Relationship Workbook for Couples
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Rekindling the Romance's Spark is an "A realistic guide in saving your relationships, and restarting over again".
Leading a boring relationship is pointless and draining. Some people set their standards high so they can avoid being involved in the wrong person, or worse--- marrying them and living all of your life stressing about them even when you didn't even plan to settle down with them! Most of us wanted a short, stress-free, and all-fun relationship denying the fact that every relationship comes with a responsibility. I might disappoint you but, in reality, you won't be able to have your ideal man/woman. The wrong decision started with you. As the saying goes, "expectation is the root of all heartache" is being applied to what you have decided, setting the bar high while exploring other bonds will lead you to constant doubts, suspicions, and distrust as you keep on looking for someone that doesn't even exist! You do not have to know if he/she is the right one because he/she already is. But, don't worry, this book will help you how to accept the person in front of you, and how to treat him like "the right one".
We can all be honest and say that a love relationship isn't exactly, the most susceptible thing to get. All relationship is established stronger overtime over the series of challenges thrown over two partners to test their ability of how far they can sacrifice and give for each other. Simon and Belinda Boyd share their experiences as they confront the most challenging phase of their life as a couple. They believe that love can be simple yet complex, incredible yet depressing, and sometimes it makes you want to scream either out of anger or happiness and we are all responsible for our partner's sudden change.
Most relationships usually start strong, with a burst of effort from both sides showing desires, planning things for their future, sharing song playlist, and more. Then, unfortunately, it starts to unwind and could come off as disinterest that might lead others into a breakup or annulment, crying your heart and wondering... "Why did it come to this?", "Could I do something about this?", "Why is everything so irritating and boring?"
What you'll discover in this book:
In this book, you'll discover all of the strong foundations in restarting a great relationship and how to comprehend if it's worth fighting for. Simon and Belinda have learned from their past relationship consulting experience wanted to share a book that will also help other couples who are struggling and assess some of the confusing parts of their relationship, resolving questions that you may be too ashamed or embarrassed to ask because of your relationship's good reputation. It will be a useful guide to better understand what you and your partner needs, both in good or bad times. Rekindling the Romance's Spark has proven these steps to bring back the bliss and keeping it nurtured and healthy. They wanted you to think that relationships can be perfect. This dissects all of the components that will help you to experience the long-term benefits of an:
- Open and Honest
- Joyful and Comforting
- Appreciative and Grateful
- Trustworthy and Respectful
- Inspiring and Improving
- Realistic and Stress-free relationship
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Relationship Workbook for Couples - Simon Boyd & Belinda Boyd
Chapter 1
When Love Fades Through Time
When being asked what people think when they hear the word Romance
. You'll find numerous answers like enjoyment, pleasure, sex, or other words associated with something regarded as romantic and intimate. Most of us have the stigma of living a normal progression of love. We come to terms for less, therefore, we think we deserve better than that. Often, we want to find a partner, marry, and raise a family. We do not realize that it takes too much to decide too big. Approaching a condition of entering a lifetime commitment without growing beyond its nature allows us to be locked in a cage and restricts ourselves and our partner to grow.
We enable doubts to engulf us which opens doors for uncertainties, suspicions, and distress. The thought of not having the right partner beside us haunts our need to look for someone better. Why? because we think we are consumed and we have given the best part of ourselves to someone who's not worthy at all. This is what our society continues to practice. It has failed to teach us that the person who you are with right now, is the right person. You are attached to him because you found something in him that is also within you. It is never about the externals of someone, falling in love with someone because of their physical appearance brings a shallow foundation to a relationship.
On the other hand, doubts weigh ego which is rooted in lies, and fears. One of these fears is the fear of rejection and engulfment. It is alarming because it may lead us to control, overprotective, and avoidant behavior. It signifies underlying erroneous assumptions like having the mindset of not being enough for someone. We believe that our partner won't commit and stay with us because you won't be as beautiful as when he first laid his eyes on you. We don't see ourselves in them anymore. The excitement dies and we surrender to set ourselves free when in fact, we are always free. Falling in love is not an accidental occurrence. Falling in love is not by our chance. We captivated our beauty in someone else. Therefore, it serves as an opening point to a journey.
