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When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal
Healing is not a one-time event.
It can begin with a one-time event — typically some form of sudden loss that disrupts our projection of what the future might be. However, the true work of healing is allowing that disruption to wake us from a deep state of unconsciousness, to release the personas we adapted into and begin consciously piecing together the full truth of who we were meant to be.
In her follow up collection to the international bestseller 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think, Brianna Wiest shares 45+ new pieces that will help you find your inner sanctum and embark on the path of true transformation. Wiest's words are a balm for any soul on the journey of their own becoming.
It can begin with a one-time event — typically some form of sudden loss that disrupts our projection of what the future might be. However, the true work of healing is allowing that disruption to wake us from a deep state of unconsciousness, to release the personas we adapted into and begin consciously piecing together the full truth of who we were meant to be.
In her follow up collection to the international bestseller 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think, Brianna Wiest shares 45+ new pieces that will help you find your inner sanctum and embark on the path of true transformation. Wiest's words are a balm for any soul on the journey of their own becoming.
235 pages, Kindle Edition
First published January 16, 2022
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January 8, 2023
I was lost, wandering the library aisles, when I randomly picked this book from the shelf, opened it, and read a passage. It almost moved me to tears right then and there – which I took as a sign that it was something I should read.
“In many ways, the journey of healing is not so much a chapter in your story, but changing the way you write the entire book.”
This is not something you can read fast. You need time to absorb. Reflect. Process the words for maximum effect. You will want to pause a lot. Brianna quickly feels like the best champion you’ve ever had, the person in your corner, the hand to reach down and lift you up off the canvas.
Some chapters resonate more than others, but it’s all things we need to hear. The chapters are short and easy to digest, often feeling like a life-affirming pep talk. When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal excels best at re-framing certain experiences and feelings. It got me looking at things from a different perspective, a healthier one. If you’re feeling adrift, navigating life changes, or experiencing the loss of a job or relationship, there is plenty here for you.
“What you build in the wake and aftermath of loss will be so profound, so stunning, you will realise that maybe, the loss was part of the plan. Maybe it awakened a part of you that would have remained dormant had you not been pushed the way you were.”
I found the content reinforced many things from a well being course I completed recently. It also solidified things my therapist encourages me to do – so, Brianna’s advice and guidance is the real deal. It made me realise just how many positive things I’m doing within my own healing process, which was quite validating.
“You’re mourning the loss of a potential future - but it was just that, a potential.”
One or two chapters are worth the read alone. The entire book is immensely quotable, though some might say it’s too quotable. It begins to feel like a series of inspirational bumper stickers after a while, but if you dip in and out, take your time, this is less noticeable.
Besides exploring mental health, healing, and relationships, it also touches on the art of letting go, pursuing passions, reinventing yourself, embracing life’s imperfections, future-self work, and navigating uncertainty.
“When you are uncertain, you are open to making choices that otherwise wouldn’t have been possible, because you were too comfortable with what you were used to. Uncertainty is a breeding ground for life’s greatest moments and most epic possibilities.”
It took me almost two months to finish this. Do I feel better about life than when I started? Yes, I do. I’m unsure how much of this book is responsible, but there’s no doubt it played a role, and for that I’m grateful.
“I hope you learn how to gently dust yourself off and begin again, because life is too short to stay stagnant, life is too full to only drink a quarter of the glass.”
“In many ways, the journey of healing is not so much a chapter in your story, but changing the way you write the entire book.”
This is not something you can read fast. You need time to absorb. Reflect. Process the words for maximum effect. You will want to pause a lot. Brianna quickly feels like the best champion you’ve ever had, the person in your corner, the hand to reach down and lift you up off the canvas.
Some chapters resonate more than others, but it’s all things we need to hear. The chapters are short and easy to digest, often feeling like a life-affirming pep talk. When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal excels best at re-framing certain experiences and feelings. It got me looking at things from a different perspective, a healthier one. If you’re feeling adrift, navigating life changes, or experiencing the loss of a job or relationship, there is plenty here for you.
“What you build in the wake and aftermath of loss will be so profound, so stunning, you will realise that maybe, the loss was part of the plan. Maybe it awakened a part of you that would have remained dormant had you not been pushed the way you were.”
