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Not The Man I Thought He Was

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Madison reckons she’s a pretty good judge of character.
When a disaster at work brings professional photographer Toby into her life, she has him all worked out within minutes. As their work collaboration blossoms into friendship, her preconceptions about him are only strengthened.

The problem is that Madison has got one aspect of Toby completely wrong, and it tears their friendship apart when she finds out. How will she make sense of his revelation and, more importantly, how on earth will she get him to talk to her again?

A laugh-out-loud, feel-good romantic comedy

327 pages, Kindle Edition

Published September 16, 2022

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Phoebe MacLeod

16 books275 followers
Phoebe MacLeod is married and lives just outside Sevenoaks in Kent. She has two grown-up sons at university, and a disobedient dog. She enjoys reading, cooking, playing the piano and walking the dog. She’s also keen on vintage and classic cars and can often be seen behind the wheel of her own classic - a 1928 Ford Model A.

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3,052 reviews1,090 followers
October 4, 2023
Great friends to lovers book! Once again though I seem to be stuck in slow burn territory. I think the author did a great job bringing things along, but at one point the book just seemed to have too many fits and starts to it which is why I have it four stars.

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I think I will definitely pick up a Phoebe MacLeod book in the future. I loved how she took the time to fully develop Madison. And it was great how she then used that to also give us readers insight into Toby as well. Their growing friendship was great to read about. The main reason why I did eventually have to reduce it by a star though was that I just thought the book started to run in place after a while. We also had the ridiculous thing that happened with them deciding to see each other "naked". Sorry, not sorry, it was dumb and I was like what is happening.

"Not the Man I Thought He Was" follows freelance travel writer Madison. We follow her during an awards night where she and her friend Toby win an award. And then later Madison wakes up with Toby in her bed trying to figure out what happened. The book then unwinds to almost a full year later with Madison being called in by an editor she has done work for before about a review of a hotel she did. Madison manages to pitch an idea about going back to an hotel and there's a suggestion that Toby (a very well known photographer who is also nearby) go along with her and they pose as a couple. From there the book follows them on some destinations, but also while they are both back in London living their lives.

I liked Madison. I liked that she had her close friend and kept her flat as her space and no men allowed. And I liked that she wasn't focused on finding a guy at all. Her growing friendship with Toby was also great to see and you get to see how they compliment each other.

The writing was very good I thought and there were a few times I cracked up. I already mentioned the flow issue, so won't belabor that.

I did think Madison and Toby had good chemistry.

A very solid romance!

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29 reviews
March 11, 2023
she thought her love interest was gay for 75% of the book 💀
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Author 23 books96 followers
June 9, 2021
This was a fun read with likable and realistic main characters. Madison is feisty and independent, Toby is sweet and shy.
What I liked about this book was the very original story and the travelling! I also enjoyed the 'cringe moments' - you need to read it to find out what they are but there are quite a few and they are funny.
Lovely ending which added to the warm, fuzzy feeling.
It was also nice to catch up with Charley and Ed from the author's first book, I liked how their story had developed too.
Recommended for romcom/chicklit lovers.
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19 reviews
January 25, 2024
Pick-me girl denkt dat kerel gay is op basis van 1 zin aan het begin en komt er pas achter dat hij dat niet is na 90% van het boek. Miscommunication trope kan soms, maar dit is wel wat overdreven.

Ze hadden een leuke vriendschap, maar ik voelde wel echt geen chemistry dus veel romance vind ik er niet aan. De simpelheid van het verhaal is wel goed voor mij om als audioboek te luisteren en het is lighthearted en easy, maar dan vond ik haar andere boek veel beter.
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324 reviews6 followers
May 13, 2024
This is a miscommunication nightmare.


*massive spoilers ahead*


This was my first experience with an audiobook and it was interesting. The narrator was average & the story itself was very slow paced and extremely predictable. I was just patiently waiting to see it all unravel.

