A queer Syrian refugee reckons with a life spent out of place.
“Writing this memoir is a betrayal.” So begins this electrifying personal account from Danny Ramadan, a celebrated novelist who has long enjoyed the shield his fiction provides. Now, to tell the story of his life, he must revisit dark corners of his past he’d rather forget and unearth memories of a city he can no longer return to.
Starting with his family’s humble beginnings in Damascus, he takes readers on an epic, border-crossing to the city’s underground network of queer safe homes; to a clandestine party at a secluded villa in Cairo; through Arab Spring uprisings across the Middle East, a reckless hoax that threatens the safety of Syria’s LGBTQ+ community, and a traumatic six-week imprisonment; to beaches and sunsets with friends in Beirut; to an arrival in Vancouver that’s not as smooth as it promised to be; and ultimately to a life of hard-won comfort and love.
What emerges is a powerful refutation of the oversimplified refugee narrative—a book that holds space for joy alongside sorrow, for nuance and complicated ambivalences. Written with fearless intimacy, Crooked Teeth is a singular achievement in which a master storyteller learns that his greatest story is his own.
Danny Ramadan (He/Him) is a Syrian-Canadian author, public speaker and adovate for LGBTQ+ refugees. His debut novel, The Clothesline Swing, was shortlisted for the Lambda Literary Award, longlisted for Canada Reads, and named a Best Book of the Year by the Globe and Mail and Toronto Star.
His children book, Salma the Syrian Chef, won the Nautilus Book Award, The Middle East Book Award, and named a Best Book by both Kirkus and School Library Journal.
Ramadan’s forthcoming novel, The Foghorn Echoes (2022), and his memoir, Crooked Teeth (2024), to be released by Penguin Random House.
Through his fundraising efforts, Ramadan raised over $250,000 for Syrian LGBTQ+ identifying refugees.
He has an MFA in Creative Writing from UBC and currently lives in Vancouver with his husband.
I was in awe of this brutally honest and open memoir about best-selling and award-winning queer Syrian Canadian, Danny Ramadan's new memoir!
I especially loved how they were utterly transparent about struggling with sharing parts of their past they weren't comfortable with recounting gratuitously because it would bring them too much pain.
This was amazing on audio narrated by the author himself and a MUST READ, especially during pride month! I cannot recommend this book enough!!
I really enjoyed the novel The Foghorn Echoes so I was really eager to read CROOKED TEETH: A Queer Syrian Refugee Memoir by Danny Ramadan and I loved this memoir! It’s one of my fave memoirs now. Ramadan shares his experiences growing up in Syria and finding Queer community. From living in Beirut and ultimately moving to Vancouver his journey had intense moments of violence and uncertainty and joys of friendships and intimacies. Ramadan’s talent as a writer shines as he tells his story on his own terms. This book took me through many emotions. I was reading it during my lunch break at work and when I read the part about his imprisonment I had to stop. That part was so raw and emotional and powerful. At the end of the book I was just casually bawling my eyes out. What a memoir!!! I loved the way he would talk directly to the reader and the way the fine craft of his writing puts me as the reader in his trusting words full of sincerity. I took this book to Davie Street where he mentions going to the Fountainhead Pub and seeing the opera singer at this intersection. I had the pleasure of attending last year’s Vancouver Writers Fest Incite event featuring Ramadan and hopefully I can see him again soon.
Thank you to the publicist and publisher for my advance review copy!
4.8 ⭐️ ARC received through The Ubyssey, published review coming soon 😗 overall a stunning book and fascinating to see how the skill from fiction writing presents in a memoir space
my Ubyssey piece is largely praise so here is my one recurring critique: wish there were a bit more points of concrete resolution or grounding in the ‘story’—notable non linear chronological approach that brushes over some points i found myself wanting for (sure he learned a lot from him but did he find issue with the 40yo man pursuing a teenager?) did he keep in contact with his found family consistently while he was in egypt, or was it more touch and go? we don’t hear about his ‘Mother’ until the last chapter which I was grateful for but for someone who talks sm about what people meant to him and how he was who he was because of these people the ease in which they sometimes slipped into the background felt at times like they weren’t holding as much weight —not casting any judgement that this was the reality i think it’s just a bit how it read!