I found the content reinforced many things from a well being course I completed recently. It also solidified things my therapist encourages me to do – so, Brianna’s advice and guidance is the real deal. It made me realise just how many positive things I’m doing within my own healing process, which was quite validating.
“You’re mourning the loss of a potential future - but it was just that, a potential.”
One or two chapters are worth the read alone. The entire book is immensely quotable, though some might say it’s too quotable. It begins to feel like a series of inspirational bumper stickers after a while, but if you dip in and out, take your time, this is less noticeable.
Besides exploring mental health, healing, and relationships, it also touches on the art of letting go, pursuing passions, reinventing yourself, embracing life’s imperfections, future-self work, and navigating uncertainty.
“When you are uncertain, you are open to making choices that otherwise wouldn’t have been possible, because you were too comfortable with what you were used to. Uncertainty is a breeding ground for life’s greatest moments and most epic possibilities.”
It took me almost two months to finish this. Do I feel better about life than when I started? Yes, I do. I’m unsure how much of this book is responsible, but there’s no doubt it played a role, and for that I’m grateful.
“I hope you learn how to gently dust yourself off and begin again, because life is too short to stay stagnant, life is too full to only drink a quarter of the glass.”
July 10, 2024
Delving deep into the journey that healing from emotional wounds is for all of us, the author describes this familiar unwinding to readers, asking them to think about what elements might be part of their own healing chemistry. Through the author's narratives, one of the most human experiences and feelings is represented, the process of healing and self-discovery.
The author recognizes that feeling motivated or prepared to heal is one of the steps that will take place in the healing process. In today's world, where we see messaging around individual growth, self-care has become a focal point, the message Wiest brings forth in her narrative is particularly timely. In her narrative she uses her experiences as well as the experiences of others to offer the book's readers guidance and wisdom which are practical.
This audiobook, in addition to offering theoretical insights, offers concrete and action steps, as well as exercises readers can complete for their personal healing journey. Whether that means traveling through old memories or seeking better emotional wellness, Wiest's voice in the book is encouraging and will help listeners start or think about healing with courage and substance.
I am forever changed by this audiobook in particular. I feel like I think about healing differently and more importantly, have guidelines for what I might do or look for in my healing processes.
The author recognizes that feeling motivated or prepared to heal is one of the steps that will take place in the healing process. In today's world, where we see messaging around individual growth, self-care has become a focal point, the message Wiest brings forth in her narrative is particularly timely. In her narrative she uses her experiences as well as the experiences of others to offer the book's readers guidance and wisdom which are practical.
This audiobook, in addition to offering theoretical insights, offers concrete and action steps, as well as exercises readers can complete for their personal healing journey. Whether that means traveling through old memories or seeking better emotional wellness, Wiest's voice in the book is encouraging and will help listeners start or think about healing with courage and substance.
I am forever changed by this audiobook in particular. I feel like I think about healing differently and more importantly, have guidelines for what I might do or look for in my healing processes.
August 9, 2023
~ 5/5 ☆
"When You Are Ready, This Is How You Heal" is a powerful and compassionate guidebook .It offers a practical and insightful approach to healing and personal growth.
Brianna's writing style is clear and accessible, making it easy to connect with her words and concepts. The book explores various aspects of healing, providing valuable guidance and exercises that encourage self-reflection and self-care.
In this book, Brianna Wiest very beautifully explains how healing is a multidimensional process, encompassing the mind, body, and spirit. She offers practical exercises, meditations, and self-care practices that integrate these different aspects, creating a well-rounded approach to healing.The author emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and compassion throughout the healing journey. Her approach is very gentle and non-judgmental, creating a safe space for readers to explore their emotions and begin the healing process
The book provides a roadmap for self-discovery and personal growth. It empowered me to take ownership of my healing journey, offering practical tools to form resilience and develop coping mechanisms that are healthy for me and my soul. The book encouraged me to embrace my vulnerabilities and learn from my experiences.
Overall, it is an insightful and empowering book that offers practical guidance for healing and personal growth. Brianna's compassionate approach and practical exercises make it a valuable resource for anyone seeking guidance and support on their healing journey. The book covers a wide range of topics related to healing and i think it's really important to approach the book with an open mind and choose the sections that resonate most with your own healing journey! 🫂🤍
"When You Are Ready, This Is How You Heal" is a powerful and compassionate guidebook .It offers a practical and insightful approach to healing and personal growth.
