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    ADULTERY HURTS, STOP IT!
    ADULTERY HURTS, STOP IT!
    ADULTERY HURTS, STOP IT!
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    ADULTERY HURTS, STOP IT!

    By Ernst Vital

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    Adultery Hurts, Stop It! shows how adultery is a sin on a level by itself. Within these pages the reader will learn of the many harmful effects of both physical adultery and spiritual adultery.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherThe Mulberry Books
    Release dateJul 19, 2019
    ISBN9781950850433
    ADULTERY HURTS, STOP IT!
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    Ernst Vital

    Ernst Vital is a fellow Christian at the Church of God of Prophecy where he teaches Sunday school. He is employed as an electrician. He wrote Adultery Hurts, Stop It! to help victims of adultery cope with its aftermath.

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      ADULTERY HURTS, STOP IT! - Ernst Vital

      Copyright © 2019 by Ernst Vital.

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any electronic or mechanical means, including information storage and retrieval systems, without permission in writing from the publisher and author, except by reviewers, who may quote brief passages in a review.

      This publication contains the opinions and ideas of its author. It is intended to provide helpful and informative material on the subjects addressed in the publication. The author and publisher specifically disclaim all responsibility for any liability, loss, or risk, personal or otherwise, which is incurred as a consequence, directly or indirectly, of the use and application of any of the contents of this book.

      ISBN: 978-1-950850-44-0 [Paperback Edition]

      978-1-950850-43-3 [eBook Edition]

      Printed and bound in The United States of America.

      Published by

      The Mulberry Books, LLC.

      8330 E Quincy Avenue, Denver CO 80237

      themulberrybooks.com

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      Contents

      Introduction

      Chapter 1 Adultery is Hurt

      Chapter 2 Adultery Can Restore If There Is Repentance

      Chapter 3 The Pain of Adultery

      Chapter 4 How to Repent from Adultery

      Chapter 5 Adultery Costs More Than You Think

      Chapter 6 Adultery Destroys Marriages

      Chapter 7 Satan Attacks Marriages

      Chapter 8 The Difference Between a Godly

      Wife and an Ungodly Wife

      Chapter 9 Spiritual Adultery

      Introduction

      Dear reader,

      I wrote this book, Adultery Hurts, Stop It to help victims of infidelity cope with adultery and its aftermath. Discovering that your spouse is cheating on you is one of the worst experiences of your life. When you married the other individual, you literally changed your life completely for them, regardless of whether you are the man or woman. Whereas before, you had certain privileges and freedoms that came with being single, you agreed to spend the rest of your natural life with your spouse. The wo of you made sacred vows before God that were expected to be taken more seriously than any oath taken in a court of law. When you learn your spouse has committed adultery, regardless of how the news comes to you, it is like getting shot in the stomach.

      Whereas, moments before, you had thoughts of security that came from the idea of fidelity in the relationship by the two of you, that has now all been ripped away from you. The word cheating is far too mild for the level of pain the act brings. Your mind is now a whirlwind of emotions, each vying for dominancy in your thoughts each moment, causing you to feel shocked, angry, depressed, confused, and most of all, being in a state of deep pain.

      Your marriage has been hit with infidelity, and you may be wondering what to do or how do you get through this life impacting situation. In this book, you will find some scriptural and practical advice on how to deal with the aftermath of adultery. The first thing you need to do, despite your angry feelings towards your spouse, is to talk to them about betrayal. This is not going to be an easy conversation, so settle in with your pastor or trusted friend to help get you through. I wrote this book to avoid associating with people involved in sexual immorality. I am referring to abstaining from the sexual immorality that comes from adultery, which is lauded today by this world, and repent from it.