Madison and Toby just don’t click to me. I don’t feel any connection at all, but that’s because she assumed he was gay & he didn’t express any flirting or feelings towards her.

I didn’t like it nor hate it. Forgettable.
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May 27, 2021
Second book. Always a tough one, but Phoebe has knocked it out of the park with 'Not the Man...' I loved the characters - they were warm, human and thoroughly believable. By the end of the book you feel like you really do know them. The story kept making me laugh (the 'finger in the car door' is a gem) and kept me reading too. In fact, I started it and only got up to get coffee until I'd finished it. A definite 'recommended' from me.
July 14, 2021
Fantastic read

I love Phoebe’s writing, it has humour and good characters. I enjoyed that we also got an update on Charley and Ed from her last book, I thought that was a nice touch as I always want to have an update on characters at the end of a book.
I’m looking forward to reading more.
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541 reviews40 followers
April 7, 2023
So let me get this straight…. An award winning successful photographer charges only $400 for a multi hour, fully edited boudoir shoot?
Ya lost me there.
Also, there was zero chemistry between the two MC’s the entire book.
This one fell FLAT.
32 reviews
August 30, 2021
Great easy read

I loved this book really nice characters great to find out what happened to rd and Charles from the previous book great beach book
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112 reviews1 follower
April 24, 2023
3.5 stars

This is just about the stupidest premise for a romance novel I've ever heard of and I have to round down for that, I'm sorry (but it's also why I was morbidly curious to pick it up). You're like 76% of the way through the book (a year in book time since they met and became friends) and the fact that she somewhat baselessly believes the male lead is gay is still awkwardly between them. Literally the third act "break-up" type scene is where she finds out for the first time that he's a straight man who has feelings for her. This is like a sitcom episode plot. As you might expect, there's not much room for very much explicitly romantic chemistry or romantic interactions, thus even though I do ship it, my feelings are all a bit mild. That being said, this was like the most pleasant the book could possibly have been based on the premise I described. I was interested in both of their jobs (travel writer, high-profile photographer) and following their travel misadventures was kind of nice. Um, the male lead is described as a decently good-looking and, though reserved, relatively socially competent 30ish-year-old who as a photographer is even comfortable working with naked women in professional contexts and yet has never kissed anyone before (I think? Maybe it was he has never had a girlfriend) and lol I could see that being me one day (or at least it's me at 19 and I can't see myself dating in the near future, it's weird to admit as a big romance reader that I cannot imagine kissing anyone personally and I kind of don't want to) so I guess I have a soft spot for the fact that he found happiness.

I've been on a happy mindless book kick for the past week or so as I procrastinate studying for my last exam of the year and this book fit the bill nicely. (the fact that this is the first book I'm reviewing in a long time also probably has to do with procrastinating studying)
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29 reviews
June 30, 2024
ok even without the thinly veiled body shaming and homophobic undertones, this book was so bad. there was zero chemistry between the main characters, the writing was so boring and fact driven and devoid of any emotion, and the plot was nonexistent. also, you can’t call it a romance if the FMC thinks the love interest is gay (for no gd reason) for 75% of the book but anyways I’m a hater for this book and am shocked I finished it but I am apparently God’s bravest soldier
38 reviews2 followers
May 7, 2024
Fun read! And perfect for a photographer!

As a professional photographer, it is always a challenge to see if we are portrayed correctly, along with having a real life… I loved reading this and seeing a positive spin on the job as well as the work that goes into it! Nice job! Next book request- tackle a successful female photographer that is a photojournalist or documentary photographer! GREAT JOB - LOVED THE STORY!
184 reviews
June 28, 2021
A nice and easy read.

Very predictable but you can’t help but love the story and characters.