Brianna's writing style is clear and accessible, making it easy to connect with her words and concepts. The book explores various aspects of healing, providing valuable guidance and exercises that encourage self-reflection and self-care.
In this book, Brianna Wiest very beautifully explains how healing is a multidimensional process, encompassing the mind, body, and spirit. She offers practical exercises, meditations, and self-care practices that integrate these different aspects, creating a well-rounded approach to healing.The author emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and compassion throughout the healing journey. Her approach is very gentle and non-judgmental, creating a safe space for readers to explore their emotions and begin the healing process
The book provides a roadmap for self-discovery and personal growth. It empowered me to take ownership of my healing journey, offering practical tools to form resilience and develop coping mechanisms that are healthy for me and my soul. The book encouraged me to embrace my vulnerabilities and learn from my experiences.
Overall, it is an insightful and empowering book that offers practical guidance for healing and personal growth. Brianna's compassionate approach and practical exercises make it a valuable resource for anyone seeking guidance and support on their healing journey. The book covers a wide range of topics related to healing and i think it's really important to approach the book with an open mind and choose the sections that resonate most with your own healing journey! 🫂🤍
April 12, 2023
I realize Brianna Weist is popular amongst many readers. However, for reasons I've thought it only fair to include below in a quick review, her guidance didn't resonate with me.
My issue with this book (and others she's written) isn't necessarily the writing itself, as this isn't the first book of Wiest's that I've picked up and read. My issue is with the fact that I firmly believe authors who write relatable and healthy "self growth and self efficacy" publications need to have experienced a fair amount of hardship, trudging, disillusionment, and darkness in order to earn the trust of millions of readers. This isn't a work of fiction. It isn't literary non-fiction. This is, as the title states, a book on how to heal.
My opinion has nothing to do with her age, though there is knowledge and experience that comes with time. By contrast, authors who have struggled intensely with addiction, disability, mental health, disease, divorce, being a member of a marginalized community, low income, trauma, a notable loss, etc... (at least one of these things) -- they have endured difficult circumstances that have called for tricky navigating. From everything I learned about Brianna Weist by reading her articles, listening to her podcast interviews, reviewing her life history, I think she's extremely bright and well intentioned. I appreciate those things. I do. She has admitted that from an early age, she told her mother she wanted to help others. Her wish is admirable. I'm not arguing that by any means. Yet, to dole out "how to heal" advice to millions of people living in varying circumstances completely different from hers, I found it a tad bit short sighted and egocentric.
Examples of authors who are authentically and humbly effective because of the odysseys each has experienced that come to mind are: Suleika Jaouad, Toni Morrison, Maya Angelou, David Bedrick, Glennon Doyle, Nadia Bolz-Weber, Sonya Renee Taylor, Sarah Polley, Anne Lamott, Pema Chödron, Thomas Merton, Bessel Van Der Kolk, and Cheryl Strayed (amongst others).
Before daring to write up anything about Brianna Wiest, I made sure I did a deep dive of research about her education, her published articles in various journals, her life in its entirety to date. I listened to three various podcast interviews with Wiest as a guest. I don't believe in unjust criticism. Without a full picture of an individual, there's nothing mindful about giving a self efficacy author a two star review - and I wanted to make it clear this isn't some maladjusted projection of my own.
To be less muddy about what I take issue with, I'll be honest, Wiest's work comes off as hypocritical and insincere. I realize this isn't her goal. Of course it isn't. The problem with her instructions on "how to___" (you name it), is that she's speaking in broad strokes to millions of readers who have been spellbound by her beauty, perceived inner wisdom, and her (self professed) "old soul" qualities. In my opinion, the most lauded and trustworthy resources for getting from one side of any difficulty to the other, is finding someone who has taken a similar trek before you- someone who has experience with the skinned knees and bruised egos of experience. We live in an age with wellness coaches, health gurus, spiritual guides, and others offering solutions en masse. We're bombarded with people who have "answers." Before I ever take a grain of advice from anyone, I find out if they've lived enough of the questions themselves.
As stated before, Weist can write. It would be wonderful if she pivoted a few degrees with her skill, and played around with another genre or sub-genre. It's clear she has a gift with words.
