue in town she frequented. So, please keep in mind that once
your little firehose is in the digital world, you have no idea where itll end up.
Plus, you never know who might get a hold of her phone in the future. Therefore, it's best to at least leave your face
out of the picture. And, on that note, be sure to delete the pictures of yourself off your phone once you've sent
them. The last thing you want is for someone to steal your phone and send your family a bunch of your weird
nudies!
This stuff really does happen, so please use your better judgment.
Matt: Stop... :)
Silvia: What :)?
Matt: ....distracting me....I keep thinking about last night. Bad girl :)
I loved the way you tasted last night....I can't wait to ravish you again
Done correctly, you will make her melt in the palm of your hand and she'll likely brag to all her friends about how
amazing you are. This will also help her become a lot more open with her thoughts and feelings, allowing her to feel
safe in your presence.
PHYSICAL COMPLIMENTS:
Matt: You keep distracting me....:)
Marjan: Oh yeah?
Matt: I can't stop thinking about those gorgeous eyes of yours....the little specs of hazel in
them. How they sparkle and glisten when you are happy to see me.
Marjan: OMG you are the sweetest!
I was just thinking about those heels you just bought and how I can't wait to see you in
them....and nothing else :)
I love the way you smell....you always smell so fresh and clean like a rose garden just after it
rains. It makes me excited just thinking about it. Next time I see you I am going to....
NON-PHYSICAL COMPLIMENTS:
Matt: I was just thinking about how much I love all your little quirks...the way you curl up in a little L-shape
when you sleep, the way you love to sniff my neck, the way you bite your lower lip when you are nervous.
You are so cute.
Helga: Wow you notice all of that? :)
Matt: I notice more than you think :)
I really love how understanding you are...I really feel like we just get each other
I love how artistic you are.....you just seem to find the beauty in everything.
You are such a great teacher...your students are so lucky to have you...and I'm so lucky to have you.
Start gradually increasing your frequency of texts more and more. The more communication you have
(especially face-to-face) the faster she will turn into your girlfriend. But, make sure you remain random and
unpredictable or the relationship may fizzle out fast.
It is also pretty crucial to start calling her at this stage. If you do not want her to become your girlfriend then you
never really need to actually call her, unless she won't return your texts.
Talking on the phone usually sounds like the worst thing in the world to most guys, but women love to talk to
their man on the phone and unload what's on their mind. Women often just need to vent, it gives them a sense of
relief. If you want to be the man in her life then you better get used to this, but at the same time be sure to limit it
and stay in control. Don't let her go on and on forever. Twenty minutes is usually enough.
Keep in mind everything you do in the beginning will set the stage for what she'll expect in the relationship. So,
if you don't want to have long two-hour phone sessions then don't do it in the beginning.
If you only talk to her on the phone once a week and see her once a week, then it may take longer for the two of
you to become exclusive, as opposed to seeing her twice a week and talking to her on the phone three times a
week. So, connect with her more, text her often, write slightly longer texts, compliment her, call and
empathetically listen to her while remaining playful and dominant and trust me, she will become your girlfriend in no
time.
IN A RELATIONSHIP
Wow, you've really come a long way! You worked up the courage and approached her, texted her to the point
of getting a date, turned things sexual with the help of the Desire texts, turned her into your loving girlfriend
with the help of the Physical and Non-Physical compliment texts, and now you are in a relationship with a
compatible and amazing woman. Lucky you!
So, now what?
You really just need to keep it up, in more ways than one no girls wants a floppy lover. But seriously,
continue doing what you've been doing because its obviously working. Keep sending her Fun, Challenging,
Trust and Desire texts along with detailed Physical and Non-Physical Compliments.
Don't get lazy when it comes to texting, especially when you're in a relationship. Women hate when
things become dull and boring once the guy gets comfortable around them. Texting is a great way to keep
things fun, exciting and to spice things up every once in a while.
The key is to avoid getting into patterns. It's common for couples to form habits and patterns of behavior that
are easy and comfortable. This can make the relationship stale and lackluster because neither party is putting
in an effort to keep things new, fresh and exciting.
For example, if you text her, sweet dreams every night it will lose its impact. So change it up and make it
more random. Sometimes don't text her at all, sometimes send her a joke, and sometimes send her compliments.
The point is to keep it random and keep her guessing so that she never knows what youre going to do next.
This keeps the relationship exciting. It does take work, but it's well worth it if you really care about her. And
if you don't care about her then get the hell out of that relationship!
If you keep your messages playful, sexual, random and original then your relationship will flourish with the
excitement, joy and longevity of some of the greatest love stories in history.
FACEBOOK, WHATSAPP,
MATCH.COM AND BEYOND
Many of the rules and techniques you learned in this course apply to other messaging devices as well. Chatting
services such as Whatsapp or Facebook make messaging just as fast as texting. Feel free to use these techniques
on those platforms as well.