In the opening pages of “Crooked Teeth”, Ramadan speaks directly to his readers.
“Where will you weigh in on the balance between empathy and sympathy? Will you tear up when I tell you about my lows? Will you find me cocky when I celebrate my highs? Did you pick up this memoir with an expectation based on your preconceived notion of what a refugee is, what a gay man is, what a Syrian man is? Are you willing to let go of these notions at the turn of this page and trust me in the telling of my own story. Are you willing to let go of the simple narrative of here is “good” and there is “bad” when it comes to refugees arriving in Canada? Will you trust me, as I am about to trust you? Typing every word on these pages is my own act of trusting you, and trusting you with my truth goes against every defence mechanism I have acquired throughout my life.”
Ramadan goes on to describe a few of his experiences as a new Canadian that explain why it’s difficult for him to trust. Some similar themes as in Y-Dang Troeung’s memoir, Landbridge, like the complicated transition of coming from somewhere else, the vulnerability of being a refugee, and the expectation of ongoing gratitude.
From here, Ramadan takes his readers back to his childhood in Damascus, Syria, his young adulthood in Cairo, Egypt and eventually to Vancouver, Canada. Everywhere, Danny finds and creates family, community and queer safe places. His personality shines through in his writing. From time to time, he effectively breaks the fourth wall and speaks directly to readers.
Thank you, Danny, for taking that leap of faith and trusting readers. Yours is a story I’m grateful to have read, learned from and will never forget. Be well.
While there was certainly trauma in this story, what I'm walking away with is the joy that radiated throughout. The joy of found families and created community. The joy of resilience. The joy of celebrating home. The joy of being loved.
I also really appreciated the challenge to the reader at the start. The importance of not dividing the world into purely good and bad, of understanding that both trauma and happiness can be found and experienced in the same places, and of acknowledging that changing your geography doesn't magically make everything better.
In both the story itself and the art of the story-telling, this worked its way into my soul and will stay with me for a long time.
“Happiness, I have learned, fades. It's a chemical reaction that floods your brain with an instant gratification. Serotonin rarely lingers. Joy, on the other hand, is an immortal feeling.”
really really special, not bc of it's depiction of a resilient queer experience in the modern middle east (persecution, political upheaval, a whole lot of trauma), but bc of the queer joy that Danny finds despite all of the hardships in each chapter of his life
This was a phenomenal read. I am yet again blown away by Danny Ramadan's writing.
I love how this book starts, with Ramadan asking for the reader's trust; asking for us to trust that what he's telling us is his story, because that is really what a memoir is all about. I also loved that the intro/first chapter (I think I got a slightly bad ARC and chapters weren't really showing up) is extremely critical of white saviourism and racism within the literary world (and in the world in general).
The memoir follows Ramadan from his childhood in Damascus, with a mentally ill mother and an absent father, his move to Egypt for work, the Arab Spring and how that impacted on him, as a queer man on a temporary visa in Egypt. Then we are back in Damascus, finding the places that it is safe to be himself, until he is arrested by the Syrian police, which prompts his flee to Lebanon, and then to Canada.
What I really appreciated about this memoir is that Ramadan gives us exactly as much of himself as he can. I'm not sure that I've ever read a memoir that clearly lays out the author's boundaries like that; this is as much as I'm telling you and I'm not telling you more. I think there is this expectation of both authors and readers, when it comes to a memoir, that you're going to be giving/getting absolutely every single detail of that life. But really, what would reading about these incredibly traumatic events add to the story? It would just be trauma porn, and no one should be expected to give that of themselves if they don't feel safe doing so.
I also enjoyed that Ramadan broke the fourth wall to speak directly to the reader, to explain his choices at certain parts of the book; at the beginning when he's talking about trust, when he's describing his time in prison, when he first arrives in Canada. I appreciated his honesty and criticism of the process of coming to Canada; how sponsors are not adequately prepared, nor are the refugees, in terms of what to expect and how difficult it can be. I have read a couple of other memoirs by Syrian refugees, and they both ended in a very "I'm in Canada now and my life is 1000x better!" way, which I'm sure is accurate for some, but certainly not all, refugees.
I absolutely devoured this memoir and I highly recommend it. I can't wait to go back and read Ramadan's other books now (even the kids ones!).
