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    Dear God, I Want to Get Married
    Dear God, I Want to Get Married
    Dear God, I Want to Get Married
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    Dear God, I Want to Get Married

    By Carolyn Williams-Ellis

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    Are you a single person who has been longing to be married? Were you formally married and now find it difficult living without a spouse? Perhaps you are a single parent who has been praying for a godly husband to assist in the rearing of your children. You are not alone. Recent statistics reveal that an unprecedented number of Americans are single and seeking to be married. God has not forgotten you. He hears your prayers and feels your pain. However, it is His desire that you experience a marriage that is guaranteed to last a lifetime. This requires that you prepare for marriage according to His plan and based on His Word. Following Gods plan allows Him to lead you to the spouse that He has ordained for you and only you! His plan guarantees that you can absolutely know who your spouse is! You can become the bride or groom to the one who God has ordained to become your mate for a lifetime.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherWestBow Press
    Release dateJun 16, 2017
    ISBN9781512755794
    Dear God, I Want to Get Married
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    Carolyn Williams-Ellis

    Dr. Carolyn Williams-Elllis is a retired social worker who has forty years of dedicated service to the public school system. She has earned a bachelor’s degree in sociology, as well as a master’s and PhD in theology. She has been a Bible teacher to married adults, single adults, and teens and has a heart for instructing, encouraging, and leading Christian singles to empower themselves through the Word of God. Dr. Ellis is a widow and the mother of two sons and seven grandchildren. Prior to the printing of this book, Dr. Carolyn Ellis passed away on July 19, 2016.

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      Dear God, I Want to Get Married - Carolyn Williams-Ellis

      Copyright © 2016, 2017 Carolyn Williams-Ellis PhD.

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced by any means, graphic, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, taping or by any information storage retrieval system without the written permission of the author except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.

      Scripture taken from the King James Version of the Bible.

      Scripture taken from the Holy Bible, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc. All rights reserved worldwide. Used by permission. NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION® and NIV® are registered trademarks of Biblica, Inc. Use of either trademark for the offering of goods or services requires the prior written consent of Biblica US, Inc.

      This book is a work of non-fiction. Unless otherwise noted, the author and the publisher make no explicit guarantees as to the accuracy of the information contained in this book and in some cases, names of people and places have been altered to protect their privacy.

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      ISBN: 978-1-5127-5581-7 (sc)

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      Library of Congress Control Number: 2016914995

      WestBow Press rev. date: 6/16/2017

      To the two women who have had the most influence on my life. My mother, Helen Jackson Yeoman, who taught me from an early age the importance of grace and a quiet spirit, and my grandmother Mother Effie Jackson, who taught me how to seek godly wisdom and character, which has sustained me all my life. These two women poured special care into my life and never failed to encourage me to strive for excellence. They nurtured, affirmed, complimented, and cherished me until the day they went to be with the Lord. God bless you, Mama and Mother. This book is to your memory.

      To my children and grandchildren, who quietly watched me type late into the evening and sometimes quietly observed mounds of papers and writing pads I had not touched for months. Through it all, you never lost confidence that I would one day finish this book. Thanks, kids, for your belief in me even when I doubted myself. You are the loves of my life and my best friends.

      Last but certainly not least, to my daddy, Elder Timothy Yeoman. From preschool to adulthood, he always told me that I was the boss and I believed him. In his unique way, he taught me that I was a leader. He also taught me by example that faith in God and hard work equals success. Thanks, Daddy.

      Contents

      Introduction

      Chapter 1 Standing In The Rain

      Chapter 2 Why Wait?

      Chapter 3 While You Wait

      Chapter 4 A New Beginning

      Chapter 5 Continuing The Journey

      Chapter 6 Am I Really Ready?

      Chapter 7 How Will I Know?

      Chapter 8 Walking Into Your Season

      Chapter 9 And Two Shall Become One

      Chapter 10 Expecting The Extraordinary

      Conclusion

      Introduction

      T his book was written out of my desire to share godly wisdom and knowledge with Christian singles who have a sincere desire to enter into the covenant of marriage with the assurance that they have chosen the one God has ordained for their lives. It has been my experience that most single Christian women acknowledge the necessity of waiting on God for a mate based on Proverbs 18:22, which states, The man who finds a wife finds a good thing, she is a blessing from the Lord. While they understand that waiting is required, they do not fully understand the concept of waiting as it applies to Scripture. This is to say that many single Christian women have not understood that waiting for a godly mate requires much more than just being still and anticipating that circumstances will automatically unfold in their favor. It is also more complex than the practice of simple faith and patience. While we know that without faith it is impossible to please God, we also know that faith without works is dead. In the case of waiting for a godly husband, works becomes synonymous with preparation. This does not imply preparation for the wedding, reception, and honeymoon, as most would think. Rather, it implies that preparation according to biblical principles is necessary. God is making preparation to release your husband. But in the meantime, you must do your part. And your part includes preparation for marriage according to the biblical principles of God.

