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    Time In: Teaching Social Skills in the Classroom
    Time In: Teaching Social Skills in the Classroom
    Time In: Teaching Social Skills in the Classroom
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    Time In: Teaching Social Skills in the Classroom

    By Tammie Erickson and Rusty May

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    Teachers and counselors are failing to give students the tools they need to succeed in the classroom and beyond. This book represents a fresh perspective on why this is, and presents real solutions that work.



    Washington would have us believe that this gap can be closed if only we can become better at packaging and presenting information. Of course, that was the focus of No Child Left Behind (NCLB) and the results havent been encouraging. Other sectors tell us that technology will win the day and engage the minds of young learners. Still others argue for longer school days or more teacher accountability.



    Sarah Brown-Wessling, the 2010 Teacher of the Year, said it best: I think we often operate in the classrooms as if our agendas take precedence over our students lives and the developmental reality of their situation. This book will help you bring the focus more clearly onto the relationship aspect of learning and give you real tools that will make it easier for you to bring your passion for teaching to those who need it most.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisheriUniverse
    Release dateMar 28, 2012
    ISBN9781469758084
    Time In: Teaching Social Skills in the Classroom
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    Tammie Erickson

    Tammie Erickson is a 4th grade teacher at Bitterroot Elementary School in Billings, Montana. She enjoys living on a family ranch, reading books, presenting locally, and having lunch with her friends. She is a mother of two children, Emma and Beau. Rusty May is a school counselor and the founder and president of SchoolToolsTv.com. He lives in Mill Valley, California and enjoys family, basketball, dogs and long hikes in the Marin Headlands. Please visit http://schooltoolstv.com to learn more about Rusty and his daily videos.

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      Time In - Tammie Erickson

      Contents

      INTRODUCTION

      CHAPTER 1

      CHAPTER 2

      CHAPTER 3

      CHAPTER 4

      CHAPTER 5

      CHAPTER 6

      CHAPTER 7

      CHAPTER 8

      CHAPTER 9

      CHAPTER 10

      POSTSCRIPT

      APPENDIX

      REFERENCES

      Dedication

      In loving memory of Sandy May and Kristina Acosta. You gave us the courage to be true to ourselves and the faith to believe that our words could help others.

      INTRODUCTION

      Teaching Ourselves to Succeed

      Teachers and counselors are failing to give students the tools they need to succeed, not only in the classroom, but beyond. In this book, we offer our perspective on why this situation exists, and present some possible solutions.

      We are Rusty May, an educator, coach, founder of SchoolToolsTV.com, and for several years, a middle school counselor; and Tammie Erickson, a fifth-grade teacher and mom. Together, we created this book to share our experiences and insights, earned over more than a decade working with real students in real classrooms.

      Our purpose is to help teachers and counselors better understand and manage the issues we’re facing in developing students’ social skills. Each chapter, split into a Counselor and a Teacher section, offers pieces of our personal journeys and real-classroom experiences. We close the book with a dialogue between us that we hope will spark further conversations between counselors and teachers everywhere.

      As teachers, we fail our students when we acquiesce to installing processes instead of developing relationships. We fail our students when we don’t see ourselves as human beings in a classroom full of other human beings. We fail our students when we spend more time on our lesson plans than we do in becoming more aware of who we are and how we connect with others.

      As counselors, we fail our students when we give in to our need to be liked by a student over the needs of the classroom teacher. As counselors, we fail our students when we make excuses for one who is struggling, despite the reality that awaits a child who has been coddled through to graduation. As counselors, we fail our students when our thought processes become more about how we’re perceived instead of holding students accountable for bad behavior and poor decisions.

      Succeeding as a teacher or a counselor requires much more than a grasp of the educational material; it’s about understanding our own strengths and weaknesses and remaining calm in the face of adolescent angst. It’s about connecting with students at a level where they feel safe and empowered to take risks and bond to us, the leaders of this transformational process. Teachers need professional development to become more self-aware, and training to create effective learning relationships in the classroom. They also need counselors who regularly work with them, to keep this aspect of their professional lives healthy and growing.

      Counselors need to focus on the teacher-student relationship because students must be successful in the classroom, not the counselor’s office. Counselors need to be a resource for the teacher more than a friend to the child. Students don’t need adult friends; they need people who lead by example and hold the bar at the right height. With very few exceptions, the work of the school counselor should be to empower the teacher and to support the effort to create a learning community in each classroom, as well as a culture of excellence and high expectations throughout the school.

      Some believe that teachers fail because they don’t have a mastery of the subject matter, so they can’t bring math and science to life. However, the developmental process of the adolescent brain must be taken into consideration. The student who sits in a classroom during a lecture is often incapable of grasping the true nature of the information being presented. Worse, that child rarely feels a personal connection with the teacher. Those two factors exacerbate one another in a cycle of indifference and missed opportunities for the students as well as the teachers.

      Many of us found our way in life because of teachers who saw us as we were, and then sold us on the idea of what we could become. They cared for us enough to let us fail, and believed in us enough to let us fall. They pushed us, even when doing so brought our resentment down on them and their efforts. Their tough love approach was just what we needed. They cared about us more than those who simply told us that everything was going to be OK.

      Students can see right through us; they can tell the difference between concern for them and concern for a pension. They know whether our efforts are about them as people who need to be improved or them as test scores that need to be raised. We can spend years and billions of dollars making teachers better at delivering information, only to find at the end of the day that students, or anyone else for that matter, won’t push through walls for people who they don’t care about, and who they don’t feel truly care about them. Most of the blank stares you’re getting from your students are not because they don’t get what you’re saying. They get exactly what you’re saying, and they know that it has more to do with what you need from them than what they need from you.