Danny Ramadan starts and ends his memoir asking his reader to receive and hold his words with care, since he's getting personal in ways that are difficult for him. That rawness and vulnerability really came through, not only in the way he shares painful memories, but in the way he discusses his joy, criticisms, disappointment, love, and more. This was just so beautiful. I loved how often Danny broke the fourth wall in explaining why he's choosing to withhold information in some parts, why he chose to focus on different elements in others, and how difficult the process of writing this was. This really moved me!
Many memoirs are simply famous people looking to make a buck or prolong their relevance, but this was a refreshing and deeply original memoir. I have met Danny Ramadan and am impressed with him as an activist and as a writer but this memoir was something really special. I appreciated his reluctance in writing it and his honesty about that reluctance. As one of the white Canadians he hesitated to trust with his story, I am deeply grateful he persisted in writing anyway. He presents the joys and the challenges of the circumstances that brought him to life as a refugee. I appreciated the honesty in reflecting on his experience with Canada’s private sponsorship program for refugees. The world needs more brave men like Danny Ramadan.
This was the most well written memoir I have ever read! I know for a fact that I have never read an autobiography so quickly in my life. I was just captivated the whole time, which sounds terrible given that these traumas happened to a real person. But it’s not the story that captivated me as much as the story telling. Danny is honest with us from the start that memories can’t always be trusted and I absolutely loved that. There’s no hiding that he’s trying to tell us his story while also making it intriguing. We all add in a little flare to tell a good story and he does just that, but that made me enjoy this book even more!
Crooked Teeth is a beautifully written memoir that challenges us to move beyond simple binaries of 'good and bad', as we get a glimpse of what it means to grow up gay in Syria. Danny draws us in with an intimate portrayal of a life that weaves between horrific moments of abuse and violence across the Middle East and Canada, interspersed with stories of unconditional love and acceptance from chosen family. I'm grateful to have a window into the warmth and strength of an underground LGBTQ community in Damascus. A must-read book for all Canadians!
I don't know what I could say about this memoir to convey how insightful and moving it was. I really enjoyed the format, I felt like I was sitting down on a sofa with the author. I recently read Selamlik and it broke some preconceptions I had about Damascus and queer culture in Syria in the past. Crooked Teeth broke those nieve views even more to provide a complex picture of family, culture and life. Just to note, Danny shares his family renting a cottage at the sea and seeing a group of flamboyant men walk past while they're there; this really altered my narrow preconceived notions of life in the area, on so many levels. Further, as a Canadian when asked about the refugee sponsorship program (which I only had a layman's understanding of) I thought it was unique and positive. Reading real world experiences of this system has certainly challenged my views of the system and opened my views to the massive pitfalls of this system as well. If you're interested in learning I highly recommend Crooked Teeth. Learning of the beauty and vibrancy of queer communities formed in Damascus, Cairo, and Beirut in the face of opposition is moving. I know it couldn't have been easy to write this memoir, I'm glad Danny did. Through this whole memoir I felt the life and joy Danny is radiating. It covers some incredibly difficult subject matter and trauma that you need to be prepared to read but somehow the memoir leaves you feeling the joy and stability we are all striving for in life. If this is the only book you read this year, I highly recommend it!
I thought this was a great memoir and that Danny Ramadan is a very compelling storyteller. The way he found his chosen family was beautiful and the stories he told of the people he loved were so moving. The way he directly spoke to readers wasn't exactly my cup of tea (would have preferred this in the after-notes) but I understand not wanting his story to be one of false dichotomies, as well as preserving his own wellbeing. Still, a lot of important questions about how we consume people's stories and pain. I was hoping he would at some point speak more to the fact canada is also an ongoing colonial project with its own racism and homophobia, though I suppose he did through stories, but not super directly. For example, celebrating the rainbow refugee org event being sponsored by a big bank while the author was working for them was glossed over. How many big banks in Canada have stocks in Israeli weapons manufacturers and the like, and how does that affect queer folks in the middle east? Anyway, can't get everything, and I would still recommend reading this one! The audiobook is read by the author which was a nice touch.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
“I promised you to trust you with my stories, and you promised to trust me in my telling.” And with that, not only does Danny Ramadan wins my trust, but also my heart. I have a special love for memoirs due to the generosity of its authors to pour their lives into the pages of a book. This memoir was so raw, yet so beautiful because of his writing. Through his words, Ramadan narrates most of his life while transporting us to Syria, Egypt, Lebanon and Canada. His book explores his own identity, spanning Syrian, son, middle eastern, queer, lover, journalist, refugee, poet, husband and writer. A must read if you are curious about how all these identities can coexist in the body of such a talented person.