      The book of Proverbs provides a detailed outline of the characteristics of the adulterer. He is called simple and senseless and compared to an animal caught in a snare, who is helplessly waiting to be slaughtered. A person who commits adultery has no sense; rather than encountering ill will from an enemy, he or she destroys him or herself. Reading the warnings in this book should be enough to strike fear in anyone’s heart and make them crave to change their mind and heart by turning to God and repenting of their sins. This book will teach you how to flee from sexual immorality, then repent from it and live a godly life filled with happiness. Because a lot of people’s character is significantly damaged by adultery, the Bible takes many blunt steps to warn and make it clear that adultery contains very serious terrible consequences.

      In this book you will find out how to flee from adultery, lust, learning and sexual immorality. You will also find out what to do in the aftermath of adultery and how to forgive your spouse after they have been unfaithful to you.

      When you commit adultery, be aware that in the beginning it only asks for a small down payment, but as times go on, the cost is greater than first thought until the final purchase prices is far greater than you can ever imagine.

      Chapter 1

      Adultery is Hurt

      Adultery is the most devastating act against any marriage. If your wife or husband has committed, or is committing adultery, you need to turn yourself toward the Lord and ask for wisdom and courage to help you endure the pain and also ask God to give you the ability to hear his voice in the middle of your pain and anger that is screaming out a variety of emotions.

      There is no excuse for adultery. The Bible says flee youthful lusts (2 Timothy 2:22). The warning against adultery is also one of the Ten Commandments. You shall not commit adultery(Exodus 20:14).

      Adultery is the primary temptation that leads to having an affair. This is why the bible does not just want against committing adultery, it admonishes us to also avoid the steps that lead to it. The reason for these warnings is he Bible lists adultery as one of the only reasons for divorce and remarriage. This does not mean divorce is God’s will for marriage. Rather, the bible always teaches the best course of action is repentance and reconciliation. You should always seek God’s direction in prayer along with other wise counsel in this matter before you decide to divorce.

      However, if your wife or husband is defiant about their active adultery and this is not the first time this happened, or they refuse to stop, then you need to be much stronger in your attitude. This is where you may consider separation or possibly divorce. Staying in a relationship that can expose you to sexually transmitted diseases, as well as great emotional harm, is not God’s will for a healthy marriage.

      If you decide to move towards divorce, my advice is for you to seek out a Christian counselor to help you through the difficult process.

      Seek God’s guidance to deal with the aftermath of adultery for it is much like the stages of grief following a death. It is important to give yourself the right to grieve during this painful moment in your life. Because you have experienced a terrible betrayal, you’ve been hurt and those feelings of anger, depression, bitterness and others are perfectly natural. However, you must take these feelings to the Lord in prayer and he will give you peace of mind. Let Him heal your wounded heart. Allow the Lord to wash over you with healing.

      If you are the spouse who committed adultery, the most important step you can take is to accept responsibility and admit fault for your actions and the gravity of the pain you’ve caused. Because of what you have done, you need to have a contrite attitude and recognize the pain and betrayal that you have caused your husband or wife, understanding there is a good chance it will take some time before they express any attitude of forgiveness. It is vital that you be patient. Remember, by your actions, you have sinned against God and against your spouse, committing perjury against the sacred vows you took on your wedding day.

      My advice to you is to sincerely repent to God and then your husband. Please understand, repenting does not mean there will be no consequences for your sins. You must also deal with the results of your actions, some of which may endure for the rest of your life. Rather than make excuses for whatever issues in your marriage may have existed, realize that no matter what circumstances contributed to the breakdown of the relationship that led to you feeling you needed to commit adultery, no one caused you to sin (and that includes the devil). It was your choice.

      If you wish to restore your life and repair your marriage, you will have to prove to your spouse that you have honestly changed. Many people express sorrow after they have been caught in a particular sin or crime, but often it is sorrow over the consequences rather than godly sorrow over the act itself. The way you can tell the difference is when you are experiencing feelings of sorrow, would you feel that way if no one found out about your sin or if they did, if there were not consequences. If the answer is no, then your repentance is not sincere. However, if your repentance is sincere and with patience, you understand you must prove yourself, then there is a good chance your reputation and trust can be regained by your spouse.

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