Between the Bells: Stories of reconciliation from Corrymeela

Between the Bells is pure gold!

John Paul Lederach, Professor Emeritus of International Peacebuilding, KROC Institute, University of Notre Dame

I have spent all of my life in and around Corrymeela, and nothing I have read has conveyed the hilarity, the challenge, the confusion, the mistakes and the miraculous depth of ‘christian’ community so truthfully or so clearly. This is the inside story. They are Paul’s stories and stories about Paul, and they are stories that all of us who have been part of that curious community at the ‘lumpy crossing’ already know, but have not spoken.

Non Clamor, sed Amour, psalit in aure Dei.

(Not noise, but love, makes music in the ears of God.)

Thirteenth-century Catholic liturgy

I can find no way to put it more succinctly.

Dr Duncan Morrow, Professor in Politics and Director of Community Engagement, Ulster University

A more timely book could not be imagined. What is reconciliation in a non-heroic mode? How may the peace that passes all understanding be lived as a stumbling, daily, grace-filled practice? How may we learn that both these things are true: ‘we are not enough’ and ‘together we are enough’? We are in the heart of conflict every day: how can we pray large, attentive to complex feelings toward others? How may we risk a ‘multi-storied world’ where what we cherish may be disparaged? Paul Hutchinson’s artful storytelling animates these and many more questions. His stories take the reader onto holy ground: today I place before you blessing and curse. Choose blessing so that you may live.

Dr Alyda Faber, Associate Professor of Systematic Theology and Ethics, Atlantic School of Theology, Nova Scotia

Between the Bells engages with important questions about living with conflict and working toward reconciliation. We are invited to consider how to live well with difference, to find ways to balance a person’s past with curiosity about their future, to regularly ‘recite the words of an alien, an outsider, a foreigner’.

The stories – difficult, funny, poignant – are all told with great humanity, wry self-awareness, and an insight which challenges us to question our own certainties. 

Between the Bells tells of grief and loss and brokenness, yet offers hope. We are reminded again and again that ‘We are never enough … Together we are enough’.

We are called to attend to the details of everyday life: the blessing of holding an old man’s hand, the inquiring mischievousness of small children.

The book is written in language that is both lyrical and everyday, offering insights that are accessible yet profound. 

Between the Bells should be on the ‘must-read’ list of anyone interested in conflict, community, and reconciliation.

Diana Ginn, Schulich School of Law, Dalhousie University

In this book, Paul Hutchinson gives us a glimpse inside the patient, painstaking process of reconciliation that has been pioneered at Corrymeela. At times humorous, at other times harrowing, Hutchinson’s stories are ultimately tales of hope in humanity.

Dr Gladys Ganiel, Research Fellow, Senator George J. Mitchell Institute for Global Peace, Security and Justice, Queen’s University Belfast

Fantastic: written with humour and insight … but look out for the punch.

Reconciliation is something for all of us, if it is to be real, lasting and embraced by wider society, challenging though that is. 

The relational elements of real reconciliation practice are hard, not soft, and these stories make this clear – they bring a gritty quality to the reader.

I could identify so well with these Centre Director stories and encounters but I could never write them so sharply, so entertainingly and in such a challenging manner.

The sad thing is that too many people expect reconciliation to be the big-screen wonder story – something beyond the actions of ordinary people.

In fact, these stories remind us that the way to promote a more open and reconciled society is to see that in each encounter we have there is the possibility of: the unexpected breakthrough in understanding; the open hand when before there only has been a closed fist; the surprise that we, or the other, or both of us, regain some part of our lost humanity and our ability to be compassionate.

Reconciliation, potentially, is in the daily human encounters we each have, if we are able to see the wonder and life-changing moments these might be for us and these stories make this crystal clear, if we have open eyes to see this with.

Dr Derick Wilson, Reader Emeritus in Education, Ulster University

Paul Hutchinson’s storytelling is compelling and honest. The reader is right there in the midst of an intimate moment, whether it is a symbolic handshake or sitting with a dying colleague. Paul’s turn of phrase and poetic imagery is both delightful and thought-provoking at the same time, inviting the reader into the complexity of one’s own history and experience.

How to explain what happens at Corrymeela, that Centre for Reconciliation in Northern Ireland? How to talk about complicated issues like forgiveness and the struggle to balance mercy and justice? How to challenge our quick judgements about who’s good, who’s bad, who’s in or out, who’s welcome or not? How to discover Jesus in the hell of hatred, bombs and murder? How to honestly affirm that we are, all of us, beloved by God?