      Scoring on large standardized tests determines a great many things in public school districts, but the dictatorship of teaching to the test creates a competition between teachers and students. In that competition, the teacher is judged by the product that the student produces, and the students are left to fend for themselves. The adults who should model and mentor appropriate behaviors for students are too focused on test scores to even see the needs of the whole student. We’ve lost the greatest thing about education, which is the teacher-student relationship. In sports, we call it buying into the system. It’s the respect, trust, and belief, especially in the face of uncertainty, that allows a teacher or a coach to connect with a student.

      Some of us, as young students or athletes, took actions out of faith and trust because we knew that our teachers or coaches wouldn’t steer us wrong. These people cared about us and led by example. They didn’t complain when things didn’t go their way, and when they made mistakes they acknowledged the error of their ways and made it right.

      Today, many of us have lost this ability. Often are we telling the students one thing about personal accountability, yet doing something completely different in our daily interactions at school. We tell our students to be nice to each other, and then we go into the teacher’s lounge and trash talk the teacher down the hall or the principal’s new policy.

      We tell our students to work hard and never give up, and yet we openly complain about how hard our jobs are and how little we get paid. We tell our students that they need to get along with each other, but there’s usually one kid in the class that we can’t seem to get along with and they all know it. How stupid do we think they are? Students learn more from what we do than what we say.

      Race to the Top, which is a federal program designed to spur public school innovation, is a race to nowhere unless we prioritize educational relationships and the connection between teachers and students. Professional development is a joke unless teachers and counselors begin to see themselves as the object of improvement. Einstein had a pretty good grasp of physics but he couldn’t get a job because he failed to relate to students and their problems. K-12 students need our attention, and they need to know that we care. They need to know that we understand that we ourselves are all too human. They need teachers, not trainers.

      The education that will prepare students for the reality of the 21st century is rooted in their ability to learn, unlearn, and relearn information seven or more times during the course of a normal working career. Technology is moving so fast that, in many cases, the jobs we’re preparing our students for don’t yet exist. Race to the Top and other educational reforms focus on the training aspect of skills acquisition, but training is akin to memorization. It is the ability to perform a task without even understanding that task’s meaning or purpose. For the adult learner, training is acceptable. For the adolescent learner, however, it’s all about meaning and connection.

      Consider the very real issues of students who come from poverty and dysfunctional home environments. We know that early childhood trauma negatively affects a child’s ability to attach and bond to people and situations. We know that these students have a hard time trusting others and that they lack the basic skills necessary to function effectively in the classroom.

      We also know that these skills aren’t being taught in most classrooms today. Instead, students are being punished for their lack of skills in ineffective ways, such as removing them from the classroom and sending them home to the place where the dysfunction often began. Even one or two of these students can consume a great amount of teaching time, and the result is often a reduction in test scores for the entire class. It’s therefore no surprise that most teachers, when confronted with this situation, find it easier just to remove the problem students from the class and move on.

      So what do we do with these students? We offer them up to special education and give them unrealistic accommodations and social promotion without consideration of what this will mean to their future possibilities. The truth is that there is no special education in the real world. We’re only postponing the problem that we as a society will eventually have to deal with: Another generation reliant on the social system or subject to the penal system.

      For the past 20 years or more, teachers have received professional development to more effectively disseminate information, all the while losing the ability to connect and attach to those they must teach. Teaching is not about disseminating information; that’s training. Teaching is about relationships. I won’t learn from you until I trust you, and I’m not going to trust you more because you send me to the principal’s office or let me take time out of my day to play with the counselor.

      Counselors, on the other hand, have been connecting with kids too much and thereby doing the students and the teachers a disservice. School counseling, especially at the elementary level, has become about befriending children and empathizing with their situation. Counselors have become protectors and fight for the student’s right to use his or her upbringing as an excuse to underperform in the classroom or act out on the playground.

      For many new counselors, the goal is to be liked by the students. We may want the kids to yell out our name when they see us in the hall or on the playground. It’s not an uncommon emotion to want to be the one caring adult who could make the life-changing difference in the life of a disenfranchised student. We all want to be the safe place in school that kids can go and forget about their troubles for a while. Those sound like admirable goals, but that’s not the job.

      The job of the counselor is to help the teacher do his or her job. The job is to hold the bar high for clients and teach them the skills they need to be more successful in the classroom. The job is to work with teachers to help them notice their own blind spots with individual students, and provide supportive feedback so they can adjust and improve. The clients should be the teachers and the job is to create functional relationships that improve the school climate and meet the educational goals of each classroom. Counselors need to teach teachers how to build relationships with their customers, the students that they teach. Make no mistake about it; this is the bottom line in the educational debate. Students are our customers and the taxpayers are our board of directors. If we don’t learn how to connect with our customers, we’ll lose our schools.

      The sooner we realize that relationships are the key to educational reform and begin to support the transfer of that responsibility to the classroom teacher, with the full support of the rest of the professional staff, the sooner we’ll be moving forward again and giving our customers the skills they need to succeed in the 21st century.

      Failure isn’t an option. Together, let’s see how we can succeed.

      CHAPTER 1

      We Teach What We Need to Learn

      Counselor

      I became a counselor to help people; I wanted to have the kind of positive effect on kids that the trusted adults in my life had on me. Being raised in a military family, we moved every few years. Besides my family members, the coaches and teachers I met along the way helped me acquire the basic skills I needed to make it to where I am today.

      When I say basic, I mean basic. As I write this, I’m 48 and just now starting to feel like I’ve found my groove. I have struggled

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