      I have also found that most single Christian men emphasize the word findeth in Proverbs 18:22. In most instances, the word findeth is taken too literally and usually leads to heartbreaking relationships. According to biblical interpretation, the word findeth suggests a search; therefore, it is not just a matter of finding or accepting the first willing one that comes along. It is also not a matter of mystical discovery or having certain feelings toward a person. A common mistake made by many single Christian men is assuming that any single Christian woman who happens along may be their last chance to marry someone who will share their lifestyle. They often marry with no idea of the preparation needed in order to experience a marriage that is truly blessed by God. It is my prayer that as you study this book, you will enter into a clearer spiritual understanding of what God requires of Christian men and women who are seeking to enter into the marriage covenant.

      As you begin to read, I suggest that you find a quiet, comfortable place to study and meditate. Accept the possibility that you might need to be alone at this time in your life in order to prepare for your journey toward marriage. Being alone does not mean that God has forgotten you. It simply means that He needs to capture your attention in order to prepare you for a blessed future. God often does His best work in us when we are alone. Therefore, as you enter into a quiet place and begin to study the contents of this book, my prayer is that you will have a spiritual awakening that will put you on the path to preparation for marriage in the way God has intended. Remember that your future marital joy is not only dependent on your trust in God, but it is also dependent on your willingness to sincerely devote your life as a single Christian toward godly preparation for marriage.

      Chapter 1

      Standing in the Rain

      Waiting on God often requires heartache and pain, knowing that He is never late, and knowing that He fulfills His promises. This allows us to praise Him even while we wait.

      M any Christian singles are waiting for God to fulfill His promise of a godly mate with whom they can share the rest of their lives. Perhaps this is you, and you have been waiting to meet the right person for months or even years, only to find that your anticipation has turned into frustration. Perhaps what began as a joyful walk of faith is now slowly turning into disappointment, sadness, or even self-pity. You are not alone. The desire to be married is shared by many singles in all walks of life. Regardless of one’s culture, religion, or environmental background, most singles have a desire to be involved in a meaningful relationship that leads to marriage. Since waiting can be very challenging for those who are sincerely seeking a godly mate, it is most helpful to have a true understanding of God’s perfect timing, which can only be acquired through foundational biblical teaching as it relates to waiting on God. This is important because the courage and confidence you will have in your future relationship will come from the preparation you have made while believing God and trusting in His timing.

      Having faith in God for your future is not easy. It is a work in progress. There will be times when you will have to stand in the rain—meaning you might lose friendships along the way. Friends may not understand why you refuse to date someone they have introduced to you as a good catch. They might resent your refusal to join them in activities you once enjoyed together as friends. Even parents may become frustrated at your lack of interest in someone they feel would be the right husband or wife for you, especially if they are eagerly waiting for grandchildren. Even though you might feel you are standing in the rain, remember that God is standing with you. You can survive and thrive in any circumstance, knowing that He has not forgotten you and that He is never late in fulfilling His promises.

      As you wait, understand that asking God questions does not void your faith. It is perfectly natural for you to ask God, How did I get here? How do I get through this? How will my life look when the waiting is over? In the midst of your questions, keep in mind that waiting is your opportunity to seek God for spiritual guidance. Cry out to Him. After all, He is the one who cares for you. David states in Psalm 69:3, I have wept until I am exhausted; my throat is dry and hoarse; my eyes are swollen with weeping, waiting for my God to act. But David also states in Psalm 145:17: The Lord is fair in everything He does, and full of kindness. He is close to all who call on Him sincerely. He fulfills the desires of those who reverence and trust Him. He hears their cries for help and rescues them. These psalms say to us that even in the midst of crying and helplessness, we should remain confident in God’s character and in His plans for our future.

      We have already established that being dedicated to God’s way rather than the way of the world is not easy. In the following life scenarios of typical Christian singles, you may see glimpses of your

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