Back then, I remember my friend was in a relationship. They were dating for six years. To our friend group, everything about them was almost perfect. They were a couple with a strong bond, admired by many. I often see them studying together at the school library, having dates after exams to relax. I thought they even knew every detail about each other. But when they broke up, many in our friend group was confused about what could've happened to make them split up. We always thought they were living the dream. Little did we know that their spark was slowly fading as time passed due to jobs, other priorities, and most of all, the relationship itself stopped being one of those priorities. They forgot to set their goals and their plans for the future. My friend, Trisha, had so many goals about traveling and exploring before settling down. On the other hand, Paul always wanted to build a family, and he excitedly mentions how many kids he wanted to have with my friend. Confused about what to compromise on, it led to arguments and when ego comes into the mix, it dominated their relationship. It only caused more problems unsolved including problems outside the relationship. This is what leads couples to prefer surrender rather than give up on their pride. Instead of learning to compromise and accept changes, they blame it on other factors like the myth of relationships dying due to a seven-year itch.
In Trisha and Paul's situation, we can see signs that their relationship was at risk of their spark dying. When they had jobs, they spent less time together and aren't as emotionally active anymore. When I first told Trisha, she questioned me why can't Paul understand that they need to grow up. Shouldn't Paul be happy that Trisha is doing what she loves? I don't think so, because Paul is a very emotional and soft-spoken person. Spending time with your partner doesn't need to involve luxurious or big things. Activities like cuddling, talking about your days, and just being in the same room together will help your relationship grow. Without that time together or connection, anxieties surface as we forget what they feel. We start to pry into things we used to ignore and drag ourselves down, afraid to take a risk because we might suffer and not get anything in return. We should want them to feel inspired whenever we put in the effort, guiding them to the same.
The lack of time together gives rise to dull conversations and small talk. Have you encountered a moment wherein your conversations seem more neutral and logical than friendly? When the exchange of thoughts is blocked by ego, it diminishes our interest to be with that person as the day passes. Inconsistency branches red flags. When a relationship is inconsistent, you often find yourself in a horrible situation. They leave you in an endless loop of frustration and it limits the growth of a relationship. It heeds limitations of what your partners can do. You'll adapt to thinking that your partner has only a little to offer. Sometimes, you'll find yourself wondering if you're not lovable enough, and you're asking for too much. You're not looking in yourself anymore– you're indulging a wave of sadness that shouldn't be even welcomed in your chamber. Don't be afraid to demand too much. Most of the time, the things they branded as too much
are what you deserve. You are made of love, constrained by love. Therefore, what your soul wants must be declared openly because love is better aware of your value than itself. Speak your heart because it has the power to conform to your bargain.
The Unresolved Conflicts
It is always an element of the journey to experience downfalls in life and relationships make no exception to it. Frequent and sophisticated arguments hold an enormous factor about the standard and longevity of the relationship. There are common catalysts for an individual to feel furious especially when they've come to lose their patience. It lends a lift to the other personal traumas or memories of enraging events. We feel mad because we are being revoked and unfairly treated. We are mad because we desire our partner to appreciates us like they used to and their amount of respect constantly diminishes. It's a natural response to mistreatment and elevated stress levels. People have plenty of ways to precise their anger like crying, shivering, holding a grudge, yelling, etc. within the moment our bodies older our emotions, it triggers our amygdala, a part of our brain that's related to emotions, mainly, fear, anxiety, and anger. which is liable for our aggressive and adverse behavior. The presence of affection is fading when we're upset because our brain is concentrated on releasing our anger. Love compels sensitivity. It must have a vulnerability to one's numbness. Love validates your feelings and holds you in command of your efforts and responsibility for your demeanor at the same time. it's an inevitable part of a relationship to be hurt by someone you're keen on. Oftentimes, we push aside the people closest to us to free ourselves of the inherent burdens of being in love. Still, it doesn't change the very fact that hurting and getting hurt are the painful realities of affection and relationships. It implies that we are caring for somebody and have them look after us reciprocally. It always comes in both ways. Being loving makes our lives lots more significant, and thus, awful and