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    True Love: More than a Love Affair
    True Love: More than a Love Affair
    True Love: More than a Love Affair
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    True Love: More than a Love Affair

    By Dr. Bridget Erhabor

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    People say they love their cars and in the same breath say they love their
    spouses or family members too. It’s no wonder they go from relationship
    to relationship and marriage to marriage just like they change cars. We
    enjoy things, but we love people. This is the mindset that will keep us from
    treating people like

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTrilogy Christian Publishing
    Release dateMay 14, 2019
    ISBN9781640883024
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      True Love - Dr. Bridget Erhabor

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      True Love

      more than a love affair

      Dr. Bridget Erhabor

      Trilogy Christian Publishers

      TUSTIN, CA

      Trilogy Christian Publishers

      A Wholly Owned Subsidiary of Trinity Broadcasting Network

      2442 Michelle Drive

      Tustin, CA 92780

      Copyright © 2019 by Dr.Bridget Erhabor

      All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise noted, taken from THE HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®, NIV® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.

      Scripture quotations marked (KJV) taken from The Holy Bible, King James Version. Cambridge Edition: 1769.

      All rights reserved, including the right to reproduce this book or portions thereof in any form whatsoever.

      For information, address Trilogy Christian Publishing

      Rights Department, 2442 Michelle Drive, Tustin, Ca 92780.

      Trilogy Christian Publishing/ TBN and colophon are trademarks of Trinity Broadcasting Network.

      For information about special discounts for bulk purchases, please contact Trilogy Christian Publishing.

      Manufactured in the United States of America

      Trilogy Disclaimer: The views and content expressed in this book are those of the author and may not necessarily reflect the views and doctrine of Trilogy Christian Publishing or the Trinity Broadcasting Network.

      10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1

      Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is available.

      ISBN 978-1-64088-301-7

      ISBN 978-1-64088-302-4 (ebook)

      Contents

      Dedication v

      Acknowledgments vii

      Foreward 1

      Preface 5

      Introduction 9

      Chapter 1. Love Defined 13

      Chapter 2. The Law of Love: The Old Covenant 21

      Chapter 3. The Law of Love: The New Covenant 27

      Chapter 4. The Flesh: A Major Hindrance to True Love in Marriage 43

      Chapter 5. True Satisfaction in Marriage 53

      Chapter 6. Becoming One 67

      Chapter 7. Becoming One: Fellowship 75

      Chapter 8. Becoming One: Communication 91

      Chapter 9. One in Finances 99

      Chapter 10. True Sex 107

      Chapter 11. True Love Relationship with Children 115

      Chapter 12. No Children / Adoption 127

      Chapter 13. Dealing with Trials: Suspicion 131

      Chapter 14. Dealing with Trials: Accusations 139

      Chapter 15. Trials of Faith 151

      Chapter 16. Emotional Affairs 159

      Chapter 17. Adultery 163

      Chapter 18. Complicated Adultery 173

      Chapter 19. Marriage: A Call to Serve 185

      Chapter 20. Single But Whole 189

      Chapter 21. Do Not Quit, Love Never Fails 199

      Chapter 22. Love is the Greatest 221

      Appendix A 229

      References 231

      About the Author 233

      Dedication

      To God, who is Love.

      Acknowledgments

      My Love Foundation Family

      Thanks for your continued prayer and support.

      Ekwii Obinna

      Thanks for artwork consultation.

      My Children

      Thanks for doing whatever was needed to give me the time and space to write.

      My daughter Glory Erhabor

      Thanks for helping with the book cover design.

      My daughter Osaefe Erhabor

      Thanks for patiently converting the first handwritten manuscript scribbles to typewritten format.

      Most of all Daniel Osagie Erhabor, My Loving Husband

      You are the one from whose lips I first heard, God loves you! preached with such passion, it changed my life. Thanks for being a faithful and thorough teacher of the Word and for making yourself available to me whenever I needed you in seeking to divide the word of truth rightly.

      Foreward

      True Love: More Than A Love Affair by Bridget Erhabor is full of revelation and practical application to receiving and walking in God’s love.

      We were created to love and be loved. This reality can only be achieved through receiving Gods love for us. God so loved the world He gave His only son. He gave we receive; receive His son; receive His love. God is Love.

      In the third chapter of the book of Ephesians, Paul writes and prays for the church of Ephesus:

      I ask the Father with his great glory to give you the power to be strong in your spirits. He will give you that strength through his Spirit. I pray that Christ will live in your hearts because of your faith. I pray that your life will be strong in love and be built on love. And I pray that you and all God’s holy people will have the power to understand the greatness of Christ’s love—how wide, how long, how high, and how deep that love is. Christ’s love is greater than anyone can ever know, but I pray that you will be able to know that love. Then you can be filled with everything God has for you.

      Paul says this love of Christ is greater than anyone can ever know, but he prayed that we would understand this love with all God’s holy people. Paul is letting us know that when the people of God share God’s love with all people that there is a comprehension of God’s love to be revealed. We all may have experienced God’s love in different ways; some as a healer, a provider, and a deliverer. Everyone sharing their part allows us all to see God’s love and know He’s a healer, provider, and deliverer. And experience everything that God has for you.

      There is a need for everyone to love and be loved. The only means of experiencing this love is to encounter the love of Christ.

      When you read True Love: More Than A Love Affair by Bridget Erhabor you will experience and encounter God’s love from someone who obviously has a relationship with Christ and walk in His love. Bridget gives great insight to comprehending the breadth, length, depth, and height of Christ’s love.