Sincere admiration for Danny Ramadan, not only for his dazzling sentences but for his bold reimagining of form. By breaking the fourth wall and engaging the reader in a promise, he shatters also the wall of comfort behind which readers so often observe the suffering of others. We participate in the construction, pausing to examine our expectations and our hunger for consuming other people's trauma and forcing their complex lives into tidy little boxes separate from ourselves. Opening to full complexity, letting it linger, making peace with all that is unknowable... he took me to a place where pity finds no foothold. I will continue thinking about Crooked Teeth for a long time, that much I know for sure. Respect. Highly recommended.
This book is the book I had to fight the hardest to get. No, really, you literally cannot buy it in the United States, it is at no libraries, you cannot get it on Audible, and so I had to resort to ordering it from a used book store in British Columbia and paying an exorbitant amount in shipping fees to even read the damn thing.
Which is a real shame, because I think a lot of people in America could stand to read it.
I could not put this book down. It's powerful, it's eye-opening, it's at time frustrating, and it really highlights these pre-conceived notions powerful white North Americans and Europeans have surrounding the Middle East and refugees stories. I'm glad I spent the extra effort to track it down.
Excuse me while I go out any buy every single book by Danny Ramadan. In this memoir, Danny engages his reader by exploring all aspects of his life. You will see the light-hearted moments, the triggering moments and everything in between. If you are looking for sensationalized trauma, move on. If you are looking for real events and emotional retellings you are in the right place. I listened to this in audiobook format and I was in love from the first few sentences. I am going to purchase this one in hardcopy as well because I loved it so much. The writing is so so so good that at times I couldn't wrap my head around it. Thank you for sharing your life with readers, Danny.
Listened. Did not finish. I really wanted to. In theory I am very interested in all parts of his memoir. But wrong time for me; the patronizing lecture to the reader at the start, the existential hand wringing- yeah, I struggled, I tried to let it be, and ‘trust’ as he exhorts, but, no, not this time. You write a book, you don’t get to tell me how I have to be. You have to give me the same space you’re demanding, allow me to surprise you, not assume the worst. Might try again later. A shame.
Crooked Teeth: A Queer Syrian Refugee Memoir was an amazing read! I had a hard time putting it down, always wanting to come back to it, continue reading. Throughout the read, I found myself reflecting, contemplating on Danny Ramadan's experiences and journey, which he brought to life with beautiful, evocative language. The memoir will remain with me for a long time to come.
This was a difficult read, because of the subject matter. Danny Ramadan tells the whole traumatic story of his life in the Middle East as a gay man, as well as the “love-bombing” abuse he suffered as a new immigrant to Canada. He managed to come through it all, with a lot of help from friends and his therapist, to become a successful writer and advocate for LGBTQ+ refugees.
With a caveat. In an interview with The Guardian he says that living in a Syrian refugee camp was easier than living in Canada. I understand what he says about prejudice and racism, but really?
Absolutely loved Crooked Teeth! So well written, and such a captivating and interesting telling of Danny’s experiences. Total page turner, I couldn’t put it down. I haven’t read a book that fast in a long time. I will 1000% be reading Danny’s fiction novels next.
I save 5-star reviews for books that feel special. Of course they're well-written, but there's also something transcendent about them. Crooked Teeth definitely felt that way. I'm so grateful Danny was able to share his life with us.
A powerful memoir, from his childhood in Syria, through Lebanon, being a refugee and immigrating to Canada, and becoming a citizen. A powerful voice on the gaps in immigration, saviourism, the power of community, and things not existing on a binary.
content warnings Graphic: Confinement, Emotional abuse, Hate crime, Homophobia, Physical abuse, Racism, Toxic relationship, Police brutality, Religious bigotry, Outing, and War Moderate: Drug use and Torture