I realize that my opinion isn't the majority: and for everyone who thoroughly enjoyed this book, I think that's the beauty of reading and literary criticism: diversity. ~
My issue with this book (and others she's written) isn't necessarily the writing itself, as this isn't the first book of Wiest's that I've picked up and read. My issue is with the fact that I firmly believe authors who write relatable and healthy "self growth and self efficacy" publications need to have experienced a fair amount of hardship, trudging, disillusionment, and darkness in order to earn the trust of millions of readers. This isn't a work of fiction. It isn't literary non-fiction. This is, as the title states, a book on how to heal.
My opinion has nothing to do with her age, though there is knowledge and experience that comes with time. By contrast, authors who have struggled intensely with addiction, disability, mental health, disease, divorce, being a member of a marginalized community, low income, trauma, a notable loss, etc... (at least one of these things) -- they have endured difficult circumstances that have called for tricky navigating. From everything I learned about Brianna Weist by reading her articles, listening to her podcast interviews, reviewing her life history, I think she's extremely bright and well intentioned. I appreciate those things. I do. She has admitted that from an early age, she told her mother she wanted to help others. Her wish is admirable. I'm not arguing that by any means. Yet, to dole out "how to heal" advice to millions of people living in varying circumstances completely different from hers, I found it a tad bit short sighted and egocentric.
Examples of authors who are authentically and humbly effective because of the odysseys each has experienced that come to mind are: Suleika Jaouad, Toni Morrison, Maya Angelou, David Bedrick, Glennon Doyle, Nadia Bolz-Weber, Sonya Renee Taylor, Sarah Polley, Anne Lamott, Pema Chödron, Thomas Merton, Bessel Van Der Kolk, and Cheryl Strayed (amongst others).
Before daring to write up anything about Brianna Wiest, I made sure I did a deep dive of research about her education, her published articles in various journals, her life in its entirety to date. I listened to three various podcast interviews with Wiest as a guest. I don't believe in unjust criticism. Without a full picture of an individual, there's nothing mindful about giving a self efficacy author a two star review - and I wanted to make it clear this isn't some maladjusted projection of my own.
To be less muddy about what I take issue with, I'll be honest, Wiest's work comes off as hypocritical and insincere. I realize this isn't her goal. Of course it isn't. The problem with her instructions on "how to___" (you name it), is that she's speaking in broad strokes to millions of readers who have been spellbound by her beauty, perceived inner wisdom, and her (self professed) "old soul" qualities. In my opinion, the most lauded and trustworthy resources for getting from one side of any difficulty to the other, is finding someone who has taken a similar trek before you- someone who has experience with the skinned knees and bruised egos of experience. We live in an age with wellness coaches, health gurus, spiritual guides, and others offering solutions en masse. We're bombarded with people who have "answers." Before I ever take a grain of advice from anyone, I find out if they've lived enough of the questions themselves.
As stated before, Weist can write. It would be wonderful if she pivoted a few degrees with her skill, and played around with another genre or sub-genre. It's clear she has a gift with words.
I realize that my opinion isn't the majority: and for everyone who thoroughly enjoyed this book, I think that's the beauty of reading and literary criticism: diversity. ~
May 1, 2022
this book was one of those reads that i couldn’t read too much of it at once, because i really wanted to stop and take in the lessons of each chapter. i would 10/10 recommend this book to everyone, even if you think “why would i need to read this i have no wounds to heal from”, this book will really surprise you.
April 23, 2022
Meh. Remember when everyone was like “omg read Girl, Wash Your Face, it will change you!” And then you read it and you’re like wut in the Karen of all Karen, white woman, pretentious, saying lots of words without really saying anything with substance, fresh Hell is this?? It’s kinda like that. Fluffy and superficial.
April 9, 2023
Brianna West is a mindfulness writer…. addressing spirituality, and emotional intelligence.
She’s only 30 years old ….. and wise beyond her years.
Mindfulness books are not for everyone—
self help books are not for everyone—
but everyone has has feelings, emotions, joys, hurt, thoughts, and judgments….
For me …..
….like taking my car in for a service—
I ‘do’ benefit from books like these —
It reinforces things I’ve already been practicing…..
and deepens my understanding about myself. today, not twenty years ago.