Well, if you’re Paul Hutchinson you don’t lecture, write an essay or sermonize. Rather, you ground yourself in the lives of real, everyday people, who both challenge and surprise you. You tell stories, theirs and yours, and spin modern parables …

Paul’s stories captivate you and draw you into a different world, where you listen more carefully, and find yourself filled with new questions, with renewed curiosity and an openness to unexpected endings. You experience a brief, lived moment of reconciliation, an encounter with the Holy. And you realize you’ve just tasted what Corrymeela really means.

The Revd Gary Paterson, St Andrew’s Wesley United Church; former Moderator of United Church of Canada

Paul Hutchinson is a man, a mediator, an artist, a father and a friend, whose observations are precise and provocative. He works and lives in a way that means encounters with him are imprinted within you. When Paul asked me to read his writing on reconciliation I was both curious and cautious. I knew my eyes would see delicate, intricate layers of meaning and that my heart would be tested. I had just reached ‘encounter’ and was already watching with trepidation as the social conventions of class and gender met reconciliation with refusal. Anger and sorrow reached out from that story and said: to know reconciliation is to know these feelings. Paul is a writer you encounter. By the end of this book, you will know the work of reconciliation in your being.

Mary Lynch, Director, Mediation Northern Ireland

Paul Hutchinson’s writing is like the rest of his work: funny amidst the pain of life; self-deprecating, not falsely humble; brilliantly skilled but inviting; alive to the magic and the murk in everyday moments. Magic and murk have nowhere else to happen but the everyday, of course; cruelty and redemption too. This book is a gift to anyone who has ever sat down at the end of a hard day’s body-draining courage, but now the dishes need to be done; or who is giving their life to the common good and has seen the mountaintop but sometimes struggles to get out of bed in the morning; who knows that there is more beauty than horror in the world, but doesn’t always believe it. It’s a book we need right now.

Gareth Higgins, Founding Director, Wild Goose Festival and Movies & Meaning; Editor, The Porch Magazine

Between the Bells

Stories of Reconciliation from Corrymeela

Paul Hutchinson

Foreword by Pádraig Ó Tuama

© Paul Hutchinson 2019

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Contents

Foreword by Pádraig Ó Tuama

Introduction

Soundings

Thanks

Mobile

Broken

When?

Seven contracts

Groundings

One.

Two.

Three.

The heart translated

What’s in a word?

It’s a beautiful day

Building a new heart

Dreams (Part 1)

Dreams (Part 2)

Blindfolding an Iraqi

Cowboy in the Croí

Ark in the heart

Together

01. Devotions

02. Good practice

03. Cameroon

04. A list of names

05. Where is the Jew?

06. Pure

07. Yael

08. Welcome to community

09. A Parable

10. Lift

11. Happy Monday

12. Apart (a part)

Encounter

01. Handshake

02. David

03. Plastic bag

04. Country kids

05. From on high

06. Covering

07. Past

08. Here, son

09. Notice

10. Limits

Coda

for the welcomed wild-cats

Roobers

Trolls

Binky

Tara

Tripod

Moon

Kiko

Rusty

Riffles

Ninio

Tiny Bob

Todd

Foreword

by Pádraig Ó Tuama

I have known Paul Hutchinson for many years. I have known and loved Paul Hutchinson for many years. I have known and loved and respected Paul Hutchinson for many years. When I was starting out in conflict mediation, he was already well practised in conflict mediation. We both liked poetry, stories, and were drawn – as conflicted men – to friendship and to places of conflict. I loved how he worked: with a presence that at once engaged and also maintained a distance for wonder. I saw him mediate difficult differences and I wanted to learn from him.

I learnt a lot.

Sometimes Paul would get me to come and give a talk to a group of people. Having a Catholic and a Protestant speak politics, religion and art with each other, and with groups, was important. He called me the Silky Tongued Fenian. I called him the Lippy Prod. One time, in a queue, a participant in a group came up and gave Paul a piece of his mind. The participant was Unimpressed with Paul. Paul stood. He listened. We were waiting for our food (Spaghetti Bolognese). Paul listened while he was shouted at. I thought of how much I wanted to shout at the person shouting at Paul. The shouting person had things to say. And said them. Loudly, and then left.

Paul turned to me. I could see he was hurt. I could see he was trying to hold it together. ‘Everything is information, Pádraig’ he said.

Earlier on that night Paul had been involved in a car-crash. Someone hadn’t seen him and had bumped the side of his car. His car was damaged. He was shook up. He had been shook up and was holding it all together while he listened to the person who had things to say. He gave them space while his back ached, and while he was trying to process everything that a car-crash meant. This is not easy. He could have said: ‘I was in a car crash, and this is hard to hear.’ He could have said, ‘Shut up.’ But he didn’t. He said, ‘I’ll need a little time to think.’

Everything is information.

Community is not a noun. It is not a thing. It is not a person, or a thing or a place – even if the place is beautiful. Community is a verb; it is a constant conjugation: of people with people; of people’s