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    How I Found my Father
    How I Found my Father
    How I Found my Father
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    How I Found my Father

    By Aisha Pule

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    "Being an orphan on earth is a temporal state. Being a spiritual orphan has eternal consequences."

     

    Aisha's story begins with her Malian father, who is unable to return to Uganda due to the devastating effects of the Ugandan-Tanzanian war of 1978. In an honest exploration of a fatherless identity crisis, Aisha shares the loss, rejection and unanswered questions that lead to her foundation in Christ. 

     

    How I Found My Father depicts a passionate and personal analysis of an orphan in crisis – a child who never had the opportunity to meet her father. A fatherless life has never before been explored with such personal intensity. 

     

    Drawing on her life story, Aisha explains how the absence of a father directly impacts the quality of life as an adult. In her exploration, she offers a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of one's own life story, ultimately leading to true peace and joy in a Father who has been hidden in plain sight all along.

     

    A deeply moving memoir, How I Found My Father is the story of a young Muslim girl who finds a compassionate heavenly Father in her search for answers. 

     

    Aisha K Pule runs a wellness consultancy Rubies Rock Consults and lives with her husband and 4 children in Dar es Salaam , Tanzania. Rubies is a wellness platform that curates wellness events and creates platforms for you to be the best version of who you are. 

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherAisha Pule
    Release dateAug 21, 2024
    ISBN9798227394385
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      How I Found my Father - Aisha Pule

      Copyright © 2024 Aisha Pule

      First edition 2024

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording or any information storage or retrieval system without permission from the copyright holder.

      The Author has made every effort to trace and acknowledge sources/resources/individuals. In the event that any images/information have been incorrectly attributed or credited, the Author will be pleased to rectify these omissions at the earliest opportunity.

      Published by Aisha Pule using Reach Publishers’ services,

      P O Box 1384, Wandsbeck, South Africa, 3631

      Edited by Nicola Jenvey for Reach Publishers

      Cover designed by Reach Publishers

      Website: www.reachpublishers.org

      E-mail: [email protected]

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      Aisha Pule

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      Dedication

      This book is dedicated to Dina. My faith is my life. Had it not been for your prayers for me when I was still lost, I may have never found my ETERNAL FATHER.

      Acknowledgements

      I thank my husband Humphrey for always being my greatest fan in every endeavour. This book would not have been possible without your input, without your support, and without you finding a job in Ghana! You are one part of this journey that made my story come to life.

      I also extend a huge thank you to my children Malaika, Meroma, Cedric and Cyrus who always spurred me on and offered constructive criticism. I love you so much.

      I thank my mummy Katigo, daddy Katigo and Sue, Jane, Joyce, and Joshua for becoming family.

      I am grateful for the fathers God sent into my life. I shall discuss them throughout the book.

      I thank Kim and Lester Kraven for encouraging me to write this book. I shall never forget that veranda restaurant Dar es Salaam dinner.

      Thank you Elizabeth Katigo for the first gruesome review and edit. Thank you Denise Jordan for being a gracious editor and encourager.

      Thank you Mr. and Mrs. Wanyanga for being family. Thank you Dr. David Kandole and Grace Kandole for your sound counsel on the edits of this book.

      Thank you Jane Katigo for consistently being at every God turn in my story. Thank you to my uncle Juma Kagundu for being the hero in this book. You took me on when I was little and have always fought for me. We disagree on faith, but I appreciate and thank you for being a good father.

      Thank you Umaru, Majid, Farida, Rehema and Shinani for being perfect siblings.

      Thank you Lydia Nyeihuri for giving me a childhood home even when you were taking care of your own children.

      I thank my West African sisters and brothers for welcoming me to the Waigalo family.

      Thank you Holy Spirit for taking me through chapter one to the very last. Without you I can do nothing.

      Introduction

      Meaning of a father according to HELP’S word studies:

      3962 pater – father; one who imparts life and is committed to it; a progenitor, bringing into being to pass on the potential for likeness.