This book allowed to examine my relationships —my values,
my strengths, my weaknesses,
as well as
…..look at my barriers, my resistance to change, take risks, and grow.
I thought this book was
Valuable….
Relevant…..
Wise…..
Listen-able….
Accessible….
Enjoyable!!!
“Let go of loving people who are not in a place to love you back”.
“Our time, energy and sanity is robbed if we continue to focus on loving people who don’t love us.
We are not for everyone and everyone is not for us”.
“Learn how to bend, not break, how to compromise, how to take, and appreciate, not assume”.
Thank you Rowan for putting this book on my radar!
She’s only 30 years old ….. and wise beyond her years.
Mindfulness books are not for everyone—
self help books are not for everyone—
but everyone has has feelings, emotions, joys, hurt, thoughts, and judgments….
For me …..
….like taking my car in for a service—
I ‘do’ benefit from books like these —
It reinforces things I’ve already been practicing…..
and deepens my understanding about myself. today, not twenty years ago.
This book allowed to examine my relationships —my values,
my strengths, my weaknesses,
as well as
…..look at my barriers, my resistance to change, take risks, and grow.
I thought this book was
Valuable….
Relevant…..
Wise…..
Listen-able….
Accessible….
Enjoyable!!!
“Let go of loving people who are not in a place to love you back”.
“Our time, energy and sanity is robbed if we continue to focus on loving people who don’t love us.
We are not for everyone and everyone is not for us”.
“Learn how to bend, not break, how to compromise, how to take, and appreciate, not assume”.
Thank you Rowan for putting this book on my radar!
July 27, 2022
"If you do not know what you want, start with what you're most afraid of."
THE MAGICAL THAT THIS BOOK BRINGS. It's like I want to highlights every single words and put in right into my head.
Thought Catalog is my most favorite and "life saver" platform ever.
November 13, 2023
Wiele słów z tej książki dało mi dużo do myślenia. Czuję się bardzo zadowolona, że to przeczytałam. I nie wiem ile dokładnie, ale obstawiam, że zaznaczyłam z 70 fragmentów. Polecam, bo może akurat ktoś z Was, potrzebuje coś z tego przeczytać, pomyśleć i zrozumieć… ❤️
Ja nie przepadam za stereotypowymi poradnikami, słowami - tu tak nie było. I chętnie sięgnę po inne książki autorki. Ta jest zdecydowanie kocykiem i ukojeniem. Daje nadzieje w słowach, które docierają. I była dla mnie pewnego rodzaju pamiętnikiem, co jest zabawne, bo przecież tę książkę może kupić i przeczytać każdy z Was, ale jednak fragmenty które tam pozaznaczalam… uderzyły wgłąb mnie. I zrozumiałam, że bez względu na wszystko co się dzieje - muszę dbać o siebie, bo tylko siebie mam do samego końca. Ta książka to coś dobrego ❤️
Współpraca reklamowa z @wydawnictwofilia
Ja nie przepadam za stereotypowymi poradnikami, słowami - tu tak nie było. I chętnie sięgnę po inne książki autorki. Ta jest zdecydowanie kocykiem i ukojeniem. Daje nadzieje w słowach, które docierają. I była dla mnie pewnego rodzaju pamiętnikiem, co jest zabawne, bo przecież tę książkę może kupić i przeczytać każdy z Was, ale jednak fragmenty które tam pozaznaczalam… uderzyły wgłąb mnie. I zrozumiałam, że bez względu na wszystko co się dzieje - muszę dbać o siebie, bo tylko siebie mam do samego końca. Ta książka to coś dobrego ❤️
Współpraca reklamowa z @wydawnictwofilia
March 27, 2023
I don't give one-star reviews lightly. This book deserves it. It is just a collection of silly essays that sometimes say something profound but are obviously said better in other places. I think it's important that books like these exist, but this particular one reads like harmful social media posts or posters with some critical words meant to inspire people during the day. It feels contrived and empty
February 24, 2022
Absolutely loved everything about this book! So many great quotes I can refer back to. This is one of those books that I think everybody can relate to regardless of what’s going on in your life/ what stage of life you’re in. I know I’ll find myself coming back to read parts of the book so it will def be one of the books that stays on my work desk!
