Showing posts with label goals. Show all posts
Showing posts with label goals. Show all posts

Dixie Turns Sixty and What's Important Now

Every season asks the question,
"What's important now?"  


My sweet husband had a cake made 
with images of dolls I have made over the years, 
It was the BEST cake, too!  Lemon with 
raspberry filling and buttercream frosting. Yum!

The first year of the pandemic clarified for me that some things were on the back burner that I wanted to complete. They aren't things that would seem important to other people, and they aren't earth-altering, but they are important to me. My dad passed away in 2020. And my mom in 2021. And the pandemic happened. This life is finite and now is important. So I'm working on completing things and adding more fun, creativity and adventure into life. So I planned a visit to Texas to see a wonderful friend as the first adventure after turning 60!

I want to see better life services available for adults with intellectual disabilities, developmental disabilities and autism. In the State of Maine people with developmental disabilities have been sorely neglected for over twelve years while the service infrastructure has deteriorated. Figuring out how I can make a difference, be a caregiver and do my own work is on the to-do list. 

In 2014/2015 art-making in general got set aside. Last fall I started making things again. At first I was just making myself go through the process, and wasn't feeling it. But now I'm starting to see my little basement workroom as the creative springboard that it is. It's a place of respite, and I get to go there. I'm thankful. I've been learning to do things in short chunks of time - trace pattern pieces, cut out pattern pieces. It's been helping me complete things. I'm thankful.  I'm making pressed cloth Izannahs right now, and having fun working on that process. I'm thankful. Read about the Hopestill Izannah Walker doll clan here

I'd like to do more paintings. Colorful fun paintings without constraints. I made and sold paintings before I sold dolls. You can see some of my old paintings by clicking here.  

I'd like to do more sculpting of my own one of a kind dolls. I really enjoy sculpting - it's very relaxing and fun. 

We will see what 60 brings. But I'm not going to take a passive approach to it and just see what shows up on my doorstep.  I remind myself that lots of people have their greatest accomplishments after 60.  I found the following words about late bloomers in my emails while searching for something else. It goes to show that each season can have good thing in store. 


At age 50:

Hermann Hesse wrote Steppenwolf, which dealt with man's double nature.

Leo Tolstoy, horrified by the meaninglessness of existence, considered suicide, and finally turned to the simple faith of the peasants. 

P. L. Guinand, a Swiss inventor, patented a new method for making optical glass.

The philosopher Plotinus was finally persuaded by his students to write down his ideas, published as The Enneads.

Samuel Adams directed the Boston Tea Party. 

Barbra Streisand won a 10-year film and recording contract estimated at $60 million.

Mary Dixon became a pilot at the age of 50, fulfilling a lifelong dream.

Earl Vickers got married. The day included a string quartet performance of "Bohemian Rhapsody," a performance by an improv group, and a song he wrote for his wife.

Terri Tapper became the oldest female certified kiteboard instructor in the USA (and possibly the world).

Larry Silverman of Ballston Lake, NY, achieved his 3rd-degree black belt in karate.

At age 55:

Painter Pablo Picasso completed his masterpiece, Guernica.

Italian physicist Alessandro Volta invented the voltaic cell.

Richard Daniel Bass reached the summit of Mount Everest.

Walter Cronkite broadcast two special reports on Watergate, for the first time putting the story clearly before the American public.

Ella T. Grasso became the first woman to become an American governor on her own, not as the wife of a previous incumbant.

Rachel Carson wrote Silent Spring, which publicized the indiscriminate use of pesticides and helped rally support for environmental protection

At age 60:

Playwright and essayist George Bernard Shaw completed a play, "Heartbreak House," regarded by some as his masterpiece.

Italian sculptor, painter, playwright, draftsman and architect Gian Lorenzo Bernini began designing churches.

At age 70:

Benjamin Franklin helped draft the Declaration of Independence.

Businessman Cornelius Vanderbilt began buying railroads.

French actress Sarah Bernhardt had a leg amputated but refused to abandon the stage.