      I believe this book is a must for every believer in a relationship; whether you are single or married. You will discover a greater revelation of God’s love to live and live victoriously. Romans 1:17 declares the just shall live by faith. The word of God says, faith works by love. We don’t begin to live until we live and walk in the love of God. In True Love: More Than A Love Affair you will discover key components like walking in forgiveness, the importance of fellowship, communication, and so much more.

      —Apostle Cynthia Brazelton

      Preface

      A Lesson in True Love

      As early as I can remember, and in my teenage years, I was a hopeless romantic who dreamt of writing romance novels and actually started to write a couple of them that I never finished. I was convinced that the world would be a miserable place not worth living in without romantic love. I sometimes daydreamed about what the perfect life with the perfect family would look like, but the thoughts and ideas I had in my mind was nothing compared to what I discovered later in life, which has brought about the writing of this book… A romance with God that perfects our romance or relationship with others.

      I remember listening to great philosophers, teachers, prophets, evangelists, and pastors teach on many topics with great eloquence and insightful revelation of the Word of God. None changed and challenged my life like the time I heard a preacher say, God loves you!. I must say that I had previously heard many messages preached from John 3:16 and many other passages of Scripture, but one day the implication of God’s love for me suddenly dawned on me. I am still learning, and I am still awed by it. There is nothing like it. It is so personal, as only God can make it, yet it embraces us all. God’s love is so unconditional, so pure, so true, and so passionate that it has lasted for generations, undiminished, and fresh for everyone who receives it.

      When you ask those, who have experienced any kind of love or compassion to explain why they love people, they can’t explain it—they just do! For the unbeliever, it is because they are created in God’s image and likeness… for the believer who knows true love and compassion, it can only be because of God within.

      The good news is that God, in Christ, is still demonstrating His declaration to love man with an everlasting love… But why? Why does He love us so? After all, He is God; He does not have to love us. He does not even need us to exist.

      God loves us not uncontrollably but decidedly. He stripped Himself of all heavenly glory and took on the nature of sinful flesh, came down to Earth (which is His footstool) and died for us.

      I am so blessed to have found this love that none of my wild teenage daydreams can compare or compete with… to have heard and still hear Him whisper to me in my heart and through His Word, I Love You!

      My hope and prayer for you as you read this book is that you will be inspired to let Him… So that you too will find True Love…

      Introduction

      Most people in the body of Christ would agree that there is much disunity, strife, and way too many divorces taking place in the church today. This is especially of concern because we are children of love that never fails. Most Christians will not hesitate to say that they love God and will stay committed to Him in the face of persecution. The question then arises: Is there a difference in the way we love God and the way we love one another, especially our spouses? Isn’t our love for God supposed to flow into the way we love them? Most of the time, it is assumed that these divorces are justified—but are they, really? Will these reasons hold up under the light of God’s Word and the definition of true love?

      In our society today, the reasons for divorce range from:

      • Abuse

      • Financial issues

      • The loss of a child

      • Infidelity

      • Differences of opinion on vital matters

      • Poor personal habits (for example, picking up after themselves or leaving the toilet lid up)

      • Falling out of love

      • Irreconcilable differences

      All of the reasons mentioned above make no biblical sense among believers.

      Apart from the marriage relationship, other relationships, in our society, are not doing so well either such as brothers and sisters fighting each other, friends betraying one another, and engaged couples breaking up before the marriage even begins.

      Unfortunately, the church seems to be able to compete with the world when it comes to divorce, breakups, and strife among brethren and this should not be so. Shouldn’t there be a major difference between the marriages, family relationships, and friendships of born-again Christians and those who are not born-again? Certainly! In this book, I will endeavor to demonstrate this scripturally with emphasis on the marriage relationship as an example in the same way that Christ used it as an example for the Church. I will also show how singles can live a full life and failure-proof their marriages should they choose to marry.

      God is love, and marriage is God’s idea. Therefore, walking in the love of God within a marriage is more than enough to cause a marriage not only to be sustained but to thrive beyond any circumstance. The same goes for every other relationship.

      Chapter 1

      Love Defined

      In the world today, the word love is used loosely and casually. People expect to fall in and out of love many times in their lifetime. The problem is that the Bible never said to fall but to walk in love.

      People say they love their cars and in the same breath say they love their spouses or family members too. It’s no wonder they go from relationship to relationship and marriage to marriage just like they change cars. We enjoy things (1 Timothy 6:17) but love God and people. (Matthew 22:37; John 13:34). The understanding of this difference is the mindset that will keep us from treating people like objects and discarding them when we are done.

      Whenever people hear true love, they immediately think soulmate because many have not fully come to understand true love. It’s no secret that many who believed they had found their soulmate or one true love were sadly disappointed when they could not hold up under the pressures of life, and so the relationship they thought would last forever came to an end.

      We may call what we feel love, but love is not just about feelings.

      Love is a decision and a lifelong commitment to love God, His people, and His things the exact way that He says we should. This is true love that will last and stand the test of time. There is nothing like love apart from God because "God is love" and knowing Him is the only way we can have and walk in True love (1 John 4:8).

      The psalmist encourages us to taste and see the goodness of God… read on and let’s taste the sweetness of his love…

      A Taste of God’s Love from the Beginning until Now

      Love in the Garden: Smitten

      God created all things including animals that we probably don’t even know of, but He did not choose any of those to love like He chose us! (Genesis 1:26–28). He loves us so deeply; it’s like

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