You Matter: Your Personal Health Revolution
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We want to convince you that YOU MATTER--because you do.
Melissa Campbell
Melissa Campbell graduated from Drake University Law School in 1998. She is a lawyer and mother and lives in Indiana with her daughter, Kaliana. David Hildebrand graduated from Ball State University in 1990 and owns a fitness franchise. He is married to Cathy and has two daughters, Kailee and Rachel. David lives in Indiana. Both Melissa and David have made healthy living a serious part of their lives and will continue to do so.
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You Matter - Melissa Campbell
You?
About The Author
Melissa Campbell graduated from Drake University Law School in 1998. She is a lawyer and mother and lives in Indiana with her daughter, Kaliana.
David Hildebrand graduated from Ball State University in 1990 and owns a fitness franchise. He is married to Cathy and has two daughters, Kailee and Rachel. David lives in Indiana.
Both Melissa and David have made healthy living a serious part of their lives and will continue to do so.
Dedication
This book is dedicated to the gym teachers, the 80-year-olds lifting weights, the men watching the kids so their wives can focus on their fitness, and the middle-aged men hitting the gym at 5:00 am before work. To all of those who put in all the work and got none of the glory. You embody our message: You Matter. You are the real heroes.
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Melissa Campbell and David Hildebrand (2020)
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Campbell, Hildebrand, Melissa and David
You Matter
ISBN 9781645750628 (Paperback)
ISBN 9781645750635 (Hardback)
ISBN 9781645750642 (ePub e-book)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2020904746
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Acknowledgment
We would like to thank everyone who got up an hour early in the mornings to go work out—alone. Everyone who joined a gym despite others’ warnings that they’re too fat, too skinny, too old, too busy, etc. To those of you who shared a new personal record even though everyone was ‘tired of hearing about it.’ Who grocery shopped and meal prepped for good food items for their families even though they complained. For those who dedicated time each day to fitness and nutrition even though they were mocked. To everyone who dared to invest in themselves because YOU MATTER. You are the reason we do what we do.
Introduction
We’d like to begin this book with a commentary from co-author, Melissa Campbell, regarding her experiences with living healthy. Her story is recognizable to each of us – either in the form of the person attempting to be healthy or the majority using slight cues to dissuade positive change. Please read this piece and understand that the attempt thereafter is to help you create a determined pathway toward success. Whose success? Yours!
Psychologists say that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time around. It is true that the people around us affect our personal success. This is more acute in areas of everyday life such as nutrition, health, and exercise. Our daily habits often coincide and are shaped by the habits of those we are closest to. Given the epidemic of sugar addiction, processed convenience foods, obesity, and the prevalence of a sedentary lifestyle, it’s no wonder that in the area of health and fitness, this is more often a challenge than an asset. We take most of our meals with our families and our coworkers. It’s those same people whom our daily routines most often brush up against.
From Melissa’s experience with healthy living:
I have a dirty little secret that I generally keep to myself: I eat healthy. I nearly insist upon eight hours of sleep. I would cancel almost any plans to keep my daily appointment with myself to work out. I buy organic. I eschew chemicals. Amongst groups, I mainly keep this to myself. Once my secret is out, I take my place as the health nut
and am lightly teased for my fastidious ways. But, it’s really not that funny. Why am I explaining why I food prepped protein-rich organic Buddha bowls for my lunches for the week rather than my co-workers explaining to me why they eat drive-through fast food every day?
Recently, I filled out a form at my new office to sign up for my dish to bring to an upcoming pitch-in. I wrote in the blank: A healthy vegetarian option that no one will really like.
Yes, I did it to be funny. But why is it funny? I bring a dish so I know I can stick to my eating habits no matter the situation. And almost always, people ask for the recipe afterwards. So, maybe I can become one of someone’s five and be a positive influence.
Living a healthy lifestyle, particularly if it reaps visible benefits of a healthy, lean appearance, will separate you from your peers, your coworkers, and your family. Success holds up a mirror to others. Every single time I mention the gym, I immediately hear, I need to get back into a good workout routine.
I don’t mention it gratuitously or in a proselytizing manner. I may simply mention that I will meet you for dinner after the gym,
and arrive with still red cheeks from class. This will transform many interactions into either a critique of exercise programs or an endless lamenting of my companion’s own health missteps – neither being what I had intended. Therefore, I often avoid letting out my dirty little secret
of a dedication to fitness. I don’t want to make people feel bad about themselves.
Recently, I said to a friend when she asked why I was so hot and sweaty, I just returned from a run.
She said, Hasn’t it been determined that running is bad for us?
I did not want to have this conversation. I wasn’t seeking praise (although I wouldn’t mind it), but I certainly am not being irresponsible for taking a 3-mile run before our movie date. This is often another common response criticism. I hear how terrible weight lifting is for women, the potential for injury, the bulkiness, the fanatical diets…All the while, I’ve been lifting weights for 3 years, don’t look bulky, and am fitter than ever at age 46. Why is it OK in our culture to deter fit-minded people?
The point is this: Living a healthy lifestyle is often alienating, isolating, and can create tension amongst those around you. This is an unfortunate fact.
Partners may feel threatened. Your success may point out their failures.