Justice John W. Sirica heard the Watergate case.

Judy Brenner, who had recently run the Boston Marathon, chased a teenage shoplifter 100 feet and helped hold him until police arrived.

At age 80:

Jessica Tandy became the oldest Oscar recipient for her work in Driving Miss Daisy.

George Burns became the second oldest Oscar recipient for his work in The Sunshine Boys.

American writer and physician Oliver Wendell Holmes published "Over the Teacups," which displayed his characteristic vitality and wit.

Christine Brown of Laguna Hills, California flew to China and climbed the Great Wall.

Paul Newman earned an Emmy for Outstanding Supporting Actor in a Miniseries or TV Movie for "Empire Falls" in 2005.

Dick Van Dyke appeared in the movie, "A Night at the Museum."

Sir George Martin (along with his son Giles) co-produced the Beatles' album "Love," the soundtrack to a Cirque du Soleil play.

At age 90:

Chagall became the first living artist to be exhibited at the Louvre museum.

Pablo Picasso was still producing drawings and engravings.

Chemist Paul Walden was still giving chemistry lectures.

And we cannot leave out centarians! 




Thoughts Over Coffee -
What I Wish I'd Done Yesterday


I'm glad I made this mug with 
my younger son when he was a toddler!

(A repost from the past - something I still want to think about). 

I start my day with coffee.  And with thinking.  Sometimes I write my thoughts and prayers in a journal. Today as I was creeping down the stairs trying not to wake the dog or the kids I was a bit mad at myself.  Usually I make coffee the night before, and I hadn't done it.  That made me think of other things I hadn't done.  So I was mentally making a list of all I hadn't done and wish I had.  This is dumb.

But I might be wrong.  Maybe making a list of what I wish I'd done in my yesterdays can inform today's to-do list.  Do I wish I had exercised yesterday?  Yes.   Will I wish I had tomorrow?   Yes.   Shouldn't that be on today's list?   Yes. That way I can turn regrets into something positive.   Pssst!  It's called learning, Dixie.  There are other things on the list that are as important.    Maybe my list should be called "What I Will Be Glad I Have Done."  And then do it.

12 Things to Say Yes To

Worth reading again for me, so I'm a reposting. 


I am going to make a big ol' sign 
for my family room that says YES.  

Below is a list of things I think people should say yes to.  It's not exhaustive, so please comment below if you have things to add.

Say Yes to Being You

I've been seeing this quote by Dr. Seuss posted on Facebook a lot lately:

Today you are you, that is truer than true. 
There is no one alive who is youer than you.

It's catchy, but it's also profound.   It is easy to go through life trying to do and be what other people thing is important and miss what is uniquely YOU in the process.   Everyone of us has a unique skill set which combined with our interests makes us profoundly unique.  If you are creative, chances are you like to learn things and you can be a pretty good jack of all trades.   But after you've acquired a skill set of about 12 things maybe it's time to really say YES to going deeply into one of those that fits the sweet spot of your interests. 

Say Yes to Setting Goals

Accomplishments don't happen without planning.   I have to work at saying yes to this because I like to try and do some many things.  But making a list of what fits with what is uniquely YOU and pursuing that is important work in becoming who we are meant to be.

Say Yes to Working Hard
Once you've decided on some goals, say YES to working hard.   This means focusing and not doing some other things you'd like to do. 


Say Yes to Getting Help

This relates to Saying Yes to Being You.  Since we can't do and be everything and we're saying YES to doing things that are unique to our skill set and interest, it leaves some things un-done by US.  I remember reading in Randy Paush's The Last Lecture that he thinks we should pay people to do things.   Recently I did that in getting our trim painted in our house.  I could do it, yes, but would I rather use my time to make an artwork, or design a new pattern or to paint my trim?  Since I can't do everything, and I really want to make artwork because that's uniquely me, I opted to get help painting the trim. 