Furthermore, social networking sites like FaceBook are a great tool that you can use to your advantage by
simply getting the girls that you are texting to add you to their buddy lists. When girls see on FaceBook that
you are a real person with friends and an interesting social life, it will significantly increase their attraction to
you. Just be sure to have attractive pictures and interesting posts that convey your personality and lifestyle. If
you only have ten friends and a few crappy selfies of you in the bathroom with your shirt off then your
FaceBook may be in dire need of an upgrade.
Many guys have written to me saying that they've had tremendous success using these principles and texts on
internet dating sites such as Match.com, Plenty of Fish, OkCupid, Tagged and Badoo. Just go back through this
course and find bits and pieces that you want to test out in terms of sending your initial message, getting her
phone number and getting her to meet up with you.
Use these principles and texts, experiment and find other applications for them. You can even use these texts
as real world conversation starters and as openers at bars and clubs. The sky's the limit.
QUIZ
1. You can show your appreciation for a girl who is your girlfriend or for whom you would
like
to
be
your
girlfriend
by
sending
________________
and
.
her
ASSIGNMENTS
Search through your phone and find all the numbers of girls in your phone that have fizzled out and have gone
cold and send them all a text from the Numbers That Have Gone Cold section. See how many numbers
you can revive. Even if it's only one or two, that's still one or two more girls than before.
PART 7
TAKINGACTION
You should keep track of each text you send for two reasons:
1. So you dont send a girl the same text more than once. This can really kill the momentum and make
things incredibly awkward.
2. So you can keep track of each girl's response and know exactly which texts are working better for
you.
I started an Excel database on my computer to manage all my numbers and to track the texts that gave me the
best results. I suggest you do the same. Or, since you probably have a smartphone, you can easily track
everything on there.
The only way to master the art of texting women into bed is to practice. You need to fill up your database with
as many phone numbers as possible and get practicing. If you dont already have a list of girls you can text, at least
7 to 10, your first step is to go out and meet women and get phone numbers to practice with.
I want you to make it your personal goal to go for one phone number a day. This may seem hard at first, but with
your bonus videos on How to Get a HOT Date in Under 3-Minutes it could literally take you less than 5
minutes a day to get (or at least go for) a solid phone number.
Think about how much practice you would get if you got just one phone number a day? Thats 7 numbers a
week, 30 numbers a month, 365 phone numbers a year! You'd be a texting machine and would be having more
dates than you could handle.
Make it your personal goal to go for one phone number a day, and use the 3-Step System to Get a Date Tonight
and the The Sexual Attraction Sequence to get all the dates and sex you've ever wanted.
ADVANCED
In the beginning it is important to stick to the script, following the system to the tee and in the correct
sequence. You have the liberty to choose the texts that fit the girl, your personality, and the situation best, but
stay in the order of Fun, Challenge, Trust and Desire.
However, if you feel you are at an advanced level or you've read through and applied the texts in this program
to great success, then I want you to try mixing it up a bit. The only way to increase your skills and figure out
new methods that work for you is by applying constant experimentation.
I've had times where I sent Desire texts and gave girls Mini-Orgasms the first day I met them, and it worked,
but it all came down to calibration.
Calibration is fine-tuning and adjusting your methods to each individual situation, because the truth is, each
woman is different and each situation is unique. So you might have to adapt the rules to fit the context of the
moment. To be frank, rules are meant to be broken, but only after you've mastered them and have a clear
understanding of the purpose they serve.
IN CONCLUSION...
You've come a long way, from Amateur Texter to Master Text Message Seducer Extraordinaire. And you know
what? I couldn't be prouder. A sincere congratulations is in order for your willingness and determination to
increase the amplitude of your dating and sex life.
Youre well on your way to becoming a powerfully attractive man who truly understands what women
want, who connects with women deeper on an emotional level, speaks to women in a language that ignites the
primal seductress within, and has intimate relationships with incredibly stunning women.
I have no doubt that you will achieve the success with women that you so rightly deserve, and if you need
some extra assistance, my team and I are here to do whatever it takes to get you the results you want.
As you are working the program, firing off powerful text messages, make sure you keep coming back to
this course as a guideline, especially if you get stuck or confused. I recommend going back and re-reading the
section on Getting a Date Tonight and all of the Sexual Attraction Sequence sections at least one more
time to get a firm grasp on those concepts.
If you skipped any of the Quizzes or Assignments go back now and complete them. Reading is not enough;
you must do the work.
As you practice, I want you to experiment. You might lose a couple of hot leads along your journey, but
remember: You have to break a few eggs to make an omelet.
Now, get out there, send some text messages and get yourself a pile of hot dates with beautiful women by putting
all of these principles into practice. And make sure to let everyone know what worked for you and any cool
new texts you've come up with so that we can all learn from each other, by posting your texts on the forum
at: www.TheAttractiveMan.com/Forum.
And, most importantly, post your successes on the forum. That's my favorite part...I want to hear all about
how you used the tools in this program to Seduce Her With Text.
Kudos to you for completing this course and I look forward to hearing about all your achievements as
you post them.
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