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Christian Male Mate Selection in Nairobi

This research paper seeks to elaborate the unconventional value-stimulus-role (VSR) theory (the researcher's self-expressed modification of the stimulus-value-role (SVR) theory by Bernard I. Murstein). The researcher has put together a priority-list of potentially significant factors that he argues single Christian men in Nairobi should consider when selecting a mate.

ABSTRACT This research paper seeks to elaborate the unconventional value-stimulus-role (VSR) theory (the researcher s self-expressed modification of the stimulus-value-role (SVR) theory by Bernard I. Murstein). The researcher has put together a priority-list of potentially significant factors that he argues single Christian men in Nairobi should consider when selecting a mate. When a Christian is looking for a life partner, he should consider values, that is, religious development, character, love and affection. Thereafter, he should identify the stimulus that obviously attracts him, that is, physical appearance, level of education, financial status, health, age, and cultural background. Finally, he must evaluate their roles compatibility, that is, whether she respects his profession and is able to nourish his God - ordained purpose. The author clarifies that these factors are not ordered hierarchically in terms of mere assumed importance; rather they are ordered in an attempt to merge pragmatism and biblical ideals. The researcher s biblical Christian paradigm has influenced his decision to prescribe the value-stimulus-role (VSR) theory as an underpinning theory in male and (via extended application) female mate selection. His basic premise is tenable in the face of Scriptural exegesis. His findings can be used for courtship and pre-commitment Christian Education by pastors, counselors, therapists, and social analysts studying contemporary youth culture in Nairobi. Copyright © 2012 by John Sila Kigada All rights reserved