They are just so sweet and you want to be their BFF.
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192 reviews41 followers
March 4, 2024
Such a fun, light and no-frills attached storyline. I enjoyed reading this book and would recommend if you are on the lookout for an easy breezy romance read.
19 reviews
October 23, 2021
Sweet, enchanting and easy to read

I love this book. Great to catch up with characters from the previous book too.
Recommended for an easy, enjoyable read.
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Author 10 books42 followers
June 5, 2021
This was a lovely cosy book to escape into. I especially loved the travel aspect and the places were described so well that the author made you feel as if you were there. The character's were very well developed and Toby, in particular was a real dream! I really enjoyed this slow burn romance.
1 review
September 11, 2021
light and fun

Great characters light and easy to read. Hope for a sequel or a second book from the author in the near future
November 1, 2022
⭐️⭐️⭐️💫

This was such a cute romance story of Toby and Madison. I got annoyed at how clueless Madison was throughout the story. I still thought this was still a cute book despite all the negative reviews on good reads. I listened to this as a n audiobook and it took me about 3 days to listen to in multiple sittings varying in length.
56 reviews1 follower
September 4, 2023
Boring

Predictable, boring, and lacked humor. I wanted to like it, but it was an effort to finish. Do not recommend.
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31 reviews
January 30, 2024
An entire book in which the protagonist assumes the love interest is gay based on absolutely nothing.

Spoilers ahead (not that it matters since the entire first chapter is a spoiler if you have more than one brain cell)

The first chapter opens with the FMC waking up hungover. She recounts what happened the night before and then discovers that her “gay best friend” (bruh) is in her bed.

We then flash back to a year ago, which is utterly pointless because we now know exactly what is going to happen. 75% of this book is exposition and I wish I was joking. We get a play by play account of every interaction this woman has with her “gay best friend” down to her imagining him shopping with his boyfriend. In her texts to her other best friend she does not even refer to him by name, just as “GBF” which is gross. He is not your pet.

We then return to the present (even though confusingly enough the entire “flashback” is written in the present tense) where the “gay best friend” reveals that he is in fact straight (seriously this author couldn’t even let him be bi?) and is in love with the FMC. Couldn’t have seen that one coming!!!!!!!!!! He then gets mad because she thought he was gay (red flag tbh) and runs off and ignores her calls.

Her master plan to get him back (as she has now randomly decided she is in love with him too) is to buy a burner phone, do a racist accent to pretend to be someone else, and book a boudoir photoshoot at his studio. He sees through her “disguise” (a pair of sunglasses) but does the shoot anyway. The FMC then gifts him the photos and they have sex.

Just… so much wrong with this. The FMC is the exact type of woman who would sign up for Grindr looking for a “gay best friend” which leads me to believe the author is too, or at least sees nothing wrong with it. And she couldn’t even let bro be bi? I guess that wouldn’t fit her ideal of “Uber macho love interest” enough smh.

Anyway don’t waste your time. You already know pretty much the whole story in the first chapter and there are zero plot twists so there is literally no point in reading the rest.
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73 reviews2 followers
December 18, 2023
Such a bizarre book. The writing style wasn't typical contemporary romance, and I like that. I liked that the MCs got to know each other as friends first and weren't just immature lusty adults.
I didn't like how fast paced it felt, no cute throw-away moments, like the author was hyperaware of chekovs gun, or maybe their editor made them cut out half the book. The wedding photography was so poorly done, no experienced photographer would sign onto a billionaire's wedding without a second shooter and maybe a third shooter, wouldn't keep the second shooter with them while they did bride prep photos, and would absolutely not hire on a friend who has never done professional photography!! The characters are also irrational for the sake of the plot and I'm not interested in it. Also there was so much build up for the MMC to have had rough experiences/bad childhood/whatever, but like that doesn't go anywhere. And one more thing, the FMC has this whole thing about her editor wanting to get her fired, and after she wins an award he screams at her because he doesn't think she deserves it, and he gets fired and she apologizes?? And he has this super humble kind response about how it's his own fault and he was projecting and blah blah and they're both like kind?? But he hated her and was mean to her a lot??
Anyway, I enjoyed reading it overall, but just. So much of it annoyed me, I lowkey felt like I was reading a 15 year old's fix it fic of their own life.
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70 reviews1 follower
December 4, 2023
**2.5 stars!!!
I really don’t know how to feel about this book. I listened to it as an audiobook and the narrator did a really good job, which is why I thought about rating it higher.
The premise was a liiiiittle weird and I honestly didn’t even know what the book was about until I was a quarter through listening to it.
The main characters were very likeable, I just didn’t really feel their chemistry. Maybe that’s because the MC thought her love interest was gay for literally 90% of the book. That really was next level miscommunication without there actually being too much miscommunication.
I think this could have worked better, if some of the travel scenes between the two were written out a little more, so we’d get a better sense of their relationship. Especially because the travel aspect of the book was one of my favourite parts.
All on all it was a sweet book with an interesting plot to say the least, but don’t go into it with too high expectations and maybe listen to the audiobook.
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229 reviews6 followers
July 26, 2023
📚Book Review📚
Not the Man I Thought He Was by Phoebe MacLeod

