A Parent's Guide to Balance and Getting More You Time
By Jackie Hall
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‘What do I want?’ is an important question we don’t often ask ourselves because we are often too busy dealing with what we’re NOT getting. This book will help you to FOCUS on what you want and how to get it.
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A Parent's Guide to Balance and Getting More You Time - Jackie Hall
Conclusion
A parent’s guide to time management and getting more ‘me’ time.
Somewhere underneath the massive pile of washing, the endless sea of household chores, homework, play dates, after school activities, during school activities, work, bills, your social life, quiet time, quality time and everything else that needs to be done yesterday
, you may find a frazzled, worn out parent who is trying to do it all.
The pressure to do everything and at the same time raise healthy, happy, well rounded children without getting overwhelmed, losing the plot and feeling like the worst parent in the world, is huge.
However, when I come across a parent who is consumed, stressed and sometimes anxious due to all the demands of being a parent, there is always much more going on behind the scenes than just the circumstances of a busy life.
There’s no doubt most of us are getting busier and our ‘to do’ list continues to get longer. Sometimes it seems just as we finish a task, like house cleaning, it’s time to start all over again.
Our goal posts keep moving. The pressure to achieve perfection is mounting, which is causing an epidemic of stress and anxiety as we continually try to get life right and feel depressed when we can’t.
Something needs to change. Society’s emphasis on getting more, doing more and having more in order to feel more successful means the pressure is only getting worse.
The Parent’s Guide to Time Management and Getting More ‘Me’ Time is much more than a ‘how to organise yourself’ guide.
You probably purchased this book with the intention of learning how to manage your time, but like everything at the Parental Stress Centre, we’re going to look beyond the surface of your stress and teach you how to overcome your stress about time issues first, then we’ll compliment that newfound knowledge with an action plan
Your ‘to do’ list is just that – a list of things to do. But often you don’t see it that way. You see it as a ‘must do right now or else’ list and when you start clinging to something you believe you ‘must’ do but can’t, stress comes in.
This book will help you integrate some fun back into your life – you know, to actually enjoy your life and not feel like you’ve signed up for a day in, day out boot camp.
You’re going to learn how to stop feeling stressed or anxious when you can’t get things done and to be okay about letting things on your list go at times.
You will learn how to approach your busy life with clarity, focus and an ability to prioritise according to what you hold really important, rather than what you feel you HAVE to do.
Most importantly this book will teach you how to relax and enjoy the moment without getting caught up in it.
Sure there will always be menial, boring tasks to do in life, but this book will help you change the way you view those tasks and avoid getting consumed by them to the point of exhaustion.
That’s not what life is about and that’s not the attitude you want your children to be seeing or learning either.
It’s time to step into a more balanced, happier and more fulfilling way to live your life as a parent.
Time management is not about Time
"Prepare to be set free as you learn the watch words of time management. Guess what?
Neither of them is time or management. The need-to-know magic words are Choice and Focus."
(Source: Time management for Manic Mums;
Allison Mitchell: 2006)
Time Management is not actually all about managing your time, it’s about managing your priorities.
That’s what Allison Mitchell refers to as choice and focus.
What do I choose to focus on doing with my time?
This may seem like a very simple question, however the answer is somewhat more intricate. This is because the word choice
is largely misunderstood.
Let’s consider this example:
I want to have some time out and read a book or go and play a round of golf, but I have household chores that need doing that I’ve been putting off for weeks. Which option do I choose?
Well this depends on what your beliefs are about each option and what you think it means about you as a person when you choose one option over the other.
To understand why you choose to do one thing with your time and not another, a journey into the way humans think is necessary.
How we make decisions
On page 6 there is a diagram of how every human thinks:
a) First an event occurs;
b) We experience that event with one or more of the five senses (sight, sound, touch, taste or smell);
c) The brain goes into an evaluation process. It looks for an understanding of what the information coming from the senses actually means. The brain searches through all of the information that has come from all of your experiences of life to date and tries to link what you are sensing with information that will help you understand what it means.
• What is it?
• Have I seen it before?
• Do I have an opinion about it?
• Do I have a past experience or reference point for it?
• What am I supposed to do about it?
The brain does this evaluation automatically. Mostly it is done with the subconscious part of the brain. You may be aware of some of the monologue going on in your mind, but certainly not all of it. You aren’t aware of the almost immediate sifting and linking of information that occurs in a split second.
Imagine the enormity of your brain’s task to sift through all of the information stored from the beginning of your time on earth, in search for what a particular event means… and on a moment to moment basis. Wow! The brain sure is a remarkable organ.
On top of that, the brain is always searching for an understanding of ‘what does this event mean about me as a person?"
This is the primal concern of a human being and it comes from an innate instinct to seek pleasure and avoid pain (ie feel good and not feel bad). Therefore it’s really important for the brain to establish what it is you’re experiencing just in case you need to do something about it quick.
For example, what if a spider was to land on your shoulder? Very quickly the brain links the information from your eyes to the label ‘spider’ (because I’ve seen a spider before and have learnt that this picture I’m seeing is linked to the label spider) and also links to the belief you hold about spiders that you’ve also learnt from your experience of life. Spiders can hurt you (inflict pain)
.
In order to avoid pain and maintain the equilibrium of a pain-free, feel good life, the brain very quickly determines that it needs to get the spider off your shoulder… now!
We then reach the