August 16, 2022
I’m shocked at the great reviews for this book. After reading “The Mountain is You” and it being one of the best self help books I’d ever read, this was a huge disappointment. I found this book tried to say so much but was empty with no new ideas. Also, I know it was meant to be poetic, but the repetitive sentences starting the same way over and over again I found annoying. “Everything will feel.. everything will seem.. everything will feel” “Everything that is… everything that is… everything that is… everything that is.” These are legit quotes from the book and I could barely get through this book.
January 23, 2025
This was my second time reading and I can say that the impact was the same, if not more. I feel like this is similar to her book, 100 Essays that will change the way you think, as I felt each chapter was specific to one topic and very eye opening.
Her writing is so to the point but in a way that can be understood by everyone.
This will be a book I come back to every couple years!
Her writing is so to the point but in a way that can be understood by everyone.
This will be a book I come back to every couple years!
January 13, 2023
This book is a collection of short pieces on what it means to heal and how you can go about doing that in small ways, as well as mindset reframings. It was really nice that though it was part of it, this book did not center on relationship healing, but rather life in general.
This is something I think is best consumed reading a chapter or two of per day, and then taking the time to reflect on it before picking it back up. The moments spent reading this book felt so safe; I felt comforted, seen, and validated.
If you are like I was and think there's no way a self-help book can teach me something, think again. Healing is a lifelong journey and it's our individual responsibility as an act of self-love to take it on. Highly recommend this book as a starting point if you are interested in the topic and don't know where to begin.
This is something I think is best consumed reading a chapter or two of per day, and then taking the time to reflect on it before picking it back up. The moments spent reading this book felt so safe; I felt comforted, seen, and validated.
If you are like I was and think there's no way a self-help book can teach me something, think again. Healing is a lifelong journey and it's our individual responsibility as an act of self-love to take it on. Highly recommend this book as a starting point if you are interested in the topic and don't know where to begin.
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May 11, 2023I‘ve been familiar with Brianna Wiest‘s text for some time now; however, When You‘re Ready, This Is How You Heal hit differently than her other essays for me. This primarly is defined by personal reasons, and it‘s true when people tell you that this is a book that demands the right time and place to read. Yet, you shouldn‘t wait until you think the right time has come. Instead, read this book and figure out what aspects and parts of it resonate with you, because there will be a thing or two that will speak to you. That will make you think. Make you consider something. And inspire you to take matters in your own hand and explore your own journey.
What I love most about Brianna Wiest‘s work is how her essays read like you‘re actually having a conversation with her. The essays deal with the matters in such a beautifully written and digestable way. They touch you. They leave an impression. They inspire.
And they will always welcome you back.
Because another reason why I loved reading this book was that while I read through every essay this time around, I know for sure I will come back for certain ones at different phases of my life.
I know non-fiction is not for everyone, and I surely prefer fiction to it. However, Brianna Wiest‘s books don‘t read themselves like non-fiction books trying to teach you a lesson. They are like a friend who is trying to help you figure life out, listening to your ramblings, telling you everything will turn out fine. And I will forever be grateful for that.
What I love most about Brianna Wiest‘s work is how her essays read like you‘re actually having a conversation with her. The essays deal with the matters in such a beautifully written and digestable way. They touch you. They leave an impression. They inspire.
And they will always welcome you back.
Because another reason why I loved reading this book was that while I read through every essay this time around, I know for sure I will come back for certain ones at different phases of my life.
I know non-fiction is not for everyone, and I surely prefer fiction to it. However, Brianna Wiest‘s books don‘t read themselves like non-fiction books trying to teach you a lesson. They are like a friend who is trying to help you figure life out, listening to your ramblings, telling you everything will turn out fine. And I will forever be grateful for that.
November 1, 2022
3.5 ⭐️
This book helped me to ground myself whenever I needed to feel that. I've honestly not been doing well since September and it has take a toll on my daily life.
I have to admit why I can't give this a full 5 stars is because some chapters felt too long whereas some felt too short, more insight in those chapters would have been better.
My goal is to look at myself next year this same time and tell myself I've done well, this book will serve the right reminders when I need them to keep pushing forward.
This book helped me to ground myself whenever I needed to feel that. I've honestly not been doing well since September and it has take a toll on my daily life.
