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The Most Beautiful Thing You Can Wear is Confidence

The Most Beautiful Thing You Can Wear is Confidence, by Holly Schaefer. Photograph of a girl smiling at herself in the mirror by Andrew Piacquadio
Photograph by Andrea Piacquadio

The women I admired rarely fit into society’s standards of beauty. But they did have 1 thing in common: no apologies for who they really were.

Like most women I know, I spent the entirety of my teens and early twenties thinking that being beautiful meant fitting in. That, to be attractive, I had to look, dress, and behave a certain way.

At the time, the rules of what was considered pretty were determined by invisible forces and communicated through mass media (which I consumed almost religiously).

But then, my perception of beauty started to change. The more I read, learned, and experienced,

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