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    Looking Through the Eyes of a Caregiver
    Looking Through the Eyes of a Caregiver
    Looking Through the Eyes of a Caregiver
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    Looking Through the Eyes of a Caregiver

    By Sophia Sheppard

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    To all the brave and compassionate sons, daughters, husbands, and wives, there is help. Sophia has been a caregiver for over twenty years all over and has long-term experience in caring for dementia patients. Once you have been a caregiver, it is something that sticks with you for the rest of your life. There is no doubt once you meet that sweet man or woman, you then know you are ready to dedicate yourself to that family. Sophia is the first to admit that you must have patience and a heart to want to do it. It's very hard, but we all know the scripture:

    I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13)

    This is how Sophia gets through her days as a caregiver; she knows God is with her every step of the way.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherCovenant Books, Inc.
    Release dateOct 13, 2023
    ISBN9798886440201
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      Looking Through the Eyes of a Caregiver - Sophia Sheppard

      Table of Contents

      Title

      Copyright

      Introduction

      Chapter 1

      Chapter 2

      Chapter 3

      Chapter 4

      Chapter 5

      Chapter 6

      Chapter 7

      Chapter 8

      Chapter 9

      Chapter 10

      Chapter 11

      Chapter 12

      Chapter 13

      Chapter 14

      Chapter 15

      Chapter 16

      Chapter 17

      Chapter 18

      Chapter 29

      Chapter 20

      Chapter 21

      Chapter 22

      Chapter 23

      Chapter 24

      Chapter 25

      Chapter 26

      Chapter 27

      Chapter 28

      Chapter 29

      Chapter 30

      Chapter 31

      Chapter 32

      Chapter 33

      Chapter 34

      Chapter 35

      Chapter 36

      Chapter 37

      Chapter 38

      Chapter 39

      About the Author

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      Looking Through the Eyes of a Caregiver

      Sophia Sheppard

      ISBN 979-8-88644-017-1 (Paperback)

      ISBN 979-8-88644-020-1 (Digital)

      Copyright © 2023 Sophia Sheppard

      All rights reserved

      First Edition

      All biblical citations were taken from the King James Version (KJV) of the Holy Bible.

      All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, distributed, or transmitted in any form or by any means, including photocopying, recording, or other electronic or mechanical methods without the prior written permission of the publisher. For permission requests, solicit the publisher via the address below.

      Covenant Books

      11661 Hwy 707

      Murrells Inlet, SC 29576

      www.covenantbooks.com

      First, I want to give thanks to God and dedicate this book to all the families I have had the opportunity to take care of:

      Micheals family

      Zimmerman family

      Cater family

      McKnight family

      Erin family

      Respontiae family

      Spencer family

      Person family

      Anderson family

      Stitts family

      Nickels family

      Gabrales family

      Trotter family

      Cleaver Family

      Ricketts family

      Boesse family

      Mackey family

      Bryan family

      Hall family

      Turner family

      Deakins family

      Barfiled family

      Bryant family

      Johnson family

      Jordan family

      Introduction

      Being a caregiver can take a lot out of you. It can make you or break you, depending on the person. It's a very hard job, I admit, but I love my job.

      It can be very humiliating to feel like a person who has dementia. They now have to depend on a loved one or a stranger to care for them. Imagine having a complete stranger now doing all the things you once could do for yourself.

      Welcome to Dementia

      You now have become the bad guy because your loved one needs your help. So what do you do? Well, you can hire someone to take care of your loved one, but how do you think that's really going to work out? Let's get into this story and see. Good luck!

      Chapter 1

      Understanding the Manipulation of Dementia

      It's that moment when you first meet your future patient; you know that they are trying their hardest to hide how they are really feeling. When they look at you and introduce themself perfectly with no problem, that's when you have to take a moment. You're thinking, now I know this person needs my help, so you introduce yourself, and they give you the biggest smile and say, Hello, my name is Mrs. Anderson. You sure are pretty! Where do you live?

      You begin to tell them as much as you can about yourself to make them feel comfortable with you. As you get more and more into the conversation, that's when you realize they try so hard to hide it.

      Then out of nowhere, the question starts, What did you say your name was again? And where did you say you live? And why are you here?

      You reply, Mrs. Anderson, I'm here to help you with some things you don't do so well with anymore. That's when the defense usually comes.

      Now you listen here, I don't know who sent you, but you seem like a really nice girl. What is your name again?

      My name is Janet, Mrs. Anderson. She just looks at you with a blank stare on her face as you try to hide your emotions because you now realize she desperately needs your help, and you see through it all.

      She is really trying her best to hide it, but you see right through it. It's sad, especially when the family is there, and they can't see that they are trying to cover up, and it's even harder when the spouse is still living; they help cover for them also, but you must remember this is all a part of your loved ones trying to figure it all out. They feel a need to cover up for them, but it is not the way to help them.

      Emotions that we can't help when it comes down to something. This dreadful disease is a no-win situation; it's very stressful for the family. But most of all, the persons who are suffering get the short end of the stick. You come to the point where you don't know what to do, who to go to, or who to trust. That's when you remember the scripture from the Bible.

      All things work together for those who love the Lord. (Romans 8:28)

      And also remembering that help is on the way. In all we must know that this is a life changer for you, and it's never going to be the same, and neither will your loved one. Learning to adapt to this new lifestyle is hard, but it can be done.

      This is why you must accept it and try to live a normal life as much as possible because you will find yourself becoming a nurse, doctor, personal caregiver, and all of the above, and the family will need assistance to help with this disease. It is ugly; it comes with a vengeance. It's so sad to watch your loved one suffer from this disease. It's a hard pill to swallow. I think the hardest thing is accepting what the outcome will be.

      Chapter 2

      Learning How to Deal with Someone Who's Suffering from Dementia

      So you show up at Mrs. Anderson's house the next morning at 9:00 a.m., ringing the doorbell. Mrs. Anderson answers, Hello, with the biggest smile.

      How may I help you?

      Hello, Mrs. Anderson, I was here yesterday. She just looks at you with a blank stare, and you're thinking, Oh no she, really doesn't remember me, so you introduce yourself again.

      Mrs. Anderson, it's me, Janet.

      She says, Oh well, come in, it's cold outside.

      At this point, you're thinking, No, it's like eighty degrees outside, so you follow her into the house. You notice she has on two sweaters. You're now thinking to yourself, That's why she's so cold. So you have a seat, and so does she. You notice the remote to the television is labeled with certain numbers; she notices you looking at it.

      She says, Oh, my daughter thinks I'm stupid, so she writes on everything.

      I say, No, Mrs. Anderson, your daughter doesn't think you're stupid.

      Oh, yes, she does because I can't remember anything. They are very sensitive to certain things especially if they are not sure of something or someone.

      It's okay, we all forget sometimes.

      Well, my daughter says I can't remember anything. You then notice she starts acting very paranoid.

      Have you been talking to my daughter? Did she send you here? How did you know to come here? You're thinking, I know you need help, and I'm here to help you.

      I know she sent you here, I just don't know why. Why did you come here? I just listen to her; no need to make the situation worse. Mrs. Anderson goes into the kitchen, and you hear yelling, "Where

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