I have to admit why I can't give this a full 5 stars is because some chapters felt too long whereas some felt too short, more insight in those chapters would have been better.
My goal is to look at myself next year this same time and tell myself I've done well, this book will serve the right reminders when I need them to keep pushing forward.
September 21, 2023
5. stars. this book is beyond comforting. i know i will go to it and read through all of my highlights. i’d you are going through a breakup or a weird place in ur life i HIGHLY recommend this book. it gave me a whole new perspective of a lot of things and i loved it so much
December 7, 2022
Am rezonat asa mult cu ea, încât va fi cartea anului alături de The myth of normal si va intra pe lista de favorite. Mi-a ajuns la suflet, probabil am fost gata pentru ea. ❤️❤️❤️
October 28, 2023
At best, this is a well-meaning and hyperverbose friend chatting with you on your bed while you dissociate.
December 7, 2024
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March 21, 2024
If I had to recommend one self help book for the red of my life it would be this one. Please read it. Please.
October 17, 2023
This book repeats what many other books say; it even repeats the same ideas within the book repeatedly in different words. However, this is the first time I feel it doesn't seem like recycled content.
It made me understand that everyone has a different way of listening, meaning the same thing should be said in many different ways.
Although the book didn't touch me deeply (I'm not ready), I can see the value of reading and re-reading it. Especially whenever you are prepared for a new phase in your life, you will see sense in different parts of the book than before.
I think I will be re-reading it.
It made me understand that everyone has a different way of listening, meaning the same thing should be said in many different ways.
Although the book didn't touch me deeply (I'm not ready), I can see the value of reading and re-reading it. Especially whenever you are prepared for a new phase in your life, you will see sense in different parts of the book than before.
I think I will be re-reading it.
September 5, 2022
Such a good book to read if you’re going through any big life change. Personally, I loved to read this book whenever I was feeling down or need some sense of direction. I definitely wouldn’t recommend sitting down and reading it as if it was a novel. This book is like a best friend, it gives you the best advice when you are ready to listen and pick it up. If you’ve dealt with a breakup, friendship loss, or death I highly recommend.
February 9, 2023
If you never read a book on self development, if you don’t meditate or practice mindfulness and never learned anything about it then maybe this book can be of some interest to you.
Stating the obvious repeatedly throughout the whole book.
Stating the obvious repeatedly throughout the whole book.
November 21, 2023
As good as 101 Essays! Loved everything about the book!
November 10, 2022
Definitely the best sort of self help book I’ve read yet. Loved the writing and each section of the book is a great lesson to be learned.
January 4, 2024
i cried multiple times reading a self help book which probably shows how much myself needs help but this was a doozy i actually loved it
July 14, 2024
was good until around 35%, just felt like it was copy and pasting quotes from pinterest and making absolutely nothing of it 😭
September 4, 2023
⭐️⭐️⭐️.5/5
Ok this book took me a lot 2 finish. I couldn’t quite see myself in it, I found it a bit superficial. The book was long whereas it could’ve been ways too shorter… it’s quite repetitive.
However, I’d give a point for the good quotes here:
Ok this book took me a lot 2 finish. I couldn’t quite see myself in it, I found it a bit superficial. The book was long whereas it could’ve been ways too shorter… it’s quite repetitive.
However, I’d give a point for the good quotes here:
•What if the journey is really asking you to love a flawed person, so you might be able to love your own flaws the same way?
•Stop giving your love to those who aren’t ready to love you.
Stop having hard conversations with people who don’t want to change. Stop showing up for people who are indifferent about your presence. Stop prioritizing people who make you an option. Stop loving people who aren’t ready to love you.
•...But the longer you stay small, tucked into the familiarity of the people who use you as a cushion, a back burner option, a therapist and a ploy for their emotional labor, the longer you keep yourself out of the community you crave.
•It is not your job to show up for people and give away your life to them, little by little, moment by moment, because you pity them, because you feel bad, because you "should," because you're obligated, because, at the root of it all, you're afraid to not be liked back.
It is your job to realize that you are the master of your fate, and that you are accepting the love you think you're worthy of.
•We cannot keep running in circles and expect our lives to blossom, we have to stay where we are and have the courage to heal what’s broken within us before turning to yet another outside source to mend the manage.