Say Yes to Rest

You must get rest.  Everyone needs a different amount of it, but having some restful living every day will contribute to being healthier and more creative and more uniquely you.  If you're creative, chances are your mind is always working, and it's important to turn it off for a while.  I'm not advocating drugs.  But here is a link to an article on how to get a good night's sleep

Say Yes to Being Healthy

Eat your greens and reds and violets and all.  Colorful food = healthy body.  Healthy body = ability to do things.  You don't have to cook unless that's uniquely you.  Bagged salad and veggies work fine.  An apple is easy.   Moving doesn't mean you have to do something you hate.   Maybe it means dancing with your dog (yup, did that yesterday, she thinks I'm crazy). 

Say Yes to Trying Something New

Making things with our hands is rewarding and relaxing.  Learn to knit or paint or rug-hook or cook.  Or if you're an artist who sells your work, it is really, really important to make some things that you have no intention of selling when you make it.  You can decide later to sell it if you want, but give yourself some time to color outside the lines. 

Say Yes to Smelling the Roses

Ten minutes in a hammock on a beautiful May day can totally recharge your batteries.  Listening to the surf at the ocean can reduce anxiety.   Time spent building sand castles with kids and grandkids builds memories.

Say Yes to Helping Others

Chances are this is not your problem.  But it is worthwhile to get involved in some way in your community helping out others.  It gives us a wider view of the world. 

Say Yes to Failure

Really, Dixie?   Well, what I really mean is to try something and be at peace with it if it doesn't work out.  Sometimes you won't be successful, but if you don't try something which has the possibility of failing, you might never get anything important done.   Safety is not always safe.  Some of the people we consider to be huge successes only got there after a thousand failures. 

Say Yes to Success

"Well, duh, Dixie.  Of course I want to say YES to Success."

I don't know if we always do.  Sometimes we can sabotage ourselves without understanding that's what we're doing.  We choose not to take the next step out of fear, or we worry about what will happen if we really do succeed.  Or we overload ourselves so that there is no way we can possibly accomplish some of our heart-felt desires.  Or maybe that's just me?  ;-)

Say Yes to Saying No

You knew it would ultimately come to this, right?   Our time is finite and we can only say yes to so many things.  Which means we must say no to some things.   There is a book called "Yes" or "No": The Guide to Better Decisions by Spencer Johnson. One of the helpful tips in the book was to ask yourself the question "What Would I Do If I Weren't Afraid?"   For me, the answer is often, I would say "no" if I weren't afraid of disappointing someone.  Or I would do X if I weren't afraid of falling on my face.

Another way to figure out what to say Yes and No to is to pit things against each other...it helps to then identify ways we might be wasting our time

make a painting or shop for sales at the mall
check facebook or do the dishes (uh-oh)

you get the drift...

I'm wondering what you will be thoughtfully be saying yes to?  And maybe that's another thing to add to the list....say yes to taking time to decide whether you're going to say Yes or No....

Sorting Your Life Tasks -
Making To Do Lists


Sometimes I see all my life tasks as having equal weight.  Or that I feel I must do them all.  This creates stress for me, because while I'm doing one thing I am thinking about the thing I'm not doing.  Something like this (imperfect) diagram above will help.   The can't and can circles overlap, which they shouldn't.  Maybe that shows my confusion?

Most of what we do in life ought to fall into the can/must category.   Of course, living most of your life in the can/must/like category is a whole lot more fun.  Things that fall into the can't/hate category just shouldn't be done by us, but how many times do we find ourselves doing just those things?   And things that fall into the must/hate/can't are those that you hire someone else to do, or change your life so that those things aren't on your list.   

Late Bloomers Repost


Note from Dixie on 4-25-11....I got up feeling tired on this Monday and saw this old post below the last post I wrote.   I clicked on it and it was exactly what I needed to read today to encourage myself.   So I thought I'd repost it, because this is what I'm thinking about today.  I will be 49 soon....and all of this still applies.  Actually, it will apply until I'm 107  ;-)  

I visited Melanie Hickman's site and saw she had an article on Late Bloomers: Artists & Entrepreneurs. I appreciate articles such as these, as I feel I am a late bloomer and have only begun to do what I am meant to do for the last half of my life. So I decided to Google Late Bloomers and came up with a few more interesting articles below. I especially loved the stories of people who started businesses in their 80's and 90's. So in that light I am not a late bloomer but a spring chicken at 48!