Book80/23 was 2⭐️… I listened to this book all day while I got several things done:
👩🏼‍🏫 School Stuff
🍌🍞 Baked Banana Bread
🧺 Laundry
🧳Packed for our Vacays
🧹Cleaned the House
✨Worked on Magical Vacation Plannings

What happens when you (female) plan a work trip, sharing a room with a well-known (male) photographer, who you think is gay? Well… Get the awkwardness of sharing a room out of the way, and all is good, right!?

Wrong.

He falls in love with her. She’s falling for him, but she can’t. He’s not into women. Right?

If Fate plays its cards right, she could find out her instincts weren’t correct, sooo… what happens next?

This is a cute “pink” book, but not my favorite by Phoebe MacLeod. However, it was entertaining enough to hold my interest throughout the day.

Now… Onto the next!

As always,
Happy Reading! 💕 07.22.23
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101 reviews
July 4, 2023
I mostly enjoyed this book, but it was a little slow moving. There were a lot of times that there were all these extra details about stuff that didn’t add to the story, nor to character development (like the whole Vicar/Church of England stuff). The main character was fairly likable, but she really was quite judgey and made a lot of assumptions about people. Even the little girl she called “happy fat”. Like why even include that? I liked Toby for the most part, but the end really threw me for a loop. I can understand Toby never being in a real relationship. But, how has it never came up that he’s maybe, possibly, a virgin? Also, I didn’t care for her response to Toby’s great idea about the heated mirror! 😂

Over all a fun book. Easy beach read.
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1,606 reviews50 followers
October 24, 2023
2 1/2 stars

There was a lot I liked about this one, but honestly the main characters were both pretty uptight (I am, too, so I found it alternately delightful and blasé) which made it difficult to find their chemistry believable, also there were some rather fetched plot points... Including the main premise. I cannot believe they were such good friends that they would not discuss his sexuality... Truly. Anyway, the build up to the resolution at the end had me chuckling out loud, that alone made it worth reading. I also really liked many of the ways that their relationship dynamic defied gender norms. Anyway, there is a fair amount of strong profanity, nudity (for artistic photography scenes, primarily), and no descriptive intimacy.
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54 reviews
January 6, 2024
The book starts with a "Three's Company"-like premise. The FMC meets the MMC and assumes he is gay. She continues to make assumptions about him as they become friends, until he reveals that he is in love with her and she has to tell him what she thought.

So it is kind of like P&P, except Lizzy and Darcy make friends and she thinks Darcy is gay. My issue is that the MMC is perfect. No flaws really. And the FMC never evolves. She is just as quick to judge and opinionated at the end of the book as she was at the beginning. So, there really is no real character growth for either of them.

The writing is good, and I am will to give the author another try. Maybe I will like her other books better.
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