•That’s all healing is, anyway. It’s realizing that your inner love is inherent to you and always has been, it’s just been buried behind doubt.
•We heal when we learn how to adjust how we show up, not how we change what we show up to
No matter where your life takes you, you are always with you- until the very end.
Nobody else can save you from yourself
•With the exception of an abrupt and sudden loss of someone you love or the closure of a company you assumed would be around forever, for example, almost anything we lose in life has often been foreshadowed for a very
long time.
It's really hard to accept this, but so important to acknowledge: almost nothing in life leaves us without purpose.
It's only a matter of when we accept this truth.
In the aftermath of the loss, you often find yourself going through the grieving process, even if you didn't actually lose a loved one.
All of these emotions are extremely valid.
It is healthy and normal to feel anger when a boundary has been crossed or you are facing some sort of injustice. It is healthy and normal to feel sad and scared when life abruptly changes and you're not sure what's next.
The longer you resist these emotions, the longer they linger.
•Everything that you were clasping so tightly to was a way in which you were shielding yourself from these emotions, many of which you’d buried so deep inside, you assumed they were gone forever.
Emotions often remain within us until they tell us what it is we need to know.
•When you imagine all of the possible outcomes for your life, the negative options probably seem more real than the positive ones. This is because of negativity bias, which is where we are inclined to believe that bad things are more real than good things, because we're more afraid of them.
Because one appears as a threat and the other doesn't, our attention naturally gravitates toward what we feel we need to be more aware of. However, it has the opposite effect of self-defense. When we believe too much in our negativity biases, we end up resisting change, taking fewer chances, and overalI adjusting to a less optimistic outlook on life.
•Extrapolation is the projection of a single experience into a long-term assumption about life.
“This moment is not your life, this is a moment in your life.”
•You will have to hold a torch for yourself first.
•You don't need to find confidence to pursue what you really love.
You just have to be willing to start.
Then you will also need to be willing to stop.
Overcorrecting is the opposite of creativity.
Overworking is not aspirational, it's an escape mechanism.
•What nobody tells you is that it’s the attachment that hurts. It’s the expectation of what it should be or would be and by when
•Sometimes, we don’t know because we can’t know. The very fact of us knowing would disrupt the timing of what is unfolding. The very fact of us knowing would prevent us from learning the lessons that are here for us today.
And those lessons? They aren’t a due we have to pay or purgatory we are being stuck in, they are the building blocks of the character of the person who is opening up to this next level of their existence. What’s here for you right now contains within it the wisdom and the growth needed to unlock the next phase.
•Your life is reaching toward you, and maybe the kindest possible thing you could do is reach back.
As time goes on, you will begin to see the magic in the process. You will begin to understand why things had to happen precisely the way they did. You will realize that if you did not have the exact experiences you had just as you had them, you would have missed out on some essential lessons and tools and pieces of wisdomn that built you into the person you are today-the person who wil keep walking you forward.
When you look back on the past, you can see the purpose in how everything unfolded, and I am here to tell you that one day, you'll see it in what's happening right now, too. You just have to keep going. One day, you are going to look back on this time and realize you were always right where you were meant to be.
•“Nobody is required to live up to my expectations of them.”
•“It is safe to let go of past experiences once I’ve extracted the lesson from them.”
•I don’t need to feel guilty over what I cannot control.”
Understanding the root of the behavior more completely will not only ensure that you change your actions going forward, but it will give you a greater sense of peace because you’re trusting in wisdom, not your impulses.
•It’s not that you’re not trying hard enough, but that you’re too attached to things that aren’t right for you.
•If you want to be in a completely different place by this time next year, you're going to have to get honest with yourself. You're going to have to stop using busy-ness as a distraction, you’re going to have to replace quantity with quality, you’re going to have to do some soul-searching, and you’re going to have to learn to prioritize what your future self will thank you for.
November 7, 2023
Dit boek heeft mij echt wel geholpen en zal mij in de toekomst nog helpen. De ideeën die hierin staan zijn zo goed. Je kan echt wel duidelijk met tips enzo aan de slag of je krijgt een ander zicht op een bepaalde situatie.
Mensen die wat zoek zijn en hun leven een positieve zwaai willen geven, lees dit.
Mensen die wat zoek zijn en hun leven een positieve zwaai willen geven, lees dit.
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