A Goal Met

 
 Inspiration:  Original Antique Izannah Walker Doll

Last Thanksgiving, when my family was eating pizza on a nightly basis (not really, but close) I worked on my Izannah Walker doll pattern.  

 


I was nervous about designing it and getting everything uploaded onto the class site.  My husband really pulled me through, covering kids and household chores, sitting me down and helping me make a project management timeline, breaking what seemed like a huge task into do-able chunks.  He's great!  

In the past year, I have used my pattern to make a quite a few dolls (below).  And I have had the joy of seeing the class members make some amazing dolls with that pattern.  Go to the Izannah Walker Workshop blog and watch the slideshow of class dolls.  They're amazing.  My friend Edyth called them my "grand-dolls."  I loved that perspective.  :-)   


I know some of you have wondered if I'm being held hostage by an organizational guru because of my recent blog posts, but no.  I'm getting organized and ready for the next goal. 

Words Matter

We use words so easily. We text news of the greatest importance. Sometimes it's easy to not pay attention to what's coming out of our mouths. Blah blah blah blah blah. But some people understand the power of words. John Wooden was one of them. He passed away yesterday at the age of 99. Apparently he was a great basketball coach, but I know him because he said,

"Do not let what you cannot do
interfere with what you can do."

These are important words which I quote to myself often. They are important in light of my post yesterday as well. It is easy to be overwhelmed at times and choose not to do something because it seems like our efforts are a drop in the bucket. But a bucket can be filled with drops of water - anyone with a plumbing leak can attest to that!

I hope at the end of my life I've said something worth saying. John Wooden said many things worth saying and worth thinking about. You can find more of John Wooden's words of wisdom here.

Proverbs 12:14 (The Message)

14 Well-spoken words bring satisfaction;
well-done work has its own reward.

Late Bloomers: Artists, Writers & Entrepreneurs


I visited Melanie Hickman's site and saw she had an article on Late Bloomers: Artists & Entrepreneurs. I appreciate articles such as these, as I feel I am a late bloomer and have only begun to do what I am meant to do for the last half of my life. So I decided to Google Late Bloomers and came up with a few more interesting articles below. I especially loved the stories of people who started businesses in their 80's and 90's. So in that light I am not a late bloomer but a spring chicken at 48!

Three Words



Did you read the book Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert? I read the book and was very engaged by some of it and truth be told there were a few times I wanted to say, "Elizabeth! It's not always about you, okay?" But of course that's what the book WAS about. ;-)

Elizabeth was able to find three words that told the story of that season of her life. Which makes me wonder, if I were going to choose three words to describe my journey of the past few years what would they be? I noticed when I tried to do this there was always something physically real popping up in the trio of words. I made myself stick with one syllable words which are verbs. Here are a few combinations I came up with...

Clean, Drive, Paint
Push, Leave, Rest
Trust, Pay, Enjoy
Trust, Choose, Sew
Choose,
Learn, Hope



After I made this list it struck me that perhaps I could choose the three words that will describe the next season of my life. Of course not everything is in my control, but some things are - maybe two out of the 3?


What three words
describe your journey?



Goal Setting Revisited



A few years ago, I picked up a book. It's one that has been life-changing for me on many levels. It's called The Magic Lamp: Goal Setting for People Who Hate Setting Goals. Buy this book. Read it and do the exercises - it's really about helping you identify what you really want to make come true in your life.


