If you're planning to propose, you should make sure you take your partner's feelings into account.
There are hundreds of different ways to pop the question, and everyone has their own way they want to be asked. You always want the occasion to be romantic, but you might have your own ideas about whether the moment is shared just between you and your partner or if you make a dramatic showing in front of a large crowd.
No matter what your feelings are, however, if you're the one getting down on one knee you should consider planning a proposal that your partner will enjoy, too. One woman who recently accepted her fiancé's proposal has said her partner definitely didn't consider her feelings, as the event left her feeling "creeped out" thanks to one weird addition.
In a post on Reddit, the woman explained her fiancé planned a whole "engagement weekend" for the two of them. But instead of it being the romantic trip she was expecting, she was left feeling on edge because her partner had invited his parents – who didn't leave them alone for a single second.
His parents witnessed his proposal and made several "weird comments" about the event being the "best day of their lives". To top it all off, they have since been telling the woman that they are her "new parents now", which she finds "creepy".
The woman said her dad was also present on the trip, but only because she invited him after finding out her future in-laws were going to be there for the whole weekend. When she spoke to her fiancé about how uncomfortable she felt, he was "offended".
She wrote: "I told my fiancé about how this made me feel – how I felt the proposal was more for them than it was for me. He said he didn't mean it that way and that he wanted to 'knock two birds out with one stone' by having them and me there at once.
"I told him how I felt about the comments they made and how it felt overwhelming. I told him I respect and will be nice to his parents but that I see them as in laws and not as my new parents. He was very offended by this and found it to be unreasonable. He thinks I should see them as my new parents because I'm joining their family now, and that's how it works."
The woman finished her post by declaring she's considering cancelling her plans to spend Christmas with his family because she doesn't want to face his parents, and she's now even thinking of calling off their engagement.
Commenters on the post were firmly on her side, with many saying that she isn't "joining" her partner's family but instead should be making a new family with him – making both of their parents "extended family" to each other.
One person said: "You're not 'joining their family'. You're creating a new independent immediate family with your partner. They are now extended family. If you are the only one out of all of you that grasps this, I'd get out now. You'll be in for years of frustration." And another added: "Give the ring back and get out of this mess."
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