      3962/pater (father) is used for our heavenly Father. He imparts life from physical birth to the gift of eternal life through the second birth (regeneration, being born again). Through ongoing sanctification, the believer increasingly resembles the heavenly Father, namely, each time they receive His faith and obey it, resulting in their unique glorification.

      Many people who never knew their fathers endure life with unanswered questions. With first-hand experience, I attempt to achieve that goal through this book.

      We have never needed fathers like we need them now. We need an understanding of and a connection with the Father and with fathers.

      A generation without father’s lacks covering; it is naked and lost. Single mothers carry the parental burden alone, the results of which are all around us.

      The conversation about fathers and the Father must return to our coffee table favourites if we are to carry the fullness of who we really are. It is my hope that those who never saw their fathers can finally thrive.

      The church and family must ensure the love of the Father towards His children is clearly communicated for those who haven’t known His heart.

      CHAPTER 1

      My Story

      October 10, 1978

      The day after Uganda’s 16th Independence Day celebrations, President Idi Amin declared war against Tanzania. The Uganda-Tanzania War led to Amin’s ousting in 1979. However, countless Ugandan lives had been severely disrupted and this was yet one more crisis to throw their lives into disarray.

      It was during Amin’s rule that the West African gentleman Mr. Waigalo decided to settle in the pearl of Africa – beautiful Uganda. In 1977 he married Fatuma Kadimala. They were a Muslim couple. Waigalo was doing brisk business and travelled extensively between Uganda’s neighbours. When the war broke out, he was returning from a business trip and, it is believed that he flew to Hong Kong to further his business as he waited for peace. Unfortunately, he never returned to the country he had adopted as home.

      Back in Uganda, the war raged viciously. Fatuma, eight months pregnant at the time, joined her mother Mama Juma and brother Juma and his family in fleeing Kampala. They returned to the safety of their birthplace – Kabale in south-west Ugandan region Kigezi, known as the Switzerland of Africa for its hilly and cold nature. The family’s grandmother, fondly called Bibi,¹ welcomed their arrival.

      In October 1980, Fatuma gave birth to her first child, a beautiful baby girl, at the local maternity clinic Ssali’s Place. That little baby was me – Aisha. I was received with love and cared for by the entire household, but especially Bibi and my grandmother Mama Juma.

      Ours was a happy, multi-cultural home. My grandmother, fondly called Mama Juma, was Rwandan. She had moved to Kabale when she married my grandfather. He had migrated from Bukoba in Tanzania. His father was Tanzanian and his mother, Bibi’s parents, were a mix from Burundi and Nubian. Movement and migration between these places were frequent before Africa’s partition and eventual national independence. Numerous Africans can trace their origins to different countries now divided by an imaginary, man-made border.

      Mama Juma was a trader in the Kabale town main market. She sold dry beans, both retail and bulk, and was an excellent cook, famous for her pilau.² She was always called on to prepare rice at the three-star White Horse Inn Hotel whenever there was a large function or dignitaries to impress.

      Amin’s fall from grace led to a 69-day Uganda National Liberation Front (UNLF) government led by Prof. Yusuf Lule. A presidential commission organised the 1980 election that saw former president Milton Obote return to power. A young Yoweri Museveni disputed the election and launched the Ugandan Bush War that kept the country fighting a civil war until 1986 when Museveni became the ninth president. He has remained in that position since then. The Ugandan Army top brass overthrew Obote in 1985 with Museveni assuming power in January 1986. It had been eight years of instability and war.

      My father sent a letter and funds to my mother, asking her to send me to him. She declined. Her reasoning was I was her only child, and she couldn’t let me go. That ended my opportunity to meet or even be raised by my father. Though he was talked about regularly, he was hardly discussed in my presence. I imagine it was to avoid me asking questions to which they had no answers. However, I remember being told, Your father is Senegalese. He came to Uganda to do business with some Arabs in Kampala. He married your mother in 1977. The war tore them apart and he has never returned.

      My mother also showed me pictures of my

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