The title is a bit misleading - as if there is some special gadget out there for helping with setting goals. There isn't. Our lives and what we accomplish, or don't accomplish is about choice making, really, and following through on those choices daily over time. What gets in the way for some of us is focusing and choosing what we want to do. What I particularly like about this book is how the dry dusty "goal setting" framework gets reworked into "making my wishes come true." Because if we all saw goals like that - as making our wishes come true - then we would be more focused on working on them.

Sometimes we fool ourselves into thinking we don't have time. We have the time. Sometimes we choose not to make our wishes come true because we'd rather watch NCIS or The Little Shop of Horrors. Or more likely for me, surf the web and find 10 Questions to Ask to Help in Decluttering. Or we think our wishes will only come true if we can work on them full time. Not so. The author says:
Spare time wishing may not feel like the ideal arrangement. It may not get you where you want to go as fast as you want to get there, but it will get you there faster than going broke (i. e. quitting your job). And it really works. As a young man, Albert Einstein worked as a patent clerk. In his spare time, he invented the Theory of Relativity. Anything is possible if you give it enough time."
Wishes can come true at any age. It's important to have dreams and goals, and then to work to make them come true. They come in all sizes, too. In a couple of weeks one of my wishes is going to come true. It's something I dreamed back in 2007. It's not the theory of relativity, but I'm happy to see this happening.

Attic and Barn


Today I was at my granddad's old house. My granddad passed away a few years ago at 100 years of age. His children are in the process of cleaning out his house. So today I went up to visit and poke around in the attic and barn. When I was 12 or so, a cousin and I went up to the attic above the shed and poked around. We went down to talk to Granddad and asked him if we could have some of the old stuff up there. Granddad replied with a grin, "You can have anything you want up there, dear!" Things didn't mean a lot to him. He was happy to share with my cousin and I....and perhaps happy to see some of it go! Who knows who it belonged to? Some family members from years back, or previous owners?



So my cousin and I took a pack of post-its and went to claim our prizes, labeling an old chair, a sewing machine, a baby carriage. One of my aunts was telling me that my name is still on a couple of items in the shed. Here's what we saw back then, and it's pretty much the same today....


That my name is still on items
is a testament to the power of post-its,
because it's 35 years later.


Anyway, while I was walking down memory lane
and looking at the stuff there, I noticed the light coming in ---
through the stained glass windows of the front sitting room...



through the windows of the attic....






through the windows in the shed...





through the doors of the barn ...





It was beautiful.



It wasn't the stuff
that reminded me of Granddad.
The light reminded me of Granddad.
He brought light with him wherever he went.
And if I carry that within me, Granddad's there, too.

The Seed of a Dream


Little did I know the day I first took this road that I was planting the "seed of a dream". I'm going to do some paintings based on that phrase. I was joking in a group recently that some of the seemingly minor choices of life are the ones that ought to have Wagner music playing in the background. This is the road I took when I first went to visit the first Izannah Walker doll I was able to see in person.

It was the beginning of a passion for me, to gather as much information as I can about Izannah Walker and as many images of original Izannah Walker dolls as I can. I've learned so much about life while doing this. I've learned that you won't get answers if you don't ask questions. There may not be an answer for every question, but there are answers for many.

I've also learned that Maine is one of the most beautiful places on earth. Really, the beauty isn't always at the end of the road, but along the journey, isn't it?

What journey will you begin today?

Thinking informs doing...

"You cannot plough a field
by turning it over in your mind."


I don't know who said this first. It's by "unknown author". I was going to put this quote on my blog permanently, but I started thinking that I'm not sure if it's entirely TRUE. Well, it is true that a field won't get plowed by turning it over in your mind. But there has been research done that shows that practicing something in your mind can be almost the equivalent of actually doing it. Of course, you do eventually have to actually do that something to see if that's true.

Sometimes I imagine making a work in my head. Or painting a room. Often I am guilty of leaving it in the imaginary state. But when I eventually do make the something - paint the room, begin the doll. The "drawing time" in my head has usually been worthwhile. As long as I eventually do it with real paint and cloth.

"Do not let what you cannot do
keep you from doing what you can do."

John Wooden