Your new enthusiasm for the gym or your new workout friends may make them uneasy. If you are losing weight, they may fear your appeal to others. There is a woman whose husband, upon her slimming down, began bringing home pizza and carry-out for dinner every night. He felt intimidated by her enhanced beauty. There is not an easy answer for this. Ideally, partners who love us will want what’s best for us, but that is not often the case. Include your partner, encourage your partner, respect your partner, but I would urge you not to lose your resolve to become healthier and fitter. Have faith that by making good, healthy choices, you will make it through any initial tensions and get to a healthier, better place in life. You partner may either join you in becoming fit, become a part of your new circle of friends, or at the very least be supportive when he/she sees your improved health and happiness. Your partner will reap the benefits of your positive changes. Your will bring your happiness into the home. You will have the energy for your partner and family. Your confidence will likely improve your relationship by relieving minor stressors. Recognize that it is a common part of the journey, but it only a step. This tension may rear its ugly head at the beginning of your new lifestyle commitment. See it through. Have faith that your positive changes will influence those around you, and if that doesn’t quite happen – at least others will become more at ease once their fears subside. Stay the course. You can think of your commitment to yourself, and also to your family in that you are modeling health and fitness and being your best for your family. That is something you can take pride in.
And from David’s personal experience:
I was in Montana recently at the Billings Airport at a gift shop while waiting for my flight. I was wearing a T-shirt that I received for doing a bike ride in Indiana called RAIN. It was a 160-mile bicycle ride that was accomplished in one day. The lady at the checkout asked me if I did this ride and when I said yes,
she said confidently, Wow – you must be in really good shape.
I said yes,
thanked her and went to my flight. Later in the flight, I realized a fundamental issue with her comment that I think pervades society. Why not say Wow – you must be healthy.
Maybe being healthy is implied by the good shape
comment but I think it goes deeper than that. Seemingly dismissed from our culture is the connection that being fit and in good shape also leads to a healthy person. As though, the reason that I’m in good shape is to complete a bicycle ride when it’s backwards. I completed the bicycle ride as a statement of my good health and needed to be in good shape to do this. Isn’t there a connection between being healthy and being in good shape too?
Welcome to this book! We have a goal to simplify your approach to healthy living by clarifying what you already know but choose not to do. We want to show you that being healthy is not a function of gimmicks nor extreme sacrifice but good, honest healthy eating, effective exercise, and proper sleep. Following some basic advice is all that is needed for your improvements to be dramatic and durable.
We’ve structured the book to not be chronological so that you can go to sections most applicable to you. We are strong believers in making improvements as quickly as possible and want you to be in charge. You should pick your chapters to read based on your interest and where you will get the biggest return on your reading time.
The format of the book starts where it should start. And that is with you. This is your life that you are working on. This is an unapologetic self-help book. You are the reason for the book and by even picking it up and reading this far, you know that you are wanting direction on a lifestyle for you and your loved ones that skips the BS and is quickly usable. Our goal is to provide this to you in the following pages. The flow of the book is to address why being healthy and fit begins with your emotional state. The why
of self-improvement is seldom addressed and just presumed. As Melissa stated earlier, you’ll practically get accosted for living a healthy lifestyle and, therefore, you need a usable mindset to provide answers to these forthcoming charges. This is why we address your emotional state first. Without it, you’ll struggle.
The step following the why
of a healthy lifestyle is the how.
Now that we’ve gotten the why
better understood, our hope is that the normal self-improvement mechanisms make valuable sense to you and are easier to implement. Exercise, nutrition, and rest make up the obvious part of this information. Also, we know that many will have children and/or loved ones that you include in your inner circle. I’ve tried to address them as well to give you food for thought on how to address their needs too. The topic of children is included in each chapter. Apply this information to whomever it fits. Open your circle up to include anyone you honestly touch.
Does this self-improvement stuff cost? Yes and no. We’ve included an Economics chapter to give you a usable philosophy showing that this investment pays off handsomely.
Acknowledging that a lot of information out there is confusing is important as well, we’ve included a chapter called Myths and Untruths to give you cause to question the validity of information coming at you.
We do have one exception to the randomness of the book and that is regarding the confidant section. Read this and begin your journey here. The point of this is that you may need some time to discover this person, and we want you to know as soon as possible what to look for. The benefits of the confidant make the struggle to find this person worth it. Your health and fitness cannot wait. We have all watched the effects of the buy this/buy that approach along with the go-it-alone choice or the internet search approach,
none of which is working. Trying to do any of these things harder or smarter will not change the result.
A trusted confidant will see that you accomplish your goals. We want you to start here first so that you can consider your path to this person. When found, you will find your journey easier, more successful, and durable. All wins for you!
Chapter One
Confidant
I spend a lot of time in this book discussing the value of confidants and encourage you to find one that you trust to guide you forward to a truly healthier you and an honestly better life. Not a frilly, fancy person – just a no-nonsense source of information whose honest interest is your betterment.
Have you ever had a coach for YOUR life? Someone in your corner to help keep you on track and manage your health, wellness, nutrition, and fitness? What does this person look like, and how can you tell if you have the right one?
Great questions and now for some answers. I have no interest in making this hard.
This person (your confidant) is a seeker of knowledge. Loves science and is skeptical of marketing. New products are very slow to impress them and only after true data is available will they look in a new direction. I am a believer that the majority of the book you are about to read contains little to no new information. You already know most of this stuff, you just don’t do it. Having said that, this person is a strategic planner on your behalf, motivates you, and holds you accountable. Genuine interest in you is a must-have criterion. Easy is best, and common sense towards living will transcend new and sexy. Gadgetry will play a small to no role in their approach. Time tables and measurable will, though.
This person will truly want you to succeed and will follow you wherever you are to insure you are on track. This is a package find (healthy minded, actively does healthy themselves, cares about others, and has room for you!) This is going to be hard so you will need to allow for a few misses to narrow you in. Do not lose time. Use this book to cover the gap. Get going! Do not wait on the perfect setup. Get to living healthy right now! Eat right, exercise right, sleep right, get your stress under control, etc. All of these will help you discover your chosen confidant.
Do you need a confidant? Yep – we all do. All the way from those who struggle with a single sit-up or push-up, find yourself out of air at the slightest task, overweight and unhealthy, to those who are struggling to find a lifestyle that YOU want. Professional athletes already have them. The better college teams have